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Ladies – Dating Advice and Love in 90 Days from Dr. Diana Kirschner

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 04:38:34 +0000

We all need a little nudge, a helpful word or piece of advice in the dating game. The human mating ritual is amazingly complex, and let’s face it, few people really have it down.

And in the end, most of us are looking for someone to love, to be there for us, a partner, a lover.

According to dating expert and psychologist, Dr. Diana Kirschner, "most single women unconsciously make the same mistakes over and over again in love, regardless of age, work success, or the type of man they are dating."

In her new book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love, Dr. Diana tackles the top questions single women everywhere face: "Why am I attracted to the wrong kind of guys?", "Why is he just not that into me?", "Why can’t I seem to find the One?" She outlines the secrets to finding Mr. Right and the crucial steps single women can take to create fulfilling love that lasts.

To help women find that ever elusive love relationship, Dr. Diana also pulls no punches as she outlines a strategy that gets women on the path to smash through their self-sabotage and forge a healthy love relationship.

If you recognize Dr. Diana, that’s not surprising. She’s a frequent guest on The Today Show, Montel Williams, The Morning Show with Mike & Juliet, has appeared on Oprah and Good Morning America, is a featured dating expert at Yahoo! Personals.com and is the Official Dating Guide at Selfgrowth.com. And get this – she was the Love Specialist on The Simple Life Goes to Camp with Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie.

Dr. Diana’s Love in 90 Days workshops and classes have helped thousands of women find love. And her new book, 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love, is a result of requests from women wanting to know the strategies, methods and techniques that she has used to help women of all ages find lasting love.

So check out her Love in 90 Days website where you’ll find new cutting-edge articles on rapid dating success for women, e-tips, a discussion forum, and relationship quizzes.

And be sure to also check out her dating blog, where she’ll be posting the latest techniques, dating tips and relationship advice for successful online and off-line dating, research on love relationships, and up-to-the-minute discoveries to help you create the love you want.

This review is sponsored by Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love.

Dating the Wrong People? Change Your Dating Ideal

Click by Lavalife, Shawn Conner — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 14:31:21 +0000

Rachel had a problem. A serial dater of musicians, she’d finally had enough of their broke-ass, wannabe rock star ways.

The Rock Star

Substance abuse issues, financial woes, and ceaseless yammering about plans for their bands had given her a bad case of the "what-am-I-doing-with-my-life?" panic. At 35, the fashion-and-lifestyles writer for a big-city daily newspaper realized that, if she was ever going to have a family, the way to go about it wasn’t risking her hearing and sanity at noisy dives ’til 2 in the morning.

The object of desire that had seemed so exciting in her 20s and early-30s — the non-committal man who was always the center of attention and could hold his own in a conversation about Exile on Main Street — suddenly seemed like a dead-end. It was time for a change.

But deciding to make such an alteration is one thing. Actually following up is quite another. After all, Rachel was a rock ‘n’ roller at heart who had worshiped at the altar of Mick Jagger for most of her life.

What was she going to do with a stable and financially secure 9-to-5er who golfs on weekends? But then she met Ben — a secure, older guy whose idea of a wild time was speaking Klingon at a Star Trek convention. More on him later.

Most of us have an ideal in mind, a list of desirable qualities we carry around with us. These may be traceable to all manner of formative experiences — childhood attachments, pop culture milestones, sub-conscious archetypes (if you follow Jung).

Is it purely physical?

On the surface, this could mean a preference for hair color, body type and/or foreign accents. For instance, Madeline, like Rachel, has had a predilection for the bad boy/rock star type, but says, "I’m not sure it’s so much what they do as how they look."

The 34-year-old philosophy professor traces her preferred physical type back to reruns of the old Little Rascals TV show. "My first crush was on Alfalfa," she says. "I still like that type, I guess — dark hair, pale skin, kind of gaunt-looking." Which, it just so happens, matches the look of a couple of musicians she’s dated.

Or maybe it goes a little deeper?

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Finding Love Online This Valentine’s Day and The Perfect Last Minute Gift Idea…

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 14 Feb 2008 17:10:55 +0000

"Love Bytes!"

That’s what more and more people are saying this Valentine’s Day.

KFWB’s Jennifer Bauman looks at how the internet has grown into the matchmaker of this millennium.

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The Perfect Last Minute Valentine’s Gift Idea

Everyone else is scrambling to buy their loved one a special thing or another… chocolate, diamonds, flowers, and so on… Stuff. Basically the same old thing.

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Material things can be nice, but they’re worth so much less than something personal, something that really touches that special person in your life and brings them joy.

Why not give the gift of true pleasure and ecstasy to your loved one?

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Remember, what ultimately matters most is living a life filled with joy, love, and laughter starting right now.

Happy Valentines Day and Best Wishes.
Dan & Jennifer

If You Think The Law Of Attraction Won’t Work For You, You’re Probably Right! Here’s Why…

Karen Lynch — Mon, 04 Feb 2008 17:21:49 +0000

By now you have probably heard the phrase “Law of Attraction”, it’s been quite the buzz word in pop culture for the past few years. The Law of Attraction is the concept that we attract into our lives what we think about.

There are some who doubt the Law of Attraction but there aren’t too many people you could find that would deny the fact that in order to accomplish anything in life it does take some thought. The thought comes first. The achievement comes after.

Whether you want to use the phrase “Law of Attraction” or not, it is a fact that energy flows where your attention goes.

So how can we harness this energy in a deliberate manner to attract a partner, a potential mate or maybe just a date?

Well, to start with think about this. Where is your attention? What are you thinking about?

I remember when I was single and hanging out with my single girlfriends, at that time an extremely common sentiment that I would hear over and over again from many smart, beautiful and talented single women who all really wanted to find a nice man and settle down was “All the good men are taken. All the good men are either married or gay”. Consequently, those very same intelligent and attractive women who really wanted to find a nice man would more often than not meet the men who were married, gay or otherwise unavailable. It was inevitable.

Because you attract what you think about whether you want it or not.

Therefore you need to be aware of your thoughts and vibrations. Because, as you think about what you want, the Universe brings it to you and as you think about what you don’t want the Universe also brings it to you. Everything is included; there is no exclusion in the Universe. Whatever you focus on will come into your experience, whether you actually want it or not.

Now of course, these women didn’t “want” to attract married and gay men. And perhaps they were just expressing the frustrations they were having but they were creating an endless cycle. They were attracting exactly what they were thinking about , “married and gay men” and not thinking about and therefore not attracting what they really wanted which was a “nice man to settle down with”.

So if you want to use the Power of Law of Attraction to deliberately bring you what you really want the best thing and really the only thing to do is to…

“Think about and focus only upon that which you really want."

If you find that difficult there are some very valuable techniques you can use. One easy and very effective technique is to use affirmations. Write down what you want and what you are looking for and then develop some affirmative statements that coincide with your list. Say it to yourself over and over again. Repeat and repeat.

For example….

“I meet nice and available people everyday”

“I always meet nice, single men”

“I am so happy and grateful that I am able to connect with the type of person that I want to have in my life”

And so on. You get the picture. Just make the affirmation true to you. If it resonates with your heart and soul, it is more likely to work for you and you are more likely to use it to your advantage.

One more thing, as it starts to work and you start attracting the kind of person you are looking for, remember to be grateful.

The Universe loves Gratitude.

To learn more about Karen Lynch, visit LiveThePower.com.

Sick And Tired Of Being Single? Here’s How To Find Love By Letting Go

Lisa Quirke — Sat, 02 Feb 2008 14:28:04 +0000

Does true love and romance seem to run away from you?

Could you be unknowingly be pushing love away?

If you’ve been single any amount of time at all someone, somewhere has told you that the key to finding love is to stop looking. And I don’t know about you, but hearing that always completely frustrated me. How will I ever find someone if I stop looking? It just made no sense in my head.

That is until I realized that what I needed to do was not physically stop looking. I should still put myself out there. I should still follow inspired action. What I do need to do is follow the steps the law of attraction gives us focusing especially on the the last step–receiving.

Ask. Believe. Receive.

First, I ask the Universe for the relationship I want. Next, I believe that the Universe will deliver it. Finally, and maybe most importantly, I become ready to receive it.

Becoming ready to receive actually involves a couple of sub-steps. First, you must turn your request over to the Universe truly believing you will get what you asked for. Then, you need to detach yourself from the emotions involved in really wanting it.

Asking.

The trick to asking is this. Know what it is you want in a relationship. Be specific and be positive. Don’t put in negative terms. Don’t say, for example, "I want a man who won’t treat me badly." The negativity is there and, simply put, if you ask for negativity that is exactly what you will get. Instead ask for a man who will value and nurture you.

If you have trouble doing this, first make a list of what you don’t want. Then rewrite it in positive language.

Once you ask, follow inspired action to work toward getting it. This may include joining an online dating site, expanding your social circle or checking out that new coffee shop in town.

Believing.

Believe with everything that you are that the Universe will grant your request. Being skeptical will interfere with the process and end up attracting everything you don’t want. If you catch yourself in the middle of a negative thought, immediately reroute your thinking.

Receiving.

This is the part where you have to turn it over to the Universe and let it go. But turning it over to the Universe can be difficult. For this we need to listen to the law of detachment. This is where that stop looking for love thing comes in. We get too attached to what it is we are looking forward which leads to negative thoughts and emotions. We end up focusing on that attachment and that negativity and we never receive the relationship we asked for.

But How Will I Ever Find it if I Let it Go?

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