I’ve recently had feelings for this girl and it turns out she’s had feelings for me as well.

We’ve been friends with each other for years but there’s always been something more there.

She told me that she had liked me more than a friend in the past and she does presently, and it’s the same story with me.

A few days ago we kissed for the first time after we had been out with a group of friends but were alone at the time. From that point on I considered us to be "official" and that’s also what she said to me after the kiss.

However, just two days later she sent me a text message saying "I can’t do this, I just can’t right now."

She has been messed around by boyfriends in the past and treated particularly badly by her previous boyfriend. I’m afraid this has something to do with it.

I really want to make it happen with this girl. Any ideas????? 

So what would you do in this situation?

Force the issue and tell her to get over it or maybe sit back and wait for her indefinitely?

Here’s what I would do in the same situation.

The Answer

It sounds like she’s a little "gun shy" and who can blame her. Give her time and show her that you’re not like her previous boyfriends. She may just be really nervous about crossing the "dating" line and taking the risk of losing you as a friend.

Talk to her.

Tell her openly and honestly how you feel without putting any pressure on her. Let her know that you’re there for her regardless of whether or not she’s your girlfriend or just your friend. Whether your relationship with her is labeled as "romantic" or not, it sounds like you have a good relationship, one worth keeping. Too many people let their hormones drive their intellect and ruin a perfectly good relationship – don’t be one of those.

If she just wants to keep you as a friend, it doesn’t mean that she’s rejecting you as a person. It simply means that she’s not ready for a romantic relationship and doesn’t want to date you right now. So many men get angry over this situation because they take it personally, but most likely it has nothing to do with you – she’s already told you that she’s attracted to you.

Ask yourself why you want to take the relationship to the next level.

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One of the things, unless we’re REALLY lucky in life, is that we are never taught exactly ‘how to kiss’.  Some get it and some don’t, but mostly we learn by trial and error.

Knowing how to kiss a woman the right way will get you, well, anywhere.

Take just a minute right now and learn how to kiss a woman the right way so that she will be begging for more!   

She came up to me close and opened her mouth wide like a full-blown YAWN and tried to kiss (EAT!!) me! hahaha.  I physically closed her mouth down and said, "Lemme show you something" and then held her face in both hands and began VERY slowly suckling her top lip…then her bottom lip…then top lip…and an occasional tongue zing across both lips and back to the slow motion kiss while my fingers crept into her lovely hair and was gently massaging her head.

She was melting in my arms! (I have to say that NO ONE ever taught her how to KISS! She had tried to kiss like the peeps on TV or on some stupid movies—wide open mouth and no respect for the lips! Like two lamphreys trying to kiss!) hahaha.

She grabbed me and drug me onto the sofa inside her apt and we continued. At one point she came up for air and said, "Damn! I’ve NEVER been kissed like THIS before!" I said, "Well, hun, you’re hangin with da wrong people!" 

At this point, I gave her a little tongue and her back arched!…

OK, it was at this point in the email that my cheeks flushed, so I’ll leave the rest for your imagination…

Who’s knows if the story is true, but it makes the point…

Here are some great articles to help you on the path. Good Luck and Happy Kissing!

• How to Kiss a Woman by Lynn Snowden
• The Orgasmic French Kiss By David Strovny
• How to Kiss Her Perfectly by Michelle Penney

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