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Astrological Compatibility: Are The Stars In Alignment For Your Relationship?

Jeffrey Kishner — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:20:30 +0000

Some partners are possessive, while others don’t even ask where you were all night. And when it comes to independence, it can be maddening if the two of you don’t have a good fit. You may want your main squeeze to be with you all the time, while your honey bristles at being under a tight leash.

It’s frustrating when your needs are so out of line with another’s.

Fortunately, astrology can lend some insight into the desire for freedom versus security.

Each sign of the zodiac has a different energy, and can be sorted into one of two camps: extroverted and introverted. Extroverted types need to be out and about, mixing it up with lots of people to feel fulfilled. Introverts need time alone, and don’t easily come out of their shells. They still need people, but are more likely to have a trusted few than a whole entourage.

Fire and Air Signs

Fire and Air signs tend to be extroverts. The Fire signs include Aries, Leo and Sagittarius.

Aries has a need for novelty, and ploughs ahead to act on their own desires, regardless of the feelings of anyone else. This pioneering sign hates to be controlled or held back, so will not respond well to ultimatums that they spend every night at home. Aries is ruled by planet Mars, the god of war … so you don’t want to get in this sign’s way!

Leo loves to be the life of the party and thrives on attention and adulation. However, they also require loyalty, and will not take kindly to your request to spend a quiet weekend tending to the garden. Whereas Aries will just do his or her own thing, Leo will insist on dragging you to the next party to be their arm candy. In other words, this Sun-ruled sign cannot be too independent, because Leo depends on others to reflect back their brilliance.

Sagittarius, on the other hand, is a wild horse that cannot be restrained. This sign, ruled by the largest planet in the solar system, needs to explore the world! Hungry for sport and adventure, Sag absolutely cannot be held down in one place for too long — unless they’re committed to completing a PhD in World Religions. Although they place importance on morality and ethics, these ideals are not going to keep them faithful if you insist on keeping them home under lock and key.

The Air Signs

The Air signs include Gemini, Libra and Aquarius.

Gemini needs lots of stimulation or they get easily bored. So unless you’re the most interesting and entertaining person on the planet, be prepared to give Gem lots of room to converse with a variety of people. This sign is ruled by Mercury, the messenger, and requires a constant flow of information (gossip!) to feel satisfied. So give your Gemini partner ample time to talk on the phone and tap away on IM, and they’ll be happy.

Libra is an exception to the freedom rule. Although an outgoing air sign, Libra is ruled by Venus, goddess of love. The Libran absolutely needs a one-on-one relationship to feel fulfilled, and especially the kind that feels like an equal, fair partnership. Libra will want to spend a lot of time with you, and if you insist on a boys or girls night out, then Libra will want to do the same, just to balance the scales.

Aquarius is the most independent sign of the zodiac. The sign of friends and groups is rather detached and impersonal, preferring the company of many over deep intimacy with one. You’re more likely to find Aquarius rallying for political change than for more heart-to-heart talks. This sign won’t mind if you spend much of your time somewhere else, and will insist on the same lee-way from you.

Earth and Water Signs

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Why Men Don’t Say ‘I Love You’…

Jeffrey Kishner — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 15:56:38 +0000

Your guy may change your tires, buy you presents and open the door for you at a restaurant, but he has not yet uttered those three words.

Does that mean he doesn’t love you?

Without hearing the utterance, you may wonder what’s going on in his skull. Is he just sticking around for the sex? Has he developed an intricate plan to win you over and then tear your heart out, just for the fun of it?

Men are hard to read. They are not as verbal as women, and some have been raised on the belief that "actions speak louder than words. "Chalk it up to genetics, culture (nature versus nurture) … it doesn’t matter. You just want to know if you’re a man’s final destination, not just a rest stop along the highway.

Fortunately, knowledge of your guy’s zodiac sign can help you determine if he’s the strong, silent type … or if he’s just taking you for a ride. The twelve Sun signs symbolize different ways that people express themselves. Some men are primarily emotional, others live in their heads. Look to your guy’s Sun sign below to learn how likely he is to say, "I love you."

Air Signs: Gemini, Libra and Aquarius

These mental, sociable signs vary greatly in their expressions of love. Gemini may say, "I love you" Wednesday, only to have changed his mind on Friday. He is a fickle man, and it is hard to hold his interest for long. Libra, on the other hand, is the romantic type, and will not only express his affection with "I love you," but also with songs, flowers, chocolates and reservations at fine restaurants. Aquarius will say "I love you … like I love all my friends!"

Earth Signs: Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn

More than any other element, earth signs will express their love with actions more than words. After all, the earth element is all about what you can actually hold in your hands. Taurus will express affection by doing simple things for you, probably tasks that involve physical labor. Status-conscious Capricorn will buy you diamonds. Virgo is the exception — he does thrive on being helpful, but his sign is ruled by communication planet Mercury. He’s likely to put his love into words, but he’ll also alert you to the spinach lodged between your teeth.

Fire Signs: Aries, Leo and Sagittarius

These inspiring guys prefer drama, action and adventure over articulate expressions of their love. Leo (the exception) is most likely to exclaim his affection, preferably with Shakespearian prose in front of a crowded room. Sagittarius will take you along the entire Appalachian Trail, but may fear that "I love you" means having to stay home and watch network TV. Aries will say those three words only if he had to conquer another guy (or your own resistance) to get to you.

Water Signs: Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces

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How to Win Back a Gemini…

Jeffrey Kishner — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 11:23:45 +0000

It may be hard to ‘lose’ a Taurus, but it’s just as difficult to keep a Gemini. The sign of the Twins is known for being fickle and flighty, stimulation-seeking and superficial. Gemini is ruled by Mercury, the planet of communication and information. The winged messenger is faster than the speed of light, and so is Gemini’s mind. Her brain needs to be occupied every waking moment, or else she gets fidgety and starts reading the bottoms of Snapple caps.

The Breakup

If you weren’t witty enough to keep her engaged, Gemini probably dropped you faster than you could open the New York Post to Page Six. Or maybe she balked at your attempts to stop her from chatting with every other patron at Happy Hour. Gemini needs the freedom to converse and satisfy her curiosity, and if you couldn’t give her that, there was little reason for her to stick around.

So now you’re pining for her, having realized that your life is a bore without someone to keep you on top of the latest celebrity news, as well the the tedious (but adorable) details of her day at work.

Winning a Gemini Back

Surely she will have re-entered the dating world in no time, so you’ve got competition. And unfortunately, familiarity is not an asset when it comes to this sign. In fact, you have some homework to do. If you paid attention, you know what interests her, so the first thing you do is pretend you’re preparing for Jeopardy, and imagine Alex Trebek is quizzing you on all of Gemini’s favorite categories of interest. If you can’t jazz her with your trivial knowledge, then perhaps you should set your sights on another sign.

If you’re a serious, one-on-one person, you’ll have to stretch yourself socially. Sitting quietly next to her at a dinner table while she jabbers on with friends will not excite her nearly as much as you being somewhat unavailable to her. You need to passionately talk about your own interests with someone else, so she feels there’s more to you than she assumed. Being slightly out of reach will make you more interesting. Plus, there’s nothing worse to a Gemini than being held in one place for too long, so lay off the possessiveness!

If you’re lucky, she’ll have returned to your embrace. The next challenge is to keep her there. As a wise sage once sang, "If you love somebody, set them free."

Featured Author, Jeffrey Kishner is a professional astrologer and Licensed Mental Health Counselor. He blogs about the astrology of relationships at Seduction Central, and created the Seduction Central Social Network and Forum, where members discuss astrological compatibility. Subscribe to his blog’s feed or get updates via email.