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3 Things All Men Need To Know About The G-Spot

Lee Jenkins, author Female Orgasm Black Book — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 19:13:29 +0000

If there’s one topic about sexual health which is controversial, that is none other than the female G-spot. Some experts say that there is such a thing as a G-spot which brings a woman earth-shattering orgasms when stimulated. However, there’s this other part of the spectrum wherein skeptics say that the G-spot does not even exist. Tantric sex practitioners believe that this ’sacred’ spot is like the Holy Grail when it comes to the erogenous spots which turn a woman on.

But whether it exists or not, what’s important is that men can use the G-spot to bring his partner to the ultimate in sexual heights. Read on to find out more about the G-spot.

The G-Spot, and Nothing But…

First, let us try to delve deeper into what this controversial G-spot is all about. This is actually named after gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg who discovered the part within a woman’s vagina which is able to bring her to the peak of sexual heights way back in 1944.

The G-spot is more of a zone than just one particular spot – and it’s located right inside the vagina, about one to two inches within the frontal wall. If you insert a finger within the vagina, you should make a come hither motion and look for a bean-shaped tissue which feels rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall.

The sensations that a woman is bound to feel when her G-spot is stimulated actually depend on the individual. For some women, the G-spot is indeed the Holy Grail of all her erogenous zones which can provide hours of mind-numbing pleasure. For some, stimulating the G-spot too much may produce a sensation like you need to urinate – while others do not seem to be sexually affected by the G-spot at all.

Now, from a man’s perspective, it might be a bit difficult to bring your partner to great sexual heights through her G-spot if she herself does not know whether she has it or not. So communication is an essential key here. Just as it is when exploring a different aspect of your sex life, familiarizing the both of you with the female G-spot should be a fun and shared experience that will bring you closer together.

The Top 3 Things That Men Should Know About The G-Spot

So here are the top three things that men should know about the G-spot:

1. What to do with the G-spot

Now that you already have a basic idea about where the G-spot is located, the next thing that you need to know about is what exactly you should do with it. Basically, the best way to stimulate the G-spot is by stroking it directly or making a tapping motion using your fingertips once you’ve managed to locate it.

As mentioned earlier, you can use your forefinger and make a come hither motion once your finger is inserted about a couple of inches inside her vaginal wall. It should be pointing towards the direction of her belly button.

2. How to feel the G-spot during intercourse

The next thing that every man should know about when it comes to the G-spot is how to feel it during intercourse. Since your penis does not have the dexterity of your fingers, you would need the help of a woman in order to be in a position wherein her G-spot will be stimulated.

A woman-on-top position, a rear entry position and the doggy style position are all geared towards giving her a G-spot orgasm. These sexual positions will benefit you, too, in such a way that the variety will be as much of a turn on as knowing that you are both working towards each other’s pleasures.

3. The role that G-spot stimulation plays in female orgasms

Finally, it helps for men to know just how important a role the G-spot plays in female orgasms. A lot of women claim that they experience female ejaculation or female orgasms when the G-spot is stimulated.

All in all, familiarizing yourself with the G-spot is just one of the many aspects of sex that you can explore together as a couple. Whether your female partner thinks that she has it or not, what’s important is that the process of discovery will be highly, sexually stimulating for the both of you.

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”

How To Give Any Woman An Orgasm… Every Time!

W. Wilcox — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 13:52:35 +0000

It’s like the Holy Grail for men. Making a female reach orgasm when we sleep with them is of the utmost importance to us men and often our number one priority, even outranking our own sexual needs.

But why is making a woman cum so high on our to-do lists when we’re in the sack and, once you know it’s something you’d like to be able to do, how do you give a woman an orgasm each and every time? Is there a special technique, a magic touch, or is it in the lap of the Gods whether or not she makes that elusive “O” face (and actually means it!)

Before we get into the techniques, the science behind female sexual gratification, let’s first have a quick look at the subject of orgasms as a whole.

The Male Orgasm

The male climax, which combines ejaculation with an orgasm is, unless a guy has something pretty seriously wrong with him, a foregone conclusion in sex. We guys know that when we cum it’s usually end game for us, so we tend to use our orgasms as a marker.

The amount of time that elapses between first insertion to final climax constitutes our sexual performance, good or bad. Whether we last as long as we’d like, or do all the things we’d love to do, we’re always guaranteed that predictable pay-off at the end of it all.

The Female Orgasm

Women, on the other hand, and somewhat unsurprisingly, are totally different. Whether they achieve an orgasm is entirely dependent on a host of requirements, including but not limited to: the guy’s sexual ability, the female’s knowledge of how her body works, and her mood at the time of sex.

Then there’s the added headache (for us!) of women faking orgasms just to please us and keep our egos in check. All combined, giving a girl an orgasm, and realizing that we have,is usually a tricky business for most guys.

But there ARE things you can do to ensure you stand the absolute best chance of bringing your partner or partners to the highest possible point of sexual pleasure.

These are concepts most men never hear of or, if they do, never try because, to be honest, if they did give them a whirl, the female orgasm really wouldn’t be such an elusive, unattainable thing. Here they are: the techniques and strategies you should use to give a woman an orgasm…every time.

1. Proper Build-Up

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Finally! The Truth About Female Ejaculation…

Carla Tara — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 19:00:14 +0000

Does a woman ejaculate? The answer is a definite, yes. With proper stimulation of the Gspot, women can ejaculate a fluid from ducts located around the urethra. It is located in the front wall of the vagina under the pubic bone.

This is a spongy area two inches or more inside the yoni (vagina) depending on the size of the yoni and the location of the clitoris. It is actually South Pole of the clitoris.

The First Documentation of Female Ejaculation

Female ejaculation was documented in ancient China and India where the Goddess-spot massage was a common Tantric-sex technique. Tantric texts call the liquid produced amrita, or "sweet nectar." It is a protein-based fluid, found to be chemically different from urine. It is believed to have great healing properties.

This knowledge is slowly coming to the awareness of non-Tantric people like Dr. Mitchell Levine, a gynecologist/obstetrician at the Women Care clinic, in Arlington, who declares that women do ejaculate. He believes that the hush-hush aura around the subject does not help women or men. He believes that is should become common knowledge.

Medicine Ignores Women’s Sexuality

Sexuality, and especially women’s sexuality, does not receive much attention in medical school. In fact, one female gynecologist approached for this story declined comment, admitting not to know enough about the subject.

Our in so many other ways advanced western culture is badly informed about human sensuality. Medical encyclopedias still do not mention female ejaculation. There is some information, however, on The Complete Guide to Women’s Health.

Don’t Make Something Out of Nothing

The quantity of amrita is not indicative of how much the woman enjoys her release. Therefore, please men don’t make it an issue. Some woman I’ve been working with say they experience intense pleasurable feeling of release and often ejaculate three to nine times or more during one session of sex, each ejaculatory orgasm giving them more pleasure than the previous one.

However, the experience of female ejaculation varies from woman to woman. Some dribble a small amount of fluid; others soak the sheets.

Some women get concerned that they’re urinating, and they need to be reassured that this is not the case. It is amrita they secrete, not urine. In fact amrita does not smell or taste like urine.

The G-Spot Itself

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3-Before-Me: A Proven Guideline For Great Sex

Lee Jenkins, author Female Orgasm Black Book — Thu, 15 May 2008 14:40:19 +0000

Have you ever heard of the “3-Before-Me” rule?

Simply put, it means that you do whatever it takes to make your woman experience an orgasm 3 times before you even allow her to start pleasuring you.

Now, just the thought of this may tire you out but we’re not really talking about orgasms during intercourse here. We mean the following (and in this sequence):

Clitoral orgasm
G-spot orgasm
Blended orgasm

It’s best to bring your woman to a clitoral orgasm first for the simple reason that the clitoris is easiest to stimulate and will be most responsive to your ‘attentions’ at the start of making love. Furthermore, a clitoral orgasm prepares her physically for that all-elusive G-spot orgasm.

A G-spot orgasm will give your partner a different kind of sensation compared to a clitoral orgasm. Many women claim that it’s ‘deeper’ and more ‘body-rocking’ than clitoral orgasms.

After a G-spot orgasm, it’s time for blended orgasms, which is that magic combination of a clitoral orgasm and a G-spot orgasm.

Why the “3-Before-Me” Rule Rocks!

Now you may be wondering, “Why give her 3 orgasms first before I even have 1?”

Well, there are plenty of reasons supporting this and trust me, it will benefit you as well.

Did you know that about 70-75% of women do NOT reach an orgasm during sexual intercourse?

Imagine the frustration this brings! So with the “3-Before-Me” rule, you’re actually physically setting her up for a vaginal orgasm. And even if she doesn’t reach an orgasm at this stage, IT’S OK.

After all, she already reached her climax 3 times before right? So no sexual frustration on her part anymore even if she doesn’t have an orgasm during intercourse.

Be the Sex God You’ve Always Wanted To Be

As mentioned above, a great percentage of women do not reach an orgasm during sexual intercourse, yet few men go out of their way to ensure that they’re sexually satisfied in bed. If you practice the “3-Before-Me” rule, she’ll be talking her head off to all her friends that she’s found THE man that can really fulfill her in bed!

It Doesn’t Matter If You Can’t Last Long In Bed

With the 3-Before-Me rule, it doesn’t matter if you can’t last long during sex. Some men get so excited in bed that they tend to come just a little bit sooner than what their partners would like. However, if you pleasure her first, do you think she’ll notice how soon you come during intercourse? I bet she won’t!

The 3-Before-Me Makes Sex Better

Since you’ve gone out of your way to pleasure her and bring her to orgasm three times, can you imagine what she will do to YOU to show her gratitude? Many men claim that sex is definitely better after they pleasure their women first.

Keep in mind that “3-Before-Me” is really more a guide than a rule. It’s not written in stone so don’t feel that you’re doing something wrong if you don’t make her experience a female orgasm 3 times all the time.

What you must remember is this: please her first and you’re in for a rocking time in bed!

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”