What Not To Shop For

There are lots of things that you want in a sex toy, but it’s unlikely that you’ll find the perfect made-just-for-you toy that meets every one of your requirements. That said, it’s essential that you think about what’s important in your item and what isn’t as crucial. Here are some examples of things you don’t necessarily want to narrow down your search:

Color

While you want your vibrator or dildo to be pretty, shopping for one based on what color it is alone is a great way to get a sex toy that you hate or can’t use. Certain sex toys come in certain colors, and if you’re only looking for clear or red (or whatever your chosen color is), you’re going to be limited in what you can get in that particular color. Instead, focus on a more important aspect – such as function or size – when shopping.

Brand

There are great brands out there, but not all the items produced by one brand are great. You may get a really fun, awesome dildo and swear up and down that you will only buy that brand ever again. The next thing you buy – such as a cock ring for example – may be a complete dud. Then again, it may not be.

However, by limiting yourself to one brand of sex toys only, you might miss something really great that has been that special item you’ve been looking for. Keep your mind open and look for items that meet other criteria, such as being easy to use or super discreet.

Price

Of course, most people shopping for sex toys need to stay within a budget. There are couples out there that can splurge on the $300 vibrator, but most people have an idea of what price range they need to be looking in. However, when you’re shopping strictly by price, you may run into trouble. Cheap sex toys aren’t always the best and the best ones aren’t always cheap. Then again, there are lots of inexpensive items that give a great orgasm – so price really isn’t a factor at all.

If you don’t have very much to spend, consider saving up for a little while longer so that you can have a broader range of items to pick from. If you’ve only got $20 to spend and are looking for stuff in that price range only, you may miss the awesome $21.95 toy that is everything you’ve wanted in a sex toy and more! Having a little bit more to spend when you start shopping allows you to check out a lot more items – whether you buy one that is at the bottom of your price range or the top.

What To Shop For

There are lots of things that are important when considering what types of items to look for, but some are much more significant than others. For example, size is pretty important – you don’t want to get something that is too small or too big for you. Here are some examples of things that may make or break your decision:

Size (Length & Width)

Size is probably one of the most important factors to consider when shopping for a vibrator or dildo. Think about what size you need – based on your previous sex toys and other partners’ penis size. Are you only able to accommodate a small vibrator, or do you need something that is a bit longer to reach your g-spot?

Take into account what size you are, and what size feels good to you. Purchase something that meets the basic length and width requirements and doesn’t go over or under them a lot. Your heart may be set on a pretty pink penis, but if it’s two inches too short, you’re going to be sorry.

Function

Need a vibrator that will massage your clitoris? You might not want to buy one that is designed for g-spot stimulation and vice versa. Before you buy, think about what exactly you’re wanting your new toy to do. Do you want something that will stimulate both the clitoris and the g-spot at the same time? Take a look at a Rabbit vibrator or something similar. Are you a virgin and need something that doesn’t require penetration? Think about vibrating bullets.

Don’t go shopping for sex toys without thinking about what function you want it to have first – that’s how you get stuck with something that you don’t want!

Ease Of Use

You probably don’t want a vibrator that has a thousand different buttons and requires an astrophysicist’s degree to figure out. Sometimes, a vibrator with a simple on/off function works great, so don’t assume the more buttons and gadgets it has the better. Pick something that you know will be easy to use, especially when you’re in the throes of passion alone or with your partner.

Level Of Discretion

Some couples really need their sex toys to be discreet. If that’s the case, look for a small bullet vibe or travel vibrator – something small that can be easily hidden or taken with you in a purse, pocket or suitcase. People who need a certain level of discretion may want to stay away from purchasing traditional dildos, since most of them tend to be larger and penis shaped.

Regardless of what sex toys you use, make sure that they meet your needs and wants before making the purchase. If you don’t, you’ll end up spending a lot of money on something that isn’t very good or is simply “okay.” Once you find the right item, make it even more pleasurable and comfortable by using a lot of good, water based lubricant. Take care of it and make it last longer by cleaning it after each use, either with a special toy cleaner or hot, soapy water.

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Cucumber Or Zucchini

A very popular homemade sex toy is the cucumber or zucchini. Many girls like to experiment with these instead of a traditional dildo, because it is easy to experiment with different sizes, shapes and textures. Other popular vegetables that can be used in place of a dildo include carrots and celery. These types of vegetables are popular sex toys among teenage girls and women alike, because they do not require a special trip to an adult toy store – instead, they’re available everywhere, including your local grocery and convenience stores. The downsides to using phallic shaped sex toys in lieu of professional sex toys is that many vegetables have cuts or knicks in them that can harbor bacteria. This bacteria can be transferred to the vagina or anus and can cause an infection in the body. If you must use a vegetable instead of a sex toy, slip a condom over it.

Adam & Eve Alternative: Slim Pink Pleaser or The Illumination by Doc Johnson.

Spinning Toothbrush

Some women enjoy using a spinning or sonic toothbrush on the clitoris in place of a vibrator. This will actually definitely work well in a pinch, especially if you’re traveling and don’t want to take your favorite sex toy with you. However, this is probably not something you want to use long term, because frankly, there are just so many better things out there to use to massage and stimulate the clitoris to achieve orgasm. Besides, you don’t really want to put your toothbrush back in your mouth after you’ve just gotten done using it down there, do you? Professional sex toys designed for clitoral stimulation are probably the best choice here, because many of them are just as discreet and easy to use. Think of a soft, squishy yet textured clitoral vibrator that feels just like a tongue – plus more.

Adam & Eve Alternative: The Illumination by Doc Johnson or The Clitoral Kisser

Toilet Paper Roll

Many guys use a toilet paper roll for masturbation instead of their hands – ouch! They achieve a “vagina like feel” by stuffing a grocery bag inside the roll and squirting lube inside to allow it to slide up and down the penis. While this is definitely a cheaper alternative than a professional male masturbator, there are definitely some disadvantages to using this type of homemade sex toy. First of all, a male masturbator made from latex or silicone just feels better, and can come textured or ribbed for your pleasure. Paired with a good lube, a male masturbator will make it feel more like a vagina. Male masturbators are surprisingly inexpensive and easy to purchase – plus they can be turned inside out and cleaned thoroughly (with either special sex toy cleaner or good old fashioned hot soapy water) to make it last longer.

Adam & Eve Alternative: The Super Head Honcho Masturbator

Clothespins

Men and women have both been known to use spring clothespins as nipple clamps. This is actually a very bad idea! Clothespins cannot be adjusted at all to make them squeeze harder or softer, and usually they squeeze really, really hard (unless they’re broken). Clothespins can squeeze too hard and hurt or bruise the nipple, making it painful for days afterwards. Instead, try to find professional nipple clamps with a sliding adjuster on it that will allow you to control how hard the clamp will squeeze. If you like rough sex, move the slider so that the clamp squeezes harder. If you prefer vanilla sex, adjust the clamp so that it only gives you a light pressure sensation.

Adam & Eve Alternative: Feather Fetish Nipple Clamp or Micro Vibrating Nipple Clamps

DIY Anal Beads

Some people who enjoy anal sex are using marbles, golf balls or other round objects of varying sizes and placing them in a condom to create a homemade set of anal beads. They either tie the condom in knots between the round objects or use string to tie them. While this will work to provide stimulation of the prostate gland, it is a very dangerous homemade sex toy to use. The condom can easily break and the objects inside can get lost inside the anal cavity, causing you a very expensive and embarrassing trip to the emergency room. Most anal beads are inexpensive and come in a variety of sizes for people who enjoy different anal sensations. Anal beads are also safer to use because they can be cleaned thoroughly with a toy cleaner or soap and hot water. It is extremely important to keep your anal sex toys clean and wash them after each and every use!

Adam & Eve Alternative: x10 Anal Beads

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Dan and I were sitting around talking the other day and wondering “what are the most popular sex toys?” Sure, we have our own personal favorites, but what does everyone else like? So we sent an email to our friends at Adam & Eve and they sent us their 5 best selling sex toys so that we could see for ourselves (and share them with you). Watch this video for the results – I guarantee that a few of them will surprise you!

5. Super Head Honcho Masturbator

The Super Head Honcho Masturbator is actually a male sex toy (sex toy for boys) – it’s a soft, pink, silicone sleeve that slips over the penis to provide super sensations for a man while he’s masturbating. Don’t worry – it can also be used with a partner too! The Super Head Honcho Masturbator has several suction chambers for a truly realistic feeling, and turns inside out for easy cleanup with soap and water.

4. G-Gasm Delight G-Spot Vibrator

The G-Gasm Delight G-Spot Vibrator is a slim, easy to use vibrator that is designed specifically for g-spot stimulation. You can also use it for clitoral stimulation, because the vibrating “egg” at the top of the wand works well for both types of pleasure. The G-Gasm Delight G-Spot Vibrator can be used by even the most novice sex toy users, including your partner on his search for the elusive g-spot.

3. Eve’s Slim Pink Pleaser Vibrator

The Slim Pink Pleaser Vibrator is the perfect introductory vibrator for inexperienced users, and is also good for discreet travel or a simple, go-to vibrator that does the job. It’s just the right size for novice users and provides great vaginal and clitoral stimulation while still being easy to hold and soft but naughtily textured.

2. Adam And Eve’s Clitoral Kisser

The Clitoral Kisser might look a little strange at first, but the perfect clitoral suction it provides makes it an easy to use and devilishly pleasurable sex toy. Great for both individual masturbation and use with a partner, the soft silicone tip gently cups and kisses your clitoris, providing waves of pleasure.

1. Rotating G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator

Coming in at the number one most popular sex toy is the Rotating G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator. This vibrator is available at a great price for people who have never used a rabbit vibrator before, but is also made with several features to please even the most discerning vibrator user. The Rotating G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator has moving pearls, a rotating shaft, a perfectly angled g-spot tip for intense g-spot pleasure, and adorable rabbit ears for naughty clitoral stimulation. This very well may be the most popular sex toy on the market today for women who want to experience multiple types of pleasure at the same time. Don’t limit yourself to simply using it by yourself – use it with your partner to show him how you like to be pleasured!

There are dozens and even hundreds of different types of sex toys available, whether you’re a novice or experienced sex toy user. Try a few of the toys for yourself and find out what your favorite is!

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And with masturbation – especially female masturbation (yes, it does happen) – being somewhat taboo in society today, a woman interested in pleasuring herself may have few options. Many women choose to masturbate with vibrators or dildos, and share their sex toys with their partners. Where can you get vibrators or dildos?

But if it’s your first time, what do you start with? What is the right vibrator for you?

If you’ve been curious about vibrators, particularly about buying your first one, this is just the video for you. We’ll walk you through 5 simple steps for choosing the perfect vibrator for you. It’s easier than you’re thinking right now!

How You’re Going To Use Your Vibrator

The first step is to decide how you’re going to use a prospective sex toy. Do you want to use it by yourself? Do you want to use it with a partner, or both? Do you need a vibrator with tittillating action, or will a non-vibrating, standard dildo do for you? Do you want something just to massage your clitoris, or would you like to use it for insertion? Do you want a toy that does double – both massaging your clitoris and inserting and stimulating your g-spot at the same time? Deciding what the most important aspects of owning a vibrator are for you is a crucial first step in finding the right vibrator for you.

What Material Do You Want Your Sex Toy Made Out Of?

There are several different types of sex toy materials available on the market today – for example, one of the newer materials is called Cyberskin and is soft and squishy, with a very real skin-like sensation. This is a great material for a penis-shaped dildo, making it more realistic. You can also buy plastic, silicone or steel vibrators, or go with softer silicone or even glass dildos or vibrators. Check out a sex toy website that will allow you to browse different materials available so you can find out what type of material intrigues you the most.

What Size And Shape Should Your Sex Toy Be?

Size and shape are very important when it comes to finding the perfect sex toy or dildo for yourself. Vibrators and dildos come in a complete variety of shapes and sizes. Do you want something small and discreet that will fit in your handbag? Or would you like a very large, very wide dildo that will bring you to the brink of the kind of pleasure you can withstand? Do you want something medium sized that will get the job done? Think about what you’re most comfortable with sexually so you can find the right size for you – it’s not a one size fits all sort of deal.

Your Vibrator’s Power Source

If you’ve decided to go with a vibrator and not a standard, non-vibrating dildo, you can run into the issues of recharging your vibrator or switching batteries. Both are good ways to charge your vibrator but both have their disadvantages. Running out of batteries (and often not having any more on hand) in the heat of the moment can be a huge disappointment, while having a cordless, rechargable vibrator can be quite expensive. Think about how convenient you want your vibrator to be by determining how often you think you’re going to use it.

You Get What You Pay For

If this is your first time vibrator or dildo, you might not be prepared to spend a hundred dollars or more on the hottest, most realistic vibrator on the market today. But you certainly are going to get what you pay for. That doesn’t mean there isn’t middle ground. Look for a dildo or vibrator that is in your price range, but the cheaper you go, the less features and power your new vibrator is going to have. You don’t have to spend a fortune, but for a good vibrator or dildo, you’re going to spend more than five bucks.

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Why People Still Use Homemade Sex Toys

Both men and women still use homemade sex toys for several reasons – many people still believe that actual sex toys are hard to find or expensive, and they’re afraid of others (such as their children) finding their sex toys. Fortunately, these things just aren’t true anymore about sex toys. Many sex toys are inexpensive and a great number of them are incredibly discreet (tube of lipstick in your purse, anyone?) and no one but you will really know the difference. Sex toys are easy to buy online, will show up at your house in discreet packaging and even the transaction on your bank account will be discreet enough that someone simply looking at your bank statement won’t know what that particular transaction was about. Why not get a real sex toy?

Sex Toy Safety

While the benefits of homemade sex toys are that they’re inexpensive, readily available and discreet, they’re not worth risking your health with. Homemade sex toys aren’t safe – some of them can injure your most sensitive areas and even carry bacteria that can cause you serious infections that are expensive to treat under a doctor’s care. It’s not worth taking the risk! Read on about some of the great – and inexpensive – sex toys that you can use that will make your masturbation sessions better and safer.

Boy Toys

While a number of men masturbate with their hands, some men are into finding “toys” that they can masturbate with to try to recreate the feeling of a mouth or a vagina. Men have been known to use fruit, fabric, pillows and even harsh toilet paper rolls! Come on guys! Most sex toy stores and websites have silicone masturbators that you can use instead, that are soft and squishy and have a number of pleasure enhancing factors. A plain silicone masturbator is truly inexpensive, but for a real treat, you can try one with firm pleasure beads inside or one that is ridged or studded. Some are even shaped like anuses, mouths and vaginas to make masturbating even more fun! They’re safe too – just remember to use plenty of water based lubricant!

Girl Toys

While some men do use homemade sex toys, women are the ones who really get a bad rap about it. Women have been known to use everything from vegetables to hairbrushes to bottles and everything in between. There are a variety of sex toys available for women though, most of them so discreet you wouldn’t be able to tell them apart from a curling iron or even a fancy pen. Plus, homemade sex toys don’t vibrate! Real sex toys are easy to clean, and you don’t have to worry about bacteria that could cause an infection. They’re not expensive either! Real sex toys will give you everything you want in a toy, but without the worries that come along with homemade sex toys. If you are going to use a homemade sex toy though, throw a condom on it first to protect yourself.

Ready to graduate from homemade sex toys to the real thing?

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But none of these stack up against the greatest threat facing us today: the proliferation of sex toys. At least it was a problem in the state of Texas until a Federal Appeals court overturned a statewide ban on sex toys.

At issue, the distribution of sex toys and other adult items for couples and singles at “Tupperware” like parties. The law made it illegal based on the idea that such sales were deemed “obscene devices”. A person caught doing this could spend up to two years in jail.

Thankfully the courts saw this rule coming into conflict with the right to privacy (the 14th Amendment for you and I) and struck it down.

Thank God it got shot down because I know it would be a strange sight seeing men and women on the street corners trying to sell hummingbirds and G-spot wands to couples in need of a fix. This means the only two states left to overturn such a ruling and join the rest of the country in the 21st century are Alabama and Mississippi.

Laws like this one hurts those who are hosting and distributing marital aides and sex toys to couples and singles looking for extra fun in the bedroom. Meanwhile, there are those who feel you (a consenting adult) shouldn’t have these items for fear of perversion and abnormal behavior in the bedroom.

The truth about sex toys

Truth is sex toys only pose the simple threat of adding spice into the life a single person or a couple. Sex toys offer variety into the bedroom; God forbid if we add some flavor into the bedroom.

With growing frustration in the bedroom, couples breaking up over a lack of variety what crime is committed if couples want to make their relationship stronger?

Let’s break it down for you, sex toys or marital aides will help ensure relationships and relieve stress. Any time we can relieve stress in this world of ours is a very good thing. Sex toys don’t diminish you as a person or single you out as inferior in the bedroom.

Benefits for men and for women

Men sometimes feel having one (or using one) threaten ones manhood. But it takes a real man to admit he alone may not be the only thing to bring your partner their pleasure. Using a sex toy heightens the experience and can bring pleasure and enjoyment in the long run (not to mention rest from the wear and tear of your member).

For women, it is a chance to get in touch with your body. It is sad there are women out there who never had an orgasm until late in life. These tools are good aides to help women find the right points and areas to achieve orgasm.

Why there is an issue with sex toys

Single people are stigmatized (especially women) for buying such items because to some it signals you don’t need a man (or women), you’re inferior in the bedroom, or you have “issues” you don’t want your mother to know about.

Enough with the myths, fact is there is no shame for men or women to own or use a sex toy. What better safe sex you can have than with yourself; you can make your own sex play fun and pleasurable by taking these aides and have a good time. If others can’t see you’re not deviant in doing so then get them a vibrator too. Sounds like they could use one badly.

Alternatives to sex toy parties

Those who are in the Christian community who feel uncomfortable coming to a pleasure party or an adult bookstore/gift shop there is Book22.com. It is a great site geared for Christians couples (if you’re wondering about the name of the site look up Song of Solomon—22nd book in the Bible). It is a safe place to explore options to bring enjoyment in the most sanctified bedroom.

Its still early to find out if the Texas Attorney General’s office will have the case tried again, but I hope the good people of the Lone Star state leave it rest. Sex toys are both a pleasure and purposeful items, which can benefit all in the pursuit of a better bedroom.

Lead the way Texas and maybe in a few years Alabama and Mississippi  join you to once and for all put these arcane laws to rest and really give the power to the people (with a few extra batteries to boot).

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Which begs the question…

Do normal people actually use sex toys?

Of course they do! Let’s get this out there once and for all.

Sex toys are often used by regular people just like you and me. Your friends and neighbors probably have a vibrator or something similar, they just don’t talk with you about it.

In previous decades and altogether darker times in our history, the idea of using sex toys was driven largely underground and ridiculed. It was labeled as something exclusive to weirdos, perverts, and people who couldn’t have “normal” sex. This was largely done by individuals or groups of religious extremists within various governments worldwide, trying to convert others and enforce their moral and religious ideals on others (think back to what you’ve read about The Crusades and all the good those efforts brought the world).

As always, ignorance breeds contempt. And there’s very little useful information out there today on sex toys; and on any sexuality topics that deviate from the ultra conservative main stream views of sex.

So keep an open mind and let’s delve into the wonders of sex with toys.

Obviously there’s no such thing as “normal” sex (a very common myth); there is only what you (and your partner) choose and prefer sexually. That kind of open mindedness is absolutely crucial to a happy and fulfilling sex life.

So what specifically are all these sex toys that everyone’s talking about, and are they really as much fun as you’ve heard?

Some of our favorite sex toys

Sex toys come in many, many different shapes and sizes, colors, and even fragrances. Here’s a breakdown…

Vibrators

When most people speak of sex toys they’re generally referring to basic vibrators – a simple, mostly straight, phallic shaped object, that happens to also have a built-in vibrating mechanism.

Perhaps the most popular type of vibrator is the rabbit, a combination vibrator that is able to stimulate both the  vagina (as a regular vibrator) and also the clitoris – at the same time. This fact has made the rabbit a favorite overnight.

Another popular type of vibrator is the egg. These vibrators are egg / oval shaped (as the name suggest) usually just under two inches in length, and can be used both internally and externally. As you can guess by their size, they are designed for internal use.

Then of course there are the more exotic remote controlled vibrators, for discrete fun between lovers when in public and on special hot date evenings. Use with caution, and be sure to enjoy discretely.

Dildos

Dildos basically look like most people’s idea of a “vibrator”, but are not motorized. They’re entirely hand activated, and are intended for clitoral or vaginal stimulation – although as is the case with most sex toys, intended use and actual creative use in practice are not always the same. They of course also come in many shapes and sizes.

Homemade Sex Toys

Homemade sex toys? Absolutely! You’ll be surprised to discover how many potential sex toys you have floating around your own home.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb just released “Sex All Around The House – Using Everyday Household Items To Spice Up Your Sex Life,” where he exposes the surprising number and variety of sex toys hiding in plain sight around your very own home. Yes, YOUR very own home.

Of course, think twice before you start using your various household objects for sexual play. Think safety, cleanliness, and whether you still plan to use that spatula for cooking tomorrow.

Restraints and Other Bondage Toys for BDSM Play

Sex play of the dominant and submissive variety (BDSM) also involves various “props” which could fall into the toy category. From satin restraints, to leather wear, nipple clamps (ouch), blindfolds, cuffs, mouth gags, and whatever else does it for you.

Here’s a handy BDSM, fetish, and kink checklist to get you started thinking in the right direction.

More Sex Toys

There are many other types of sex toys, including anal sex toys, penis pumps, penis rings, and more. For a complete list of the many different types of sex toys see Cory Silverberg’s guide to sex toys on About.com.

Playing Well With Others OR By Yourself

One of the great things about sex toys is that you can have fun with your lover OR by yourself. For example, many straight women use vibrators to “meet their needs” when their man isn’t around, or instead of having regular sex with a man. That of course is not all that different from a man taking that “extra long shower”.

Where can you get your hands on some of those sex toys?

This being a new and more enlightened time, sex toys are more easily found on the nicer part of town, and in regular stores where even single women can feel completely safe shopping.

Some common varieties of sex toys can be found at your local drug store.

You can even order them online and have them shipped discretely to your home or post office box.

But those aren’t the only places. Again, it’s truly surprising is how many potential sex toys are hiding in plain sight in your very own home! See Michael Webb’s excellent guide “Sex All Around The House” for some very surprising and enlightening fun facts about the sex toys you may already own and use every day.

Wait, aren’t sex toys illegal in some areas?

Why yes, they are. Absolutely astounding in today’s day and age, isn’t it? And downright absurd that one person’s religious ideals are enforced through government sanctioned laws that everyone must follow. uhhh… Remember separation of Church and State?

Throughout the U.S., most sex toy stores – also known as “adult book stores” or “sex shops” – tend to be located in more seedy neighborhoods and industrial areas. This is largely due to the incredible (and deeply sad) amount of overlap still existing between church (whatever religion happens to be in power at the time) and government. Sure, government mandated religious preferences sound absurd in today’s day and age, but religious zealots will push their “morals” on others in the form of laws as for as long as they can possibly get away with it.

These are the same people who try to control by criminalizing many other personal activities between consenting adults, like prostitution, and even certain types of sex. Yes, it’s true… anal sex continues to be a criminal offense in some areas, though rarely prosecuted.

But, aren’t laws supposed to be in place to protect people?

What business do they have telling people what they can and can’t do in their very own bedrooms, between consenting adults? Excellent question! It’s about time every intelligent adult asked themselves that same question and we could put an end to this nonsense once and for all.

Seems The Crusades and the untold joy they’ve brought so many aren’t over just yet, but hopefully they’ll be abolished soon, along with other similarly enlightened concepts from our recent history, like witch burnings.

But as we continue to evolve and become more enlightened (and less judgmental and more accepting of our differences) as a society, we’ll see more and more sex toy and erotic lingerie stores appear in upscale residential areas.

Enough ranting…

Safety and Sex Toys

Safety is very, very important when you’re talking about sex toys, whether they’re packaged as “sex toys” or objects from around your home.

Of course it’ll be refreshing to get the Chruch and state business properly separated as advertised, so that companies like CVS and Walgreens can legally offer sex toys for their true intended purpose with proper warning and instruction labels. Is that really too much to ask?

But until then, it’s entirely up to you to read up, be extra cautions, be smart, and stay safe.

Be aware of exactly WHAT you’re putting in or on your body!

As most things that go without saying, it’s probably well worth mentioning… open your eyes and be aware of what you’re putting on or inserting into your own body. Yes, you need to know where it came from, who handled it, how safe it is, and so on.

Keep your toys to yourself

We’re taught early on to share our toys, but that doesn’t always apply to sex toys. Sure various toys can be great fun and can add some spice to your love making with your sex partner(s), but that’s where it stops. Don’t lend or otherwise share your sex toys.

This is mostly an issue of hygiene and safety. As long as you control your toys, you know where they’ve been and whether or not they’re still safe to use.

Don’t borrow other people’s toys

For the same basic reasons, don’t borrow your friend’s cool new sex toys. You don’t know where it’s been! Actually, you probably have a pretty good ideas of EXACTLY where it has been. So hold on to that thought and get your own. Seriously.

Keep your toys clean

Yes, again. It’s hard to say this one enough. Be aware of exactly what you’re doing with your toy, and wash it after every use. Even during the same play session, if you’re exploring one “area” and have an urge to introduce your Rabbit to another “area”, take the time to give him a quick bath with a good toy cleaner that is designed specifically for your toy. You’ll be glad you did.

Above all, remember to play safe and keep and open mind. Your sex life will thank you.

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These 7 tips should give you plenty of ideas to make your midnight sessions more hot, steamy and passionate, starting today…

1. Become more sensual

While most men want to ‘get the job done’ and reach the goal of orgasm, for women it’s more about the journey. Women love to reach climax as much as men do, but they also love a sensual stroke from your hand across their leg.

Believe it or not, the ears, neck, arms and hair are all really sensitive areas that love to be stimulated. Spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner and can even intensify their orgasm.

2. Try positions proven to increase pleasure

For women: The reverse missionary is identical to the traditional missionary position except that she is on top. This is probably the easiest position for a woman to climax because she can control the friction to her clitoris and/or G-spot.

For men: Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. Although you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It is great for guys because they have full control over movement and pleasure.

3. Play bedroom games

Tasteful, fun and alluring sex games are one of the best ways to intensify orgasms and the entire lovemaking experience. They’re fun, sexy and have a lot of replay value.

Maybe you’ll use a deck of cards or dice to create your own passionate play. Perhaps you’ll adapt a sport game for the bedroom. Or maybe you’ll just want to use your bodies as the props. It doesn’t matter. Simply get excited and unleash some creativity!

And even while some games only consist of familiar tips and moves, you’ll be using them in new scenarios, which actually makes them feel new.

4. Set a romantic mood

People often think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of their lovemaking is too “cliché.” Are they kidding! Your partner will LOVE YOU for this. Just imagine how happy you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special lovemaking occasion that you can cherish for years to come. Could this be so “cliché” because people enjoy it so much? Point made.

5. Give them a sexy massage

Why stop at setting the mood? Go one step further and give your partner a sensual massage that makes them feel relaxed and loved at the same time. Make it sexy, sensual, and pleasurable. Massage them naked or build up the anticipation by having them slowly undress during the massage. Then kiss, caress and slowly transition “under the sheets” where a massage of another kind can take place.

And no, you don’t need years of study to give a great massage. Just grab some candles and music, and bless your partner with an experience they’ll never forget….

6. Please your partner with more oral sex

Did you know that oral sex is a great way to strengthen your relationship? Think about it. It takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. Not to mention it’s great for men who want to relax without pressure to perform, and for women who can’t reach orgasm from only intercourse. In short, it’s an important part of foreplay.

Here are some tips for both men and women.

Ladies: Women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straightaway when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches. This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation.

Gentlemen: A mistake men often make is moving their tongue in a thrusting fashion, when stimulating the vagina and clitoris orally. Instead, they should lick it like an ice cream cone. Another great tip to keep things exciting is to write the alphabet around the clitoris with your tongue.

7. Use household items

It makes sense that to spice things up you need to do something different. The more unique the experience, the more it fires up your lovemaking. Well, just recently I’ve found one of the very BEST ways to keep things passionate and exciting. It’s by using household items.

Huh? That’s right! There are literally 100′s of household items you can play with in your house. Everything from a rolling pin for a massage, ice for a cool sensation, cards for a naughty game or sheepskin that feels soft under your skin.

By dedicating time to finding new items, you can turn ordinary lovemaking into extraordinary lovemaking for longer, and keep it that way. And while positions and techniques get old quickly, these items add a NEW LEVEL to your lovemaking that normal lovemaking just can’t do. This is the sure-fire way to make sure your lovemaking stays passionate, pleasurable, and intimate for years to come.

In fact, unlike all the other suggestions, using household items for foreplay and intercourse proves to be the most unique and powerful way to spice up lovemaking.

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