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4 Mistakes On How To Give Head To A Guy

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 21:00:50 +0000

Would you like to have a crash course on how you can master the art of fellatio? As you may already know, being good at oral sex is a skill that most women would like to develop – but it’s quite intimidating once you’re down there.

What if your teeth graze the skin of his penis while you’re giving him a blowjob? What if you accidentally suck too hard because you don’t know the right amount of pressure to apply? What if your gagging reflex is triggered?

Learning how to give head to a guy properly would normally involve mistakes – especially if you’re new at it. But don’t worry, practice makes perfect. In order for you to be a better lover, take a look first at the top 5 mistakes that most women make when going down on a man – and these are the things that you should steer clear of.

Mistake #1: Not Being Enthusiastic Enough

For both men and women, being with an unresponsive lover is a definite turn off. The same thing applies to a woman who considers giving blowjobs to be a chore.

When you’re going down on him, show him how much you love what you’re doing. Maintain eye contact, don’t be afraid to slobber a bit and make the moans and groans that you would usually make when you’re having penetrative sex.

Your enthusiasm would be a huge turn on for him and help him achieve an orgasm real quick.

Mistake #2: Not Allowing Things To Get Really Wet

It may sound distasteful for women, but most men agree that the more saliva or lubrication you use while giving him head, the better the feeling is for them. Before you move your mouth up and down his penis, wet it with your saliva.

Better yet, be a bit on the creative side and swallow a bit of warm coffee or some cold water before taking him into your mouth. The sensation of the liquid combined with the sucking motions that you will make should send him through the roof!

Mistake #3: Grazing Him With Your Teeth

Although some men would not mind feeling a bit of a graze from your teeth while receiving head, it is not a sensation that everyone enjoys. The rule of no teeth while giving blow jobs should always apply – so keep those fangs covered with your lips.

Mistake #4: Not Communicating With Him

Just like every other aspect of your sex life, it will greatly improve your ‘performance’ if you will have a talk with him about what he likes when you’re giving him head.

Be extra attentive to his moans and groans while you’re down there, take a cue from how his hands are moving on the back of your head and how he is moving his hips. By avoiding the top 4 mistakes that women make when giving head, you will be on your way towards mastering your skills at fellatio and be the best lover that you can be.

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3 Mistakes & Blunders That You Should Not Make When Learning How To Give Head To A Guy!

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 21:00:22 +0000

Do I have to swallow once he ejaculates? What if he wants me to take it all in but I can’t? What if my gag reflex takes over and find out that once I’m down there, I just can’t do it? When learning how to give head to a guy, these are just some of the dilemmas that women face.

But if you want to give your man as much pleasure as he is giving you, then you would need to do your part and learn how to go down on him. If you’re at a loss as to what you should do once you’re down there, then let’s start with the top 3 mistakes that you should not make when giving head to a guy.

Mistake #1: Treating His Equipment Like Breakable China

This is probably one of the most common mistakes that women make when learning how to give head to a guy. This could be due to the fact that when men are performing cunnilingus, women prefer them to be a bit gentle – especially when targeting the clitoris.

However, when it comes to a man’s penis, it is neither fragile nor breakable so don’t think that you should treat it and hold it like your grandmother’s fine china. Sure, it’s okay to treat it gently initially, but when things heat up later on, you need to amp up the pressure.

Mistake #2: Going Too Fast When Going Down On Him

How many times have you heard the maxim that men are such visual creatures? This is perfectly true, so why would you want to make it look like you’re in a hurry when you’re going down on him?

It’s okay to indulge in a quickie every once in a while during penetrative sex, but giving him head is not one of those instances. Take your time, look him in the eye while you’re doing it and treat him to a visual, sensual feast while you’re loving his penis.

Mistake #3: Getting Carried Away With All That Sucking

You want him to moan in pleasure – not in pain – so don’t get carried away with all that sucking! There’s definitely a wrong way to give a guy head – and sucking too hard is one of them. This is especially true if you are dealing with the most sensitive part of his penis which is the head.

The best way to do it is by taking more and more of his penis – slowly – into your mouth, and then applying a moderate suction.

Make sure to avoid these top three blunders that women make when giving a guy head, and you’ll be on your way towards mastering the art of fellatio.

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4 Mistakes That Most Women Make When Learning How To Give A Guy Head

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Thu, 21 May 2009 14:03:53 +0000

No matter how much you suck (pun intended) at going down on your man, it’s definitely the one skill that you should acquire if you want him to consider you as a keeper.

If you don’t like going down there, just consider it as a way of returning a favor. If you like all the attention that your nether regions are getting when he goes down on you – just imagine how doubly pleasurable it will be for him if you’re the one who will voluntary go down on her knees to pleasure your man.

Now, what are the top mistakes that most women make when learning how to give a guy head? Read on to find out.

Mistake #1: Considering Giving Head To Be A Chore

Again, it all boils down to your attitude once you go down there. Don’t expect him to come after a few minutes of your playing with his member without even the least bit of enthusiasm.

How would you like it if he went down on you and you feel as if he spent the obligatory couple of minutes licking your clitoris without really meaning it? Remember that men are such visual creatures – and they need to see that once you go down on him to give him head, you don’t consider it to be a chore.

Mistake #2: Thinking That All You Need To Use Is Your Tongue

Although there are men who love having their penises licked like a lollipop every once in a while, it should not be the be-all and end-all of your oral skills.

Giving a guy head involves using your tongue, your clipped fingernails, no teeth, and a combination of strokes, a few jerks and some gentle tugging motion that will literally send him to seventh heaven with your oral ministrations.

Mistake #3: Totally Ignoring His Family Jewels

This is perhaps one of the most common mistakes that women make when learning how to give a guy head. Although it is good to focus all your attentions on the penis itself when you’re giving him a blow job, you should not forget that men love having their balls tugged, licked and played with.

Mistake #4: Not Giving Yourself A Chance To Learn How To Deepthroat

Being able to take it all in is like the Holy Grail of giving a man the ultimate oral pleasure – much like his being able to give you a G-spot orgasm. Although this isn’t a necessity every time you are giving your guy head, it is a handy skill to have if you want to be the kind of lover that he won’t be able to forget anytime soon.

By avoiding these top mistakes that women make when giving a guy head, you can be the ultimate lover that you can be and give your man a mind blowing time in bed, both literally and figuratively.

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3 Mistakes That Most Women Make When Brushing Up On Their Skills On How To Give A Hand Job

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Sat, 09 May 2009 22:24:55 +0000

Whether it’s the cramps, the fact that you feel unattractive because you’re still trying to lose the baby weight, you’re PMS’ing or you just plain are not in the mood, there will come a time when you’ll say no to your man’s request to have sex.

If you don’t feel like it, why deny him the pleasure of experiencing sexual relief? If you don’t want to tangle the sheets with him through penetrative sex, you have a perfectly suitable pair of hands to help him relieve the ache.

Besides, even if you are not in the mood, learning how to give a hand job is an essential skill that every woman should learn if she wants to be great in bed. Whether it’s the main event or part of your foreplay, there are a few mistakes that a lot of women make when it comes to giving men hand jobs.

Read on to find out what blunders in bed you should not commit when giving him some ‘manual’ love.

Mistake #1: Looking Bored While Doing It

Remember that men are visual creatures. If your goal is to get him to have an orgasm through a hand job, make sure that you are feeling it as well. Despite the fact that it will only be your hands which will do the participating in the major event, don’t look bored while doing it.

Watch how aroused he is getting with your hand’s ministrations. Who knows, you might get aroused by the act of giving him a hand job that you may want to join in the fun later on.

Mistake #2: Not Being Creative Enough On Where To Do It

If you want to be the girlfriend that your man will never forget, you should learn how to surprise him by being game in giving him hand jobs in unusual places. The risk of being caught while giving him a hand job while in a semi-public place will add to the thrill, and will definitely amp up the level of sexual excitement for him.

Mistake #3: Focusing All Your Attention To The Shaft

Surprisingly enough, a man’s penis has several sensitive areas that you should not ignore while giving him a hand job. Make sure that you will pay equal attention to his balls, the scrotum, the head of the shaft, the glans and the corona.

Be sensitive to his responses and if you’re both game, you can watch him masturbate himself beforehand. This can be extremely arousing for both of you, and it will give you an idea about the strokes and pace that he likes – tricks that you can use to help him reach an orgasm the next time that you give him a hand job.
Resource box: Remember that sex involves more than just penetration. There are a lot of pleasures that you both can enjoy in between the act itself, and learning how to give him a hand job is one of them.

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How To Give A Guy Head: Be A Diva In Bed & Give Him A Mind-Blowing Orgasm Using Your Mouth!

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Fri, 08 May 2009 01:13:25 +0000

Ask any man what type of sexual favor it is that they would like to receive from a woman and the one answer that you would get is: getting a blowjob. Whether you call it giving head, going down on him or performing fellatio – it all boils down to one thing – the fact that you should sharpen your oral techniques if you want to be the best lover that you can be.

As such, it pays to learn exactly how to give a guy head so that you can give him an orgasm that he is not bound to forget anytime soon. Read on to find out the top steps that you need to follow when giving a man a blow job.

Step 1: Be Really In The Moment

One of the most common mistakes that women who don’t like giving blowjobs is treating it like a chore. If you’re going down on him, look as if you really mean it and learn to love what you’re doing down there.
Remember that if you are just going through the motions, your guy will definitely know it. And the rule that having a bad blowjob is better than not getting one at all? It’s absolutely not true.

Step 2: Tease The Rest Of His Body First Before Getting Down On Your Knees

If you’re always complaining about men not spending enough time during foreplay, it will be the same thing for him if you head straight to his penis when you’re giving him head. If you’re in bed, try to tease his nipples, and nibble your way down south.

The extra sensations will make him anticipate – and appreciate – your mouth, tongue and fingers more once they already reached their target.

Step 3: Start With The Oral Action

Once you’re already down there, close your mouth around the head of his penis and feel it grow hard – if it’s not hard already – in your mouth. Flick your tongue over the head of the penis, that sensitive underside of the shaft and use the flat of your tongue to explore his most sensitive areas.

Step 4: Keep The Pace Going

Make sure to combine the sensations from your mouth, your tongue and your fingers. Use your fingernails to handle his balls – fondle, kiss, suck and lightly play with them – he’ll surely appreciate it.

Keep the pace going and be sensitive to his moans and groans. There’s really no step-by-step manual of what you need to do once you’re down there, just do what feels right and what you think will give him the most intense of pleasures until he reaches that mind blowing orgasm.

Tips

If you want to up the ante in learning how to give your guy head, you can try to take all of him deep in your throat by lowering your mouth over his penis. It may be tricky, but it’s something that can be done if you ‘practice’ on him enough.

Warnings

If you don’t like the taste of semen, get your mouth out of his penis just before he climaxes and use your hands to pump him instead.

Whatever you do down there, don’t use your teeth or your long nails to pleasure him – otherwise you’ll be risking him pain, if not direct injury.

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5 Mistakes That Most Women Make When Experimenting With How To Give A Blowjob

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Wed, 06 May 2009 23:53:36 +0000

Would you like to be a master in the art of fellatio and send him through the roof with a mind-blowing orgasm? If you do, then this is the best time to brush up on your oral sex skills.

What makes oral sex satisfying for men as it is for women is that the visual treat of seeing you worship his penis once you get down on your knees is extremely arousing. So if you want to know how to give a blowjob, you should first learn about the top 5 mistakes that you should stay away from.

Mistake #1: Having A Limp Grip

Remember that a good blowjob involves a combination of using your mouth, tongue and hands to send him over the edge. Once you take him into your mouth, you can use your fingers to stroke the rest of the shaft – and make sure to use a firm instead of a lax grip for this.

Mistake #2: Not Taking A Clue From His Body Language

Once you get down on your knees, make sure to be extra attentive to his moans, groans, the way that he thrusts his hips and how he holds your head against his groin. This will give you a clue on what motion he likes best – and to make sure that you’re not accidentally grazing him with your teeth, learn to distinguish between the moans of pleasure and the groans of pain that he’s making.

Mistake #3: Not Being Familiar With His Family Jewels

Don’t treat his penis like breakable china, but don’t ignore the family jewels, either. These are probably two of the best rules that you can follow if you want to give him an out-of-this-world blowjob.

Mistake #4: Not Showing Him How Much You Like Giving Him Head

Men are visual creatures, and no sight is more arousing than you worshipping his penis from down there. When giving him a blowjob, make sure to show him how much you like giving him head by making eye contact and letting him hear your own moans and groans of arousal.

Mistake #5: Not Using All Tools At Your Disposal

A good blowjob involves using your hands and not just your mouth to get him off – so make sure to combine a stroking and sucking motion when going down on him.

Steering clear of the top 5 mistakes that women make when learning how to give a blowjob is one of the best things that you can do so that you can sharpen your oral sex techniques.

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How to Give a Blowjob: 3 Steps that You can Follow to Give Him an Earth Shattering Orgasm Using Your Mouth & Hands!

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Wed, 06 May 2009 00:59:23 +0000

When it comes to the aspect of giving a man sexual pleasure, learning how to give head is probably the ultimate skill that you can attain. Nothing turns on a man more than the sight of a woman going down on her knees and worshipping his penis with his point of view.

As such, it would definitely be an improvement with your sexual skills as a lover if you know how to send him to an earth shattering orgasm using your mouth and hands. Read on to find out exactly how to give a blowjob to a man – and turn him into your willing slave!

Step 1: Use Your Hands & Mouth To Heat Things Up

This is probably the equivalent of a man indulging in some foreplay before getting it on with you in the sack. If you want to start heating things up, stroke his body parts and tease them with kisses, licks and love bites.

Begin with his chest, neck, abs and work your way down south. Once you reach that area below the belt, try to tease him first by staying away from his inner thighs and just zeroing in on your target when he least expects it.

Step 2: Use Your Tongue To Get Things Going

By now, he should already be anticipating the sensation of having your mouth on his penis. Once you finally give it to him, start by making a licking motion with the flat of your tongue on the head of his penis. Tease the underside of the shaft with little flicks and forays, before taking him slowly into your mouth.

Step 3: Get Down On It

As you take his penis into your mouth, you should use a combination of hand and mouth techniques to send him over the edge. Whatever part of the shaft you cannot take into your mouth, use your hands to create an up and down motion which is in harmony with how you are sucking on him. This will give him a sensation that you are actually taking his entire shaft into your mouth.

Don’t forget to tease his balls – don’t squeeze, just rub them gently against his shaft. Also, use a combination of licking, flicking and hand motions to send him to a climax.

When giving a man a blowjob, keep in mind that there’s no one set of rules to follow – just use his body language as a guide to know when he’s about to come – and intensify things from there.
Tips

Men are visual creatures, so treat him to that oh-so-arousing sight of you on your knees, worshipping his penis – by looking directly into his eyes while giving him a blowjob.

Warnings

Cover your teeth with your lips – nothing feels worse for a man than to have your teeth grazing the skin of his shaft – so closely guard those fangs.

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3 Mistakes You Should Steer Clear Of When Learning How To Give A Blowjob

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Tue, 05 May 2009 04:15:23 +0000

If you are trying to brush up on your oral sex skills, the first thing that you need to learn about is the worst mistakes that you can ever make. Although you might think that any blowjob is better than not receiving one at all – most men would wish that you to be skilled at it.

They would most definitely prefer not getting a blowjob at all rather than receiving a bad one – especially if you are a ‘teeth-grazer’ or if you treat a penis like it’s your grandmother’s fine china!

So if you do want to better your skills in bed and learn how to give a BJ or a blowjob, here is a list of the top three mistakes that you should steer clear of:

Mistake #1: Not Lending Him A Helping Hand

Perhaps one of the most common mistakes that women make when learning how to give a BJ is not using their hands enough. Remember that just like your vagina, there are secret crevices, curves and veins around his shaft and below his balls which require attention.

In order for you to explore these zones and give him some oral loving that he is not bound to forget anytime soon, make sure to lend him a helping hand. Move your hands up and down his shaft within the area which is not covered by your mouth. The motion of your hands and lips should be one fluid movement – which makes him feel as if you are taking it all in.

Mistake #2: Giving Him The Death Grip

There’s a thin line between sucking firmly, and gripping him with your mouth as if you are trying to strangle a live chicken. If you don’t want to give him the death grip – either using your mouth of your hands – make sure to always listen to his moans and groans.

If the sounds that he is making are moans of pleasure rather than groans of pain – then you are on the right track.

Mistake #3: Ignoring His Balls

You might hear how some men refer to their genitalia as his ‘package’ – and this is because the shaft of his penis should not be separated from their cousins – which are his balls.

While going down on him, make sure that you are well acquainted with his balls. Use your free hand to caress his balls – try not to squeeze too hard – tickle, tease them and do whatever it is that you want to do, just don’t ignore them!

By avoiding the top three mistakes that women make when learning how to give a BJ, you will be on your way towards mastering the art of giving head.

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5 Tips To Please Your Man In Bed

Michael Webb — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 14:50:22 +0000

Want to give your man a thrilling experience like never before? Here are 5 really simple ways to make your lovemaking hotter, steamier and more passionate, starting tonight!

1. The best position for his enjoyment

Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. While you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It’s great for guys because it gives them full control.

This is one of the best positions for hitting her G-spot and allows him to fondle your breasts, stomach, clitoris, back, neck and other sensual spots. The main benefit for your man is that he’ll be able to get incredibly deep penetration (above-average guys need to be careful as deep thrusts might hit her cervix, which can be quite painful).

2. Find your man’s “hidden” zones

Yes, men love to be touched sensually too. I call these “hidden” zones because many people don’t realize, or forget, that these areas of the body LOVE attention.

While many of these zones are obvious, like the lips, groin, and inner thighs, there are also areas that, when stroked, caressed and kissed, can drive your partner wild and even intensify their orgasm.

Believe it or not, the ears, neck, arms, chest and scalp are all really sensitive areas that love to be stimulated. Spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner.

3. Set a romantic mood

Think men aren’t romantic or wouldn’t appreciate it? Think again! Everyone loves a thoughtful and kind gesture. Of course you might think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of your lovemaking is a little too “cliché.” But he’ll think differently!

Your partner will LOVE YOU for this. Just imagine how happy you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special lovemaking occasion that you can cherish for years to come. Could this be so “cliché” because people enjoy it so much? Point made.

4. Give him a hand job

When beginning a genital massage, start with lighter, irregular strokes – like teasing. As you get further and further into it, stick with two or three main strokes that your partner really enjoys.

Developing a good rhythm that your partner can get into is the key to bringing your partner to orgasm with a genital massage.

5. Please your man with more oral sex

If I had to give you one piece of advice to make your lovemaking perfect, it would be: learn the art of fellatio. It’s true, all men love it. It feels great and actually takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. In short, it’s an important part of lovemaking and is often the main event.

Problem is, women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straightaway when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches.

This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation. Make sure you use different techniques and your tongue, as well.

So there you have it. Five great ways to make your man more satisfied in the bedroom. While they’re all great, I would recommend putting most of your energy and time into learning fellatio, simply because men crave it so much and the loving smile and kisses you’ll probably get in return are definitely worth it.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of Blow by Blow: The Complete Guide to Fellatio. Unfortunately, most women leave men frustrated and disappointed after fellatio.

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