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Kissing For The First Time – What To Expect

Chase Christopher — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 17:00:36 +0000

Kissing someone you’ve never been with can be kind of nerve wracking. Here’s what to think about when kissing for the first (but hopefully not last) time.

The first kiss can nerve racking for any relationship. If you have been out with a girl a couple of times, you might be wondering when you should go into for the kiss. Kissing has the ability to overshadow the entire relationship if it’s not done properly the first time. Most guys do not understand how important the first kiss for a woman. That first kiss will determine whether or not she wants to kiss you again so make sure that you’re doing it properly and in the right setting. If you’re completely clueless about when to go in for the first kiss, here a quick guide to get you through to the next round.

Pay Attention To Your Hygiene

Although this should be fairly common knowledge, some guys do not learn. A great trick for any dinner date is to have a pre-pasted toothbrush. These come with the toothpaste embedded on the bristles. It’s packaged in plastic and can fit in any suit jacket or pants pocket. Excuse yourself at the end of the dinner and go to the bathroom. Open the packaged toothbrush and brush your teeth. This will get all of the food out of your mouth. These toothbrushes are disposable so chuck it when you’re done. Even though you will have fresh breath, pop a mint or some gum. Having a rank mouth is not the best route to go for when kissing. More than likely, she’s be doing the same thing in the ladies room.

Make Sure You Have Privacy

Privacy is one of the biggest factors in the first kiss. Yes, we’ve all seen it in the movies: that big first kiss on the street after a great date. Life isn’t a movie. There are a few exceptions to the rule. The street is one of them. After the date, you can kiss her for the first time in the street, but make sure that it’s an intimate setting. If people are walking by you every five seconds and it’s noisy, kissing is not encouraged. Wait until you have her in a more intimate location before you go in for the kiss. Bars, clubs and other public places are not recommended.

Know When To Concede

There isn’t always going to be a full moon in the background. There isn’t always going to be the romance. Know when you shouldn’t go in for the kiss. The right moment is the right moment and you will know. If she wants to kiss you, she’s going to make it pretty apparent. If she doesn’t want to kiss you, she’s also going to make it pretty apparent. Trying to kiss her when she’s obviously not into could ruin the entire night or the budding relationship. Know when to concede and hope for the best on the next date.

Be Relaxed

One of the biggest turnoffs is being nervous or fidgety when you are kissing for the first time. Knowing what to do with your hands can make this a little easier. If she wants you to kiss her, put your hands on her hips and guide her body into you. If you are feeling a little daring, put your hands on her neck. Don’t choke her, but keep your hands a little firm. Brush her hair out of her face if you’re putting your hands on her neck. If you’re keeping your hands on her waist, bring them the small of her back as you’re kissing to pull her in closer.

Don’t Get Too Touchy

A lot of guys will use the first kiss as a way to get that first touch of the ass or breasts. Cease all inclinations of getting anything other than the kiss. Kissing is about kissing, nothing else. Keep your hands steady while you’re kissing. If she wants you to feel more, she’ll let you know.

Go Slow

Kissing is about passion. Passion is about taking your time. Taking your time means that you need to be slow. Don’t stab her with your face. Go slow and make sure that you’re not rushing anything. Move your lips slowly as you kiss her. If you’re rubbing her back while kissing, make sure that your hands are moving slowly. Go at half the pace that you would normally go. This can be intoxicating to a woman.

The first kiss can be a very memorable experience with the right girl. But if you don’t wait or respect her privacy, you could be ruining any possibility of a future. Following these guidelines will help at bat for the next date and any date after.

What Your Kiss Says About You

Serena Paige — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 00:00:17 +0000

Kissing is as unique as your fingerprint. What do your techniques reveal about YOUR personality?

Kissing is a part of every relationship. But what does your kiss really say about you? You can tell a lot about somebody by the way that they do it. What you do with your hands, if you keep your eyes open and how long you kiss your partner are all tells of your personality. When you are kissing your partner, you should be aware of how you come across. If you have no idea what it says about you, read on. Here is a guide on how kissing can reflect your personality.

Eyes

Do you kiss with your eyes open? Most people like to close their eyes when they are kissing. A simple peck on the lips with your boyfriend could be the exception. Pecks are often obligatory when leaving a situation or entering the home after a day of hard work. However, if you’re leaving your eyes open during sex or while you’re kissing for more than 5 seconds you could have trust issues. Kissing puts you into a vulnerable position. When you are kissing and you close your eyes, you are putting trust into your partner and the motions you are both making. If your boyfriend sees that your eyes are open during your kissing, they could think that you’re uncomfortable.

Hands

Your hands are an essential part of kissing. Although your lips do most of the work, your hands are a detail that cannot be ignored. If you keep your hands to yourself, you might come off as distant. If you put your hands on your boyfriend or husband’s waist, you probably come off as happy with the relationship. If you put your hands on his face, you display passion. Every guy wants their girlfriend or wife to be passionate about their relationship. When you don’t use your hands during kissing, you could come off as stale and uninterested. Use your hands the next time you are kissing your partner and you might find them to be more receptive.

Kissing Length

The length of your kiss is another aspect that can tell a lot about you. If you are just getting home or heading out for the day, a peck can be appropriate. If you’re lying in bed trying to get something going, a couple of seconds can show distance. When you are kissing your partner before intercourse, it should be longer than 10 seconds. Your boyfriend isn’t only interested in your lips, but kissing shows that you are passionate about a physical relationship with him. When you only do it for a couple of seconds before pulling away, he might think that he’s a bad kisser or that he has a rank mouth.

Distance

When you are kissing your boyfriend or husband, the distance between your two bodies can say a lot about you. This distance can actually show distance in the relationship. If you hug each other while you kiss, then you probably have great physical compatibility. You should be touching each others bodies when you do to show compliance. This means that you feel comfortable being close. If there is distance in the kiss, you might not be comfortable in the relationship. Your part will pick up on this wonder why your kissing feels like you’re just going through the motions.

Afterwards

The moments after a kiss can also say a lot about you. When you are done kissing, do you immediately turn away? Do you give him one more peck on the lips before you go about your business? Or do you look into his eyes as you pull away slowly? All of these are typical of kissing, but only one of them can show that you’re not comfortable with intimacy. Pulling away immediately after the kiss is a sign that you don’t feel comfortable enough with your partner to continue engaging in the act. He will definitely pick up on this wonder what the problem is. Be aware of this while you’re kissing and think about it after you have finished.

Kissing is a great way to show how much you love your guy. But when it shows your vulnerabilities or that you’re not happy with the relationship, your boyfriend or husband will start to wonder what needs improvement. If you really are happy with the relationship, be aware of the potential hazards that your kissing can impose. Make a conscious effort to avoid hazardous kissing movements before, during and after the kiss so you aren’t confusing your partner.

How To Be A Great Kisser

Serena Paige — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 17:00:21 +0000

The kiss is an art form that a lot of couples assume isn’t necessary – but it is for amazing sex! Learn how to give the best lip service your partner’s ever had.

A kiss tends to be an oversight for some men. We want to get to the main event and rush the foreplay. The problem with this is that women like kissing just as much as sex. When you’re a bad kisser, women instantly shut down. If you’re wondering why you’re not going on more second and third dates, it could be because you’re a bad kisser. Being great at kissing can get you second and third dates based on this fact alone. So if you’re tired of getting the run-around from women and you’re willing to put a little practice into kissing, you can start out with these suggestions.

Lips

Obliviously it goes without saying that your lips are the most important part of kissing. However, a lot of guys forgo taking care of them before they go on a date. During the fall and winter months, lips can be bombarded by colder weather. Chapped and cracked lips are not sexy. Always carry lip balm with you to cut down on having chapped and cracked lips. Nobody wants to start kissing you when your lip could split and start bleeding. Applying lip balm to your lips once every hour will have them repaired in about a day.

Mirroring

Have you ever watched a couple kissing each other? When you watch a couple kiss, they are usually mirroring each other’s actions. When a guy puts his arms around the girl’s waist, she puts her arms around his waist. When the guy turns to the left to kiss his girlfriend, she turns to the left. Mirroring is compliance. This only occurs when the girl is comfortable with the guy. If she is not comfortable while kissing you, you should be able to feel it.

Escalation

Have you ever seen a guy go in for that kiss with too much momentum? This can be one of the most cringe-worth moments in a guy’s life. Kissing should be able escalation. You want to start slow. Barely touch her lips with you own and then escalate the situation further by kissing a little stronger every 5-6 seconds. When you start out too fast, you ruin the moment. Starting out slow is essential for getting her in the right mood.

Don’t Be Too Stiff

If you’re too stiff while you’re kissing, she will probably not be into it. Locked knees, hands gripping her waist like Stallone in Cliffhanger and a stiff neck are not what you want. Be loose, but firm. Hold her while you’re kissing, but don’t pull her into you so she can’t breath. You want to have mobility to distribute your weight while kissing. Moving your head and rocking back and forth are staples of good kissing. If you’re too stiff she won’t be able to mirror your movements. Remember that you’re leading during the kiss and she is supposed to be mirroring you. It shouldn’t be the other way around.

The Tongue

The tongue is another part of kissing that can be confusing. Yes, using your tongue is a lot of fun, but you shouldn’t be Reptile from Mortal Kombat. Keep that thing in your mouth until it’s time to use it. Don’t immediately shove your tongue into her mouth. This goes back to escalation. You want to ease into using your tongue. When implementing the tongue into kissing you want to gauge the situation based on her reciprocation. If you’re using your tongue and she’s not using it back, you might want to hold off until she feels more comfortable.

Hands

Your hands are a good way to pull the girl in closer and turn it on fairly quickly. If you’re hands are roaming around her body or her breasts, she could get uncomfortable. This also comes back to mirroring. When you start kissing, feel free to move your hands around her back and bring them up to her neck or cheeks. If she starts to pull back or she stops you from moving your hands around her, stop moving them immediately. She might be comfortable kissing her, but not comfortable with mauling her with your hands.

Finishing

Eventually the kissing will stop. When you are stopping you don’t want it to come to a grinding halt. Taper off from the kissing to tease her and leave her wanting more. If you stop immediately you will ruin the whole kiss. Pull your lips away slowly and take a second or two to allow the air to clear. You won’t want to pull away and then just start talking or walk away. Finish strong!

10 Reasons You’re A Bad Kisser

Serena Paige — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 23:00:12 +0000

Kiss someone the right way, and it is one of the most erotic actions that you can take with someone. A kiss can be something as little as a peck or as big as a make out session. But how do you know if you’re a bad kisser? Being a bad kisser is something that a lot of girls are, but few know. If you’re a bad kisser, you can recover with a little practice. Knowing a generalization of what your partner will like can help you on your way back to the light. Bad kissing can be just as awful as bad sex, so keep on your toes and apply the following information to your regiment.

1. You’re A Robot

Guys want sex. I don’t think this a huge revelation, but some women tend to forgo kissing and go straight for the ”you know what.” When you take your time and let emotion out, the guy can anticipate what is coming next. Being a robot and just going through the motions is never good. Do your part and put a little effort into your kissing. Passion can be just as important as your technique.

2. You’re A Too Much Tongue Gal

Your tongue can be a huge turn on when kissing, but if you use it too much he might feel like you’re mining for coal. Use your tongue to play with his but don’t give him a root canal. If you feel him closing his mouth and using his lips more, you know that you’re using too much tongue. Lay off the tongue and use it about half as much.

3. You’re Too Handsy

Your hands can wander while you are kissing, but kissing should more of a symphony than a bomb. You want to build up to the main event, not give it away instantly. If you do not use your hands to escalate the situation, you could be seen as frigid or a prude.

4. You’re A Stabber

Have you ever seen those discovery channel movies where the cobra snaps at a rat? This is not the motion that you want to do with your tongue. If you are essentially stabbing your victim with your tongue, you need to cut it out. This can be annoying and most likely he’s closed his mouth while you are trying to invade him. Go slowly and you will see much better results.

5. You’re A St. Bernard

Remember in Beethoven when that dog shook his slobber all over the walls? If your guy is lying in bed with raingear and galoshes, you can be sure that you use too much spit when you kiss. Salivating is a natural occurrence when you are kissing, but too much of it can be disgusting. Hold back and take a half second to swallow before you move back in. You and your guy will happy that you did.

6. You’re Gross

Yes, you might be gross. Do you take the necessary steps to ensure that you have soft lips and good breath? If not, you’re mouth is probably the last thing on his mind. Carry mints and dental floss with you in your handbag to ensure that you have good breath and nothing in your teeth before you start kissing.

7. You’re A Windmill

When you kiss, you should always be aware of too much circular motion that you’re giving. Save this for oral sex. When you are kissing, you should never act like a windmill. In all honesty, there is no counter attack for this move. The guy will not know what to do and he could easily freeze up.

8. You’re A Woodpecker

A peck on the lips or the cheek is great if you’re kissing your uncle, but you shouldn’t be doing this with a significant other. Pecking during a make out session can easily turn the guy off. There is nothing passionate or sexual about continuously pecking at his face.

9. You’re A Sucker

Do you like to suck on the guy’s tongue or lips? Some guys are really into this, while others are not. If you are sucking on a guys tongue lips, ease into it. No guy wants to be completely mauled right off the bat even if they are into it. Gauge his interest by easing into and see how it goes.

10. You’re A Biter

Biting a the lip is a great way to spice things up, but if you do it too hard you might draw a little blood. Biting a little can be really hot, but you should do it intermittently. Don’t make biting a something that you do all the time. Do it every 10-15 seconds to keep him wanting more.

Your Man’s Top 3 Secret Erogenous Zones REVEALED!

Rochelle Stavi — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 23:00:12 +0000

Foreplay is just as important for a guy as it is a girl. Here are your guy’s three most hidden – yet powerful – hot spots! Don’t miss THESE during foreplay!

The Usual Erogenous Zones

We are all familiar with the usual erogenous zones that men have: lips, nipples, and penis. When you give your man a juicy kiss, you start to get his heart racing and his blood pumping. When you lick his nipples and suck on them, you start to get him hard and he begins wanting you more and more. When you stroke and rub his penis, that’s how you get him to climax and how you put a cherry on top of the evening. Even though these 3 spots on his body feel good when you touch them, they aren’t the only spots on his body that he wants stimulated.

Men are more in depth than we give them credit for and there are three top secret erogenous zones on his body that you probably have never explored before. You are missing out on giving your man some amazing foreplay, anticipation, and pleasure. If you don’t want to miss out on this for another moment, it’s time you learned just where to touch him and when to touch him.

His Back

Probably the biggest hot spot on his body that gets left untouched, a man’s back is jam packed with so many nerve endings that it is just begging to be touched. The beauty of this hot spot is that it is so versatile. You can both be rough with him and scratch his back or you can get a little gentler and give him soft kisses. His back can be stimulated via a massage and used as a tool in foreplay to get him aroused or you can dig your claws into his back when he is on top of you during sex.

No matter what form of stimulation you choose to use on him, just make sure that you are doing something to his back and touching it all over. Don’t just focus on his shoulders too. Make sure that you rub him all over and that you especially hit the most sensitive spot, that being the small of his back. You know how good it feels when your man’s lips trace along the small of your back so why not give him the same satisfaction as well? Of course it may feel a little less intense for him but it will be a touch and a feeling that lingers for a while to come.

His Thighs

This is one hot spot on his body that you do not want to miss but chances are you are always overlooking it. When we think about pleasing a man, we think about giving him rough stimulation and manhandling him. Naturally, men are built tough so when we do give them stimulation, it is usually a little rougher than usual. However, this mindset shouldn’t always be the case. There are spots on his body that he wants to be touched just like how you want to be touched there. His thighs are one of those spots that regularly gets ignored and that is because thighs have a feminine association. When we think of thighs being stimulated, we think of how men lick and bite a woman’s thighs before he goes down on her. Thighs are often thought of being only pleasurable when stimulated for women but you’d be surprised.

The next time you and your man are getting down and dirty, trace your nails down his thighs or better yet, dig your claws right into them. Since his thighs are very sensitive, you have to be a little rough with them or else you are going to make him laugh rather than get him hard. This may be a ticklish spot on his body but with your hands so close to his penis but yet so far away, he is going to love the anticipation that comes with you rubbing his thighs and teasing him.

His Buttocks

Now, let’s not get ahead of ourselves here. There is a big difference between his buttocks and his anus. We are not talking about rimming or fingering him or anything invasive. That is a whole different realm of stimulation and one that takes some serious conversation. Rather, when talking about his buttocks as being an erogenous zone, we are only focusing on the cheeks. Spanking a man, scratching his cheeks or even rubbing them are all forms of stimulation that really get him hot.

Most men don’t like it when women get too close to their behinds but if you do it in the right way, it is a massive erogenous zone that he probably never even knew he had. The best way to touch his buttocks to get him hot and heavy is to spank him during sex. While he is on top of you, this is a prime opportunity for you to really give it to him. You can even place your hands on his buttocks and drive him into you even more. This will really turn his crank. You can scratch at his buttocks and spank him to really up the ante.

There are plenty of other erogenous zones on your man’s body that are craving some stimulation so open your mind and your eyes and really get down to exploring all of the possibilities you never even knew existed.

How To Be AMAZING In Bed!

Lloyd Lester — Fri, 25 Nov 2011 23:00:37 +0000

Sex tips are definitely a must have if you want to be an excellent lover. Arm yourself with these incredible sex tips and be the best your partner ever had!

Everyone loves to have great sex. And contrary to conventional wisdom, women love sex as much as guys do, if not more! But what if you feel that your sex life has turned somewhat dull and dreary and needs a little “oomph”? Don’t sweat it! There is plenty you can do to make ordinary sexual experiences into toe-curling erotic adventures in between the sheets. These three sensuous tips, for example, are a great start to give her the best sex of her life!

Set The Scene Right

One of the best sex tips is to make sure you have the right mood set in the area you’re going to be in. Ambience plays a great deal in making sex awesome. Pay attention to the sights and sounds. Try giving your bedroom a sultry, sexy backdrop by introducing colored light bulbs. Did you know that purple color can intensify a woman’s orgasm? It is a surefire way to amplify her erotic energy really fast. Why not spin some romantic, sensual music to get her in the mood too? Women love some moments of intimacy before getting into sex. Sip on a glass of wine and introduce some CD that is hot and delectable to turn up her passion. If you have a fireplace, cuddle up together and seek out her pleasure spots.

Unleash The Art Of Erotic Kissing

Women can’t seem to get enough of kissing from their loved ones. Kissing is super important in an intimate relationship and it surprises me why so many guys gloss over this crucial moment of intimacy. If you want to sizzle up your sex life, try some sexy kissing tricks to get her temperatures moving fast. For instance, suck on an ice cube or sip on a cold drink just before you kiss her. She will get hot really fast! Or consume some foods such as strawberries or honey to introduce some tantalizing sweetness in your mouth when you kiss. And don’t forget to kiss her even when you are making love!

Bring On The Sex Furniture!

Beds are dull and boring. Sex furniture is a great way to spice up the whole sexual experience. These are usually very discreet and blend in really well with the rest of your home decor. Unlike sex toys, both you and your partner can enjoy using sex furniture together. These allow you to experiment with intercourse positions that you don’t usually get with flat surfaces such as like beds or mattresses. With these, you can fit your bodies perfectly together and ensure that her clitoris and G-spot are properly stimulated during sex.

Oral Sex: Female Erogenous Zones 101

Michael Webb — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 14:00:57 +0000

Oral sex is definitely something you want to include in your sex routine if you want your girl to have an orgasm. Don’t skip these hot spots though!

Don’t Speed Through The Kissing!

Remember making out as a teenager or college student? Remember how you’d spend so much time kissing your partner, kissing her neck and (possibly) touching her breasts through her shirt? You spent so much time on the non-sexual parts because, well, you weren’t allowed to touch down there yet. Now that we’re older and we are allowed to touch “down there,” we always cut to the chase.

If you want to gear your partner up for an extra-special and pleasurable session of oral sex, start by kissing her like you were both teenagers again. You can only touch “down there” if she lets you! Like we said before, depending on the occasion, you can speed this up a bit if you or your partner are not inclined to spend an hour making out, but at least give her a little bit to get her warmed up.

How To Kiss The Right Way

Kiss her, but don’t kiss her while thinking about what body part you’re going to lick next in four seconds. Kiss her while thinking about kissing her. Kiss her as though you were kissing her vulva and give her a preview of what she will feel tonight. Let her imagine those lips on her vulva – deep kissing like this will help you both get into the right frame of mind. Remember not to be too sloppy or too uptight. A little tongue will be nice, but let your lips do all the work.

Kiss Your Girl’s Neck

Not surprisingly, the neck is a very erogenous zone. Be careful not to kiss her too lightly or she will get tickled, but perhaps on this night, a little tickling might be nice. Also remember not to get too rough with her. Find a nice balance in between and stay for a few minutes. While in the neck area, you can also drift up to the earlobe and whisper to her how excited you are about what’s to come, or how tonight is just for her.

Put Your Hands And Mouth On Your Lover’s Breasts

This is most men’s favorite part, but be careful not to dive right onto the nipples – it can be almost as detrimental as going straight for the clitoris. If she is wearing her shirt still, make an effort to caress her lightly with both your hands and mouth through her blouse. She will feel the light touch and become aroused, but she will not be shocked with the more intense touch that will come when her blouse has been taken off. Speaking of, make a big deal about taking off her blouse. Do it slowly and deliberately. Take off her bra in the same manner, and give her the attention you would give her if you were seeing her naked breasts for the first time.

When caressing her with your hands, make sure not to pinch her nipples too hard – you can roll them between your thumb and forefinger like you would roll a cigarette, but don’t press down or pinch. When beginning to lick the breasts, again, don’t go directly for the nipple. Lick all around her breasts for several minutes, working your way down. Once your mouth is on the nipple, you can swirl your tongue around it like you were licking an ice cream cone. This feels divine!

Another technique is to flick the nipple with your tongue. Spend lots of time (unless your partner is nudging you downwards!) caressing and licking her breasts and nipples – studies show that there is a direct link between the breasts and the clitoris. Also, once you do begin cunnilingus, don’t forget about her breasts! Many women enjoy their nipples being caressed while their vulva is being licked.

Don’t Miss The Stomach/Belly Button

This can be a very erogenous zone, but it usually is not. Light kisses work best here, because there needs to be a transition between the top half of the body and the lower half. Extreme licking in this area may turn a woman off, but feel free to use your tongue a little bit – but again, light kisses work best in the stomach area. Don’t stay too long in this zone because it is not directly giving her pleasure. Waiting too long in between the pleasurable zone of her breasts and the actual cunnilingus may cause her to become frustrated.

Kiss Her Inner Thighs

This is a good place to go before jumping right into the vulva. If your partner is self conscious about her inner thighs, don’t spend long here, but you want her to feel the warm wetness of your mouth and your heated breath before putting your lips on her vulva. This will get her anticipating your tongue even more! Be careful of ticklish thighs, however, and avoid nibbling if your partner is ticklish. If she likes it, however, nibble away!

If you want to tease her even more, alternate between licking her vulva a little bit and staying in between her inner thighs. Again, be aware that too long in between pleasurable activities (or in this case, too long before finally giving her vulva pleasure) may frustrate her and turn her off. If you pay attention to her body language, you will know when she is ready for you to begin cunnilingus.

7 Foreplay Tips That Will Bring Your Lover To The Edge

Kaylen Jackson — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 14:00:42 +0000

Foreplay can often be more satisfying than the sex itself, because it’s the anticipation that is sweeter than relief. These tricks will drive your partner wild!

Slow, Deep Kissing

No, not the slobbery kind. Making out is a heavily underrated foreplay technique, because it is usually seen as what people do when they’re not sexually active. The truth is, deep and slow kissing is a huge turn on even when you know you’re going to have sex later! Keep your saliva in check, but don’t be afraid to slowly explore your partner’s entire mouth. Nibble their lips and kiss them softly on the mouth before engaging in tongue again. Enjoy it and convey to your partner that you are enjoying it and aren’t in any rush at all.

Rubbing Your Hands All Over Their Body

This may seem cliche, but most people don’t do this correctly during foreplay. Having your partner rub their hands all over your body can be extremely thrilling – but most of the time, the touch isn’t soft enough to really send chills down your spine. When you go to rub your hands all over their body, don’t use your entire palm. Instead, use only your fingertips and touch your partner only as hard as you might touch a laptop track pad. This soft touch is what will ignite the nerves in your partner’s skin!

Kissing Their Body

You’ll want to take your mouth along the trails that you made with your hands, but again, remember to do this softly. A nibble and a lick here and there is nice during foreplay, but try to use only your lips when you do this. The softness and warmth of your lips without wetness is extremely enticing. Don’t leave any part of their body uncovered by your mouth – go all the way down their legs and back up again, over their tummy and chest, and back up to their neck, chin and arms. You can even use this as a “body mapping” technique by paying attention to which spots they seems to enjoy the most.

Breath Play

When you’re kissing your partner’s entire body is a great time to engage in breath play. Breathe hot air against the area you just kissed, or lick the area and breathe cool air on it to send an icy shiver down your partner’s spine. Breath play is especially effective around the neck area and ear area, and when you’re kissing.

Oral Sex

Oral sex is an essential part of foreplay because it not only conveys a lot of emotion (which is necessary for women), it also creates immense pleasure for both girls and guys. Make sure that your foreplay routine never, ever skips over oral sex. Depending on what you and your partner want to do, you can use oral sex as a tease (don’t bring your partner to orgasm) or you can use it to give your partner an orgasm to prep them for multiples later (this is usually done with women and can make sex absolutely explosive!)

Teasing Penetration

Teasing penetration is an intense form of foreplay that is just as hot for the guy as it is the girl. After you’ve done oral sex, kissing and touching and you’re ready for sex – but not quite ready to give in to the anticipation yet – teasing penetration will keep the fires burning but satisfy your need to be closer to each other. During teasing penetration, the male partner will enter the female’s vagina, but only a little at a time. Short, light thrusts that only put the head in are incredible for both him and her, and either partner can control this. If she wants to tease him, she can hold his hips to prevent him from going in further and if he wants to tease her, he can simply pull out. This form of teasing will almost always end in sex because at some point, the need and desire overwhelms both the man and woman!

Backing Off From Orgasm

If you haven’t completely lost all your senses yet in a cloud of bliss and passion from all the foreplay, you may still want to prolong the actual finale. Tease your partner by reducing the amount of stimulation (whatever it is at this point) when you feel they are close to orgasm – you will also want to do this when you feel like you’re getting close to orgasm. Resume kissing or teasing, until you’re both cooled off enough to continue without reaching orgasm immediately. This time frame will get more narrow as you continue – eventually when you resume sexual activity you’ll blow immediately, or you’ll just get to the point where you’re completely powerless to stop it.

Foreplay: Building Sexual Tension Through Touch

Michael Webb — Mon, 24 Oct 2011 17:36:01 +0000

Foreplay is what makes having sex absolutely amazing! Without sexual tension, “doing it” can be boring and blah. Here’s how touching your partner can help.

When Lust Enters The Equation

When you first start seeing someone, the lust is uncontrollable. You can barely keep your hands off each other. There is hardly a moment when you’re not physically connected. Then a few years down the road, you hardly touch except to make love. Unbeknownst to you, this can prove to be detrimental to the relationship. Men don’t require much physical attention to feel close to their partners. Being allowed to put it in her warm place on a regular basis is enough to feel a strong bond. However, women react differently. They love to be touched and caressed. If not given enough physical contact outside the bedroom, they can begin to feel objectified and devalued. Men typically don’t understand this because they are not fully appreciative of what it is like to be a woman.

Women spend much of their lives fighting objectification. From the day she got boobs, men of all ages have been leering at her sexually. It’s a life-changing moment the first time a girl catches one of her dad’s best friends looking at her ass. When she is in a relationship, she does not want her partner to make her feel the way she did when she caught “Uncle Larry” checking her out.

It’s not too difficult to avoid coming across as Chester the Molester. You just need to learn to express some physical intimacy when you’re not in the sack. That doesn’t mean fondle her breasts while you’re sitting on the couch. It means employing other forms of touch into your relationship.

Hold Her Hand!

One of the greatest foreplay builders can be simple hand holding. Whether you’re walking down the street or sitting in a movie, grab her hand just to hold it, but not to put it on your crotch. It will make her feel warm and comforted. Don’t be afraid to kiss her fingers or stroke her palm. The sensations will increase her desire to touch you with more body parts.

Hug Her!

Another under-utilized foreplay tool is hugging. Wrapping her in a warm embrace, with no pretenses of poking her with your penis, makes her feel secure. Hold her while you chat about your day. Stroke her back, and give her little kisses on the nose. Gaze into her eyes for a long period of time. Studies have shown that prolonged eye contact is an intimacy builder, and intimacy is what she wants to feel with you.

Kiss Her!

Lastly, kiss her. Kiss her just to kiss her. If you can manage that without humping her leg, the emotional reward she feels with greatly outweigh the physical reward you get from sex – and the sexual tension will be unimaginable! Don’t just kiss her to humor her, really appreciate what she gets out of it. The more you bond physically outside the bedroom, the more she’s going to want to bond in the sack!

Foreplay Mistakes That Will KILL Your Sex Life (And How To Fix Them!)

Lloyd Lester — Sun, 16 Oct 2011 23:00:08 +0000

Foreplay is an essential part of sex and if you make any of these blunders, you could really do damage to your sex life! Here’s what NOT to do!

Many men slip up during an intimate foreplay with their women. These are three common mistakes that men make when initiating this prelude to sex.

Problem #1 – Foregoing The Kiss

You should prolong the kiss instead! It doesn’t have to be the usual lip-locking. Women actually enjoy it when their men give tender kisses, long strokes of the tongue, and loving bites on their neck and shoulders.

Problem #2 – Paying Most Of Your Attention To The Breasts

Women are uncomfortable when men pay too much attention to their bosoms. Of course, women love it when their partners do incredible things with their breasts. But, they still prefer that their partners adore EVERY detail on their bodies.

Problem #3 – Hurrying Through Foreplay

This is a big no-no. Always remember that foreplay should be done in the smoothest and most comfortable manner possible. Women love it when their men spend time in exploring every sensitive hot spots on the female body. At times, women are the ones who dictate when their men should proceed. However, there are moments when women allow their men to follow their own plans when pleasuring them. But you should not advance towards her inner thigh if she is not yet fully prepared for it. It can be quite unpleasant for women when they are not totally in the mood for the actual sexual intercourse.

What else can you do to give her phenomenal foreplay – one that will set her up for a powerful series of orgasms later? Well, the following tips will come in handy for you!

Tip #1 – Take Pleasure In What You’re Doing

You must be having fun during foreplay in order to become the best in what you are doing. Women can actually tell when their partners are not in the mood for sex even with the bits of action during the prelude. A man’s satisfaction in the sexual overture is a big factor in turning on a woman. Yes, it all begins in the mind! So make sure that you have the appropriate outlook when it comes to the foreplay and the main act.

Tip #2 – Open Communication

If you do not know what to do, then just ASK her. For example, ask if she wants kisses or those titillating nibbles on her skin and if she prefers gentle fondling to wild grasps. In return, be sure that you are ready to give her anything that she asks of you!

Tip #3 – Dirty Talking

Most guys do not know how effective dirty talking can be during foreplay. You may not know this but women CAN get highly aroused even with just words, especially those that depict what you plan to do to them in bed. Aside from dirty talking, try speaking to her of your unadulterated appreciation of her whole being, her beauty, and your contentment on having her all to yourself!

Tip #4 – Be Smooth!

Wait for her to tell you that she is ready to move forward. Let the whole act blend smoothly into sexual intercourse. Do not skip the “appetizer” and head straight for the “main course.” Always be gracious during the prelude to intercourse!

Let foreplay lead both of you into amazing sex. Don’t skimp on it. Apply the above tips and spice things up in your bedroom tonight!

How To Read A Woman’s Mind – In Bed

Michael Webb — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 17:00:54 +0000

Sex tips are often techniques, but what if you could find sex tips that taught you how to read a woman’s MIND? Here’s what she says – and what she MEANS.

Everyone has heard that men are from Mars, and women are from Venus. Unfortunately, most men don’t fully appreciate the difference between the languages on Mars and Venus. Sure, you’re using the same words, but they have quite different meanings. Below are some common miscommunications between the genders.

Kissing

She said: “Kiss me.”

You heard: “Kiss me, hump my leg, and grab my breasts.”

What she means: Okay, maybe occasionally she does mean that, but you should know when she just means, “Kiss me.” Kissing is a wonderful intimacy builder, and it’s often overlooked. I know, since the day you first noticed that girls are awesome, you’ve been dreaming of day you’d have a woman you were allowed to touch all you wanted. However, if you’re tweaking her nipples and grabbing her crotch every time she leans in for a kiss, you’re going to desensitize her! You will lose a lot of your sex tips as ways to get her really steamed up. Sometimes kissing is just kissing. Learn to appreciate this as a showing of affection, not an opportunity to cop a feel.

Being Gentle

She said: “Be gentle.”

You heard: “Awkwardly fumble around my breasts and knead me with your member.”

What she means: Be gentle! The idea of gentle is completely different for men than for women. This comes naturally to her, but it is usually a learned behavior for men. Think about how she touches you, her gentle strokes sending electric shocks through your body. Her feather-light touches are like a sensory overload. Mimic this in your treatment of her. Pretend you’re tickling her with your finger tips or your lips. Not only do these sex tips send warm fuzzies through her body, but it allows you to really experience her flesh.

Getting Wild

She said: “Do whatever you want with me.”

You Heard: “Here’s the green light to stick it in my back door!”

What she means: This is a common miscommunication between men and women. When a woman puts the ball in your court to guide the sexual encounter, she is not asking to be defiled in every way your male brain has conceived. She is actually asking you to take care of her. If you immediately go for anal sex while pulling her hair and demanding she call you “daddy,” it is a violation of the trust she put in you. As sexual intimacy develops, so can the tricks about which you’ve been fantasizing. However, early in the relationship, be respectful of your partner’s comfort zone. If you abuse her trust, you’ll never progress in relationship – physical or emotional.

Kissing Mistakes You Want To Avoid – Before It’s Too Late!

Michael Webb — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 17:00:39 +0000

Kissing tips can keep you from making a lot of blunders. Don’t risk ruining your chances with a girl! Learn how to nix it up front with these great kissing tips!

Kissing can really make or break you as a lover. It is the first real intimate contact you have with your partner, and the way you kiss can alter her feelings for you completely. If you’re too aggressive, too sloppy, or just too much, you could end up killing whatever attraction she had for you to begin with. However, kiss her just right, and she will be putty in your hands. What makes a kiss spectacular really depends on the couple, but here are some do’s and don’ts that are pretty universal.

Bad Oral Hygiene

Don’t fall victim to sewer mouth. You could have lips as luscious as Brad Pitt, but bad breath will ruin the moment. Cigarette smokers especially have to watch the halitosis.

Do take care of your teeth. Brush, floss, and rinse with mouth wash daily. Popping a breath mint right before making out helps, but it won’t get rid of festering gunk already up in there. Nobody wants to make out with a guy who has teeth like a meth addict.

Overwhelm Her

Don’t jam your tongue down her throat. It is the most common kissing error made by men. Once things get heated up, the feel of your tongue will set her ablaze! Ramming your tongue into her mouth before her lips are even parted will bring everything to a screeching halt. What, are you fifteen?

Do tease her with the tip of your tongue. Once you’ve been kissing for a bit, fee lfree add a little tongue, but think of it more as a lick than a jab. Keep your tongue soft for maximum pleasure.

Rush Into Sex

Don’t assume a kiss means you’re getting some sex. For a woman, kissing can just be kissing. Physical contact with you helps to build her feelings of intimacy toward you. If every kiss leads to your putting your hands down her pants, she will begin to feel objectified, and a rift will form. Translation, you’ll never get any.

Do learn to love what she loves about kissing. There are a lot of nerve endings in your lips, allowing for sensations you may be ignoring. Close your eyes, and let the kiss be about the kiss.

Forget To Kiss Her When She’s Naked

Kissing shouldn’t be just a tool to get into her pants. It’s an act of intimacy, and will make her feel relaxed and cared for during penetration. Plus, when you’re in the throes of passion your sense of touch is heightened, and this kiss will be felt through your entire body.

10 Ways To TEASE A Woman

Shawna Lenee — Tue, 04 Oct 2011 23:00:23 +0000

Foreplay is crucial for a woman to reach orgasm. Here are ten incredible ways to tease and please your girl, so you can give her the best climax of her life!

The LONGER you take to get a woman’s clothes off, and the LONGER you wait to go down on her, and the LONGER you wait to have sex with her – the MORE likely she is to have an orgasm!

Why & How Women Need Foreplay

We’ve all heard the phrase “women are like an oven, they need to be warmed up” – but what most guys don’t know is WHY and HOW.

“Why” Foreplay Is Important

Guess what fellas – your most powerful weapon in the bedroom is not your penis, but the force of ANTICIPATION!

Girls LOVE to be teased way more than men! And the longer you take to do EVERYTHING, the more turned on your girl is gonna get!

“How” To Use Foreplay To Give Orgasms

Here is a step-by-step guide to undressing your girl in way that builds incredible anticipation that will drive her absolutely CRAZY!

By following these simple steps, you’ll have her so turned on by the time she is naked that she will be BEGGING to have you inside of her!

Warning: Some of these foreplay steps may sound basic, but I’ve thrown in some fun tricks to SPICE UP the simple stuff – so make sure you read this guide all the way through!

Kissing All Over

As you are kissing her, rub your hands firmly up and down her back. Once you’ve been kissing for several minutes, work your fingers under the bottom of her shirt, and circle back to her stomach (still kissing, but alternating between her lips, neck, and ear lobes).

Squeeze The Nape Of Her Neck

Gently scratch her back as you are kissing her, and softly but firmly slide your hand up under hair at the nape of her neck and give a nice squeeze.

Getting Her Shirt Off

Lift up her shirt and take it off in the smoothest way possible, being careful not to pull her hair!

Moving On

Now that her shirt is off, slowly progress your kissing downward towards her breasts, kissing the upper area, and still rubbing her lower body with your hands.

BONUS TIP! Gently but firmly, pin her arms above her head and hold them there with one hand while you caress her body with your other, still kissing all over. Girls LOVE this!

Unhooking Her Bra

As you are kissing her neck, reach behind and unhook her bra. If you get stuck, don’t worry! Just smile at her and say, “assistance please” and she’ll unhook it for you.

DO NOT GO STRAIGHT FOR THE BOOBS! Go back to kissing her on the lips and neck! (In fact, until you are fully going down on her, you should always return to her mouth every so often to kiss her passionately). Then, taking your time, make your way down to her breasts, but DO NOT GO FOR HER NIPPLES! Kiss them in slow circles, leaving the nipples for LAST!

Licking Her Nipples

When you get to her nipples, lick them gently, alternating between the two. When your mouth isn’t on one, your finger should be on the other (but lick it first for lubrication).

BONUS TIP! Some girls LOVE to have their nipple pinched! I would say at least 50% of all women! Start gently of course, and increase the pressure and watch her reaction. If she seems to be getting turned on, squeeze a little harder and ask her if she likes it. She’ll let you know =)

Moving Downwards

Move down to her stomach, and use the same slow, anticipation-building style. Try to kiss every inch of it! Slip your tongue under her waistband to tease her once in a while, and “accidentally” graze your chin over her “area,” breathing heavily.

Leave The Panties On

Kiss her on the mouth again while you go to take off her pants. But NOT her panties! It’s time for the fun part!

BONUS TIP: Take her right leg, and starting at her foot, kiss every inch of it, working your way down in slow circles! This should take A WHILE, and she will be loving every second of it! Then, when you get to her clitoris, breathe heavily OVER her panties, letting her feel the heat! Then go back to her left leg (start in the middle this time) and do it all over again!

By the time you get back down to her “area,” she’ll be BEGGING you to rip her panties off and give her more!

The Last Step – Give Her An Incredible Orgasm!

By this time, you should have her so close to climax that you can finish her off in just a few minutes. So just give her what she wants already!

So there you have it! This entire process should take around 30 minutes, and will get her more turned on then she’s EVER been before!

Building anticipation like this paves the way for her to have an intense climax, and lots of them at that. Oh, and if you’re with a woman for the very first time, this is a pretty good way to make HER be the one begging YOU to be inside of her, not the other way around.

This stuff will DEFINITELY give you an edge over the other men she’s been with. And if you’d like to get an even BIGGER edge and join the 1% of men who women call the best lovers in the WORLD – I have some great news for you!

Kissing Do’s And Don’ts (Avoid THESE & Make Her Melt!)

Michael Webb — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 17:00:56 +0000

Kissing can make or break sexual tension – and if you mess up, you could risk not getting laid! Make sure you’ve got everything right with these kissing tips.

The First Intimate Contact

Nothing can make or break you as a lover like kissing. It is the first real intimate contact you have with your partner, and the way you kiss can alter her feelings for you completely. If you’re too aggressive, too sloppy, or just too much, you could end up killing whatever attraction she had for you to begin with. However, kiss her just right, and she will be putty in your hands. What makes a kiss spectacular really depends on the couple, but here are some do’s and don’ts that are pretty universal.

Hygiene Is Essential

Don’t fall victim to sewer mouth. You could have lips as luscious as Brad Pitt, but bad breath will ruin the moment. Cigarette smokers especially have to watch the halitosis.

Use Tongue Sparingly

Do tease her with the tip of your tongue. Once you’ve been kissing for a bit, feel free add a little tongue, but think of it more as a lick than a jab. Keep your tongue soft for maximum pleasure.

Don’t Assume You’re Having Sex

Don’t assume a kiss means you’re getting to have sex. For a woman, kissing can just be kissing. Physical contact with you helps to build her feelings of intimacy toward you. If every kiss leads to your putting your hands down her pants, she will begin to feel objectified, and a rift will form. Translation, you’ll never get any.

Do learn to love what she loves about kissing. There are a lot of nerve endings in your lips, allowing for sensations you may be ignoring. Close your eyes, and let the kiss be about the kiss.

Kiss Her When She’s Naked!

Don’t forget to kiss her when she’s naked! Kissing shouldn’t be just a tool to get into her pants. It’s an act of intimacy, and will make her feel relaxed and cared for during penetration. Plus, when you’re in the throes of passion your sense of touch is heightened, and this kiss will be felt through your entire body.

How To Feel Her Breasts – The RIGHT Way

Michael Webb — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 23:00:43 +0000

Foreplay leads to great orgasms – and you definitely don’t want to neglect the breasts when it comes to foreplay. Here’s how to touch her the way she wants.

Whether you’re a leg man or an ass man, every man is a breast man. Breasts have more nicknames than anything else on the planet. Gossip blogs are constantly reporting on celebrity “nipple slips.” The mere hint of Janet Jackson’s bear breast during the Super Bowl Half-Time Show caused one of the largest controversies in media history. So what is this crazy obsession we have with breasts? Is it just because men don’t have them? Is it some Oedipal reaction to having been breast-fed? Whatever it is, men like breasts, and they like them a lot.

Self Control Is Key

One of the most common complaints women have about their partners is that he won’t stop touching her boobs. Everything they do together, he must somehow incorporate the titty-grab. When he’s watching TV, he’s playing with her nipples. While she’s doing the dishes, he’s massaging her mammories.

I know, I know, they’re there, they’re awesome, and you just gotta touch them. In the long run, this could end up hindering your rack rights. So unless you’re up for a booby-free existence, let’s go for quality over quantity when it comes to funbag fondling. If you’re willing to practice a little self control, she will actually love to have you all over her chest.

Don’t Pull Down

The cardinal rule of breast handling is never pull down! Women spend billions of dollars every year on bras that lift them up and surgeries to add perk. If you’re yanking downward on them, it feels like you’re undoing all that work. She will actually get the heebie-jeebies, which is not the sensation you’re going for if you’re trying to warm her up for sex. Concentrate instead on upward motions. Stroke, cup, and fondle, but never in a downward motion.

How To Tease Her

So now you know in which direction to touch her, but now you need to know how. Do not just nose dive for the nipples. Yes, nipple stimulation works, but it’s much more effective to tease around them first. Grab one and give it soft bites along the underside. Repeat on the opposite breast. If you give one attention, don’t forget to give the other one the same amount.

Just like you don’t want her to play favorites with your testicles, she doesn’t like it if you over-indulge one of her boobs. You can kiss, suck, lick, and caress your way up to the nipple. Once you get there, she will be so riled up that the feeling of her nipple between your teeth will bring her to near orgasm.

There you have it. With proper attention paid to both breasts and avoidance of the nipple until prime time; you’ll go from simply being a breast man to becoming a breast master.

How To Turn Her On By Just Touching Her Hair!

Michael Webb — Wed, 21 Sep 2011 23:00:39 +0000

Foreplay is an essential first step to great sex with a woman, but did you know you could arouse a woman just by fondling her hair?

Hair plays a significant role in most cultures. Elaborate wigs were introduced as a sign of social status in 17th century Europe. Geishas spent years learning how to create intricate styles that reflected their success.

In the 1960s men grew their hair long as a sign of rebellion, and then in the 70s women cut theirs short when androgynous was the style. In the new millennium, almost every actress and model uses hair extensions to create flowing, Lady Godiva locks. With hair so much at the forefront of our consciousness, it’s a wonder that it’s so widely overlooked as a tool for erotic pleasure.

Whether it’s long, short, curly, straight, light, or dark, your woman probably has hair. In fact, it was probably one of the first things you noticed about her. Since then, you may have begun to view it as that thing that gets in your mouth when you’re making out and chokes you during sex. Well, it’s time to reclaim the hair as a source of pleasure! Here are a few tricks you can use to amp up the eroticism.

Be Gentle And Sweet

Brush the loose hairs out of her face when kissing her. There doesn’t actually have to be anything there, but the gesture shows that you are considerate of her. Feeling valued by you is key to her physical attraction to you. If you show that you’re paying attention to her welfare, even in minutia, she will feel closer to you, and therefore happier to let you get inside her.

Use her locks to tickle her face, neck, and wherever else you can reach. Slow and light caresses with the ends of her hair will both relax and entice her. It will mimic the feeling of being stroked with a feather. But don’t let her have all the fun. Have her do the same to you, only she’s not limited to just your upper body.

Moving Towards Being More Aggressive

Go ahead and pull it! Now, before diving right in and taking a handful, double-check with your partner to make sure there’s no weave action you may be yanking out. When you’re passionately kissing, grab a handful at the base of her head. Yank it back, and kiss her neck. Make sure this is firm but gentle.

You don’t want to pull any hairs out, as that will interrupt the erotic energy. Also, if you’re inside, or even hitting it from behind, go ahead and yank on her mane. Make sure you know your girl well before attempting this move. If she has any issues with dominance, she may feel degraded. However, if she has dominance fantasies, that one will send her over the edge and straight to orgasm!

How To Kiss Her The RIGHT Way

Michael Webb — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 23:00:34 +0000

Learning how to kiss isn’t something that happens immediately. It takes time and practice – here’s how to kiss a woman and make her melt!

Women put a lot of stock into a kiss. The way you kiss her can make or break her feelings for you. An unsure attraction can be solidified with a passionate lip lock, or a woman can lose all attraction for you if the kiss is lame. Here are some tips to help ensure a good reaction.

Set The Mood

The necessity for mood setting varies with circumstance. If you’ve been together for a long time, and you’re just sneaking a peck in the kitchen, you certainly don’t need to go to romantic lengths before you go in. However, if it’s a first kiss, or a kiss that you’re hoping with lead to more physical activity, you need some lead in.

It doesn’t have to involve scented candles and Barry White, but you also don’t want to catch her off guard. It can be as simple as looking into her eyes. Also, make some sort of preliminary physical contact – lightly stroke her cheek or push the hair out of her face. Whatever it is, make it a loving gesture. Avoid touching any of her private areas before she’s comfortable.

Relax!

Nothing kills the mood like a stiff lipped kiss. It causes the kiss to feel awkward, interrupting the feeling of intimacy you’ve set. If the kiss feels awkward, then you feel awkward to her. Awkward equals insecure. You will be hard pressed to find a woman who wants a man who is so uncomfortable with himself he can’t even enjoy a kiss. You must relax! Take all worries about your worthiness out of your head. She wouldn’t be allowing your lips on hers if she thought you were some schlep, so don’t convince her otherwise.

But Don’t Relax Too Much

Limp lips lack strength, and you don’t want to look weak. I know, I know, where’s the fine line? A good indication is the drool. There should be enough tension to keep the spit in your mouth. She should not be drowning in your saliva! If you keep your eyes closed and allow yourself to experience the kiss, you should be able to gauge the tension.

Check Your Tongue

The number one way to look like an amateur is to lead with the tongue. She wants to kiss you, not taste your dinner. It’s also too overtly sexual. When you’re getting hot and heavy, you can certainly enjoy some tonsil hockey, but immediate tongue action will make her feel objectified. Not that you have to keep it completely recoiled, a few quick licks of her parted lips will give her a thrill.

Put Your Boner Away

Putting your lips on a woman that you find sexually attractive gets you hot. You’re a man; it’s not difficult to get you aroused. However, if you start grabbing boobs and rubbing a hard penis on her leg, you’ll be going home with your right hand tonight.

3 Hot Spots EVERY Guy Forgets About!

Michael Webb — Sun, 18 Sep 2011 23:00:00 +0000

Foreplay is something all girls want during sex, but a lot of men can’t deliver. Are YOU missing these three orgasm buttons?

So you know where the clitoris is. Congratulations, you’re head and shoulders above the average 14-year-old boy. However, there is so much more to pleasing a woman than just stimulating the clitoris. In fact, dive straight for the sweet spot, and you may be down there for hours. Unlike you, she cannot be ready to go in 2.2 seconds flat. But fear not, her whole body is covered in trigger points you may not even be aware of. Here is a guide to some erogenous zones you may have forgotten about.

Her Ears

Nibbling on her little ear lobes is just the tip of the iceberg. Anywhere you lick her ears will be exciting for her – although, full on tongue in the ear hole should only be saved for special occasions. Lick her just under the lobe, and then gently blow on the spot. It will send shock waves directly to her genitals. Also take the time to whisper something dirty while your mouth is that close. If you’re in private, tease her nipples with your fingers for added effect.

Her Neck

Once you’ve conquered the ears, you can move down to the neck. The places you want to concentrate are along the jaw line and just above the collar bones. If you apply pressure to the larynx, she may feel like she’s being choked. Kissing along her jaw will relax her, allowing her mind to focus what you’re doing. Stroke her collar bones lightly, and then kiss or lick in the hollows just above the collar bones, and in the sternal notch – the dip in her throat right above the breast bone. Her whole body will tingle with the sensation.

Her Lower Back

The part of the back that meets with the buttocks is full of little nerve endings. If you lightly caress her there, you’re bound to run into one of her little ticklish spots. However, if done correctly, it can be an erotic ticklish. Before you venture into tickle territory, you should make sure she is good and relaxed.

If she’s all riled up, it’ll make her jumpy instead of aroused. Your efforts will be counter productive as she’ll squirm with every touch. However, if she’s mellow, these little sensations will give her a thrill. Don’t over do it! Run your fingers over her without aggravating the tickle reflex too much. Otherwise you’ll have another squirmy girl on your hands, and you’ll have to go back to square one to calm her down.

How Turn On Her Mind!

Gabrielle Moore — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 23:00:45 +0000

Sex for a woman doesn’t just involve what’s in her pants – it involves the brain too. Here’s how to get her thinker aroused so her orgasm will be explosive!

Turning on a woman emotionally is almost equivalent to turning you on physically. If a woman is in the right state of thinking she can have much more enjoyable foreplay and, hence, equally terrific sex.

While arousing her body may seem like an easier, straightforward task (read more in the next chapter), stimulating her thinking takes patience and creativity (and a little bit of corniness).

Making Eye Contact

Don’t forget: an unexpected “look” can build the anticipation for later. Eye contact and a wink can be a boyish, coy way to captivate her. So can capturing her stare and giving her a genuine smile, stealing a look while she’s doing a chore or some other mundane task that wouldn’t usually warrant a sneak peek, or holding her gaze for longer than a split-second.

The Lost Art Of Kissing

What happened to kissing? Does it die out after you hear the minister say, “You may kiss your bride”? I have listened to so many of my married friends say, “I miss making out.” We yearn for no-strings-attached fooling around where we can make out without the immediate expectation of sex. There’s something thrilling about going at it like school kids on the couch or in the car (or, better yet, in a secret public place).

A few tips for reviving your kissing techniques and bringing the fun back to old-school make-out sessions:

Kiss her and let your tongue touch the very edge of her lips. The soft sensations will drive her absolutely wild.
Use your lips to “nibble” her bottom lip or, if you’re very careful, you can even use your teeth for a gentle bite. Just proceed with caution.
Kiss her with an open mouth and then pull away ever so slightly, allowing your tongues to continue dancing. Guys seem to really like this form of kissing.

Communicating Freely With Each Other

After years of marriage, talking openly and freely about your sexual needs can be an incredibly daunting exercise, especially if you’ve never done it. But if you want your wife to don a French maid costume or get a little forceful with a leather whip, she’s never going to do it unless you just ask her. The same goes for her.

In other words, one discussion about innermost desires can snowball and affect your general outlook on your entire relationship!

Dirty Talk

The art of dirty talk is different from the aforementioned intimate talk – dirty talk is, well, more risqué.

A common misconception is that dirty talk has to be raunchy and vulgar, but it can take on a wide range of forms. It’s really about the type of couple you are and the terminology that will get you the best reaction (you don’t want to insult her if she’s embarrassed about you using words she considers foul).

How To Have Sex Like A Teenager

Michael Webb — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 23:00:35 +0000

Sex when you’re young is unlike anything else out there – it’s incredible! Here’s how to bring those feelings back and have sex like you used to.

You remember your adolescent self, and I’m sure you wouldn’t want to go back to being him for anything. Walking around with a hard-on twenty four hours a day, surrounded by girls in mini-skirts who won’t even let you touch them under their bras, so you spend most of your time beating off as much as possible without your mom catching on to all the time you spend in the bathroom.

Trying Something New

Fast forward twenty five years. You have fumbled your way through losing your virginity, making a few mistakes, and getting married. You now have a beautiful wife that you still find sexy as ever, but between work and family duties, the time you have to spend making mad, passionate love has dwindled. You want to try something new, but all the stuff you find on the internet requires serious contortions, and you’re not sure your bum knee can take it.

Maybe it’s not something new you need. Maybe it’s something from before you learned how to unhook a bra without help. Being a walking hard on was horribly frustrating, but it wasn’t boring. There are a couple of things you may have forgotten about since girls started letting you put your penis in them.

The Make-Out Session

I’m sure you remember your first girlfriend. The two of you used to make out for hours on end – you trying to touch her breast, her slapping your hand away. The hours and hours of kissing had you in such a frenzy, you didn’t even notice when her dad walked in. However, ever since you’ve been allowed to have sex with women, this adolescent passion probably hasn’t been equaled. To add some passion, go back to this old stand by.

Make out, and make out for a really long time. But how do manage to keep from taking the prize if you’re already allowed? Trying making it a bet, and make sure the wager is worth it. For example, whoever touches below the belt first gets to pick TV on Monday. If you go there first, you’ll be watching Jon & Kate Plus 8 during Monday Night Football.

Mutual Masturbation

I’m sure you cringed at this term when your health teacher presented it as an alternative to sex (unless you were in high school in the last eight years and received abstinence-only education), but the grown up version of this can be fun. Whether you’re fully clothed on the couch or naked in your bed, mutual masturbation bring some playfulness back into sex.

You can get reacquainted with each other’s genitals – rediscover those spots that really make her lose her mind. If you orgasm, you don’t have to have intercourse. Penetration is not a necessity every time you have sex. You’re a grown up now, so you can forget all those silly rules you used to make about what defines sex (“It was just a handjob! We didn’t even do anything!”). You can go ahead and make your own.

3 Mind Blowing Sex Techniques

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 14:00:12 +0000

Sex can drive her wild – IF you know how to do it the right way. A lot of guys don’t know their way around a girl’s anatomy, let alone actually use tried and true sex techniques to bring her to orgasm. Here are three ways to make a girl go crazy with sexual pleasure!

The Art Of Teasing During Foreplay

A lot of guys rush in during sex, anxious to get to the main event. Intercourse feels so great for a guy, he automatically assumes that it feels that excellent for a girl without really thinking it through. However, skipping the foreplay stage can really lower the pleasure factor for a woman – even completely. So take your time with foreplay and tease your partner. Get her to really want and crave your touch! Here’s how:

Kiss Lightly Up Her Legs

Start at her feet and kiss and lick lightly all the way up her legs, as though you were going to give her oral sex – but don’t! Get your mouth close to her vagina, nibble or kiss a little on the inside of her thighs, and then make your way back down her legs again all the way to her toes. Do this a few times and she’ll be begging you to put your mouth on her!

You can even take the teasing up a notch by giving her a little oral sex but then backing off for a few minutes while you caress your partner’s legs. If you tease too much without any stimulation, she may get bored with it. However, with the right combination of teasing and actual touching, you can really drive your lover wild!

Take Your Lover By Surprise

Every woman gets tired of the same old same old when it comes to seduction. What worked before isn’t always going to work, so you have to keep looking for new ways to get your partner’s attention and get her turned on. Even things that seemingly worked like magic just a few months ago aren’t necessarily going to work again, so you always want to stay on top of your game with new ways to seduce and tease your lover. Here’s how to surprise your partner with an extra bold kiss:

The Door Slam

Grab your lover and slam them up against the door or a wall and start kissing her aggressively. The idea here is not to hurt her – so you don’t want to do this too hard or be too aggressive with your kissing – but to her by surprise. Slamming her against a wall when done the right way won’t hurt at all – it will be surprising and a little disconcerting, especially since it usually makes a loud noise. This will take her breath away, and then she will melt right into the kiss.

Making Eye Contact

Eyes are called the windows to the soul for a reason – great eye contact can help you bond emotionally with a woman in a way that nothing else can. Eye contact works great during flirting, but you can also take it up a notch and work eye contact into sex. A lot of people look away from each other during sex, or look somewhere else on their partner’s face instead of looking directly into their eyes. Eye contact during sex can be such a powerful way to intensify your lover’s orgasm. Here’s how:

Eye Contact During Orgasm

When your partner is about to reach orgasm, have her look directly into your eyes. If she tries to look away, stop stimulating her and doing whatever it is that you’re doing that is bringing her closer to the brink of climax. This forces her to look into your eyes, and you’re “rewarding” her with pleasure when she does.

At some point, she’s going to go off the edge and slip into the abyss of orgasm while holding eye contact with you. It can be an incredible experience for your partner to look into your eyes as you give her intense pleasure, and watching your partner so deeply while their body is wracked with spasms can be amazing for you too.

This may not happen exactly right on the first try, and it may take a little while to build your partner up to the point where she can look you in the eyes throughout the entire climax. However, the process of learning how to do it can be just as much fun as actually doing it!

How To Kiss: French Kissing Tips

Dan and Jennifer — Sat, 27 Aug 2011 15:57:19 +0000

French kissing can make a woman melt! Even more so than sex, great kissing can lead to enhanced emotional and physical intimacy between you and your lover. Learn how to kiss and make a girl weak in the knees with just your mouth today!

Get Comfortable With It

French kissing is much easier when you’re relaxed and comfortable. You don’t want to put too much pressure on yourself worrying about whether you’re doing it right or not, and you don’t want to be so stressed out that she can immediately tell you’re a ball of nerves as soon as the two of you touch lips. Instead, focus on relaxing and being comfortable with it. Take a few deep, calming breaths before you start and just pay attention to what you’re doing and what feels good.

Hold Her Softly Yet Firmly

You may be asking, “How the heck do I hold her softly AND firmly? That doesn’t make sense!” However, there is a way that you can be firm with her and exude your strength and confidence when you kiss her, while also showing her your softer, more sensitive side. You want to hold her in such a way that says, “I really like this and you’re not going anywhere” but that also says, “I’m going to make you feel amazing right now.” If that’s what you’re thinking and feeling, it’s going to come out in the way you touch and caress your lover.

Take Your Time

French kissing isn’t something you want to rush into. You want to savor it – and so does she! So spend some time looking into her eyes and making that deep, soulful eye contact with her. Caress her slowly and work your way up to the good stuff. You don’t want to just jump in feet first and shove your tongue down her throat, because she’s not going to like being taken by surprise like that one bit.

Instead, lick your lips when you make eye contact with her. Start by kissing her lips gently, without tongue. When she parts her lips, you can slowly start to kiss her more deeply, adding light tongue into the mix. You can also take her lead and let her show you where she wants to go with it. However, do keep in mind that part of seducing a woman is showing her that YOU can be in the lead and make her feel incredible.

Gently Wrestle Your Tongue With Hers

Once you’ve led up to the actual french kissing and you two are going at it pretty good, you want to gently wrestle your tongue with hers. You can also nibble her bottom lip a little, or gently suck on her tongue as it makes its way into your mouth. Trace the outline of her lips with your tongue – this will send shivers down her spine! Be creative and use different kissing techniques, but remember you’re still wanting to do this slowly and gently. It’s not a race – you really want to get into it and enjoy it, because she’ll be enjoying it too.

Is She Reciprocating?

Pay attention to your partner’s body language. While you are leading, you don’t want to ignore the subtle cues she’s going to give you that will help you understand more of what she likes and doesn’t like. Is she pulling away? If she is, you’re going at it too hard and giving her too much. She’s overwhelmed. So pull back a little bit yourself and then go in again, softly and slowly to see how she responds.

Is she getting more aggressive with you? Is she leaning towards you and seeming like she’s really into it? She is! Keep going! Even if your partner isn’t using words to describe whether she likes what you’re doing or not, her body language WILL tell you – that is, if you pay attention!

Finding The Right Balance

Just like with holding her firmly yet softly at the same time, you also want to make sure that your mouth movements follow that same “balance.” You definitely don’t want to be too aggressive when kissing her, but you also don’t want to be too loose about it either and have a limp tongue. If you pay attention to her body language and do what feels good, it’s likely you’ll strike the right balance between too soft and too hard.

Making Out Can Be Awesome!

While great french kissing can lead to sex, it doesn’t have to. In fact, great french kissing can be amazing all by itself! If you’re doing it right, it’s not one big, long kiss. It’s a series of smaller kisses that are connected with things like licking her lips or yours, sucking and nibbling her neck or ear or even heavy petting.

Don’t think that just because you’re french kissing a girl that you have to get in her pants, because you don’t. Make out with her and enjoy the journey. Don’t rush through it because you think you’re going to get some sex out of it, because if you do, you’ll ruin it entirely and you might not get any sex anyways!

How To Get A Girl To Kiss You

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 03 Aug 2011 14:00:42 +0000

Kiss a girl out of nowhere, and she’ll probably push you away. You want to flirt with her, get in her space and create that amazing sexual tension. Your best plan of action is to get HER to kiss YOU! Here’s how.

Things To Consider Before The Kiss

Many guys fail to plan for a kiss, either because they know they’re too nervous to initiate the kiss, or they just don’t think the girl will want to kiss them. Either way, these guys end up getting stuck right before the kiss worrying about their breath because they just ate hot wings and didn’t bring mints, or because their lips are chapped and aren’t soft enough for a good kiss. Don’t be one of those guys – make sure you are prepared for a kiss before you actually get one by assuming you will get one!

Good Dental Hygiene

This one may seem like a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised at just how many guys think they can get away without brushing their teeth, using floss and mouthwash or not using gum or mints after they’ve eaten something pungent like onions or garlic. Making sure that your mouth is fresh and clean at all times is the first thing you should do to prepare for kiss. Heck, bring a toothbrush with you if you have to!

Smell Good

Women are attracted to scent. Make sure you carry mints or breath freshener with you, and also wear deodorant that works. Make sure you also chose a cologne that isn’t too overpowering but that also compliments your natural pheromones. If you need help with that, get a friend that is a girl to go cologne shopping with you!

Have A Confident, Masculine Energy About You

Women are attracted to confidence as well. If you act like a wimpy guy who needs her “permission” before going any farther, she’s not going to look twice at you. Convey an energy of confidence and masculinity. Don’t ask if you can buy her a drink – wait until she’s nearly finished with hers and order another for her.

Get In Her Space

A girl probably isn’t going to go out of her way to kiss you. So get in her space – make sure she knows you’re there. Make eye contact with her and touch her lightly on the arm. Flirt with her and get her laughing and interested in what you’re saying. Make sure you ignite that emotional spark she needs to want to get closer to you.

Try scooting your chair a little closer to her or brushing past her on your way to the bar or restroom. See how she reacts to you getting in her space. If she seems to welcome it, that’s your cue to take it a little farther.

Be A Little Touchy-Feely

No, you don’t need to feel your date up. But you do want to get a little closer to her and start touching her when she seems like she’s ready for it. Touch her hair or stroke her cheek gently. Place your hand on her thigh as she’s speaking to you or telling you a joke or story. Hold hands with her – women love hand holding!

Get her to notice your mouth and start thinking about kissing you by licking your lips. Don’t bite your lips if you’re a guy – that’s generally going to make you look a little foolish! Girls can get away with it, but guys? No way. Drink your drink slowly, or through a straw. Whatever you can do to get your date to start noticing your mouth is a great way to get her started thinking about kissing you.

Don’t Be Afraid To Make The First Move

This goes back to having that strong, confident, masculine energy about you. Don’t appear too weak or wimpy by not being able or willing to make the first move. Whether you actually make the first move or not is irrelevant – she will sense that you’re into her and will make a move on her as soon as you get a clear window. She may very well beat you to it!

Go In Strong And Smooth

If you do end up making the first move, don’t sweat it. Be confident about it. Go in smoothly, and don’t make any sudden moves. You don’t want to bump heads or end up kissing her nose, do you? Find out if she wants to take it to the next level by leaning in part of the way and putting yourself in her space, and waiting for her to meet you halfway. Does she lean in for the kiss too, or does she pull away?

If It Doesn’t Happen The Right Way

Sometimes, a first kiss doesn’t go down the way you wanted it to, no matter how much you prepared and planned for it. If this happens to you, relax! Take a few steps back. Keep flirting with her and having fun together, and don’t let the moment get too awkward. It just may not have been the right time or place, or she just might not have felt like it!

Why Foreplay Is Critical!

Michael Webb — Fri, 29 Jul 2011 23:00:08 +0000

Foreplay is a critical first step for women, and men often overlook it. Men tend to approach sex in the wrong way. They think that the harder they penetrate, the harder she’ll orgasm. Unfortunately for women, this doesn’t work. Did you know the best way to make a woman orgasm is to not even put your penis inside her?

That’s right, good old third base is a home run for the ladies. The vagina has very few nerve endings past the opening, and hitting the g-spot through penetration is more about lucking out than mastering technique.

Fingering Her To A Frenzy

The male species often thinks that third base is a means to prepare her for his throbbing member, which is why the women they’re with tend not to respond with the screaming orgasm of which they are capable. If you re-program yourself to thinking about fingering as part of “having sex,” then you’ll be able to satisfy her on new levels. She will certainly thank you for it!

Mental Foreplay First

Before you make the journey into the bush, you have to start with foreplay first. Women don’t have the ability to dive right into sex the way men do. She needs a bit of a build up. This starts from the moment you hope to have sex with her later. Every small touch, glance, and kiss throughout the night draws her closer to you. It will be very difficult to get her started if you’ve been acting like she’s a stranger for the past several hours. She doesn’t have to feel completely in love with you, but she does need to feel some sort of connection.

Making Out

When you’re finally alone, never underestimate the power of a good make out session. Remember when you were a teenager and making out was so much fun? It’s because you didn’t really know what was going to come next. You hadn’t gotten to home base yet, or even third base, so the excitement of possibly getting to see her breasts or touch her vagina was almost too much to bear. Re-create that feeling all over again by not rushing a great make out session. Take your time and make her feel like you’ve got nothing else better to do than kiss her all night long.

Eventually, the make out session will lead to more than just kissing – but don’t try to force it. Start with gentle kisses that escalate into tongue tangling passion, and her nether regions will be begging for some attention once you get there. Do to her mouth what you plan on doing to her clitoris during oral sex – she’ll get the hint and it will turn her on even more to get a “preview” of what your tongue can do for her.

Fondling Her

In the midst of your good old fashioned make-out, put your hands other places, and I don’t mean breasts alone. You should stroke her back, her sides, her hair, and her breasts. Touch her softly and don’t rush it. Don’t manhandle her or grab her! You should be using your fingers to stroke her in sensitive places like her neck or the crease of her elbow, and you shouldn’t be touching any harder than you would touch the track pad on your laptop.

Once you’ve gotten her turned on enough, play with her nipples for a while, and then move elsewhere. Go back, move away, and repeat. Once you feel her breath quicken and her grip tighten, and you’re sure that she’s ready for you to make the next move, don’t leave her hanging! Get down there and touch away.

Don’t Assault Her

It is best to not go into full on assault mode. If you start fingering her right away before she’s really good and wet, it will hurt. Some women may get wet just from the kissing and touching, but some won’t. Don’t be afraid to have a good lube on hand. A dab of lube or more can make all the difference between pleasure and pain!

Start by massaging the outer parts of her vulva, and her inner thighs. If you just graze the clitoris now and again, it will send shock waves through her body. When it’s time, zero in on the sweet spot, and don’t move until she has had at least one mind-blowing climax. You can also give her oral sex – it’s probably a woman’s favorite way to get off and makes her more prone to having multiple orgasms!

Advanced Kissing Tips

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 14:00:05 +0000

Kissing is something you may think is basic, but you can create amazing sexual tension just by putting your mouth on hers – the right way. If you think you’ve mastered kissing tips and know everything there is to know about it, think again! Here’s how you can blow your lover’s mind and take it to the next level.

Take The Next Step In Kissing

Learn how to be both gentle and firm at the same time. Many guys think that they have to be either super soft or really wild, when the best kisses come from guys who know how to be both at the same time. Kiss your lover with a little bit of an urgency, like you have to do it right now. Start off a little firm to show your passion, then relax into softer, sweeter moves to convey how much you’re enjoying it.

Start integrating eye contact when kissing. Eye contact is one of the most powerful forms of body language, and it’s incredibly effective when used with a woman. Pull away for a few seconds while making out with your partner and gaze deeply into her eyes. Hold the eye contact for just a few seconds longer than is comfortable, and then go back to kissing.

Enjoy each step of kissing your partner. Don’t rush through it so you can have sex sooner, and don’t just kiss her for the sake of having sex with her. Make the an incredible activity all by itself, and if you don’t end up having sex afterwards, so be it. The kiss was great, after all!

Girls Like Variety

Learn a variety of kissing tips and techniques. Girls don’t necessarily like to do the same thing with a guy over and over – it gets old after awhile. Take some time to learn a variety of techniques, so you have something new to offer your partner every now and then. Experiment with new things and find out what works for you and your lover and what doesn’t!

Move around while kissing. Don’t just stay on her mouth the whole time – slide your lips down her neck and kiss her gently there, or gently nibble on her ear. Staying in one spot will not only make her mouth tired quickly, it’s also going to get boring pretty fast.

Make it a kiss to remember. Make it slow, soft, sensual and special. If you don’t end up having sex that night, make it so that she thinks about the kiss all night long and that’s all she has running through her mind.

Tease her. Remember that kissing is part of foreplay and you will create a ton of sexual tension if you tease your lover and make her want more. You don’t want to be the guy that overwhelms her and leaves her pulling away, gasping for breath. Always pull away first and make her want to come back for more.

The Importance Of Touch While Kissing

Touch her hair when you kiss. Start with a gentle caress and as you get more and more passionate, it can even progress into a light tug. The nerves in the scalp are extremely sensitive, and playing with her hair while you kiss or tugging it gently can send shivers down her spine.

When it feels right, run your hands over her body. Don’t assume that touching her body means going straight for her breasts or vagina! Run your hands over her arms, touch her cheek softly and gently caress her neck. Put your hand on her hip and draw her closer to you. Touch her in places that she wouldn’t expect a guy to touch – because let’s face it, she’s probably expecting you to head for her nether regions anyways.

Being Kissable

Make sure your lips and mouth aren’t too dry. Your lips should be soft and kissable, but also make sure that your lips and mouth aren’t too wet either. You definitely don’t want to go into a kiss with slippery, slimy lips and tongue.

Practice good oral hygiene – you may think this falls into the category of basic kissing tips, but you wouldn’t believe how many guys expect to kiss a girl right after they’ve had a plate of hot wings and a beer. Don’t do this! Freshen up before you move in. If you have to excuse yourself to the bathroom to get fresh, go for it. Brush your teeth, use lip balm and carry mints. Make sure that you’re fresh and ready to be kissed. She’ll not only appreciate it, but the kiss will be a lot better.

How To Be An Amazing Kisser

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 06 Jul 2011 14:00:18 +0000

Kissing is excellent foreplay – you can turn a woman on with just a simple smooch if you know how to do it right. In fact, you can get her so turned on she’s practically going to rip your clothes off! Here’s how to make it incredible!

Avoid Drive By Kisses

While a light peck on the lips or check is a nice way to say hello or goodbye to your partner, it’s certainly not going to win you any kissing awards. In fact, sometimes one like this can really leave a woman reeling, especially if you’ve swooped in from out of nowhere and she wasn’t expecting it. A “drive by” can be disconcerting and leave a woman confused. If you wanted to kiss her, why did you do it so fast?

If you really want to make an impression on a woman, don’t do any “drive by” kissing – instead, make sure each move you make is slow and sensual. Come in slowly and start by lightly touching her arm and make eye contact by gazing deeply into her eyes. Look at her lips and lick yours, so she knows what you’re thinking. A slow buildup is much, much better for a girl than a fast peck, even if you think you’re being “passionate” when you swoop in.

Don’t Go Crazy With Tongue Too Early

You’ve slowly introduced her to the idea of kissing by touching her softly, licking your lips and making eye contact with her. She knows what you’re about to do and if you’ve played your cards right, she’s going to be really looking forward to it. You’ve got her all ramped up and then you ruin it by sticking your tongue in her mouth too soon. Not cool!

Don’t ruin a great one by using your tongue too early. The first time your lips touch isn’t a good time to use tongue, and some women don’t even like tongue at all during kissing. While deep french kissing is incredible when you’re both really turned on and in the throes of passion, it’s easy for her to get overwhelmed if you use your tongue at the beginning instead of waiting until you’re progressing more towards foreplay.

If She Acts Surprised Or Pulls Back

Even if you do everything right, your girl may still act surprised or pull back a little bit. She’ll definitely pull back if you’ve done something that didn’t sit well with her, like jamming your tongue down her throat before she even realized you wanted to kiss her. Many men see a woman pulling back as a personal rejection of him, however, this is not at all true. A woman who pulls back may just not have been ready for it.

If this happens, go ahead and pull back as well. Relax and smile – she didn’t personally reject you. Give her a little time and slowly try to go there again. Rectify any mistakes you made the first time, such as going too fast or too hard, and build up slowly. Remember to make eye contact and touch her softly – these are real cues that let her know that you’re going to lean in. If she keeps rejecting you, however, it’s not just the what you’re doing. It’s you.

Tips For Your First Kiss

Remember that being bold and assertive is attractive. The worst thing you could do is ask a woman, “May I kiss you?” Don’t be afraid to make the first move and initiate the first kiss.
Don’t use tongue on the first kiss. Make it soft, short and simple. When you back away, that will leave her wanting more.
Focus on her lips and think about how wonderful it would be to put your lips against them. She’s going to feel you looking at her and feel the emotions you’re giving out. This involves her mind and emotions, which are the two most powerful allies to have on your side when you’re with a woman.
Don’t take it too seriously. Your first smooch shouldn’t be a production. Taking it too seriously will simply put too much pressure on the both of you!
Women want to be kissed. They spend a lot of time making sure their lips are soft and kissable, and they’re always coating them with lipstick and gloss. Knowing that women really want to be kissed and put a lot of thought into being kissed can give you the confidence to be really great at it.
Remember to relax and have fun. If your first one doesn’t turn out well, it’s not the end of the world. It’s just a kiss and you can always try again.

Practice, Practice, Practice!

To get really good at anything, it’s important to practice and keep practicing until you’re really confident about your skills. This includes kissing – you’re not going to be good at it the first time if you’ve never done it before or if you’ve only done it a few times. Realize that to be an incredible kisser, you’re going to have to get some practice in.

Ask one of your friends that is a girl if you can practice kissing with her. It may seem weird at first, but really, it’s not like you’re “practicing” having sex – it’s just a kiss! A lot of people wait to practice this kind of stuff until it’s the one moment that really matters and you really don’t want to mess up. Guess what ends up happening then? You mess up!

Practicing kissing before you actually are with a woman that you want to show you’re a great kisser will actually make you one – instead of waiting until the crucial moment and simply hoping you get everything right.

How To Seduce Your Ex With A Kiss

Michael Webb — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 23:00:45 +0000

Kissing tips for your ex may seem like pointless since you broke up, but the right kissing tips can actually seduce them into wanting to get back with you! First, you’ve got her to agree to going on a make up date with you but you are both aware of the need to the trust between the two of you to be rebuilt. So it’s time to take it slow. Agree on the limitations between the two of you upfront so there is no misunderstanding because believe you me, when you have finished with your lips, she’ll be begging for it!

Start Off Slow

With agreement at hand, you have to respect the decision to take it slow! However taking it slow doesn’t necessarily mean just holding hands. You’d be surprised as to how erotic, exciting and anticipatory restricting your physical contact can actually be.

There are many types or sorts of kissing that dangle on a continuum that ranges from foreplay to after play like a g-string on a wash line. These kisses range from playful kisses like the chocolate kiss to the cold, peeled grapes kiss. Have I got your attention now?

Don’t Kiss Just Her Mouth

The Kama Sutra lists 19 different types of kisses, but now is your time to invent more! Pay attention to the areas of her body you have neglected before. Just because you are kissing her doesn’t mean you have to restrict yourself to her lips. Why don’t you pay lavish attention to her legs, working your way along her legs, always remembering your self-control. Start at her little toes, to the top of her leg, then back down to her ankles, knees and so on, occasionally blowing against the back of her legs, alternating between hard and lighter breaths. This technique is sure to leave her begging for more!

The Chocolate Kiss

There is also the Chocolate Kiss. What women wouldn’t enjoy this one? It’s always best to use a smooth, creamy chocolate that melts easily in your mouth. The smoother the better, obviously! Once the chocolate starts to melt, kiss her and twirl your tongues around hers.

One could also use hard but small pieces of candy, mix up the colors and try and guess at the different flavors, the fun part being trying to steal her bits of candy as she does yours.

Other creative contributors to “sweet kisses” are caramel, strawberries and cream, which involve the seductive licking of spoons, feeding one another strawberries, exchanging the strawberries with whipped cream between each other’s mouth.

The Champagne Kiss

Champagne or fizzy drink can provide a different sensation so the more fizz, the better. When you are ready to kiss her, take a sip and keep some in your mouth, dribble some into your partners’ mouth gently so that you share more than spill into one another’s mouth.

Use Your Teeth

Okay, so we’ve spoken about lips, but what’s inside the lips besides the tongue are the teeth. Now that’s an interesting thought. Starting slowly, simply graze parts of her body as you kiss her, using the edges of your teeth almost like fingernails, or as you would your tongue, lightly tickling her shoulders, arms and hands. Suck on each one of her fingers and, as you remove them from your mouth, softly apply pressure using your teeth.

Nibble Her Skin

If she enjoyed this, try lightly biting the back of her neck or other body parts in between passionate kissing. Don’t overdo it and remember, when you feel you are going to lose control – STOP! Your agreement was to take it slow, to build trust and I can assure you, by the time the next date night arrives, she will be ready to jump your bones!

Teach Your Man To Give You An Orgasm – In 1 EASY Move!

Kaylen Jackson — Tue, 28 Jun 2011 14:00:36 +0000

Oral sex is hard for a guy to learn – or so you thought. You’ve been with guys that don’t know how to go down on you, and you’ve tried to show him the way but to no avail. Are these men a lost cause? Not hardly! Here’s how to show a guy how to make you have an orgasm, with one simple trick!

Tell Him You Wish You Could Give Yourself Oral Sex

The idea of licking your own clitoris may give you the creeps, but he doesn’t have to know that. Chances are, he thinks the idea is hot – even if it’s impossible. Next time you’re in the mood for your guy to go down on you, tell him that you really wish you could do it yourself. He’ll be intrigued and ask you why – and then you’ll tell him it’s because you know exactly what feels good. This will prompt him to say something along the lines of you teaching him how to do it the way you like – which is precisely what you want him to ask.

If he doesn’t ask outright for you to show him what you like down there, bring it up yourself. After you tell him that you wish you could go down on yourself, ask him if it would be alright if you showed him what to do. “Showed” is the operative word here – he’s been “told” before, probably more than once.

Kiss Him – And Mimic Giving Yourself Oral Sex

If he’s ready for you to show him how you want him to give you cunnilingus, kiss him deeply. When you kiss him, pretend that his mouth is your vagina. Think of his top lip as your clitoris and his bottom lip as your labia. Instead of kissing your partner the way you normally do, think about how you really might give yourself head. Mimic these maneuvers on his mouth. After a few minutes, he’ll get the hint and realize what you’re trying to do – and then start paying attention to exactly what you’re doing so he can do the moves himself.

If he’s not picking up on what you’re putting down, don’t be afraid to tell him. Some guys won’t get it unless you spell it out. So just say, “I’m going to kiss you the way I want you to kiss me – down there.” He’ll definitely be intrigued – he’ll want to see what it is exactly that you want. Plus, this kind of kissing is super hot on its own!

Think Of What Will Turn You On

As you’re kissing your partner, it’s time to think of all the different moves that you do while you’re masturbating as well as the moves other men have used to drive you wild. Think of exactly what you might want, and then use your tongue to do it to your partner’s mouth. For example, if you love to have your clitoris flicked with the tip of a tongue, do so to his top lip. If you’d rather he insert his tongue into your vagina, lightly probe your tongue into his mouth.

Keep in mind the order in which you do things. Try to do different techniques in the order you would like them done to you. He may or may not pick up on this – but if he’s really paying attention, he will.

Don’t Make It Too Complicated

Your guy isn’t going to remember a string of sixteen different things you did with your tongue. Make it easy on him by picking a few of your favorite moves and repeating them in order when kissing him. For example, start with super soft licking and sucking and then progress to flicking his top lip with your tongue to mimic him licking your clitoris. Suck on his top lip for a few seconds, then flatten your tongue out and broadly lick his lips from bottom to top. Then repeat this same set of techniques a few times.

Having only a few techniques to remember as well as the repetition is what will really drive it home and truly teach him what it is you like when he’s giving you oral sex.

Let Him Know When He’s Got It Right

When he starts going down on you, don’t just sit there quietly – if he’s rocking your world, let him know! If you say nothing, he’ll think he’s doing it completely wrong. When he does something right, gasp or moan loudly and shout his name. Make sure that it’s impossible for him to distinguish the difference from a really great technique and one that’s lukewarm.

How Your Penis Is Ruining Your Sex Life

Michael Webb — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 23:00:03 +0000

Your penis, unfortunately, is not the center of a woman’s attention. In fact, most women aren’t going to be as enamored with your penis as you are. So if you want to be with someone who just looooves wieners, be gay.

If that doesn’t sound like an appealing option for you, then learn to tame your manhood. I know, when you’re in arousing situations, it’s screaming in your ear to get it some attention, but if you don’t allow good sense to overrule, you may end up turning her off. Let me give you a few scenarios where you should tune out Mr. Happy.

Scene I:

She wraps her arms around your neck, giving you a long, sensuous kiss.

What your penis tells you: Grab boobies! Grab booty! Get your hands on whatever you can!

What you should do: Return the kiss. Appreciate what you can get out of that act alone – feel the warmth of her lips and the taste of her breath. Keep your hands occupied by stroking her back or hair. This may encourage her arousal. If it doesn’t, try giving her lips a little lick. Never should you resort to mauling to express your attraction. It feels disrespectful to her, and her defenses immediately go up.

Scene II:

You’re on the couch watching a movie, and you start making out.

What your penis tells you: Put her hand down your pants! Push her face into your lap!

What you should do: If you’re making out for a bit, this time when it’s okay to head for second base. Just don’t grab! Ease your way up there. The nipples tend to be quite sensitive, so if you’re gentle with them it can be a great source of arousal for her. Then maybe you can pause the movie and politely suggest retiring to the bedroom for a bit.

Scene III:

The clothes are off, and sex is definitely going to happen.

What your penis tells you: Stick it in! Stick it in! Stick it in NOW!

What you should do: Take deep breaths. Concentrating on your breath will help occupy your mind, and the steady oxygen to your brain will have a calming effect. Once you’ve cleared the testosterone cloud, you can really enjoy the sex. Inhale her scent, and feel her skin. Become cognizant of the woman with you. It will only increase the pleasure of the experience. In the end, your penis will thank you.

3 Kissing Tips That Will Drive Her Wild!

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 19 Jun 2011 14:00:40 +0000

Kissing is one of the best ways to turn a girl on – women love to kiss and it ignites their senses immediately. The same isn’t true for guys – they respond better to visual stimulation, such as porn. However, with a kiss, you allow a woman’s imagination to go wild, which will have her all over you in no time. Here’s how to kiss a girl and make her melt.

Wait Until You Know That She Wants To Be Kissed

You don’t want to surprise a woman with a kiss when she’s not ready, because it can totally backfire and depending on the woman’s mood, it could ruin the whole evening. You want to feel the situation out first and make sure you’re fairly confident that she wants to be kissed before you actually head in for the smooch.

To find out if she’s really ready for you to make the next move, get in your girl’s space while flirting. Move in closer to your girl and touch your lady’s hand or arm softly. How does she respond? If she seems to like it, that’s your cue to continue. Move in closer and closer, touching your girl’s arm and then moving to brush the hair out of her face and touch her cheek softly. If you get a good response to all of these maneuvers, you can be pretty confident that she’s ready for a kiss.

Knowing When She Doesn’t Want To Be Kissed

Making a kiss absolutely perfect is all about having the right timing. Timing is everything when it comes to seducing a woman. You don’t want to do it when she’s not responding well to your advances, because that usually means that she’s just not in the mood. That’s the whole purpose of feeling your woman out to begin with – because if she’s not into what you’re doing, it’s better if you stop and simply try again another time.

If she doesn’t seem into it, it doesn’t mean that she’s not into YOU – in fact, quite the opposite may be true. If she doesn’t want you to make a move now, she may still be into it later. Pay attention to your girl’s body language and cues. She’ll let you know when she’s ready.

Start Slowly And Gently

If she seems ready for kissing, it’s important that you start slowly and gently, and work your way into building it up into something more passionate. You don’t want to start off with tongue right away – even if she’s ready for a kiss, if you plow into your woman with your mouth right off the bat, you’re going to turn her off immediately and probably cause her to shut down for the rest of the night.

Pay attention to the kissing tips you’ve heard before and be aware of introducing tongue too early or using too much tongue. Some girls don’t even like tongue during kissing, so make sure you’re paying attention to your girl’s responses to each move that you make. If she backs off a little or seems uninterested in what you’re doing, switch it up and do something a little different. Backtrack a little and start kissing more softly if you were escalating too fast.

Slowly Escalate To More Passionate Kissing

If she seems into what you’re doing, that’s your cue to take it to the next level. Just like how foreplay is important for sex, slowly building up the kiss is important when you’re making out with a woman. If she keeps responding to your advances though, you know that you’re okay to kick it up a notch.

Start slowly bringing your hands up to cradle your lady’s face or place them on her hips to draw her body close to you. Gently move your lips down to the chin and lightly kiss your girl’s neck. You can also gently nibble the ear before moving up to put your lips on hers again. If you’re moving at the right pace, you might end up seducing your girl into having sex with you! However, if you go too fast, you’re bound to turn your woman off before you can even understand what happened.

Always Start From Scratch

Each time you go to kiss a woman – even if you’ve done it hundreds of times before – you want to start from scratch. Don’t assume that because you guys had an intense make out session last week that you can jump right back in where you left off. Even in long term relationships, you want to approach a girl like you’ve never kissed her before and take steps to make sure that she is ready.

How To Get Your Man In The Mood – TONIGHT!

Kaylen Jackson — Fri, 03 Jun 2011 14:00:02 +0000

These sex tips to turn the heat up with your lover are almost GUARANTEED to work! Even though men are usually up for having sex, sometimes you need to put in a little effort to get your partner to start thinking about slipping in between the sheets with you. Apart from telling him up front that you want to get it on, try these super steamy sex tips tonight and have him begging for more!

Cook With Cloves

Cloves have long been known to be an aphrodisiac for both men and women, but they get a lot less press than other aphrodisiacs such as oysters or ginseng and ginkgo biloba. One woman who ate a clove soup with her man ended up having sex with her man all night – and it happened again the next time she made the soup! Cooking with cloves can definitely revv up your lover’s libido and have him craving sex – and it will work for you too! Next time you make dinner, find a recipe that has cloves in it, such as a ham baked with cloves or a clove flavored Bundt cake.

Be A “Damsel In Distress”

Men love to rescue women – it’s hard wired into their DNA to do it. Does this mean you have to completely give up your female independence to make him feel like the Alpha male though? Of course not. However, playing a “damsel in distress” every now in then will be all you need to get your partner wanting to lift your skirt up and bend you over.

Next time you want to get it on with your lover, have him come over and fix something for you or lift something really, really heavy that you just can’t manage to lift by yourself. Whatever you ask him to do, make sure it’s something really manly that you couldn’t possibly do on your own. Bonus points if he comes over to do his job and you’re wearing skimpy lingerie. He’ll definitely get the idea then!

Play A Little Hard To Get

Men also love the chase – it’s part of the reason they really don’t like clingy women. Men want to be with a woman who is confident enough not to NEED him too much or smother him with affection. Use this tactic to your advantage by playing a little hard to get. Flirting is probably the best way to do this. Flirt with your partner unabashedly – tease him, banter with him and let him get a glimpse of your ass in a tight pair of jeans as you walk away. It won’t be long before he’s tearing your jeans off and initiating a night full of passion.

Dress Up

You don’t necessarily have to dress up to get your partner to start thinking about sex, but take some time to make sure you look good. Often, women get comfortable in relationships and don’t do their makeup as often or worry about what their wearing. Usually, this isn’t a problem because men love to see their women in a pair of pajama pants that make your butt look good.

However, sometimes women get too comfortable and a guy’s “sex mechanism” doesn’t get turned on or want to have sex as much – because you’re not looking sexy, you’re not feeling sexy. And he can pick up on that. So go get a pedicure, a manicure, a wax job and buy a new bra and panty set. Do your hair and makeup, even if you’re just hanging out around the house. If you’re confident and looking hot, he’ll want to jump your bones ASAP.

Make Out

Another thing that couples forget about when they’ve been in a relationship for awhile is how much fun just kissing can be! Remember when you first got together with your current partner and you spent hours just kissing without worrying about when you were going to have sex or even what you were going to do next? There’s really something about making out with your partner – without thinking about sex – that makes sex even hotter when you finally do head to the bedroom!

Next time you and your lover are hanging out on the couch and watching a movie, lean over and start kissing his neck softly. Move up to his lips and kiss him deeply. If he starts to move his hands to start taking off your clothes, stop him. Use your lips to show him that you just want to kiss – for now. After you’ve teased him enough with your lips, then you can let him take it further.

6 Ways To Set Monogamy On Fire

Kaylen Jackson — Tue, 10 May 2011 14:00:28 +0000

Sex gets boring when you’re monogamous – but does it have to? Should you resign yourself to lame sex just because you’re in an exclusive relationship with someone? Of course not. Part of the benefits of being in a steady relationship is being comfortable enough with someone to try new things and go a little bit outside your box. Here’s how you can heat up your sex life – tonight.

Take A Break

A lot of couples that are in a sex rut just keep trying to have great sex with each other, but it always ends up being mediocre no matter how hard they try. Instead, remember the quote “absence makes the heart grow fonder” and apply it to this situation. Plan to take a break from sex all together for a few weeks. This may seem like the exact opposite of what you want to do, but abstaining from sex for a little while will actually make it hotter when you do get back together.

Give A Foot Or Back Rub

No, not an erotic massage. This actually isn’t going to get you sex right away – but it will help your partner to become more open with their bodies and more receptive to your touch. Next time your partner has a hard day at work, grab a little massage oil and give them a great rubdown. Really get into it and do it well. Make it good, and show them that you truly do care for them. This act of complete selflessness and genuine interest in how they feel will help them open up to you sexually.

Pay Compliments

After being in a relationship for awhile, you tend to take your partner for granted. We all do it, but getting too comfortable contributes to a boring sex life. Next time your lover spends a lot of time getting ready, puts on a new outfit or does something out of the ordinary to look good, make sure you pay them a compliment. Let them know you still find them sexy and attractive. Take this a step further and compliment your partner for something completely ordinary. Guys will enjoy a compliment on their hard work or something they’ve fixed while women respond well to compliments on their ideas.

Touch Each Other

Couples who have been together for a significant amount of time find that they don’t touch each other as much. Not necessarily just in the bedroom, but in general. They may avoid brushing up against each other or simply keep their hands to themselves more often. Improve your sex life with your lover just by making an effort to touch them more every day. Hold hands in the car while you’re driving to work or take time for a prolonged hug when you get home. Don’t let a day go by where you don’t touch your partner several times a day, both casually and passionately.

Make Out

Remember when you used to kiss your lover just for the sake of kissing? In fact, you probably kissed for hours without ever thinking of what was going to happen next. Bring that back to life in your current relationship by having a good old fashioned make out session with your lover. Put on a great movie (but maybe something you’ve seen before so you aren’t tempted to get too engrossed in it) and start softly kissing your partner’s neck.

Move to their lips and make it clear that you want to make out. Don’t let things progress past making out or heavy petting. Then, go to bed without ever thinking of having sex or where the kissing will lead. It won’t be long before your lover can’t stand it anymore!

Do Something Taboo

Part of what makes sex boring in a monogamous relationship is that things stop being “taboo.” You start expecting things a certain way and know what’s going to happen next. Shake things up a bit by doing something with your partner that is “taboo” or slightly outside of your box. Instead of doing what you normally do in the bedroom, take it out on the couch or even outside to the yard or in the car. Bring in a new sex toy or try bondage for the first time.

When you’re with someone you completely trust and love, you have the benefit of being able to try new things without the fear of judgement. You can be open and honest about what you like and what you want to try – and the same goes for them. Take advantage of the opportunity and do something with them you’ve never done before!

Little Everyday Things that Keep Romance Alive

Andrew Wang — Fri, 15 Apr 2011 14:00:06 +0000

Romance tends to fade in long term relationships and once you’ve been together for awhile, it can be easy to assume that your mate knows just how much you love them. As you settle into a more routine state of couple-hood, however, you may find that some of the romance and excitement has faded.

It’s important to make sure that you make an effort express your love and affection for your significant other on a regular basis. Keeping the passion of your early relationship going doesn’t require a big production, either. There are easy everyday gestures that you can make that will let your partner know just exactly how much you love them.

Love Is A Basic Human Need

As human beings, we all need to feel loved and cared for. The mere act of doing someone a favor without their having to ask can show just how much you feel for them. There are all sorts of simple favors you can perform on any given day. If your S.O. typically takes their lunch to work, wake up ten minutes early and make it for them every once and awhile.

Volunteer to take over their half of the chores when you know they’ve had a particularly bad week. If you don’t live together, offer to come over and make them dinner or clean their place, instead. These small gestures are thoughtful and truly helpful, and your girlfriend or boyfriend will find them incredibly sweet.

Little Things Make It Romantic

Doing things without any major motive is also a way to bring romance into your relationship. Bringing over flowers just for the heck of it, or serving up breakfast in bed on a Saturday morning, are two classic examples. There are other great random acts, too. There are lots of opportunities to surprise your partner with inexpensive but thoughtful little gifts.

While you’re out grocery shopping, pick up your mate’s favorite candy bar or snack. Bring over a bottle of champagne or sparkling wine to add an extra air of romance to a typical evening in. Did your S.O. recently mention in passing how much they loved eating chocolate chip cookies as a kid? Surprise them with a homemade batch courtesy of yours truly.

Don’t Forget Physical Intimacy

Of course, love also has its physical side. Making sure to kiss and hug everyday is very meaningful. Even if it’s just a quick peck goodbye in the morning, it helps to keep you physically connected. If you see your S.O. sitting around looking stressed out, walk over and give them a five minute shoulder rub and a kiss on the cheek. When you’re watching TV or a movie, sit side by side and hold hands or cuddle. If you feel like sneaking a kiss or two during the commercial break, and that leads to more, then more power to you. The important thing is to keep up regular physical contact. You’ll both be happier for it.

Saying, “I Love You”

There is another simple way to remind your partner of how much you love them. Just tell them. Say it every night before bed or every morning before you leave for work. Say it right before you hang up on the phone or type it at the end of your text. The phrase “I love you” can be reassuring, romantic—even sexy. No matter when or how you say it, make sure that you do. It’s important to put that little daily reminder across to your S.O., so they’ll always know how you feel about them. Combine these words with the other aforementioned thoughtful gestures, and everyday will have an air of romance about it.

Public Displays Of Affection: Where Do You Draw The Line?

Andrew Wang — Wed, 02 Mar 2011 23:00:55 +0000

Public displays of affection aren’t at all uncommon. Love and amazing sexual chemistry can be like blinders on a horse. You’re out with your significant other, and all you can see or focus on is them. That’s a wonderful feeling to be sure, but you have to be careful about just how far you go when you’re out in public. This is not only because no one really wants to be that inappropriately gross couple, but also because you never know who might be around.

If you’re dry-humping on a blanket in the park and your boss or your grandmother happens to stroll by and see you, you are going to be in for some major embarrassment. Consider your surroundings and the likelihood of such a scenario occurring before you start getting hot and heavy.

Location, Location, Location

Engaging in appropriate levels of PDA is not unlike purchasing real estate—it’s all about location, location, location. There are loads of questions to ask yourself when you’re out with your S.O. and feeling frisky.

Are you somewhere that relatives or co-workers of yours often frequent?
Is the location the kind of place where lots of children will be around, like a playground or amusement park?

In these scenarios, it’s probably best to go no further than some hand-holding and the occasional kiss or two. Your company’s friends and family picnic is hardly the appropriate place to make out with your boyfriend or girlfriend for an hour.

On the other hand, if you’re out dancing at a club, you’ll be much more likely to get away with lots of kissing and getting handsy. If you’re on some tropical getaway where you don’t know anyone, you can feel free to indulge yourselves as well. As long as you’re not doing anything that might get you arrested if you get caught, there’s really no need to worry.

Even if someone walks down the beach at night and sees you fooling around on a lounge chair, the odds that you’ll ever encounter that person again are slim-to-none.

How Dark Is It?

Light levels are another important factor to take into consideration. If you’re out in broad daylight or in a well-lit room surrounded by people, everyone will know exactly what you’re up to. If you’re in the last row in a dark movie theater or the back corner booth at a bar with low-lighting, most of your antics will be obscured from the general population’s view.

It’s even better if you can make sure that you’re located out of the sightline of most of the people in the space you’re in. Again, the last row in a dark theater works if there’s really no one sitting near you. If the theater is packed, you might want to keep your activity to a minimum. You probably wouldn’t want to be sitting directly next to a strange girl giving her guy a handjob if the situation was reversed, so show the people sitting near you the same respect.

The Defining Question….

Perhaps that’s the most important factor to consider. If you were out and about and saw a strange couple doing what you’re about to do, how would you feel about it? When we’re head-over-heels, it can be difficult to keep a grasp on what’s acceptable or not.

It’s easy to feel that we’re different—an exception to the rule. So pull yourself out of the situation for a minute and imagine if you were the accidental observer of the movie theater blowjob or the heavy makeout session at the mall. Showing others the courtesy that you would expect will typically help you from going too far when it comes to PDA.

Q&A: I Want Him To Touch Me More When We Make Out

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 18 Feb 2011 14:00:31 +0000

When kissing your lover, you may want to move on to some heavy petting but he may not seem ready to – at least, on the surface. Is it because he really doesn’t want to go that far or because he’s afraid he’s going to touch you the wrong way and upset you for going too far? Chances are, it’s the latter. Here’s how to get him to try a little foreplay while you’re making out!

Question: I want my boyfriend to touch me more when we’re making out. Can you help me on how to encourage that?

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Is He Afraid To Make The First Move?

A lot of guys – especially guys who have been in relationships before – have been chastised for doing something wrong or touching a woman in the wrong way while making out or using foreplay. He may be unsure where to touch you or how you like to be touched, so he may just be afraid to make the first move in fear of doing something wrong or touching you in a way that might offend you or turn you off.

If you think he’s afraid to make the first move, try talking to him about it when you’re not making out, such as over lunch or a romantic dinner. Let him know without criticizing him that you love kissing him and making out with him, but you would love it even more if you could feel his hands on your body. Be sure to let him know how far is too far though – if you’re not ready for sex, let him know where you’re going to draw the line. It will only make things worse if you give him the go ahead to touch you while you’re kissing each other but you have to reprimand him as soon as he goes “too far.” Make sure he knows ahead of time what is okay and what makes you uncomfortable.

Gently Guide Him Verbally

When you’re in the moment, it’s super sexy to whisper into your lover’s ear what you’d like him to do next. Guys really love this for two reasons – because your hot breath in his ear turns him on and because your guidance means that he doesn’t have to guess at what to do and when to do it. This will help him to learn what you like and when you like it, because a lot of guys (actually, most guys) aren’t sure when to move forward because they just don’t want to cross that line without the go-ahead from you.

This is also a great time to introduce dirty talk! Guys love dirty talk and it’s a great way to really heat things up while you’re making out. Tell your partner in a sexy way what you want him to do – such as saying, “I love it when you pinch my nipples” or “I’d like you to touch my ____.” Also include descriptive words such as “hard, soft, slow, etc.” that not only lets him know where to make his next move, but also how you’d like it. This gives him confidence to actually make the moves, because he’s not scared he’s going to do something that will upset you or turn you off.

Give Him Positive Reinforcement

When he does something that you really enjoy, make sure you praise him and let him know that you liked it. You definitely want to let him know that you like something while he’s doing it by making noise or showing him with your body language that he hit the right spot, but you also want to follow that up with verbal encouragement as well. Men need to hear what they’re doing right if you want them to keep doing it – chances are, if you don’t give him that positive reinforcement, he’ll assume that he’s doing it wrong and stop, even if you absolutely love what he’s doing. Remember to keep the comments positive too – a negative comment will stick with him for a long time and negate all of the nice things you said. If you must redirect him, don’t tell him he’s doing something wrong – instead, let him know that you liked something else even better.

How To Show Him What You Like

Use chocolate sauce to highlight the areas you want him to lick and suck
Use a feather tickler to trace the path you want his mouth or hands to take around your body
Bring home a book on erotic massage and read it together – try the techniques on him first and then let him try them on you
Use your imagination to give your partner visual aids on where and how you want him to touch you!

10 Valentine’s Day Kissing Tips

Kaylen Jackson — Thu, 03 Feb 2011 14:00:09 +0000

Valentine’s Day is well known as the “kissing” holiday. Whether you’re planning on having sex later or not, if you have someone to kiss on Valentine’s Day, you’re definitely going to be kissing them – and hopefully for more than just a few seconds. Make this February 14th a day (or night!) to remember with these super sweet and sensual kissing tips.

Don’t Rush The Kiss

A great Valentine’s Day kiss shouldn’t be rushed. Even if you’re excited to begin oral sex or intercourse, rushing through the kiss could actually end up backfiring on you. Kiss your partner slowly and with meaning behind it. Don’t let your eagerness to get on with other things come through in the kiss – instead, go slowly and act as though you have nowhere else to be and nothing better to do!

The Tongue Isn’t Everything

When kissing, remember that the tongue isn’t everything. The lips and teeth play a huge part in a great kiss too! Kiss your partner softly with just your lips, without moving your tongue towards their mouth at all. Nibble their lips and keep yours soft and pushed out slightly so your lover can nibble on your lips too.

Snuggle In Between Kisses

For longer makeout sessions, it’s important to take breaks from kissing to catch your breath. In between kisses, don’t ignore your partner to catch a glimpse at the television or let your mind wander. Instead, snuggle with your significant other and let them know how special they are to you and how good it feels to be wrapped up in their arms. Snuggling will make your partner feel super blissed out, especially on a day like Valentine’s Day!

Kissing Is Not A Means To An End

The biggest mistake that men make when it comes to the art of kissing is that they treat it as though it is a means to an end and a way to get on with more important things, like getting a blowjob or having sex. Most women enjoy kissing in and of itself, and if they feel as though you’re more interested in getting it on, they may decide they don’t want to put out or move forward with heavy petting, sex or oral sex.

Kiss Other Parts Of The Body Too

Don’t limit your kissing to just your partner’s mouth this Valentine’s Day. Remember to move your lips softly across your partner’s cheek, nibble their ear and dip your head low to kiss and nibble their neck. Don’t go below the neck though, or your lover may think that you’re only interested in having sex! By remembering the sweet spots other than the lips and mouth, you can ensure a great makeout session that doesn’t bore you or your partner easily.

Make The Kiss Delicious

Even if you practice great oral hygiene, you can make the kiss even more delicious by adding mints or candies or even experimenting with temperatures! For a kiss that is cool as a cucumber, pop a breath mint in before kissing your partner. To heat it up, use cinnamon gum, candies or cinnamon mints. Your lover won’t be expecting a deliciously flavored kiss! You can also bring the temperature up or down by alternating sucking on ice or sipping iced tea with drinking a hot drink such as hot tea, hot cocoa or cappuccino. Just make sure that if you’ve made yourself a nice cup of joe, that you have one for your partner too!

Compliment Your Lover

Use the breaks you’re taking in between kissing to whisper sweet nothings in your significant other’s ear. You can, of course, combine this with nibbling and sucking your partner’s earlobe! Let your partner know how good they look this Valentine’s Day, or let them know how important or special they are to you. If you are in a committed relationship with your partner, this would be a good time to tell your partner that you love them.

Bring Along The Chapstick

If you plan on making out with your lover for longer than several minutes (which you probably should if its Valentine’s Day) both of you are going to end up with some very chapped lips. Bring along the Chapstick to make both of you more comfortable during kissing and after!

Experiment With Bondage

You don’t have to be having sex to have a little fun with bondage. Practice tying your partner up and kissing them all over! Take turns and let your lover kiss you when you are immobilized.

Don’t Let Your Partner Get Blue Balls

Yes, both men and women can get blue balls. If this happens while you are making out, engage in a little heavy petting and give him a handjob, finger her or try sixty-nining for mutual oral sex. If you’ve had sex before, this would be a perfect time to shed the clothes and let off a little steam!

3 Clumsy Ways To Make Your First Kiss Romantic

Vin DiCarlo — Tue, 11 Jan 2011 23:00:42 +0000

Kissing is one of the best things you can do to connect with someone you like, but the pressure for it to be amazing is on. What’s a first kiss look like, to you? Probably like a scene from the movies, where the hero and the woman lean in, stop for a second, then violently kiss each other.

In reality, your first kiss may be more like the kiss in the movie “Superbad”: An awkward kiss that leaves one of you disappointed. (In the movie, the woman ends up with a broken nose!)

Have you ever wondered how you can make your first kiss sweep a woman right off of her feet? Or how to have your first kiss turn her on, so your kiss turns into something more? (Like you being invited into her place?)

The answer is: “Awkward” first kisses are the way to go. And here are three suggestions to help you win the woman of your dreams:

Be Creepier Than Any Other Guy She Knows

Women even have a name for it. “The Stare” is when a man looks at a woman for too damn long, thereby creeping her out. Most of the time, “The Stare” is a sure fire way to turn a woman off, except “The Stare” works wonders, when you’re about to have a first kiss.

How do you pull off “The Stare” on a first kiss? It’s really easy! Just follow these directions:

Let the conversation die off and look straight into her eyes.
Hold eye contact for three seconds, exactly.
Look down at her lips for a second, then look back into her eyes…
Smile, pull her waist closer to you, and lean in for the kiss…

Ask any woman: Pull this off, and it’s full of romance. Even though this same stare is “certified creepy as hell” from any man, ANY time before the kiss.

Stalk Her Like A Pro

Have you ever heard a woman go lust-crazed over a stalker? No way! Most women want to get rid of ANY man stalking her as quickly as possible. What does a stalker do? He follows her home! He waits for her to get out of work! He hangs around her too long, too often and at inappropriate times!

However, here’s how you can be her personal stalker and make your first kiss incredible:

After your first date, let her go inside. Wait for a few seconds, then knock on her door. When she answers, do “The Stare,” above.
If you guys are already really close friends who have “nearly kissed” a few times, show up waiting for her after work. (Somewhere outside, not in the building, not near her car) Tell her, “I spent the whole day thinking about you, and I had to give you something.” Kiss her. This works best after a night where you two “nearly kissed.”
Mid conversation during a date – when you think things are going really well – Give her “The Stare” from above. She’ll stop everything she’s doing, go quiet, and you’ll interrupt her with your first kiss! (Ask her to keep talking after it’s over, as if nothing extraordinary had happened)

These “stalkerish” times to kiss a woman will sweep your new girl right off her feet.

Play Mr. Nice Guy

What’s the clumsiest way to get a first kiss from a woman? Let her know what’s about to happen, RIGHT before it goes down. Because then she gets to think “OMG… He’s about to kiss me!”

When’s the best time to ask this question? Right when you’re busy being a Stalker, of course! Simply interrupt her conversation at dinner, then ask this:

“Would it be OK if I kissed you, right now?”
Wait for her answer – hopefully it’s “yes!” (In fact, never ask this question if you think the answer may be no…)
Then say, “Nah, I think I’ll wait.” And smile. She’ll go nuts! And you can kiss her any time later in the date by interrupting the conversation again and then just going for it.

How To Kiss A Girl Without Fear Of Rejection

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 14:00:35 +0000

Flirting with a woman and making the move to kiss her is incredibly intimidating. In fact, most guys clam up before making the move to kiss her for the first time because they’re so afraid of rejection. There’s a lot of pressure for a guy to make the first kiss perfect, because many girls will judge the guy or even the whole relationship just based on how “good” the first kiss is. Being rejected by a woman definitely stings and can keep a lot of guys from even asking a woman out. To lean in and kiss someone for the first time takes confidence – here’s how you can do it and not have the fear of rejection!

Kissing Mistakes Almost Every Guy Makes

There are two types of kisses that will send a lady running for the hills. Many guys get so nervous and worked up when flirting with a woman that they talk almost non-stop and rush into a kiss before she even has a chance to figure out what is going on. This can make her recoil quickly, which is definitely not the desired reaction to a first kiss. Men will also try their hardest to put a “romantic movie finish” on the end of a date, which may not feel like the right thing to do at the time. He’ll go in for the “movie star” style kiss, which often ends up being awkward or jerky because it’s not the right thing for that particular moment.

Set The Mood

The environment and the mood surrounding a kiss is an essential part in making the atmosphere “feel right” for what is about to happen. Make sure you and your girl are both comfortable and relaxed. You should be sitting close together, perhaps with your hand on her leg or touching each other in some way. Jumping in and kissing her after sitting across the room for ten minutes is just going to be awkward – especially if it’s the first time with a new date! Choose an intimate, romantic spot and spend some time just talking to each other, flirting and building that emotional intimacy. A great first kiss is something that happens naturally, because it’s the “natural” next step to take with each other in that moment. A bad kiss is one that is forced and uncomfortable or awkward and jerky.

Is She Ready To Be Kissed?

Part of making sure you’re kissing your woman at the right time is reading and interpreting her body language. Believe it or not, she’s using her body language to let you know that she’s wanting you to make the next move – you just have to pick up on it. Here are some things she’ll do if she’s showing you she wants you to move on in for a soft peck – or more.

Is she leaning towards you or getting closer to you?
Is she making an effort to touch you in some way?
Does she seem to really want to be in your space?
When you touch her, does she pull away or lean in for more?
Is she watching your mouth or watching your lips move when you speak?
Is she licking her lips?
Is she flirting back?

Use Your Own Body Language

Practice flirting with your date and get her primed for a kiss by using your own body language to signal to her what you want to happen next. Here are some great ways you can signal to your lady that you want to move on to the next step and start kissing or making out with her.

Lick your lips or watch her lips as she speaks
Switch from looking her in the eyes to watching her mouth
Lean in close to gauge her reaction to your flirting
Touch her in some way, by leaning up against her or laying your hand on her leg as you talk to each other

Making The Move

If she seems like she’s wanting to be kissed, don’t hesitate to make the first move. Don’t wait – if your gut is telling you that now is the right time, it’s important that you take advantage of it. A common way that guys turn a perfect moment into an awkward one is waiting too long after the time is “right” to make a move and flirting with her when she’s really ready for you to put your mouth on hers. If she’s showing you that she’s wanting to kiss, but it doesn’t seem like she wants to rush into it, don’t be afraid to take it slow and make baby steps. You don’t have to go into a full on make out session right away – a soft peck or sweet kiss is just fine for the first time. Use your instinct to judge what feels right and when.

Drive Him Wild With Just A Kiss – 4 Must Try Moves

Kaylen Jackson — Fri, 05 Nov 2010 23:00:51 +0000

Kissing is of course a prelude to great sex, but sometimes a kiss can be all you need to drive your man wild. There are many different kissing techniques you can use, but sometimes techniques aren’t what really turn him on – it’s often the type of kiss that will send him to the moon. Here’s how to master four different types of kisses that you can use throughout the day to tease him and make him wonder what’s next after the day is over and the bedroom doors are closed!

The Greeting Kiss

You may not think that the quick “hello” kiss after you both arrive home from work is worth much, but you can definitely turn it into something that will make your man’s brain switch from regular mode to “I-Want-Sex-Now” mode almost instantaneously. When you first see your guy, before you say a single word to him, take a few seconds to look him up and down and bite or lick your lips playfully. When you have his interest piqued, plant a big kiss on him when he’s least expecting it. Make this kiss last at least several seconds, almost as though it were foreplay, and don’t be afraid to kiss him deeply with your lips and tongue. You are letting him know, “this is what I’ve been thinking about all day.” Pull back slowly and look him in the eyes meaningfully. Then say, “hello!”

The Full On Make Out

Remember when you and your guy were first together and hadn’t had sex yet? Remember when making out was so great because you weren’t sure whether it was just going to be kissing or maybe it would be something more this time? If your sex life has been suffering from the “Stuck On Home Base” syndrome and you’re just heading straight for sex with your guy because that’s what you always do, you can definitely use this kissing technique to your advantage. When you’re in the mood, set the stage by giving your guy a full on French kiss. Then keep kissing him, and then after that, kiss him some more. Make no move to go any further than just making out and if he makes a move, gently deflect it for a few minutes. He’ll be going crazy wondering if – and when – you’re going to turn it into something more! Your guy will likely be erect during the make out session, and a great deal of blood will be pumping to his penis the entire time. This will work to your advantage when you finally do give him a blowjob or a handjob, because it will make the sensations ten times more powerful!

The Just Because You Can Kiss

One of the benefits of being in a long term relationship is getting to kiss your partner whenever you want. That’s the deal, right? Take advantage of the fact that you can kiss your partner whenever you feel like it and give him surprise kisses out of the blue. They can be short or long, as long as none of them are a “quickie peck.” Make sure you mean each and every one of them. Each kiss is meant to say, “You’re mine and I can do this whenever I want and I’m going to.” He may even catch on to the idea and start giving you random, out of the blue kisses too! It also lets him know that you’re thinking of him in that moment and makes him think you just can’t help yourself!

The Goodbye Kiss

The Goodbye kiss is equally as powerful as the Greeting kiss, but it can also be way too understated if you let it. Instead of giving your partner a short hug and kiss goodbye, wrap your arms around your partner and hold them there for a few seconds or minutes. Kiss them deeply and wrap your fingers in their hair, tugging lightly. Heck, why not wrap your leg around him too? The point of this kiss is to say, “I don’t care if you’re going, right now in this moment, it’s just you and me.” Kissing him tenderly and sensually with a hint of urgency and confidence will make him forget anything exists at all except for you and him, right then and there. One of the best benefits of a great Goodbye kiss is that it guarantees that he will pretty much be thinking of you (and what he wants to do to you) the entire time he is gone. Pair this with a sensually powerful Greeting kiss and you have a recipe for absolutely explosive passionate sex!

Q&A: Kissing Tips

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 14:00:20 +0000

Kissing is one of the most intimate things you can do with someone and sometimes it can be even more titillating and amazing than sex! Kissing doesn’t always come naturally though, and you definitely don’t want to be a bad kisser. Here’s how you can learn to be a great kisser, no matter who you’re kissing or how good or bad you are at it to begin with!

Question: Do you have any good kissing tips?

–YouTube Viewer

Relax And Start Slow

There’s no need to rush into kissing! Kissing is sensual and passionate, so it’s important to relax and let yourself be in the moment. If you’re too tense and nervous, you’re not going to be kissing very well and your partner will definitely notice your stiffness. Take a few minutes to breathe before you begin kissing and allow yourself to become loose and relaxed. Start slow, and work your way up to more heavy “making out.” You can, of course, continue kissing slow if you want! That’s one of the best things about kissing – it can be whatever you want it to be, whether you want to make out passionately with your partner or kiss them in a slow, delicious, sensual way.

It’s Not A Means To An End

Many couples who have already had sex treat kissing like it is a means to an end and that kissing is simply a short prelude to the actual act of intercourse. These couples need to start treating kissing like couples who haven’t had sex do, and kiss or make out with each other just for the sake of kissing or making out! For most couples that have not yet had sex don’t have anywhere to “go” at the end of the kiss, so they make the kiss last as long as possible! To become a great kisser, don’t think of kissing as first base and your goal as home base. Instead, treat kissing like it’s the only place you have to be or want to go. Let the kissing overcome you and don’t be worried about what is going to happen next.

Practice Good Oral Hygiene

Many great kissers become bad kissers not because of their technique, but simply because of their poor oral hygiene. Practice great hygiene and your partner may not notice your actual kissing ability. Instead, they’ll be thinking about how great your mouth tastes and smells! Instead of just chewing gum and using breathmints, which only serve to cover up unsavory smells and tastes, actually get your mouth clean. Visit your dentist regularly for cleanings and have any infections or cavities treated and taken care of. Brush your teeth daily or twice a day, and floss daily as well. Common dental problems like cavities, plaque and gum disease can make your breath smell and taste bad, making your partner not want to kiss you no matter how good you are. If you put your oral hygiene first, you’ll become a great kisser by proxy and then you can spend time working on your actual techniques to take being a good kisser to the next level and become a great kisser!

A Review Of Love Making Methods That Are Sure To Please Your Woman

Lee Jenkins — Tue, 15 Jun 2010 14:00:34 +0000

As silly as it may seem, a lot of men tend to forget the basics of lovemaking when the urge to release takes over. Imagine you’re with a girl and you’re really turned on. You start out slow then the desire to release takes over and you start focusing only on what would feel good to you. It happens to every man, so don’t think that you’re the only one who does this during sex. However, if you really want to be the girl’s best lover ever, you’d better not forget the basics of how to please a woman.

When you’re about to lose it, take a deep breath and recall all the fundamental methods of lovemaking that I’ll list here.

French Kissing

Every time you make out with a girl, you should never forget to kiss her lips. In fact, kiss her whenever you can, even when you’re already in the middle of sex. A kiss is more than just a physical gesture to get her aroused, it builds an emotional connection with the girl you’re having sex with.

Eye Contact

Not many women will admit this, but one secret fear that every woman thinks about during sex is that the guy could be thinking of another woman. Keeping eye contact will make her feel that you’re with her, you’re not just using her for your pleasure and that she’s the only one you’re thinking of during sex.

Fingering

I’m sure you know the basics of fingering, but it helps to remember that proper fingering technique involves imagination and sensitivity. Just remember that you can do more things with your fingers than you can do with your member. For starters, you can crook your finger, move it around more often and you can use it to reach every nook and cranny of your partner’s hot spots.

Oral Sex

Oral sex on a girl is not a thirty-second affair. Even if you’re not into it (because of the smell or because you’re just squeamish about going down on a woman), you’d better make it a point to stay there for at least 5 to 10 minutes. Remember, you don’t have the right to ask for a 30-minute blowjob if you can’t promise to return the favor.

Sex Positions

If you stick with the same old sex positions every time you make love, your lover will get bored quickly. Make sure you know at least 3 more sex positions besides the Missionary. Some girls are quicker to climax with certain positions, which means you need to experiment with a lot of them to find those that work for your girl.

Any man can stick it in and be done with it. It takes a certain type of guy to consistently create magic during sex. Be the guy who can rock a girl’s world every time by never forgetting the fundamental things that really get women off.

Q&A: How Can I Make My Girlfriend Want To Kiss Me?

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 19 May 2010 01:07:43 +0000

Your first kiss in a new relationship is an important milestone, whether you’ve had dozens of kisses before or have never kissed anyone at all. If you’re going for your first kiss in a new relationship, rushing your partner into it before she wants to can actually backfire on you. Here’s what to do if you’re ready – and she’s not.

Question: Dear Dan and Jenn, I recently got a girlfriend and I really want to kiss her, but she says she doesn’t want to kiss because this is her first relationship and she doesn’t want to kiss until we are older. But I REALLY like her and I was wondering what I can do to make her want to kiss?

–YouTube Viewer

Respect Her Boundaries

Whenever someone says “no” to something, you absolutely have to respect that. Regardless of whether they’re a guy or a girl or what stage your relationship is in, you simply can’t ignore someone if they’re telling you they’re uncomfortable doing something that you want them to do. This applies to kissing, as well as sex. If your partner isn’t ready to kiss you yet, you can’t try to push her past her boundaries. Instead, learn to respect these boundaries because if you were the one who wasn’t comfortable with something, you wouldn’t want her to pressure you about it.

Practice Patience

In any situation where your partner lets you know that they’re not ready to do something or aren’t comfortable with something, it’s important that you learn to practice patience. Having patience when your partner says “no” isn’t always easy, especially if she says “no” to something you want very badly, but it’s the right thing to do. Even if you’re convinced that kissing her will take your relationship to a new and exciting level and she’ll really like it once she tries it, if she’s not ready that’s it. It’s over. Try to fill your time with your partner with other fun things, like playing baseball together or hanging out with friends. If you find yourself tempted to kiss your partner often, plan things to do with her that don’t create quiet, awkward moments alone together. Avoid going to the movies where other people are making out and try to stay busy doing fun activities together so you don’t think so much about kissing her and instead you’re focusing on just being with her and having fun with her.

Could It Harm Your Relationship?

Pressuring your partner to kiss you before she is ready can actually do harm to your relationship. At first she will be annoyed, and then she will become frustrated with you and come to resent you for not respecting her wants and needs. Trying to talk her into doing something she’s made clear she’s uncomfortable with doesn’t win you any brownie points. Even if she gives in and gives you what you want in the end, chances are she’ll remember the hurt for a long time. This definitely has the potential to damage your relationship, so if you value what you have with your partner at all, you won’t pressure her to do something she’s just not ready for.

Not Ready for Sex? Here Are 5 Tips For Steamy Makeout Sessions Without Going All The Way

Jessica Perez — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 22:00:41 +0000

If you’re not ready for sex yet, you’re not alone. There are couples who have decided to not go all the way for one reason or another. Maybe it has something to do with their beliefs and their principles. Maybe they’re just not ready for the consequences of sex (early pregnancy, starting a family too early, etc.).

Your reasons for waiting to have sex are your own; don’t let the pressure get to you. Some women think that they’re letting their boyfriend suffer because of their decision not to go all the way. If you’re one of these girls, you shouldn’t believe that penetration is the only way to make love to your boyfriend.

What’s really important in love making is how you can make your guy feel the ultimate pleasure without giving up your cherry. In short, there are more ways to make a guy reach orgasm than they teach in Sex Ed. Read on to discover five of the best make out techniques you can use to please your man….

5 Tips For Steamy Makeout Sessions Without Going All The Way

Learn The Art Of French Kissing

Torrid kissing is one of the main aspects of your makeout sessions, so you must do it right. Feel free to suck and nibble his lips when you’re feeling playful. Use your tongue to tease his tongue out, not for him to choke on. Play with his tongue using your lips.

Fondle His Member

Give your man a hand job while you’re kissing. One way to make sure his arousal will peak is to coordinate your kissing with your hand movements. For instance, whenever you suck his tongue, squeeze his member a bit and stroke faster. Do the same trick when you’re kissing his neck and ears.

Main a good stroking rhythm and you can bet he’ll be ready to explode by the time you move down to give him head.

Let Him Touch Your Breasts

One way to make him feel that you’re connected with him erotically is to allow him to touch your boobs while you’re kissing and stroking him. He will hear you sigh and moan while you’re kissing him, and this will increase his arousal.

Move Downward Slowly

Getting him excited means moving slowly. This will also ensure that he can feel every stroke of your tongue and every movement of your lips. Moving your head gradually downward while stroking him with the same rhythm will move him closer to orgasm.

Alternate Licking His Member And His Balls

While you’re stroking him up and down, kiss the tip of his member or lick his balls. Let his moans and movements be your guide and be extremely conscious of his reactions so that you know when to intensify the blow job.

Applying these techniques will improve your foreplay skills. The good news is that your man will be more than satisfied, and he will not be looking elsewhere for release whenever he’s horny.

4 Secrets Guaranteed To Spice Up Your Sex Life

W. Wilcox — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 18:40:42 +0000

Sex is a healthy, fundamental component of all good relationships. It unites men and women everywhere, both physically and emotionally and allows both the guy and the girl to truly unleash and express their animalistic AND sensual sides.

But no one’s sex life is perfect. Things slow down, the energy seems to disappear, it’s not as fun or exciting as either of you would like, in short, it needs improving.

So what can you do to get back (or even create for the first time) that special spark that makes great sex so…well, great? Here are 4 top tips.

1. Play Games

The thing that often grinds sex lives to a halt and makes lovemaking become so much of a hassle is the pressure and responsibility that surrounds the whole subject.

For the man, there’s the burden of having to make the girl reach her own climax. For the woman, there’s the strain of making sure her man is sexually satisfied and not bored and liable to go looking elsewhere for sex or questioning the stability and longevity of the relationship they’re both in.

To counteract these negative pressures, try making having sex a less traditional, scheduled, boring task. Instead, pick a couple of fun games that you can play together that are fun and flirty and that can lead casually and smoothly into the actual sex.

Twister, strip poker and spin-the-bottle are all great games that incorporate physical contact and allow both you and your partner to have a little no-hassle, no-responsibility fun that does or doesn’t have to lead to a bout of impromptu lovemaking.

2. New Locations, New Positions

People often have a very 2-dimensional outlook on the nature of sex and how one should go about having it. The vast, vast majority of people, for example, only have sex in the bedroom.

And even they have a set routine, lights dimmed or off, the same progression through the various stages of sex: a little foreplay, intercourse in missionary and maybe doggy if the guy’s lucky and the girls feeling up to it, then it’s pretty much over. Even if your personal situation has more life than that, sex in the bedroom can still become a drag after a while.

So, switch it up. Think about different locations you can use: the living room, bathroom, kitchen…consider all possibilities, even if they at first seem far-fetched and silly. Also, think about locations away from the home once in a while.

Motels and cheap hotels offer a couple a fresh place to explore each other. Secondly, improvise and experiment with the positions you use. Missionary, girl on top, spoons, and doggy are all great, but always try to mix in a few more unusual, adventurous ones to spice things up.

Even if you find yourself in a tangle with your partner, you’ve still had fun and been spontaneous, which is a key component of any great sex life.

3. Communicate Fantasies

Something few men and women do is talk to their partners about what turns them on, about things they’d like to try, scenarios they’d love to act out, etc. etc. Make telling your partner about things that turn you on a regular thing and, in return, you listen to their previously private fantasies and day-dreams.

If doing it face-to-face is too embarrassing, consider sending saucy messages via email or text message. You’ll find that after reading about what really gets your partner going, you’ll be much more excited and motivated to please them sexually, and they’ll feel the same way back!

4. Special Occasions

When you do the same thing many times, even if it started out feeling new and exciting, it can get a little run-of-the-mill and boring. So, to inject a real sense of passion and renewed excitement into your sex life, make certain evenings special nights in (or out, then in!).

Go the whole way to making it feel almost like a celebration and do whatever’s necessary to separate it from your usual lovemaking sessions. Popular favourites include getting dressed up separately from your partner, perhaps at a friend’s house, then meeting them in a restaurant for a meal.

Then, on returning home, you can indulge each other with a slow and sensual massage or perhaps carry out one or more of the fantasies you’ve been hinting to each other about. From there, sex can begin. Maybe on the floor of the living room or even on the stairs.

Remember, impulsiveness and adventurousness are a turn on, use them to kick-start your sex life!

Top 10 Things Women Wish Men Would Do Before, During and After Sex

Lee Jenkins — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 11:15:50 +0000

These days it should come as no surprise that women enjoy sex just as much as men do, but one thing that has stayed the same is that they would like men to ‘just know’ what they want without having to break down and tell them!

This article should make sex a real no-brainer for you from here on thanks to these ten things that women admit to wanting even if they don’t necessarily admit it to you!

Before Sex She Wants You To…

1. Kiss Her

It seems that kissing has become a bit of a lost art in this day and age and this is especially the case when a couple has been together for a long time. Spend a few minutes just kissing (a.k.a. making out) the way you did when you were a teenager. You’d be surprised at how hot kissing can really be!

2. Indulge in Some Foreplay

Women need a little more than guys do in order to get really turned in and primed for action. By treating them to more foreplay, not only do you increase their chances of an orgasm, but you’re also setting yourself up for some very hot sex to follow!

3. Be Romantic

This should come as no shocker to anyone as it has been a problem since the beginning of man! While women enjoy a hard sexy throw down on occasion, they still want to be pampered and romanced a little.

Take some time to light a candle or two or just say something romantic. It doesn’t take a bed sprinkled with rose petals to make a woman happy-though that would be great too.

During Sex She Wants You To…

4. Look Into Her Eyes

You can’t even begin to imagine how incredibly arousing it can be to keep your eyes focused on each other during sex.

It creates an intimacy like nothing else which most women crave from their partners and it can really help you get in tune with each other so you’re better able to know what feels good to them and what could use a little work; all without having to say a word.

5. Be A Little Rough

Yes, women want romance and tenderness, but most often before sex. During sex a woman wants to feel the passion and the urgency that comes from being wanted and desired.

Men are often afraid to be too rough, but the truth is that many women want to be handled a little harder during sex. Note: Tip #5 is a great one to help gauge just how rough you should be with her.

6. Not Forget Her Clitoris

The clitoris is the female equivalent of the penis, meaning that it is full of pleasure-feeling nerve endings that need to be stimulated to achieve orgasm. Most often a man will be so wrapped up in all the thrusting that he will neglect the most sensual part of her body. Spend some time on the clitoris and you’ll make her one happy camper!

After Sex She Wants You To…

7. Cuddle

Big surprise; a woman wants to be held a little after sex as opposed to having you roll over and fall asleep like she’s not even there. Put your arms around her, let her rest her head on you and try to stay awake for the next tip.

8. Say Something

Again, this one should come as no surprise. This is because women tend to feel more vulnerable after sex and by taking the time to listen and talk to her; you are making her feel more at ease and special.

9. Be Tender

Once the passionate, raw sex is done and over with, it’s time to treat her like a delicate little lady again.

And Finally…

10. Have sex with her again!

That’s right; while most men need to rest and regroup after they climax, women are usually good to go again rather quickly and would appreciate another round!

Touch – It’s More Than Sex

Melody Brooke — Fri, 11 May 2007 16:45:59 +0000

Every wonder why a man gets instantly excited by the slightest little touch?

The reasons behind his reaction may not be as simple as assuming that he’s just over-sexed. It may go much, much deeper…

We all associate different emotions (good and bad) with different types of touching such as holding hands, hugging, getting a massage, and kissing. Some of these emotions can be very powerful and have a significant impact on how we relate to others.

Read this great article from featured author Melody Brooke to find out why the way we touch one another is extremely important to a happy and secure relationship.

Touch – It’s More Than Sex

by Melody Brooke, MA, LPC, LMFT

For many men, the opportunity to be touched, even casually by a woman is arousing. And, no, it’s not because men are different than women innately. This is because boys are often raised with little physical nurturance. Some men are so touch deprived that they shut off the awareness of the need for it entirely. As a result they appear cold, distant and emotionally unavailable. They have little understanding of why a woman wants to be touched or cuddled. It completely baffles them.

Many cultures within the larger American culture work to toughen up boys and assume that cuddling, hugging and kissing boys makes “Mama’s boys” or “Sissies” out of them. This creates an environment in which our male children are raised without physical touch. Yet we know, from years of research that touch is a basic need. Babies deprived of touch do not survive; they will quit eating and die. While men, even 5 or 6 year old boys are not infants, they, like all of us have a basic need to be held, to be touched, and otherwise physically nurtured. This need for touch can be hidden away for years, until perhaps in their early teens, a girl steals a kiss or holds his hands. Suddenly he finds himself aroused and from that moment on, associates touch with sex.

Then these poor guys get accused of being hyper sexual because the need for touch, which has been repressed for years, suddenly emerges as sexual desire. The hormone oxytocin carries messages of bonding, safety, overall well being and of love to our brains and to our bodies. It also increases sexual arousal. This hormone is released when there is any type of skin-to-skin contact. This generally happens at the same time as the developmental hormonal changes of adolescence, further complicating matters. From the male perspective then, touch=sex.

Every touch experienced carries a different electrochemical message to the brain. Even small, very light touches can create tremendous brain activity. When you expanded to hugging, the response is magnified many times because it brings with it memories of previous experiences (or lack thereof) and the attached emotional meaning. (Welch, 1988) When a person is upset or stressed, taking their hand usually produces a soothing effect, reducing anxiety, and generating a feeling of greater security as the oxytocin is released.

Couples observed touching affectionately test as being more securely attached and having a more satisfying sex life. If you are unhappy with the amount of sexual activity with your partner, notice what happens when you become more affectionate in general with each other. Increasing overall affectionate behaviors can have a positive effect on each of you individually, as well as increasing the amount of sexual activity between you…

Touch alone can transform the quality of your relationship.

If you are not feeling safe enough with your partner to enjoy copious amounts of affection, you might want to ask yourself why not. Is this because of your own discomfort with touch? Or is it because you fear that touch will initiate sex when that is always what you want? Is your partner uncomfortable with touch and therefore reluctant to express their affection physically? These are all questions that you and your partner should discuss, certainly before committing to a long-term relationship.

While some couples settle into a kind of comfortable physical distance, their emotional connection is often just as distant. If you are not comfortable with idea of an emotionally distant relationship, then you should be aware of the impact of physical distance on the quality of your relationship.

Try livening up your relationship by making it a point to hug and kiss your partner when you come home, or being sure that you cuddle up close before drifting off to sleep.

Hold hands while you walk together. Women, spend time giving your partner a massage. Non-sexual touch can evoke strong feelings in a touch-deprived male. If your partner has an intensely emotional response, be open to allowing him to have those feelings in the safety of your presence. It can be deeply bonding. Men, touch your partners’ arms while she is talking to you, touch her face as you tell her about your day, it will make her feel cherished and valued.

Increasing the amount of touch you give will improve more than your relationship in the process. Infusing your body with Oxytocin, through touch, will provide you with reduced stress and boost your sense of well being.

Here’s How to Make the Transition from Friends to More Than Friends a Little Easier

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 14 Mar 2007 16:00:00 +0000

The Question

I’ve recently had feelings for this girl and it turns out she’s had feelings for me as well.

We’ve been friends with each other for years but there’s always been something more there.

She told me that she had liked me more than a friend in the past and she does presently, and it’s the same story with me.

A few days ago we kissed for the first time after we had been out with a group of friends but were alone at the time. From that point on I considered us to be “official” and that’s also what she said to me after the kiss.

However, just two days later she sent me a text message saying “I can’t do this, I just can’t right now.”

She has been messed around by boyfriends in the past and treated particularly badly by her previous boyfriend. I’m afraid this has something to do with it.

I really want to make it happen with this girl. Any ideas?????

So what would you do in this situation?

Force the issue and tell her to get over it or maybe sit back and wait for her indefinitely?

Here’s what I would do in the same situation.

The Answer

It sounds like she’s a little “gun shy” and who can blame her. Give her time and show her that you’re not like her previous boyfriends. She may just be really nervous about crossing the “dating” line and taking the risk of losing you as a friend.

Talk to her.

Tell her openly and honestly how you feel without putting any pressure on her. Let her know that you’re there for her regardless of whether or not she’s your girlfriend or just your friend. Whether your relationship with her is labeled as “romantic” or not, it sounds like you have a good relationship, one worth keeping. Too many people let their hormones drive their intellect and ruin a perfectly good relationship – don’t be one of those.

If she just wants to keep you as a friend, it doesn’t mean that she’s rejecting you as a person. It simply means that she’s not ready for a romantic relationship and doesn’t want to date you right now. So many men get angry over this situation because they take it personally, but most likely it has nothing to do with you – she’s already told you that she’s attracted to you.

Ask yourself why you want to take the relationship to the next level.

Is it physical attraction and sex? Are you looking for a long term relationship? Do you just want to know that you have a girlfriend?

There are no right or wrong answers, but it’s important for you to know what you’re looking for so that you can help her better understand. And if you don’t know what you’re looking for that’s OK too. Just make sure to be honest with her.

Ask her to be honest with you and don’t judge her when she is.

If the previous boyfriends really are the reason, then you’ll need to respect and accept that if you really care for her. If she’s just not emotionally ready to be in a romantic relationship, then she shouldn’t be in one with you or anyone else.

So many people make the mistake of getting into a relationship when they’re really not ready to be involved at that level with another person and it usually ends badly and with regrets on both sides. So make sure she’s ready and don’t push. Let her know that you’ll be there for her when she’s ready – if that’s something that you’re willing to do.

Don’t stop being friends just because of a kiss.

I’ll take one good friend over 10 girlfriends any day!

Maybe there’ll be more to your relationship and maybe there won’t, but you’ll both have more respect and trust for each other in the end. It’s not always easy, but try to enjoy your relationship for where it is today.

Whatever is going to happen tomorrow will happen tomorrow and that’s OK. Always live in the Now.

The Right Way and The Wrong Way to Kiss a Woman

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 12 Mar 2007 01:45:34 +0000

I got this email today from a good friend of mine and just had to share…

One of the things, unless we’re REALLY lucky in life, is that we are never taught exactly ‘how to kiss’. Some get it and some don’t, but mostly we learn by trial and error.

Knowing how to kiss a woman the right way will get you, well, anywhere.

Take just a minute right now and learn how to kiss a woman the right way so that she will be begging for more!

She came up to me close and opened her mouth wide like a full-blown YAWN and tried to kiss (EAT!!) me! hahaha. I physically closed her mouth down and said, "Lemme show you something" and then held her face in both hands and began VERY slowly suckling her top lip…then her bottom lip…then top lip…and an occasional tongue zing across both lips and back to the slow motion kiss while my fingers crept into her lovely hair and was gently massaging her head.

She was melting in my arms! (I have to say that NO ONE ever taught her how to KISS! She had tried to kiss like the peeps on TV or on some stupid movies—wide open mouth and no respect for the lips! Like two lamphreys trying to kiss!) hahaha.

She grabbed me and drug me onto the sofa inside her apt and we continued. At one point she came up for air and said, "Damn! I’ve NEVER been kissed like THIS before!" I said, "Well, hun, you’re hangin with da wrong people!"

At this point, I gave her a little tongue and her back arched!…

OK, it was at this point in the email that my cheeks flushed, so I’ll leave the rest for your imagination…

Who’s knows if the story is true, but it makes the point…

Here are some great articles to help you on the path. Good Luck and Happy Kissing!

How to Kiss a Woman by Lynn Snowden
The Orgasmic French Kiss By David Strovny
How to Kiss Her Perfectly by Michelle Penney

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