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How To Last Longer In Bed Just By Breathing

Edward White, author The Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 13:21:09 +0000

When tackling the problem of premature ejaculation, it’s easy for a guy to only think about sex from a male point of view because, after all, coming too soon is a male problem.

But this is a mistake. When you think about it, there are certain key similarities (and differences) between the sexes that, when understood, can help you extend your sexual performance.

The Similarities

Both sexes have that feeling that sexual stimulation and sensation are building in their ‘private regions’. They both get that sudden feeling about five seconds before they come when they know it’s going to happen. Those a few of the similarities.

The Differences

But there’s also a key difference between the male and female orgasms which is worth taking note of. It concerns breathing or not breathing during the minute or so before the orgasm could technically take place.

If a woman unconsciously holds her breath for the minute or so before she could potentially come, it will tend to delay her orgasm. In other words, make it harder for her to come.

However, if a man holds his breath for the minute or so before he could come, it will tend to make him come faster. God knows why this is the case, but it is.

So when you are having sex and want to delay when you come, you should always focus on doing the following:

Breathe slowly and in a regular fashion. Don’t take random breaths only when you need them.

Breathe deeply, focusing on your lower chest and belly. Expanding your belly as you breathe helps you take in more air, which relaxes you and keeps you calm.

NEVER hold your breathe. Just don’t do it. It tenses you up and puts you on edge, making you much more likely to come too soon.

By breathing deeply and regularly in the way described above, you’ll be able to reduce anxiety and increase your ability to always be totally aware of the sensations you’re feeling in and around your penis.

The natural result? A longer, more pleasurable sexual experience for you and your partner.

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Ultimate Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide’: “How To Make Sex Last 32 Minutes Longer In Bed Tonight, Without Simply Increasing Foreplay Duration”

How To Use The REAL Distraction Principle To Boost Your Sexual Stamina

Edward White, author The Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 14:24:09 +0000

‘Premature ejaculation’ is a well known term. And every guy that’s heard of it has his own theory on the best way to deal with it. One of the most common is often referred to as the distraction technique.

What is the Distraction Technique?

It goes like this. While having sex, the guy who doesn’t want to come too soon thinks of mind-numbing concepts or completely non-sexual imagery. For example, he’ll count back from 1000 or picture a deer getting hit by a car. Whatever it is, he’ll make sure it is a complete turn-off.

He’ll do this in an attempt to take himself out of the moment and therefore distance himself from the sexual stimulation he is receiving all in an effort to extend his sexual performance. But you have to ask yourself: is having sex for a long time worth it if you’ve got to totally separate your mind from it?

Of course not! This distraction principle is a bad way to handle the problem of rapid ejaculation. Instead, you should use the REAL distraction principle, which goes like this.

The REAL Distraction Principle

Great sex isn’t just about penetration. Any man that thinks different is in for a nasty surprise. Mutually pleasurable, great sex is a combination of teasing, foreplay and penetration, amongst other things.

The point here is that sex should be varied. This is not only good from a pleasure point of view, but also from a premature ejaculation point of view. By periodically altering what you and your partner do to and with each other during sex, you can keep your stimulation levels under control and thereby delay your climax from happening until you want it to.

The reason this is called the real distraction technique is because you are effectively distracting you and your partner’s attention away from the fact that you aren’t having penetrative sex and onto the fact that you are doing something different yet equally pleasurable, like massaging each other, performing oral and manual stimulation, engaging in dirty talk, kissing and licking each other, etc.

What you should do is alternate between a minute or two of penetration (or however long you can currently last without your stimulation levels soaring too high) and some other, non-penetrative activity, like giving her head or kissing up and down her body.

Why Women Love It

As well as your partner loving the variation of your sexual encounter, you’ll also love the fact that your stimulation levels are always under control, because whenever they get too high, you can simply switch to doing something else for a minute or so. It’s a simple, but devastatingly effective technique.

In fact, most women who experience this kind of varied sexual experience prefer it over having sex with a guy who doesn’t have premature ejaculation but who can have penetrative sex for as long as he wants.

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Ultimate Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide’: “How To Make Sex Last 32 Minutes Longer In Bed Tonight, Without Simply Increasing Foreplay Duration”

Want to Last Longer in Bed? Try This…

Edward White, author The Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide — Sat, 29 Nov 2008 13:00:54 +0000

Do you want to last longer in bed but have no idea how? Think of sex like a running a race.

I’d like you to imagine you’re an athlete whose specialty is running the 1000 meter race. Your goal is to run or jog around the 1000 meter track in the shortest amount of time possible. Simple enough, you’d think. Just run as fast as you can.

But that’s not how it works. If you were to sprint at your maximum speed as soon as the starting gun sounded, you’d soon be so drained that finishing off the rest of the 1000 m would be impossible. The real way to do the run is to pace yourself and be acutely aware of how tired you are and how strained your body is getting at each point in the race.

By having this heightened awareness of what’s going on in your body, you are able to configure your speed to an extremely fine degree, optimizing it as you go. Now, the subject of this article is not how to run well. It is, as the title suggests, how to last longer in bed.

Running the Race is Like Having Sex

The reason I just described the running of a race is because the same principle applies to when you have sex. If you aren’t absolutely aware of the sensations in your body, you will find it impossible to configure your performance and make it last longer. Here’s how to develop this awareness.

Set aside half an hour when you know you can relax, undisturbed.
Arouse yourself until you are erect using whatever method works for you.
Now start to masturbate at a medium speed. As soon as you start, pay attention to where on your penis you are feeling the sensations of pleasure.
Begin to pick up speed and increase grip strength. Focus on how the sensations of pleasure change, both in their location and their intensity.
Spend about five minutes varying the speed and technique you use. During this time, pay close attention to the feelings you’re experiencing. You should notice that, as you continue to masturbate, there will be a growing sense of pleasure in the head of your penis and down at the base, on the topside. Feel how this begins to increase and become more noticeable as you continue.
Now get the point of almost climaxing and try to detect exactly how it feels. Notice every wave of pleasure, where it starts, how long it lasts…every little detail.
Keep on the edge of coming for as long as it takes to experience all of the changes in sensation and stimulation you can. Then come and see how the feelings subside.

Building Understanding and Awareness

This kind of experiment builds your understanding and awareness of what the sensations in your penis are as you get aroused and how they change as you get closer to your climax.

This is crucial knowledge when attempting to improve your sexual stamina, because when you have sex, you will know what every little feeling in your penis means at any given time in regards to how close to coming you are.

You’re then free to slow down, speed up, change positions, or do whatever is right to avoid climaxing too early and continue having sex with your partner.

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Ultimate Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide’: “How To Make Sex Last 32 Minutes Longer In Bed Tonight, Without Simply Increasing Foreplay Duration”

How To Use Sex Positions To Last Longer In Bed And Improve Your Performance By Up To 500%

Edward White, author The Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 18:52:21 +0000

You can’t have sex without using at least one sexual position. That’s obvious, right? Most people, though, tend to use more than one.

The average number of positions used per sex “session” is two. That may seem like a really low number, but considering 70% of men ejaculate before their partner is satisfied, it’s not surprising so few positions are able to be used.

The key point that should be noted here, though, is not the number of positions the average couple use, but is instead a much broader principle: Sex, as a physical act, is fundamentally based around the use of different positions.

Therefore, they are inherently linked to the performance of the male, each having a different effect on him and each bringing about a varied amount of satisfaction in the female.

Understanding that simple principle allows you, as a man, to latch onto a much more powerful and useable concept: Your sexual performance, arousal containment and general ability to perform impressively in bed can be directly controlled, improved and boosted by the effective choice and use of sex positions. That’s the topic of this article, so let’s wade right in.

Position Matters

The first thing to always bear in mind when you have sex is how each sex position you use will affect your arousal control. That is, your ability to maintain an erection and continue sex without interruptions and without ejaculating too soon.

Certain positions, because of the way your body is posed, put stress on your legs, arms or other parts of your body.

This stress, caused by maintaining the position while having sex, makes controlling your arousal and holding back from ejaculation much more difficult.

Missionary

Contrary to popular belief, the missionary position does not offer you much control over your arousal despite the fact you’re controlling the motion/action of intercourse. This is because, to properly maintain the missionary position, you have to support your body weight using a combination of your arms and legs.

You’re essentially propping yourself up. After a couple of minutes of propping and thrusting, the stress on your body’s muscles has often increased just enough to tip you over the edge, which causes you to suddenly lose control of your arousal levels and ejaculate too soon.

However, this doesn’t mean you should remove the missionary position from your love-making repertoire. What you should do, is simply be aware of the stresses it can cause and the effects those stresses can have on your ability to control your arousal levels.

With this knowledge, you can choose to use the missionary position as the first one in your sex session while you’re most in control and least tired overall.

Girl On Top

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