4 Traits That Are Essential For Attracting Women

1. Confidence

By teasing women you’re communicating “I can have you if I want,” and if girls are attracted men with confidence, what could possibly be better than that? Overconfidence. The reason women always pick the bad boys and jerks is because they are cocky and sure of themselves. Arrogance isn’t always a negative characteristic. Think about it. Arrogance means that you’re absolutely certain that you’ll succeed.

2. Leadership

By teasing women you’re leading the conversation. You’re doing what is known as “taking control of the frame”. By this I mean you tell the woman the “terms and conditions” of the interaction. As explained earlier, physical attraction is only part of the equation. The leadership in your conversation is going to determine whether or not you get the girl.

3. Socially Superiority

By teasing her you communicate that you’re cooler than her. Girls are constantly interpreting everything you do. When you tease them it conveys to them that you have higher standards because you need more than just a pretty face.

4. Mystery

By teasing a woman you confuse her about your real intentions, and that makes her curious to find out what they are. She’s wondering if you really like her. Sure you asked for her for a first date, but then you called her a dork. What’s she suppose to think of that?

How to Act Around Women

If you haven’t noticed already, this formula of how to meet women and building tension is based on two main attitudes. The best way to act around women so they feel attracted is by projecting arrogance and superiority. Every single person has an instinctive need to climb the social ladder. This isn’t something we decided as a “society”, it’s human behavior that has been around for thousands of years.

Similarly, humans (men and women) have a need to climb the social ladder as well, and if somebody offers them a way to climb that ladder, they’ll take it.

1. People only want to hang out with people who are COOLER than they are.

2. People only want to learn from people that are MORE EXPERIENCED than they are.

3. People only want to compete with people that are MORE SKILLED than they are.

It’s a natural part of life to grow, and part of this growing includes  acquiring higher status. The need for high status is often the unconscious reason people do the things they do.

How to Develop the Right Attitude

The natural seducer projects only powerful positive beliefs. This allows him to approach and succeed with beautiful women everywhere without even thinking about it.

After successfully having enough positive experiences to reinforce your mindset, this is the positive belief system you want to develop. These powerful beliefs are the only things that separate success from failure. You must whole-heartedly believe:

Women love sex
Women love me
I have nothing to lose
If she’s not interested, it’s her loss – not mine
There are plenty more women out there anyway

Imagine This: How would you act if you had 200 million dollars in your bank account, 20 beautiful women chasing you all day and an amazing body that other men would kill for?

Walk through the world with this attitude and see how you come across. Even if you are blue in the balls, you must present a challenge and show that you don’t desperately need any woman in order to actually get her. To be successful in sales a man must always project a sense of success, even if he’s not successful. Similarly, if you follow this principle with women, I guarantee you’ll see results.

I don’t believe that you should try to avoid buying dances and drinks, because you don’t want to give girls  the impression that you’re trying to avoid spending any money at all. I say, skip the lap dances (since this frames you as a “customer”) but do buy her a drink—or several. But here’s the key thing to remember. When you offer to buy her a drink, it’s all about how you phrase it. By phrasing it the right way, you’re communicating SIX important elements.

1. Make Her Earn The Drink

She is earning this drink because I find her interesting and want to know more about her. This is not an offer I would make to most of the dancers here. This is a special circumstance. I’m not a dude who buys drinks for any chick who sits down next to me; this girl has sparked my curiosity. I’m also using the right body language so she knows I’m not like the rest of the customers in the club.

2. Impress Her With Thoughtfulness

In this case, I told her she had a  “deep personality.” Is this really true? Maybe. We’ll see. But every woman likes to think they have a deep personality, and so my comment makes me seem perceptive. It also makes her curious to talk to me further and see what I else I might “know” about her. I’m also making these statements with full confidence so she doesn’t think that I’m faking it.

3. Turn The Tables On Her

By saying “there are some things I want to ask you,” I’m turning the tables. She is the one who is going to have to answer my questions and demonstrate whether or not she is worthy of more of my time and interest. This is a very powerful psychological tactic that you can use when trying to meet women.

Think about most initial conversations between men and women. It’s the guy who feels like he’s “auditioning” and needs to provide all the right answers. The Mack flips it around and makes her feel the need to impress him, and demonstrate that she is on his level.

4. Use A Persuasion Tactic

“There are some things I want to ask you.” I’m giving her a reason why our conversation needs to continue: there are things I need to know before I ask a girl out. (This is also going to spark her curiosity; what exactly do I want to know? I’ll wait for the drinks to come before I tell her.)

By the way, studies conducted by seduction experts have shown that the word “because” is one of the most powerful words in the English language. It is a psychological motivator.

Ask a person to do something, and they might question it, or wonder why it’s necessary. Tell them they need to because there is a reason, and they’ll instinctively want to follow your lead. This is a great tactic to use in a strip club.

5. Buy Time

Buying this drink will buy you time to continue building a connection with her, instead of playing her game and blowing money on lap dances. And, she won’t feel as though you are wasting her time. In fact, she will usually look at this time as a break from the hustle.

You’re going to use this time to make her feel physical attraction towards you, get her to view you as a romantic option instead of a customer, and either make plans to meet her after her shift or get her phone number to set up a future date (which I will explain how to do a bit later).

6. Be Friendly With The Waitress

When your waitress comes over to take your drink order, this is when the “alliance” you’ve created with her is going to pay off. The friendlier your waitress acts towards you, the more comfortable the dancer is going to feel with you.

If the waitress treats you like just another anonymous customer, the dancer will view you as one. But if she gives you a smile and says your name, and you have another short, friendly chat with her, then your  dancer will recognize that you’ve got value in this place.

This happens because of the groundwork you laid earlier; you tipped your waitress the correct way, spent a couple of minutes to build a connection with her, and won her over. She’s on “your team.” This reinforces in the dancer’s mind that you’re a cool, charismatic guy: you know people here, and people know and respect you.

You want her to view you as a person—and as a possible sexual partner—instead of another lonely “chump customer” looking to shell out money for companionship.

Expect The Unexpected

At first you send an email to a girl who has great photos and lives near you. But what if you find out through her reply that she isn’t your type? For instance, what if you get an e-mail response with a sentence that says, “By the way, I really know how to please a man. I used to be one.”

When I saw this in my inbox, I immediately freaked out. I went to their online dating profile and I was looking at this pictures and thinking, “Oh my god, this is a transsexual? You have got to be kidding me.” The lesson that I learned with that was you really never know what to expect so you have to be prepared to screen who you go for as the correspondence on the site progresses.

Be In Control

Having sex, getting a girlfriend and landing more dates than you can imagine are priorities, but always remember what you’re there for: to be with women you really dig. It’s OK to screen the women you date. Every month I was getting 30 to 50 phone numbers.

I was on the phone nonstop, setting up dates and running it like a business. At one point I got this e-mail from a girl and she seemed pretty nice. She had a headshot picture. I wasn’t too sure so I was like, “Hey, that’s just a headshot picture.

Do you have another picture you can send me?” Don’t’ be afraid to ask for pictures. If you’re not sure about going on a first date with a woman, ask for pictures. What’s interesting is when you ask a woman for pictures it kind of sets up the frame of you are selecting her and you’re  not really sure about her so she’s going to have to prove yourself to you.

Now think about how powerful that is psychologically. This is all going on before you even meet. If a woman goes down that path, she’s already basically said mentally to herself, “This guy’s in control. I’m supplicating to him. I’m chasing after him.” So it’s very powerful.

Don’t be afraid of rejection. A lot of guys are afraid to ask. Being in control of who you date is a good thing, and it will increase your market value exponentially. When women realize you’re abiding by your own rules, they subconsciously follow.

Don’t Be Afraid To Meet Women Online

It’s OK to meet women online. The reason why I’m devoting a section on this is because I’ve met men who think it’s beneath them to get dates online. Some may even say those who use internet dating sites to meet girls can’t do it the “normal” way.

I’ll be the first to admit that I got into online dating sites because picking up girls in bars didn’t work for me, but after I’ve gotten used to dating women I meet online, and building relationships and friendships with these women, the same ‘stereotype’ for guys who go online because they couldn’t meet girls in bars didn’t apply anymore.

Think about online dating like you’re on a train. You start slowly then you gather speed, and soon it’s going so fast that you forget about how slow it was when it started. When you get your groove on and you’re having the time of your life meeting and dating women, your confidence grows and your social life gets better.

Develop The Skills So you Can Meet Women Anywhere

When you get to this point, does it mean you’re going to stop using the internet to get dates? Heck, no. Online dating is a PART of a strategy that works, and because it’s working beautifully for you, you can keep at it. Frankly, any guy who snubs online dating is seriously missing out.

Singles who are worth dating are really busy, either with school or work. They’re also constantly connected to the net to check emails. During a busy work week, they will not have time to go out and meet people at night to unwind, BUT they can spend several minutes to a few hours to log in to Facebook, their favorite dating sites, or both.

What do all these mean to you? If you meet and correspond with a gorgeous woman through internet dating during the time she’s actively looking, you can easily schedule a date with her for the weekend or the next. If you’re so inclined, you can take her to meet with your friends or hers in a bar where a multitude of men are ogling your date, hoping they could meet someone like her that night.

What’s Your Criteria?

There are a couple of different searches you want to do when online dating. The first thing you want to do is set up a search based on your criteria. For instance, if I’m only looking for girls who are 25 to 35, I’ll put that in my criteria. I’ll be as picky as I want and then I’m just going to save those searches so I can keep  going back to them over and over again every week in search of singles.

Keyword Search

If you’re into certain sports or hobbies and you want somebody who shares that interest, you can search by keyword. On Match.com you can pull up all the women in your area who have that keyword in their profiles. Using this method to meet women is a great way to find the ones that you will have something in common with quickly.

Hit On The Newbies

Do you remember when you were new and you’ve just received a bunch of emails? You’re stoked. You’re excited. You email back ASAP. The women who  join the site are the same. You search “New” members because you want to hit these women fast before a lot of other guys get a chance to e-mail them.  Think about it. If you’re the 800th guy that has e-mailed her, then odds are  she’s probably not going to read your e-mail because she has 799 e-mails in front of you. You have to strike fast if you want a first date. You have to e-mail the “New” members quickly.

Search By Activity Date

A lot of guys don’t do this, but this is one of the most effective ways to ask a girl out. The reason why is because you get to see the women who are actively looking for dates. The women who frequently do searches or browse profiles are hot leads. In a sales background, that’s like somebody coming in to your store or calling up your business and telling you they want to do business
with you.

Hot Leads

The best search that you can do, the one that’s going to get you the highest quality women who are interested is what I call “hot leads.” These are the women who have searched your profile. On Match.com and PlentyOfFish.com, you can actually go into the site and check who has searched you. You want to e-mail these women because these are the women who have checked you out and sometimes they have e-mailed you.