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		<title>The Secret to Lasting Romance: How Subtlety Could Save Your Relationship</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[You can't really blame some modern men and women for rolling their eyes at the idea of old-fashioned romance. The phrase brings to mind antiquated images of dramatic gestures, overly poetic assertions and a sort of starry-eyed obliviousness that most contemporary lovers find pretty silly and unrealistic.


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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You can&#8217;t really blame some modern men and women for rolling their eyes at <a href="http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/love-and-romance/talk-is-cheap-what-does-it-really-mean-to-tell-someone-i-love-you/" title="Talk is Cheap - What Does it Really Mean to Tell Someone “I Love You”?">the idea of old-fashioned romance</a>.  The phrase brings to mind antiquated images of dramatic gestures, overly poetic assertions and a sort of starry-eyed obliviousness that <a href="http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/love-and-romance/what-the-world-needs-now-is-love-sweet-love/" title="What the World Needs Now, is Love, Sweet Love…">most contemporary lovers</a> find pretty silly and unrealistic.  </p>
<p>The classic knight-in-shining-armor story can make for a fun diversion occasionally, but prevailing wisdom has for the most part left old-fashioned romance for dead; a charming but absurd remnant of times when people were less worldly and more gullible.  </p>
<p><strong>Real Romance is Subtle, Not Flashy</strong></p>
<p>But is real, lasting romance truly dead in the modern world, or has a cynical pop culture just made us all <em>think</em> that romantic relationships are on the decline?  Here&#8217;s a newsflash that thousands of couples who are in a <a href="http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/love-and-romance/marriage-divorce-why-there-is-still-hope-for-marriage/" title="Why There’s Still Hope for Marriage">long-term, monogamous relationship</a> have already figured out: old-fashioned romance is as present today as it ever has been&#8230; and the theatrical, melodramatic type of romance you see in movies and read about in books <em>never really existed in the first place</em>.</p>
<p>That&#8217;s not to say that romance isn&#8217;t a very real, very powerful force that can open up amazing new avenues of contentment for couples.  But the <em>real</em> power of old-fashioned romance has always been in its <em>subtlety</em> and <em>consistency&#8230;</em> not in the ridiculous, over-the-top gestures that pop culture wants you to <em>think</em> constitutes being romantic.  </p>
<p>In fact, the very reason that some people think old-fashioned romance is dead &#8212; because they just don&#8217;t see it around them all the time &#8212; stems from the fact that real romance, by its nature, is a very private, very unpublicized affair.  And ironically, the flashy, truckload-of-roses type of romantic gestures that modern media wrongly promotes as yesterday&#8217;s norm is exactly the type of stuff that can quickly lead to the <em>end</em> of a relationship if you depend too much on it.</p>
<p><strong>Are You Trying to Promote Your Relationship&#8230; Or Yourself?</strong></p>
<p>Don&#8217;t get me wrong; dramatic productions that declare your love for another person can be wonderful.  But anyone who thinks that proposing to  someone on live television will produce an unbreakable relationship is sorely mistaken.  Bringing your sweetheart a truckload of flowers on one special day is fine, but real old-fashioned romance is better illustrated by bringing them one flower once a week for the rest of your life.</p>
<p>Thanks to the in-your-face, self-indulgent nature of today&#8217;s diverse media, a whole new generation has&#8230;&#8230;</p>


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