Women Love Making Comparisons

They compare things like diamond sizes, or this year’s sales with last season’s – wishing to see who’s got the biggest stone, or the more elegant product line. (I told you they’re into details.) Most of all, women love weighing guys against each other when it comes to sex. Some are blunt about it, others are more sophisticated and subtle, but when they compare, boy, do they compare! They’ll weigh a man with just about anybody & anything.

Through comparisons, a girl fishes out who she considers the “best.”

What She’s Looking At

She’ll measure you against her ideal man – that perfect gentleman she’s been fantasizing about since she was 14. She’ll compare how you move, with how he moves. How you do her, and how Mr. Perfect supposedly does it. She’ll note every aspect of you and weigh it against her ideal. This of course, includes your penis size as well. Very easily, you will lose – you are bound to lose. (But don’t worry, if she cares enough, she’ll turn you into a project and begin changing every detail of your soul so you approximate her dream guy. Good luck on that one.) She’ll compare you with all the guys she’s ever had sex with – well, at least those she remembers.

So What About Sex?

There’s a hierarchy of guys in her head and if she’s been around the block more than once, she remembers the losers, the one-night stands and yes, even the breast masher. She’ll even compare her orgasms with you and those she gets via self-service – heck, she’ll even compare you with her sex toys. She won’t readily own up to these superficialities, she may not even notice she’s doing them.

But this does happen, and in this game of comparisons, it pays to be unique. The female brain is always on the prowl for something new, something different. The moment she realizes you’re just like the rest, she will brush you off. A girl can’t attend to every insignificant person that comes her way.

Her Emotions Are Involved Too (Of Course)

Her emotions will certainly command a big share of how she sees you as a bedmate. Everybody may see you as a pitiful excuse for a human being, and therefore a waste of skin, but if you’ve hostaged a woman’s emotions, everything and everybody else don’t matter. You may really lose all comparisons, but if she’s that into you, she’ll let you win! If she’s flushed with EMOTIONS, if she’s sooo head-over-heels, you could ooze with sexual lameness and she’ll still be adoring you.

Letting It Go And Being Confident

By the way, none of these comparisons and emotions thing is objective. They are never objective. Remember, people, especially women, are not logical creatures, although they’d like to think they are. You’re dealing here with judgments that can be muddled by her perceptions, expectations and preferences. (Come to think of it, who in this world is completely objective?)

Many guys ask me: Is it possible that one woman will judge you great in bed while another count you as average?

Of course! Knowing the nature of humans and sex, expect that. Nobody bats a perfect thousand. Accept that, have confidence in bed anyways and you’re golden.

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Is your penis size important in sex and in giving her powerful orgasms? In other words, is a bigger penis better for sex? That seems to be the proverbial question that men have been asking since the dawn of civilization. Well, what if I told you that your penis size is not a big deal after all? In fact, it is the lousiest among all “tools” you can bring to the bed! Why is that so?

The Truth About Penis Size And Sex

Ask any woman who loves great sex and have experienced great sex. She will tell you that the size of one’s manhood does not feature much in how she enjoys the experience. So put aside that penis extender or male enhancement pills you have been popping all day! A big penis is a great asset to have, but the skills you bring to bed will be your defining moment during sex. Besides pumping in and out, what else can your penis do?

Do Casanovas And Don Juans Have Great Assets In Between Their Thighs?

The secret is out. No they don’t! Even if a guy is small like a mosquito, he can still outperform any clueless lad with a much bigger “asset”! As long as you know how to please, pleasure and caress any woman properly, you can bring great sex to the bedroom, anytime anywhere! And believe me when I say that those Casonovas and Don Juans in the world are only average as far as their penis size goes.

The Myth About Penetration And Orgasm

Penetration is just about the only thing that happens during intercourse. Well, that is just what most guys think. When in the throes of pleasure, most men would focus only on themselves and pump away until they reach the inevitable goal – their own orgasm. But is your woman enjoying a great time too? Well, most probably not! You see, women are incredibly different from guys. Women don’t just live for the moment of orgasm. They relish the way they are brought to a climax.

The simple truth is this: The vast majority of women are not able to reach an orgasm though penetration alone simply because her clitoris – the nerve center of a woman’s orgasm – is not properly stimulated via penetration. So your penis, big or small, does not figure much in triggering those incredible waves of pleasure in her.

So How Do I Give Her An Orgasm?

Simple! Just observe what SHE does when she stimulates herself (a great majority of women can reach a orgasm through masturbation alone!). Mimic the motions, the angles, the intensity she use on herself. Then use them on her!

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At one point or another every guy has pulled the old ruler up to himself to see how he measures up. Men are very touchy about their penis size. They think that the size of their Johnson signifies how much of a man they are. Without getting into the psychology of how a small member can affect a man’s life, we’ll just say that it does matter.

The problem is that a lot of guys think they have a small penis when in fact they are right at or above average. If you have caught a glance of another guy in the locker room and felt embarrassed, you need the facts first. Here is the real truth about your penis size.

Average Size When Flaccid

The average penis size when flaccid is about 3.75 inches in length. A flaccid member that measures between 3-4 inches in length when it is not erect is average. It is true that some guys have bigger penises than others. If you feel self-conscious about your genitals when changing in a locker room, remember that you are about average. If you’re not average, move on to the erection measurements. It must be noted that some guys are “growers” not showers. The head and shaft can enlarge by up to three times its length when erect.

Average Size With Erection

Most guys will not fret over being small when it’s flaccid. The biggest aspect of worrying about your penis size comes from being with a woman. When you’re with a woman, you will be erect. The average size of an erect member is about 6-7 inches in length. When you’re measuring your shaft, use a tape measure.

These are easier than using a ruler. Hold the tape measure at the tip of your penis and then bring it down to the base where your shaft meets your scrotum. If you have seen guys in the locker room with a Johnson that hangs 5 inches long, remember that it probably only grows to about 6-7 inches. Very few men actually have 9-11 inch penises.

What About Sex?

The main question that every guy has is whether or not he will be able to satisfy a woman. Unless your shaft is less than 4 inches in length there is no anatomical reason that you will not be able to please a woman in bed. Most guys do not know that the woman’s vagina is only about 3 inches long. This means that even with a 4 inch member, you will be able to reach her g-spot.

The vagina will expand and contract during sex, but only by 1 inch. If you have ever watched a porno with a guy that has a 10-11 incher, you may not have noticed how far he goes in. Most women are not comfortable taking the whole thing inside of her because the vagina is not equipped for that length.

What Can I Do?

There are a lot of enlargement products on the market. Pills, patches and extenders are just some of these. Pills like Viagra, Cialis and Extense are designed to increase blood flow. This has little to do with actual penis size. These pills are designed to make an erection stronger. If you really want to extend the length of your shaft, you should look into penile exercises.

Jelqing is a very popular exercise that “works out” the penis. The shaft is a muscle and it can be made bigger with the proper exercises. This could take months before you see any kind of return so be prepared before you think that it’s a miracle cure. Penis pumps can be used for enlargement, but they can hurt if not used properly. Make sure that you know how to use one before you try it out.

Your size is going to have little to do with how a girl sees you. If you have a very small member, you should talk to your doctor about possible solutions. Penile surgery is not recommended very often as it comes with a lot of risk. If you are an average size, you’ll still be able to give a woman an orgasm.

You will be able to do everything that a guy with an 8 incher can do. Check out some jelqing exercises if you would like to get a little bigger. Some people claim they have gained an inch to an inch and half from jelquing. Penis pumps are another product shown to work, but you must be careful. Talk to your doctor before you decide on anything, as they will be able to give you personalized advice.

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Intercourse

Yes, having a big penis can come in handy during intercourse because it has the ability to reach and stimulate the g-spot. However, a guy with a smaller member can do that also, if he just knows how to use what he’s got.

So is having sex with a guy that is very large not always good? Sure.

A huge member can cause a woman pain during and after intercourse, and may even cause her to bleed. Special care must be taken when having sex with a guy who has a big penis, so as not to cause pain or discomfort. Although the vagina is made to stretch and accommodate a wide variety of things (think childbirth), so it’s most definitely not impossible for a woman to have sex with a very well endowed guy. But if it’s going to be any good, keep these things in mind:

• Using lube will help ease you into her vagina more comfortably than without it. Don’t assume that you’ve turned her on enough that she’s so wet she doesn’t need any lube. Use it. Period.
• Go slow. Give her time to stretch and accommodate your large penis. It’s not going to happen right away.
• Warm her up first. Give her oral sex. Do what you need to do to get her really, really aroused. When a woman is aroused enough, the vagina can almost double in length, making it much easier and more comfortable to have sex.

Oral Sex

For a woman, giving a guy who has a big penis oral sex can be tough, especially if she’s not skilled at it. She might not know what to do with it since it’s so large, because she probably won’t be able to fit it all in her mouth and unless you’re with a PRO, she’s not going to be able to deep throat it either.

You’ll probably start out with quite a bit of teeth grazing your member, but just gently tell her what doesn’t feel good without criticism. Give her time to get the hang of it.

Encourage her to use her hand at the base of your penis, while she sucks on the head and mid-shaft. This is usually the best way for both you and her to enjoy oral sex if you’re well endowed. Alternatively, you can also stimulate the base of the penis yourself and allow her to concentrate more on sucking and licking the head of your penis. This can be very helpful for a girl who isn’t very skilled at giving a blowjob or isn’t coordinated enough to use her hand and mouth in conjunction with each other to get you off.

Anal Sex

If you have a really, really big penis, anal sex isn’t going to be something you want to try with your girl – or something your girl wants to try with you. At all. Even if she’s had anal sex before, it was most likely either with a smaller guy or a sex toy. The truth is, if you have a huge cock, she’s going to be terrified of the idea of it going up her bum, ’cause even small things can hurt when they go up there.

If you really want to engage in anal play with her, definitely stick to smaller sized sex toys that are specifically made for anal sex.

If you absolutely MUST try anal sex (and she’s on board with the idea), start small and work your way up. DO NOT just thrust your huge member into her! Begin with smaller sex toys and graduate to larger ones as she feels more and more comfortable. This can take several sessions, weeks, months or even longer for her to get to the point where she’s experienced and comfortable enough to consider taking your big penis into her anus.

Give her time! Don’t rush her, because if you do, she’ll probably cross that activity off the list and never revisit the subject again. Play by her rules and you might actually get something out of it. And one last tip for anal sex with a big penis – USE LUBE. A whole bottle. Not even kidding.

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Aaah, The Penis

Monuments have been built for it, product lines have mushroomed for the promise of making it larger, longer and harder – it’s the thing every man wishes 3 extra inches of. The Penis. Every self-respecting guy is expected to get it up, those unable to do so are left feeling psychologically and physically incapacitated – an old fart with a limp tool.

But, what if I told you that the penis is the most inefficient tool used during sex?! What if you find out it’s not the winning ticket to Orgasmville?

Truth Is, Penis Size DOESN’T Matter!

Women of experience know they can have an amazing time regardless of girth, length or color. Contrary to popular belief, the secret to a great encounter doesn’t hang on that thing dangling between your legs.

Besides dart in and out, what can a schlong do, really?

So What Does A Penis Really Do?

Come to think of it, tremendous muscular control is required to simply nod it up and down. One has to rock the pelvis and hips just to swing, push or bat it around. It takes only two forms, flaccid and firm. The first looks wrinkled, spiritless and docile. The second is merely hard, worthy of the name ‘hotrod’ because it’s just that – a rod – maneuvering only in straight line motions, curved at best.

Then, it has the nasty habit of failing guys when they need an erection the most. But sometimes, it awakens when it’s not supposed to, (forcing its bearer to remain seated longer than he planned to.) And it would certainly douse your enthusiasm when you realize that what hardens it is plain old blood.

And yet, men treat it as if it’s the best thing, placing undue prominence on something that’s not even a close third to the real machineries of sexual warfare. So stop peddling the thing as if it’s all that. Stop glorifying the penis, get out of the cult!

You Do Not Need A Huge Cock To Give Her Great Sex

Enough with the SIZE issue. Too many otherwise rational men needlessly lose sleep and hair over it. Do you really think your equipment can be huge enough so your woman’s vagina can’t contain it? I don’t think so! Babies come out of those things! It can expand when it needs to. And do you really think bigger is better? Deeper is better?

Definitely not! A huge cock stabbing a petite vagina only results in an irritated woman and a painful experience. Put yourself in her high-heeled shoes. Women don’t love gagging on those life-threatening logs during a blowjob and they’re not psyched to have it up their backdoors either.

Penile size should instead commensurate vaginal capacity. In this sense, to be average is best. Besides, guys who think they’re small are actually oftentimes average. And those with genuinely diminutive members need not fret, though one may be hung like a mosquito, one can be a better lover than any clueless 12-inch guy.

Another Issue – Getting It Up?

Definitely a touchy subject for the elderly and those with performance anxiety. Zero erections create that feeling of uselessness and unwelcomed termination. As if the limpness declares, “Not tonight buddy! Go watch the Weather Channel.”

This reflects the: SEX = PENETRATION = PENIS paradigm. And if indeed you think this way, it is indeed over. But if you get a sexual reprogramming, widen your horizons and think: SEX = PLEASURE = FUN, then you’re up for something else – even when you don’t have a hard-on. For many are the possibilities.

Ironically, worrying about it chases the erection away. When you worry and pressure yourself, you always lose, always. As one cannot will or worry a penis to life. Instead, focus on other stuff. Be mindful, for example, of the tingling sensations given by your partner – as she touches and kisses your body. In time, that which you don’t chase will come. That’s a paradox in action.

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Position #1: Straddle Missionary

Missionary is the original man-on-top position, and the most common one for most people. It also happens to be one of my favorites or clitoral stimulation, and that great feeling of really being stretched out, when we make a slight adjustment.

The next time you are on top, ask her to put her legs together while you spread yours a bit. You should now be straddling her while remaining face-to-face. This will help you to slide against her clitoris with every thrust you take. Since her legs are together, she will also feel tighter for you and also make you feel much wider for her.

To create a feeling of complete surrender, pin her hands down to the bed. You can also sit upright, which will allow you to thrust much faster and harder. Remember to have enough lube on hand, because this position can go from amazingly pleasurable to uncomfortable pretty quickly.

Position #2: Fork & Spoon

In the spooning position, both partners lie on their sides facing the same direction, while you enter her from behind. You will be doing most of the work of work in this position for both penetration as well as other stimulation including kissing her neck, fondling her breasts, or massaging her clitoris, with either your fingers or a tiny vibrator.

After you’ve been enjoying the spooning position for a few minutes, you can try an amazing variation; where she will move her bottom leg under your top leg, and her top leg on top of yours. This will allow your bodies to become wrapped up in each other’s, which helps to build incredible levels of intimacy while giving her very deep penetration.

For even deeper penetration still, lift her top leg towards the ceiling while you lean your body away from hers. This will give you an angle that allows for much deeper penetration, as well as a great view to look at.

Position #3: Froggie Style

The Froggie position is a variation of Cowgirl, where you are laying on your back, and she crouches on top of your penis while still on her feet. This will give her tons of freedom to ride you very vigorously while putting less strain on her knees. However, it does work several muscle groups in her legs and core, so she has to be fit in order to sustain this position.

If you really want to give it to her good, grab her waist or ass and pull her on to your penis. She can place her hands on your stomach, chest or the beds backboard to brace herself. This will also give her a chance to relax while you take over, thrusting upwards from below. And for even MORE stimulation, you can always slip a small vibrator in between her legs and right on to her clitoris.

The point of all of these positions is to help give you a little creative insight in to what it takes to be a truly amazing lover. The next time you have sex, go ahead and give some (or all) of these positions a try, and of course feel free to use your imagination to come up with some new variations of your own.

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Where did you learn about sex? Health class? Your dad? But where did you learn about having sex? A lot of your early knowledge of intercourse probably came from your buddies, especially the ones who claimed to be getting some. Bad news, friend, they were just as clueless as you were.

They too were relying on information from dudes who claimed to be having a bunch of sex and weren’t. Unfortunately for women everywhere, a lot of this locker room talk has no merit, yet sticks in the sexual psyche of the American male. Here are some things your buddies have bragged about, and shouldn’t have.

They Equate Penis Size With Sexual Prowess

Men seem to think that the bigger the penis the better. Guess what guys, size doesn’t matter – much. There are so many ways to pleasure a woman, and penetration is actually the least effective. Only 25% of women orgasm during intercourse. That doesn’t mean that 75% of men have tiny, unsatisfying penises, it just means that it’s difficult for women to cum during sex. So most of a woman’s climaxing happens during what you consider “foreplay,” which happens before your penis even touches her.

They Went Down On A Girl For Like, “Two Hours”

This one even he may actually believe. When a man realizes a woman is going to let him stick his penis in her, every second leading up to that desirous act feels like an hour. It’s not. Most men also think that performing oral sex on a woman is just something you do to get her wet enough to handle your impressive member. Not true.

What you consider foreplay is, to her, part of the sexual experience as a whole. Instead of rushing through it so you can get to the “actual sex part,” keep yourself tuned into her responses. Pleasing her can be pleasing yourself. And remember, women aren’t one-hit-and-quit like men when it comes to orgasms. So if you start the orgasm train early, she will definitely be impressed.

They Brag About How Long They Can Last

Let’s put this to bed once and for all. Gentlemen, women do not want a man who can penetrate her continuously over the course of several hours. The genital area is home to some extremely delicate tissue, and the body can only produce so much lubrication. This is not to say that women don’t like sexual acts that last over the course of several hours.

For a woman, sex begins the minute the decision is made to have the sex. This kissing, the caressing, and the dirty talk are as important to her as the penetration itself. If you allow yourself to be a part of that, you may be surprised at how intense the sexual experience can be for the both of you!

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It Doesn’t Have To Be That Big

A woman’s g-spot is actually only about 2 inches into her vagina – therefore, the myth that men have to have a huge penis to give a woman an orgasm is just that – a myth. A penis can be satisfying to a woman and cause g-spot orgasms if it’s over 3″ long, however, the average penis size is about 5 inches. So in reality, most men are able to satisfy a woman with the equipment they’ve got.

A Prominent “Ridge”

Many girls will favor a prominent ridge where the head meets the shaft. If you follow this ridge around to the underside, you will see it curve upwards into an upside down “V.” When the shaft is erect, this ridge can get very swollen and when it is prominent, it will “catch” on the g-spot and stimulate it during sex. The ridge is much more prominent in circumcised men than uncircumcised men, because the foreskin that covers the head has been removed.

A Wide Head

Again, the head is where it’s at for a woman. This is what will stimulate her g-spot during sex and give her incredible orgasms. Although her g-spot isn’t very big, the wider the head of your penis is, the more it will rub up against it and stimulate it.

A Thick Shaft

The outside of the vagina, at the opening, is also a very sensitive area. You may have seen the rabbit style vibrators with the rotating beads – those are designed to massage and stimulate those sensitive nerves at the vaginal opening. If your penis is very thin, you’re not going to be able to rub up against the walls of her vagina very well. However, if you have a thicker shaft, you will automatically be causing friction and stimulating those hot spots.

If your penis is thin, it’s not the end of the world. Your sexual technique can compensate for it. Simply thrust your penis in a circular motion during sex instead of the straight in-and-out. It may take some practice to get this technique down pat, but it is well worth it. When doing using this technique, you’re going to rub up against every side of her vaginal walls, right where those pleasure spots are.

Slight Upward Curve

The g-spot is located on the top wall of the vagina, on the stomach side – not the butt side. So if your penis has a slight upward curve, it’s simply going to hit the g-spot even better. If your penis goes straight out, that’s not bad either. If your penis curves downward, you may want to experiment with different sex positions to find a way to stimulate her g-spot with your penis.

Doggy style is actually an excellent sex position to try if you want to stimulate her g-spot but your penis curves downwards. Some men have a penis that curves slightly to the left or right – this usually does not affect a woman sexually, unless you are long enough to stimulate her AFE Zone, which is much farther back than the g-spot.

Confidence (And Sexual Skill) Makes A Difference

No matter what your penis looks like, a girl isn’t going to get off with a weak, wimpy guy unless she has a dominant personality and that’s really her thing. Most women want to have sex with a guy that is confident in bed, confident about his body and confident that he can please a woman sexually. She doesn’t always want him asking permission to do everything. A girl wants to get down and dirty with an alpha male – no matter what his junk looks like.

Learn to work with what you’ve got. Study the female anatomy and learn where all the hot spots are. Learn different sex positions to use that help your anatomy mesh well with a woman’s. If you just don’t think you have a penis that will please a woman, brush up on your oral sex skills. Learn to give a woman squirting orgasms through oral sex and fingering and it’s almost guaranteed that she’s not going to care about your penis size, shape or color at all.

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What She Said:

Well, it’s pretty simple – you can “find out” by asking her directly and you can “get her to stop” by requesting her to, respectfully, cut it out.

Just Ask!

It sounds like I’m being a smart ass, but it’s actually a fairly straightforward solution. You don’t want to be in a relationship where there’s a bunch of game playing going on. The phrase “finding out” makes it sound like you’re going to be snooping around on your mate. That doesn’t sit well with me and, my guess is, it probably won’t sit right with her either.

If your partner is, in fact, talking about everything in your relationship to her girlfriends, ask her to cease and desist. Keep in mind that everyone needs an outlet outside of their partners – her pals allow her to vent safely, which actually helps keep you off the hot seat. However, while friends are very important, they shouldn’t supersede your romantic connection.

It sounds like you’re worried private things in your relationship are being discussed, and that’s left you feeling vulnerable. That’s perfectly natural – no one likes the thought of his or her privacy being compromised. While your girl might need to spend an evening dishing with the gals over martinis, it’s perfectly reasonable to put some boundaries in place. This is out of respect for you and the health of your relationship.

Keep The Sex Talk Off Limits

There are some things that are off limits – even to girlfriends. I’d never divulge my husband’s confidences for some Happy Hour chatter – well, then or any other time. The size of his penis and our sex life is for us to share – not fodder for my gals. Acknowledge to your woman that you understand a woman needs her friends, but let her know subjects that would make you uncomfortable if other people knew. If you’re in a good relationship, your partner will respect your request and all should be well.

What He Said:

Yes, you should ask her and yes, your partner shouldn’t say certain things to her girlfriends, but the real question is how will you know?

So your partner says nothing is said about your penis and how you use it, or whatever else you don’t want her friends knowing. How do you know your partner won’t tell them?

You kind of have to just trust her. If your S.O. loves you, it shouldn’t be an issue. Your partner probably won’t be saying this stuff to her friends, but if your partner is, ask her to stop. Your S.O. should respect your boundaries and needs in a relationship. (Beware the girls who say they are “an open book” that means they blab their shit to everyone).

Just make sure to say things like “this is something that stays between us” or “don’t tell your friends about this” so your S.O. can’t come back and say “you never told me not to tell” cause women are crafty like that.

Seriously though, you should know the answer to this question. If you don’t trust her by now, why are you with her?

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Focus On Foreplay

Foreplay is probably the number one thing that guys with a big penis forget about. A lot of well endowed men think that just because they are…well, well endowed that they can please their female partners with their penises alone. This couldn’t be farther from the truth! In fact, without enough foreplay to get a woman really wet and aroused, a big penis could definitely hurt her.

To accommodate a large penis, a woman has to be aroused and well lubricated. If she’s not aroused, she’s not only going to be somewhat dry down there, it’s also going to be more difficult for her to stretch to take in every inch of you. A woman’s vagina doubles in length when she is aroused, so it’s extremely important to use foreplay before intercourse to make sure she is ready to take you in.

Take Your Time Teasing Her

Don’t rush through foreplay. Take your time and go slow. Play with her – lick her clitoris or rub it gently with your thumb while kissing her deeply. Then back off and just kiss her neck or breasts. Have fun with it! The point is to get her really turned on and excited for what is to come. You want to get her to the point where she’s practically begging you to enter her – this way, she gasps at your penis size in pleasure, not in pain!

Also, remember to use lots and lots of good, water based lubricant. Even if you’ve gotten her so aroused that she’s practically dripping wet, you still want to make sure that you have lube on hand. If intercourse takes longer than expected or you just want to draw it out and enjoy yourself, things can get pretty dry down there, even if she was soaking wet to start with. Having lube on hand will keep things going smoothly for the duration.

Size Is Not Enough

Most men with a big penis think that they don’t need any technique – that their penis is long enough to reach her g-spot and all he has to do is stick it in. They think that sex tips and techniques are just for guys who don’t have large enough penises to pleasure their partners. This couldn’t be farther than the truth! Whether a man is big or small down there, he still needs to learn techniques to please a woman if he has any hope of giving her an orgasm at all.

Do some research of your own and read up on how women like to be touched. Learn where their hot spots are and how to stimulate them to bring her to climax. You may be able to do this with your penis, or you may want to give her an orgasm through oral sex and then get yours during the actual intercourse.

The point here is that what guys think is good for a woman is probably not even close to what she actually likes. It’s easy to make mistakes and turn a woman off completely – so don’t assume that just because you have a big penis that you have what it takes to make a woman’s wildest dreams come true. Take some time to learn exactly what to do and how to do it – then you’ll have her climbing the walls in ecstasy.

Communicate With Her

Another mistake that a lot of men make – whether they have a big penis or not – is that they fail to communicate with their partners or even pay attention to a woman’s non-verbal cues. They think they’re doing what she likes and keep doing it, all while ignoring her body language and vocal cues that tell you that what you’re doing just isn’t doing it for her.

Talk to your lover and ask her what she likes and what she doesn’t like. She may just be bold enough to tell you. If not, pay attention to her body language when you’re having sex with her. If your big penis is hurting her in any way, she’s likely going to be trying to shy or scoot away from you. If this happens, add lube and switch your technique. Experiment until you find things that work and remember that it’s all about having fun!

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If that doesn’t sound like an appealing option for you, then learn to tame your manhood. I know, when you’re in arousing situations, it’s screaming in your ear to get it some attention, but if you don’t allow good sense to overrule, you may end up turning her off. Let me give you a few scenarios where you should tune out Mr. Happy.

Scene I:

She wraps her arms around your neck, giving you a long, sensuous kiss.

What your penis tells you: Grab boobies! Grab booty! Get your hands on whatever you can!

What you should do: Return the kiss. Appreciate what you can get out of that act alone – feel the warmth of her lips and the taste of her breath. Keep your hands occupied by stroking her back or hair. This may encourage her arousal. If it doesn’t, try giving her lips a little lick. Never should you resort to mauling to express your attraction. It feels disrespectful to her, and her defenses immediately go up.

Scene II:

You’re on the couch watching a movie, and you start making out.

What your penis tells you: Put her hand down your pants! Push her face into your lap!

What you should do: If you’re making out for a bit, this time when it’s okay to head for second base. Just don’t grab! Ease your way up there. The nipples tend to be quite sensitive, so if you’re gentle with them it can be a great source of arousal for her. Then maybe you can pause the movie and politely suggest retiring to the bedroom for a bit.

Scene III:

The clothes are off, and sex is definitely going to happen.

What your penis tells you: Stick it in! Stick it in! Stick it in NOW!

What you should do: Take deep breaths. Concentrating on your breath will help occupy your mind, and the steady oxygen to your brain will have a calming effect. Once you’ve cleared the testosterone cloud, you can really enjoy the sex. Inhale her scent, and feel her skin. Become cognizant of the woman with you. It will only increase the pleasure of the experience. In the end, your penis will thank you.

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What Is A Micropenis?

A micropenis is a term that is usually used to describe a very small, or abnormally small penis. The average length of an adult man’s genitals when erect is about 5-6” and a micropenis is any shaft that is less than about 2.8” when erect. So basically, a micropenis is a penile shaft that is significantly smaller than the smallest average size.

What Causes It To Be That Small?

There are a few things that cause this condition, including abnormal testicular development in the womb and testosterone and other hormone deficiencies. If you do have a micropenis, it’s likely that you’re not going to discover this until you’re an adult – all these measurements are for an adult male, because the genitals are normally much smaller in boys.

How To REALLY Measure Your Penis

If you want to find out if your small genitals actually fall into the “micropenis” category, you’ll want to measure it correctly. Remember that most guys who have smaller genitals still don’t fit into the category of having a micropenis – because their genitals are small, but not less than 3″ or so. Here’s the real way to measure your penis:

• Get your shaft as erect as you can. Make sure you’re really turned on and you’ve maximized your penis size.
• Have a rule or tape measure on hand.
• Place one end of the measuring device at the very base of your shaft, up against your groin.
• Stretch out the tape measure or lay the ruler on your shaft and note where the tip of your penis is. This is your penis length.

If you do have small genitals, or even a micropenis, remember that it’s not all about length when it comes to pleasing a woman sexually and giving her an orgasm. It’s really the width that comes into play during intercourse, so even if you have a short shaft, if it is still fairly thick, you’re good to go.

Can A Micropenis Be Enlarged?

If you have very small genitals, you’re probably going to want look into some type of penis enlargement therapy to help you get a bigger member. Don’t take matters into your own hands though, especially if you’re considering a treatment that is invasive or risky. Consult your doctor beforehand about your options.

He or she can let you know what is available out there to help you get a larger erection, from natural ways like using a penis pump or possibly through surgical intervention. Your doctor can inform you about the risks involved with any type of enlargement therapy and suggest alternatives if some options aren’t right for you.

Don’t try to enlarge your genitals on your own with creams, pills or penis pumps because you may end up doing more harm than good. While creams, pills and pumps may be part of your treatment plan, having your doctor’s okay first will give you the confidence to know that you’re being safe and smart so you don’t end up hurting yourself.

Common Treatments For A Micropenis

Testosterone Therapy

Usually, testosterone therapy is tried first since it is considered the safest and least invasive way to treat extremely small genitals. A man on testosterone therapy to increase his size may take hormone supplements or use hormone creams, and this type of medication can be prescribed to infants in rare cases where the problem is noticed at a much younger age.

Testosterone therapy can also be used during puberty to help increase size, before the window for actual, true penis growth closes.

Surgical Procedures

Surgical procedures to enlarge the genitals are very rarely used, because it’s a risky treatment option and the length of the shaft doesn’t increase that much. A man undergoing surgical lengthening of the penile shaft may only gain a few centimeters, or an inch or so at most.

Penile implants may be an option if you’re just going for raw length, but there are caveats to any surgical procedure you might be considering. Talk with your doctor (or several doctors) about the right options for you – before you have anyone come near your genitals with a scalpel!

Can You Have Sex With A Micropenis?

The better question here is can a man lead a fully satisfying sex life with a micropenis, and the answer is yes! Actual vaginal penetration and intercourse can be difficult, especially if the shaft is really short. However, there are lots of ways you can experience satisfying, fulfilling sex with your partner without vaginal intercourse:

• Give and receive oral sex
• Finger her and allow her to give you a handjob
• Bring sex toys in the bedroom and use them on each other
• Try different sex positions – you may not be able to have intercourse in the missionary position (especially if you or your partner are bigger around the middle), but you may be able to have intercourse just fine in the doggy style position. Experiment and have fun!

Learning To Accept Yourself

If you have a micropenis – or just very small genitals – it’s easy to be down on yourself or wonder if you’re ever going to meet a woman who wants to be with you – or who can be sexually satisfied by you. Don’t worry so much about what women may think. Learn to accept yourself and love yourself for who you are and how you were made. If you have self confidence – and know how to please a woman orally or with sex toys – she’s not going to care about your size.

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Benefits Of Having An Intact Penis

You might wonder why a man would decide, after being circumcised his whole life, would decide he wanted to have an intact penis. While the U.S. has made a circumcised penis the “social norm” over the years, circumcision surgery is actually not commonly performed in other parts of the world. Studies have shown that the procedure is extremely painful for male babies and carries a high risk of infection when the wound is exposed to urine and feces in a diaper.

Sexually, there are many benefits of having an intact penis. For example, the penis is much like the clitoris in how the tissue is. The tissues of both the head of the penis and the clitoris are moist and packed with hundreds of thousands of sensitive nerve endings. In a clitoris, the hood of the clitoris protects it from chafing, which can be extremely uncomfortable because the tissue is so sensitive. The foreskin (also called the prepuce) functions much the same way. It protects the moist head of the penis (called the glans) from chafing and when an uncircumcised man has an erection, the glans is exposed and he can experience sexual pleasure and orgasm.

So what happens to the glans once the penis has been circumcised? The exposed tissue rubs up against a diaper or clothing, chafing it. The glans is designed to stay moist, but without the foreskin, the skin of the glans dries out and becomes tough like the outer surface of the skin on a person’s arms. The sensitive nerve endings become less sensitive, and in some cases, a man is unable to achieve climax because the head of the penis has lost so much sensitivity due to being exposed to air and clothing instead of being protected by the foreskin.

What Is Foreskin Restoration?

Foreskin restoration is the process of restoring the prepuce on a circumcised penis. This can be done a number of different ways and although none of them provide a man with his true foreskin back, they help provide a protective covering over the glans so the penis can regain its sensitivity. Successful restoration will also provide a man with a natural, uncut looking penis. If successful, it would be very hard to tell the difference between a penis that has never been circumcised and circumcised penis that had underwent foreskin restoration. Men who have had this done report that sex and oral sex feel better.

Non-Surgical Restoration Methods

Non-surgical restoration methods are more popular than surgical restoration, simply because it is less invasive (a huge plus) and there isn’t any chance of infection or malformations after surgery. However, the drawback of non-surgical methods is that it takes a very long time for the foreskin to actually be restored. This can take several months or even years depending on the method used.

Basically what happens here is a device or tape is used to stretch the skin on the shaft of the penis up and over the glans. The device or tape will hold the skin there, allowing it to stretch. There are actually some devices made for this, such as the Dual Tension Restorer, that are available on the market for men to purchase. The stretching is usually done for several hours at a time and it is a similar concept to surgeons who use skin stretching techniques to create more skin to use for a graft. Studies show that stretching the skin stimulates a process known as mitosis, which will help regenerate new skin with similar properties of the old skin.

If you wish to restore your foreskin using a non-surgical stretching method, patience and determination are required. This is something you will need to be dedicated to, since it may take several months or even years to see results. However, with non-surgical methods, you are able to continue having sex as you normally would.

Artificial Foreskins

Artificial foreskins are available for purchase as well, which are simply placed over the penis and help cover and protect the penis from chafing like a normal prepuce would. The most notable model is the SenSlip, which comes in a variety of sizes and natural looking colors. It is worn almost like a condom would be, and can be moved back and forth just like a normal foreskin. This keeps the glans moist and protected, while still allowing the wearer to retract the device to use the restroom or to clean the penis. Manufacturers of the device report that after several weeks of wearing the SenSlip, sensitivity during sex is restored.

Surgical Restoration Methods

Surgical prepuce restoration is not desirable, but has immediate results. Unfortunately, procedures to surgically restore the foreskin leave undesirable results and are extremely invasive. The procedures are usually followed by pain, swelling, inability to have sex for an undetermined period of time and a significant risk of infection.

Usually what happens during a surgical foreskin restoration is a skin graft is removed from somewhere on the body (usually from the scrotum) and stitched on to the shaft of the penis, covering the glans.

Foreskin Regeneration

Regenerating the prepuce is a possibility, but not something routinely done in the medical community. This would be done surgically, under anesthesia. An incision would be made at the scar of the circumcision and the scar tissue would be surgically removed. After this, a special chemical solution would be applied to stimulate the penis to regrow its own, true foreskin. Presently, this procedure has not yet reached the clinical trial phase.

After Restoration

Men who have had successful prepuce restorations report that not only are sex and masturbation better, but they also feel emotionally satisfied that they now have their foreskin back after having it taken from them without their consent as babies. It can give a man a sense of feeling like he’s gotten back something he’s lost. Female partners of men who have had this done are also pleased with the results, because sex feels better for them too.

Rethinking Circumcision

Choosing to be circumcised or having your child circumcised is a difficult decision to make. Ask your doctor questions, but remember that a circumcision is a completely elective procedure. It is not required and an uncircumcised penis will remain healthy and will function normally. Men who have been circumcised report:

• 33% have prominent, noticeable scarring
• 27% had too much skin removed, making getting and keeping an erection uncomfortable or painful
• 16% report curvature of the penis due to an uneven amount of skin being removed

If you’re considering circumcision, rethink it. Ask questions and get information. Whatever decision you make is up to you, but be sure you’re making an informed decision.

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The Penis CAN Break

Believe it or not, even though the penis isn’t a bone, it can break. A “break” is most often called a “penile fracture” and can happen during rough sex or even vigorous masturbation. A penile fracture happens when the tough, fibrous tissue around the penis experiences sudden trauma, and a cracking sound is often heard – along with immediately losing the erection and a large bruise appearing very quickly. This condition requires immediate medical treatment.

Erections Can Be Random

Most of the time, an erection happens when the penis is either physically stimulated or a man becomes psychologically aroused. However, erections can be completely random and can happen when a man is being neither physically or psychologically stimulated sexually. As embarrassing as it is, a man can have an erection at the most inopportune times, such as at a funeral. The next time your man pops a boner, it may not be because the hot girl you thought he was looking at – it might be “just because!”

The Average Penis Size Is Actually Quite Small

Men are obsessed with their penis size – they usually think that theirs is too small, or much smaller than the general populations. The truth is, the average size is just 5-6″ in length! While many men may think that they can’t please a woman with a 5″ penis, the reality is that they can – and the majority of men do! Large penises are actually fairly rare, and size really isn’t that big a deal to a woman. The man who holds the record for the largest penis (over 13″) lives at home with his mother – so really, size doesn’t matter.

The Way It Looks Is Not Genetic

A man may think that he passes on the size of his penis and the way it looks to his sons, but the way it looks and even how long or wide it is has nothing to do with the way his father’s looks. A man’s penis is formed within the womb, when the body begins turning an androgynous fetus into either a boy or girl. Similarly, the way a woman’s vagina looks has nothing to do with the way her mother’s looked either.

Most Men Do Not Need Large Sized Condoms

Because the average penis size is about 5 to 6 inches, most men do not need large or “Magnum” sized condoms. However, many men buy large condoms because they either want to think they have a bigger one or they want their partner to believe that they do because they brought extra large condoms to bed. The truth is, the far majority of men can fit just fine in a regular sized condom and if they do, they should use it. Using a condom that is too large can cause it to slip off, increasing the risk of unwanted pregnancy or the transmission of STD’s.

He’s Not Lying About “Blue Balls”

Most women think that the excuse men give about having “blue balls” if she doesn’t have sex with him is false – he’s just trying to get a piece, right? Wrong. However, during foreplay and increased arousal, the prostate gland and the testicles become swollen with fluid. This causes anywhere from mild discomfort to acute pain. The release of these fluids during an orgasm will relieve the discomfort. So should you sleep with him just because he has blue balls? Of course not – unless you want to. Blue balls can also be relieved with an aspirin or just good old fashioned masturbation.

You Cannot Tell The Size Of A Man’s Penis By His Shoe – Or Hand – Size

Many men and women believe that if a man has large feet or large hands with long fingers, that he will also have a very large or long penis. This is not true! However, you can predict the length of a man’s penis by looking at how tall he is. Men who are taller tend to have larger penises. Also, a study in 1999 proved that gay men actually have longer, thicker members than heterosexual men!

“Liquor Dick” Exists

If a man drinks too much, he may have trouble having an erection later that night. The same goes for illicit drug use. The more inebriated a man is, the more trouble he will have achieving an erection. If you’re planning a big date that you want to end in the bedroom with some really hot and wild sex, keep the drinks at a minimum.

Erect Penis Size Is Not Indicated By How Big It Is When It Is Not Erect

If a man has a small penis when he is not erect, many men and women think that this is an indicator that it won’t get a lot bigger when it becomes erect. Similarly, people also believe that if a man has a large member when it is flaccid that he will have a much larger penis when it is erect. The truth is, how large or small a man’s penis is when it is soft has absolutely no correlation on how big it will be when he has an erection. The average length of a flaccid one is about 3 inches, but some of these penises grow to be much larger when a man becomes sexually aroused. On the other hand, a member that is very large when it is flaccid may only gain a few centimeters when it becomes erect.

Most Men Are Uncircumcised (But Not In The U.S.)

Circumcision is still routinely practiced in the United States, where about 60% of boys are circumcised at birth due to religious and personal reasons. However, most men in the world remain uncircumcised - in fact, the rate of circumcision around the world is only 10-15%. If you meet a really hot foreign guy and end up in bed together, don’t be surprised if he’s uncut. American women think that being circumcised is the norm (and may even be a little unnerved about having sex with a man who hasn’t been circumcised), but in reality, the majority of men around the world haven’t been snipped or clipped.

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Well, what if I told you that your penis size is not a big deal after all? In fact, it is the lousiest among all “tools” you can bring to the bed!

Why is that so? Well, read on and find out…

The Truth About Penis Size And Sex

Ask any woman who loves great sex and have experienced great sex. Chances are, she will tell you that the size of one’s manhood does not feature much in how she enjoys the experience. So put aside that penis extender or male enhancement pills you have been popping all day! A big penis is a great asset to have, but the skills you bring to bed will be your defining moment during sex. Besides pumping in and out, what else can your penis do?

Do Casanovas And Don Juans Have Great Assets In Between Their Thighs?

The secret is out. No they don’t! Even if a guy is small like a mosquito, he can still outperform any clueless lad with a much bigger “asset”! As long as you know how to please, pleasure and caress any woman properly, you can bring great sex to the bedroom, anytime anywhere! And believe me when I say that those Casonovas and Don Juans in the world are only average as far as their penis size goes.

The Myth About Penetration And Orgasm

Penetration is just about the only thing that happens during intercourse. Well, that is just what most guys think. When in the throes of pleasure, most men would focus only on themselves and pump away until they reach the inevitable goal – their own orgasm. But is your woman enjoying a great time too? Well, most probably not!

You see, women are incredibly different from guys. Women don’t just live for the moment of orgasm. They relish the way they are brought to a climax. And the simple truth is this: The vast majority of women are not able to reach an orgasm though penetration alone simply because her clitoris – the nerve center of a woman’s orgasm – is not properly stimulated via penetration. So your penis, big or small, does not figure much in triggering those incredible waves of pleasure in her.

So How Do I Give Her An Orgasm?

Simple! Just observe what SHE does when she stimulates herself (a great majority of women can reach an orgasm through masturbation alone!). Mimic the motions, the angles, the intensity she use on herself. Then use them on her!

When it comes to great sex, take things SLOW. Don’t use sex as a means to an end. Instead be a man who plans for the future BUT also live for the moment. Be a man who starts a night of lovemaking without considering his own orgasm, but focus on securing a body-shaking climax for his lady. This is the type of men women would gladly die for.

Now achieving that kind of body-shaking, wild-screaming orgasms that most women crave for, will depend on how you build up the sexual tension. Savor each stage of lovemaking as if each phase can bring her to an orgasm (indeed it can!). Raw, passionate kissing that sets free a woman’s sexual inhibitions can bring her right to the edge of a climax. And so can the great prelude to intercourse – foreplay. Even a good dose of oral sex can give her mind-boggling orgasms that leave her breathless.

The key is to live for the moment and don’t let your focus waver away from her. Believe me, when you are able to do this, you will enjoy sex for its full glory and splendor, just like how a woman enjoys it. And when you finally reach your own orgasm, it will be more mind-blowing than anything else you have experienced before!

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Question:  According to a condom size chart I’m 5 inches long erect. What condom size do I need?

–YouTube Viewer

Basic Condom Size Guidelines

If you look on the back of a condom box, each manufacturer provides basic guidelines on how large a condom is, in both length and width. You’ll also be able to find out what material it is made from and whether it comes lubricated or not. They may also provide information on how thick it is, so you can choose the thickness that provides the best and most pleasurable sensations. Most people will choose the thinnest condom that is available because this tends to allow both partners to feel more friction than their thicker counterparts. While getting a thin condom may help make sex better for you and your partner, it is much more important that you get the correct size, as this will make the biggest difference. Looking at the manufacturer’s specifications will give you a general idea of how large it is, and you can compare it to how large your penis is after you’ve measured it. Like most things though, the size of a condom will differ somewhat between manufacturers. An XL in one brand is not going to fit the same as an XL in another brand. Accurately measuring your penis and purchasing the correct size for it is an important part of having safer sex and preventing sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies.

Making Sure The Condom Fits Comfortably

When a condom is stretched lengthwise, it is much more stretchy and resilient than if it is stretched widthwise. Keep this in mind when going shopping – unless you have a very long penis, you’ll want to judge it mostly by its width, since there won’t be much give in that respect. You will be much more comfortable in one that fits the width of your penis properly! A condom that fits well lengthwise should actually be a little longer than your penis, with enough space at the tip to hold your semen when you orgasm. A condom that fits comfortably is going to benefit you and your partner during sex in many more ways than you would think. You (and your partner) will enjoy sex more, because one that doesn’t fit right will either hug you too tightly and cause discomfort or be too loose and decrease the pleasurable sensations from having sex.

Giving Condoms A Test Drive

A great way to find out which condoms fit you well and which don’t is to purchase a variety of them and give each one a test drive. Once you have a basic idea of how they should fit, you’ll be able to decide which one fits best on you and feels better for your partner. Many stores that sell sex toys also offer several different types of “variety packs” which give you one or two of each type of condom for you to try. It may seem silly, but don’t be afraid to take notes about which ones feel better than others and which condoms your partner seems to like the best. Once you determine which one is the right one for you, it will become your “go to” condom. Keep a good supply of your favorite one available, but don’t keep them in your wallet, your jeans pockets or your car. Women should not keep condoms in their purses unless they are protected by a hard case of some kind. The friction caused by a pair of pants or a wallet can cause the wrapper to degrade, possibly making holes in the wrapper and compromising the integrity of the condom. Keeping it in your car will expose the material to extreme heat and cold, possibly causing the latex or polyurethane to degrade, thereby decreasing it’s effectiveness at preventing pregnancy and reducing the risk of transmitting STD’s. Your best bet is to keep condoms stored in a cool, dry place to keep it “fresher” longer. Always inspect the wrapper thoroughly before using it for tears or holes.

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Question: Hey I have a question, since you said on one of your videos Magnum is wider and XXL is longer, what about Magnum XL?
Is that REALLY REALLY wide or is it the longer version of Magnum?

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Magnum vs. Magnum XL vs. Durex XXL

How do you tell which condom is the biggest or which condom is the longest? It’s not written right on the box, but here’s what Trojan has to say about the size differences between condoms. A Magnum condom is 15% larger than a standard condom. The Magnum XL condom is 30% larger than standard condoms. The Durex XXL is longer than both standard condoms and all Magnum condoms, but not as wide as the Magnum XL.

Width vs. Length

Most of the time, men who have a large penis feel uncomfortable in standard condoms because they feel too tight. This is usually a girth issue rather than a length issue, however, it’s possible to be both too wide and too long for standard condoms. Comfort, however, is not the only issue here. A condom that is too large may feel comfortable, but it is much more likely to slip off during sex and fail at protecting you and your partner from pregnancy and STD’s. Measure your penis and if your girth is below 5.5 inches, use a standard condom. If your girth is between 5.5 to 6 inches, use a regular Magnum condom. If your girth is 6 inches or more, use a Magnum XL. If your penis is exceptionally long, use a Durex XXL. Remember that for condoms to be effective, they must fit snugly at the base of the penis and maintain the semen reservoir at the top.

How Do You Measure Your Penis?

To accurately measure your penis to determine the correct condom size, get your penis as big as you can. You can do this with your partner or without, but it can certainly be more fun with a partner! If you have a fabric ruler (you can get them at sewing stores or at most superstores in the sewing and crafts section) you can use it, or you can also simply use a piece of string that is several inches long with a standard ruler. A tape measure may work to measure the length of your penis, but you won’t be able to accurately measure your girth with a tape measure. Wrap the string around your penis at the very widest part and mark where the string meets itself. Lay next to the ruler to find out how many inches wide your penis is. The same can be done for length. Take one end of the string and put it at the very base of your penis up against your groin and stretch the other end to the very tip of your penis. Measuring both the length and girth of your penis will help you find the best fitting condom for your penis size. In addition to getting the correct size condom, you can also grab a few of each style of condom and try them out to find out which one feels the best!

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Question: My girlfriend isn’t a virgin, but she is scared of having sex with me because my penis is too thick for her, or so she says. I’m 7 inches long and 7.5 inches around. What should I do to convince her and help her to loose her fear? We are both 18.

–YouTube Viewer

Help Her To Relax First

Getting your partner to relax is the first step to making sure her vaginal muscles are pliable enough to accomodate your big penis. Give your partner a massage, or take a hot bath with her in the candlelight. Let her know that you’re going to go slow and be gentle and that if it hurts her, you’ll stop. The less anxious she is about the whole process, the easier she’ll be able to accomodate your penis length and thickness.

Get Her Warmed Up

Use your fingers with lots of lube to help get her warmed up. First, insert one finger only. Massage slowly and try going down on her at the same time to get her turned on. The more turned on she is, the more her vaginal muscles will relax and loosen up to get ready for insertion. Slowly insert another finger at a time until you’re up to three. Once you’re up to three fingers, ask her how it feels. Is it too tight? Does it hurt? If it feels too tight to you, it probably feels to tight or painful to her. If so, don’t try to use your penis just yet. Wait until she’s relaxed and turned on enough to feel comfortable inserting your penis. You can also use different sized toys to help introduce your partner to your large penis.

Use Lots Of Lube, Go Slow And Stop If It Hurts

Whether you’re using a large dildo or you have a large penis, using lots and lots of lube is the most important thing you can do to make taking extra length and girth easier for her. Use a good, water based lube and don’t be shy about using it. You never can have enough lube! When you begin inserting your penis into her vagina after you’ve warmed her up and gotten her relaxed, make sure you are gentle and go slow. Don’t push it in there too fast (although you might be pretty anxious to get started by now) or she could tear. Remember, women are built to give birth to babies – which are a lot larger than your penis – so don’t worry about not being able to fit it in there. You just have to make sure your partner is comfortable and enjoying it! If it starts to hurt your partner, stop immediately. It may take a few tries before your partner can really accomodate your penis size comfortably.

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Question: Do girls care if a guy has a huge penis? i have an 11 inch penis but Im not sure if girls want a penis that big?

–YouTube Viewer

Her Size Matters Too

When it comes to sex, it’s not only the size of a man’s penis that matters, the size of her vagina matters too. If she’s extremely small down there, even a medium sized penis can cause discomfort and pain. If she’s built bigger and her g-spot is located very deep inside her vaginal canal, even a medium to large sized penis isn’t going to give her the satisfaction she wants without some effort and creativity. Finding the right fit sexually means finding a partner whose vagina – and sexual tastes – are compatible with your penis size, whether you’re very large or somewhat smaller.

Communication Is Key

Being able to talk to your partner about what she likes sexually and what she doesn’t – as well as what you like and don’t like – is important no matter what size your penis is. When you first begin having sex with a partner, it’s important to know whether it is working sexually with them or not. If it’s not working for her, she needs to be able to communicate that with you so you and her can find ways to become sexually compatible by adjusting your technique and her techniques – or you may just want to go your seperate ways and find partners that are more suitable to each of your sexual tastes and genital shapes and sizes.

Tips To Help You Make The Most Of Your Penis Size

If you have a very large penis and your partner is smaller, try avoiding putting your penis in her vagina all the way. Avoid positions that allow for very deep penetration, as this may be very uncomfortable or painful for her. Remember to allow your partner lots of foreplay and warmup time so her vaginal muscles relax and become more accomodative for a penis, and remember to use lots of water based or silicone based lubricant. If you feel like your penis is to small for your partner, consider using a condom with an extender or a sex toy with an extender. These additions can give your partner the satisfaction she needs while also continuing to provide you with sexual pleasure as well. Try positions that allow you to penetrate your partner more deeply, such as doggy style or woman on top, where she can be in control. Ask your partner for suggestions on how you can make sex more satisfying for both you and her!

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Question: I’m 14, small for my age(4 foot and I was curious about penis size… I know I’m small for my age but I’m 14. Will my penis grow and is this normal? Should I be worried about it?

–YouTube Viewer

Penis Growth

A boy’s penis starts growing when he hits puberty, which is earlier for some boys and later for others, and stops growing when he does – generally in late adolescence to early adulthood. There is no average amount of penis growth during this period of time -  some boys will grow more overall than others. If the penis starts out small, it may grow to become very large, or it may only grow a few inches. A penis that starts out large may only grow a little, or it may grow a lot. How much your penis will grow is all up to mother nature.

Penis Averages

The average penis size is about 2-3 inches when it is slack and 5-6 inches when it is erect. There are, however, many men who have much smaller or much larger penises than this, and if you’re bigger or smaller than the “average,” that doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you. Just like the size, shape, color and texture of vaginas differ from person to person, so does penis size, shape and color. A man’s penis may also be very thick or very thin in circumference, regardless of the length. Things you should not experience during penis growth is pain, so if you feel like something is wrong, go see your doctor. An extremely rare complication of circumcision is not having enough skin for the penis to grow into, causing intense feelings of discomfort when you begin having erections. Even if nothing is wrong, it’s better to have a little peace of mind. Don’t worry – your doctor has seen it all before. If you’re not comfortable talking to your doctor about your penis, or any other topic about your body and health, find a doctor who you are comfortable with.

Learn To Be Comfortable With Who You Are

Part of growing up is learning to be comfortable in your own skin. Whether you’re light or dark, tall or short, fat or skinny, we all must come to terms with who we are and learn to be comfortable with ourselves. Accepting your penis size, shape and color falls into this category too. Everyone is different and that’s a good thing! While learning to accept ourselves for who we are and what we look like isn’t always the easiest thing to do, it’s part of becoming an adult. If you’re concerned that your penis is too small, too short, or even too big, don’t worry! Being human means we all look different. That’s the beautiful thing about diversity! Learn to be comfortable with yourself and learn to like being in your own skin.

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A boyfriend’s penis might be too big for his girlfriend – even when she’s excited, he often ends up hurting her. What can he do to make sex more comfortable for her and more enjoyable for both of them?

A Medical Problem?

Most vaginas can accomodate a wide variety of penis sizes. Most vaginas can stretch to allow penises of just about any size to fit, regardless of how large or small. But some medical conditions can make a vagina unable to stretch and accomodate a large penis, including a medical condition called vaginismus. In some forms of vaginismus, the PC muscles actually clamp down, making penetration virtually or completely impossible. In other, more common, forms of vaginismus, the PC muscles tighten but don’t clamp down completely, allowing penile penetration but with pain, burning and a feeling of excessive tightness. Fortunately, vaginismus is highly treatable with vaginal dilators – a medical tool that is used at home to lightly stretch the PC muscles and allow the vagina to become more pliable. Click here to learn more about vaginismus.

Visit The Doctor

Some people aren’t physically compatible with each other sexually. Sometimes the puzzle pieces just don’t fit, and there are tons of ways to enjoy each other sexually and intimately if sexual intercourse is too painful. However, this is the rarest of cases. Often, medical problems or issues are at fault for painful sex. Infections, STD’s, pregnancy, and a multitude of other conditions are more likely to cause painful sex than just penis size and physical sexual incompatibility.

Go to the doctor – the doctor is a “body mechanic” and his or her job is to find out why your equipment isn’t working right. If you’re embarrassed to talk to the doctor about what is going on in your sex life, it’s time to find a new doctor. You should be comfortable talking to your doctor about everything. Your doctor can conduct tests that can tell you if an underlying medical problem is at fault for the painful sex you’ve been experiencing, or if it is just your anatomy.

Enjoy Each Other In Other Ways

Believe it or not, there are other ways to be sexual and intimate with your partner than through intercourse. Genital massage and oral sex are very popular, and some people enjoy anal sex instead of vaginal sex. Go to a sex therapist, or even visit an adult store (lots of online stores feature tons of products that you can shop for from the privacy of your own home) to find a few different things that you and your partner would like to try, and it’s a great way to get different ideas about positions, lubricants and male and female sexual stimulation.

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Tip #1 – True Masculine Dominance

Even if you feel you have a small penis, having true masculine dominance will give you more clout in the bedroom. Women are inherently built to be submissive when it comes to sex (although playing with role reversal can be fun too) and when you play to that side of her nature, you can give her the impression that you are a true, dominant man. Believe it or not, this makes a huge difference in the bedroom! You can use this dominance to work around penis size to get your girl turned on mentally as well as physically. Having true masculine dominance, however, is not about being a jerk or being rude. It’s simply about taking your place as the alpha male and letting your partner get back to her instincts.

Tip #2 – Stimulate Her G-Spot

Before stimulating her G-Spot, go down on your partner a little, give her a bit of dirty talk and get her nice and wet. You want her to be very turned on before you penetrate her, so that her G-Spot will be easier to find and easier to stimulate. To compensate for what you feel may be a small penis size, you can thrust at an upward angle to access the G-Spot and give her powerful orgasms regardless of penis size. Use the angle to your advantage, and try stimulating her clitoris at the same time, for powerful blended orgasms. Practice makes perfect and if you get skilled at G-Spot sex, your girl really isn’t going to care much about the size of your penis at all.

Tip #3 – Have Bulletproof Sexual Confidence

Be comfortable with who you are, and be comfortable with yourself sexually. Even if you feel that your penis is on the smaller size of normal, if you are comfortable and confident with your sexual skills, it will show through in the bedroom. So how do you get bulletproof sexual confidence? Hone your skills. Research, study and watch videos. Take the time to learn how to truly please a woman, with more than just your penis. Your research will pay off, and you’ll know you have your sexual skills down pat. That will, in turn, make you more confident that you know what you’re doing in the bedroom, and you know how to please a woman. Nothing turns a woman off faster than a newbie who is fumbling around down there, not knowing which way is up, regardless of how huge and mighty his penis may be. Get confident with yourself, get comfortable with yourself. Be dominant, and use techniques that work with your penis size and not against it. You’ll be able to give your woman more orgasms than you ever thought possible.

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Dear Dan and Jennifer,

 

I’d like to know when I can expect my penis to start growing and when it’s going to stop. Also, how big is a normal penis? Thanks for your help!

 

-Jonathan, MO

When Does The Penis Start Growing?

Penis growth starts when a boy hits puberty. When you first start to grow pubic hair, your penis will start to grow as well. The testes will drop down further into the scrotum and you’ll notice the penis becoming longer when it is erect as well as when it is not. Of course, as you go through puberty, you’ll notice more changes than just size – it may change slightly in color or the texture of the skin. The rest of your body will change as well, and you’ll notice your voice deepen and your overall body will go through several growth spurts. It can be pretty disorienting at first, especially considering that as your penis grows, you’ll begin to have sexual desires that you might not have had before.

When Does The Penis Stop Growing?

During puberty, you can expect your penis to continue to grow, just like the rest of your body. As you get taller, your penis will grow as well. It might not be changes that you notice on a daily basis, but the changes are small and they are there. The penis typically stops growing when you stop growing, or rather as you stop gaining height. When you stop growing taller, generally in the early twenty’s, your penis will stop growing as well. It will have reached its maximum length and girth and generally will stay the same throughout your adult life.

How Large Is A Normal Penis?

That’s a question that many men ask, especially in conjunction with questions about penis growth, but it’s a difficult question to answer. What is “normal” isn’t necessarily classified – meaning, we are all different and we all have different anatomies. No two penises will ever be exactly the same! Generally speaking, the typical penis ranges between 2-3 inches long when it is flax and between 5-6 inches when it is erect. Many men, however, fall outside these categories and that doesn’t necessarily mean there is anything wrong with you! Whether you are extremely well endowed, or have a smaller penis, your anatomy is yours. That’s all there is to it!

Learning to be comfortable with your body and in your own skin takes time. Even adult men aren’t comfortable with their penis size, whether they’re large or small and still more younger men who are going through puberty are insecure about themselves and their changing bodies. Let nature take it’s course and learn to be comfortable with not only who you are, but how your body looks and feels as well. Confidence in yourself is worth much, much more than a penis of any size!

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Vaginoplasty

One of the options for vaginal rejuvenation is vaginoplasty, or vaginal surgery. Experienced surgeons can help tighten things up down south, giving you and your partner a more satisfying sex life – but is vaginal surgery all it’s cracked up to be? Not exactly. As with any surgery, while there are pros, there is also a long list of cons. The worst being death, followed by infection, undesirable results (such as a vagina that is still too loose or becomes too tight to even have intercourse), and a long recovery period if the surgery goes without a hitch. Any woman considering vaginoplasty should talk to a board-certified surgeon and consider all options before consenting to surgery.

Are There Other Options?

Of course! The most tried and true of all of them are the well-known Kegel exercises. You may have heard of them, but might not ever tried them. Just like any other muscle, the vaginal muscle can become tighter and more toned with regular exercise. To find your Kegel muscles, simply stop your stream of urine mid-go. This is the exact same maneuver you’ll use when doing your Kegel exercises. You can even try doing Kegels with a vaginal weight or Ben-Wa balls.

Another option is vaginal tightening cream. Just like anti-wrinkle cream for your face, vaginal tightening cream plumps and hydrates the inner walls of the vagina, giving you and your partner heightened sensitivity during sex. Combined with Kegel exercises, vaginal tightening cream can help produce even better results than vaginal surgery, without the risks and lengthy healing periods.

Not all vaginal tightening creams are the same though. Many vaginal tightening creams claim to do wonders, but lack clinical backing or may even use ingredients that are considered unsafe. Because they are manufactured overseas, some even have traces of arsenic. (Be safe.) PK24 is the only vaginal cream that is manufactured in the United States to ensure quality and has gone through clinically trials to test for safety and efficacy.

PK24 is the only clinically tested and proven vaginal tightening cream on the market today, helping women every day to bring the spark back to their sex lives and the satisfaction back to their partners.

PK24 is one of the only all-natural vaginal tightening creams that use proprietary plant extracts to achieve the desired results and is safe enough to use every single day! Lasting a full 24 hours, PK24 helps women achieve heightened vaginal sensations and have better, more frequent orgasms.

In fact, in the PK24 clinical trials, 78% of women reported an increase in satisfaction with their ability to reach orgasm AND 45% report increase in frequency of orgasm when using pk24.

Before considering vaginoplasty, a woman should exhaust all other options first. Through discovering different ways to tighten and tone your vaginal tissue and muscles, you can bring the passion back to your sex life without expensive and risky vaginal surgery. Do some research on your own about what other women are saying about Kegel exercises, vaginal weights and PK24 vaginal tightening cream to find the best solution for you and your partner.

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Pretty happy. Very happy. In fact, most men would be completely pleased with a one inch gain in length. They wouldn’t much mind if that’s the most they could physically gain.

Now there’s some good news and some bad news. The good news is that most men can gain an inch in length. The bad news is that it takes at least a fair amount of work. Sometimes it can take a lot.

But consider this situation. The pros heavily outweigh the cons. Most men don’t know it’s even possible to improve the size of their privates.

So…that first inch. Let’s make that your main goal. That is what you’re going to aim for. Now, how are you going to achieve it? Here is how.

Total Motivation – You Have To REALLY Want A Bigger Penis

The idea of having an extra inch of penis is already a pretty motivating one, but it’s not enough. Most men will give up long before they’ve done enough exercise routines to gain noticeable new size. So, total motivation is necessary.

Start by getting an erection and looking down at it. You know the sight well. Now place a ruler along the side of it. Don’t cheat. Place it from where it starts at the base to where it ends at the very tip. Now move your eyes along to that golden starting figure.

What is it? Let’s say it’s 6”. I want you to visualize one more inch on top of that. Extend the shaft in your mind. Picture it longer and thicker. Imagine the difference in weight in your hand. This is a tool you’re looking at and you need to vividly picture it one inch bigger, no more, no less.

Burn the image of it one inch bigger into your mind’s eye. Now imagine the feeling you WILL experience when you reach your goal of being one inch bigger. The feeling of knowing that it’s always going to be longer and thicker, for all time. It’s a good feeling and it’s one you will experience if you follow the rest of these tips…

Creating A Solid Penis Enlargement Routine

If you rush into natural penis enlargement, you’ll tire out the tissues of your penis from the get go and, as a result, you’ll struggle to gain new size. You need to stay calm and relaxed.

Put together a simple routine that you will use, unchanged, for two weeks.

Something like: three sets of 10 wet jelqs (look them up if you don’t know what they, or any of these exercises go like). Each wet jelq lasts 3 seconds and there is a one minute gap between each set. Then you do 5, 5 second stretches at 20% erection.

Then 20 Kegels, finishing with 15 dry jelqs at 60% erection, each one lasting 4 seconds. That’s a great beginner’s routine. So memorize it and start using it two or three times a week for the next two weeks. Do it.

Restrain Yourself From Measuring Your Penis Too Soon

You should take your starting measurements ONCE before the two weeks begin, then refrain from measuring again until the two weeks are up. The temptation to measure is strong, but don’t do it. There’s no point. Just focus your attention on completing your routines in a full and high quality way. No slacking or cheating.

Keep It Up For Two Weeks and Then Check Your Penis Measurements Again

Complete the two weeks and then take your flaccid and erect measurements again. Have you gained? If not, so what? You’ve not lost anything, you’ve learned something. You’re going to increase the intensity of your routine by upping the rep numbers. Simple. If you’ve gained, then great! Continue using the routine until the gains slow down or stop. Then up the intensity.

These simple tips will help you towards achieving your goal of gaining that first magical, wonderful, glorious inch. It feels good…trust me.

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This fact applies no where more than with the subject of natural penis enlargement. This self-improvement discipline isn’t as well documented as body building or fitness training. You won’t find any books about it in the bookstore. It’s a growing (yeah) subject.

This means that, more than with any other sport or hobby, you need to take total control over your growth journey. You need to be the one keeping track of your gains and deciding when you need to switch your routine to encourage new growth.

But you aren’t alone. Other guys, who also have the privilege of knowing about natural penis enlargement, are treading the same path, and they’re seeing big success.

Here are some powerful tips for gaining a lot of size as quickly as you can using the theory of routine and exercise consistency.

Kegels

A kegel is a simple exercise that you can use to strengthen your PC muscle, which plays a central and vital role in controlling the health and status of your erection and overall sexual health. I cannot overstress the importance of doing kegel routines regularly.

They absolutely suck when you start out, because they’re hard work. Your PC muscle isn’t used to being exercised, so it will ache and feel tired. You need to push past that. No pain, no gains.

Start a simple kegel routine today. Three times a day, do 25 kegels that each last 5 seconds. Squeeze as hard as you can. Don’t go easy on yourself. Push past the temptation to quit early or leave more than 10 seconds between each rep.

Dry Jelqs

A dry jelq is an exercise you can do anywhere, as long as you’ve got some privacy and about 10 minutes. When the conditions are right, get a 40% erection by, well, doing what you need to do, then do 10 dry jelqs that each last 4 seconds.

Take a couple minutes’ break, maintaining the 40% erection, then do 10 more. Pack up and carry on your day, safe in the knowledge that you’ve just done a light routine that will encourage girth gains in a big way.

Routine Days

Never skip a day. If you skip a routine day, the next one will only be half as effective. No matter how you feel or how much you doubt you’re gaining length or girth, you need to perform your routine. Make it part of your life. Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays you do your natural penis enlargement exercises. No one has to know except you.

Be Ready For the Expected

For your first month, don’t think too much about the possibility of not gaining. To be honest, you’re very, very likely to gain half an inch in your first 6 weeks, but even if you don’t, stay casual. Don’t fret!

Know that it isn’t unusual to not gain for a while. You need to find the routine that works for you; the one that is the right intensity. So, after 2 or 3 weeks with no gains whatsoever (as long as you’ve been doing kegels as well), change your routine by mixing around the exercises, rep times, and rep numbers.

If you combine the 4 tips you’ve just learned, then you’ll be performing natural penis enlargement exercises with consistency, and with consistency come gains in length and girth. Visualize that extra inch. You can get that with work. So get working!

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For men, a small penis means possible harassment in gym showers and embarrassment in bed. For women it presents a different problem. Its below-average size could well limit their sexual pleasure and at the same time inhibit the man’s confidence so much that his sexual performance could also be unsatisfactory.

It’s really no wonder penis size, and the average length and girth of the male anatomy, is talked about so much by millions of people all over the world, of both sex, it’s almost considered a yardstick for a guy’s manhood.

What People Think About Penis Size

A small penis is bad, while a big, thick penis is good. The line has been clearly drawn in the sand, regardless of whether it’s right or wrong. I’ll tell you right now what the average size is. Forget about the average penis sizes of different races; even if there is a slight difference it won’t affect you much.

Here’s the only figure that might: the average size is about 5 and 3 quarter inches in erect length. The average girth is about 5 inches around (which might sound a lot, but wrap a fabric tape measure around your own and it’ll seem much more modest).

Averages Don’t Really Help

Thing is, knowing those numbers doesn’t put most men at ease and I doubt it has you. Why? Because it doesn’t change anything. Yeah, you might be half an inch bigger than average, or perhaps an inch thicker down below than most other guys, but that feeling of inadequacy, of wanting more, is probably still there.

It’s completely natural, too. Let’s say you’re 6 and a half inches long when erect, knowing you’re an inch and a bit bigger than average is great, right?

But at the very same time, you know lots of guys have 7, 8 or 9 inch penises. How great would that be? And that right there is the true subject of this article. Forget averages, let’s talk enlargement.

Penis Enlargement

Right off the bat, natural penis enlargement (that is, making your penis longer and thicker without surgery, without pills and without crazy suction devices) is completely possible.

Instead of telling you how it is or why it works, I’ll describe how you can see for yourself how truly achievable new penis growth is. Let’s look at a technique called a ‘Dry Jelq.’ It’s used to target new, permanent growth in the thickness of your erect AND flaccid penis.

Steps To a Bigger Penis

Step 1. Get a 40-50% erection, no more, no less.

Step 2. Create a circle using the thumb and forefinger of your right hand. It should look like the ‘OK’ sign people make when they want to signal something’s good or acceptable. Your other fingers (middle, ring and pinky) should be outstretched.

Step 3. Firmly grip the base of your penis using the ‘OK’ sign and slowly move your grip upwards towards the head of your penis. Don’t slide over the skin. Instead, focus on keeping your fingers on top of the same area of flesh all the time, while still sliding up and along the shaft.

Think of it like the motion used when milking a cow. The blood in your penis is forced up towards and into the head.

Step 4. After you’ve milked from the base to just below where the head of your penis starts, release your grip. You’ve completed one repetition or ‘rep’. Do 20-30 reps for your first session and increase it to 50 once you’ve been doing it a couple of weeks.

Other Techniques to Increase Penis Size

The Dry Jelq is just one technique of dozens that have been specially designed and tested and that truly work, with a little bit of patience and practice, at increasing the size of your penis. After using dry jelqs for a couple of weeks you’ll already notice that your penis hangs heavier and lower day-to-day and that it feels more weighty and solid when you’re hard.

Using this and the other fundamental techniques as a routine that you do a couple of times a week, you can not only TRULY forget about averages but also forget about BEING average.

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It’s really not the size of your penis, but how you use it.  A lot of guys see this as a copout response, but it is the honest answer.  It also depends on the woman and the size of her vagina. If you think your penis is to large for your woman then you should take it slow and see how she responds.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

My penis is 7.5″ long. I’m a virgin and I don’t want my first time to hurt whoever I intend to share my virginity with. Am I too big?

–Concerned, Florida

Penis size really isn’t that important

What is more important than length of your penis is the width of it. If your penis is long and thick then your partner might be in for a little bit of trouble.  There is no “correct” length, because we are all made differently but what really matters is if you and your partner enjoy sexual intercourse and that you’re not causing her discomfort. If it is your first time, then you should take it slow and see how she reacts.

You’ll find there are a lot of women out there who enjoy a large penis, so don’t worry too much if you think you’re too large. There are also plenty of lubricants to help ease the process of insertion to make it much gentler on the woman. Sex is to be enjoyable to both parties, but some men who have larger penises don’t stop to think if it might be uncomfortable for a woman.

You’ll find you will have a much better sex life if you do stop to consider your partner’s enjoyment as much as your own. You won’t hear as much praise from your partner if you are a “stick it in and hope for the best” kind of guy.  Sex is as much about pleasing your partner as it is pleasing yourself.

A large penis is intimidating

Having a large penis can be intimidating to both the man and woman.  Most men prize a larger penis, but seldom stop to find out if their partner is comfortable with it. By stopping to ask if your partner is comfortable with the size of your penis and if intercourse is enjoyable for her, you have made an effort towards being a good lover to your partner.

You have to remember that usually for a woman, the first time can be painful, but a woman’s vagina is amazingly accommodating. After a few times of having sex, the vagina will make room for a larger penis and sex will become more enjoyable. Some women are afraid a large penis will hurt , which it might if your penis is very wide or extraordinarily long.

Most of this discomfort will pass as the vagina becomes accustomed to more girth. It is possible for the vagina to tear, which can be painful for a woman, but this will usually heal in time. You might need to take it easy for a few days while it does though.

All in all, it’s not very likely that your penis will hurt your partner. Vaginas almost always accommodate, even if the first few times are painful. If you’re forceful, however, you can hurt your partner regardless of your size. Just take it slow and make sure both you and your partner are comfortable!

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Certainly, it depends on who you ask. Some people prefer large penises and others prefer quite small ones.  The majority of people, however, agree that penis size is relative to the vagina.

If a penis fits the vagina, it really doesn’t matter how big it measures because, well . . . it fits!

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Does penis size really matter?

- Small Penis Guy, CA

The Penis Size Controversy

The controversy over penis size has been talked about for ages and no one really seems to have come up with a conclusion.  Many men feel as though they are too small and, honestly, it’s a common misconception. It’s all about whether the penis fits the vagina or not.  Everyone comes in different shapes and sizes and that includes both male and female genitalia.  Where sexual pleasure is concerned, the greatest pleasure is often derived from intercourse with someone whose genitalia physically matches your own.

If The Penis Fits…

For example, women with extremely long vaginal canals might prefer larger penises while women with small vaginas might feel that a large penis is too big or painful and prefers a smaller, more compact penis.  Men whose penises are quite wide will often like a woman to be wider as well, as that type of vagina is more accommodating.  It really all boils down to who you’re with. Is your penis too small for her vagina and you’re unable to make her climax?  Is it so big that it causes her pain?  If you find yourself in this situation, you might want to take matters into your own hands – no pun intended. If you fear that your penis may be too small, too large or simply not the right shape or size for your partner’s vagina, it’s time to get creative.

Creative Ways to Work a Size Mismatch

Don’t rely completely on intercourse for you and your partner’s sexual pleasure. It will lead to very boring, monotonous sex especially if you two have a size mismatch.  Try incorporating oral sex on both the receiving and giving ends, or use hands and toys to give your partner pleasure.  If you stick to just intercourse, you’re likely to be frustrated and disappointed.

Work with your partner to find new and creative ways you can please each other sexually in addition to intercourse.  Perhaps using a little extra lubrication or a toy during intercourse will stimulate her so that your penis size isn’t completely what she’s focused on.  There are hundreds of ways you can “ad lib” during sexual exploration and the only limit to what you and your partner can do is your imagination.

When Penis Size Does Matter

If you and your partner can’t work it out so that you can both derive sexual pleasure from each other, it’s time to evaluate your relationship.  There are ways to be intimate without sex and many happy couples do not have sex with each other at all or don’t have sex often.  Evaluate whether you would be comfortable finding other ways to be intimate besides sex.  If not, it might be time to move on.

If you and your partner are having pleasurable sex, then you can probably put the penis size issue to bed.  If you’re a good match physically, it doesn’t matter. If you and your partner aren’t a good match, the best thing to do is simply to give new, creative ideas a shot in the bedroom and see where they take you.  You can decide where to go from there.

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Even worse, have you had complaints from women about the size of your penis?

This is a question that has plagued men from the beginning of time.

The Question

I seem to be having trouble with the opposite sex.

What is the average size of the male penis. I measured mine erect and found that I am 3.7 inches long, 0.8 inches wide and 0.4 inches thick width a measured circumference of 2.7 inches. Is that normal, small or big?

I also have right curvature of the penis that doesn’t hurt but it’s shaped like a u-turn. If it was bigger it would probably point back at me. I also makes it look weird and really small. Is that normal and does masturbation cause that?

I just started shaving my balls, does that make the penis look bigger or is it a dead give away?

My last three girlfriends said my penis was pathetic and they had seen pencils bigger. One said my penis would get lost in her mouth if she tried to suck it. My confidence is shattered and I would love to have answers to my questions. Pleas help and write back soon.

The Answer

What is the perfect penis size?

This is an age old question with no “right” answer. Since we are not experts in this field, this one required some research…

I believe that the Taoist Masters have the best answer to this question, but I’ll include some Western views on the topic as well.

Taoist Thoughts on Penis Size

I’m currently reading a book called “Sexual Reflexology” by Mantak Chia (the same author as “Multi-Orgasmic Man“) and William Wei.  The principles in the book are based on ancient Taoist traditions and practices. Basically what this book tells us is that the size and shape of the man’s penis must match with the size and shape of the woman’s vagina. I don’t know about you, but that just seems to make sense…

The book goes on to talk about various ways to tell if you are sexually compatible with another person by looking at various body features on the hands, ears, and face. It’s worth reading if you haven’t already.

I’m also going to check out the “Multi-Orgasmic Man“. The principle here is teaching men how to separate the orgasm from the ejaculation so that they can enjoy multiple orgasms and extended sexual excitement.

OK, back on topic…

Penis size resources from the web

Of course we Westerners want to quantify everything, so here are some really great articles that I found online while researching the answer to this question. (No, we don’t know everything …).

Rather than repeat it all here, I think you’ll get more out of it, if you read the articles yourself. They’re quite informative.

“Facts about Penis Size”, written by Dr David Delvin and Christine Webber at NetDoctor

“Does Penis Size Matter?”, written by Vanessa Burton at AskMen.com

“What is a normal penis size?”, from the Men’s Health section on About.com

What about a curved penis?

I’ve actually heard of this condition before. Depending on the seriousness of the curve, it could be Peyronie’s Disease. Now before you freak out… All that means is that the penis is curved excessively in one direction or another.

I’m going to stop here and tell you to check out this article, “Peyronie’s Disease”, and then contact your doctor if you think you have this condition. There are treatments available, but only your doctor can tell you if they’re right for you (Do I sound like a drug commercial yet?)

You can have great sex, even with a small penis

I know this may come as a shocker to some of you out there, but it’s possible to have really great sex without a man’s penis even being involved. No, really. A surprising statistic is that as many as 70% of women don’t achieve orgasm during intercourse without some other type of stimulation. Guys, listen up here.

There are tons of great books (and videos too) out there on how to please your woman. If you do a search on Amazon, there are hundreds of results for “female orgasm”. Here are a few that we actually recommend:

“The Clitoral Truth” by Rebecca Chalker – This is a very technical but informative book on the female anatomy. You didn’t get this information in sex ed. I feel it’s a must read for everyone.

“The One Hour Orgasm” by Leah and Bob Schwartz – This was a very interesting book, but make sure you’ve got all night to implement the techniques (The Venus Butterfly technique) in this book.

“The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Amazing Sex” by Sari Locker – We love the Idiot’s Guide series. If we ever want to know more on any topic, the Idiot’s Guide is one of the first books we buy.

Add a comment at the bottom if you have any great sex books you’d like to recommend.

Women are evil!

At least some of them… The part of this question that really makes me angry is the behavior of these women, and others like them, and the effect that their comments have had on otherwise strong and confident men.

Men’s egos are very delicate creatures that do not do well under even the slightest criticism. If you really want to crush a man, just insult his “manhood”. This is in fact so engrained in our culture, that we use to word “manhood” to refer to a man’s penis.

Here’s a message for all of those crushed egos out there from a great woman.

Eleanor Roosevelt said it best, “No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.” In other words, although the feelings are normal, it’s what you do with them and how you process them that reconnect you to your power.

Read this great article by Carol Juergenson-Sheets – “Difficult People – No One Can Make You Feel Inferior”

Obviously these women know very little about sexual pleasure if their only concern is the size of a man’s penis. Consider yourself lucky not to be involved with them.

I recommend reading the books above so that you can satisfy her completely, and that by the time you get to intercourse, she won’t care about the size of your penis!

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