Yikes.

But ED is actually very common, and often only temporary. Most guys out there will be able to remember one drunken night that they couldn’t quite make it happen. In fact anything from one too many hamburgers, to ill health, to how stressed you’re feeling about your job can have an effect on your ability to get it up.

Here are some of the most common reasons why ED may happen to you:

1. Reduced Blood Flow To The Penis

Hands down the most common cause of ED in over 40s is that not enough blood is flowing to your penis to make it hard. This is caused by a narrowing of the arteries which is a natural part of getting older. However, you may want to eliminate the environmental factors that can make it worse.

2. Smoking And Poor Diet

Yep these are the two things you think of straight away as a cause of bad health and poor circulation. Smoking and high cholesterol foods (that would be your favourite pizza) constrict and clog the arteries respectively. The result? Crappy erections. The penis is no different to any other area of your body. For your penis to be fit, you have to be fit too.

3. Lack Of Exercise

Remember sex is a cardiovascular activity, which puts it in the same bracket as running! So if you think you’d collapse after two minutes on the treadmill, the chances of you getting a high quality erection are slim. The more physically fit you are, the more efficiently your heart pumps blood, the stronger your erections will be.

There are other physical causes of ED: like Multiple Sclerosis, cycling, and a lack of testosterone.

This is rarer though than psychological factors like stress: which are in fact the most common cause of ED.

4. Stress

Yep that same feeling of ‘headache’ caused by your boss setting you an unreasonable deadline, or worrying about your parents’ ill health, can be the same psychological burden that stops you from performing. ED that sets on suddenly is usually due to stress. So if you’re having a tough time personally, as well as professionally; often fixing what’s going on in the work place will help fix what’s not happening in the bedroom.

5. Anxiety

Erectile dysfunction pretty much sums up the saying ‘negative cycle.’ If you have ED once then it can quickly become a repeat offender: because not having the erections you want is stressful. Best way forward is to take the pressure off. Enjoy non-penetrative activities with your partner, don’t focus on your erection and you can break the cycle.

So while the bad news is that ED is pretty common, particularly as you age; it is also often temporary. Making sure you have good health, a happy head and positive relationships will do a lot to counterbalance the most common causes of ED.

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Bringing your face and mouth so close to someone’s genitals can produce much anxiety. In this section we will explore how you and your partner can best prepare yourselves for a successful fellatio session.

Good, Clean Fun

Some women are turned on or aroused by a man’s natural smell and some aren’t – it really depends on the woman’s preference. You may or may not enjoy your partner’s natural smell and it may even depend on the partner – it is fine either way. We can generally come to a consensus however, in saying that most women are not terribly fond of the smell of an unwashed penis or groin or a groin that has been subjected to a hot and sweaty day in a tight pair of jeans (no matter how much some women might like how those tight jeans may look).

If you are one of the women that don’t particularly enjoy your partner’s smell or if your partner has had a gnarly day at work, you might want to incorporate a shower into your pre-oral sex routine. This may not need much effort on your part – some men will automatically feel the need (or want) to shower before having a woman put her face so near his genitals and backside, for that matter. Incorporating a shower into the pre-oral sex routine does not need to be approached gently as in the case of a woman. You don’t necessarily want to go advertising that he smells down there (don’t bruise the ego!) but you can generally suggest hot, soapy shower sex beforehand without the risk of your partner inferring that he smells.

To get things rolling, you can soap him up in the shower with a bit of handjob action to make it all the more exciting for him. He may not feel comfortable with you washing under his scrotum or in his anal area, so hand him a washcloth and let him do it himself if that’s the case. Just remember not to skip these parts, because the thicker pubic hairs in these areas cause odor molecules to cling to them like white on rice.

Shaving

Since we’ve established that odor lurks in places with thick, kinky hair (such as in the deep groin and anal area), shortening or removing the hair in these places may seem like a great idea. Theoretically, it is! Your partner may not take to the idea of a razor getting so close to his manly parts. If you feel that shortening, trimming or shaving some or all of the hair in his groin area might make fellatio more pleasurable for you, suggest this to him! There are several things you can point out to help sway him to see your point.

• Everything looks bigger with less hair on it – chest muscles (also called Pecs) stand out more when a man has little or no chest hair and the same applies to penises!  It will look like he has a bigger penis with no hair. Not everyone likes a completely shaven member though and this includes both men and women.
• If you or your partner feels uncomfortable around a completely bald penis, try just a close trim (try setting #3 on a beard trimmer to start). This too will achieve the desired illusion of a bigger manhood without making your partner look and feel like a ten year old boy again! Discuss with your partner which he feels would be better – a completely shaven member or a closely trimmed one? Let him choose. It will make him feel more in control over the situation you have suggested. He may even feel like it was his idea! Let him know that if he doesn’t like it, he can always grow it back – it doesn’t take long. That way, he feels like it isn’t something he has to be totally committed to.
• Less sweating – less hair down there means less heat and less heat means less sweating. Really, less sweating means less smell and there it is all boiled down for you. But in this case, when presenting the idea to your partner, he may like the sound of not being so hot and sweaty down there when he is working or doing other chores that cause sweatiness. Be careful though with shaving in this respect as growing back, it may be itchy and any sweat can cause extreme discomfort. If this happens to a completely shaven man, baby powder can help alleviate it. Best bet is to give his groin a nice trim, fairly close to the skin.
• Less hassle – although the trimming and shaving will take some effort, it is well worth it. Think, no pubic hairs caught in the zipper! Also, letting him know that being trimmed or shaven will make fellatio more enjoyable for you and you’ll be more likely to do it more often – this alone can make him ready to get out the trimmers!

If your partner does decide to try shaving, there are some very important tips that can help make the process (and the aftercare) a bit easier for him and a lot more manageable.

• Soak in a warm bath for a few minutes before shaving to soften the hairs.
• Conditioner can also be used on the hair to soften it – leave it on for several minutes.
• Trim any long hair with scissors (or an electric shaver) before starting
• Use disposable safety razors – never use a straight blade!
• Use your hands to manipulate skin to stretch it out before shaving it
• Use hypoallergenic, unscented soaps, shaving creams and lotions. It will cut down on irritation later.
• Don’t use powder unless it’s cornstarch
• Use a mirror – a hand mirror works well. It’s easier if you can see what you’re doing!
• Over-the-counter cortisone cream can help razor burn should it arise.

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I love to give head: but it’s amazing when you can drop to your knees to perform a blowjob on a guy and truly rock his world. And I don’t mean in the ‘hooray my girlfriend is giving me head’ way; I mean in a way that will have him screaming, “Wow! That was AMAZING!” Well good news, this is what we’re going for!

Now whilst giving head to girls is often seen as a bit more of an art form; sometimes we can be a bit lazy when going down on guys. You may think that they’re happy with the same old in-out motion: but try these tricks and you’ll have them begging for more.

So listen up ladies (or men), and I’ll tell you how you can make your guy squirm with some advanced added extras to a basic oral sex position.

Choosing The Right Oral Sex Position

Get your guy to lie on his back (preferably erect) and kneel between his legs. Kneeling is better than lying, as if you spread your knees wide apart on the bed, and lean down to give him head, he’ll get a great view of your back and pert ass. Perfect for giving him a taster of what’s coming later.

Tips For Developing Your Own Blowjob Style

1. Make sure your hands are sufficiently lubricated with saliva (a lot of guys will like the sound of you spitting) or a good dose of lubricant. Silicone based lube is a particular favorite of mine, as it is deliciously viscous, and will make you sliding your hands up and down his shaft even easier.
2. Begin to massage, using your lead hand, up and down his shaft using a firm grip (the more lubricated he is the harder you can hold) and then lean over to take his penis in your mouth.
3. As you move up and down keep your mouth and lead hand at a rhythm. Try varying the pace: faster when you want to get him worked up to orgasm, mixed with slowing things down to help him keep going for longer.
4. As you get warmed up you’ll be able to take him deeper and deeper. Make sure to keep your mouth open wide: lots of guys will like you to be able to take them to the entrance to your throat. With a little practice this maneuver will help you to practice deep throat.
5. Now this is where most people would stop; instead go beyond the vanilla blow job and get bonus points for incorporating your other hand. As a first step you can use it to add extra pressure to the penis by holding one hand over the other.
6. Once you’ve got your balance, begin to move your hands independently. One hand can continue the up-down motion, whilst the other holds the base of his penis in a tight grip. Alternatively, you can use it to pleasure yourself, and give him a seductive side show. There are few things sexier than him watching you getting off whilst giving him head.
7. Feeling adventurous? Then insert the palm of your hand underneath his ball sack on the sensitive perineum (lots of lovely nerve endings there) and apply gently pressure by cupping the area of skin at the base of the penis. From here you can gently massage his balls with your hand… Yes at the same time as the other hand/ mouth perform fellatio!
8. Feeling really naughty (as I usually am)? Then swap to giving him a double handed jerk-off whilst you lick his balls. Start at his anus (I told you this was rude) and work up to his balls; sliding your tongue up the shaft of his penis, eventually returning to your original position.
9. Work out what really turns your guy on. Men have different preferences just like women. Get to know whether he enjoys saliva, sounds, licking (or even sniffing!) his balls and then combine his favorite moves to make him go wild.

Practice Makes Perfect

I’m not going to lie: putting these sexy twists on the classic blow job does require practice, determination and a good dose of enthusiasm for the job.

If you find giving a blowjob anything but thrilling, then getting him to thoroughly wash, shave and using flavoured lubricant will help to make your task more pleasurable. Personally, though I think there’s a lot of pleasure you can have knowing how much you can turn someone else on. Do this right and he’ll be so in awe of your multi-tasking womanly powers that he’ll claim it will feel like there are two women giving him oral sex at once, and not just one.

The result? A very happy man, and a whole lot of ‘I owe you’s!

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What Is Auto Fellatio?

Auto fellatio is defined as the act of a man giving himself oral sex and licking his own penis as a form of masturbation. This may include manual masturbation or may just involve the mouth only. It may sound impossible for a man to do this, and the truth is, most guys can’t. However, if a man has a particularly large penis size or is very flexible, it is possible that it can be done.

Similarly, auto cunnilingus is where a woman bends forward and gives herself oral sex. However, it is much more difficult for a woman to give herself oral sex than it is for a man to give himself a blowjob. This is because women have a little farther to go to get their mouths in contact with their genitals. Although it is very rare to see either gender give themselves oral sex, it is far less common among women simply because it’s physically more difficult to do so.

Can Guys Really Stretch That Much?

The far majority of guys cannot stretch far enough down to actually get their mouth on the head of their penis. You have to be extremely flexible and fit to be able to do it! It is very difficult to actually stretch that much, and it is often painful or uncomfortable. It can cause muscles to pull and tear, because the body has to be in such an extreme position for auto fellatio to take place. Usually, guys who are able to perform auto fellatio have experience in gymnastics or have some type of gymnastics training. Another way this can be achieved is by having someone help push the body and head forward towards the penis.

The truth is, however, that even guys who are able to perform auto fellatio cannot go all the way down on their penises. Most of the time, the mouth can only reach the head of the penis or the top of the shaft. It is very rare for a man to be able to stretch enough to get his entire penis in his mouth. For this reason, it is common for men to masturbate  with their hand and stroke the shaft of their penis while performing auto fellatio. This is because they can only lick and suck the head of their penis, so they complement it with the movement of their hand on the shaft.

Can Auto Fellatio Be Learned?

While having a background in gymnastics or having exceptional flexibility is helpful when it comes to being able to perform oral sex on yourself, this activity can be learned. Even if you’ve never been very flexible before, you can learn to stretch your body into a position that makes it possible for you to connect your mouth with your genitals. It will definitely take time and patience to learn, and it’s not something that you’re going to be able to do overnight. You will need to practice stretching daily, going a little further each time.

You can also do this up against the wall for better stability. The wall allows you to lean your lower back against it and angle your penis closer to your mouth. Be aware that auto fellatio is not something that the body was naturally built to do – go slow and if you experience any pain, stop immediately! It’s easy to pull or tear muscles when stretching your body to such an extreme.

Is Ingesting Semen Harmful?

Many guys wonder what their own semen tastes like – and if ingesting it is harmful in any way. It’s not – in fact, women do it all the time! However, if the idea of tasting your own semen (or ejaculating in your own face) turns you off, auto fellatio is probably not something you want to try. It’s unlikely you’d be able to get out of the awkward position you put yourself in quickly enough to avoid ejaculating in your mouth or on your face. While the ability to “suck yourself off” sounds neat, it’s more of a novelty than anything else. You’re going to get much more pleasure from masturbation or a blowjob from your partner.

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