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Q&A: Do Women Care If Men Have A Large Penis? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 23:28:14 +0000

A lot of guys are worried about penis size. Is it too big, is it too small? What do women really like? Each woman prefers something different sexually – some women like it big, others like it smaller, some women like it thick and others don’t. It’s hard to say what women as a whole prefer when it comes to a guy’s penis, because women’s tastes vary so much. That said, it’s time to learn to work with what you’ve got! Here’s how you can make the most of your penis size in bed.

Question: Do girls care if a guy has a huge penis? i have an 11 inch penis but Im not sure if girls want a penis that big?

–YouTube Viewer

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Her Size Matters Too

When it comes to sex, it’s not only the size of a man’s penis that matters, the size of her vagina matters too. If she’s extremely small down there, even a medium sized penis can cause discomfort and pain. If she’s built bigger and her g-spot is located very deep inside her vaginal canal, even a medium to large sized penis isn’t going to give her the satisfaction she wants without some effort and creativity. Finding the right fit sexually means finding a partner whose vagina – and sexual tastes – are compatible with your penis size, whether you’re very large or somewhat smaller.

Communication Is Key

Being able to talk to your partner about what she likes sexually and what she doesn’t – as well as what you like and don’t like – is important no matter what size your penis is. When you first begin having sex with a partner, it’s important to know whether it is working sexually with them or not. If it’s not working for her, she needs to be able to communicate that with you so you and her can find ways to become sexually compatible by adjusting your technique and her techniques – or you may just want to go your seperate ways and find partners that are more suitable to each of your sexual tastes and genital shapes and sizes.

Tips To Help You Make The Most Of Your Penis Size

If you have a very large penis and your partner is smaller, try avoiding putting your penis in her vagina all the way. Avoid positions that allow for very deep penetration, as this may be very uncomfortable or painful for her. Remember to allow your partner lots of foreplay and warmup time so her vaginal muscles relax and become more accomodative for a penis, and remember to use lots of water based or silicone based lubricant. If you feel like your penis is to small for your partner, consider using a condom with an extender or a sex toy with an extender. These additions can give your partner the satisfaction she needs while also continuing to provide you with sexual pleasure as well. Try positions that allow you to penetrate your partner more deeply, such as doggy style or woman on top, where she can be in control. Ask your partner for suggestions on how you can make sex more satisfying for both you and her!

Q&A: What Are Those Bumps On My Penis? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 15:47:30 +0000

Finding something on your penis that you didn’t expect to see there – such as bumps or discharge – can be terrifying. Is it a sexually transmitted disease? What if you’ve never had sex before? What do you do next? It’s impossible to know exactly what is going on with your body until you see your doctor. Your doctor can help diagnose and treat whatever the problem is, so you can get back to living a healthy, happy life.

Questions:

1.What are those bumps on the tip of my penis?

2. I have a friend who tells me about having odd small white spots on his penis, he says he hasn’t had sex before and hes worried if somehow he got a sexually transmitted disease. He is also scared to go to the doctor, do you know what it could be and is it serious?

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What Causes Bumps On The Penis?

There can be several causes for white or red bumps anywhere on the penis. The first thing that comes to mind is a sexually transmitted disease and yes, certain types of STD’s can be responsible for bumps on the penis and in the groin area. Herpes generally causes small, red, pus filled bumps, while genital warts appear more cauliflower like. A single red spot that goes away after a few days can even be a symptom of syphilis. Other causes for bumps on the penis are clogged pores, razor burn or ingrown hairs. These can all cause small red or white bumps and can be the result of recently shaving your penis or genitals, or using cream or lotion that you’ve had a reaction to. Unfortunately, there really is no way to tell sexually transmitted diseases that cause bumps on the penis apart from bumps caused by shaving or ingrown hairs without a doctor’s expertise.

Seeing Your Doctor

Seeing your doctor about your penis can be uncomfortable, but never count your doctor out just because you’re embarrassed. There really is no reason to be – your doctor has gone to school for years to study medicine and to learn to treat patients with various conditions and diseases. There really isn’t anything that your doctor hasn’t seen before, or heard about before. Your doctor is not going to criticize you or look at you like you have a monster growing out of your head just because you have bumps on your penis. Your doctor may take a swab sample from your penis or a blood sample, and they may ask you questions about your sex life and possible exposure to sexually transmitted diseases. These are all important questions that can help lead to a diagnosis in addition to physical tests, and it’s important that you answer all questions completely honestly.

Finding A Doctor That You’re Comfortable With

If you’re truly not comfortable with your current doctor, find a new one. It’s important for every person to have a regular doctor, especially if you’re sexually active. Yearly exams are important and if you’re sexually active with multiple partners, regular STD testing is a must. It’s worth it to put some effort into finding a doctor that you are compatible and comfortable with for your medical needs now and in the future.

Q&A: How To Shave Male Genitals (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 14:00:41 +0000

Whether you want to shave or trim your pubic hair for yourself or your partner really wants to see you clean and smooth, shaving your genitals may seem like a daunting task. Cutting yourself in your most sensitive places is not something you want to do! Here’s how you can shave or trim your genitals quickly and easily without cutting yourself and get lasting, baby smooth results.

Question: Could you give advice on how to shave your male genital area without cutting yourself? I’m afraid if I use a shaving razor that I might cut myself and one of my testicles will fall out.

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Tools For The Job

To start, using a straight blade, a dull razor or just trying to shave quickly with soap and water (or worse, dry!) is going to give you less than good results. In fact, without the right tools for the job, shaving your penis can instantly turn disasterous. While your testicles may not fall out (you’d have to cut yourself really deep for that to happen) shaving without a good razor and shaving cream can give you a few nicks and a really bad razor burn afterwards. If you want to shave your genitals, or even just trim, invest a few bucks – you’ll be glad you did. You’ll need some trimmers (an electric beard trimmer is fabulous), a nice, sharp safety razor, thick and rich shaving cream and some lotion or aftershave.

How To Shave Your Genitals

First, trim your pubic hair first, especially if it is long and curly. Shaving directly over the longer hair will only get hair stuck in your razor and you’re not going to get very much of the hair off.
Next, take a shower or bath to let the warm water loosen the hair follicles. It will make shaving a lot easier and give you a much closer shave.
When preparing to shave each area of your genitals, pull the skin tight. Loose skin will easily catch in a safety razor, resulting in nicks and cuts that you definitely don’t want. Pulling your skin tight will also help you get a closer shave.
When shaving the base of the penis shaft, start at the top of the hairline and move down towards the base of the penis.
Shave your scrotum last, again pulling the skin nice and tight to avoid nicks and cuts.
After your shave, use a good aftershave splash or moisturizing lotion to keep your smooth shave and to prevent red bumps and razor burn afterwards.

Just A Trim

Another option for grooming your pubic hair is simply giving yourself a close trim, especially if you’re nervous about shaving it all off right away. Trimming is a lot easier than shaving, but will leave you with a “buzz cut” of sorts down there. When you prepare for shaving, trim your entire pubic region and see how you like it. You may prefer a trim to a close shave. You can always shave it off if you decide you want baby smooth skin instead. Some guys develop ingrown hairs after shaving – if you’re one of those guys, a trim might be just the ticket.

Is There A Sexual Difference Between Circumcised And Uncircumcised Men?

Kaylen Jackson — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 14:00:41 +0000

It’s the question on every mother’s mind these days – to circumcise or not to circumcise. But it’s not just moms that are wondering how to handle a circumcised or uncircumcised penis, it’s sexually active women too. Many women have only experienced one or the other sexually, and don’t know the difference. Or is there a difference?

Is It Different For The Guy?

Yes. An uncircumcised man still has his foreskin (the soft flap of skin that covers the head of the penis when it is not erect) and a foreskin is jam packed with pleasure nerves much like a clitoris is. While men circumcised at a young age won’t ever know the difference, men who choose to get circumcised when they’re older report decreased overall sensitivity. That’s not to say that circumcised men don’t enjoy sex, because we all know they do! It’s just that anatomy-wise, an uncircumcised males simply have more physical pleasure receptors in their penis.

Is It Different For The Girl?

Now this is more of a matter of personal preference than actual fact. Some women prefer sex with circumcised males, while others prefer sex with uncircumcised men. Some women report that the coronal ridge around the base of the head of the penis on an circumcised man more directly stimulates the g-spot as opposed to a coronal ridge that is partially covered by a foreskin in uncircumcised males. Other women feel that sex with an uncircumcised male provides more friction than their circumcised counterparts because of the extra skin, and sex is better that way. The way women feel about circumcision in general is very similar to the way they feel about penis size in general. Some women like ‘em small, some like ‘em large. Every penis is shaped differently, looks different, has a different color and is a different size. The only way to figure out if sex with a circumcised man feels different than having sex with an uncircumcised man is to figure it out for yourself!

Why Are Boys Still Being Circumcised?

Many parents are choosing to continue to circumcise their sons for religious or hygienic reasons. Uncircumcised males must learn how to properly clean underneath their foreskin once it becomes moveable (just after birth it is fused to the head of the penis for a short while) and this can be difficult for a small child to learn. Parents must often help with this, and many parents believe that a circumcised penis is more “clean” and hygienic. The opinions about circumcision range from those who believe it is a “barbaric” practice to those who suggest that remaining uncircumcised is extremely unhygienic. No one can make the decision for you though, and the decision to circumcise or not should be an informed one.

Whether you’ve had sex with an uncircumcised man or a circumcised man, both or neither, whether a man is cut or uncut isn’t a big deal. Don’t stress over it and definitely don’t make a big deal of it in front of your man. Just love the way he is! Sex is pleasurable for a woman both ways, and just as pleasurable for a man too!

Sex Tip: How To Give Her A G-Spot Orgasm (Video)

Daniel Rose, author Sex God Method — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 14:00:05 +0000

Finding the g-spot can be difficult, but once you’ve found it, you may feel like you’ve struck oil, or reached the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow! Hold on – you’re not done yet. Once you’ve found a woman’s g-spot (and every woman is different, but it’s located in the same general area), it’s time to give her an amazing g-spot orgasm. Many women say this is the deepest, most powerful type of orgasm they’ve ever had. So are you ready to rock your woman’s world?

Now that you’ve watched the video on how to find the g-spot, in this video you’ll find out how to give her a g-spot orgasm both with your fingers and through intercourse plus you’ll also discover the two biggest things that must happen before she’ll be able to have a g-spot orgasm. We want to know – have you ever experienced a g-spot orgasm, or know someone that has? Share with us on our YouTube page!

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Stimulating Her G-Spot With Your Fingers

Once you’ve found it, stimulating your partner’s g-spot takes a little more pressure than you would normally use if your were stimulating your partner’s clitoris. Stimulating your partner’s g-spot is actually quite simple – just rub back and forth, back and forth and side to side in a curved, “come here” motion with your fingers. Communicate with your partner to make sure you’re using the type of pressure she likes and that you’re in the right spot. Communicating with your partner sexually can be as easy as asking a question, or listening to your partner’s vocalizations and body language.

Stimulating Her G-Spot With Your Penis During Intercourse

Stimulating your partner’s g-spot during intercourse is a little bit more difficult that stimulating it with your fingers. It’s not impossible though – it just involves a little more patience and some tricky angles. The reason your fingers work so well to stimulate your partner’s g-spot is that they’re curved, and most penises aren’t curved. Therefore, you have to use different positions to angle your penis towards your partner’s g-spot. The best positions for g-spot stimulation during sexual intercourse are woman-on-top, where she can control the angle, pressure and speed of the stimulation, doggy-style, and missionary position with her legs on your shoulders. All of these positions allow for the head of the penis to more directly stimulate the g-spot, and some of them allow for g-spot stimulation in conjunction with clitoral stimulation for a possible blended orgasm.

An Essential Component To G-Spot Bliss

For a woman to have a g-spot orgasm, she must be completely and totally relaxed, and completely and totally turned on. Going from zero to sixty in a few minutes isn’t going to give your partner a g-spot orgasm, but she’s more likely to have one if you’ve spent a lot of time with your partner using foreplay, stimulating her nipples and licking her clitoris. She’s even more likely to have a g-spot orgasm if she’s had a clitoral orgasm or two first. Women who reach orgasm don’t come down completely like a man does after an orgasm – they stay at a slightly lowered state of heightened arousal, so it’s easier for them to reach multiple orgasms. A woman needs to be absolutely comfortable with her partner too – so spend time talking to each other and really getting to know each other too.

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3 Ways To Give Her MORE Orgasms With A Smaller Penis (Video)

Daniel Rose, author Sex God Method — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 17:15:28 +0000

If you are worried that your penis is too small to give your girl an adequate orgasm, you’re not alone. Most guys are worried about their penis size, particularly that it’s not big enough. Even if your penis size is completely normal, you may still be worried that it’s not big enough to give your woman the kind of orgasms she wants. Going with the assumption that you feel you have a small penis, here are three pretty much foolproof tips to give your girlfriend or wife better orgasms – regardless of your size.

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Tip #1 – True Masculine Dominance

Even if you feel you have a small penis, having true masculine dominance will give you more clout in the bedroom. Women are inherently built to be submissive when it comes to sex (although playing with role reversal can be fun too) and when you play to that side of her nature, you can give her the impression that you are a true, dominant man. Believe it or not, this makes a huge difference in the bedroom! You can use this dominance to work around penis size to get your girl turned on mentally as well as physically. Having true masculine dominance, however, is not about being a jerk or being rude. It’s simply about taking your place as the alpha male and letting your partner get back to her instincts.

Tip #2 – Stimulate Her G-Spot

Before stimulating her G-Spot, go down on your partner a little, give her a bit of dirty talk and get her nice and wet. You want her to be very turned on before you penetrate her, so that her G-Spot will be easier to find and easier to stimulate. To compensate for what you feel may be a small penis size, you can thrust at an upward angle to access the G-Spot and give her powerful orgasms regardless of penis size. Use the angle to your advantage, and try stimulating her clitoris at the same time, for powerful blended orgasms. Practice makes perfect and if you get skilled at G-Spot sex, your girl really isn’t going to care much about the size of your penis at all.

Tip #3 – Have Bulletproof Sexual Confidence

Be comfortable with who you are, and be comfortable with yourself sexually. Even if you feel that your penis is on the smaller size of normal, if you are comfortable and confident with your sexual skills, it will show through in the bedroom. So how do you get bulletproof sexual confidence? Hone your skills. Research, study and watch videos. Take the time to learn how to truly please a woman, with more than just your penis. Your research will pay off, and you’ll know you have your sexual skills down pat. That will, in turn, make you more confident that you know what you’re doing in the bedroom, and you know how to please a woman. Nothing turns a woman off faster than a newbie who is fumbling around down there, not knowing which way is up, regardless of how huge and mighty his penis may be. Get confident with yourself, get comfortable with yourself. Be dominant, and use techniques that work with your penis size and not against it. You’ll be able to give your woman more orgasms than you ever thought possible.<

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HIS Secret Sex Zones: How to Make Him Beg for More

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 01:00:20 +0000

Can you REALLY pleasure your man in bed? Sure, he reaches his climax and all but do you think he considers you a SEX GODDESS?

It may not take a lot to ensure that your boyfriend/husband/lover reaches a climax but the ‘intensity’ of that peak is what we’re talking about here. So ladies, to stand out from all the rest listen up because you’ll now learn how to truly treat him to mind-blowing sex. The secret? Knowing his secret sex zones.

That’s right, men – just like us women – have certain pleasure buttons too and if you know where they are and, more importantly, HOW to stimulate them then you’ll soon make him scream in bed.

So in the interest of ’science’, I and couple more female friends, took it upon ourselves to experiment so that we can give you the low-down on male sex zones.

HIS Hot Zone # 1: Cremaster 101

You may be thinking we made up this name but seriously, there IS such a word as cremaster and it’s a muscle that covers the male testicles. This wonder muscle works pretty much like a bungee cord or rope and it pulls the testicles up (when they’re exposed to cold) and down (when they’re exposed to warmth). You can thus say that the purpose of cremaster is to ensure that the testicles are protected by regulating temperature.

How to master the cremaster: When your partner is just about to come, his testicles retreat. Think of it as a spring coiling tight before the big deployment! It’s of course the cremaster that’s making this ‘coiling’ possible. In contrast, lightly pulling down on his family jewels while making love helps delay ejaculation, thus extending pleasure. So, if you want him to be delirious without pleasure for a long time, make sure you are delaying the effects of the cremaster!

For instance, as you perform fellatio, make sure that you are gently pulling or tugging at his balls. Your tongue action on his member will make him want to explode, but your pulling action is preventing the cremaster from tightening and pulling the testicles up to the point that he reaches a climax. It’s sort of like finding the secret to lasting all night!

As you try the tip above, be sure that you’re not tugging too hard. Remember you want to delay his climax while providing pleasure. You want a deep moan out of him, not a shout of pain.

HIS Hot Zone # 2: The P-Spot

If we women have the G-spot (Gräfenberg spot), men have the P-spot or what is called the prostate, which is actually a gland that holds a fluid that gets ejected with semen as he climaxes. The prostate is just about the size of a walnut and it surrounds the urethra. And just like our g-spots, when the prostate is stimulated, he can be in for a very wild erotic ride.

How to master the P-spot: To stimulate his prostate, you need to know about the corpus cavernosa first. These tissues run over the length of the penis (from the pubic bone to the penis head) and are actually the ways by which blood pumps to the penis, making it erect.

So to cut the long story short, stimulate his penis and you, in effect, stimulate his P-spot. What’s the best way to do this, you ask?

Wrap your dainty hand around his member and instead of making an up and down motion as you normally would, push your hand – gently! – towards him. The result? The corpus cavernosa tissues will go down and ‘cuddle’ the prostate.

HIS Hot Zone #3: Perineum

The perineum is that diamond-shaped area between his balls and back door. It feels slight hard to the touch but it’s jam-packed with nerve endings that can easily send him to erotic heaven!

How to master the perineum: You can stimulate the perineum anytime you wish since it’s pretty much located at an ‘accessible’ angle. However, what a lot of women forget is to stimulate it just when he’s about to come.

For instance, most men seem to prefer to be in the missionary position when they’re ready to explode. So, when you sense that he’s nearing his climax, simply reach down between his legs and press this diamond-shaped pleasure nub with the knuckle of your index finger. Why the knuckle? Well, it really is sensitive so you want to avoid scratching him there. You want him to shout in pleasure and not to shout (at you!) in annoyances or pain.

If on the other hand, you want to stimulate the perineum at the onset of lovemaking, think of it as his clitoris. By this, we mean you should make sure that you are applying various degrees and types of pleasure. (Isn’t it that our clitoris sort of becomes immune, if not even irritated, if it’s constantly treated to the exact same treatment or pressure?)

So be sure that you massage, draw lazy circles, press and ease away, and pretty much keep his perineum point on the edge as you stimulate him.

HIS Hot Zone #4: Lips

Well, what do you know, one of his erogenous zones is one of ours too: the lips. This is not surprisingly really. After all, the membranes that make up the lips are packed with nerve endings. So the next time you think that he’s not much of a kisser, give him a lip treat that will MAKE him want to be kissed over and over again.

How to master his lips: It’s soooo easy to kiss your partner on the lips that you probably just go ahead and plant a big wet one anytime you like. Well, this time, make him beg for it by kissing him everywhere… EXCEPT on the lips. And make him really anticipate it too by making sure you plant really wet, sloppy kisses elsewhere on his body. Make sure you apply various kisses too: wet ones, hard ones, quick ones, sucking ones, you get the idea.

All these moves will make him want you to kiss him full on the lips soon. And when you finally ‘give in’, make sure you do various things such as lining his lips with your tongue, and when they’re wet, exhale gently on them. This wet-cool technique will drive him WILD!

His Hot Zone #5: Nipples

Remember the times when you thought you were almost ‘coming’ because he’s soooo good licking, grazing and sucking your nipples? Well, guess what, you can apply the same delirious pleasure on him.

True, his nipples are not as ‘obvious’ as ours even when they’re hard and erect. However, those little nubs are still packed full of pleasure nerves that you can tap!

How to master his nipples: Start off by kissing, licking and breathing your hot breath on his nipples. That would make them erect enough! Now, as you go on your favorite woman-on-top position, give him a double sensory delight. By this, we mean make his eyes dance with delight as your bosom jiggles up and down in front of you as you ride him. While this is going on, reach out and draw lazy circles around his nipples! We guarantee, he won’t know to which pleasure he should focus on!

So there you have it; five secret sex zones for you to play with tonight. Enjoy!

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Sperm, Semen and Safe Sex – What You Need To Know (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 01:00:50 +0000

Sex education, unfortunately, is at a low nowadays. Although our society has evolved exponentially since sex was considered completely taboo – sex education is still primitive. Television shows, movies, music and even the Internet has taken sex to a completely new level, with songs about “booty calls” and nudity on prime time, but adults in this nation can’t bear to discuss more than the scant basics of sex with their youth. It’s about time somebody steps up and gives solid, useful information about every aspect of sex in an educational way so that our youth can make informed decisions about sex, oral sex and foreplay.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

My girlfriend gives me blow jobs, hand jobs, etc. Every time we play, this white sticky stuff come out, and then after a few minutes cum comes out – what is all this stuff coming out of me?

–Jason, TX

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Sperm, Semen and Precum

Lots of girls want to know – what’s the skinny on sperm, semen and precum? What are they?

Precum – The clear, thinnish and somewhat sticky liquid that comes out of the head of the penis in small amounts during penile stimulation before he actually ejaculates. Precum can and does contain live sperm, although in significantly smaller amounts than actual semen.

Semen – The whitish, thicker fluid that comes out of the head of the penis during ejaculation that contains millions of sperm.

Sperm – Organisms carried within semen and precum that join with a woman’s egg to conceive a child.

Which Of These Can Get A Girl Pregnant?

In short – all of them! Precum and semen both contain sperm. Having unprotected sex without a condom, even before the man ejaculates, can get a woman pregnant. It is better to treat a penis like a loaded gun. Many women believe that allowing a man to have intercourse with her without a condom is safe, as long as the guy pulls his penis out of her vagina before he ejaculates, and ejaculates away from her vagina. While this is safer than allowing your partner to actually ejaculate inside you, it is not a way to protect against pregnancy. Sperm can travel out of the penis pretty much at any time – allowing a condomless penis to get within the vicinity of your vagina puts you at a definite risk of getting pregnant.

Don’t chance it! Even allowing your partner to rub his penis on the outside of your vagina without a condom can transmit sperm from the penis to the vagina and there’s a reason that sperm are called “little swimmers.” They travel! For the safest type of sex, use a condom to prevent pregnancy. You can also discuss with your doctor other methods of birth control that can be used in conjunction with a condom for added protection, or in lieu of a condom if your with an STD free partner and in a completely faithful, monogamous relationship.

Which Of These Can Transmit A Sexually Transmitted Disease?

In short – all of them! Again, treat a condomless penis like a loaded gun, even more so if you’re unsure if your partner has a sexually transmitted disease. To clarify, unless you have a piece of paper in your hand that says your partner has tested negative for STD’s and you’re 110% positive your partner has not had any type of sexual contact with anyone else since the test was taken, you’re unsure of whether your partner has an STD. Protect yourself. Both precum and semen can carry the HIV and AIDS virus, as well as other sexually transmitted diseases. It is important to be even more vigilant if you’re concerned about STD’s, however, because you don’t just have to worry about any fluids from your partner’s penis coming into contact with your vagina, you also have to worry about these fluids possibly coming into contact with your mouth or any open sores or cuts on your body.

For example, if you knicked yourself shaving and your partner rubs his penis up your leg without a condom, you can possibly contract an STD that way. It’s rare – yes. But possible. Be safe and get STD tested, suggest that your partner get STD tested, stay in a monogamous, faithful relationship whenever possible, and use condoms during anal sex, oral sex and vaginal intercourse any time you’re unsure. Always treat your partner’s penis as though it can get you pregnant or give you an STD because in truth – it can! That doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy sex. Just be safe and smart about it!

5 Mistakes To Avoid While Brushing Up On Your Oral Skills & Learning How To Give Great Head

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Sat, 30 May 2009 19:48:01 +0000

Would you like to learn how to give great head? When it comes to the skills in bed that they need to master, this is probably the number one aspect that most women are insecure at.

It’s quite intimidating to go down on your knees and not know exactly what you should do once you’re face to face with his equipment. So what’s the best way to start? If you want to be the type of lover that men never forget, then you should brush up on your oral sex skills and avoid these top 5 mistakes that women make when giving head.

Mistake #1: Using Your Teeth

Sure, your man would not like you to treat his penis too gently when you’re going down on him – but using your teeth is too much on the rough category. You don’t want to nick the skin of his penis, so use your lips as a shield while you’re slowly taking it in.

Mistake #2: Not Playing With His Balls Enough

Just as it is when women complain that most men usually skip on the foreplay to get to the main event, you don’t; want to skip on giving him mind-blowing pleasure by ignoring ‘the boys’.

So what are the rules to follow when it comes to playing with his testicles? Don’t yank, don’t pull them down using a vise grip, never grab and squeeze his balls. What you should do is rub, lick and oh-so-gently tug them until you hear moans of pleasure instead of grunts of pain.

Mistake #3: Giving In To Your Gagging Impulse

The problem is that there are certain levels when a woman’s gag reflex gets triggered. Gagging when you’re trying to give a guy head is definitely a turn off – but what if you can’t help but give in?

Well, you shouldn’t put yourself in such a situation in the first place. Watch when you’re being overly enthusiastic while making sucking motions. If you’re new at giving head, don’t try to take it all in and if you find out from previous experiences that it’s something that you just cannot do – stop trying.

Mistake #4: Not Varying The Pressure Enough

There’s no rule book that you should follow when giving a guy head – but repetitive motions without varying your pressure is not enough of a turn on for him. Use his moans of pleasure to amp up the speed, or slow your motions down to an almost caress if you want to cool him off a bit.

Mistake #5: Not Being In The Moment

Men need to see that you do like worshipping his penis – so don’t just be still while you’re going down on him. Bob your head a bit, use your hands on other parts of his body, make sounds – live in the moment and make him feel like a king when giving him head!

Learning about the top mistakes that you shouldn’t make when giving a guy head is the first step to being the best lover that you can be, so steer clear of this blunders and you can get him off using your mouth in no time at all.

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How To Give Great Head: Top 3 Steps To Follow In Mastering The Art Of Fellatio

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Sun, 24 May 2009 21:12:19 +0000

Did you know that there are some men who prefer receiving oral sex over intercourse? This is similar to the fact that there are a lot of women who cannot achieve an orgasm through penetrative sex, which is why they prefer when a man goes down on them.

So if you want to be the type of woman who will never be forgotten by a man because you’re such a great lover, then you do need to learn how to give great head. Take a look at some of the steps that you need to follow if you would like to master the art of fellatio.

Step 1: Remember That Achieving An Orgasm Is As Much Mental For Men As It Is For Women

Did you think that it is only women who can use their brains as the most important sexual organ? The same thing applies for men, too. So how exactly does this relate to learning how to give a guy great head?

Basically, you need to play the part and make him think that you love going down on him. Nothing kills a mood more than acting as if giving him head is a chore – or worse, a favor – that you owe him. Get in the mood by engaging in some naughty or downright trashy talk, or live out your sexual fantasies while giving him head.

Step 2: Make Sure That You Are In A Position Where You Will Not Get A Crick In Your Neck While Doing It

Scope out the sex guides online and look for a position which looks comfortable enough for you to really mean business while giving him head. Although it only takes about five minutes of direct stimulation for men to achieve an orgasm – you don’t want the action to be over too soon, so you might as well get comfy while going down on him.

Step 3: Get Down To Business

Start by lightly flicking your tongue over the head of his penis and slowly take it into your mouth. Remember that you shouldn’t use your teeth while giving him head, and you do need to give him variations when it comes to the rhythm and pace of your strokes.

Use your mouth, your tongue, your lips and your fingers to make sure that you are not ignoring any part of his penis. Try to listen to his moans and groans, take a cue from how his hand is making a gesture while holding your head – that should give you a clue as to whether he wants you to keep the pace, or go faster or slower.

No matter what you do down there, the trick is to try and love what you’re doing, keep on varying the pressure and use all the tools at your disposal so that you can give your guy great head.

Tips

To swallow or not to swallow is more of a personal preference, but don’t kill the mood by spitting it out openly if you don’t like the taste of his semen once he ejaculates.

What you can do instead is have him come on other parts of your body by taking his penis out of your mouth once he’s about to reach his peak – that’s as equally erotic as swallowing.

Warnings

If you’re having sex with someone who you’re not really sure of physically – make sure to always use a condom to be on the safe side.

Take just a minute to check out ‘Blow His Mind Tonight’: “What Your Man Secretly Wishes You Knew About Oral Sex… But Will Never, Ever Tell You To Your Face!”…

How To Give A Hand Job: A Quick Guide On How To Give Him Some Manual Love

Jessica Perez, author Blow His Mind Tonight — Thu, 14 May 2009 22:44:23 +0000

If you still think that sex is all about pumping away between your bed sheets during the act, think again. There’s a myriad of other sex techniques which will enhance your sex life and give each other the ultimate pleasure.

For women, giving men a hand job is probably a skill that they are not too familiar with. Most of them fumble through the process while learning how to give a hand job. Otherwise, their grips are too limp, too tight, the pace is not something that men would like – in short, their techniques really need to be worked on.

Now, if you want to return the favor and be good at giving your man some love through manual masturbation, read the following guide to know exactly how you should go about doing it.

Step 1: Familiarize Yourself With His Penis

The first rule if to familiarize yourself with his penis – its length, girth, shape, whether it is curved or straight. By doing so, you will know which hand job techniques are best applied.

For example, if your man has an unusually large girth, there’s a big possibility that giving him a hand job with just one hand will not do the trick. For this, you should learn how to manually masturbate him using both hands.

Step 2: Be Somewhere Comfortable And Start Roaming Your Hands Down There

Although there’s a rule that men only need three to five minutes of direct stimulation to reach an orgasm, you don’t want things to be over for him too fast. Engage in some foreplay before roaming your hands down there.

Engage in some hot necking and petting, play with his nipples and put your hands all over his body before focusing all your attentions down south.

Step 3: Start Giving Him A Hand Job

Men absolutely love it when women worship their penises – and this is a skill that you should definitely master. At first, feel the fullness of his erection and slowly let your fingers run from his balls. Using a slow, upward motion, swirl your fingers around the head of the shaft and slide it back down.

Make sure to do the up and down movements in a smooth motion – without bumping or stalling along the way.

Step 4: Focus On The Most Sensitive Parts Of His Penis & End Things With A Bang

Once you’ve hit a comfortable pace, bring your palm up to the top of the glans and spin your fingers around – this should make him groan in pleasure because this part is extremely sensitive. Don’t ignore his testicles – roll them up the underside of the shaft.

There are a number of ways that you can end things with a bang – but what’s important is to keep up what you’re doing until he groans in pleasure and reaches his orgasm.

Tips

When giving him a hand job, make sure to use plenty of lubricant to make things as smooth sailing as possible.

If your partner is having problems maintaining an erection, check out the many creams and lotions which are available in online and physical sex shops. The tingling sensation of the cream or lotion that you will apply should help bring him to a raging hard on.

Warnings

When you are playing with his family jewels, make sure that you never squeeze them – especially when you’re in the middle of a particularly smooth motion with your fingers. This can put a hamper on things and delay his orgasm.

Take just a minute to check out ‘Blow His Mind Tonight’: “What Your Man Secretly WishesYou Knew About Oral Sex… But Will Never, Ever Tell You To Your Face!”…

The Long And Short Of Penis Size (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 01:06:09 +0000

There’s no doubt about it – men are absolutely obsessed with their penises. It’s a fact of life! Men who feel they have small penises wish they had bigger ones and men with large penises. . .well, they wish they had bigger ones too. You’ve probably read some of our articles on penis size, but we’re going to go at this from a different angle – when does the penis start growing and when does it stop?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I’d like to know when I can expect my penis to start growing and when it’s going to stop. Also, how big is a normal penis? Thanks for your help!

-Jonathan, MO

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When Does The Penis Start Growing?

Penis growth starts when a boy hits puberty. When you first start to grow pubic hair, your penis will start to grow as well. The testes will drop down further into the scrotum and you’ll notice the penis becoming longer when it is erect as well as when it is not. Of course, as you go through puberty, you’ll notice more changes than just size – it may change slightly in color or the texture of the skin. The rest of your body will change as well, and you’ll notice your voice deepen and your overall body will go through several growth spurts. It can be pretty disorienting at first, especially considering that as your penis grows, you’ll begin to have sexual desires that you might not have had before.

When Does The Penis Stop Growing?

During puberty, you can expect your penis to continue to grow, just like the rest of your body. As you get taller, your penis will grow as well. It might not be changes that you notice on a daily basis, but the changes are small and they are there. The penis typically stops growing when you stop growing, or rather as you stop gaining height. When you stop growing taller, generally in the early twenty’s, your penis will stop growing as well. It will have reached its maximum length and girth and generally will stay the same throughout your adult life.

How Large Is A Normal Penis?

That’s a question that many men ask, especially in conjunction with questions about penis growth, but it’s a difficult question to answer. What is “normal” isn’t necessarily classified – meaning, we are all different and we all have different anatomies. No two penises will ever be exactly the same! Generally speaking, the typical penis ranges between 2-3 inches long when it is flax and between 5-6 inches when it is erect. Many men, however, fall outside these categories and that doesn’t necessarily mean there is anything wrong with you! Whether you are extremely well endowed, or have a smaller penis, your anatomy is yours. That’s all there is to it!

Learning to be comfortable with your body and in your own skin takes time. Even adult men aren’t comfortable with their penis size, whether they’re large or small and still more younger men who are going through puberty are insecure about themselves and their changing bodies. Let nature take it’s course and learn to be comfortable with not only who you are, but how your body looks and feels as well. Confidence in yourself is worth much, much more than a penis of any size!

Men, Think Your Penis Is Too Small? Here’s How To Gain Another Inch Naturally…

Roger Miller — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 14:40:41 +0000

Let’s say the average penis size is 6 and a ½ inches. And that’s a generous average. How would a guy with that starting size feel if he were told that, with work, he could gain one inch in length?

Pretty happy. Very happy. In fact, most men would be completely pleased with a one inch gain in length. They wouldn’t much mind if that’s the most they could physically gain.

Now there’s some good news and some bad news. The good news is that most men can gain an inch in length. The bad news is that it takes at least a fair amount of work. Sometimes it can take a lot.

But consider this situation. The pros heavily outweigh the cons. Most men don’t know it’s even possible to improve the size of their privates.

So…that first inch. Let’s make that your main goal. That is what you’re going to aim for. Now, how are you going to achieve it? Here is how.

Total Motivation – You Have To REALLY Want A Bigger Penis

The idea of having an extra inch of penis is already a pretty motivating one, but it’s not enough. Most men will give up long before they’ve done enough exercise routines to gain noticeable new size. So, total motivation is necessary.

Start by getting an erection and looking down at it. You know the sight well. Now place a ruler along the side of it. Don’t cheat. Place it from where it starts at the base to where it ends at the very tip. Now move your eyes along to that golden starting figure.

What is it? Let’s say it’s 6”. I want you to visualize one more inch on top of that. Extend the shaft in your mind. Picture it longer and thicker. Imagine the difference in weight in your hand. This is a tool you’re looking at and you need to vividly picture it one inch bigger, no more, no less.

Burn the image of it one inch bigger into your mind’s eye. Now imagine the feeling you WILL experience when you reach your goal of being one inch bigger. The feeling of knowing that it’s always going to be longer and thicker, for all time. It’s a good feeling and it’s one you will experience if you follow the rest of these tips…

Why Consistency Is The Key To Real Penis Size Gains

Roger Miller — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 00:00:51 +0000

Without consistency, very few self-improvement programs work. Can you bulk up and get seriously well built and muscled without consistency? No. No you can’t.

This fact applies no where more than with the subject of natural penis enlargement. This self-improvement discipline isn’t as well documented as body building or fitness training. You won’t find any books about it in the bookstore. It’s a growing (yeah) subject.

This means that, more than with any other sport or hobby, you need to take total control over your growth journey. You need to be the one keeping track of your gains and deciding when you need to switch your routine to encourage new growth.

But you aren’t alone. Other guys, who also have the privilege of knowing about natural penis enlargement, are treading the same path, and they’re seeing big success.

Here are some powerful tips for gaining a lot of size as quickly as you can using the theory of routine and exercise consistency.

Kegels

A kegel is a simple exercise that you can use to strengthen your PC muscle, which plays a central and vital role in controlling the health and status of your erection and overall sexual health. I cannot overstress the importance of doing kegel routines regularly.

They absolutely suck when you start out, because they’re hard work. Your PC muscle isn’t used to being exercised, so it will ache and feel tired. You need to push past that. No pain, no gains.

Start a simple kegel routine today. Three times a day, do 25 kegels that each last 5 seconds. Squeeze as hard as you can. Don’t go easy on yourself. Push past the temptation to quit early or leave more than 10 seconds between each rep.

Dry Jelqs

A dry jelq is an exercise you can do anywhere, as long as you’ve got some privacy and about 10 minutes. When the conditions are right, get a 40% erection by, well, doing what you need to do, then do 10 dry jelqs that each last 4 seconds.

Take a couple minutes’ break, maintaining the 40% erection, then do 10 more. Pack up and carry on your day, safe in the knowledge that you’ve just done a light routine that will encourage girth gains in a big way.

Routine Days

Never skip a day. If you skip a routine day, the next one will only be half as effective. No matter how you feel or how much you doubt you’re gaining length or girth, you need to perform your routine. Make it part of your life. Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays you do your natural penis enlargement exercises. No one has to know except you.

Be Ready For the Expected

For your first month, don’t think too much about the possibility of not gaining. To be honest, you’re very, very likely to gain half an inch in your first 6 weeks, but even if you don’t, stay casual. Don’t fret!

Know that it isn’t unusual to not gain for a while. You need to find the routine that works for you; the one that is the right intensity. So, after 2 or 3 weeks with no gains whatsoever (as long as you’ve been doing kegels as well), change your routine by mixing around the exercises, rep times, and rep numbers.

If you combine the 4 tips you’ve just learned, then you’ll be performing natural penis enlargement exercises with consistency, and with consistency come gains in length and girth. Visualize that extra inch. You can get that with work. So get working!

Take just a minute to check out ‘Penis Advantage’: “A Genuine Way To Permanently Enlarge Your Penis At Home – Using Just Your Hands – And You Can Start Today”

How Can I Please My Partner With My Small Penis? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 13:26:14 +0000

Penis size is a big issue for men – literally. Many men feel like their penises aren’t large enough. While the majority of these men are perfectly well equipped for most women and men, there is a small percentage of the male population that does actually have a small penis.

How can someone with a small penis still please their partner?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I have an undersized genitalia (penis.. haha.. oopsys!!!). I want to know how I can still pleasure my male or female partner despite my disability. Thank you

–Alfonso, TX

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Sex isn’t all penetration, you know.

For women, and some men, sex isn’t all about penile penetration. For women, penile penetration is only a very small part of sex with their partners. Unless a woman is already excited and has been fully aroused before penetration, she won’t be very sexually responsive to penetration all on its own whether you’re large, medium or small!

A woman needs to be sufficiently warmed up before penile penetration of any size will feel good. With that said, there’s much more to sex than just penetration. There is all types of genital massage that can help warm a woman up and even bring her to orgasm that way, and of course there is always oral sex.

Many women achieve better and more frequent orgasms through oral sex anyways, regardless of their partner’s penis size. You can also incorporate a number of sex toys into the bedroom, including vibrators, lubes and more.

Penis extenders, pumps, etc.

If you’re bent on obtaining a larger penis, with some investment it can be done. You can purchase penis extenders that are somewhat like "dildos" that simply fit onto the penis, adding inches to the end, or you can purchase a penis pump that forces more blood to fill the penis, therefore making it larger.

There are some types of surgery as well that can help enhance penis size. If you’re considering taking any drastic measures to enlarge your penis, you should speak with your doctor.

Talk to your partner.

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What Is The TRUE Average Penis Size And Is It Possible To Enlarge It NATURALLY?

Roger Miller — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 19:34:22 +0000

The average penis size has been a “bone” of contention for decades and decades. The reason it’s so frequently debated, argued over and worried about is because the issue affects so many people, male and female.

For men, a small penis means possible harassment in gym showers and embarrassment in bed. For women it presents a different problem. Its below-average size could well limit their sexual pleasure and at the same time inhibit the man’s confidence so much that his sexual performance could also be unsatisfactory.

It’s really no wonder penis size, and the average length and girth of the male anatomy, is talked about so much by millions of people all over the world, of both sex, it’s almost considered a yardstick for a guy’s manhood.

What People Think About Penis Size

A small penis is bad, while a big, thick penis is good. The line has been clearly drawn in the sand, regardless of whether it’s right or wrong. I’ll tell you right now what the average size is. Forget about the average penis sizes of different races; even if there is a slight difference it won’t affect you much.

Here’s the only figure that might: the average size is about 5 and 3 quarter inches in erect length. The average girth is about 5 inches around (which might sound a lot, but wrap a fabric tape measure around your own and it’ll seem much more modest).

Averages Don’t Really Help

Thing is, knowing those numbers doesn’t put most men at ease and I doubt it has you. Why? Because it doesn’t change anything. Yeah, you might be half an inch bigger than average, or perhaps an inch thicker down below than most other guys, but that feeling of inadequacy, of wanting more, is probably still there.

It’s completely natural, too. Let’s say you’re 6 and a half inches long when erect, knowing you’re an inch and a bit bigger than average is great, right?

But at the very same time, you know lots of guys have 7, 8 or 9 inch penises. How great would that be? And that right there is the true subject of this article. Forget averages, let’s talk enlargement.

Penis Enlargement

Right off the bat, natural penis enlargement (that is, making your penis longer and thicker without surgery, without pills and without crazy suction devices) is completely possible.

Instead of telling you how it is or why it works, I’ll describe how you can see for yourself how truly achievable new penis growth is. Let’s look at a technique called a ‘Dry Jelq.’ It’s used to target new, permanent growth in the thickness of your erect AND flaccid penis.

Steps To a Bigger Penis

Step 1. Get a 40-50% erection, no more, no less.

Step 2. Create a circle using the thumb and forefinger of your right hand. It should look like the ‘OK’ sign people make when they want to signal something’s good or acceptable. Your other fingers (middle, ring and pinky) should be outstretched.

Step 3. Firmly grip the base of your penis using the ‘OK’ sign and slowly move your grip upwards towards the head of your penis. Don’t slide over the skin. Instead, focus on keeping your fingers on top of the same area of flesh all the time, while still sliding up and along the shaft.

Think of it like the motion used when milking a cow. The blood in your penis is forced up towards and into the head.

Step 4. After you’ve milked from the base to just below where the head of your penis starts, release your grip. You’ve completed one repetition or ‘rep’. Do 20-30 reps for your first session and increase it to 50 once you’ve been doing it a couple of weeks.

Other Techniques to Increase Penis Size

The Dry Jelq is just one technique of dozens that have been specially designed and tested and that truly work, with a little bit of patience and practice, at increasing the size of your penis. After using dry jelqs for a couple of weeks you’ll already notice that your penis hangs heavier and lower day-to-day and that it feels more weighty and solid when you’re hard.

Using this and the other fundamental techniques as a routine that you do a couple of times a week, you can not only TRULY forget about averages but also forget about BEING average.

Take just a minute to check out ‘Penis Advantage’: “A Genuine Way To Permanently Enlarge Your Penis At Home – Using Just Your Hands – And You Can Start Today”

Honestly, Does Penis Size Really Matter? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 12:31:35 +0000

It’s an age old question. Does penis size really matter?

Certainly, it depends on who you ask. Some people prefer large penises and others prefer quite small ones. The majority of people, however, agree that penis size is relative to the vagina.

If a penis fits the vagina, it really doesn’t matter how big it measures because, well . . . it fits!

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Does penis size really matter?

- Small Penis Guy, CA

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The Penis Size Controversy

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Is a Small Penis Size Crushing Your Confidence with Women?

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 15 Mar 2007 21:00:16 +0000

Do you worry that your penis is too small to satisfy a woman?

Even worse, have you had complaints from women about the size of your penis?

This is a question that has plagued men from the beginning of time.

The Question

I seem to be having trouble with the opposite sex.

What is the average size of the male penis. I measured mine erect and found that I am 3.7 inches long, 0.8 inches wide and 0.4 inches thick width a measured circumference of 2.7 inches. Is that normal, small or big?

I also have right curvature of the penis that doesn’t hurt but it’s shaped like a u-turn. If it was bigger it would probably point back at me. I also makes it look weird and really small. Is that normal and does masturbation cause that?

I just started shaving my balls, does that make the penis look bigger or is it a dead give away?

My last three girlfriends said my penis was pathetic and they had seen pencils bigger. One said my penis would get lost in her mouth if she tried to suck it. My confidence is shattered and I would love to have answers to my questions. Pleas help and write back soon.

The Answer

What is the perfect penis size?

This is an age old question with no "right" answer. Since we are not experts in this field, this one required some research…

I believe that the Taoist Masters have the best answer to this question, but I’ll include some Western views on the topic as well.

Taoist Thoughts on Penis Size

I’m currently reading a book called "Sexual Reflexology" by Mantak Chia (the same author as "Multi-Orgasmic Man") and William Wei. The principles in the book are based on ancient Taoist traditions and practices. Basically what this book tells us is that the size and shape of the man’s penis must match with the size and shape of the woman’s vagina. I don’t know about you, but that just seems to make sense…

The book goes on to talk about various ways to tell if you are sexually compatible with another person by looking at various body features on the hands, ears, and face. It’s worth reading if you haven’t already.

I’m also going to check out the "Multi-Orgasmic Man". The principle here is teaching men how to separate the orgasm from the ejaculation so that they can enjoy multiple orgasms and extended sexual excitement.

OK, back on topic…