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Discover These SHOCKING Truths About Premature Ejaculation!

Lloyd Lester — Sat, 11 Feb 2012 23:00:43 +0000

Premature ejaculation sucks, but it’s not always what you think it is. Chances are, you’ve been deceived! You most likely have some misconceptions about what is really causing you to orgasm too early when you have sex, and these misconceptions are preventing you from having great sex (because you definitely can!) Here is the TRUTH about premature ejaculation!

Are you one of those men who cannot last long in bed? Are you searching for the best solution to enhance your stamina so that your wife or lover can enjoy the kind of awesome sex she deserves? If you’re like most men reading this, I’m pretty sure you’d agree that the lack sexual stamina is your number ONE concern in the bedroom.

Here, you will discover a few surprising truths about premature ejaculation and lasting longer. You will want to continue reading and learn how you can turn this frustrating problem around.

Why Are We Able To Last Longer When We Masturbate?

There are two reasons why premature ejaculation do not usually happen when we masturbate. Firstly, we do not become as highly aroused during masturbation. Secondly, because we are the ones providing the stimulation, we also have the ability to self-regulate how much pleasure we are giving ourselves. Hence we are able to re-adjust our movements to keep our arousal under control, until we decide it is time to release and enjoy an orgasm.

Why Do We Fire Too Soon When We’re Having Sex?

Simple! With a partner, we do not have the ability to self-regulate our arousal. When our partners are the initiator of sexual stimulation (e.g. when she touches or strokes your penis), we become extremely aroused and lose control easily. This loss of control can happen:

When we are on the edge of a climax and any slight movement of the penis stimulates the deep-seated nerves to tip us over
When we begin penetration
During the first inward stroke
During first outward stroke
Or during the subsequent few strokes

One of the keys to overcoming premature ejaculation is to train or condition your brain to be consciously aware of what is happening and not to become completely lost in the moment of sexual bliss. This will give you timely “cues” or signals to tell your partner to temporarily stop the stimulation, sooner rather than later. This form of partner “feedback” is important and will help you gain better control when practiced over a period of time.

How To Prolong Ejaculation And Make Sex Last Longer

Lloyd Lester — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 17:00:02 +0000

Premature ejaculation doesn’t have to control your sex life. Instead, use these simple tips to last as long as you WANT during sex!

Are you having problems with lasting long enough for your girl during sex? Have you been wondering what you can do to prolong your ejaculation time and forever end the shame and embarrassment of being a “minute man”? Do you question your manliness, dread having sex or even make up excuses to avoid intimacy? If you are, then listen up. You see, getting a sensational stamina in bed may seem impossible for most men. And it’s a crying shame, because this is simply not true.

The Straight Scoop

Premature ejaculation is NOT a lifelong condition. The reason why many men believe this is true is because most are too embarrassed to confront it squarely and discuss it with someone (e.g. a doctor or a sexual therapist) who are in a better position to help them overcome this problem. The truth is, as many as 40% of men globally are affected by it. Yet many of us are ignorant of the fact that this condition CAN be treated, and very often, without medical intervention at all.

Quick Fixes

There are plenty of solutions on the market that cater to guys who need that extra bit of stamina in bed. For instance, there are oral supplements that – when taken an hour or two before intercourse – offer the convenience to increase your erection ability and stamina almost on command. There are also local anesthetics (e.g. desensitizing creams) that help you go longer during sex. The downside to these products is that it’s harder for you to have spontaneous, “spur of the moment” sex. Pills and desensiziting products require that you use them before you initiate sexual contact (1 to 3 hours for pills, 10 to 20 minutes for desensitizers).

Natural, Long Term Solutions

The good news is, for the vast majority of men, there are specific, natural ways to re-wire our ejaculatory reflexes, without relying on temporary, costly solutions such as pills.

For example, if it’s a psychological or anxiety-related issue, cognitive exercises that re-train your brain and help you regain confidence, are very effective. If it’s a physical problem, specific exercises that strengthen the core ejaculatory muscles can give you a mighty lift in endurance. For other guys, premature ejaculation can be overcome simply by having more sex!

In short, this is a problem that can be fixed, and the sooner you get it sorted out, the sooner the both of you will get to enjoy sensational, wild sex that lasts all night long!

1 Simple, Brilliantly Naughty Secret To Last Longer In Bed & Speed Up HER Orgasm!

Lloyd Lester — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 23:00:04 +0000

Premature ejaculation doesn’t have to KILL your sex life anymore! This easy tip will help you last longer in bed – AND it will give your girl a faster orgasm!

Most guys worry about premature ejaculation, which usually means climaxing within the first two minutes during sex. While the timing may be a matter of opinion, it is never a good idea to ejaculate earlier than your partner. The key here is to last long enough for HER, in a way that pleases the both of you. But how long is long enough? Let us consider these 2 very different scenarios, and then learn a powerful tip on how to last longer in bed (believe me, this will change the way you think about premature ejaculation!)

The Fallacy Of Sexual Stamina

First Scenario: Joe can last at least 20 minutes when he is having sex. Unfortunately, this is not enough to satisfy his girlfriend who needs a bit more time before she can climax. A guy lasting 20 minutes like Joe may be the envy of other men, but not to Joe’s girlfriend who wants him to last longer so she can be erotically fulfilled.

Second Scenario: Pete and his wife have a sex life that lasts four minutes most of the time. However his wife is able to reach an orgasm very quickly and is satisfied every time they make out.

Which of these two men has the better sex life? Pete may only be able to last a few minutes, but he and his wife are perfectly satisfied. Joe and his girlfriend, on the other hand, are not fulfilled. The best form of lovemaking is one where both parties enjoy the experience.

The Truth About Male Stamina Versus Female Fulfillment

What is the secret to Pete’s success? After all, this is a guy who has an orgasm after only 4 minutes of sexual intercourse. How can he and his wife have such a satisfying sex life?

The answer is simple – Pete knows foreplay and is good at it, which is much better than Joe who prides himself on his staying power. Not only does Pete knows physical foreplay – which is essential for the sexual encounter to be satisfying to his wife – he also knows how to connect with her at an emotional level to hike up her anticipation before sex.

If you have premature ejaculation, start to develop a mindset like Pete’s who knows how to please a woman. Try different ways to get her hot and sexually fulfill your partner every single time. Such sexual competence will have an incredible effect on your performance and level of satisfaction for the both of you. And the confidence that comes along with this will eventually give you a LOT of leverage over your endurance in bed too!

How To Slow Down Your Orgasm And Get More Stamina In Bed

Lloyd Lester — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 17:00:23 +0000

Premature ejaculation will make you kiss your sex life goodbye. Don’t let it control you! Delay your orgasm with these simple premature ejaculation tips!

The ability to control or slow down one’s orgasm and outlast a woman in bed is one of those skills that every hot-blooded, testosterone-driven man wants to learn. None of us are born with the innate ability to control our orgasm on command. In fact, for the purpose of efficient procreation, most of us are NOT predisposed to last very long. Premature ejaculation is very common, especially amongst healthy, fertile men in their 20′s to 40′s.

Even though Mother Nature has a humorous way to making men “come quickly” during sex, you can actually turn around this shortcoming and significantly improve your endurance in bed.

Achieving Quantum Shifts In Stamina With Your Most Powerful Sex Organ

No, I don’t mean a man’s penis. Your most powerful sex organ is not located in between your legs. Despite common perception, your brain – not your crown jewels – controls when you reach an orgasm.

Many men allow negative, self-defeating thoughts to flood their mind when they make love. For instance, they fear they will ejaculate too soon; they worry their partners will be disappointed with quick-fire sex, etc. Ironically such thoughts tend to have a self-fulfilling prophecy. They make premature ejaculation become a REAL problem.

“You Are What You Think”

In many cases, early ejaculation occurs or even worsens as a result of habitual negative thoughts. For example, when we ejaculate early, many guys start blaming themselves with thoughts such as: “I’m no good, I’m a total failure in bed” or “Nothing ever goes my way”. Our feelings follow what we think, and negative thoughts like these can keep us from fixing premature ejaculation and lasting longer.

The Converse Is Also True

Most men who are successful – especially those who are from humble beginnings – have one thing in common: they trust in the power of positive thinking. They don’t sweat the small stuff, and they believe in making incremental progress towards their goals.

The secret to success of any kind – including overcoming premature ejaculation – is to banish negative thoughts from your mind altogether and adopt a successful mindset.

It may take some time and effort, but practice this: Whenever you start to doubt about your own sexual endurance, banish that doubt from your mind, and meditate on your goal instead (e.g. lasting 10 minutes and giving her sensational orgasms).

Thinking positively does not mean you pretend that an early ejaculation won’t happen. It’s how you deal with it that counts. Don’t fear initial setbacks in your quest to last longer. Look upon them as learning experiences. You will only get better, and your sex life will transform, I promise!

How to Make Sex Last Longer and Give Women EXPLOSIVE Orgasms! (This is Embarrassingly Easy…)

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 19:37:02 +0000

Do you struggle with premature ejaculation? Are you afraid to have sex because you know you’re going to orgasm too early?

Do you fail to give any of the girls you have sex with an orgasm because you just can’t last long enough for them to get warmed up?

Do you wish you could last longer in bed without having to mess with any special pills, creams or sprays?

YOU CAN!

Ejaculation By Command is a revolutionary product that will teach you, step by step, how to cure premature ejaculation forever and last longer in bed – so you and your partner can have a better, more satisfying sex life. Not only will you be able to control your orgasm long enough to give your girl a sheet soaking climax, you’ll enjoy your own orgasm that much more!

Premature ejaculation is no joke – it affects hundreds of thousands of guys of all different ages and races. It can wreak havoc on your sex life, because reaching orgasm too quickly isn’t satisfying for you or your partner. Most female partners of men who suffer from PE rarely have an orgasm during intercourse at all. They usually either have to have an orgasm first through oral sex or take matters into their own hands afterwards.

PE will destroy your sex life, destroy your ego and may even destroy your relationship. Women don’t want to be with a man who can’t last long enough in bed to give them an orgasm. They’re not going to stay in a relationship where they’re not sexually satisfied. So if you really want to have a healthy, happy relationship, you’re going to have to beat premature ejaculation once and for all.

Does that mean taking expensive or dangerous pills?

Smearing creams all over your penis to desensitize it, or using desensitizing sprays?

NO WAY!

With Ejaculation By Command, you can cure PE without any of those things! This is a PROVEN, successful way to cure PE naturally!

Even if you think beating PE is impossible, even if you have suffered from it for years, you can say goodbye to it FOREVER using the easy, successful tools in this book.

What You’ll Learn…

How to last at LEAST 20 minutes longer…TONIGHT! Guaranteed.
The #1 LIE that leads men to believe it’s their body that is the problem
A simple, 3-step formula that you can use every time you have sex, for the rest of your life!
How to end the shame, frustration, humiliation and insecurity that is caused by premature ejaculation
How to overcome mental barriers to sexual endurance in 9 simple steps
4 powerful breathing strategies that will amplify your staying power and prolong your orgasm for as long as you want
How to outlast HER during sex
The single most powerful strategy that will drive any woman completely wild in bed and lets you into her orgasmic world of pleasure, even if you ejaculate too soon!

Premature Ejaculation IS NOT Your Fault!

If you’re like other guys, you may think that your PE is your own fault. You may feel like there’s something you’re doing wrong during sex, or there’s something wrong with you that is causing this.

That couldn’t be further from the truth! That is a huge myth that a lot of men who suffer from PE believe. But the truth is, it’s not your fault at all. Once you realize this, you can begin to cure your PE forever! Supplements, pills, creams and sprays are only going to temporarily fix your problem – and who wants to put a numbing spray on their penis so they can’t feel anything during sex anyways? The key is to find the ROOT of the problem so you can solve it for good.

And that is exactly what Ejaculation By Command does.

What Pharmaceutical Companies Are TERRIFIED You’ll Find Out!

The makers of pills and creams that claim to help you last longer in bed are absolutely terrified that you’ll find out the information contained in Ejaculation By Command. They don’t want you to know how YOU can control your own orgasm NATURALLY, without anything at all! They want to keep selling you supplements and sprays so they keep making money.

The truth is, you don’t need ANY of these products!

Are you ready to say goodbye to the challenges and frustrations that premature ejaculation presents?

Are you ready to last as long as you want in bed and give your partner orgasm after orgasm?

Are you ready to become a total sexual mastermind who lives life to the FULLEST?

Then get your copy of Ejaculation By Command now!

What People Are Saying About Ejaculation By Command…

“[This] has led to the best sex we’ve ever had (including the four extra times during the rest of that evening!)” – Blair C.

“What I like most about the program is that [it] clearly shows you the most effective methods for lasting longer in bed. I’m no longer embarrassed; I have more confidence during sex, and have more fun as well! I would recommend this product because it does EXACTLY what it says in the title!” – W. Leighton

“I like the fact that I can have long and great sex now with my wife. And we both look forward to free weekends to have sex with lots of variety. This book has changed my life. My sex life has improved tremendously and I’ve also become much more confident around women.” – Martin M.

If you’re ready to turn your sex life around and start having mind-blowing sex in a way you or your partner ever thought was possible, it’s time you get Ejaculation By Command today!

With these simple tricks, you can start by lasting 20 minutes longer TONIGHT! No going to the store and buying supplements or creams, no waiting for anything to come in the mail. Just download the program, start reading right now and give your partner the time of her life RIGHT AWAY!

Why should you have to wait for an incredible sex life, anyways?

Act Now and say goodbye to premature ejaculation for good!

8 Ultimate PE Busters

Michael Webb — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 17:00:13 +0000

Premature ejaculation will make your sex life less than stellar. Get rid of PE forever with these eight easy but successful premature ejaculation busters!

1. Ladies First

Before busying with your thing, get busy with her. Before penetration, give her orgasms via oral or manual labor. So even though it’ll be a short and bumpy ride, at least she’s had her moments in the sun.

2. Go To Your “Happy Place”

Take deep, full breaths. Proper breathing is central to your sex life, as every physical activity needs to be attended by sufficient air. Taking deep breaths relaxes you and allows your body to handle excitement.

Ejaculation issues usually fester the highly excitable men who are extra-sensitive to stimulation. The best handling of this is by having generous amounts of oxygen in the body, especially the head.

3. Slow Down

You’re unlikely to reach orgasm if speed is significantly slower than what you’re used to. So stop thrusting like crazy and go for deeper, slower thrusts — look for sexual positions that minimize pelvic & hip movement. These regulate the frequency of penetration.

By slowing down and taking your time, you not only delay ejaculation, you build tension – thereby making your climax many times sweeter. It’s the sexual investment for a richer and creamier blow. We tease ourselves for this very reason. It’s not only for the woman’s sake, it’s so when we finally decide to let loose, it will be four times better!

4. Stop Thrusting And Do Something Else

If slowing down is good, stopping completely is even better. (Don’t worry, your partner won’t lose her arousal.) Once you begin thrusting, there’s no rule that says you have to pump all the way to ejaculation. No shame in backing off and teasing yourselves in the process.

Get busy with kissing and other stuff instead. This stalls or even reverses your progress towards inevitability, creating more ANTICIPATION. Woman on top is a good position which will please her greatly while reducing the friction for you.

5. Spread Your Legs

This minimizes the tension and pressure in your genitals and groin area – which automatically buys you time.

6. Use A Condom

For safer sex, always use a condom. But beyond that, the protective sheath results in decreased sensitivity for your jimmy – saving it from getting overly excited.

7. The Squeeze Technique

When you’re nearing inevitability, pull out and squeeze the head of your penis. This forces blood out the genitals, relieving some of the built up pressure – inadvertently, it also forces you to stop penetrating. Repeat this technique several times before finally spraying.

8. Do Not Memorize Batting Averages!

Others say that a slideshow of anything gross can make that cum retreat back up. Distracting yourself with the picture of the cafeteria lady dancing to the tune of Macarena will definitely help. But how fun would that really be? You’re there with this amazing woman, and you’re busying with that?!

Forget the cafeteria lady, don’t memorize batting averages! We have sex for the joy it brings, not for a degree in sports broadcasting! Running rotten pictures in your head as a way to delay ejaculation is superficial. You can’t call it teasing, you’re merely castigating yourself.

Sex, as a moment by moment experience, is supposed to be experienced fully. In fact, the opposite of numbing yourself, AWARENESS, is key. Be aware, and therefore, regulate the stimulation you give yourself.

Close your eyes, feel how wonderful it is to be inside a woman’s vagina. Keep your breaths full. And remember to back off, slow down or do something else when you approach dangerous grounds.

When you absolutely cannot hold off any longer – LET IT LOOSE – you can’t delay it forever! There’s a difference between teasing and torture too, you know. Last as long as you can, blow your load of semen and don’t worry about it. If she’s already had an orgasm or two before you, she’s probably tired and going to be glad you’re done.

How To Keep Having Sex Even After You Ejaculate

Michael Webb — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 18:00:18 +0000

Foreplay is usually before sex, right? It doesn’t have to be! Use foreplay to give your partner an orgasm if you ejaculate too early.

Women don’t care if you’ve ejaculated or not, but THEY DO CARE IF YOU STOP THE FUN. They’re pissed with guys who don’t understand a most basic sexual principle: Just because you’re relieved doesn’t mean I am. The issue with premature ejaculators is not the white liquid – it’s that after they shoot, fast guns stop everything and act like the woman is also done.

Who Decides When Sex Is Over?

The man? The woman?

For most, it’s neither. It’s an orgasm. Semen is an oracle declaring to men, “That’s all folks!” Feeling relieved, they believe this and retire like car salesmen without any after-sales service.

But here’s the thing: Semen really is just semen. It means you climaxed, good for you! The juice represents the procreative aspect of things, but sex isn’t solely for procreation, is it?

AN ORGASM DOESN’T SAY OR MEAN ANYTHING unless you want it to. You can treat it as if nothing happened.

Men stray after they spray when they make their orgasm the sole goal.

When that’s the case, then there’s really no difference between masturbation and intercourse – the hot girl is irrelevant. (Be careful when setting goals, they’re double edged. They set your focus, but they also define your blind spots.)

Yeah, the penis-inside-the-vagina bit may be over, but not the fun. For there’s no stopping a couple from doing other stuff. Penetration isn’t the only thing on the menu. Thrusting may be over for now, but not the sex.

Doesn’t it makes more sense to wrap up when both partners are satisfied, whether this is attended by one orgasm or not, than wrap things up simply because one sees white liquid?

Treat Your Orgasm As If Nothing Happened

This doesn’t mean that you continue with the poking. No! What can you do with limp equipment, really? Forget your thing. After reaching orgasm, you experience a virtual absence in arousal, a refractory period of 5-15 minutes. Since you already got into her pants, you can easily dress up & leave or doze off, and there’s absolutely nothing she can do about it. Now this is where most men blow it big time.

Invest in the refractory period and distance yourself from the other guys.

MAKE THE NEXT SEVERAL MINUTES ABOUT HER!

Notice how easy it is to tease and please when you’re done? You really don’t need much after you’ve sprayed, do you? You can actually think straight, can you?

Forget your temporarily dilapidated tool and unleash your most prized possessions – your tongue and hands.

Give her oral sex and get busy. Explore her body as if the first time. Kiss her ears, neck and back. Stroke her hair. Pull it lightly. Caress her shoulders, gently sweep her inner thighs. Get busy with her nipples and stroke her breasts. (Are you sensing more foreplay coming?)

In a few minutes, you will feel another surge of the urge. In an instant, you will become a man again. It’s like being reborn, only better. It’s your second chance at bat, an opportunity the average guy rarely finds.

The loss of arousal and erection are not final. Barring medical conditions, arousal and erection should return. You may be calmed and satisfied after one blow, but just you wait a few minutes and you’ll be begging to ride her again.

Simply knowing this brings you on a different footing from the inexperienced boy who retires after one shot and anxiously wait for next week’s booty call. He never gets to meet his 2nd and 3rd winds!

This is the real issue with premature ejaculation, it’s how you treat her when you’re done.

What You Need To Know To End Premature Ejaculation Forever!

Lloyd Lester — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 19:51:15 +0000

Premature ejaculation can totally ruin your sex life if you let it. Here’s what you should know to get rid of it for good.

Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual dysfunction that affects men. Most guys, at one point or another, will wish for the ability to last longer in bed. While actual figures may vary, as many as 4 in 10 men face the embarrassment of finishing too soon during sex. “Too soon” often means 2 minutes or less. And it does not help that the vast majority of women require more than 10 minutes to properly get aroused and achieve an orgasm.

What Does It Matter If Men Don’t Last Long Enough

In most cases it does. For men, it can be downright embarrassing to fall short when it comes to their endurance in bed. It can take away the confidence of most guys who are suffering from premature ejaculation. For women, nothing is worse than a sexual relationship that repeatedly fails to deliver the pleasure that she deserves. And for guys who ejaculate even before intercourse (yes, some men have it that bad), it can put a tremendous strain on the relationship especially if the women wishes to get pregnant.

What Exactly Causes Premature Ejaculation?

Varied factors are at play here. Early conditioning is one major contributor to ejaculation problems. For most men, their sexual experiences (including masturbation) are often a rushed affair to avoid detection. Naturally, over time this conditions a man to climax in rapid fire turnaround time. On the other hand, anxiety and “nerves” are known to contribute to premature ejaculation as well. In other words, if you are nervous or anxious about your performance in bed, you are more likely to shoot off quickly. Some guys claim that consuming small amounts of alcohol help “calm their nerves” and enable them to last longer. But it certainly is not a recommended approach for treating premature ejaculation permanently.

Treatments For Premature Ejaculation

If you have early ejaculation problems, there are various treatments or cures available, depending on the severity of the problem. For mild cases – for example, you are already lasting 5 minutes and wish to last longer – there is no need to make an embarrassing trip to the doctor. Simple distraction techniques can help improve your sexual endurance. Thinking about something non-sexual can help reduce your sexual arousal and enhance your staying power. Alternatively, some form of local anesthetic gel or lotion can be useful. This is applied directly onto your penis before sexual intercourse to dull the sensations during sex. But this solution has its downsides, including less pleasurable sex and possible allergic reactions for both the guy and his partner.

For more severe cases of premature ejaculation (if you are lasting 2 minutes or less), there are natural techniques and exercises that will help alleviate the problem. The Masters-Johnson method, which employs a specialized penis grip to reduce the desire to climax, is one well-known anti-ejaculation technique. Another popular and highly effective solution is to focus on cognitive behavior treatment such as the stop-start technique, which basically aims to alter a man’s sexual response to gain greater control over his ejaculation.

Premature Ejaculation Treatment – The 100% Natural Approach

Jack Grave — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 19:52:57 +0000

Premature ejaculation is treated a variety of ways. However, not all of them are good for your body. Check out this all natural premature ejaculation cure.

It’s a very common misconception to believe that as a man there’s nothing you can do to stop premature ejaculation without the use of medication, creams, special condoms or things like cock-rings.

Misconceptions About PE

And this all comes down to the fact that premature ejaculation is totally misunderstood. You see, it doesn’t happen because of a bad set of genes, your penis size or what your woman does during sex.

Premature ejaculation is caused by BAD SEXUAL HABITS.

90% of men actually cause it to happen because of things they do during sex UNCONSCIOUSLY and without even realizing it. For example, while having sex do you ever take the time to manage your pleasure or stimulation levels?

The truth is that VERY few men do. Most men have sex without a CLUE as to what their arousal levels are. And when it suddenly becomes obvious that orgasm is about to happen, it’s too late and there’s nothing they can do about it.

But if on the other hand you get into the HABIT of paying attention to your pleasure levels and get to know the signs of when you’re approaching orgasm it’s a whole different ball game. If you know way in advance that you’re getting close to orgasm you can take corrective action before it’s too late.

And a corrective action can be as simple as just slowing down sex and thrusting slower.

The 2 Simple Moves That Will Stop PE Naturally!

Thrusting Slower

By thrusting slower you’d give your body a chance to recover from the intense levels of stimulation you were probably just experiencing during sex. And this recovery would mean that in no time you’d be able to go back to thrusting fast without the fear or early orgasm.

Know Your Arousal Levels

Alternatively, if you know your arousal levels well enough to tell that you need more recovery than just going slow can give you, then instead you could pull out and give her oral sex for a bit. Doing this would give you a big break in stimulation and pleasure and allow you to recover plenty of stamina.

Now these two examples of corrective actions you could take when close to orgasm may seem like obvious things to do, but only when you start paying attention to your arousal levels.

If you don’t pay attention to your arousal levels and instead just keep having sex like you normally do, you’d never even think of doing something like taking corrective action to last longer. How this all relates to premature ejaculation treatment is that it proves that there are 100% natural approaches to lasting longer in bed that are worth considering.

How All Natural Treatments Really Work

They all work from understanding the TRUTH about premature ejaculation and how the male orgasm works.

And by tapping into the nature of the male orgasm and figuring out what really causes it it is possible to prevent it from happening prematurely. So premature ejaculation treatment isn’t so much a case of “which pharmaceutical product do I need?” but more a case of “what techniques can I use to last longer?”

Last Longer In Bed – With This Special Masturbation Technique

Jack Grave — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 17:00:51 +0000

Last longer in bed with this simple trick – it’s so easy you’ll wonder why you didn’t think of it yourself! When you last longer in bed, your girl will love it!

Masturbation Affects How Long You Last!

One thing you’ve got to understand if you want to last longer in bed is how masturbation affects how long you last.

The problem that most men have when it comes to premature ejaculation that they DON’T EVEN REALIZE that they are actually causing it to happen, because of negative and unconscious habits.

As weird as it may sound, if you suffer from premature ejaculation, it’s not because you’ve got a “bad gene” or have the wrong penis size or are just plain unlucky, it’s because of the habits you’ve developed during life that are UNCONSCIOUSLY causing you ejaculate prematurely.

And one of the main examples of this that almost every man overlooks is masturbation.

Think About It….

Think for a second about what your habits for masturbation were like when you were younger and growing up.

If you’re like most men then when you were younger you probably didn’t have all the freedom in the world to masturbate. Maybe your mother could pop into your room at any time, or maybe you had a brother or sister that could come barging into your bedroom at any moment or maybe you were living in some kind of community where there really wasn’t any privacy.

Whatever your specific situation was, almost every man growing up can relate to the fact of not feeling like there was necessarily all the privacy available to them when they wanted it.

And what did this mean?

Well it meant that when it came to masturbating you didn’t have many options. You could either take your time doing it and hugely increase the chances of you getting caught, or you could try and orgasm as quickly as possible in an attempt to try and minimize the chances of being walked in on.

From all my communications with men in teaching them how to last longer in bed, my understanding is that most opt for option number 2.

Because no one wants to get caught masturbating. And it’s the logical thing to do at the time.

When Men Get Older, Do Their Habits Change?

But as our opportunities for privacy increase with age most men don’t change this habit. Because we’ve done it all our childhood, most men just keep masturbating with the aim to orgasm as quickly as possible.

But there’s one big problem here – when you masturbate, you condition yourself for how long you last.

Did you get that?

Because that’s an important point.

If you want to know how to last longer in bed, understanding the importance of masturbation is HUGE. When you masturbate you are literally training your body for how long you expect it to last during sex. Most men masturbate for only a few minutes, but when it comes to sex want it to last for over 30 minutes, but this just isn’t how the body works.

If you want to last longer in bed then you’ve got to realize this fact about masturbation and make the change to the way you do it.

And making the change really isn’t that hard. Most men just never do it because they don’t realize the impact that how long they masturbate for has on how long they’ll last. But now that you’ve got this crucial understanding you don’t have to make the same mistake.

Make this habit change today and commit from now on to always take your time to masturbate for as long as you want to go.

Last Longer In Bed And Really Rock Your Girl’s World!

Lloyd Lester — Sun, 27 Nov 2011 23:00:48 +0000

Last longer in bed and WOW your lover with your newfound sexual skills! When you last longer in bed, BOTH of you benefit!

Is premature ejaculation giving you plenty to worry about in the bedroom? Do you find yourself struggling with confidence and self esteem issues? Are you in a constant state of feeling inadequate with your performance in bed? If you are, then you really should stop, because things may not be as bad as you think. Why? Let’s find out below!

How Long Is Long Enough?

This is one question that practically every man wants to know. They want to know if they are good enough for their female partners. This is understandable. After all, the quality of a couple’s sex life is very often a reflection of the quality of the relationship.

According to sex surveys done over the last decade, 75 percent of men want to know how to last longer in bed. That is a huge figure! But here’s a simple truth – you only need to last as long as her! Many men think (and quite wrongly too!) that they need to go on for hours during sex. Nothing is further from the truth. Most women get an orgasm within 15 minutes, so that is the amount of time you should aim for.

Want to know an even better truth? That “15 minutes” can be shortened significantly – if you learn to give her proper stimulation BEFORE you start intercourse.

Find out what SHE likes in bed. Some women prefer a decent amount of foreplay; others crave oral sex; yet others love a little teasing, dirty talk before sex. Give her what she likes first, and you will have a far easier time managing your endurance in bed.

Ejaculating Early Is No Big Deal, Unless You Choose To Let It Become One!

The next time you climax early, tell her it’s because she is so HOT and turns you on so much. Believe me… women are also very conscious about how they “perform” in bed. So if you “blame” her for your early ejaculation problem, she will actually begin to think that she is really attractive. That will take the pressure off you to perform and help you last longer! But you better buck up the next time you make out with her!

Another great way and practical way to improve your sexual stamina is to train and condition the ejaculatory muscles, also known as the pubococcygeus muscle (or PC). Specific exercises such as Kegel and elevation techniques are proven ways to strengthen and bolster these muscles to give you great control and endurance and amazing sex to boot!

Premature Ejaculation – Stop It By NOT Doing These 2 Things!

Jack Grave — Thu, 24 Nov 2011 17:00:17 +0000

Premature ejaculation can equal no sex life for you. Steer clear of these two problems and say goodbye to premature ejaculation forever!

Did you know that being able to prevent premature ejaculation comes down to avoiding a few simple mistakes? Soon you’ll know exactly what those mistakes are so you never have to make them again!

Problem #1 - Trying To Have Sex Like A Porn Star

If there’s a sure-fire way to not last long in bed then it’s trying to have sex like a porn star. Many men learn everything they know about sex either through porn or from friends who learned from porn.

The bottom line is, since sex is such a taboo subject no one ever takes the time to teach young men the best ways to have sex and how to last long in bed. So what us men do when we’re young (myself included) is we look to the only source we know to learn from – which is porn.

Unfortunately, porn is VERY much unlike the real thing.

There’s no doubt you know this already, but spending our time watching porn has a deep UNCONSCIOUS influence on our ideas of sex that we can struggle to see ourselves. For starters have you ever stopped to think about the fact that porn is EDITED?

Remember, the directors want the porn to run as seamlessly as possible and be as entertaining as possible, which means if the male actor needs to take 5 minutes out to stop him from reaching orgasm early, then they’ll let him do that and just cut those 5 minutes out during production.

Did it ever cross your mind that stuff like this could actually happen?

There are a ton of other things that are totally misleading about porn that I won’t go into here, but you get the idea. Don’t use porn as a sex guide for lasting longer, because the men involved can take a break whenever they want and they won’t show you if they’re using any special techniques for lasting longer.

Problem #2 – Not Giving Her A Great Orgasm (Or Two Or Three) First

One way to prevent premature ejaculation is to reduce the pressure to perform.

Sometimes when it comes to sex we feel so much pressure to satisfy the woman we’re with that we get incredibly nervous and anxious about sex. Unfortunately, this angst and nervousness only ENCOURAGES premature ejaculation and makes it MORE likely to happen.

So how can you take this pressure off and reduce nerves? A really simple way to help reduce your nervousness is to take the time during foreplay to really satisfy your woman and get her to orgasm.

After you know you’ve already deeply satisfied her a LOT of the pressure is taken off of you to perform, because if you do orgasm early it won’t matter half as much if she’s already had an orgasm. And with this pressure off you’ll find it’s actually a lot easier to last longer, because the anxiety to perform won’t be there.

Just avoiding a few simple mistakes like these when it comes to sex is critical to prevent premature ejaculation, because no matter what you do to try and last longer, if you keep making a few critical mistakes you’ll never be able to last longer in bed.

Last Longer In Bed Tonight With These 5 Simple Tricks

Jack Grave — Mon, 21 Nov 2011 17:50:18 +0000

Last longer in bed and “WOW” your girl this evening with these five easy tips. When you last longer in bed, she will LOVE it!

These tips I’m about to share with you are “quick-fix” solutions. These solutions require virtually NO extra effort and they are great to use when you don’t have time to implement a long-term strategy for treating premature ejaculation or you just want some instant results to last longer TONIGHT.

So don’t look at these as the “ultimate solution” to premature ejaculation, but look at them as a powerful starting point and a way to help you build some momentum in learning how to get full control in the bedroom.

Masturbate Before Sex

If you’ve got the time, masturbate once before you know you’re going to have sex. Having one orgasm in the day means you’re much more likely to last longer the second time round during sex.

Wear A Thick Condom

One of the causes of premature ejaculation is experiencing too much stimulation and getting overwhelmed with pleasure. One “quick-fix” way to put a stop to this is with a thick condom that will reduce the pleasure you feel. It’s not an ideal solution, because it will make sex less pleasurable, but you will get the longer-term pleasure of long-lasting sex.

Do Math In Your Head

Here’s another “last ditch attempt to gain control” method you can use when nothing else is working. Try doing some complicated math in your head. By having to work out something complicated it takes your focus away from the pleasure going on in your genitals and so will delay your orgasm.

Urinate Before Sex

This is such a simple trick, but almost no man does it. You probably don’t realize this, but having a full bladder puts pressure on your genitals which encourages early orgasm. Put a stop to this unnecessary cause of premature ejaculation by urinating before you have sex.

Lick The Roof Of Your Mouth

This actually originates from Tantric sexual practices. The theory is that by licking the roof of your mouth you transfer energy up your body away from the genitals and in the process you last longer. Whether you believe the theory or not doesn’t really matter, what matters is that it works so I highly recommend you give it a try.

Pull Out And Give Her Oral Sex

Do you ever find yourself getting close to orgasm and feel like there’s nothing you can do? Well don’t just keep thrusting away expecting to miraculously be able to last longer, take corrective action. If you pull out and give her oral sex you’ll give yourself that much needed break from stimulation but at the same time you’ll keep the pleasure going for her. It’s a win-win move because you get to last longer and she still gets pleasure.

3 Premature Ejaculation Cures That Actually Work!

Jack Grave — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 17:00:23 +0000

Premature ejaculation cures can help you restore your sex life to what it used to be, or even better! Here are three effective suggestions to use TONIGHT!

Now, to be able to last longer in bed you’ve firstly got to understand what causes us men to orgasm. Because the bottom line is, we don’t just orgasm out of no where. Orgasms happen for a reason and they always have a cause. And if we can understand the causes of orgasm and then change those causes, we have the power to last longer in bed.

Causes Of Orgasm

One cause of orgasm is high levels of physical tension in the body. You may have noticed during sex that just before you orgasm your muscles, in particular your leg and butt muscles, will tense up, and as you orgasm they’ll suddenly relax. This is because orgasms are a release of tension.

And for an orgasm to happen there has to be tension in the body. Here’s where being smart about the causes of orgasm comes in – remember how I just mentioned if we can understand what causes orgasm we can last longer?

Well, one way to last longer then is to eliminate tension from the body. By eliminating tension we remove the cause of orgasm and therefore last longer.

#1 – Get Her On Top

One of the best premature ejaculation cures is to use the sex position where she is on top, while you are lying flat on your back. What’s great about this position for lasting longer is that in this position you have the unique opportunity to fully relax your leg and butt muscles. In most other positions this just isn’t possible because generally you’re the one having to do the work which involves tensing of muscles.

With you on your back it’s a totally different story. Since she’s the one doing most of the work in this position you can focus on really relaxing your leg and butt muscles. And by relaxing those muscles you release tension from your body, which like I mentioned earlier, is a big cause of orgasm. By eliminating that cause of orgasm, you last longer.

#2 – Deep Breathing

Another great way to eliminate that unwanted tension from your body is with deep breathing. This is often totally counter-intuitive for men during sex, because instinct will have us unconsciously breathing shallow and fast.

This is just how our bodies naturally act during sex. But unfortunately this only leads to premature ejaculation, because quick shallow breathing INCREASES tension in our bodies.

So taking a minute during sex to focus solely on slow deep breathing can help you dramatically increase how long you last in bed.

#3 – Visualization

Now, I never used to be someone who was into “visualization” and all that “weird” stuff, but after I heard people talking about visualization for like the ten thousandth time I decided to actually give it a go. And I suggest you do too.

Because visualizing is a great addition to the premature ejaculation cures I’ve already mentioned, especially when it comes to relaxing and eliminating tension. Although PHYSICAL tension is what is actually needed to orgasm the thoughts going through our head dramatically influence your physical tension. For example, if you’re super-nervous and worrying intensely about sex then the chances are your body will be tensing up too.

Whereas as if you’re super-cool and you’re visualizing yourself being cooler than James Bond then your body will have a completely different level of tension, most likely a lot closer to NO tension than if you’re worrying intensely. As “new age” as it might sound to use visualization to help you relax and last longer just go ahead and try it.

Visualize yourself being relaxed, in control and lasting longer and you’ll find it’s one of the best premature ejaculation cures around.

Last Longer In Bed Naturally With These 2 Fool Proof Tips!

Jack Grave — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 00:00:51 +0000

Last longer in bed and wow your girl with only these two simple, easy to do suggestions. Last longer in bed starting TONIGHT!

The secret to lasting longer in bed is to understand that premature ejaculation is all in your head. Now as much of an oversimplification as that sounds, it really is true. The biggest difference between the men who can last longer in bed and those who can’t is what goes on in their head.

Sure, there are a few strategies and techniques that can help you last longer in bed too, but you can make a dramatic difference in how long you last just by making a few distinctions and changes to what goes through your head before and during sex.

So below I want to show you the things that men who last longer in bed do differently to those who don’t so you can copy them and start having better sex right now!

They Don’t Take Sex Too Seriously

A major cause of premature ejaculation is anxiety and stress. Some studies claim that experiencing these emotions cause your body to release the hormones adrenaline and dopamine into the bloodstream which have been found to encourage premature ejaculation.

It’s no surprise then that the people who seem to last long in bed are the ones who don’t worry too much about sex and don’t take it too seriously. Why not join these people? Because when you think about it, there’s no real need to worry that much about sex. Sex is perfectly natural and is something that has been happening between people for hundreds of thousands of years, so why stress about it? If something goes wrong there’ll always be another chance to have sex.

This relaxed kind of attitude is shared by most men who can last long in bed so why not adopt it yourself? You’ll no doubt start enjoying sex a lot more when you stop taking it so seriously and allow yourself to just have some fun.

They Consciously Relax Themselves

No man is perfect and every man at times feels stressed even if he has some empowering beliefs about sex like the ones I just talked about. But the other thing that makes the difference between men who last and those who don’t lies in how they HANDLE stress. Most men who experience premature ejaculation don’t know how to handle stress, anxiety and nervousness when it arises.

And as a result often it will end up taking over and causing premature orgasm. The men who last longer in bed have a different strategy. When stress arises for them they react differently. These men don’t just let it swell and grow, they take a time out. They stop what they’re doing, stop their thoughts from running, just stop everything and they take a moment to consciously relax their body and mind and take in some long deep breaths.

Before they know it, their stress is gone.

It really can be as easy as that, but you’ve got to remember to actually do it. It’s too easy to let yourself get caught up in the moment and let your worries snowball. If you do catch yourself worrying about sex just stop what you’re doing for a minute and just observe your thoughts while you relax and take in a deep breath. The transformational effect it will have on how long you last is nothing short of phenomenal.

Last Longer In Bed – Incredibly EFFECTIVE 3-Step Method

Jack Grave — Sat, 12 Nov 2011 01:00:31 +0000

Last longer in bed and become a better lover with this simple, yet adept three step system that WORKS!

Knowing how to last longer in bed really is all about strategy. If you’re reading this, the chance is you’ve just picked up a few habits that you repeat unconsciously during sex that cause you to orgasm early. And the frustrating thing is that you’re probably not even aware of these habits that are in fact NEGATIVELY impacting your ability to last long.

Here is a 3-step method you can use on how to last longer in bed that will replace most of these negative habits with empowering ones.

Use Masturbation To Condition Yourself To Last Longer

If you’re like most men then the chances are that during childhood or young adulthood out of fear of embarrassment of being “caught in the act” you picked up the habit of masturbating with the intention of trying to orgasm as quickly as possible.

Unfortunately every time you rush through masturbation you are conditioning your body to last just as long during sex, which is a habit you’ve just got to stop.

And the way to stop this is, while masturbating, when you find yourself close to orgasm just stop all the stimulation completely and wait for about a minute until the desire to orgasm subsides. When it’s gone start up the pleasure again and continue until you’re close to orgasm and then stop again. Repeat this 3 or 4 times until you’ve been masturbating for as long as you’d like to last during sex at which point you can let yourself orgasm.

This is a great exercise to recondition your body how to last longer in bed.

Thrust Slow At The Start of Sex

The first few minutes of sex are when your penis experiences an almost overwhelming amount of pleasure just by the sensation of being in the vagina. If you add fast thrusting on top of that you’ll find it very difficult to avoid premature ejaculation.

So I recommend that at the start of sex you take things VERY slow. So ridiculously slow in fact that it might seem strange to you (she won’t mind by the way, because she’ll just think you’re teasing her). After a few minutes of thrusting VERY slow your penis will begin to get used to the feelings of being in her vagina and you’ll then find it’s possible to thrust faster without the sudden need to ejaculate.

Use The Woman On Top Sex Position

One great strategy on how to last longer in bed is to get her on top with you lying flat on your back. What makes this sex position so great is that here you can fully relax your body, especially your leg and butt muscles.

The reason this is so great is because by relaxing these muscles you make it a lot more difficult for your body to orgasm. Muscle tension in your leg and butt are almost essential to experience an orgasm, so if you take that away by relaxing you can last a lot longer. And the missionary position is one of the few positions in which you can do this.

Cure Premature Ejaculation – 7 Expert Tips For Instant Results

Jack Grave — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 14:00:07 +0000

Premature ejaculation will ruin your sex life if you don’t get a handle on it. Here’s how to get rid of premature ejaculation TONIGHT!

The key to lasting longer in bed doesn’t lie in any pill, cream or special condom. It lies in making a few small changes to the way you have sex. Now as a side-note, each of the tips below will help you last longer in bed, but I recommend you use them all together for MAXIMUM effect.

Urinate Before Sex

A full bladder means you’re putting unnecessary pressure on your genitals. Too much pressure means you’re much more likely to orgasm prematurely. Put a stop to this by getting into the habit of urinating before sex.

Thrust Slow In The Beginning

The first few minutes of sex are when your penis is most sensitive to the feelings of being in the vagina. If you add fast thrusting on top of this already heightened sensitivity then you’re really going to struggle to last long in bed.

Get Some “Pleasure Awareness”

Get into the habit of paying attention to your arousal levels during sex and notice when you’re getting close to orgasm. When you start getting close don’t just keep doing what you’re doing, do something different to lower your arousal levels or else you’ll have no chance of avoiding premature ejaculation.

Get Her To Orgasm First

A big cause of premature ejaculation is the pressure we men put ourselves under to perform. This pressure more often than not converts to premature ejaculation because of the negative effect nervousness has on our body. One dead simple way to get rid of this nervousness is to take away the pressure to perform. You can do this easily by taking more time during foreplay and being sure to give her an orgasm first during foreplay, so that when it comes to sex you won’t feel as much pressure to satisfy her, because you know you already have.

Use Tactical Sex Position Changes

Find you’re getting close to orgasm? Don’t just do nothing, take action. A great way to break up your pleasure temporarily to help you last longer is with a tactical position change. Every time you change positions you get a temporary break from the stimulation of sex. So start using position changes tactically when you need a little break and it won’t arouse any suspicion from her that you can’t last very long.

Use The Woman On Top Sex Position

Want to know a sex position to use to last long in bed? Get her on top of you while you lie on your back. What’s great about this position is that you can fully relax your leg and butt muscles in it. By relaxing these key muscles your body will find it a lot more difficult to orgasm and you’ll be surprised at how much longer you last.

Avoid Watching Too Much Porn

Porn is a terrible source of information when it comes to learning to be a better lover. Never forget that porn is edited and the men in it are probably using techniques to last longer in bed OFF-CAMERA that they won’t show in the footage you see. Wise up to this now and forget about using porn as a guide to last longer, because modelling yourself on the videos you see will only lead to premature ejaculation.

Premature Ejaculation – How Kegels Can Help You Last 20 Minutes Longer In Bed

Jack Grave — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 23:00:50 +0000

Premature ejaculation can mean the end of your sex life. Learn about this simple little exercise that can help YOU last longer in bed by over twenty minutes!

What Are Kegels?

Kegels are the name given to exercising a specific muscle in the body called the PC muscle. The PC muscle is a muscle in the genital area, also known as the pelvic floor muscle. Strong PC muscles can help you prevent premature ejaculation.

How To Locate The PC Muscle

Finding it is easy. When you next go to the bathroom, stop the urine flow mid stream without pinching the head of your penis. The muscle you use to stop the urine flow is what is known as the PC muscle. And just as it can stop the flow of urine it can be trained to stop the flow of ejaculation during orgasm.

The only catch is that stopping ejaculation is more difficult than stopping urine flow and requires two extra critical factors not needed in stopping urine flow; strength and timing. If you don’t get these two critical factors right, then no matter what you do you will not be able to use it to last longer in bed.

On the other hand if you do get them right then you’ll have mastered one of the single most effective methods for lasting longer in bed. So how can you develop your strength and timing? Well firstly, the strength is developed by exercising this muscle, which is also known as performing Kegels.

How Men Perform Kegels

Performing Kegels is relatively simple. It doesn’t take a lot of time. In fact it shouldn’t take more than 10 minutes a day, 5 days a week. What’s even better is that they can be done while doing some other basic tasks like driving or while you’re sitting at a computer.

So really it costs you no extra time to do them. It’s more a case of getting in the habit of doing them, because if you don’t they’ll be too easy to forget to do.

The Kegels Workout

Here’s how I recommend a man workout his Kegels. Locate the area if you haven’t already. Tighten and hold it as tight as you can for 2 seconds, then relax it fully for 2 seconds. Squeeze and hold it as tight as you can for 2 seconds, and relax it again fully for 2 seconds. Repeat this process 10 times to make one “set.” Take a 1 minute break, then repeat steps 2-6. That’s it.

Putting a halt to premature ejaculation really that simple.

Depending on your current strength you may want to increase the intensity of the workout, like doing more reps or sets, but the above is a good starting point. Over time you will want to increase the intensity of your workouts as your pelvic floor area develops more strength.

Just don’t OVER work yourself! The aim is not to injure yourself but to develop your muscle strength so you can stop premature ejaculation.

How To Last Longer In Bed

So assuming you’ve got enough pelvic floor strength (which can take between 1 to 3 weeks to develop) you now need to master your timing to stop premature ejaculation and last longer in bed.

When you learn to stop ejaculation during orgasm what happens is your desire to orgasm again will disappear for anywhere between 1 to 10 minutes (depending on your timing and strength) but you will still maintain your erection. This means you can keep on having sex without the need to immediately orgasm.

And when the desire to orgasm comes up again you can just stop ejaculation a second time and continue again. Overall it’s a very powerful technique for lasting longer in bed.

And once you figure out how to do it it really is as simple as just temporarily stopping your thrusting or the stimulation you’re getting when you’re about to orgasm and squeezing tight on your PC muscle. But to get the timing of the tightening perfect takes practice. If you stop the stimulation and tighten your muscles too early then your ejaculation won’t come and the desire to orgasm will still be there when you start up stimulation again.

If, on the other hand, you tighten your muscle too late then your ejaculation will have built up too much momentum by the time you squeeze your muscle and you won’t be able to stop ejaculation from happening.

So be prepared to fail (which I recommend you do during masturbation before trying it out in the bedroom) before you master it. But taking the time to learn Kegels is well worth the effort, because like I said earlier it is one of the single most powerful techniques for lasting longer in bed.

Last Longer In Bed – 3 Shortcuts So Effective, You’ll Both Reach New Levels Of Pleasure!

Lloyd Lester — Thu, 03 Nov 2011 17:00:46 +0000

Last longer in bed with these three simple tips – you’ll be surprised at how great sex can be after this! After learning these techniques to help you delay ejaculation, your girl will LOVE how you seem to always last longer in bed than you used to!

If sex is always a quick-fire affair for you, then you will have one unfulfilled woman in bed! This will not bode well for your sex life and your relationship. The ability to last long enough for your woman and satisfy her sexually is the foundation of a great intimate relationship. Unfortunately premature ejaculation is often the frustrating ordeal many couples have to go through. So really, how do men last longer in bed? If PE is something you have to put up with routinely, then listen up as I reveal a few super simple, sexy tips that will amp up your endurance to give her longer, stronger and simply more sensational sex! (she will love it, I promise!)

“Cease And Desist”

Anxiety over one’s performance in bed is one of the top causes of premature ejaculation. It’s easy to be so anxious that you’re going to do something wrong or ejaculate to early that you do exactly that – ejaculate too early. In order to last longer for her, you need to beat any form of stress or anxiety that is creeping up on you. Keep your mind and body relaxed. Controlled, focused deep breathing that stems from the abdomen instead of the chest will help you calm those nerves and control your arousal levels. Men from tantric circles know how to prolong orgasm for hours (even days!) using simple relaxation strategies that make them sensational in bed and so popular with women.

“Mind Leverage”

Your mind is the most important leverage that stands between rapid-fire sex and sensational lovemaking. Your mind truly has power over your body, but you have to train it to do what you want. This is the “inner game” strategy that so many men are missing out – one that will bestow them with amazing stamina when they truly master it. The bottom line is, you CAN train your brain to handle the intense arousal associated with sex, so that you take focus off of your own orgasm to prolong intercourse. Instead of having lovemaking that lasts for a quick minute, you can re-condition your mind to last a lot longer and give her the experience that she wants in bed.

“Know Your PC”

The PC muscles in your pelvic area control the physical aspect of ejaculation. The stronger these muscles are and the greater the control you have over them, the better your sex is going to be (and make it last longer, too!). Male enhancement exercises such as Kegels and PC contractions are great for boosting the strength of these ejaculatory muscles and giving you sensational stamina. Not only that, these exercises can nicely boost the girth or circumference of your penis and stimulate the inner vaginal walls to give women ecstatic orgasms, for sure!

Premature Ejaculation – 3 Essential Exercises For Men That Will STOP It!

Jack Grave — Sun, 30 Oct 2011 23:11:29 +0000

Premature ejaculation will ruin your sex life – keep it from happening to you by utilizing these three exercises that will keep your stamina at top level.

Performing PC muscle exercises leads to countless benefits to your sex life including lasting longer in bed, having a hard penis, avoiding impotence and much more. But you can only get these kinds of benefits if you do the exercises right, and that’s exactly what I’m about to show you how to do…

There are several different types of PC muscle exercises (also known as Kegels) for men, and performing them can lead to a dramatic improvement in your sex life in a number of ways.

Benefits of PC Muscle Exercises

Stopping premature ejaculation by holding back orgasm
Increasing strength of ejaculation
Helping overcome impotence
Helping keep your prostate healthy
Increasing semen volume
Developing a more muscular looking penis
Improving blood circulation to the penis leading to increased size and sensation

The bottom line is that the PC muscle is a muscle worth developing, and there are several ways you can do this.

What Is The PC Muscle?

The PC muscle is found in the genital area in both men and women, but serves slightly different functions for each gender. And so you know, in this article I’m going to focus on the benefits and characteristics relating only to men (sorry ladies). The PC muscle is involved in the ejaculation process and can also be used to influence urine flow.

How To Find Your PC Muscle

Next time you got to the bathroom, while urinating try and stop the urine flow. You’ll notice that to do this you use a certain muscle in your penis. The muscle you use to do this is the PC muscle. And just as you can stop the urine flow you can also train this muscle to stop premature ejaculation (if the muscle is strong enough) by squeezing your it tightly just before ejaculation.

However, your muscle needs to be strong enough to do that, so let’s get straight to explaining the workouts so you can get started on developing that muscle strength!

Exercise #1 – “Rapid-Fire”

As you might have guessed this one of the PC muscle exercises is the most “rapid-fire.”

Tighten your PC muscle as tightly as you can and hold it for 2 seconds
Relax it fully for 2 seconds
Tighten again for 2 seconds
Relax for 2 seconds
Repeat 10 times
Take a minute break
Repeat steps 1-5 one more time.

As you can tell it’s rapid-fire because you’re working it out in quick bursts of tightness and relaxation. Depending on your current strength level you may want to start with more or less repetitions and sets.

Exercise #2 – “Medium-Man”

This is the medium of the three Kegel exercises I’m going to recommend for premature ejaculation.

Tighten your PC muscle and hold for 10 seconds
Relax your it fully for 10 seconds
Tighten again for 10 seconds
Relax fully again for 10 seconds
Repeat steps 1-4 so you do ten 10 second tightenings altogether

So overall, it’s very similar to exercise #1 with the key distinction that you’re tightening your PC muscle for longer to develop more stamina in being able to hold it tight.

Exercise #3 – “The Power-House”

This one is a real stamina developer!

Tighten your PC muscle and hold as tight as you can until you can’t hold it any more
Take a minutes break
Repeat steps 1-2, three times altogether

Important Notes On Training

Above, you’ve got 3 different exercise to try out for premature ejaculation. I recommend you focus on doing a different one each day for 5 days a week. And of course it’s very important of course to remember the basics of doing any type of workout, including if it at any point hurts then stop doing the exercise immediately. Make sure you don’t over train yourself by never taking days off and make sure you eat healthily to give your muscles as much of a chance to repair as possible. Also, make sure to get plenty of sleep!

Stick To It

Given all the benefits involved in doing PC muscle exercises I imagine you’re pretty excited to get started and this great, but the true key to success lies in consistency.

The truth is that anyone can do some exercises for 3 days or so before giving up, but only the rare few keep it up past that time when the real benefits start to kick in, so be sure to develop a habit of doing your PC muscle exercises that will stick with you for life.

And I can tell you now that the effort is well worth it, because with doing your PC muscle exercises comes the lifelong benefit of being able to forget about premature ejaculation and last as long as you want in bed!

Premature Ejaculation – Why It Happens And How To Stop It

Jack Grave — Thu, 20 Oct 2011 17:00:20 +0000

Premature ejaculation can really make your sex life suck – learn how to last longer in bed by finding out why PE REALLY happens.

Did you know premature ejaculation is curable by 100% natural methods? By understanding the main reason why it happens you’re about to learn how to stop it for good!

Pleasure Overwhelm

Most men have no idea how to influence how much pleasure they experience during sex. And a huge cause of premature ejaculation in most men is simply down to the fact that during sex they let their pleasure levels get way too high so they lose control and orgasm early.

If you can learn to take control or influence the pleasure you experience during sex so instead of experiencing overwhelm you experience fulfilling maintainable levels of pleasure you’ve just discovered the key to lasting longer in bed.

Learning to last longer in bed does NOT mean making sex boring or pleasure-free. This is why I’ll rarely recommend approaches like “think of someone really ugly” or “do math in your head to distract you”.

Because those things make sex BORING.

What I want you to know about are techniques and strategies that help you control your orgasm, while at the same time keeping sex fun and fulfilling for both you and the woman you’re with.

So to last longer all you’ve got to do is begin taking control of the pleasure you experience during sex and making sure it doesn’t move into overwhelming levels.

Step 1 – Pleasure Awareness

During sex most men have NO idea how close they are to orgasm, but then suddenly it comes along and they think “Oh shoot, there’s nothing I can do.” If you want to last longer in bed you can’t afford to let this happen.

You have to become very aware of your arousal levels and how close to orgasm you are. And doing this is really as easy as just PAYING ATTENTION. When you start asking yourself “how close to orgasm am I?” you’ll know when you start getting close.

And when you realize you’re getting close then implement the second step.

Step 2 – Pleasure Control

When you’re close to orgasm but don’t want to climax yet you’ve got to lower your pleasure levels to prevent that orgasm. There are many strategies for doing this, but two very simple ones are as follows:

Slow Things Down

As dumb and as simple as it might sound – NO GUY DOES THIS! When you’re getting close to orgasm just start thrusting slower. By penetrating slower you reduce the stimulation you experience which means you delay how long until you need to orgasm. If you go really slow you can even end up recovering significant amounts of stamina so in a few minutes time you can speed up again without the need to orgasm straight away.

Change Sex Positions

Another dead simple method to reduce your pleasure levels from overwhelming levels is to TACTICALLY change sex positions.

By changing sex positions at just the right moment in time you can help yourself last significantly longer, because during a position change you get an essential break from pleasure and stimulation. Even a short break can do wonders to helping you recover stamina so that when you get started in your new position you can last much longer.

The Formula For Curing Premature Ejaculation

Just start becoming aware of your pleasure levels and when they get too high take corrective action to lower them to a sustainable level so you can enjoy long fulfilling sex without the worry of premature ejaculation.

Stop Premature Ejaculation – With This 95% Effective Breathing Technique

Jack Grave — Sun, 16 Oct 2011 17:00:58 +0000

Premature ejaculation can wreck your sex life. Use this simple technique to say goodbye to premature ejaculation forever!

What you may not know is that for an orgasm to happen there has to be tension in your body.

What Happens Before Orgasm

Think about what happens normally to your muscle during sex just before orgasm. They tense up, right? In particular you’ll notice that your leg and butt muscles tense up the most. The reason they tense up is because in order for an orgasm to happen there has to be a release of tension.

Orgasms don’t just happen out of nowhere. A process has to happen inside you for them to happen. And the body’s natural process for experiencing an orgasm is to tense up and then release that tension through orgasm.

But what happens if there’s no tension? Well then it’s a LOT more difficult for you to experience an orgasm. And this is quite simply because the fuel needed for your body to experience an orgasm isn’t there.

If there’s no tension, you will struggle to experience an orgasm.

What does this all mean?

Well it means that if you want to last longer in bed and stop premature ejaculation then you need to take control of the tension in your muscles during sex.

Eliminating Tension From Your Muscles

Now you may have already guessed from the title what the best way is to eliminate tension from the body – the right breathing!

What 99% of men do during sex is they breathe many quick shallow breaths. It happens instinctively. Our breath is pretty much the LAST thing on our minds during sex.

So our subconscious mind just goes into default mode and breathes quick shallow breaths because of all the excitement it’s experiencing. Sex is an exciting experience for us so our lungs naturally react by taking in quick shallow breaths.

Unfortunately quick shallow breaths increase tension levels. This is because your breath and your body’s state are INTIMATELY linked. So if you breath in a nervous, excited and tense way then your body’s state will mimic that and you will ejaculate too early.

But the opposite is also true!

How Breathing The Right Way Will Help You Last Longer In Bed

You can take advantage of the fact that your breath affects it, because if during sex you instead consciously breathe in slow deep breaths, your body reacts in a totally different way.

Inhaling deeply and slowly relaxes all your muscles. It’s just how humans work.

This is why arts like yoga and Tai-Chi make such a BIG deal out of breath. Because it has a DRAMATIC affect on the state of your body.

By influencing the state of your body you influence how long you last in bed. Remember earlier when I was talking about how tension is needed for orgasm? Well, this is where the whole idea of breath comes in. By inhaling slowly and deeply you relax all your muscles. And by relaxing your muscles, you HUGELY reduce the tension in them too. Without tension, it’s much harder for you to reach orgasm.

Without the fuel for orgasm it’s MUCH easier to last longer in bed and ultimately stop premature ejaculation. So, in other words if you want to stop premature ejaculation just consciously breathe slow and deeply during sex.

Premature Ejaculation: How To Increase Your Stamina

Michael Webb — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 17:00:06 +0000

Do you have problems with premature ejaculation? Barring medial issues, this is easier to correct than you think. A few tweaks in how you approach sex should help you last longer.

Harness Your Inner “Sting”

Outside of easy listening and pirate shirts, Sting is perhaps best known for his practice of Tantric sex. Tantra is a movement that was born in India several thousand years ago and incorporates meditation into sex. While this may not entirely appeal to the average man, you can at least borrow some techniques.

As in any physical activity, sexual stamina improves when you concentrate on your breath. Make sure you take slow, steady breaths that go all the way into your belly instead of your chest. This will aid in keeping you relaxed in an extremely excitable situation. It will also allow for you to clear your head so you can tune in to every sensation. Once you can enjoy the sexual experience as a whole, you’ll be rushing less for the goal. Sure, going through the Yankees roster in your head also works, but do you want to be thinking about Randy Johnson while you’re getting it on with a woman?

Take A Few Time Outs

Just because the penis is in, doesn’t mean it has to stay there until you blow. Yes, this is infinitely easier said than done, but if you’re getting your Zen on Sting-style, you should be able to do it. Take that time to kiss, eat her out, or tease her clitoris with the head of your penis.

While you’re out, incorporate the Squeeze Technique to stave off premature ejaculation. Before that inevitable Point of No Return, pull out and squeeze the head of the penis. This forces blood from the genitals, which will relieve a bit of the pressure. This technique can be repeated as needed.

Don’t Make It All About Your Penis

To you, sex is all about the part where you get to put your penis in her vagina. Get that out of your brain. Sex is about the entire experience. Spend some time really exploring her body, getting to know all the spots that drive her wild. Go down on her a couple of times. She can cum many times, so there’s nothing wrong with giving her a couple of orgasms before you even get in there.

If you do orgasm before she does, it’s not over. This may seem obvious to some, but it bears repeating. After your orgasm, you want to roll over and fade into the euphoria, but she is still frustrated. Your penis is not hard anymore, but you have your hands, your tongue, and your creativity to help finish her off. If you ever want to have sex with this woman again, you better make sure you’re both happy.

Relax And Have Fun With It

Learning how to last longer in bed doesn’t happen overnight. In fact, it can take quite a few tries as well as lots of patience to finally get to the point where you don’t blow your load as soon as you see a hot naked girl (okay, you probably last a little longer than that). So relax and have fun with it! Enjoy having sex with your lover, even if you do orgasm first. If you either make sure she has an orgasm before or after you do (as long as you’re making sure she has an orgasm), she’s not going to care “when” you have your orgasm.

There are very few girls out there who say, “Sure you satisfied me but you didn’t orgasm exactly when I did.” Blow her mind with oral sex and then worry about you. Even if you only last a couple minutes, she’s still going to be blissed out because you took care of her first!

Tantric Sex Techniques To Make You Last Longer In Bed

Gabrielle Moore — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 23:00:49 +0000

Tantric sex can teach men how to delay their orgasm and last longer in bed – here are 2 techniques to use during masturbation to help increase your stamina.

According to studies, around 75% of women do not reach an orgasm during intercourse. Why? For one, it’s because he or she does not know how to properly sexually stimulate her so she never really reaches sexual tension enough to come. Another reason is this: he comes too fast.

Frankly, clinical premature ejaculation is not the issue here. Women simply take longer than men to climax. Period. So how do we bridge this gap? Well, why not engage in exercises that will help you last longer in bed? This way, you’re giving her all the time she needs to get all revved up for a glorious climax.

Exercise One: Pressing The Prostate Point (PPP)

Okay, here’s a bit of a male anatomy lesson. Between your testicles and anus is something called the perineum. There’s a soft spot there through which you can apply pressure to your prostate. Now for most men, prostate stimulation reduces the likelihood of reaching orgasm involuntarily. This is because it washes out from the prostate gland the fluid that is necessary for ejaculation.

If you push hard enough on your prostate point right before orgasm, it actually blocks the emission phase (or ejaculation phase). This exercise prevents seminal fluid from entering the urethral canal when your orgasmic spasms start. Even if you have orgasmic contractions, the semen remains inside your body and is re-absorbed. This is also known as having a Dry Orgasm and no, nit’s not painful!

Pleasure yourself till you begin to feel the tension that tells you you’re on your way to coming.
Stop all motion, locate your prostate point, and press upward firmly for 10 to 30 seconds. You should feel the sexual tension you were just feeling begin to ebb away.
Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 1.
Stop all motion, locate your prostate point, and press upward firmly for 10 to 30 seconds. You should feel the sexual tension you were just feeling begin to ebb away.
Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 3.
Locate your prostate point, and press upward firmly for 10 to 30 seconds. However, this time, try to continue stroking yourself as you do this.
7. Continue doing this exercise till you master reaching higher sexual peaks and bringing yourself down again.

Exercise Two: Root Lock

Inside your body, at the base of your penis is the muscle called pubococcygeus. People fondly call it PC for short. This exercise teaches you to use your PC muscles to delay ejaculation.

To perform a Root Lock, hold your breath momentarily and push your pelvic muscles out like straining to empty your bowels. Some claim they prefer pushing ‘in’ rather than out but that’s all up to you really.

Pleasure yourself till you begin to feel the tension that tells you you’re on your way to coming.
Exhale all your breath and hold it, keep your eyes wide open looking upward, push your tongue on the roof of your mouth, tighten your fingers, hands, and feet, and push out on your rectum until your arousal ebbs away.
Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 1.
Exhale all your breath and hold it, keep your eyes wide open looking upward, push your tongue on the roof of your mouth, tighten your fingers, hands, and feet, and push out on your rectum until your arousal ebbs away.
Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 3.
Exhale all your breath and hold it, keep your eyes wide open looking upward, push your tongue on the roof of your mouth, tighten your fingers, hands, and feet, and push out on your rectum until your arousal ebbs away. But this time, contract your anal muscles inward and upward while pulling your stomach toward your spine. Which works better for you, in or out?
Continue doing this exercise till you master reaching higher sexual peaks and bringing yourself down again.

By now, you should be realizing that tension in whatever way, shape of form, is your ‘enemy.’ So each time you make love to her, and you feel that you’re reaching a sexual peak that can easily lead you to orgasm, delay your orgasm and wait for her will you?

5 Tricks To Lasting All Night Long

Isabella Stone — Fri, 22 Jul 2011 23:00:17 +0000

Premature ejaculation affects a lot of guys. Tell me if this scenario sounds familiar: you’re in bed with a girl, you’re both enjoying yourselves, and you’re about to wow her with your next move when wham! You finish early. Your girl smiles and mumbles something, and you feel like a sexual failure.

This scene is all too common, but it thankfully can be avoided next time with just a few tweaks. Use the following tips next time you feel the need to push off that inevitable moment, and last all night.

Distract Yourself

Forget the usual advice to “think about baseball.” Or Margaret Thatcher naked. You don’t want to be scared off sex forever! It may seem counter-intuitive, but the best thing to distract yourself with is how sex feels, looks, even smells and tastes.

Instead of mindlessly pumping away toward the Big O, pay attention to other things, like how soft your partner’s skin is, the curve of her neck, or the pain of her nails dragging down your back. Notice the smell of her skin and the wetness between her thighs. When you become mindful, you can last longer and enjoy the sexual experience more. What could be better than that?

Concentrate On Her Pleasure

Instead of focusing on yourself, make it all about her. Choose positions that feel best for her (trust me, she’ll let you know when you’ve hit the right spot). Pay attention to her body’s cues, and you won’t be so hung up on your own.

Women are all about foreplay, so if you can make the foreplay last a long time it won’t matter if you finish shortly after the actual sex starts because in her head it started long before the actual penetration. Once she’s had a few orgasms, keep going, and try to get a new personal “high score.” Remember, a high percentage of women are multi-orgasmic, so challenge yourself to give her more than last time! Making the experience better for her is going to not only improve your stamina but will also improve your sexual reputation.

Change Sex Positions

This is the single easiest thing you can do to avoid premature ejaculation. If you feel yourself getting a bit too heated in one position, move to a completely different one. If you are in doggy style, move to missionary. The trick is to really change it up-moving from one variation of doggie to another isn’t going to cut it. Be careful not to change sex positions too frequently, as it is going to take her out of the mood and feel more like a distraction than anything else.

Wear A Condom

First of all, you should be practicing safe sex anyway, and for most of you, that means wearing a condom. However, if you are in a long term relationship, or you’ve both been tested and she’s on the pill, condoms might not seem like a necessity. If you’re having trouble lasting, though, that little prophylactic can be a lifesaver. We all know that condoms can dull sensation? In this case, a little dulling is exactly what you need. There are plenty of good brands out there now that feel almost like you’re not wearing anything, except that little extra something can keep you lasting much longer.

Change Your Masturbation Habits

If I were to tell you to stop masturbating altogether, and you were to actually listen, your next sexual encounter would probably be record for shortest time between start and finish. I won’t tell you to stop the self-love! I will, however, let you in on a secret. When you are young and just discovering masturbation, you tend to do it fast and furiously, which made sense back then because you were trying not to get caught. Nowadays you hopefully have more leisure but probably still use the vice-grip, carpal-tunnel inducing, furious shake technique you used at 14. Stop it!

Use your self-love time to retrain your body to sustain an erection. Use the start-stop technique of backing off when you feel an orgasm coming on. Doing that a few times will not only train your penis to stay hard without cumming, it will also make the inevitable payoff mind-blowingly better than your normal orgasm.

This technique also translates well to the bedroom. Slow down every time you’re on the verge and by the time you do climax the release will be incredible.

Being an amazing lover isn’t all about lasting longer in bed, but using these tricks to make yourself last longer can have the effect of making you a better lover. With just a few simple tweaks to your technique, you can improve your stamina, keep going all night long, and make yourself seem like a sex god in her eyes. It’s a win-win for both of you.

Overcoming Early Ejaculation And Making Sex Last Longer

Lloyd Lester — Thu, 19 May 2011 23:00:25 +0000

Premature ejaculation can happen to any guy – no matter whether they’re young or old. If you have premature ejaculation, you’re not alone. You probably feel some anxiety every time you have sex, worrying that you will blow it in double-quick time. While there are differing opinions on the definitions of premature ejaculation, it all boils down to the man ejaculating quicker than he or his partner wants.

The Numbers Don’t Lie

It is not a stretch to say that early ejaculation is by FAR the most prevalent sexual problem affecting men. If men were asked if they have ever had at least one experience of having an orgasm too soon, almost all would have their hands raised up high. Statistics from universal sexual surveys consistently show that at least 30 to 40% of men replied that ejaculating early was an issue.

Getting Over Premature Ejaculation

Learning to effectively overcome PE will depend on its contributory factors. For most men who have to deal with this embarrassing event in their sex lives, the presence of stress and tension in one’s body is a leading cause of PE.

Ever noticed the tension you feel in your body during sex? This can be attributed to various factors, including holding your breath, tightening the muscles in your abs, or certain sex positions where you need to support your weight (e.g. missionary). All these result in muscular tension and increase the potential for an early orgasm.

The male orgasm is basically a series of muscular contractions that release muscular tension. One of the best ways to overcome premature ejaculation is to work on your muscle tension levels. Simple activities such as meditation, stretching, and even basic exercises are very effective ways to reduce the tension in the core abdominal and pelvic areas, and help you gain those crucial minutes during sex.

Other Proven Strategies For Longer-Lasting Sex

Here are 2 specific tips that many guys find useful in getting over premature ejaculation and lasting longer in bed. And I think you’ll find them extremely helpful too.

Bolster Your Ejaculatory Muscles

Your pelvic floor muscles regulate how long you last. If you don’t know where these are, stop your urine midstream and sense the muscle that contracts, somewhere in between your scrotum and anus. That is the muscle that controls both urination and ejaculation. Most men don’t know this, but you can actually strengthen this set of muscles so that you are able to extend your orgasm and even last all night in bed. Simple PC Contraction exercises or Kegel workouts will boost the strength of these muscles and enhance your ejaculatory control.

Focus On “Position Divergence”

The positioning and movement of your penis inside the vagina also affects how long you last. It is very common for guys to penetrate in the standard in and out motion. This type of movement increases the sensations on the penis glans and makes it more difficult to manage your arousal. Instead, try moving your member in a circular motion during intercourse and at the same time, rub your pubic area against hers. Not only will this enhance your stamina, it will stimulate her clitoris better and give her an orgasm sooner. It’s a win-win for the both of you, I’m sure!

Develop An “Ejaculatory Compass”

In many cases, premature ejaculation is a “habit” that has been unwittingly cultivated from young. You see, when most young men masturbate, they tend to use quick strokes to ejaculate quickly so that they can achieve satisfaction without getting caught. If you are used to this quick-fire approach to self-stimulation, you will become accustomed to it even when you are having sex with a partner.

The good news is, such negative habits can be reversed or “un-learned”… simply by allowing yourself MORE time during masturbation. Use this time to get in tune with your sexual arousal; learn how your body responds to stimulation and then associate those sensations to specific benchmarks along your arousal curve. This will help you pinpoint your ejaculatory threshold so that you can take specific steps (e.g. adjust your movements, switch positions, etc) during sex to last longer.

How To Increase Sexual Endurance Dramatically

Lloyd Lester — Fri, 29 Apr 2011 23:00:30 +0000

Premature ejaculation can happen to anyone. PE is a real problem that affects 25 to 40 percent of men, which typically means they ejaculate in under 2 minutes during sexual intercourse. For many men, the real issue is the inability to handle the intense arousal that comes with sexual stimulation.

So what can you do to get a grip on your arousal and massively increase your sexual stamina? Check out these easy tips to increase your endurance and last longer in bed.

Make Sex A “Connected Experience”

When it comes to lovemaking, women – even if they do not say it – prefer an intimate emotional connection, and not just physical intimacy. Your ability to warm her up with foreplay before starting intercourse will go a long way in satisfying her properly, as well as giving you the confidence needed to last longer.

To do this, you will need to focus on HER needs first. Make sure that you know where her hot spots are – the areas where she wants the most attention and likes to be touched. By learning all about her body and giving her lots of attention, she will not only find lovemaking more pleasurable, she will be able to achieve orgasm faster as well.

When you have the confidence in knowing her body and what she likes, it will make a big impact on your sex life. You will find that you have renewed confidence in yourself as a lover if you start by pleasing her BEFORE penetration.

Not only that, but by prolonging the prelude to intercourse and focusing on satisfying your partner’s needs first, you also slow down your own path to arousal and significantly increase your sexual endurance.

“Capricious Maneuvering”

This has worked very well for most men and is one of the simplest ways to delay an impending orgasm. Most men tend to orgasm early due to their inability to control their sexual arousal, and this technique will help you in that respect.

When you become too excited during sex and realize an orgasm is approaching, simply withdraw your penis and change to a position that is less stimulating for you.

For instance, switch to one where both of you are sitting down and you’re not getting as much friction on your penis. This helps to reduce the speed of penetration and gives you better control. Another great sex position is to simply lie down on your sides facing each either.

If you still find it hard to delay an ejaculation, withdraw your penis and stop penetration completely. This is the perfect time to continue pleasing her with your fingers or give her oral sex. Just make sure you do this a few minutes before you’re actually ready to climax. If you wait just until the brink of orgasm to withdraw, you will likely still have an orgasm – only it won’t be very good at all.

Most women find it much easier to achieve an orgasm through oral sex, so if you can give her one before resuming intercourse, it will satisfy her a lot better. Not only that, it will make it easier for her to achieve successive climaxes during intercourse, and also gives you that much needed confidence to keep going until the finishing line!

Relax And Have Fun

As you practice controlling your orgasm, you will feel more and more confident with your ability to last longer in bed. Even if you still have trouble controlling when you climax, if you’ve learned to please your partner sexually before penetration, she will still be satisfied even though you haven’t lasted very long during intercourse. The most important thing is to relax and remember that sex is all about having fun. If you put too much pressure on yourself not to ejaculate too early, it is likely going to backfire.

How To Sustain Sex Longer And Give Women Amazing Orgasms

Lloyd Lester — Thu, 14 Apr 2011 14:00:16 +0000

Giving an orgasm is at the top of the list for most guys, but many guys don’t know how. Here is a simple, powerful way to give an orgasm and sensational sex!

Emotional distress. Lower self-image. Relationship breakdown. Marriage on the rocks. Sexual infidelity. These are REAL problems that many men have to go through when they persistently suffer from premature ejaculation. And you know that if you can’t last long enough, you’re sure as heck not going to give her a great orgasm. While PE is twice as common as its other “cousin” – erectile dysfunction – it is FAR less understood by the majority of men. If you are keen to get a handle on your early ejaculation problem, you will want to read keep reading and learn one powerful way to delay YOUR orgasm so she can get hers.

The Preeminence Of Sexual Endurance

Many men equate sexual endurance as the prerequisite for giving women sensational sex. That is true to a large extent. In fact, many women complain that their partners aren’t lasting long enough to sexually fulfill them. And we probably know too well of relationships that have been torn apart because the man persistently ejaculates too early.

The Illusion Of The Magic Number

Premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates earlier then desired. For 25 to 40 percent of men worldwide, this typically means a male orgasm occurs within 2 minutes during vaginal penetration. That said, many men focus too much on the specific duration they should last. They fret over the fact that they cannot last like porn actors do. The simple truth is, sex that lasts too long can be painful and uncomfortable for the woman! The lubrication in the vagina typically dries up from prolonged thrusting.

So what’s the magic number, you asked? Simple! In most cases, intercourse just needs to last as long as a You Tube clip to be satisfactory. That means 3-5 minutes on average, not including the amount of foreplay time. And studies have consistently shown that lovemaking that lasts 7 to 13 minutes is the most desirable.

“Endurance Superiority” vs. “Female Orgasms”

Women are biologically wired to respond VERY slowly to physical sexual stimulation. That is why in general, your wife, girlfriend or partner needs at least 7 to 15 minutes of consistent stimulation during penetration to get aroused to the point of vaginal orgasm. Compare that with the short one to two minutes that bring most men from arousal to orgasm!

So, if you want to desirable sex, you should be lasting at least 7 minutes during sex… and this poses a REAL challenge for the vast majority of men.

The Trick To Overcoming Early Ejaculation And Triggering Faster Female Orgasms

Stop relying on your penis to stimulate and bring your woman to a climax. In fact, a man’s most prized member is the lousiest tool to help women achieve the big “O”! Besides thrusting in and out, what else can your penis do?

Instead, what you should do is to focus on giving your woman enough stimulation to her clitoris. It is difficult to do this with your penis, so use your fingers/thumb or your tongue instead. Pound for pound, the tongue has the strongest muscle on the human body, and is extremely powerful and flexible in stimulating the clitoris. Plus, since you are not using your penis, it helps you manage your arousal better and gives you more endurance in bed.

Proper clitoral stimulation will quicken her ability to enjoy an orgasm sooner. So give her one before you start having intercourse with her. The great thing is, when you’ve made her climax BEFORE penetrative sex, it becomes ten times easier for her to achieve a vaginal orgasm during intercourse… and in her eyes, you become the man with superior stamina that she has been dreaming of!

How To Stop Ejaculating So Fast During Sex

Lloyd Lester — Fri, 01 Apr 2011 23:00:05 +0000

Is premature ejaculation making your sex life lousy because you cannot seem to stop ejaculating so fast during sex? Do you feel frustrated, embarrassed and depressed because you are unable to satisfy your partner sexually?

If it’s a one-stand stand, you can forget about the embarrassment of premature ejaculation (PE) and move on. But for men who are married or in a long-term committed relationship, the double whammy of having to deal with PE and the potential fallout in his relationship can be overbearing.

The Law Of Large Numbers

You are NOT suffering from premature ejaculation alone. Millions of men just like you have to put up with the embarrassment of having an orgasm too quickly during sex. It’s just that guys don’t usually talk about such things, and most don’t know how to deal with it properly.

Beware Of The “Trappings” On Offer

In their quest for a “quick fix” for their PE problem, many men choose to seek out products on the market that claim to help them last longer. You are probably well aware of stuff such as desensitizing lube, gels or in general – anesthetics that you can apply on your penis glans to help you last longer when you make out.

These products work to a certain extent, by reducing your level of sensitivity to stimulation. The downside is that these solutions are NOT permanent cures. Without relying on these products, you will be back to your usual short-lived stamina. This means you have to whip out that bottle of spray or that tube of gel every time you plan to have sex.

While there are many proven techniques and methods to deal with the problem of premature ejaculation. But too many men focus on these specific techniques instead of the ONE important fundamental that is holding them back from achieving the sensational stamina they yearn for. Let’s take a look at this vital fundamental.

Setting Realistic Goals

“I want to lose 10 pounds in a week!” Realistic? No. Safe? No.

“I want to run a triathlon, six weeks from now… but I’ve never ran one before.” Realistic? No. Smart? No.

Such goals will ultimately set you up for failure and disappointment, and perhaps even serious health impairment.

Setting realistic goals is the first important step towards achieving any self-improvement endeavor, and that includes overcoming premature ejaculation. Start by KNOWING your current benchmark. How long can you last right now? Based on this yardstick, set a number of short-term goals while you work towards the ultimate goal.

Take for instance, you want to be able to last 15 minutes during sexual intercourse. If you’re lasting just one minute now, your end goal may be way off; you may end up losing motivation and getting frustrated. Instead, try setting weekly goals of adding 2 minutes to your stamina, by working on specific, natural techniques that help improve your ejaculatory control.

Sounds easy and straightforward? It does…

But if you stay committed and work on your ejaculatory control every week for 8 weeks, you will have surpassed your original goal by going at least 16 minutes! That new benchmark will become PERMANENT. And your wife or long-term partner will be very thankful for it, I promise!

Permanent Solutions For Lasting Longer

The best way to overcome premature ejaculation is to first understand what causes it in the first place. For the vast majority of men, all they need is to simply re-train how their mind and body react during sexual stimulation. By practicing simple cognitive techniques and exercises to re-condition the ejaculatory reflex (usually through masturbation), you can increase the threshold or tipping point where ejaculation is imminent.

Many sexual therapists also recommend natural training and reconditioning as the first important step towards ridding yourself of premature ejaculation and lasting longer for your female partner.

4 Tricks To Avoid Premature Ejaculation And Last Longer In Bed

Lloyd Lester — Fri, 25 Mar 2011 01:18:55 +0000

Premature ejaculation happens to many men. Are you unable to last as long as you want during sex? Has your wife or partner hinted that she wished you could last longer? When it comes to intercourse, there is a huge disparity in the time it takes for men and women to come to an orgasm.

For the average man, 2 to 4 minutes is all it takes from start to finish. For the majority of women, anything less than 10 minutes of constant stimulation is unlikely to see her enjoy the orgasm she deserves. Thus it is easy to understand why among all the men’s health issues, the ability to last longer is the number ONE topic that most men would like more information about.

While most guys are not naturally endowed with sensational stamina, there are specific strategies you can use to avoid premature ejaculation and give your endurance a healthy boost. If you want to surprise your lover with sex that lasts much longer, these tips will help you.

Tip #1: “Muscular Conquest”

All of us have a pubococcygeus or PC muscle. Use that as a leverage to enhance your stamina. This belongs to a specific group of muscles located within your pelvic floor (between your testicles and anus). Most men are not aware of this, but you have probably noticed that prior to an ejaculation, the area between your anus and testes actually contract involuntarily.

That area is where your pelvic floor muscles are located, and are responsible for ejaculatory control. To prevent involuntary contractions from taking place (or even to delay them), these muscles need to be strong.

The good news is, there are specific exercises that guys can practice to strengthen these core muscles and keep them in tip-top condition so that they can last as long as they desire during sex. There are different variations and permutations of these exercises (called kegels), and the most basic ones involve simple contraction and relaxation techniques while more advanced routines involve more rhythmic and protracted contractions.

Tip #2: “Perineum Convergence”

This technique works really well when you are close to the point of ejaculation. Simply use your fingers to apply targeted pressure against your perineum – the soft spot between your scrotum and anus. Alternatively you can ask your partner to apply the pressure. Just make sure you give her the right signal at the right time; otherwise she may just miss the moment.

The basis behind this technique is this: When an orgasm is imminent, the prostate gland (also known as the male G-spot) will expand and contract rhythmically, before expelling semen through the urethra tube. Applying firm pressure against the perineum will suppress the impending flow.

Tip #3: “Anchor Your Breathing”

Sex can be a very exhilarating experience. As a result, in the throes of pleasure, many men end up holding their breath or breathe rapidly. Doing either one of these things will likely compel your body to ejaculate quickly. You should instead anchor the way you breathe. Allow yourself to take in slow, deep, purposeful breaths. It may seem counter-intuitive at first, but it will eventually become second nature to you. Try adding some sound to your breathing too. Some women get very aroused by this.

Here’s one specific breathing technique you can practice for enhanced stamina. When you are having intercourse, inhale slowly and count to 5. Hold your breath for another count of 5 and then exhale slowly for another 5 beats. Whenever you feel your arousal rising too quickly, repeat this breathing pattern. Such focused breathing will quickly calm your sexual nerves and help you last a lot longer.

Tip #4: “Purposeful Disengagement”

This is a tried-and-tested method of lasting longer. Pioneered by renowned sexual therapists, Masters and Johnson, this technique requires you to interrupt sex at appropriate stages to allow the intense sensations to subside. The key is to become familiar with your body and your sexual responses. You have to learn how to prevent yourself from coming too close to the “point of no return” (PNOR) – which is the stage where ejaculation becomes inevitable.

To achieve this, you have to be aware of the sensations during sex and the feelings leading up to a climax. Even as you withdraw your penis as a stop-gap measure, you should continue to rev up your partner’s arousal – for instance, by giving her oral sex or using your fingers to tease her pleasure spots. Not only does this technique help delay an orgasm, it will boost your ejaculation volume too!

Erectile Dysfunction: 5 Tips To Boost Your Erection

Lloyd Lester — Wed, 08 Dec 2010 14:00:51 +0000

Erectile dysfunction is far more common than most men believe. It is an embarrassing problem in the bedroom. But before you even consider the endless myriad of products, pumps or treatments that claim to boost your erection, realize that many of these solutions do NOT yield permanent results, and can be risky to boot! If you’re anything like most men reading this, you probably have issues getting and maintaining an erection during intercourse. You are NOT alone.

Instead, follow these five simple, natural tips, and you will more than likely give your erection a mighty transformation!

You Are What You Eat

This well-known adage holds true in your sex life too. If you are looking to get a strong, healthy erection, good nutrition is necessary. Carbohydrates are essential for sexual energy, so you will do well to stock up PLENTY of those in your body! Bread, pasta and rice are excellent sources of carbs.

You also need a good dose of zinc, which is crucial for producing testosterone and semen. Foods such as liver, seafood, beans and peas contain the required amount of zinc that your body needs. Alternatively you could consume zinc supplements. It also pays to stay away from high fat meals. Excess fat intake lowers testosterone levels, reduces libido and affects erection ability. Also, an unhealthy diet causes poor circulation of blood to the extremities, leading to erection problems.

Use Sex Positions To Your Advantage

Believe it or not, the sex positions you use can also affect the strength and size of your erection. Positions that allow you to be on top – such as missionary and doggie style – enable greater and more efficient flow of blood to your genitals, giving you bigger, stronger and firmer erections.

So try to avoid starting sex with woman on top. The effects of gravity will drain the blood from your penis faster than you could say “ahh,” causing erectile dysfunction. Having your female partner on top also gives her control of the penetration movements. This loss of control on your part can result in an inability to hold your erection for long.

Ditch The Condom

Most guys know that having sex without a condom feels better. Well, here’s a caveat – do this only if you have a regular partner. Condoms are a great way to reduce penile sensitivity, and thus a good aid for men suffering from premature ejaculation, but not erection problems. Sex without a condom feels more pleasurable, keeps you aroused longer, thus helping your erection stay longer as well.

Put Sex Toys Into Play

Some sex toys – such as cock rings – are made to keep blood in the penis instead of allowing it to drain out. Constriction devices such as the penis ring can be a very dependable way to make your erections firmer. The penis ring is a small rubber or plastic ring that fits snugly at the base of your male anatomy. It helps to trap blood in your genitals (much like the effects of tying a balloon) and keep your erection UP.

Get In Shape

More specifically, perform exercises that strengthen your abdominal muscles. When your abs are in good shape, those muscles will help support and hold your erection, instead of holding your belly. In addition, having a large gut also makes your penis small by comparison! Being in good physical shape makes you more confident about your body and gives you more confidence in bed. Simple Kegel exercises are also a great way to help you stay hard longer… and last longer at the same time!

The Truth About Erectile Dysfunction And How To Fix It (For Good!)

Lloyd Lester — Mon, 29 Nov 2010 23:00:21 +0000

Let’s face it. Erectile dysfunction can be a very embarrassing affair, and if left untreated, can severely affect a couple’s sex life. An erection problem typically refers to the inability to acquire and maintain an erection that is firm enough for a man to have satisfactory intercourse.

Some men are not able achieve an erection at all; others may simply lose the erection during intercourse. When the condition becomes persistent, a man can be diagnosed as having erectile dysfunction or ED.

Is Erectile Dysfunction Common?

The vast majority of men will experience occasional difficulties in acquiring or maintaining an erection during sex. In many instances, the condition is temporary and goes away without the need for medical intervention. In other cases, it can be a persistent issue that can potentially damage a man’s self confidence and affect his sexual relationship, thus requiring treatment.

Is It All Just “In The Mind?”

In the past, problems relating to erections were assumed to have stemmed from a man’s mind. As a result, sufferers were often given unhelpful advice. You probably heard of comments such as “don’t worry” or “just relax and things will take care of itself.”

These days, medical professionals and sex therapists believe that when erection problems continue to persist for a long time, physical factors may be at work.

To tell if the cause of an erection problem is physical or psychological, one way is to determine if you are having erections while sleeping at night. On average, it is normal for a man to experience three to five erections per night, with each lasting up to 30 minutes. Your doctor would be in a good position to ascertain if you are having the normal number of night-time erections.

What Causes Erectile Dysfunction?

Erectile dysfunction often results from a wide range of problems.

There are two basic contributing factors for ED:

Effects arising from physically related diseases (such as use of drugs and diabetes)
Psychological issues

According to studies, about 50 to 60 percent of diabetic men suffer from erectile dysfunction. Bladder-related dysfunction is also known to cause erection problems, as are Parkinson’s disease and temporal lobe abnormalities.

Age also plays a critical role in erectile dysfunction due to a decrease in male hormones. Many medications used to treat high blood pressure can also cause ED.

As with any other medical problems, if you persistently experience problems with erection, it is advisable to see a doctor. The doctor will be in the best position to rule out any possibility of disease, injury, or medical side effects.

On the other hand, “recreational drugs” are also known to cause erection problems. Take for instance, tobacco. Studies have shown that even smoking two cigarettes before sex (if you have a smoking fetish) will significantly reduce the amount of penile blood flow that is necessary to keep your erection up.

Overcoming Erectile Dysfunction

Advancements in medicine have given many ED sufferers hope, as there are many viable alternatives that can treat the problem successfully.

Do not be tempted to subject yourself to vacuum pumps, penile injections or self-medications like Viagra or Cialis. These self-styled solutions can be ineffective at best (for example, effects of using vacuum pumps are only temporary), and dangerous at worst (bursting of capillaries or penile deformities, for instance).

If you persistently experience difficulty in getting and maintaining an erection during sex, it is best to consult a doctor or a specialist.

The doctor will usually first perform physical and laboratory examinations to determine the underlying causes of the problem, followed by exploring the various treatment options.

Don’t let erection problems keep you down (pardon the pun!). Instead, make a resolve to overcome this issue and enjoy the kind of sex that you and your partner deserve!

How To Stop Premature Ejaculation For Good – 3 Powerful Tips To Transform Your Sex Life (Tonight!)

Lloyd Lester — Sun, 14 Nov 2010 23:00:52 +0000

Who wants to know how to stop premature ejaculation once and for all? If you’re like most guys reading this, you probably want to know how you can last long enough to satisfy your woman in bed, don’t you? There is no need to feel let down by your lack of endurance in bed. All you need to do is to understand why you’re not lasting long enough and what you can do about it.

Primary Causes Of Premature Ejaculation (And What You Can Do About It)

There are certainly a good number of causes, but here are the more common ones:

#1 – Quick Masturbation: Well, are you surprised? You shouldn’t be. You see, guys are “wired” to ejaculate fast during masturbation. After all, it is our pleasure to want instant gratification. So it is very common for guys to climax in under a minute or two during masturbation. And when it comes to sex, our bodies are already conditioned to climax quickly.

So what is the solution? Well, easy! Take more time during masturbation. Don’t rush through it. When you feel you are about to climax, stop the routine and resume it when you feel you’ve tapered off a bit. This will consciously train you to last longer.

#2 – Performance Anxiety: Let’s face it, if you think you can’t perform in bed, chances are, you won’t perform. And you’re likely to ejaculate too soon. It’s a vicious cycle; the more stressed out and anxious you are, the more unlikely you’re able to control your orgasm.

So how can you get out of this rut? Simple. Practice some stress-relieving techniques at home. Meditation, yoga and deep breathing will help to a great extent. And while many guys overlook this, regular exercise is an excellent stress-reliever and will enhance your bed performance too!

#3 – Lacking Knowledge Of How Their Bodies Work: Quite simply, most guys don’t know how their bodies respond during sex and the triggers that cause them to ejaculate prematurely.

The solution to this? Understand your mental ejaculation triggers and use natural conditioning to enhance your mental threshold for stimulation. The great thing is that most guys already have this innate ability to control ejaculation.

For example, “edging” is a very effective masturbation technique to identify and progressively raise your ejaculatory threshold. This is where you bring yourself close to the edge of ejaculation, allow the arousal to subside, resume stimulation - and repeat for good measure!

Once you learn the natural conditioning techniques such as this, and put them into practice, you can easily curb or delay the ejaculation triggers and significantly increase your stamina in bed – for good!

Now, if you need a little extra help to last longer in bed TONIGHT, try out these quick fixes. They should give you a few extra minutes in bed!

Quick Fixes For Premature Ejaculation

Use Extra Lube

Contrary to common perception, extra lube can slow down your ejaculation. Why? This is because it will cause less friction between your penis and her vagina, thus reducing your pleasurable sensations and your sexual sensitivity. So put on that tube of lubricating gel nearby for that quick use!

Put On A Condom

Well, this is (almost) a no-brainer. Not only does using a condom make sex safer, it also helps to reduce sensation during sex – certainly a useful way to last longer in bed. For even better results, you can buy one of those specialty condoms or “climax control” types that will surely give you a boost in stamina in bed where you need it most!

Erectile Dysfunction – Viagra, Cialis, And Herbal Remedies

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 12 Nov 2010 14:00:40 +0000

There are dozens of television commercials, radio ads and Internet ads that talk about erectile dysfunction and the best way to cure it. There are so many options available to men that suffer from this debilitating problem that it can be hard to sort through them all. The first step to dealing with ED is to understand what exactly it is – and that other men suffer from the same thing. Here are some ways you can beat erectile dysfunction and start leading a happy and healthy sex life right now!

What Is Erectile Dysfunction?

Erectile dysfunction is a sexual problem that is characterized by a man not being able to achieve an erection of the penis. In the United States alone, approximately18 million men are affected by erectile dysfunction. There are many causes of erectile dysfunction, ranging from physical problems to emotional issues and lifestyle choices. Common diseases like diabetes and high blood pressure – and the associated medications used for treatment – can contribute to erectile dysfunction. The most likely culprit of ED is actually a combination of many different factors. Erectile dysfunction can wreak havoc on a man’s sex life, making him both unable to achieve orgasm through masturbation or sex with a partner due to the penis either not becoming erect at all or losing its erection before climax.

Treating Erectile Dysfunction

Many men who experience ED will seek treatment for this condition through their medical doctor. While visiting your medical doctor is the first thing you should do when you begin having erection issues, it should not necessarily be to obtain a prescription for the latest and greatest pharmaceutical medicine that promises to deliver a “cure.” Go to your doctor with the attitude of working with them to not only find out the true cause of losing your erection (as well as a correct medical diagnosis) but also to determine what the best course of treatment is for you. How you and your doctor choose to treat your ED depends greatly on what both of you believe to be the key issue in causing it.

Other Lifestyle Options

Contrary to popular belief, many lifestyle choices will contribute – and even cause – problems getting and keeping an erection. Stress is a huge factor when considering the cause or causes of ED and it can come from a variety of sources including work and relationships. If you feel that stress is taking over your life, it most likely is playing a role in your inability to have an erection. Talk to a counselor or make some changes in your life that will help relieve your stress, whether it is looking for a new job or ending a bad relationship. Consider getting regular massages or even seeking holistic treatments such as acupuncture to eliminate or reduce the stress that you’ve been carrying around. Exercise and eating healthy is also an important part of keeping your body in peak form, and if your diet consists of mostly processed foods that aren’t rich in vitamins and nutrients, it too may have a hand in causing ED. Commit to enriching your diet with fresh fruits and vegetables, as well as trying to get at least a little exercise each day. Alcohol, smoking and using illegal drugs can also contribute to erectile dysfunction, so it’s important to reduce or eliminate putting toxins in your body.

Traditional Medications For ED

Sometimes, changing your lifestyle isn’t enough to treat erectile dysfunction. While being hung up on getting instant relief through pharmaceutical medications for our physical and emotional problems isn’t always the best route to solve an ongoing issue, sometimes traditional medications can help, especially when they’re part of a comprehensive plan to get rid of erectile dysfunction by looking at all the different areas of your life that could be contributing to the problem. Traditional medications for ED include the ever popular Viagra and Cialis. While these medications can definitely improve your ability to get and maintain an erection for a period of time, some insurance plans do not cover these name brand medications and the copays can be very expensive. Talk to your doctor about the potential side effects of these types of medications, including upset stomach, diarrhea, dizziness, headaches, sudden loss of vision and in rare cases, prolonged erections. Consider all the potential drawbacks of taking a traditonal ED medication in addition to the potential benefits before you and your doctor make the choice to use them. Make sure that both you and your doctor agree that the benefits of these types of medications outweight the potential risks.

Herbal ED Remedies

There are lots of herbal ED remedies that are available to men today, and are often less expensive and less risky than traditional pharmaceutical treatment for erectile dysfunction. These erection pills can actually be cheaper and less harmful to the body than other courses of treatment for the condition. Herbal supplements for ED work to bring the body’s hormones to a more balanced, natural state, which can help men achieve erections more frequently. Herbal supplements can work differently for each person, so don’t be discouraged if the first herbal treatment you try doesn’t work for you. Your body’s chemistry and the quality of the product have a lot to do with whether an herbal supplement will work for you or not. When selecting an herbal supplement for ED, pay attention to where the ingredients come from, to the concentration of herbs in each pill and whether they contain a lot of filler herbs as opposed to the herbs that will actually work to treat ED. Herbal ED remedies are an excellent choice when combined with a committment to reduce stress in your life and make better lifestyle choices.

3 Thrusting Techniques That Make You Last Longer In Bed

Jack Grave — Fri, 15 Oct 2010 14:00:00 +0000

Lasting longer in bed can be as simple as knowing a few special thrusting techniques. This is because premature ejaculation isn’t caused by your genes, your penis size or what your woman does in bed. Premature ejaculation is caused by what you do before and during sex.

The reason most men can’t last longer than 5 minutes in bed is simply because they’re doing the wrong things before and during sex that end up triggering them to orgasm early.

And one of the biggest things men do wrong is use thrusting techniques that encourage quick orgasm. In lasting longer in bed the aim with the thrusting techniques you use should be to reduce the stimulation you get down to a controllable level. Instead most men have sex in a way that gives them so much pleasure in such a small space of time that they get overwhelmed and orgasm almost instantly. By discovering how to reduce your stimulation and pleasure just a little bit you get the incredible satisfaction and deeper pleasure of long lasting sex.

Let’s get straight to it…

Thrusting Technique #1 – Slow And Shallow Entry

A common mistake that a lot of men make when it comes to sex is going too far too fast. One of the things that women love during sex is teasing and anticipation. Women can go absolutely crazy if you show them something they want, but don’t give it them straight away. Most men do the complete opposite when it comes to sex. As soon as they get their penis in their woman they put it in all the way and start thrusting super fast. What does this leave the woman to look forward to and anticipate? Nothing. And often this kills all the sexual tension and makes you as the guy have to work 10 times as hard to get her to orgasm.

Many times women will love it if you start sex very slowly with foreplay. Start by entering your penis inside her very slowly by only half an inch and then pulling it out. Then next time put it in very slowly three quarters of an inch and then pull it out. Then keep thrusting slowly in and out at that depth for a bit. A minute or so later thrust just a little bit deeper. And aim for it to be roughly 5 minutes into having sex before you’re actually thrusting at full depth.

This does three amazing things when it comes to sex.

It has the power to drive her absolutely wild. Women love to be teased and love anticipation, doing this can have her orgasming intensely by the time you’re fully inside her.
It helps you last longer because you’re thrusting slower. By thrusting slower you reduce your stimulation and therefore make it longer before you orgasm.
It helps you last longer because it gives your penis time to “acclimatize” or get used to the feeling of her vagina. The first few minutes inside the vagina are when you’re most likely to orgasm because your penis gets overwhelmed with the new sensation. By allowing more time in the vagina with minimal stimulation, when it comes to thrusting faster later on you’ll be used to the feeling and lasting longer will be much easier.

Thrusting Technique #2 – Deep Thrust And Pump

If you’re already in deep and you’re feeling close to orgasm this is a great technique.

The end of your penis (also known as the Glans) is the most sensitive part of the penis, which means it’s the area of your penis most likely to cause you to orgasm if stimulated. How this thrusting technique works is it reduces stimulation to this most sensitive part of your penis, because by thrusting all the way in you keep the end of your penis away from the most stimulating part of the vagina, which is the entrance.

For this to work all you need to do is thrust deep (without hurting her) and thrust forward and backwards an inch or so, all the while keeping the end of your penis well inside her vagina.

By doing this she’ll get a ton of pleasure, while you can last much longer.

Thrusting Technique #3 – Deep Thrust And Rub

This is a small variation on technique #2 and helps you last longer for all the same reasons.

The only difference with this thrusting technique is that instead of thrusting back and forth you grind your pelvis against her clitoris. You don’t even have to thrust at all if you don’t want to. This thrusting technique works well because it causes you virtually no stimulation but she gets a ton of pleasure from it so it allows you to recover and go again a few minutes later.

Fix Premature Ejaculation Now! These 5 Surefire Tactics Will Help You Last Longer In Bed (Guaranteed!)

Lloyd Lester — Mon, 11 Oct 2010 23:00:36 +0000

Are you having problems lasting long enough in bed? There is no need to feel embarrassed or ashamed about it. There are far more men out there who ejaculate too early during sex, so you are certainly not alone. And there is certainly a lot you can do to stop your premature ejaculation problems, fulfill the woman in your life and totally transform your sex life.

If you look around, you’d probably notice a ton of pills, portions and sprays that claim to work wonders and promise that you will go on for hours during sex. Truth is, these solutions are only temporary quick fixes that don’t nip the problem in the bud. Worst still, many of these products are known to cause skin irritation or allergic reactions, or even reduce your sensitivity to arousal. Well, doesn’t that defeat the pleasures of sex? You bet!

Well, read on for 5 useful tips that work far better than those fad solutions you see in the marketplace. Once you master these, you will last much longer and enjoy sex much better. Read on!

#1 – Get It Off Before The Show Starts

This is an extremely useful tactic. Many guys swear by it. This is what you do - masturbate an hour or two before you are going to have sex. This will “clear your system”, release the sexual tension in you and desensitizes your body to the point that you have to work harder to reach the same sexual peak during your lovemaking.

#2 – Switch Up Your Routines

The key is in knowing when to stop. I know, it’s easy to get carried away and let the sensations rule over you. But if you want to pleasure her as much and don’t disappoint her, stop before you reach the Point of No Return (PNR). Once you reach the PNR, there’s no stopping you from ejaculation, even if her granny walks into the room! So before you reach that point, remove your penis and switch to stimulating her with your fingers or perform oral sex on her.

#3 – Control Your Breathing

Take in deep breaths. By concentrating on your own breathing, you are drawing yourself away from the pleasurable sensations during intercourse. With enough practice, this will “hold you back” much longer. (Quick tip: Exhale during penetration and inhale while you are withdrawing)

#4 – Focus On Her Instead

Here’s the truth. The reason why you want to prolong your orgasm is so that you can fulfill her sexually, don’t you? So if you’re climaxing too early, it helps a great deal if you’ll just focus on pleasuring her FIRST. Stimulate her with some extensive foreplay. Tease her “hot spots” with your hands and fingers. Even oral sex alone can bring her to an orgasm before you even start the actual deed!

#5 – Natural Conditioning

A natural training and conditioning program that encompasses breathing, relaxation and pelvic muscle control techniques is the best long term cure to premature ejaculation. This addresses the underlying physical and psychological triggers of your early ejaculation tendencies and allows you to develop superiors control over such triggers. Such a natural approach is not a quick fix, although many guys are known to experience some improvement in their ejaculatory reflexes within 2 to 3 days.

Like all things worth doing, the best solution always takes some time and effort. But think about it. Your want to last longer in bed, not just tonight, or tomorrow night, but forever, don’t you? Then it is certainly worth every minute of your time to naturally “program” your mind and body to last longer in bed and give your romantic partner the pleasure she deserves and get the kind of amazing sex you’ve been yearning for!

The PC Muscle, Kegels And “The Block” – How To Use Them To Stop Premature Ejaculation

Jack Grave — Wed, 06 Oct 2010 23:00:56 +0000

Premature ejaculation is like a knife striking at the heart of a good sex life. Until you discover the methods of stopping it you could not only fail to enjoy sex but leave your partner dissatisfied with you in bed.

So it’s a good thing there are natural methods to stopping premature ejaculation. It’s not something that requires surgical intervention or anything crazy like that, it just takes a bit of understanding of the human body and a few clever techniques. And of these clever techniques the most powerful one involves the PC muscle, kegel exercises and something called “The Block.”

The PC Muscle

The PC muscle is a very important muscle when it comes to sex. It’s one of the key muscles that causes you to ejaculate and can also be used to stop you from ejaculating – and that’s where the real power comes in.

With the right training and use of this muscle you can develop to a point where you can literally stop an orgasm dead in its tracks. And not only will you stop ejaculation, after doing it you’ll stay hard and be able to carry on sex for a significant time afterwards.

So the first step is identifying where your PC muscle is. When you urinate you’ll notice that you have the ability to stop the urine flow. When you stop the urine flow you’re effectively contracting or “squeezing” your PC muscle. Squeezing your PC muscle is like standing on a hose pipe… When you stand on it or “squeeze” it you stop the flow of liquid going through it. This is why when you squeeze your PC muscle while urinating the urine flow stops.

Eventually your aim will be to stop your ejaculation by squeezing your PC muscle, but before I explain exactly how to do that you need to strengthen the muscle first.

Your PC muscle is similar to other muscles in the body in the sense that if you exercise it regularly it will grow in size and strength. And the process of exercising it is often called performing “kegels.” Performing kegels is easy and only takes about 5 minutes 6 times a week.

How To Perform Kegels

Any time when you’re just sitting around or not occupied (i.e. when your penis is flaccid and NOT while you’re urinating) all you’ve got to do is squeeze your PC muscle tight as hard as you can for 2 seconds. Then relax it for 2 seconds. Then squeeze tight hard for 2 seconds and on and on. Do this 10 times to make one set of kegel exercises, then take a break for 1 or 2 minutes. Then do another set.

When starting out I’d recommend performing 2 sets, but it’s up to you to experiment with how many sets you do, how many repetitions you do and how tightly you squeeze. Over time you’ll want to increase the level of exercise you’re doing to strengthen your PC muscle further. If at any point whilst performing the exercise you feel pain stop immediately and take a break, this exercise should not be causing you any pain. Please do note at this point that what I’m tell you is only opinion which makes you responsible for your actions and you’ll want to see a doctor before beginning any new physical training program.

“The Block”

So part 2 of this process for stopping premature ejaculation involves “The Block”. I call it this for no other reason than that it sounds kinda cool. But what The Block involves doing is contracting or squeezing your PC muscle at just the right time so you stop ejaculation from happening.

It’s best to practise this on your own while masturbating first where you have a bit more control before taking it to the bedroom. The aim with The Block is to squeeze your PC muscle just before you ejaculate. The key element of pulling off “The Block” correctly is timing. If you squeeze too early you’ll have done nothing and you’ll still be super close to orgasm. If you squeeze too late then you’ll orgasm and ejaculate anyway.

When you do squeeze aim to hold your PC muscle tight for as long as it takes for the feel of ejaculation to subside. You may even experience an orgasm without ejaculation at this point, which is great. But keep that PC muscle squeezed until the ejaculation feeling subsides. If you got your timing right then once the feeling’s gone you should be able to last for at least another 5 minutes, if not more.

Now getting your timing perfect takes practice. So be prepared to fail at first. But with enough practice it’s well worth the effort. When you master this technique you have complete ejaculation control. No matter how severe your condition, what your penis size, what genes you were born with or what your woman does you can last longer in bed with this technique, so it’s definitely worth taking the time to master it.

How To Be James Bond In Bed: Lessons In Ending Premature Ejaculation

Jack Grave — Sat, 25 Sep 2010 23:00:28 +0000

How long do you think a man like James Bond lasts in bed?

Inevitably when I ask this question I expect answers like “for hours,” “as long as he wants” or “until she’s satisfied multiple times.”

But why is that?

Why do we expect someone like James Bond to be able to last longer in bed?

The answer is pretty simple. It’s because James Bond is cool, calm and under control. This guy has got a rock solid mental attitude. He’s got confidence, he believes in himself and stands up strong to what most men fear.

So when it comes to having sex do you think he’s worrying “Oh god I hope I don’t prematurely ejaculate”, “what will I do if I orgasm too soon?” or “what is she thinking of me while we’re having sex?”

Of course he’s not worrying about any of those things.

And that’s why if you ask most people the question “how long do you think a guy like James Bond can last in bed?” people inevitably expect him to last for a long time.

It’s because of his mental attitude.

How Your Attitude Will Make Sex Last Longer

The fact is that what you think about before and during sex has a dramatic affect on how long you last in bed. We’ve just proved that we really already know this by the common answers to how long we expect James Bond would last.

But this doesn’t mean you need to be like James Bond in terms of how looks, what you do or who you sleep with, the only way you need to be like James Bond is to adopt a confident mindset in the bedroom.

As it stands the chances are you’re worrying way more during sex than you need to be. And this worry can have a seriously detrimental effect on how long you can last during sex. This is because when you are nervous and when you worry you end up releasing certain hormones into the blood stream (in particular dopamine and adrenaline) which actually encourage premature ejaculation.

So if you want to last longer in bed you need to eliminate nervousness and worry and become sexually confident.

Now you may say “I’m just not a confident guy when it comes to sex” or “there’s nothing I can do change how I think during sex” and in the past I would have agreed with you.

Before I figured out how to last long in bed I used to think I just wasn’t confident enough in the bedroom and there was nothing I could do about it. But one day I realized something that changed my sex life forever.

“Sexual confidence is a feeling not an identity.”

What Sexual Confidence Really Is

When a person says “I’m just not confident in the bedroom” they’re just mistaking who they are for how they feel.

If you then ask that same person “has there ever been a time in your life when you did feel confident about something?” they’ll without doubt come up with at least one time.

And if you can come up with one time then you have the power to create a feeling of confidence again and again and again.

The truth is that if you can feel confident at one particular time then you can feel confident at another time. All you’ve got to do is think the same things you thought and act the same way you acted that time you were confident.

So take a moment now to think back to a time in your life when you felt really confident about something.

What words did you say to yourself in your head?

How did you say them? Loud, soft, intensely, fast?

What images did you have in your head? Were they bright, colourful, close to you, in movie form?

What were you doing with your body? How were you holding yourself? Was your chest out? Were you breathing slowly and deeply? What facial expression did you have?

Answering all these questions is essential to know what you do when you’re confident. And when you’ve got the answer to all these questions you can then apply them in the bedroom to become more sexually confident and as a result last much longer.

The best way to transfer this knowledge to the bedroom is in two steps. Firstly take time to practise visualizing yourself being confident in the bedroom. Practise before hand seeing yourself as the confident guy in the bedroom that you want be. Secondly, once you’re in bed having sex create your confidence by doing all the things that you know makes you confident because of the questions you just answered.

Suddenly you’ll find yourself incredibly confident and James Bond-like in the bedroom.

And if you want to last longer in bed and end premature ejaculation it’s essential you have a confident mental attitude. Nervousness and worry are one of the primary causes of premature ejaculation. If you can eliminate them by creating your own confidence then you’ll truly be like James Bond in the bedroom.

3 Sex Positions To Help You Last Longer In Bed

Jack Grave — Tue, 21 Sep 2010 23:00:25 +0000

If you want to last longer in bed you’ve got to start thinking about which sex positions you use.

Choosing the right sex position can make the difference between lasting 15 minutes- and 15 seconds.

Sure, there are some men who can have sex in whatever position they want and still last for hours, but if you’re someone who struggles to last for longer than 5 minutes, or even 5 seconds, then you’ve got to find every way you can to last longer. And as you become more confident and develop more sexual skills eventually you may not even have to worry about which positions you use. But for now, let’s focus on what positions can help you last longer in bed.

Why Premature Ejaculation Happens

Before I tell you the different sex positions that work to help you last longer you’ve got to understand a few things about why premature ejaculation happens.

Premature ejaculation happens when we men are over-stimulated. In other words it happens when a man experiences way more pleasure than he can handle in any particular moment in time.

Sometimes we create this overwhelming pleasure just with our thoughts and that’s why you’ll see scenes in movies like American Pie where a guy sees a beautiful woman and orgasms without even being touched by her.

But for 90% of men with premature ejaculation, although their thoughts play a factor, it’s overwhelming physical stimulation that actually triggers the early orgasm.

So if you want to last longer in bed you’ve got to use positions that reduce your stimulation and pleasure to controllable levels where they’re not so intense they cause you to blow within a matter of minutes or even seconds.

And there are two ways to do this. Firstly by using a position that puts pressure and demands on a part of your body other than the genitals. In these positions blood and energy are drawn away from the penis, which reduces your overall stimulation and helps you last longer. Or secondly you can use a position where you can fully relax your muscles and body. By relaxing you eliminate physical tension and muscle tightness, which is a common cause for early orgasm (more on this in a minute).

Standing Up Positions

One position you can use to draw energy and blood away from the penis is a standing up position. What’s great about this type of position is that when standing up you’ll find a lot of energy being spent in your legs just keeping you standing up. This may sound weird, but the fact is that when you’re lying down and having sex no energy is really being spent in your body apart from in the hips. If you’re only spending energy in your hips then the blood will be flowing there, which adds so stimulation and promotes early orgasm. By standing up you draw blood away from the genitals and into your legs making lasting longer easier.

To take this standing up position to the next level you can also pick up and carry your woman. Now I know this may not be possible in all situations, but if you are in some way holding your woman as well you’ll find even more energy is drawn away from your genitals so lasting longer becomes even easier.

Special Version Of The Missionary Position

The missionary position is when the woman lies on the bottom facing upwards, with the man lying on top of her between her legs while facing down. This is probably the most commonly used sex position and unfortunately it’s also very likely to cause premature ejaculation. The reason why this happens is like I explained earlier, there’s nowhere else for the blood to go except to your hips and genitals. So with all that blood flowing around your genitals you’re much more prone to early orgasm.

So one way to vary this position is to get on your knees and place her legs over your knees or legs. Everything will be the same as before, you’re still lying on top of her, with the one difference that you are on your knees and her legs are lying on top of yours.

Once you’re in this position spread your knees as wide apart as possible until you can feel your groin muscles stretching (Note: stretch only to the point where you feel the stretch, don’t stretch so far it causes pain). This is how the special version of the missionary position should be performed.

Although this change here is subtle, it makes a big difference. And this is because by stretching your groin you’re putting pressure and demands on your groin. Like I explained earlier, when you put pressure and demands elsewhere energy and blood will flow there and away from your genitals and penis, making lasting longer much easier. On top of that it’s a simple variation of one of the most popular sex positions and no woman will have a problem with you using it.

Her On Top

A lot of men have problems with premature ejaculation when the woman is on top, but most of the time it’s because they don’t know what to do in this situation. Getting her on top can actually be very effective for lasting longer. This is because when she’s on top you can fully relax all your muscles.

You may in the past have noticed that when you get close to orgasm your muscles tighten and tense up. In most cases for an orgasm to happen there has to be a release of physical tension. This is why your muscles tighten before orgasm.

So if you realize and become conscious of this muscle tightening you can in fact last longer in bed just by simply relaxing your muscles. And her on top is a great position in which to do this.

Go Get Started

Above I’ve outlined two important characteristics needed in a position for it to help you last longer in bed; the position should either draw blood away from the penis because of pressure and demands in other parts of the body or it should allow you to fully relax your body. Any position with one of these two characteristics should take you a long way in helping you last longer in bed.

An Effective, Natural Alternative To Viagra And Cialis

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 19 Sep 2010 14:00:06 +0000

Impotency and erectile dysfunction affect many more men than you would think, and it can be extremely debilitating for a couple’s sex life. There are lots of medications available to help with erectile dysfunction, but are medications and drugs really the way to go to cure your erection problems? There are natural and effective ways to help you get and maintain an erection before and during sex, without resorting to expensive medications with questionable side effects. Instead of heading to the doctor for a prescription of Viagra or Cialis, try these all natural methods instead.

The Downside Of Sex Medications

All medications have side effects, no matter what type of medication you’re using or how few side effects the pharmaceutical companies claim that a particular medication has. Side effects can range from very mild, such as dry mouth or light insomnia, to more severe side effects such as internal bleeding or death. Before starting any medication – even herbal or all natural ones – make sure you’re very aware of the possible side effects associated with the medication and you and your doctor have outweighed the benefits over the risks. Other downsides of medications are cost and possible addiction to the medication. Many pharmaceutical products are costly, especially if your insurance or prescription drug plan doesn’t cover them or you have a high co-pay. Such is the case with many name brand medications, including Viagra, Cialis and other medicines that treat erectile dysfunction. Physical addiction is uncommon with medications such as these, however, psychological addiction is not. Once experiencing the relief that impotency medications can bring, you may feel that you need the medications all the time if you ever want to have an erection. Rather than attempt to achieve an erection on your own, you may feel that you require the medication to have an erection at all. If at all possible, it is important to try effective yet all natural alternatives to medications for erectile problems and reduce your dependency on prescription medications when you can.

Relaxation Techniques May Help You Get An Erection

Think about it – many men start to stress immediately when they have trouble getting an erection. They frantically try to “get it up,” often to no avail. Even when great sexual stimulants are involved, such as a blowjob, they still have trouble getting an erection and keeping it up. Instead of allowing yourself to become agitated when you have trouble getting and maintaining an erection, take a break and focus on relaxing. Breathe deeply and allow your muscles to relax. This may take some conscious effort, however, the results are often very worthwhile. Have your partner give you a short massage to help you relax, or play some soft, relaxing music. When your mind and body are no longer actively stressed about being unable to get an erection, start thinking about sexual ideas that turn you on. Watch a porn movie that you and your partner really enjoy, read an erotic novel, or do something fun and sexy with your partner. Whatever used to turn you on before you started experiencing erectile dysfunction will still turn you on now, once you’re relaxed and aren’t trying to force yourself to get an erection.

Eating Healthy To Improve Overall Sexual Function

Many people experience sex problems and erectile dysfunction when they are loading toxins in their body that shouldn’t be there. For overall great sexual function (and a healthier you overall), practice eating healthy, avoiding toxins and getting some exercise. Limit the amount of alcohol you drink to just one or two a day and if you smoke or use illegal drugs and substances, try to quit. If you are on a number of medications – some of which may be causing your impotency – talk to your doctor about reducing your dosage or finding a natural alternative to the medication if at all possible. Of course, there are many medical conditions that absolutely require medication therapy, so never discontinue a medication prescribed by your doctor unless you have talked to him or her first. Eating healthy is also a big part of being sexually healthy, so stock your fridge and cabinets with lots of fresh, whole foods such as fruits and vegetables. Avoid processed foods, empty calories and foods with lots of preservatives in them. Canned foods, chips and sodas (as well as a whole host of other foods) are full of preservatives, dyes and toxins that your body would feel a whole lot better without. Changing your diet will have a profound effect on enhancing your sex life and you’ll notice sex become hotter as you become healthier.

Control Early Ejaculation – 3 Proven Techniques For Guys Who Wish To Last 10 Minutes Longer

Lloyd Lester — Sat, 18 Sep 2010 14:00:53 +0000

Are you struggling with your performance in bed? More specifically, is your inability to last long enough for your partner making you feel anxious about sex? If so, this article is for you.

In just about every study done on men’s sexuality, more than three quarters of men wished they had greater staying power. Premature ejaculation is a recurring problem that haunts many guys who just can’t hold out long enough to bring their women to an orgasm. Sadly, many sexual relations are put on the rocks simply because many men are unable to let their partners experience sex to the fullest.

But the simple truth is also that anyone can learn to put the brakes on premature ejaculation with some easy techniques that focus on gaining control over your mental and physical ability during sex. You don’t need to be a porn star to know all the tools in the trade in order to extend your staying power.

The three tips below will give you a great head start in boosting your threshold and give you the confidence in bed you know you deserve. Read this now if you want to learn how to last an extra 10 minutes in bed.

Achieve Lasting Endurance With Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercise is not just for women. When practiced properly, it is a very powerful technique for men to vastly improve their time to ejaculation. Kegels are practiced to strengthen the PC muscle that is located in the pelvic wall. This is the muscle that controls both the flow of urine and ejaculation during sex.

To perform this exercise, all you need is to squeeze or tense this muscle, hold it for 10 to 15 seconds, and then release the tension. Practice this for 5 minutes a day. Within a week, you should notice a significant improvement in your ejaculation time. The great thing about kegel is that you can practice this simple exercise discreetly anytime, anytime, in any position (sitting, standing, and even lying down) without anyone knowing!

The Sex Position Multiplier

Most guys go for the missionary position. But did you know this is the fastest and surest way for a guy to orgasm? Indeed! The missionary position places undue stress on the muscles in your arms and thighs for support, and this can precipitate an early ejaculation.

If you want to last longer, try having intercourse with your bodies lying on the sides (with her back to your front), or the woman-on-top where your girl has more control over the thrusts and momentum. These 2 positions present less friction during intercourse and less stimulation to you as a result. These 2 positions are great for a start. But my best advice is to try out various positions and find a few that will help you hold out longer.

The Route Of Least Resistance

One of the reasons why some men ejaculate too soon is because they move too fast too soon, and in positions that cause the greatest amount of friction (or “resistance”) during intercourse. If there is one trick to prolong your orgasm, it is simply to SLOW DOWN. This gives you some breathing space, maintain a steady momentum and let you and her experience sex in its entire splendor rather than letting the sensations rule over your head.

Also, as the head of your penis is most sensitive to stimulation, try to find positions that allow deeper penetration – the deeper you go, the less friction and consequently the less stimulation you will experience.

Unlike what many men believe, premature ejaculation is NOT for life. It can be completely reversed with the right strategies. If you are willing to put in the effort to work on it, you WILL surely last longer than you did before. And the more you work on it, the more “mileage” you will go in bed – for good!

How To Cure Premature Ejaculation 100% Naturally (No Pills, Herbs Or Special Creams Needed)

Jack Grave — Fri, 17 Sep 2010 00:00:38 +0000

If you’re struggling with premature ejaculation and don’t find a way of stopping it, soon you’re going to have to deal with the ugly situation of a frustrated partner.

Luckily you don’t need pills, herbs, gadgets or special creams to last longer in bed.

All you need to do is change some of the things you do before and during sex.

Now since most men don’t know this a lot of them will look for a pill to cure the problem. Or maybe they’ll check out some special herbal treatment. Before I ended my premature ejaculation, I tried a bunch of different things like “special condoms” that were supposed to help me last longer, But all they did was numb the end of my penis slightly, take away from the pleasure of sex and not even help me last any longer.

But eventually I had a breakthrough!

What Premature Ejaculation Really Is

Premature ejaculation isn’t just some uncontrollable “thing” experienced by unlucky men. Premature ejaculation happens for a reason. It happens when you trigger yourself to orgasm earlier than you want to. And an orgasm doesn’t just happen out of nowhere. There are very specific things you do to trigger yourself to orgasm. And often you’ll end up doing things to trigger orgasms without even realizing it.

So when it comes to sex, if you can be more aware of exactly what triggers you to orgasm, and then change those things, you can last longer in bed.

For example, one hugely common trigger of orgasm is fast thrusting. As men, it’s instinctive for us when having sex to thrust as quickly as possible. We see it in all the porn movies (if you watch porn that is) and for whatever reason it just seems to come naturally.

But the funny thing is that when you ask a woman what things she really likes in bed, rarely will “hard and fast thrusting” be at the top of her list.

So the reality is, is that there’s a disconnect here.

Women tend to value other things much more than fast thrusting. For example, women tend to value the emotion you bring during sex. How much attention are you paying to them? How present are you? Are you leading with passion? Are you taking control in a fun enjoyable way? These are the kind of things she’s much more concerned about.

So what does all this mean when it comes to premature ejaculation?

How To Avoid Premature Ejaculation Triggers

Well it means that if a huge trigger for premature ejaculation is fast thrusting in only a few sex positions, then you need to avoid it! There are many things besides fast thrusting that you can do to please the woman you’re with, then fast thrusting probably isn’t a great place to start when it comes to sex.

The next time you have sex start by thrusting a lot slower. By thrusting slower at the start it’s much easier for you to last longer because you’re stimulating yourself less. At the same time, by thrusting slower you’re still giving her lots of pleasure, because she’s likely to interpret it as you being caring, passionate and taking control of the situation.

Of course you can always speed up your thrusting later, because some women do enjoy that, but at least by starting out slow you’ll give yourself a chance to last longer than usual.

So there’s one example of how by becoming aware of what triggers you to orgasm you can learn to last longer in bed.

Why Relaxation During Sex Is Key

Another thing that commonly triggers a man to orgasm is a build up of physical tension. Increasing physical tension is something that happens naturally and subconsciously when we have sex. You may have noticed that while having sex your muscles become more and more tense. In particular you’ll probably notice that you’re leg and butt muscles become very tense and tight. Just before orgasm is when they reach their maximum tightness. And just as you orgasm all your energy is released and all that tension melts away.

Most of the time tension is actually required for an orgasm to happen. If it weren’t for tension then there would be no pressure to release through orgasm.

And being someone who wants to last longer in bed you can take advantage of this.

High levels of physical tension and tight muscles are a trigger for orgasm. If you can lower your physical tension and reduce muscle tightness then you can avoid your orgasm trigger.

And doing this is very simple.

Like I said, most of the time this happens subconsciously. You don’t say to yourself “right, I want to orgasm now, so I’m going to tense my muscles.” It just happens. So all it takes to relax your muscles is to become conscious of them. Start noticing when your muscles are tightening and getting tense, and when they do, just relax them. Focus on keeping your muscles relaxed throughout sex, until you want to orgasm. You may also want to take some slow deep breaths, because this will help to relax your muscles as well.

By fully relaxing your muscles you’re eliminating tension in your body, which is a powerful trigger for orgasm. And by removing your orgasm trigger, you can last longer in bed.

If you now remove both the orgasm triggers I’ve just talked about and any other orgasm trigger you can think of, lasting longer in bed naturally should be no problem. And like I promised, no pills, herbs or special creams needed.

How To Prolong Intercourse For Amazing Sex (6 Sensational Facts To Extend Your Sexual Stamina Tonight!)

Lloyd Lester — Mon, 13 Sep 2010 23:00:19 +0000

For many men around the world, premature ejaculation is a curse that puts the brakes on their sex lives. Yet many mistakenly think that PE is a form of sexual disease or illness. It is not. On the contrary, premature ejaculation is often caused by psychological factors. Studies have consistently shown that anxiety and stress are behind most cases of PE.

Here are six critically important points you should keep in mind if you find yourself routinely anxious about sex and climax prematurely.

You Are Not Alone!

Far from it! In fact, as many as seventy percent of men have to deal with this issue at some point in their lives. It is perfectly normal and there is nothing wrong with you. Throughout the history of mankind, men have always been anxious about their ability to perform in bed.

Men Are Not Hardwired To Last

If your idea of sex is what you see in those adult films, it is time to change your mindset. Those movies are meant to titillate your senses; they are unreal in terms of the actors’ ability to last. The average man only need to last the duration it takes for a woman to orgasm – minutes, not hours!

Practice Is The Mother Of All Success

Practice is under-rated in many areas of our lives. We all want an instant cure to all our problems. That is why you see things like desensitizing products that claim to cure your PE problem, when in fact those stuff only act as “band-aids.” There is no shortcut to preventing an early climax and prolonging intercourse. Learning the proper techniques is the KEY to lasting longer.

Foreplay Is The Quintessential Factor To Sensational Sex (And Lasting Longer)

Prolonging your foreplay duration can have an incredible impact on how long you last, and ultimately how much both of you will enjoy the lovemaking. Did you know that in most sexual health surveys, the top complaint that women have about their partners is not having enough foreplay?

Why do women crave foreplay so much? Well, it has to do with how their sexual cycle functions. You see, unlike men, women are slow to warm up during sex. Thus the prelude to intercourse is incredibly important in getting them emotionally-ready and sexually-charged. The right amount of foreplay can get her primed for an orgasm the moment intercourse begins. And it can give you a lot more confidence in the sack when you see her sexually aroused and clearly enjoying your company. This kind of confidence can do a whole lot of good to your sexual endurance.

Why “Squeeze” Techniques Are NOT Ideal

Squeezing the tip of your penis glans (or head) when you are about to climax can help to a certain extent. But it is NOT the ideal solution. It breaks the momentum during sex. Imagine your girl having a great time and then you have to suddenly stop the action. It can frustrate your partner. It can be used as a tactic of last resort to stem an impending orgasm. But if you are looking to rely on such “emergency tactics” every time, sex will not be as enjoyable and fulfilling as it should be!

When All Else Fails, There Is Always Another Time!

Rome was not built in a day. The same goes with improving your sexual endurance. Take each sexual encounter as a learning experience. Learn what it takes to control your sexual arousal. Learn your partner’s “sexual landscape” and how you can use that to your advantage to please her without blowing early. And when you accidentally spill, try to see the lighter side of things - there is always another time!

Lasting Longer Sexually – A Men’s Guide To Unlimited Stamina & Enhanced Sexual Intimacy!

Lloyd Lester — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 23:00:29 +0000

Are you looking for ways to last longer during sex? Are you desperate to end the guilt and anxiety that come with premature ejaculation? Many guys have suffered the unfortunate event of having their relationships ended just because they are not able to sexually fulfill their women. As a result, there are men who decided not to have sex until they feel confident enough to perform better. Sounds like you too? Don’t fret – there is a way out.

The Double-Edged Sword Of Performance Anxiety

Most men would love to completely satisfy their women in bed. It always starts with good intentions: you want her to feel the sizzling passions you have for her; you want the moment to last an eternity, or at least until she comes to an orgasm; you wish you were the best lover she’s ever had.

Unfortunately this “self-inflicted pressure” will result in what you fear most – an early ejaculation that could occur as soon as sexual intercourse begins! If you are reading this, you probably have had that unfortunate label of being “trigger happy” where your ejaculation tendencies are concerned.

Enjoy The “Sensual Pleasures,” Not “Sexual Indulgence” Of Sex

There is a key difference between the two. Enjoying sensual pleasures involves focusing on giving your partner the sexual gratification that she deserves. It involves becoming fully aware of the suite of sensations that envelop your entire body, not just on your genitals.

Start thinking of sex as a full bodied experience that involves a slow, tender build up. Do not view sex as the all-encompassing element of a relationship. It is not. Sex is just one part of a healthy, stable and enduring relationship. Believe me, getting this paradigm right is one of the keys to curing premature ejaculation!

Practice Makes Perfect – Always!

Do not shy away from sex just because of your early ejaculation tendencies. Communicate with your partner that you want to overcome this, and tell her that her help will make this much easier for you, and for her too! As with any self-improvement endeavor, practice makes perfect.

Try to have sex as often as possible. Rather than shying away from it, take it by the horns and see every sex session as an opportunity to improve your sexual endurance and your sexual intimacy. Use these as opportunities to get to know your own sexual response cycles.

Above all, practice some simple maneuvers with her, such as varying your positions to reduce penile stimulation as well as understanding the types of movements and intensity that will lower her threshold for an orgasm.

What about using delay sprays and creams? Won’t they give men better stamina in the sack?

There are plenty of commercial solutions to help end your premature ejaculation problem. Nutraceuticals such as sprays or creams can be used to treat a hyper-sensitive penis. The reason most men climax too soon is because their minds are not hardwired to handle the intense sexual stimulation, thus pushing them over the edge before they even had a chance to rein in their ejaculatory reflexes and truly satisfy their partners.

But there is a downside to these commercial solutions. You need to religiously apply these whenever you want to make out. And they are known to numb the penis so that you feel LESS during sex.

Worst still, delay sprays and creams can rub off onto the vagina and causes your female partner to lose the sensations during intercourse too! Well, they are not ideal solutions but may serve as pretty reliable “quick-fixes” whenever you need one.

The bottom line is this – if you find yourself finishing too soon during sex, rest assured that premature ejaculation can be cured. Continue to maintain a positive outlook. With some effort and PRACTICE, things will soon sizzle up in the bedroom for both you and your lover!

How To Delay Your Ejaculation And Develop A Superhuman Sexual Stamina (For Embarrassed Men Only!)

Lloyd Lester — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 23:00:53 +0000

Let’s face it. When it comes to sex, there is a whole myriad of issues and perhaps even insecurities that we as men would face in the bedroom. But perhaps nothing comes close to the proverbial question that most men have been asking for the longest time: how do I delay premature ejaculation during sex? Or simply - how can I last longer in bed?

For a woman, the ability to reach an orgasm quickly is almost a far-fetch fantasy. But for a guy, ejaculating too fast during sex is the bane that can cause even the strongest relationship to falter if the problem is not addressed.

But if you are not lasting beyond 4 minutes into sex, you are not alone. You have almost 40 percent of the male population behind you! And you are definitely not alone in wanting to find a solution so that you can last longer and enjoy better sex.

A Supercharged Sexual Arousal Is Detrimental To Your Sex Life

Many “premature ejaculators” can go from erection to ejaculation within one or two minutes. That is simply not enough time for a woman to be properly aroused. In fact, most women require at least 10 to 15 minutes of sexual stimulation to be able to achieve an orgasm! The problem with most men suffering from PE is over-stimulation. They simply allow the stimulation to go out of control until it is too late.

But First, You Have To Possess The Right Mindset If You Want To Last Longer

This is fundamentally important. It is not just about using the latest sprays, creams or ointments to give you superior sexual stamina. It is about adopting the right paradigm and attitude during sex that will separate you from rookies who ejaculate from the word “GO” and REAL men who can truly master their ejaculation almost on command.

Mind Over Body

We all know that the mind controls the body, and not the other way round. Guys who climax too soon allow their bodies to rule their minds. They let the sexual stimulation get too intense to the point that they cannot stem an impending orgasm, regardless of how they try to mentally distract themselves. When you reach the “point of no return” during sex, it is too late to rein in your ejaculation.

The Attitude You Should Adopt

Honesty is the best policy even when it comes to sex. You don’t have to feel guilty that you are not lasting long enough for her. You just got to be honest with her that you are climaxing too soon because she has turned you on so much, and you would love to return her the favor.

Women love men who have the courage to face up to their sexual inadequacies. Sex doesn’t have to end when you ejaculate! You can and SHOULD continue to give her sexual stimulation. Your penis isn’t exactly the only “tool” you have. In fact, most women hardly get an orgasm through penetrative sex.

One of the key “female orgasm instruments” is the clitoris, and because of direct penetrative movement during intercourse, very often the clitoris does not get sufficiently stimulated.

So go down on her if you like and stimulate her clitoris with your tongue (women love oral sex) and continue to romp her erogenous spots with your fingers. This exudes sexual confidence on your part; it shows you are in control… and this turns women on!

Believe me, having confidence is that the first crucial step to curing premature ejaculation and lasting longer in bed. Be bold, and take that first step!

Q&A: How To Make Sex Better For Her

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 23:00:28 +0000

Making first time sex special is a concern for many couples who ready for sex but haven’t taken that big plunge yet. Many guys are worried that their girlfriend won’t find the first time pleasurable, and they’re afraid of sex being uncomfortable for her. Here’s how you can make the first time – or any time - better for her.

Hey, my question is - this will be mine and my girlfriends first time, and I would like to know how to make this very special for her. I’m a little worried it will be too short and I would like to know the best way to keep it going to satisfy her.

–YouTube Viewer

Make Sex About Her

If you want to ensure your partner enjoys sex, make the sex all about her. Focus on her pleasure instead of your own. This is where foreplay can really become handy, because instead of rushing into penetration (which likely will be uncomfortable at the very least if it’s her first time) you can focus on getting her aroused through foreplay. Start out by helping her to relax with an erotic massage, and make sure you take your time. Don’t rush into anything, even if you are tempted to hurry up and get your own pleasure. Taking the time to pleasure your partner is well worth it, because in the end sex will be more pleasurable for the both of you.

Give Her Oral Sex

Women love oral sex. That’s a fact! Most women, actually, can’t climax through vaginal stimulation alone and require some degree of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. Helping your partner reach orgasm through oral sex before the actual act of penetration will help get her aroused and more physically receptive to your penis. This is especially helpful if your partner is having sex for the first time, as it will be more comfortable and pleasurable for her if she’s naturally lubed up. Another benefit of oral sex is that your women actually find it emotionally fulfilling as well. She’s going to love the fact that in that moment, even if it is just for a few minutes, she is the complete and total focus of your efforts. She gets to lie back, relax and enjoy receiving your efforts to please her!

How To Make It Last Longer

Many guys who haven’t had sex before or who haven’t had sex in a long time are worried about reaching climax too quickly once they start having sex with their partners. This is definitely a common concern, because many guys report they reach the brink of orgasm more quickly than they would like. To make sure you don’t climax too soon the first time, try masturbating often before the big event. Masturbation will help relieve pent up sexual tension, so you don’t feel the need to climax right away. This will give you more time to spend with her focusing on her pleasure and ensure that first time sex doesn’t go too quickly. These are actually all great tips that you can use beyond the first time as well, to make each and every time as amazing for her as it is for you.

Q&A: Premature Ejaculation – How Can I Last Longer In Bed?

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 29 Aug 2010 23:00:17 +0000

Premauture ejaculation is a common issue for many men, both young and old. There’s nothing wrong with reaching orgasm quickly during sex, although, it can definitely put a damper on a couple’s sex life if he’s going too fast for her. Here’s how you can slow it down and last longer in bed so she can reach orgasm too!

Question: I have a problem, when me and my girlfriend have sex it’s like 5 minutes into it or so then I’m ready to cum. Is that normal to go that fast? How do I keep it together longer so it’s more pleasurable for her as well?

–YouTube Viewer

Masturbation Can Help

Masturbating can actually help a premature ejaculator to last longer in bed. Many men who have girlfriends, wives or regular sex partners feel like they don’t need to masturbate, however, they end up reaching orgasm within just a few minutes of having sex with their partner. By masturbating, men can somewhat “desensitize” their penis so they don’t feel the urge to climax as soon as they start receiving pleasure. You won’t desensitize yourself to sex completely, but you will program your penis to be able to withstand pleasure for longer. Practice getting close to orgasm when you masturbate and then back off a little before you actually climax. Do this several times in a row to practice holding and controlling your orgasm.

Take A Break During Sex

It’s not bad to take a break during sex when you feel like you’re almost on the brink of having an orgasm. Back off and let your partner know that you’re close, but you’re not ready for the sex to end. Do something else, such as light foreplay or pleasure for her. This coud be a great time to give her oral sex or finger her and give her an orgasm too! When you no longer feel like you’re ready to blow, resume intercourse with your partner. You can do this more than once during sex – in fact, you can actually do it as many times as you want until you just can’t control yourself anymore! Many men report that doing this during sex helps their partners to reach orgasm as well, and makes their orgasm more powerful and pleasurable when they finally do reach climax. If you don’t trust yourself to stop when you’re close to having an orgasm, try sex positions that put your partner in charge.

Practice Makes Perfect

The more sex you have, the longer you’ll last each time. Just like any other activity, if you want to be really good at it, you have to practice at it! Instead of going a week or a few days between having sex, try having sex every other day or even every day if you need to at first! Adding masturbation into the mix as well will really help you to become a master of controlling your own orgasms. You won’t have to do this forever either – as you become more accustomed to controlling yourself, you’ll eventually be able to do so even if you haven’t had sex for weeks. Even though premature ejaculation is a common problem for me, there are lots of ways you can fix it if you just put the effort in.

Sexual Stamina Exercises For Great Marathon Sex

Lee Jenkins — Sat, 21 Aug 2010 00:00:28 +0000

Every guy knows (or secretly admits) that he has shortcomings when it comes to sex. Maybe it’s the incapacity to make a girl climax, maybe it’s the fact that he gets off after just 2 minutes, or maybe it’s that he just can’t get it up long enough to please his girl. Whatever your sex-related problem is, other men have had worse.

But, there are certain ways to make sure you don’t run into “technical problems” when it’s time to perform.

Practice Holding Back Your Ejaculation

Just like everything else, practice makes perfect when it comes to developing enough sexual stamina to hold back your climax. You can practice alone or with your girlfriend (if she’s comfortable with just practicing).

The problem is that most guys will not “practice” long enough to really learn the skills. I can’t blame you. I, myself, want to learn the basics just once and be a sex expert the very next day. It’s like going to a fitness center one morning and expecting to have bulky muscles by dinner time. It’s not possible.

When you’re masturbating and you feel tension building, hold it all in and do breathing exercises. You can also interrupt your own climax by shifting your attention to other things. When you’re with your girlfriend, you can change sex positions or you can go back to foreplay.

Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises are the most convenient way to strengthen your inner thigh muscles without letting everyone know you’re actually exercising. There are so many tutorials around on how to do Kegel exercises, but they all boil down to one thing… you have to exercise your pubococcygeus muscle (also known as your pelvic floor). Tighten this muscle a few times a day and reap the benefits when you’re on sex mode.

The main benefits of doing kegel exercises include getting rid of erectile dysfunction, getting a rockhard erection and being able to control your ejaculation.

Increase Your Strength

Do you have to be a body builder to have great sex? No, of course not. But you have to be able to lift a girl’s body when you’re doing it standing up, or when she wants you to try some exotic sex position in which you need to partially carry her.

Staying fit can benefit you in the bedroom. If you eat well, work out and maintain a healthy lifestyle, your circulation will stay in tip-top condition and you will not have to worry about erectile dysfunction caused by circulation problems.

Sharpen Your Imagination

Marathon sex can be physically and mentally draining. This means you need to train your mind as well as your body to bear the demands of a thirteen-hour sex session. Remember, your brain is your greatest sex organ. Don’t let it get desensitized. If you can keep thinking of kinky stuff even after a few hours, you can be sure that you won’t lose your erection, and you can continue to please your girl for as long as she likes.

Fixing Premature Ejaculation – What Makes A Good Treatment To Boost Sexual Stamina (Most Guys Are Clueless)

Lloyd Lester — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 23:00:16 +0000

Let’s face it. You have no lack of options in bed when it comes to treating treating premature ejaculation. But before we move on to examine the various alternatives and what makes a good cure, it is important to properly understand what premature ejaculation really is – and if you are really suffering from it.

You could be a premature ejaculator if:

You come to an orgasm within 2 minutes of intercourse
You are unable to sexually fulfill your female partner on more than 50% of the occasion
Your inability to last long enough is causing distress to you or your partner

But really, you do not need to feel embarrassed if you are suffering from premature ejaculation. This is not a form of illness or disease, and the fact that you are among 40 percent of all men who have to deal with this issue means that you are not alone in this.

And the sooner you recognize that you need help, the faster you will resolve this problem and enjoy the kind of long lasting sex that you know you deserve.

What Is A Good PE Treatment?

When evaluating the treatment options best suited for you, I suggest you take these 2 criteria into consideration:

The treatment provides a PERMANENT cure instead of just a short-term solution

The treatment should be natural and relies on your body’s natural responses to significantly boost your sexual stamina.

So which PE treatments are recommended? Let’s take a look below.

Common PE Treatments

These are some of the common “cures” for PE. Let us examine if they are really effective and provide a long-term solution to your early ejaculation.

Anti-depressants – There are plenty on the market. Are they worth your time? Well, these drugs do work, but they can come with unintended consequences – such as the loss of libido or even difficulty in ejaculating. You have to consume these pills or drugs on a daily basis. Plus they don’t work if you take them just before sex. Before taking on these drugs, it is best that you consult a doctor about the potential side effects and if they are the best option for you.

Numbing applicators such as creams, lotions and sprays – These are popular solutions among men suffering from PE. They do work, but these are more of temporary quick fixes that do not permanently cure your early ejaculation problem. They can be useful if you need extra endurance at a moment’s notice, but solutions such as desensitizing creams have the potential to dull or lower the sensations you and your partner will experience during sex.

“Re-wiring” your ejaculatory response through practice and training – This is a permanent treatment and addresses the root causes of your premature ejaculation. It encompasses natural, time-tested cognitive and physical exercises that condition your body to withstand sexual stimulation and significantly prolong your ejaculation. You may not see immediate results, but you will definitely experience permanent effects of lasting longer in bed, every single time.

PE Is NOT For Life!

There is no need to let premature ejaculation ruin your sex life forever. Most men suffer from early ejaculation due to a combination of both mental and physical factors. By putting yourself through the paces and getting the appropriate exercise regimen in place, you can easily turn the tables on PE – for good! The great thing is, with the right information, you can nip premature ejaculation in the bud without embarrassing trips to the doctor.

How To Have Amazing Sex Even If You Can’t Last Long Enough In Bed (This Will Completely Blow Her Mind!)

Lloyd Lester — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 23:00:41 +0000

Making love is a sacred, tender act that creates an emotional bond between a couple. But for many men, the inability to last long enough often creates anxious moments in between the sheets instead. Many guys want to improve their sexual stamina and last longer during sex, thinking this is the only way to fulfill their female partners.

But lasting longer is NOT the key…

Let me explain.

There are many techniques for helping men last longer in bed, for example, by using desensitizing sprays, creams, lotions or even specialty condoms.

But these methods are simply masking the symptoms of the problem and not addressing the root causes.

Almost all cases related to maintaining a hard erection and lasting longer boils down to one thing – you are too unsure or too nervous in the bedroom.

Gaining sexual confidence is the only genuine way to completely obliterate any performance anxiety in the bedroom and lasting as long as you want. The problem with having great sex is that the issue is NOT about lasting longer.

Mastering Her Sexual Response

It really is about how to completely master your partner’s sexual response and gain her trust in bed. Most women view sex NOT as a means to an end, but as a titillating journey to the end itself. They cherish how they are brought to an orgasm, and not just about the orgasm itself.

The ability to last longer is an integral part of great lovemaking, but many guys make it to be more important than it really is.

Here’s the simple truth… if you can last more than 10 minutes of thrusting, you already have all it takes to be a phenomenal lover. Most women don’t need that kind of continuous penetration, simply because they tend to dry out from that constant thrusting before it starts to hurt.

The way to a woman’s orgasm is not in penetrative sex. It lies in what you do BEFORE you make love to her! Many studies have shown that more women get an orgasm from oral sex and foreplay than from intercourse! This means you should really pay attention to the techniques to get her sexually-charged before intercourse. This will boost your sexual “competence”. And when you achieve that kind of mastery, the confidence you get will obliterate the problem of not lasting long enough!

And if you do climax too soon, hold her responsible for it (no, I’m not kidding!)

Finishing Too Early

When a guy finishes too soon during sex, there are two ways a woman will think about the situation: she will think that the guy is really lousy OR, she may think she is so incredibly hot that the guy just lost control.

But here’s the thing – most women are so insecure about themselves that the first scenario is far more likely – unless in the first place you give her the idea that she is HOT!

So, if you come to an orgasm too quickly, be completely cool about it, and tell her “that has never happened to me, and I never thought a woman could do that to me, until you came along!”

Something magical happens when you assure her that you are totally attracted to her and enjoy her company and body immensely. Your woman will feel completely comfortable and secure about her own sexuality… and will be drawn by your masculinity too!

This is extremely powerful and a great way to turn the tables on your quick ejaculation. The sex may be over too soon, but believe me, she will remember that quick-fire sex as totally mind-blowing!

(But you better do better next time or else she may find someone else who does!)

How To Boost Your Sexual Stamina – Use These 3 Killer “P” Techniques For Turbo-Charged Endurance!

Lloyd Lester — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 23:00:37 +0000

So you want to heat things up a notch in the bedroom, but you find that your sexual stamina is just not holding up. Sexual endurance is one of those things that most men would love to have, but very few actually achieve it. In fact, shame, guilt and disappointment often accompany guys who fall short in the bedroom. Worst still, most of us are not comfortable talking about this shortcoming.

So what do you do if you want to last longer in bed? Well, these 3 deadly effective “P” techniques may just be what you need to give your stamina a lift!

Power Of Pleasing

The real purpose of sex should be in helping your partner enjoy the moment as much as you are (if not more!). One of the reasons why men are not lasting long enough is due to the fear or anxiety of not being able to sexually fulfill their partners. If this sounds like you, there is an easy way out. Instead of focusing on using your male anatomy to please her, why not engage the “whole-body” experience instead?

A woman does not need sexual intercourse to be erotically fulfilled, although that would be the icing on the cake. A woman needs emotional connection and above all, attention to her body on the whole – and not just her genitals.

So what does this mean for you? Simple! Tease her with words, and pay attention to the sensual areas and hot buttons all over her body. This will get her all warmed up before the actual deed, and more importantly, help extend your time in bed too.

Power Of Positioning

The next time you feel the uncontrollable urge to climax, think about what makes you feel good. This will help “debug” your quick orgasm reflexes. For many guys, the positioning of the hips plays a huge role in defining how long you can last. Thrusting with vigorous hip movements can push you to the verge of climax very easily, especially if you engage in the conventional missionary position.

Also pay attention to the positioning of your partner’s legs during penetration. If her legs are closed tightly, more pressure and stimulation will be applied to your penis glans and if you aren’t trained properly, you will likely last no more than a couple of quick minutes.

Try spreading her legs apart during intercourse, thrust more deeply and rub your pubic mound against her genitals. You will last longer and she will derive more pleasure at the same time!

Power Of Plateu-ing

There are four phases to a man’s sexual arousal. In the “excitement” phase, you are just getting erect and still very much in control of your arousal. At the “plateau” phase, you are fully erect, very aroused, but still in control. At “orgasm” phase, your arousal builds up intensely and the amount of stimulation tips over into ejaculation. The last phase is the “resolution” stage where your breathing returns to normal and your erection subsides.

The key to controlling your ejaculation is to extend the “plateau” stage. This means you need to maintain your levels of arousal without allowing yourself to boil over to a climax.

So how do you prolong the “plateau” phase?

First, maintain a steady tempo during penetration. Allow your thrusts to slowly gain momentum and when you sense you are fairly close to a climax, slow down, and if need be, withdraw entirely. Resume penetration when the arousal tapers off. Communicate with your partner why you are doing this. Her support with help you build greater confidence in your performance.

Second, try alternating between deep and shallow thrusting. Shallow penetration will stimulate the sensitive nerve endings within the first 2 inches of a woman’s vagina. Deep thrusting will present less friction and stimulation on your penis glans and help you rock on much longer!

The Best Way To Increase Your Sexual Performance

Lee Jenkins — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 23:00:50 +0000

I’m no stranger to women and intimacy, and through the years, you know what I’ve discovered? Most of the women I’ve slept with have different ideas of sex. In particular, good sex. These women ask for different things, from oral sex to non-stop French kissing. However, one thing is common among them – they all want an orgasm, and if possible, multiple orgasms.

However, before I figured this out, I was one of the many guys around who don’t know the first thing about pleasing women in bed. Sure, I have been doing it for a while, but somehow my skills at that time weren’t enough to get women there. I’m sure you know the frustration of giving it all you got but still not making the woman you’re with climax every time you make love.

When I finally found the secret to improving my sexual performance, I couldn’t believe that all the best skills in the bedroom can be summarized in just two steps.

Think Of What She Feels

It’s no secret that we tend to concentrate on how good sex feels when we’re inside the bedroom with a girl. We often concentrate on what we’re feeling that we forget about the woman and what she’s feeling.

If you don’t believe me, think of how often you would caress a woman’s breast when you’re already way past the foreplay phase and well into the penetration phase. Most of the time, the breasts get ignored because they’re not exactly related to what’s making you feel good. This goes for the clitoris, the neck, the torso and the legs, too. These are all hot spots on a woman’s body that don’t get enough attention when penetration starts.

Be in permanent foreplay mode and you’ll realize that she will climax faster. This means you must always be caressing, kissing and touching the girl even if you’re in the throes of penetrative fun.

Hold Back On Your Climax

If she’s enjoying and you’re enjoying, you just feel like letting loose. There’s nothing wrong with this, but remember that if she hasn’t reached climax yet, she’s bound to expect more foreplay and more sex even after you’re done.

If you’re like all the other men in the world, that’s close to impossible, right? You need rest. You need sleep. Then, you inadvertently kill all anticipation and excitement on her part by making her wait for an hour or so before you can go again.

Hold back and let her have an orgasm first. If you are too sensitized, wear a condom. If that does not work, change positions when you are about to blow. It may be cliche to “think about baseball,” but if that gets the job done, do it.

The good news is that you don’t have to be a player who has been practicing these techniques to be good in bed. You can get it right the first time you do it with a girl.

How To Last Longer During Sex And Be Thrilled With Your Transformed Stamina With These 3 Tips

Lloyd Lester — Sat, 24 Jul 2010 23:00:47 +0000

Are you sick and tired of super quick sex and having no sexual stamina? Are you worried that your inability to last is making your woman think twice about making out with you? Are you finally ready to take control of your sex life, supercharge your stamina, and give her sensational sex to boot, even if you’ve never been able to last beyond 2 minutes in bed?

If you are anything like the men reading this, I am sure your answers are a resounding “YES!”

Here’s a simple fact: over 70% of men surveyed said their biggest fear in the bedroom is not being able to last (so take comfort that you are not alone). Not only that, the majority of women also want their men to last long enough to give them orgasms.

So what are the most effective ways to improve your endurance in bed and become a phenomenal lover who can please any woman at will? Plenty!

But for the brevity of this article, let us look at three proven and very popular tactics to improve your “staying power” in the sack.

The Art Of Titillating Foreplay

Most men forgo this crucial part of sex and jump right into intercourse. Without a doubt, that is the quickest way to end your lovemaking in a hurry. The simple truth is that women are slow to warm up during sex. It is not their fault. It is how they are “biologically programmed.” Foreplay is an important process to arouse your female partner and get her sexually-charged and ready for intercourse.

Here’s something that most guys don’t know. Knowing the right techniques for foreplay can increase your sexual confidence. When you see that your woman is clearly enjoying the moment, something magical happens: you are no longer laden with the pressure to perform, and this naturally helps you last longer in bed. So don’t skim on foreplay. Instead, embrace it as the gateway to her orgasm and your sexual endurance!

Refractory Rewards

Take advantage of your refractory period. This is the time frame between the first and second male orgasm. Simply put, if you masturbate or gratify yourself an hour or two before you have sex, it will take you much longer to achieve the same levels of sexual stimulation. In order words, the first climax helps to “desensitize” your penis glans and can give you up to three times the endurance in bed.

You don’t have to feel funny or embarrassed to have to do this – it is a completely natural and proven way to last longer. In fact many sexual therapists and medical professionals recommend masturbation as an effective “first line of defense” to prevent premature ejaculation and increase your stamina in bed.

Call Me PC For Short

In your pelvis area, there exists a set of muscles, known as the Pubococcygeus (PC) muscles. Most men do not know this, but you can fortify these muscles and make them more resilient through simple pelvic contraction exercises that have been proven to transform your sexual stamina.

Exercises like Kegels are super easy to do and do NOT require you to handle your genitals. They will increase your sexual confidence ten fold. These simple routines take up no more than a couple of minutes each day, and can easily give you extraordinary stamina to even outlast your woman in bed, and I’m pretty sure she won’t be complaining about it either!

Best Sex Positions To Last Longer In Bed – Are You Ready For Explosive Sexual Endurance With These?

Lloyd Lester — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 23:00:11 +0000

Are you embarrassed by how soon you finish in bed? Is premature ejaculation making you feel less of a man and more like a lousy lover?

There is probably nothing worse than your wife, girlfriend or lover anticipating a night of pleasure, only to have you ending up being “too quick on the draw”. It can happen to ANY guy (and you probably know it all too well). And one of the questions I get more than ANY other is whether there are positions that help men last longer in bed. The simple truth is, there are! But here’s the thing - most couples adopt at most 2 different positions during lovemaking.

Well, considering that most guys climax within two to four minutes, that does not provide much leeway for experimenting with different positions. But ironically, the converse is also true. The more positions you experiment with, the more likely you will find some positions that will give you better control over your arousal and stimulation levels. In short, how long you last in bed can be directly controlled and improved by the sex positions you use. There are certain positions that put undue stress on the core muscle groups in your body – particularly your abs, arms, thighs, buttocks and pelvis. This stress makes it difficult to control your arousal.

The “Culprit” Of Quick-Fire Sex

The missionary position is a surefire position for quick ejaculation. This is a common position that most guys use during sex, so is it any wonder that many men don’t last the distance? What happens is that this position requires you to prop yourself up. And after thrusting for a couple of minutes, the amount of stress and tension in the muscles on your arms and legs will gradually build up and push you over the edge, making you lose control over your arousal. So which sex positions are the best for prolonging orgasm?

Woman On Top Or Cowgirl Position

The woman-on-top or cowgirl position gives you far better ejaculatory control even though your woman is actually controlling the movements and thrusting.

Why? Firstly, this position allows your body to be completely relaxed and stress-free. You are lying on your back and just enjoying the sensations coursing through your body. When you are relaxed and your main body muscle groups that precipitate ejaculation are not tensed, it becomes much easier for you to control your arousal.

Secondly, the part of the penis that is most sensitive to touch is the frenulum (the small fold of skin located on the underside of the rim where the penis head meets the shaft). Thrusts that are direct upwards instead of downwards in a woman’s vagina will cause less friction, and hence lessen stimulation on this ejaculation trigger point.

The Reverse Cowgirl Position

The “reverse cowgirl” is another great variation you can try out. As the name implies, this is the reverse of the woman-on-top position – your partner mounts you, but with her back facing you. You can try this variation after adopting the traditional cowgirl. It can help vary the stimulation, without losing the fun and pleasure from the act.

The key is to experiment with different positions, until you find a few that give both you and your partner pleasure and help you last longer at the same time. If you need a quick head start, try these recommended positions and see your endurance get a healthy boost!

Preventing Premature Ejaculation – Are These 4 Myths Killing Your Sexual Stamina in Bed?

Lloyd Lester — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 23:00:25 +0000

Are you super short of stamina in bed? Do you cringe at the prospect of having LESS than stellar sex for the rest of your life?

Being embarrassed and frustrated by premature ejaculation is bad enough, but the problem is made a lot worse by the gamut of myths, misconceptions and lies that surround this subject. These myths can cloud the issue and make it so much harder for you to overcome your endurance shortcoming and enjoy sex that truly lasts. Let’s put these common myths, exaggerations and outright lies about premature ejaculation to bed once and for all!

Myth #1 – If You Ejaculate Within Two Minutes, You Have Premature Ejaculation

This really is subjective. You see, men can be classified as premature ejaculators if they consistently cannot last more than 2 minutes during sex. But if you can bring your woman to an orgasm in less than 2 minutes, then you are really NOT suffering from PE! It all depends on whether your woman is fulfilled during lovemaking. If she’s truly satisfied even in a rapid sex session, you are way ahead of most men in your sexual performance!

Myth #2 – Some Men Are Born With The Natural Ability To Last Longer During Sex

No man is born with the natural ability to last long during sex. In fact, that runs counter to the “procreation creed” of Mother Nature. Men are naturally predisposed to climax quickly during sex, simply for the purpose of sowing their seeds in numbers, in the shortest time possible. Thus to last longer in bed is a genetic disadvantage. So if you are not lasting as long as you desire, take heart! It is NOT your fault! There are millions of men out there who are just like you.

Myth #3 – There Is Nothing You Can Do If You Have Premature Ejaculation

While it’s true that men are not naturally blessed with exceptional sexual stamina, that does not mean you cannot last as long as you want. Indeed, the ability to last longer is a “learned trait”. Porn actors seem to last an eternity during the sets – that is a result of PRACTICE. Lasting longer in bed is a skill just like any other that can be practiced and honed to perfection. The key is in learning the right arousal control techniques and exercises to strengthen the core muscles that regulate ejaculation.

Myth #4 – “Distraction Techniques” Are A Great Way To Last Longer In Bed

Some men find that thinking of something other than sex can prevent them from getting aroused too soon. But this is hardly practical at all as it distracts you from actually enjoying sex. Think about this – what is the purpose of having sex if you are going to avoid the pleasure by putting your mind somewhere else?

The truth is, with proper practice, you can experience the full splendor of lovemaking and attain great control over your ejaculation at the same time – without thinking about baseball statistics - or her grandmother!

The bottom line is this…

PE does NOT need become a permanent fixture in your sex life. As a matter of fact, the FASTER you fix it… the happier you are going to be (and your partner too!)

Sex Tips For Lasting Longer And Giving Your Girl Raging HOT Orgasms (This Will Leave Her Shaking)

Lloyd Lester — Sun, 11 Jul 2010 23:00:23 +0000

When it comes to lasting longer in bed, many men prefer to rely on the proverbial “quick fixes” that the male enhancement market has to offer. Pills, creams and desensitizing sprays may give you those extra minutes during sex, but the problem does NOT lie with your penis.

It Is Your Brain That Controls How Long You Last, Not Your Genitals!

Think about this analogy for a moment.

When you learn to park a car, your arm muscles provide the energy to turn the steering wheel. But it is your brain that TELLS your hands where and how to turn!

By the same measure, your mind controls the outcome of the kind of sex you are going to have. This is fundamental, but most men never quite get it.

The simple truth is this…

If you think you are going to climax early, you will achieve that exact outcome. If you think those pills, creams and sprays are going to help you last longer, you will never be able to wean yourself off them. Instead you will need to continually rely on those costly products whenever you want to make love to your woman.

Most cases of premature ejaculation arise from a lack of understanding of one’s bodily reactions to sexual stimulation. As a result, most men do not know how to control their ejaculatory reflexes until it is too late. Just like how you can improve various aspects of your body through training and conditioning, beating early ejaculation is a “learned trait.” It is a skill that some men hone and perfect after consistent PRACTICE. But sadly, most men never get down to it, thinking there is nothing they can do about it.

Training For Endurance

Certain targeted techniques such as synchronized breathing, mental manipulation, and ejaculatory muscle exercises are great ways to improve your stamina in the sack (and some of these can be performed with your partner).

While some sexual therapists charge exorbitant fees to teach you these methods, you can easily learn them on your own from home.

These methods basically condition both your mind and body to improve your ability to withstand intense stimulation without blowing early.

Sexual Confidence Is The KEY To Lasting Longer And Triggering Female Orgasms

Even if you feel that your stamina is lacking, tell her confidently that you will gain better control over your stamina and completely master it. Most women love guys who have the courage to face up to their own sexual inadequacies, and do something about it.

Learn to master her body completely. Know which of the hot buttons on her body are sensitive to your touch and give them your due attention (hint: the back of her neck, her tummy, lower back and inner thighs are great places to start). Make sure you fully satisfy her and give her plenty of orgasms – orally and with your fingers.

Be honest and open with her about your problem. Let her know you are a REAL man who is NOT anxious about your sexual performance… because you know how to please her, even without using your most prized manhood!

Continue to improve your sexual skills and techniques, all with the aim to give her sensational orgasms each time you make out with her.

Remember… competence breeds confidence!

This will eventually bestow on you the confidence you need to permanently and naturally last longer every time. And the kind of orgasms she will get from the prolonged ecstasy will be nothing short of earth-shaking!

How To Delay Your Own Orgasm

Lee Jenkins — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 23:00:52 +0000

They say it takes the average girl around ten to twenty minutes to climax. To guys who can ejaculate in as little as two minutes, this is way too long. Whoever invented the romantic idea of getting off together during sex must have been out of his mind. I’m not saying it can’t happen, but with an average, healthy male, this is easier said than done.

Is there a way to climax only when the girl is ready to get off? The inability to control orgasm is a huge dilemma for most guys. If girls can’t hurry up with reaching climax, then the guys should hold out.

Unfortunately for most guys, premature ejaculation is one of the main reasons why some girls think that sex is overrated. Every girl knows that if a guy can’t hold it in until she’s ready, the girl will have to wait for the guy to recover from his first climax before she gets her pleasure.

Is there a way to solve this problem with premature ejaculation without using the “magic pills” that claim to do the trick?

Wear A Condom

A man’s sex organ is ultra-sensitive; and it becomes even more sensitive when the man is mentally and physically aroused. Using a condom during sex is more than just for staying safe; it will also help you last longer.

Beware of the many types of condoms in the market, though. There are condoms that kill sensation (and your libido) more, and there are those that are too thin to make any difference. Chances are you already have a favorite brand that does the job of not breaking; but remember, if one layer of condom still can’t help you control your orgasm, wear two layers.

Masturbation

Masturbating regularly will allow a certain level of control when it’s time for the real deal. You already know about the cliches of thinking about baseball, or counting backwards, to control your orgasm, but doing these things won’t work if you’re filled to the brim and ready to explode at any time.

Don’t worry about feeling like you’re in high school again. No one’s going to know that you still do it. In fact, most of your grown-up buddies will definitely agree that this is a great way to become a better lover.

Keep A Cool Head

Climax control is related to a person’s mindset. If you’re over-excited about making love that night, there’s a chance that you won’t last longer than a few seconds. Let go of the anxiety of being with a new girl or being too eager to have sex. Also, be familiar with the way your body reacts to stimulus. This means you have to change sex positions, or slow down a bit, when you feel that you’re going to blow.

It helps if you don’t drink alcohol before you make love. Scrap the misconception about alcohol being an aphrodisiac. It only contributes to your lack of control as far as reaching orgasm is concerned.

Premature Ejaculation: What To Do When IT Happens

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 14:00:57 +0000

Premature ejaculation: it’s every guy’s fear to ejaculate prematurely, especially before the fun even starts! Unfortunately, it happens more often than we’d like to think about and most of the time, it’s not handled well. Society breeds men to think that premature ejaculation is embarassing and shameful but nobody bothers to tell anyone else what to do about it or how to fix it. Here’s what you can do when premature ejaculation happens to you.

The First Time

When you’re with a new woman and things are heating up, you may orgasm too soon, especially if you haven’t had any sexual stimulation for awhile. If this happens to you, be honest with your partner. Don’t freak out, don’t panic and definitely don’t be embarrassed. You can actually turn this situation into a compliment for her. Let her know that she is so hot and she turns you on so much that you couldn’t help yourself. Although the situation may not have turned out the way either of you expected, if you handle the situation with class and confidence, she will be flattered that you are so turned on by her.

The Second Time…And Third Time…And So On

What do you do if you ejaculate prematurely a lot when you have sex or worse, every time you have sex? Is there anything you can do to help improve your stamina or to stop premature ejaculation before it happens?

See your doctor. Don’t be afraid to talk to your doctor about premature ejaculation – you’re not the first person to ejaculate prematurely and you certainly won’t be the last. Your doctor can rule out any medical or physical problems that would cause frequent premature ejaculation.
Eat nutritious food and exercise. If you’re fueling your body with empty carbs or greasy food and living a sedentary lifestyle, your body isn’t going to respond to things the way you want it to. Treat your body well and your body will treat you well.
Masturbate. Practice lasting longer with yourself. You don’t have to worry about embarassement or rejection when you masturbate. You can practice improving your sexual stamina and find out which things make you ejaculate quickly and which things can make you hold out longer.
Wear a condom. Condoms are safe and a great way to protect yourself, but they can also decrease sensitivity enough that you can last longer in bed. It won’t take away all sensation, but you will find that you have to go a little longer to achieve an orgasm. This may not be a bad thing if you find yourself ejaculating prematurely often.
Try less stimulating sex positions. If you find a position that really turns you on and makes you orgasm quickly, avoid that position. Try new ones to help yourself last longer.
Slow down. Sex doesn’t have to be fast. In fact, slower sex can be more pleasurable for both partners. If you find yourself going too fast, slow it down a little to avoid a premature orgasm.
Try Tantra. Tantra teaches you how to control your body and how to control your pleasure during sex.
Practice with your partner. When you have open and honest communication with your partner, you can work on improving your stamina together.

3 Proven Tips For Improving Your Sexual Stamina

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 00:55:12 +0000

Believe it or not, a lot of men have problems with sexual stamina – most of them just don’t last long enough in bed before a girl can get warmed up enough to start to have an orgasm. This can lead to very unsatisfied women! What can you do to improve your sexual stamina so you can spend the kind of time in bed you want – pleasuring your partner and enjoying yourself at the same time?

Rushing Into Penetration

Penetration feels so great to guys that that’s what they’re angling for every time – and often, they rush into it! They’re so ready to get their groove on that they often forget that for a woman to have an orgasm, she needs to be warmed up properly. Most of the time, rushing into vaginal penetration is a huge turn off to women. They often don’t have enough lubrication down there if they’re not turned on, and this can even make for uncomfortable or painful sex. If a guy wants to try to last longer in bed, one popular method to try is using your brain to think of something else – for example, dead puppies or your grandmother naked. This is not the way to go guys! You know that joke about how a man only has enough blood to run either his brain or his penis, but not both at the same time? There’s some truth to that – if you’re thinking about your grandmother naked to try to get yourself to last longer in bed, you’re going to become turned off enough that your penis grows soft. Even if it doesn’t, your partner WILL notice that you’re not paying attention to her and she’ll get even more turned off. So what do you do?

Control Your Breathing

A man’s natural instinct is to start breathing hard and panting when he becomes turned on and engages in sexual activity. To help yourself to last longer, try breathing in and out normally, focusing on taking deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. Kind of like when you exercise – there’s a reason they have you breathe that way, you know. To help you last through your workout! You can apply the same concept to sex and help yourself to last longer before you have an orgasm.

Focus On Relaxation

Some men don’t give credit to mental relaxation or meditation, but it can help delay your climax during sex. When you’re penetrating your partner, focus on how it feels instead of focusing on the end result. Center yourself, and be aware of everything around you. Focus on control of the situation and the acceptance of what you’re feeling, but don’t get too deeply involved in any thought you’re having or you’ll end up in situation #1.

Relaxing Your Muscles

Our natural instincts are to tense up our muscles when we’re close to having an orgasm – it’s one of the things that actually helps us to have an orgasm. However, if you’re trying to last longer in bed, tensing up your muscles can actually be counterproductive. If you want to really relax while having sex, try using a different position, such as your woman on top, so you can lay back and enjoy the sex, rather than thrust and be in control of it.

Herbal Viagra – Can These Cheaper Erection Pills Actually Be Better?

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 21:17:37 +0000

Viagra – you’ve probably heard the term before and if you’re a smart enough cookie, you probably know what that little blue pill is for. Lots of men have trouble with erectile dysfunction and impotency, and Viagra can help them get their sexual desires and performance back for a better and more satisfying sex life.

However, Viagra has some side effects that are safe for most people and other side effects that might be unpleasant for others, or make traditional Viagra impossible for them to use. Do these men have an alternative, or do they have to say goodbye to their sex lives forever?

All-Natural, All You

Sure, there are a multitude of different erection pills on the market, but none are as well known as Viagra. Pharmaceutical Viagra isn’t for everyone though – so if you’ve talked to your doctor about Viagra and it’s not for you, herbal Viagra can be a great alternative. What exactly is herbal Viagra and what does it do?

Herbal Viagra is often considered cheap Viagra and is basically any herbal pill that suggests its ingredients aid erectile dysfunction and impotency. Herbal Viagra can contain anything considered “all natural,” even including extracts from the larvae of silkworms. Often, herbal Viagra contains a variety of naturally extracted substances to give the user more energy and stamina, in addition to an erection.

Herbal remedies have worked for centuries for a variety of ailments, including high blood pressure, obesity, cardiac problems, insomnia and more. It’s only natural that an herbal Viagra supplement could aid erectile dysfunction and impotency issues with the natural extracts from plants and herbs – and well, maybe insects.

All-Natural, But Is It All-Safe?

Any supplement or medication should be discussed with your doctor before you take it. Even though cheap Viagra is available without a prescription online doesn’t mean it’s totally safe for anyone who wants to take it. There are side effects from even herbal supplements, and herbal Viagra can sometimes cause low blood pressure or seriously prevent blood flow to vital organs such as your heart, liver, lungs and digestive system. While natural Viagra in some cases can be safer than the little blue pill, it’s still important to discuss with your doctor the potential benefits and risks from taking this type of supplement. One of the more serious side effects from any type of erection pill is a prolonged erection lasting more than four hours. If this happens to you, seek medical attention immediately.

The Bottom Line on Herbal Viagra

If you or your partner are suffering from erectile dysfunction or impotency problems, you’re most likely desperate for some kind of relief. It’s time to reclaim your sexuality and erection pills are certainly one great option to do that.

With your doctor’s okay, either pharmaceutical Viagra or herbal Viagra can help you to once again gain an erection and have a fantastic, fulfilling and satisfying sex life. Depending on you and your healthy / medical condition, herbal Viagra, however, might pose less risk to you than traditional Viagra and may make you feel better and have more energy and sexual confidence in yourself – so it’s time to get your life back!

Viagra 101 – Blue Pill Myths and Facts

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 01:18:54 +0000

Most of us know what Viagra is – that magic little blue pill that can make turn a wet noodle into a flag at full mast. But what is Viagra, really? What are the pros and cons of these erectile dysfunction pills that are only growing in popularity? Is Viagra for you? Here’s what’s up on Viagra – no pun intended.

Viagra Pros

The most obvious “pro” of that little blue pill is that it can help many men and women reclaim their sex lives. Men who have been suffering from sexual dysfunction can once again experience fulfilling and satisfying sex, and so can their lonely partners. Viagra works by promoting blood flow to the penis, helping it to become and stay erect when sexually stimulated. When taken as prescribed by your doctor, this little blue pill can help you to become more sexually active, stay sexually active and have a better sex life. Many men enjoy taking Viagra to help counteract erectile dysfunction, especially when erectile dysfunction is diagnosed at an earlier age when a man still has sexual desires, needs and wants.

Viagra Cons

Just like any medication, Viagra has side effects as well. Here’s the scoop from WebMD. Only your doctor can tell you if the benefits of the drug outweigh the risks. Make sure you tell your doctor what you are allergic to, and any conditions that you currently have. The most common side effects of Viagra are dizziness, diarrhea, upset stomach and headaches. More serious side effects include sudden loss of vision in rare cases and a prolonged erection, both of which require immediate medical attention. Men who smoke, have high blood pressure and heart problems need to discuss this with their doctor extensively before trying Viagra.

Buying Viagra

Currently, you can buy Viagra with a valid prescription from your pharmacy, or through several internet websites. Cheap Viagra is often found on the internet, as it is usually expensive in its brand name form or from a pharmacy. Before deciding to buy Viagra, make sure you’re obtaining it from a trusted source!

Many men have found that Viagra has tremendously improved the quality of their sex lives, not only through the quantity of sex increasing, but the sensations that accompany it. Viagra should not be taken by men who do not have erectile dysfunction; rather, Viagra is a medication to help those men who have experienced erectile dysfunction and impotency. If the “blue pill” sounds like it might be your ticket out of a sexless, unsatisfying life, talk to your doctor about Viagra for you.

If you’ve made the decision to buy Viagra, you’ve become one of the millions of men who have benefited from this incredible drug. Why wait and watch life pass you by when you could be experiencing it with your whole mind, body and spirit? You’ll have a more satisfying sex life, your partner will be more satisfied and your quality of life will tremendously improve. Just ask your doctor if Viagra can help – it has for others and it can for you too!

How To Use The Distract And Direct Technique To Keep Control Of Your Sexual Climax – Even When She’s In Charge

Edward White, author The Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 13:40:55 +0000

The three most common sex positions that involve the woman being in control of the action are, of course, her on top facing you (cowgirl), her on top facing away from you (reverse cowgirl) and doggy style.

Doggy style might at first seem like a position in which the man is in control, but in reality, quite often the girl will start to move backwards and forwards, and well, you get the idea. She takes control and the guy stands or kneels as the action goes on.

So, with two of these positions in mind, how do you control your stimulation levels without stopping the action? Well, you don’t.

Controlling Stimulation Levels Without Stopping the Action

You use the Distract and Direct technique. Here’s how. Let’s say your partner is on top of you, in cowgirl. She’d riding you and it’s all good. Then you start to feel yourself moving rapidly up the stimulation scale, past a 5 and towards a 7.

To clarify, the stimulation scale is something you can use in your head to identify how stimulated you are and therefore how close you are to reaching your climax. 0 is not stimulated at all. 3 is somewhat stimulated but still in total control. 6 is where you really start to feel stimulated.

If you carried on with this level of stimulation, you’d rise to the next number on the scale: 7. 7 is where you’re very sexually stimulated. When you go above a 7 on the stimulation scale, you get close to the point of no return which is a 9. Passing the point of no return means you’re definitely going to ejaculate, no matter what you do.

By the time you reach 7 on this scale, you want to know that you’re going to be able to adjust the action in a such a way that will allow you to slowly bring your stimulation level back down.

Bringing the Stimulation Level Back Down When She’s On Top

Here’s how. She’s riding you and has been doing so for a minute or two. You reach 7 on the scale. You say to her, “That feels so good. Come here, I want to kiss you.” She’ll then bend down to kiss you, so instead of sitting up straight, she’s now on top of you, with her head near yours and her chest pretty much parallel to your torso.

Distract Her With Kisses

Start kissing her and slowly take over the action. Because she’s leaning forward so much, she’ll naturally stop or vastly slow down the amount of bouncing and grinding she’s doing. You can now place your hands on her rear and take over the thrusting AT YOUR OWN SPEED.

This gives you the chance to get back to where you want to be on the stimulation scale. So, kissing her is the distraction and taking over the thrusting and movement is the direction. When you’re ready for her to start again, stop kissing her and bring your hands back to your sides. She’ll naturally sit up again and take over once more.

Bringing the Stimulation Level Back Down in Doggy

There’s no agreement or discussion here, It just works by itself because of the change in body positions. Now let’s imagine you’re in doggy and she’s controlling the back and forth movement. You realize you’re around the 7 mark on the scale.

You need to distract and direct. Distract by leaning forward a little, reaching around her waist and rubbing her clit. This will make her slow down her movement. Now slowly begin to take over the thrusting, until you’re going at a fair speed. At which point, lean back so you’re vertical again and carry on. When you’re ready for her to take over once more, stop thrusting and she’ll feel a natural urge take control again.

The Distract and Direct technique works so well because the girl always feels like she’s the one controlling the action, even when, for a minute or two, you take over. She doesn’t realize this happens because she gets distracted by kissing or rubbing or something. Before she knows it, she’s back controlling the action. This makes sex feel two-way, shared and therefore damn good, for you and for her.

How To Extend Your Sexual Performance By Using Sex Positions Like An Expert

Edward White, author The Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 15:28:51 +0000

You can’t have penetrative sex without using at least one sex position. And some people say you can’t have really good sex without using at least two or three sex positions.

So what does this mean for a guy who suffers from premature ejaculation? On the face of it, it doesn’t seem to mean much.

After all, what difference does a second or third sex position make when you come two minutes into the first one? However, the truth is that sex positions can be a premature ejaculator’s greatest tool when they’re used correctly.

What Difference Does the Position Make?

Here’s how.

Let’s name 4 sex positions.

Missionary position (you on top, as she lies under you).
Spoons (you both lying on your sides, with you behind her).
Cowgirl (her on top, facing you).
Reverse missionary (she lies totally flat on her belly, you kneel—with one knee on either side of her body—above her)

You need to perform these in the order shown above next time you have sex, or, if you can’t complete them all in one session, over the course of several sexual encounters.

Setting the Sexual Stimulation Scale

Now we need to set up a stimulation scale in your mind. Make 0 mean absolutely no sexual stimulation. Make 5 mean fairly sexually stimulated. Make 7 very sexually stimulated. 8 should be close to coming. 9 should be right on the edge, just before the point of no return and 10 should be climaxing.

You’re going to perform each position for as long as it takes you to reach a 7 or 8 on the stimulation scale. While performing each position you should ask yourself the following questions (either silently, or as a discussion with your partner).

1. How tight does this feel on my penis?
2. How intense is the stimulation on my penis?
3. How quickly is it building up the stimulation?
4. How long does it take for me to go from 0 to 8 on the stimulation scale while in this position?
5. How easy is it for me to bring myself back down the stimulation while in this position by altering my thrust speed, depth and angle?

Determining Which Sex Positions Give You Control

By asking yourself the questions above, you’ll be able to determine exactly which sex positions afford you the most control of your stimulation levels and which afford you the least.

Based on this information, you can then rank them from the most intense to the least intense and then, you guessed it, use them in this order during your subsequent sexual encounters. Don’t worry about it getting samey. You can still mix it up a bit.

The important thing is that you now know which positions are a big no-no when you’re already on the edge of coming. That’s a very, very useful piece of knowledge to have when you have premature ejaculation. It will allow you to add up to 10 minutes onto your sexual performance.

Do You Know This Simple Technique To Increase Your Sexual Stamina?

Edward White, author The Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 18:57:24 +0000

One of the main reasons men suffer from premature ejaculation, which simply means reaching orgasm before they ideally want to when they have sex, is because they have a negative mindset. And it’s not surprising when you think about it.

Mind Over Matter

Our minds rule our bodies. If we are sad, we cry. If we are happy, we smile and walk confidently. And, yes, if we have the wrong mindset, we guys can climax too early during sex. Here’s how it works.

Let’s take an imaginary guy called James, who reaches orgasm too soon. He knows this and is very, very conscious of the fact that he wishes he could last longer and satisfy himself and his partners more.

He’s been sexually active for a few years, it doesn’t really matter how long. The point is, he’s not happy with his performance. Fast forward to a sexual encounter.

How Negativity Influences The Outcome

Even before foreplay has begun, as soon as the opportunity or chance to have sex has arisen, in the back of his mind is the nagging thought, “This time I’d like to last longer than I have in the past, but will I ejaculate too soon?”

Already, either consciously or subconsciously, his performance is tainted with negative emotion. It’s providing extra pressure he really doesn’t need.

Before sex he was thinking about foreplay, during foreplay he’s thinking about how he’s going to satisfy the female, and all the while at the back of his mind overshadowing his thoughts is that question, “Am I going to ejaculate too soon?”

This technique focuses on bringing you into the present and avoiding the negative emotion that’s brought on by thinking about what has happened in the past, or what might happen the next time you have sex.

Totally aside from sex, you can witness how we operate on auto-pilot. Everyday, we’re taking ourselves out of the present and into the future when we really don’t need to. Walking down the street you’re thinking of work, at work you’re thinking about sex, during sex…well, we know what you’re thinking about during sex.

The point is, to fully relax and focus and enjoy sex for long periods, you need to be in the present. Inadvertently thinking about what might happen, ejaculating too soon, takes your focus off what is actually happening: you’re moving up the stimulation scale.

How Close Are You to an Orgasm?

This in turn hampers your ability to identify how close you are to an orgasm, making its prevention impossible.

This technique has one simple goal: to increase your self-awareness and bring you back into the present during sex. It’s used during the plateau stage of sex, the hard part, where keeping control of yourself is the most important and difficult.

What you need to do is, every now and then, ask yourself a couple of simple questions in your head. “Do I feel tense or relaxed?” and “How close am I to reaching orgasm?”

It’s really important you say the questions in your head and not just “think” them. Actually say each word.

The first question uses a simple psychological principle to relax you and bring you into the situation at hand. If, after asking yourself if you feel tense, you notice your shoulders are tight, or that you’re tensing your stomach when it’s not necessary, you don’t need to think of what to do next. Your shoulders automatically drop and your tense mid-section relaxes.

Asking yourself the second question, “How close am I to reaching orgasm?” is something you should be doing throughout sex identifying where you are on the stimulation scale. This brings you into the present and focuses you, but actually saying the question in your head once in a while is doubly effective!

Practice Makes Perfect. Yes, You Can Train Yourself To Last Longer in Bed

Edward White, author The Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 12:45:00 +0000

Edging is a technique that can be used to increase your ability to refrain from climaxing when you’re really stimulated and turned on. It goes like this.

Sexual Stimulation on a Scale of 1 to 10

You imagine a scale of stimulation from 1 to 10. 1 means you aren’t stimulated at all. It’s how you are before you even start to have sex. 3 means you’re starting to become physically stimulated. In other words, you can definitely feel it, but it’s not enough to make you come too early. 6 is where you really start to feel stimulated.

The Point of No Return – You Will Orgasm

Passing the point of no return means you’re definitely going to ejaculate, no matter what you do. The edging technique involves masturbating until you get to a 7 on the scale, then backing off and slowing down until you’re back down to a 4 or 5, then speeding up until you’re about a 7 or 8 once more.

Using this method, you can learn to control your stimulation levels and thereby extend how long you’re able to have sex without coming. Once you’ve used edging alone for a while, though, you should take it to the next level: edging with your partner. Here’s how to do that.

How to Use Edging During Sex With Your Partner To Prevent Ejaculation

Begin sex with your partner. You should have already discussed that you’re going to try edging during this sexual encounter and she should be happy and enthusiastic about the idea. After foreplay, enter you partner in the position you know creates the smallest amount of sexual stimulation for you.

Now slowly build your way up to 7 on the stimulation scale. Be careful! It’s easy to jump right past 7 and pass the point of no return when using the edging technique in ‘live’ conditions. Once you’re at or just beyond 7, and therefore fairly close to coming, slow down or withdraw from your partner, wait a moment, then build it back up once more.

Keep going just as you do it when performing edging by yourself. After a while, you can switch to your next least intense sexual position and start the edging process once more. Of course, your partner doesn’t have to just lie there and let you beaver away throughout all of this.

The Perks for Her- Extended SEx

You can still kiss her, talk to her, tease her, etc. In other words, done right, this technique is awesome for your partner, even though it’s serving a productive purpose for you. Keep going through sexual positions, edging throughout each one. If you come after a while, don’t worry about it. You’ve made good progress. Next time, you’ll be able to go even further.

You won’t believe how effective this technique is when used in conjunction with deep breathing exercises. After just three or four sexual encounters, during which you’ve used this technique, you’ll notice that you can last two or even three times as long as you used to, before you used this method of edging.

How To Last Longer In Bed Just By Breathing

Edward White, author The Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 13:21:09 +0000

When tackling the problem of premature ejaculation, it’s easy for a guy to only think about sex from a male point of view because, after all, coming too soon is a male problem.

But this is a mistake. When you think about it, there are certain key similarities (and differences) between the sexes that, when understood, can help you extend your sexual performance.

The Similarities

Both sexes have that feeling that sexual stimulation and sensation are building in their ‘private regions’. They both get that sudden feeling about five seconds before they come when they know it’s going to happen. Those a few of the similarities.

The Differences

But there’s also a key difference between the male and female orgasms which is worth taking note of. It concerns breathing or not breathing during the minute or so before the orgasm could technically take place.

If a woman unconsciously holds her breath for the minute or so before she could potentially come, it will tend to delay her orgasm. In other words, make it harder for her to come.

However, if a man holds his breath for the minute or so before he could come, it will tend to make him come faster. God knows why this is the case, but it is.

So when you are having sex and want to delay when you come, you should always focus on doing the following:

Breathe slowly and in a regular fashion. Don’t take random breaths only when you need them.

Breathe deeply, focusing on your lower chest and belly. Expanding your belly as you breathe helps you take in more air, which relaxes you and keeps you calm.

NEVER hold your breathe. Just don’t do it. It tenses you up and puts you on edge, making you much more likely to come too soon.

By breathing deeply and regularly in the way described above, you’ll be able to reduce anxiety and increase your ability to always be totally aware of the sensations you’re feeling in and around your penis.

The natural result? A longer, more pleasurable sexual experience for you and your partner.

Premature Ejaculation Problems? Try the Triple ‘S’ Technique to Last Longer in Bed

Edward White, author The Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 13:33:09 +0000

If you suffer from premature ejaculation and want to remove it from your sex life, the first thing you must do is ascertain how much of a problem it is for you. Which of the following sums up most closely how long you can last in the sack?

Less than one minute
Between one minute and two minutes
Between three minutes and five minutes
Between five minutes and ten minutes
Always under 15 minutes

The Worse Your Problem Is, The Better

The higher your choice is on that list, the worse your problem with premature ejaculation is. But that’s okay, in fact, it’s a good thing. You now know what you’re dealing with. Now you need a technique to tackle the problem. The triple ‘S’ technique is a perfect method to start with. Here’s how it works.

When you have sex with your partner, it starts out fine. You’re enjoying it and able to control your stimulation levels. However, as you continue, your stimulation levels grow rapidly and start to get out of hand. Finally, they get too high and make you ejaculate too quickly.

Taking Action Ahead of Time

The key to solving the problem is taking action before the process just described can complete itself. Here’s how. Start having sex as normal. Carry on until you feel your stimulation levels growing to a point at which you know they’re becoming unmanageable.

Slow Down

You now need to use the first ‘S’ of this technique: slow down. It’s simple and easy. Just slow down the speed of your thrust action. Also alter the depth of your strokes, to make the penetration less intense. Once your stimulation levels have dropped to a more manageable level, you can increase the speed and depth of your strokes again.

Stop

Continue for as long as it takes for your stimulation levels to get out of hand once more. It doesn’t matter if this is 30 seconds or 3 minutes after you applied the first ‘S’. Now you’re going to apply the second ‘S’, which is ‘stop’. Stop the motion completely and deflect your attention onto another part of your partner’s body.

Rub her clit, kiss her lips, massage her back…do whatever you want until your stimulation levels have dropped once more.

When they’re back to normal, initiate penetration again. Keep going until you’re getting close to the edge. By this point, you’ll probably notice that even slowing down or stopping aren’t going to allow you to continue for much longer.

Squeeze

You need to apply the final ‘S’, which is ‘squeeze’. When your stimulation levels soar and push you close to the point of no return, withdraw your penis from your partner and squeeze it hard at the end, right on the head. This sounds a little brutal, but it really isn’t. Squeeze and pinch it until you feel the sensations subside, then carry on having sex.

By using all three of the S’s of this technique, you can effectively extend your sexual performance by up to 7 minutes…the first time you try it. Just imagine what the application of other sexual stamina building techniques could do for you.

Want to Last Longer in Bed? Try This…

Edward White, author The Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide — Sat, 29 Nov 2008 13:00:54 +0000

Do you want to last longer in bed but have no idea how? Think of sex like a running a race.

I’d like you to imagine you’re an athlete whose specialty is running the 1000 meter race. Your goal is to run or jog around the 1000 meter track in the shortest amount of time possible. Simple enough, you’d think. Just run as fast as you can.

But that’s not how it works. If you were to sprint at your maximum speed as soon as the starting gun sounded, you’d soon be so drained that finishing off the rest of the 1000 m would be impossible. The real way to do the run is to pace yourself and be acutely aware of how tired you are and how strained your body is getting at each point in the race.

By having this heightened awareness of what’s going on in your body, you are able to configure your speed to an extremely fine degree, optimizing it as you go. Now, the subject of this article is not how to run well. It is, as the title suggests, how to last longer in bed.

Running the Race is Like Having Sex

The reason I just described the running of a race is because the same principle applies to when you have sex. If you aren’t absolutely aware of the sensations in your body, you will find it impossible to configure your performance and make it last longer. Here’s how to develop this awareness.

Set aside half an hour when you know you can relax, undisturbed.
Arouse yourself until you are erect using whatever method works for you.
Now start to masturbate at a medium speed. As soon as you start, pay attention to where on your penis you are feeling the sensations of pleasure.
Begin to pick up speed and increase grip strength. Focus on how the sensations of pleasure change, both in their location and their intensity.
Spend about five minutes varying the speed and technique you use. During this time, pay close attention to the feelings you’re experiencing. You should notice that, as you continue to masturbate, there will be a growing sense of pleasure in the head of your penis and down at the base, on the topside. Feel how this begins to increase and become more noticeable as you continue.
Now get the point of almost climaxing and try to detect exactly how it feels. Notice every wave of pleasure, where it starts, how long it lasts…every little detail.
Keep on the edge of coming for as long as it takes to experience all of the changes in sensation and stimulation you can. Then come and see how the feelings subside.

Building Understanding and Awareness

This kind of experiment builds your understanding and awareness of what the sensations in your penis are as you get aroused and how they change as you get closer to your climax.

This is crucial knowledge when attempting to improve your sexual stamina, because when you have sex, you will know what every little feeling in your penis means at any given time in regards to how close to coming you are.

You’re then free to slow down, speed up, change positions, or do whatever is right to avoid climaxing too early and continue having sex with your partner.

Forget Everything You THINK You Know About Premature Ejaculation – Things Have Changed!

Edward White, author The Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 13:26:08 +0000

Good things are happening in the world of men’s health and fitness, and they’ve been slowly improving for a while now. A perfect example of the kind of positive progress I’m referring to is in the subject of male sexual health, namely: premature ejaculation.

That’s quite a daunting, almost terminal-sounding term. But in essence, all it really means is that your performance in bed, its length in minutes, or maybe even seconds, isn’t something you’re happy with.

If you’ve recognized that your sexual abilities aren’t quite up to scratch and have therefore decided to seek an answer to the problem (a way of massively improving your lasting power FOREVER) then you’re already way, way ahead of most guys who share the same concerns as you over their love-making prowess.

And let’s face it: what guy WOULDN’T love to quickly and permanently boost their sexual skills?

What Men Already Know About Lasting Longer

So, what do most men already know about how to extend sex? Well, I suppose there’s the old classic: taking your mind off it.

You can think of non-sexual things, like dead animals, or perhaps try difficult mental arithmetic. This technique works some of the time, for some men. Another method of lasting longer many men try is wearing two condoms, to decrease the sexual sensation and thereby lengthen their performance. Again, this sometimes works for some guys.

I think you’ve probably already spotted the problem with both of these methods, though. They decrease your fun and enjoyment.

Sex should be exciting and hassle free! Negative thoughts have no place in great sex. And wearing two condoms, while it may give you a little more time to work your magic, can actually cause more problems than it solves like a tear caused by a trapped air bubble. That’s the last thing you need.

Thankfully, many simple and stress-free techniques exist that can be used instead of the two above. Combining just a few of the most effective of these methods is often enough to eradicate the problem of premature ejaculation forever. Let’s take a look at one of the best right now.

Breath Control

“The way I breathe? I doubt that has much effect on my sexual performance!”

Most men are right to be skeptical, especially considering the fact that many of us guys have tried controlling our breathing while having sex without any noticeable improvement. The reason we don’t see much difference in performance length and overall impressiveness, quite simply, is because we’re not doing it right.

We’ve summarized the technique of deep breathing in our heads and in so doing removed any benefit PROPER breath control can have for us fellas while getting down and dirty.

How it SHOULD Be Done

1. Keep your focus on your lower torso. As you breathe in, push out your belly and your lower ribs. Don’t suck your stomach in like most people do when they try to breathe deeply. Think of the breathing action as going out and in rather than up and down.

If your chest moves before your belly, or you notice your shoulders rising and falling significantly, you’ll simply reinforce the habit of anxious breathing. Anxious breathing massively decreases your ability to control your sexual arousal. Deep breathing does the reverse and gives you the control back.

2. Keep the breathing natural; don’t try to force it to be perfectly regular. Allow each breath to take the shape and time that feels natural to it. Then rest a little at the end of the out-breath, and wait for the in-breath to start when it wants to.

Forcing regular breathing during sex, which MILLIONS of men do daily in, actually creates more mental anxiety than it eradicates. Keeping it natural and unforced further de-stresses your mind and by doing so gives you heightened control over your body, namely your sexual pleasure.

There’s a multitude of other 100% natural, easy to learn and even easier to use, techniques that can, however much of a surprise it comes as to most men, enhance your performance in bed. You can it make it longer and much more pleasurable to your and your woman, without the pills, sprays or creams so many other men who seek an answer to premature ejaculation use to disappointing effect.

Practice the deep breathing technique above, use it during sex and reap the sexual control benefits! Then, if you want to improve still further, learn and use a few other great arousal management methods.

99.9% Of Men Don’t Know How To Recognize Premature Ejaculation Before It Arrives – Join The .01% Of Guys That Do… TODAY!

Edward White, author The Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 23:01:24 +0000

The causes of premature ejaculation (reaching your climax sooner than you’d like) are grossly misunderstood. As such, many men think that their sexual performance, especially how long they’re able to last before climaxing, is unchangeable and not able to be improved. This is completely untrue.

Just as you can lift weights to add muscle to your skinny frame, or practice your golf swing to lower your handicap, you can improve your sexual prowess and eradicate premature ejaculation forever.

One of the best ways to MASSIVELY improve your sexual arousal control in bed is by understanding your Point of No Return. Your Point of No Return, or PoNR, is the split-second before you climax and ejaculate.

Understand Your Point of No Return

It’s that fleeting moment which, once passed, means you’ve completely lost control of your sexual arousal and that ejaculation is imminent and unavoidable.

Most men know when they hit their own personal PoNR simply because they quickly become aware of the fact that they’re about to climax . An intense ‘glow’ of pleasurable sensations is usually what clues them in.

However, just because most of us guys know when we’ve lost control by passing our PoNR, doesn’t mean that we’re able to use that knowledge to extend and improve our performance; just that we’re shamefully aware of when it’s almost over.

What Most Guys Do

For the first couple of minutes of love-making, which is usually just the start of the first sexual position, they perform care-free – premature ejaculation feels like a distant problem not worth worrying about. After all, so far so good!

A short while later, because of rapidly heightened pleasure sensations, they’ll suddenly become aware of their PoNR. They know that if they don’t change something RIGHT NOW, either by stopping the sex or massively slowing it down, they’ll ejaculate prematurely.

Unbeknownst to them, however, their fate for this sexual encounter has been sealed. Properly controlling their sexual arousal from this point on is going to be an uphill struggle. In short, they’re fighting a losing battle.

So, what SHOULD the guy in the example above have done? How could he have used his PoNR to reverse and ultimately control his sexual arousal? And, therefore, extend and improve his performance?

The answer lies in WHEN you take action. The guy in our example above, like so many millions of men, waited until right before reaching his PoNR to recognize that he was in trouble.

He did this because up until feeling that sudden rush of pleasure down below he thought he was performing well and that his arousal was under control. However, he didn’t realize that his arousal levels has been increasing quickly and silently.

Establish a Pleasure Plan

What YOU must do is establish a pleasure scale in your mind that ranges from 1 to 10. 1 on the pleasure represents no arousal – how you feel before sex begins. 10 is the Point of No Return – the moment when nothing you could possibly do would lower your arousal and give you back control over your sexual performance.

Imagine the Pleasure Scale in your head, with 1 at the bottom and 10 at the top and follow the 4 point plan below.

Doing so will give you an improved ability to recognize when your arousal levels are increasing too quickly and thereby allow you to take action and use some select methods and techniques to DECREASE your arousal and continue on with great sex…without ever stopping or otherwise interrupting your love-making.

That, my friend, is the mark of a true sexual legend.

The 4 Point Plan:

From when the second sex begins till the moment you’re READY to climax, keep the pleasure scale in mind.
Every so often, take a mental note of where you are on the pleasure scale. Have you reached the halfway point yet? Are you around a 2 or 3? Keep identifying where you currently are on the pleasure scale. Doing so allows you to never do what the guy in the example above did; lose track and therefore lose control.
When you feel you’ve reached around the 6 mark on the pleasure scale, think about where you are in the love-making session. If you’re only a couple of minutes in, then proceed to step 4 of this 4 point plan. If you’re over halfway through how long you’d LIKE to last, then continue on regardless.
Before you reach 7 or 8 on the pleasure scale, CHANGE something to decrease your arousal levels. Whether it’s your sexual position, the strength or speed of your strokes or the depth and quality of your breathing, altering your sexual technique at this point of the pleasure scale will give you back your control and thereby allow you to extend your performance and boost your lasting power.

Using this simple formula, of regaining control 2 or 3 steps BEFORE their PoNR, instead of immediately prior to it, the majority of men are able to almost double their staying power. You can, too, so give it a try!

How To Use Sex Positions To Last Longer In Bed And Improve Your Performance By Up To 500%

Edward White, author The Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 18:52:21 +0000

You can’t have sex without using at least one sexual position. That’s obvious, right? Most people, though, tend to use more than one.

The average number of positions used per sex “session” is two. That may seem like a really low number, but considering 70% of men ejaculate before their partner is satisfied, it’s not surprising so few positions are able to be used.

The key point that should be noted here, though, is not the number of positions the average couple use, but is instead a much broader principle: Sex, as a physical act, is fundamentally based around the use of different positions.

Therefore, they are inherently linked to the performance of the male, each having a different effect on him and each bringing about a varied amount of satisfaction in the female.

Understanding that simple principle allows you, as a man, to latch onto a much more powerful and useable concept: Your sexual performance, arousal containment and general ability to perform impressively in bed can be directly controlled, improved and boosted by the effective choice and use of sex positions. That’s the topic of this article, so let’s wade right in.

Position Matters

The first thing to always bear in mind when you have sex is how each sex position you use will affect your arousal control. That is, your ability to maintain an erection and continue sex without interruptions and without ejaculating too soon.

Certain positions, because of the way your body is posed, put stress on your legs, arms or other parts of your body.

This stress, caused by maintaining the position while having sex, makes controlling your arousal and holding back from ejaculation much more difficult.

Missionary

Contrary to popular belief, the missionary position does not offer you much control over your arousal despite the fact you’re controlling the motion/action of intercourse. This is because, to properly maintain the missionary position, you have to support your body weight using a combination of your arms and legs.

You’re essentially propping yourself up. After a couple of minutes of propping and thrusting, the stress on your body’s muscles has often increased just enough to tip you over the edge, which causes you to suddenly lose control of your arousal levels and ejaculate too soon.

However, this doesn’t mean you should remove the missionary position from your love-making repertoire. What you should do, is simply be aware of the stresses it can cause and the effects those stresses can have on your ability to control your arousal levels.

With this knowledge, you can choose to use the missionary position as the first one in your sex session while you’re most in control and least tired overall.

Girl On Top

Let’s take this principle of bodily stress and its resulting negative effects on your performance control further.

Positions such as ‘woman on top’ or ‘reverse woman on top’ (her facing away from you, while sitting on you) offer you better control than positions in which you squat down or prop yourself up on an elbow or hand, regardless of the fact that she’s controlling the action.Therefore, try using them nearer the end of your love-making session, when you’re the most physically fatigued and closest to ejaculating.

These are the times when removing the stress caused by certain sex positions can prove crucial in allowing you to avoid premature ejaculation.

Spoons

Finally, never underestimate the power of the ‘Spoons’ position. ‘Spoons,’ if you don’t already know, involves you lying on your side with your legs slightly bent, with the female pressed against your front, her legs slightly parted, her hips tilted to one side, and her knees bent.

This position offers you massive control over your arousal levels. First, because you’re lying down and not forced to maintain an awkward pose (which eliminates the bodily stress principle just described). Second, because you’re fully in control of the thrusting action, which means you can speed up or decrease the power, depth and frequency of the action.

And, if those reasons weren’t enough, you’re in a great position to lean your head over her shoulder, slow down the rhythmic thrust of your hips (and therefore give yourself time to calm your arousal levels), and gently kiss and caress her neck and cheek.

Women love men who take control during sex through the use of different positions. They, however, don’t realize that sex positions give you, as a man, an alternative kind of control – in the form of reliable arousal containment and in the overall improvement of the length and quality of your sexual performance.

Always remember to use sex positions wisely!

Natural Penis Enlargement: How To Strengthen Your Erection And Gain Control Over Your Orgasm

Roger Miller — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 19:36:57 +0000

As you no doubt already know, millions of men and women alike obsess over the subject of penis size.

You see jokes on TV referencing the issue, overhear people in the street discussing the topic, and read, on a daily basis, of the displeasure and embarrassment of men with small penises in the columns of dozens of magazines.

So it pretty much goes without saying that penis size is an internationally popular subject of debate.

Does Penis Size REALLY Matter?

So, what can us men do about what we have down south? And what do women really want from us and our members? Is it sheer size they want? Length? Girth? Both? Neither?

The whole thing’s a quagmire of uncertainty and guesswork at least, on the surface. You see, when you actually ask women (under the right circumstances!) what matters to them regarding their sexual partner’s penis size, you get some interesting and pretty encouraging answers.

Penis Size is NOT Most Important

First off, a large portion of women do love BIG penises, simply because of the pleasure that they can so often bring. The majority of women aren’t size queens, however, but DO universally look and hope for two definite attributes in the penis of their potential partners, neither of which relates to size.

The first can be classified as ‘power’ & ‘strength’, the second is lasting power. Power and strength in a penis is shown through it’s hardness when erect and the angle at which it points. A weak erection is quite soft and droopy, a powerful erection, full of strength, is the opposite: rock hard, meaty and robust, and it’s what women crave, and savor when they encounter it.

Lasting power, as you can probably guess, is quite simply an ability to use that rock hard erection for a long enough time period, without ejaculating too soon. So, how can a guy improve his penis strength and give it more weight and power and an improved angle of erection?

The answer lies in a simple exercise, performed every other day of the week for a couple of months. Its effectiveness is noticeable in just a couple of weeks, but its true capability can produce amazing results that last a lifetime.

Towel Hanging

Step 1: Massage yourself to a full erection.

Step 2: Place a LIGHT flannel or wash-cloth onto your penis near the base.

Step 3: ‘Tense’ your penis so it bobs gently, lifting the towel a little. Tensing and releasing once constitutes one repetition.

Step 4: Do up to 25 reps, but stop if you feel you can’t do that many. Do 25 reps every other day of the week for a few weeks.

The Results

Once you’ve been performing towel hanging for a while, you’ll notice 2 main results: First, your penis will be rock hard when you have an erection, veins will be more noticeable and it will look and feel weightier. Many men even report an added half inch in length and girth due to the increased blood flow to the penis.

Second, your ability to hold back from ejaculating while masturbating and having sex will be massively increased. The reason for this is because you’re exercising your PC muscle when you do towel hanging, which is central to the functioning of your penis and is also what triggers ejaculation prematurely when it’s unfit and un-toned.

Why Can’t You Last Long Enough In Bed?

Edward White, author The Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 13:05:10 +0000

If you can’t last as long during sex as you’d like, then you aren’t alone. As much as 75% of the male population has trouble with premature ejaculation, so it’s by no means rare.

What is rare, however, is seeing a guy solve his problem with rapid ejaculation using the right techniques and tactics. Perhaps this is because most men don’t know exactly what it takes to reverse their run of bad bedroom luck and turn their sex life around by increasing their sexual stamina.

What Causes Premature Ejaculation

The best place to start when solving your own case of ‘coming too quickly’ is identifying the real reasons you struggle to last long enough during sex. Read the following options.

1. You have a hard time controlling when you climax when you’re masturbating and when you have sex with your partner.

2. You only struggle to control when you ejaculate when you have sex. You have no problem doing it when you masturbate. When you have sex, you can’t last more than about 2 minutes before coming.

3. You have no problem with premature ejaculation when you masturbate, only when you have sex. When you have sex, you can usually last longer than 2 minutes, but less than 8 minutes.

No Climax Control?

If option one sounds the closest to your situation, then your premature ejaculation is probably being caused by an underlying case of hypersensitivity and sensational unawareness.

This means that your penis is extremely prone to become over-stimulated as soon as sex begins and that you have a hard time really noticing when you’re close to and about to pass the ‘point of no return’, which, once passed, means that you’re going to climax no matter what you do.

Struggling To Control Ejaculation

If you chose option two, then you probably have less hypersensitivity and more sensation unawareness. This means that your penis does become very stimulated when you have sex, which can make it hard to refrain from coming early, but that your main problem is that you aren’t fully aware of the different stages of arousal you go through before you come.

This means you need to train your body and your mind to recognize when you need to take action during sex to prevent yourself from coming too early.

Controlling Ejaculation During Masturbation But Not During Intercourse

If you chose option 3, then your case of premature ejaculation isn’t too severe, but it is nevertheless something you probably want to get rid of. You’d like to double or even triple the amount of time you’re able to have sex for.

To do this, you need to learn techniques that involve strengthening your PC muscle, heightening your arousal awareness and improving your sexual technique.

Whatever the cause of your personal problem with premature ejaculation is, it can almost always be improved or even fixed when you have the right knowledge and the correct attitude.

A Great Way To Last Longer In Bed – That 99% Of Men Have Never Even Tried!

Edward White, author The Orgasm And Ejaculation Control Guide — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 19:15:53 +0000

Ever heard of arousal step-down techniques?

How about the PC muscle and Kegels?

If you’re like most guys, you probably haven’t. And as such, most men, unaware of the numerous ways they can boost their sexual skill and ‘lasting’ power, regularly produce mediocre performances in bed, leaving themselves disappointed and the women they’re with disillusioned and usually orgasmless. It’s a real shame.

In a poll, 93% of men asked, said they’d like to last longer in bed before ejaculating, but 100% of those men were unaware of how they could achieve such a seemingly impossible feat.

You Can Last Longer In Bed

The truth is, it’s not impossible (or even difficult) to maximize your sexual performance and attain complete control over how long you boogie for and generally get on down with the ladies.

So, let’s take a look at one sexual method that’ll allow you massive control over your arousal levels and always give you the choice of when to cum or when to continue.

During sex, most men begin to lose control of themselves (in terms of ejaculation!) at around the 2 or 3 minute mark which is usually midway through the first sexual position. And what a letdown ejaculating at this point would be! So, that’s usually the first point at which you’ll use this technique.

It involves two steps. The first takes place in your mind which is the root of many a male’s sexual performance troubles.

First, Don’t Panic!

1. When you first feel those telltale sensations in your penis (the heightened sensitivity and energy that let you know that if you carry on doing what you’re doing you’ll soon explode) don’t panic! Too many men are pushed over the edge, right to ejaculation, because they mentally begin to panic when they feel they’re close to orgasm.

Panic phrases rush through their heads, like: “Uh oh, I’m gonna blow!” and “Not again, this is going to be embarrassing.” Instead of letting these counter-productive thoughts fill your mind and quicken the onset of orgasm, instead calmly say in your head: “Okay, I’m close to ejaculating. Time to use an arousal step-down technique.” Then move onto step number two.

Next, Use The Arousal Step-Down Technique

2. The most sensitive part of your penis is the top of the shaft and especially the head. To decrease its stimulation (without stopping the ‘action’) slowly and deeply thrust into your partner, as far as you can go and she can pleasurably take.

Then, gently grind your hips, wiggling your pubic bone (the hard area above your penis, about 8 inches down from your belly button) on her vagina. To her, this seems and feels like a wonderful stroke variation, which gives her external clitoral stimulation (the number one way to make any woman orgasm).

However, behind the scenes, it’s momentarily decreasing your stimulation, enabling you to last longer. This happens because when you plunge deep into her, your penis enters a wider area of her vagina, which lessens its contact and stimulation.

Then, to cap it off, you grind and wiggle, instead of thrusting in and out, which further decreases the intense sensations of sex. After 30 seconds or so, your arousal levels will have dropped enough for you to restart your thrusting.

By using this technique, you’re able to control your urge to pop without stopping sex and while giving your partner extra sexual stimulation. Now how much better a technique is that for tackling premature ejaculation when compared to what most people consider to be effective techniques? Things like: “Count backward from 100″ and “Think of dead puppies!”

Sex, as you well know, is all about fun. Using the 2-step technique above, you can fully enjoy the experience without the worry of it all being over too soon!

Did You Know That Tantra Can Help Sexual Dysfunction?

Carla Tara — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 14:55:12 +0000

There is a certain embarrassment or even shame that is connected with sexual dysfunctions. No one would be ashamed to have, for example, a liver or heart dysfunction.

One would be sad but not embarrassed and one would immediately ask a professional for help.

Common Sexual Dysfunction

The most common sexual dysfunctions that men experience are: loss of desire, erectile dysfunctions, premature ejaculation and impotence. Some women experience: inhibited sexual desire, lack of orgasm, insufficient lubrification and painful intercourse.

According to the Journal of the American Medical Association, in 2005 more than 105 million Americans have reported struggling with chronic sexual dysfunctions and many of them were not aware that there is help available. Diabetes can be one of the causes of sexual dysfunctions.

Also some prescription medications for depression can have a negative effect on sexual desire.

What Causes Sexual Dysfunction

There are many causes: some of them are related to hormone production, to blocks to the flow of energy, to shallow anxious breathing and unhealthy diet, just to mention a few.

The hormonal production tends to diminish with age, and you could consult a good endocrinologist to check your hormonal production status. There is a lot of information available on the internet. It’s worth learning about it.

There are also products available that are natural, organic, that very safely stimulate the body to increase production of the body’s natural growth hormones.

You Are What You Eat

What you eat and drink is also important. There are certain simple recommendations you might want to observe most of the time: eat your biggest meal between 12 and 2 PM; eat fish vegetables often; keep your stomach light at night; drink lots of water during the day. Drinking a little alcohol can help lower inhibitions, while drinking too much can inhibit sexuality.

Breathing Matters

Breathing shallowly and high in the chest is probably the most important single cause of lack of energy and anxiety during lovemaking. Through the years, we became habituated to breathe shallow breaths, often filling only the higher part of our chest where the lungs are narrow and smaller.

The body brings the venous blood to the lungs to be purified and the largest veins are located on the bottom of the lungs. Venous blood contains carbon dioxide and other poisonous gases that need to be exchanged with oxygen and thus transformed into vital arterial blood that nourished and strengthens the body.

To be fully present and energetic lovers, we need to learn to breathe to facilitate this exchange as fully as possible. Tantra teaches different breaths for different purposes. Some of the most used techniques are to increase energy and to retain energy without going over the top.

Sometimes It’s Emotional

However, many of the sexual dysfunctions are due to emotional issues, entrenchment into set habits, undelivered communications and resentments that could build a cold wall between couples and unconscious issues coming to the surface.

A good Tantric Healer can help you look at those issues with increased energy and guide you to use this powerful Tantric tools to open up blocks and take care of unfinished issues that limit the joy of our lovemaking.

Lots of issues have been repressed and feeling rationalized instead of felt. When emotions are not expressed, blocks to the flow of energy form along the pathway where erotic energy would otherwise flow to the whole body.

When blocks are present your vitality is lower and sex becomes more a “squeeze and burst” event, at best a letting go of tension instead of an exchange to deepen your love for each other.

The Connection Between Emotions and Lovemaking

Some men have trained themselves with techniques to “making her come” the fastest way possible so that they can “come” thus missing the opportunity for emotional connection and really fulfilling lovemaking.

This way of having sex gives leaves you with a sense of immediate relief but robs you of the opportunity to use this powerful energy for deep heart connection and nurturing. Thus lovers are depriving themselves of deeper and longer pleasure that could enliven all the cells of the body.

Making love could be the greatest way to “make love” grow and to live a longer, happier life.

Deep breathing helps bring emotions to the surface. “E-motion” means energy in motion. When emotions are felt sexual energy can reach higher levels riding higher and wider waives sending into ecstatic lovemaking that is really fulfilling. Sex without emotions leaves people tired, empty and sometimes sad. We instinctively know there is more to it.

Deep breathing is also a key to avoiding anxiety about performance. When your whole body tingles with aliveness and when you hear our lover breathe equally deeply, perhaps even making a sound on each exhalation, you are less prone to thinking about performance and more about riding the waves of pleasure a little longer.

Tantra offers the view that we are spiritual beings having a physical experience and as such we have infinite potential for expressing love. By adding the spiritual dimension into the lovemaking it elevates it to ecstasy and adds opens doors for infinite creativity.

As spiritual beings we have infinite potential available and therefore boredom is no longer a danger.

Medications and Orgasm – Help! My Wife Thinks She’s the Reason I Can’t Orgasm

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 13:38:51 +0000

It’s a fact of life – some medications inhibit orgasm. If you’re prescribed a medication that may do this, make sure you’re taking it for the right reasons and that you’re prepared to deal with the side effects.

Not being able to have an orgasm during sex because of a medication can be depressing, especially if there’s nothing you can do about it, but there are things you can do to lessen the blow.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I am on medication that doesn’t allow me to always have an orgasm. It does not interfere with my ability to maintain an erection. Sometimes way too long.

The fact I do not always have an orgasm upsets my wife. I have told her it is the medication and not her. She thinks that she is doing something wrong.

- Michael, Florida

How do I explain to my partner why I can’t orgasm?

While it is certainly no fun for you, being on a medication that inhibits your ability to orgasm will affect your partner as well. It may be difficult to communicate to a partner that your lack of orgasm is not because of them – and it may be difficult for a partner to truly accept that even if you do let them know.

This can be the cause of many arguments when in reality, it’s nobody’s fault.

What can you do?

Make sure it’s really the medication.

Your doctor is the only person who can answer that question. It’s important that you see your doctor if you feel like something isn’t working properly. Let your doctor know all of your symptoms – for example, if you’re having an orgasm some of the time or not at all and if you’re experiencing other suspicious symptoms such as a prolonged erection or anything else you think might need to be brought to their attention.

Your doctor can tell you for sure if what you’re experiencing is normal and if it’s a side effect of the medication or not.

Be prepared to answer questions – your doctor will most likely need to ask quite a few to really pinpoint the cause of the lack of orgasms and other symptoms. If it really is your medication, talk to your doctor about how it’s affecting your day to day activities. It’s possible that your doctor can suggest an alternative medication or treatment.

Bring your partner with you to the doctor.

If you’re having a difficult time communicating to your partner that your lack of orgasm is due to the medication you’re taking, hearing it from a medical professional might help it sink in. Your partner can then begin to understand what you’re going through and offer their support.

You might be emotionally taken aback from not being able to have an orgasm and your partner’s love and support will make all the difference in the world.

Now what?

Depending on what your doctor says, you might end up staying on the medication and forgetting about the orgasms. It’s a hard situation to face, but it’s not the end of the world. Sex isn’t all about the orgasm. Relax and enjoy the ride. You don’t have to have an orgasm during each sexual experience for it to be pleasurable and fun!

You and your partner can take turns pleasing each other and explore new ways that you can enjoy each other sexually without orgasm. Just because you’re not having an orgasm because of medication you’re taking doesn’t mean it’s the end of the road for you sexually.

Take to heart that this might not be forever – discuss with your doctor how long you need to be on the medication (if there are no alternatives) and when you can expect to gain back your ability to orgasm once you stop taking it. You, your doctor and your partner should be able to work together to reach a compromise between a healthy sex life and your medication.

Stop Letting Erectile Dysfunction Get You Down

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 15:35:05 +0000

There’s no shortage of TV commercials and bulk email every day talking about male impotence, or erectile dysfunction. But what really causes this problem? And what can you do about it?

According to WebMD, erectile dysfunction affects an estimated 18 million men in the US alone. Wow! And that’s just the number that admits having the problem. Imagine how many guys aren’t exactly willing to admit they can’t “get it up” to someone who calls to do a survey. After all, it’s not usually the favorite party conversation topic.

So what exactly IS erectile dysfunction?pre

Erectile dysfunction (ED or (male) impotence) is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis. – Wikipedia

What are the most common causes of erectile dysfunction?

What most people don’t realize is that erectile dysfunction is not necessarily just a simple physical problem.

And guess what – maybe it’s not even a “medical” problem! If you eat unhealthy foods, never exercise, or live every day in an unhappy and stressful relationship, while going to a job you hate, then you’re very unlikely to have the multi hour erections you used to have back in your college days.

The real cause could be physical, psychological, emotional, or even related to your lifestyle. What’s worse, any one underlying issue (even a lifestyle issue) can trigger physical problems, which in turn can cause erectile dysfunction – or many other health problems. For example, a significant amount of stress in your everyday life can leave you open and susceptible to all kinds of illnesses, which in turn can trigger other problems.

At times even a combination of issues can cause ED, making it more difficult to diagnose the real source of the problem.

Most common physical causes of erectile dysfunction, according to the Mayo Clinic:

Heart disease
Clogged blood vessels (atherosclerosis)
High blood pressure
Diabetes
Obesity
Metabolic syndrome

Other causes of erectile dysfunction include:

Certain prescription medications
Tobacco use
Alcoholism and other forms of drug abuse
Treatments for prostate cancer
Parkinson’s disease
Multiple sclerosis
Hormonal disorders such as low testosterone (hypogonadism)
Peyronie’s disease
Surgeries or injuries that affect the pelvic area or spinal cord

Psychological and emotional issues can also lead to erectile dysfunction

Feeling of strong sexual excitement, or a strong sex drive, are not completely depending on physical factors. Depression, anxiety, fatigue, and most importantly – stress – can disrupt these feelings and lead to what is called erectile dysfunction.

In this case it certainly wouldn’t be a physical problem, so beware of treating it the same way. Again, it’s important to identify the core underlying issue and treat it.

What can you really do about erectile dysfunction?

The most important first step for you to take is to consult your doctor, and correctly diagnose your problem. With all the TV ads advertising the blue pill, the purple pill, and all kinds of other well marketed pills, it’s hard to know what you’re actually fixing (or breaking).

All that having been said, once you’re well informed and have an informed medical opinion as to the cause of your impotence, it’s time to do some serious research and figure out what you should do about it.

Medical treatments for erectile dysfunction

Our society demands instant cures for everything, so doctors are often prescribing pills to quickly cure whatever symptom we’re all complaining about.

For male impotence, the more frequently prescribed treatments are medicates like Viagra and Cialis.

Consider natural alternatives

In addition to medications, there are various natural and herbal supplements for treating (or reversing) impotence, such as Herbal Viagra.

Keep an open mind to natural and alternative approaches. For example, if your problem is ultimately caused by an ongoing stressful situation in your everyday life, then maybe it’s to your advantage to ease that stress. Sure some supplements, better diet, and possibly even ED medication (whether prescription or herbal) might also help, but in the long run, deal with the real issue.

We’re certainly believe it’s important to visit your doctor and get an informed medical opinion of your situation first. But then, be smart and take the time to research and fully understand your options. Don’t just blindly follow what one person tells you, even if you paid a lot of money for that office visit. Just remember, that one person may also be blindly following what someone else told him!

Modern medicine has done wonders for our society, and it’s great at fixing injuries, traumas, and various other accidental issues. But its track record for actually ‘curing’ some more common health problems is not impressive. Case in point, the medical industry doesn’t talk in terms of “fixing” or “healing” problems, instead they talk about “pain management”, “symptom management”, and such.

You want resolution, not a “management plan”!

Consider life changes for your health

Once you have identified what situation in your life may be contributing to impotence, take steps to correct them!

Deal with that situation that’s irritating you or giving you an excuse to be miserable. And if your relationship isn’t “what it could be”, do something about it. Go see a therapist (together with your spouse – solo counseling usually results in ending up solo).

If your sex life isn’t “what it could be”, then fix it. There’s no good excuse for a miserable sex life. Take steps to rekindle the romance, and spice up your sex life. Talk to your spouse about your intentions, and see what you can come up with together to reinvigorate the magic. It CAN be done, but you have to REALLY want it and make a commitment to it.

Of course it’s never a bad time to start an exercise program (one that your doctor would approve of), or to start eating healthier.

And back to alternative solutions, massage and meditation have been shown to dramatically reduce stress and help you increase your quality of life.

Blue Pill Anyone? Maybe It’s Time for Some Natural, Herbal Viagra Alternatives

Dan and Jennifer — Mon, 01 Oct 2007 14:02:08 +0000

Unless you’ve been under a rock for the last few years, you know that every middle aged man has at the very least thought about getting his hands on some of those magical little blue pills.

Viagra and Cialis are everywhere!

Are Male Erectile Dysfunction Pills Actually Safe?

Of course, we’ve all heard the TV commercials that tell you about the great benefits, but then in a hushed voice warn you to “seek immediate medical attention if an erection lasts more than four hours”. Huh? What exactly are these pills doing to our bodies?

Modern medicine has a great track record for fixing broken bones and major injuries resulting from accidents. But results have been downright disappointing for medications. And then there’s the major fun fact that almost no medication actually fixes anything – it’s all a long term maintenance plan for life. Ouch!

What IS absolutely amazing is the results people see with natural, herbal supplements.

What About Natural, Herbal Viagra Alternatives?

Let’s put it this way…

I took blood pressure medication for years (250 milligrams a day in the last year), and according to my doctor, I could expect to take it (in ever increasing quantities) for the rest of my life. Cool, huh?

Until one day I said “that’s enough”! I started reading up on natural alternatives, i.e. stuff that doesn’t require prescriptions. At least not yet – that’s a government control topic for another day…

A good friend of ours who’s very familiar with holistic (natural) treatments recommended some herbal supplements, and a daily meditation program. So I started taking those supplements and began the 30 minute daily meditation program, with an open mind and a hope for better health.

Amazingly enough, my blood pressure was completely GONE within the first 3 months of this new program. And 3 years later, by blood pressure is still gone. By the way, I only took the supplements for 3 months – not for the rest of my life!

Are Herbal Supplements Safe?

Like most everything else, some are and some aren’t. Just like drugs from your local pharmacy, some will be completely harmless and some will have nasty side effects. You have to be smart, do your homework, and know what you’re putting into your body. If you do actually read up and do a little research, you’ll quickly know what natural alternatives are available for what ever’s ailing you.

Guess what – you should do the SAME level of research when you buy a big name drug. Just because it comes on TV, doesn’t mean it’s safe and won’t have side effects for you.

Benefits of Natural Supplements Over Prescription Drugs

Are you tired of paying a massive premium and jumping through hoops to get your hands on those pricey blue pills? One major problem with Viagra and other erectile dysfunction drugs is the price.

Ever hear of herbal Viagra? Yes, there are various natural, herbal treatment options coming on the market to treat erectile dysfunction, but at a fraction of the price. Tired of paying $15 per pill? Some of the herbal options go for $1 to $2 per pill.

Better yet, many herbal supplements have been around for hundreds or thousands of years; they haven’t been rushed out of the Big Pharma Corp in time for the major product launch of the “blue pill“, the “purple pill”, or whatever color we’re pushing this month. Do you ever wonder why they make them such pretty colors?

Then there’s the hassle and red tape, and all the time involved in getting a prescription, juggling your insurance coverage, playing the “co-payment” game to see what is and isn’t covered this month, and so on. All those fun reasons we try to avoid pharmaceuticals whenever possible.

And of course there are the side effects. Ever try reading the side effects on most medicines you purchase these days? Scary!!! People not only get sick and have crazy reactions, but many actually die from side effects of modern medicines. Perhaps it’s the over commercialization of modern medicine that pushes out products before they’re actually ready (something we so often see in the software industry). Regardless, fact is modern medicine offers many benefits for emergency situations, but has a LOT of growing to do when it comes to solving regular problems like erectile dysfunction and high blood pressure.

Herbal supplements tend to be significantly safe and have few if any side effects. Again, research anything you’re going to put into your body, but all in all you’re probably much safe when you go natural.

Maybe it’s time to give the natural, herbal approach a try. And instead of spending a fortune on a bottle of Viagra, maybe you should consider giving natural, herbal Viagra a try.

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