Okay, enough with the plant metaphor. You get it (hopefully). The deal is that if we come to relationship broken up, with some serious unexamined baggage, expecting to attract great relationships, odds are the next one will end up much the same—in disappointment and regret. At some point, as I have said many times, you gotta be thinking, “Hey, maybe it’s not just them.”

Here are some pointers for how to sustain any great relationship (platonic or otherwise), once you have carefully selected who you want to be in it with:
Respect Here’s a word. Know what it means? If you don’t, you have no chance at REAL, lasting intimacy (in my not-so-humble opinion). If you respect yourself, just double it. Don’t just talk about it either—this is an action item. Respect is not a feeling, it’s a way of behaving!

Responsible Communication

You get to choose from every word in the English language (or whatever language you share) in whatever tone you choose to communicate your thoughts and feelings to another, so choose carefully. You have no one to blame if you don’t tell the truth or say what you want. My teacher says “We are always doing one of two things; creating separation or connection.” What is your intention?

Integrity

Do what you say you’re going to do, when you say you’re going to do it, as often as humanly possible. And don’t BS yourself. Nobody trusts a flake, nor does anyone want their vulnerable hearts to be in the care of one. If you love and respect someone, ACT like it!

Compatibility

Just because someone has good energy doesn’t mean you do real life well together. Watch what people DO, not only what they say. Make sure you are compatible with them or you’ll be sadly disappointed, eventually bored and even resentful. There are 7 billion people on the planet—check some more of them out and quit trying to make someone they are not!

Compassion

Walked a mile in their shoes, have you? I recommend before you think you know whatever you think you know about the person you say you love, one of the most loving acts of all is to try and understand as much as you want to be understood. Old adage for a reason. ‘Cause it’s a damn good one!

Expectations

The fastest way to get back to love in any relationship is to want nothing. Period. Try it. No one is responsible for your happiness or anything else, unless expressly agreed to.

Consciousness Agreements

One of my all-time favorites. Let people know what’s important to you up front. As soon as possible, in fact. In any relationship the time to negotiate is up front, not after you are in deep! Don’t want to party a lot, but notice you keep giving in and feeling bad about yourself—but afraid to lose your friends if you stand up for yourself? Don’t want to have sex so much, but because you’re afraid they will leave, you do it anyway (see compatibility)?  What are your non-negotiables?

These tools and skills have helped me immeasurably over the years and I rely on them all, as they are responsible for helping me maintain the loving, healthy relationships I have today! Remember, relationships take work, they are not just “add water,” and people are not disposable. They are precious blessings, and in their presence I feel blessed to keep on my path to becoming the best version of myself, as well as have the privilege to witness l those I love do the same!

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Different Kinds Of Pleasure

There are aphorisms and superstitions around the topic of pleasure that do not serve anyone.  Truth told: pleasure should be the predominant experience of a person’s life with pain being the exception. Of course, here at AskDanandJennifer.com, the kind of pleasure that first comes to mind is sexual pleasure.  But pleasure is something that should be a part of most of our pursuits in life.  In your job, career, volunteer work, hobbies, friendships, family, shopping, religious or spiritual expression, there should always be a pay off for giving your time, attention, and talents to these pursuits.  And the pay offs should provide genuine pleasure.

For instance, some people choose careers in order to please their parents.  To make a different choice, even if it brought personal satisfaction and pleasure, would produce too much guilt.  There’s a negative pay off to pursuing the career or job that makes the parents happy and that is you get to feel loyal.  But that loyalty can lead to dissatisfaction, resentment, and deep unhappiness.  Whereas, suffering a little guilt and pursuing your dreams can produce satisfaction, joy, and tremendous happiness!

Over-Pleasing

Some people are the sounding boards for practically every single person in their lives.  They wind up giving and giving and giving until it hurts!  They give their time, attention, even their money, to make sure that the people in their lives know they are loved and valued.  The problem is these folks don’t get this kind of love and attention returned to them.  They are so easy to get along with and so pleasing, that everyone who uses them thinks they’re fine, that they have it all together, and that they don’t anything from anybody.

There is initial pleasure for the giver in such relationships because it does feel good to be so well appreciated.  However, the day comes when most conversations with your friends and colleagues make you feel like a used, dirty rag.  Real pleasure comes from relationships that have healthy give and take from both sides.  Everyone needs to receive regular attention and nurturing support. Some give of themselves sexually in such a way as to please their partner for fear that attending to their own pleasure will have bad results.  They fear coming across as too self-centered.  Truthfully, there is no greater pleasure than knowing your lover totally trusts you with his or her sexual pleasure.  It is a huge complement when your partner melts at your touch, or over the way your breath feels on the back of her neck, or through the direct eye contact he gives you that lets you know you’ve found the exact right spot.

Sexual Pleasure

If your romantic partner refuses to find pleasure in your sensuality and makes you feel wrong in any way for desiring sexual pleasure or sensual attention; it takes a lot of courage to confront the situation inside yourself, in the first place, and with him or her as well.  Our bodies, minds, and souls were built to receive pleasure.  If you deny yourself this natural, human expression, you’ll pay dearly with resentment, anger, even depression.  Allowing someone to determine that you are bad or wrong for desiring pleasure is the same thing as denying yourself.

Having trouble with pleasure is built in to a variety of cultures around the world.  However, there is a simple and effective way that will allow you to open up to receive more pleasure in your life.  It does take courage and some effort, but it’s worth it. All you have to do is commit to loving yourself more each day.  People who love themselves allow greater amounts of pleasure into their lives.  If they are alone, they take care of their own needs and desires.  If they are in a relationship, they learn how to effectively ask for what they want.  Because they appreciate themselves and their own pleasure so much, they have a whole lot of love and pleasuring to give as well.  A circle of energy is created in their lives with plenty of give and take in most of their relationships.

Pleasing Yourself

With a commitment to love yourself more each day, you find yourself doing and saying things to you that you would give to someone you highly value.  You say, “I love you!” to yourself.  You give yourself good strokes for things well done.  You dress in such a way that you enhance your good feelings towards yourself.  You are patient with yourself and yet you challenge you to be better, strive farther, and accomplish more because you value your potential! These kinds of things will give you pleasure.  As your self-worth and pleasure increase, you will attract those who desire to give you pleasure as well.  And then life will be fuller, richer, and sweeter – with the hard times handled with more grace and confidence.

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Looking For Self-Help?

I had it all – from the esoteric to Far East philosophies to New Age modalities and even the dead: Kierkegaard, Swedenborg, Kant, Borges. And I didn’t stop there: I devoured books on sex, business, the inner workings of the mind and ecstatic dance. If it was nonfiction and said “help” ANYWHERE in or on the book, I READ IT! I was on a path (with frequent intermissions) to find out EXACTLY how to be free and NOT suffer unless absolutely necessary. Spoiler alert: I ended up finding what I was looking for, but not in the way I thought I would. As you might imagine, I was over-loaded, and this form of my quest came to an abrupt halt at 33. I had crossed a line.

And funnily enough, just prior to that I had asked myself—or rather, I heard that still small voice that I hear and know as the Great Divine inside of me say… “Maryanne…dear. Can it be, after so many years of relentless pursuit of the internal fortress you seek, that the answer does not lie somewhere in even one of these books?”

When Self-Help Lies Within Yourself

I was actually embarrassed, because in all this time it was like that notion had been too simple to even cross my mind. Yet in that moment, I realized how truly profound it was. When you come down to it, awakening and staying awake is not a new concept. Yes, we are complicated beings, but many great people have devoted their lives to taking on the complex material of spiritual laws and have done a really tremendous job of breaking it down for us. Yet there I was, face-to-face with a question that led me across the abyss of awareness – KNOWING all the stuff that was in all those books didn’t really help me at all! – to transformation.

It was time, at last, to take all “I knew” and actually create a practice. You see, I had become addicted to the buzz. A self-help junkie. And why not? I am pretty sure that of all my addictions this one actually paid off! But like all things the time had come for me to fish or cut bait. Change or die—well, I wanted to die, anyway.

Don’t Force It – It Will Come Naturally!

SO – I woke up! Yup. Just like that. For me it took what it took, and, like all of us on a path, it takes what it takes – we can’t force it, and we can’t expect it. It just happens.. So could it be that had I read one book fewer I would have had my awakening, being delivered from suffering? Would I not have found that which I had sought my entire life? I can never know, it seems.

What I do know is that when asked the question: “What do you want? And what are you willing to do about it?” The answer for me was simple. I wanted true freedom of being and freedom from suffering. I said a prayer. “God, please show me the way!” And I woke up. But not before I had spent almost twenty years trying everything else!

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One Clients’ Journey

I have to say, my clients are pretty darn special and the most amazing people I have had the honor of coaching. I’ve been working with a particular client for a little over 5 months now and we’re at the point where our interactions just flow back and forth, like the ebb and flow of the tide. The co-creative relationship is so precious.

Why this particular client?

In the middle of our last session, he arrived at the awareness that his ideal partner is essentially himself and our work together has been about him building a meaningful relationship with the love of his life; again himself. This was a profound awakening for him and not to mention, something really cool for me to witness. Now, I know many gay men stomp their foot down, egos is hand, claiming they do not want a carbon copy of themselves. What I mean is, how you see yourself in the world and how you are being in the world, is how you will know when Mr. Wonderful is right in front of you. The important qualities you see in yourself are the one you’ll recognize in him.

His current homework assignment was to report to me each night via email how he sees himself completely during his day. This is his first email: “I see myself completely and realize that I don’t always ask for what I need, I say I’m ok when really deep down I’m not. I see myself completely when I realize that being vulnerable, telling someone exactly what I need, is hard for me to do.”

You see, he is beginning to recognize when he isn’t being true to himself. Sometimes our needs slip away, but to recognize and acknowledge it, is a very powerful thing. Just like when it comes to your own love life. Are you tending to your own dating needs? Are you seeking out guys who meet your requirements and values? If you’re not, chances are you’re needs need tending to. Are you pretty lost when it comes to knowing what your requirements are for a relationships? Is it hard to lead from your core values?

Your Relationship Success Assignment

For the next five days, take time at the end of your day to sit down and reflect where you see yourself completely. Where were you being true to yourself? Where were you inviting presence into a certain situation? As soon as you can get clear on how you see yourself, you will get clearer on who you are at the core, what the ideal partner and relationship looks like and you’ll soon start uncovering the road that will get you there.

YOU are a truly unique person with unique needs AND the power to make it happen, because only YOU can make it happen!

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Some of us spend too many weeks, months, even years chasing unrequited love. Man, it can hurt so good to love so deeply one who will not and cannot return the favor! It isn’t a masochist’s dream, but it sure can become a favorite bone to chew on so that life doesn’t feel so darn lonely. Songs about it are sung, stories about it are written, and therapists’ couches are private spaces for it. There is a better way.

What Exactly Is Unrequited Love?

Unrequited love is what happens when he or she just isn’t that into you but you have feelings you cannot deny. The human heart is capable of loving those who are incapable of returning even feelings of “like” much less real love. The heart will love even those who neglect it and abuse it. So, loving someone who cannot love you back not only can feel kind of good, it can feel necessary. The love you feel for anyone can become something you cannot live without, even if they do not and never will love you back.

Oh, and if the person you love so deeply is a friend, it becomes even more complicated! Because they do genuinely like and love you, they just don’t love you “in that way,” you can conjure up the juice to love them for all eternity. As long as you don’t do or say anything that makes them exit your life in order to protect themselves; as your friend, he or she is always available. If you get to the point of processing your feelings about this person with this person, then you have these intimate conversations that, even though they produce nothing more than more pain, the intimacy feeds your feelings for him or her. You leave these conversations convinced that if you can just be there for them and love them as much they will let you, then one fine day, he or she will look at you anew and fall head-over-heels in love with you, regretting all the time lost till now!

Something Better Than Unrequited Love

Unrequited love can fill all the free and empty spaces in your life while you are waiting for the real thing to come along. That is one reason people refuse to let the love object go. A much better, honorable, deserving candidate for all that love is you, yourself. In addition to that, focusing your attention on what would be the ideal romantic relationship for you, on the perfect love of your life, how it all would look and feel and taste like; this level of dreaming and planning for the love of your life showing up is a more beneficial expression of your romantic love than sinking deeper into unrequited love.

One of the things you can do to turn your attention to loving yourself and preparing for the love of your life to come along is read self-help relationship books. These books can be even more helpful before you get into a romantic relationship because you have the freedom to read them without prejudice. You also have the opportunity to use them to fire your imagination with specific details about what you want your next romantic relationship to be like. It is the Law of Attraction in that what you put your attention on grows. If you put your attention on how richly painful it is to love someone who doesn’t love you back, you will get more of the same. Conversely, if you put your attention on the kind of relationship you will create with the love of your life, you will attract that.

Getting Into The Relationship Groove Outside Of A Relationship

Another thing you can do is use dating to practice the behaviors self-help relationship books teach. Particularly paying attention to those that outline the differences between men and women, as a man you can practice being the man with the women you date, or as a woman you can practice being the receptive feminine with the men you date. He or she doesn’t have to be the love of your life in order for you to practice how you plan to be with the love of your life. Even among your friends, you can practice listening skills and being present skills that will benefit you tremendously when the day comes along where you not only fall in love, but the recipient of your affection falls in love with you too!

The more attention you put on loving yourself and preparing for that big, powerful romance coming along, both your daytime dreaming and night time dreaming will move in alignment with you to support what you are attracting! Instead of your thoughts drifting to your unrequited love, they will naturally drift to imagining things like what the perfect Sunday spent with your love will look like. Nighttime dreams, if you remember them, will begin to sort through the debris left by the unrequited love so that you have more space and energy inside for creating something whole, balanced, and full of passion with a real prospect for finding someone to spend the rest of your life with!

Albert Einstein’s quote above, “If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or objects,” inspired this article. When it comes to relationships, it can be very hard advice to follow because it can feel impossible to refrain from tying your happiness to another person. But when the goal is a beautiful romance because you are worth it, the thinking and action steps that follow give you a happy life even as you attract the love of your life.

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The same thing happens in a relationship. Everyone has a bad day now and then but, if you start having bad days all the time, people get tired of trying to cheer you up, and they move on to other relationships that are more fulfilling and less depressing.

Stop The Depression Before They Stop You

If you have finally found that person you’ve spent your life dreaming about, you want to learn how to get control over your moods, and stop being depressed, before that special someone decides to stop seeing you!

Wouldn’t it be phenomenal if you could control or get rid of depression just by having certain thoughts? I know that this might sound too simple, but very frequently; many types of depression are simply caused by thinking negative thoughts. If you can control the thoughts, you can control the depression. It really is that simple!

Skeptical? Try This…

Don’t believe me? Then test it out! It’s easy to try this out for yourself and see that it really works. Just imagine something that you find to be very sad or troubling. Go ahead, think about it right now! Then return to this article.

Okay, so what happened? If you did what I asked you to do, and tried to visualize the situation clearly, you started to feel unhappy and a little depressed. And the more you allow yourself to stay in that pattern of thought, the sadder you will feel. As you stay in those thoughts and continue feeling sadder, you lead yourself into a gradually intensifying depression.

Displace the Sadness With Happy Memories

The good news, though, is that if you think about a happy memory, then you will displace that sadness and depression and replace it with happy feelings.

Please pay close attention now, because here are the keys to ending your depression: Our most persistent thoughts spring forth from the unconscious mind. These are the thoughts that we find ourselves naturally thinking about throughout the day.

If the persistent thoughts that are continually recurring in your mind are about your sad experiences or problems, then you intensify your levels of depression, anxiety, and stress.

The Light at the End of the Tunnel

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Janet is an astrologer and life coach who uses Universal Laws, including the Law of Attraction, in her teaching.

For over twenty years, Janet has offered her wisdom in both workshop and personal settings coast-to-coast.

In this incredibly touching and heart felt article, "Sacred Relationship", Janet tells us how to let go of our past and love ourselves first so that we might enjoy truly wonderful relationships with others.

Sacred Relationship

The twenty-first century has born its own brand of relationships. Computer dating and internet porn sites offer a myriad of ways to entertain those seeking love. Love is in the process of being redefined, yet it is the eternal yardstick for happiness.

Sacred relationship begins with the self.

Where are you in this regard?

Begin by assessing your strengths and your weaknesses. Be as honest as you can realizing that to get more of what you want, you have to be clear where you are. The art of Recapitulation involves revisiting one’s past in order to get clarity and be able to reside in the present moment with peace.

Just as Don Juan Mateus guided Carlos Castaneda in this venture, begin by remembering all you can remember about yourself in the context of relationship. Do not judge, stay in the memory, remember how you were feeling. This may take several attempts, include journaling, scripting, or talking aloud……just remember it all. 

When you arrive at the present with your past memories, you are allowed to let go, and make peace with it all. No matter how dark it may have been in your view, it can only be resolved by putting grace around the past and owning it as a human experience.

Only when you have been able to clear these triggers of your subconscious, is one able to create a new script with the expectation of total freedom.

Next…

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Several days ago we joined an awesome network of really cool like-minded bloggers.

This group of very select blogs is called the Positive Blog Network. All of them have an exceedingly positive view on life and possibilities, and they all share our goal of truly wanting to help people help themselves and lead happier, more fulfilling lives.

You’ve got to check out the other great sites in this network.

Here are just a few of the recent highlights from other blogs in the Positive Blog Network.

• Steve Aichinson
  50 of the best personal development blogs
• Craig Harper’s Renovate Your Life
  Too Old, too Fat, too Dumb,
  and HEY! Can’t you Shut those Kids up?
• John Wesley’s Pick the Brain
  Resist the Temptation to Submit to Authority,
  Einstein’s Theory of Religion,
  and Overcoming a Loss of Motivation
• Genius Types
  How to Start a Bulk Candy Vending Business for Passive Income
• Steve Olson – On a Quest for Personal Freedom
  Do you know what is real?
• Life Optimizer
  5 Reasons Why Doing What You Love Can Optimize Your Life,
  5 Reasons Why Less Internet is Good for Me (and You)
• Cultivate Greatness
  See Bob Proctor, Joe Vitale, Jack Canfield, and other Teachers from The Secret on Larry King Live!
• WiseBread
  Seven everyday scams you need to watch out for  
• Balanced Life Center
  Relationship Problems? Ask Dan and Jennifer, Becoming Transparent

Also check out the amazing image linked at the very bottom of the Cultivate Greatness blog. I really love this! I’ve always said "Can’t we all just get along?" and this image says it so much better!

Here is the full list of the blogs in the Positive Blog Network as of today. The list is growing every day as more like minded folks join in.  

Steven Aitchison – Change Your Thoughts

Craig Harper – Renovate Your Life

Brian Lee – Genius Types

John Wesley – Pick The Brain

Travis Wright – Cultivate Greatness

Sales Motivation

Steve Olson – On a Quest for Personal Freedom

The Dragon Slayer’s Guide to Life

WiseBread

Balanced Life Center

Life Optimizer

Talent Development

Scott H. Young

Ask Dan and Jennifer – Dating, Relationships, Love, and Sex

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Are you ready to create history, and have the best year of your life?

If you answered "Yes," then you’re ready to create your Big BANG.

What is a Big BANG?

Big BANG is an acronym for Big Bold, Ambitious, and Noble Goals. Applying the Big BANG formula to your life or career can allow you to create monumental, quantum-leap performance and profitability gains.

Watch the Video.

Here are the characteristics of the Big BANG formula and how it works:

Bold…

A Big BANG is saturated with boldness. It requires a fearless, daring, and courageous spirit, nerves of steel, and a massive dose of self-confidence. It’s roll-the-dice-and-bet-the-house boldness. It can mean taking extraordinary risks, and, when you decide upon a course olfaction, boldness demands that you execute it aggressively.

Boldness alone isn’t enough to create a Big BANG.

Creating your own personal Big BANG also requires that your goal be:

Ambitious…

A Big BANG requires a strong, intense, passionate, and singular ambition to achieve a particular goal. That means settings goals that are as grand in scale as they are bold in formulation.

It was ambition that created the Seven Wonders of the World, and it is this formidable force, which provides the psychological mojo that screams faster, higher, braver, further.

Finally, creating your own Big BANG involves adopting goals that are:

Noble…

A Big BANG is championed by a noble cause that inspires and challenges people to perform at an uncommon level. After all, when you strive to better the lives of others… your family, your colleagues, your customers… you have a purpose worth pursuing, even when you might otherwise quit.

Shining with exceptional and noteworthy qualities, a noble goal is grand and impressive in both appearance and thought. Noble goals unleash the human spirit, and our world has been greatly blessed by men and women pursuing bold, ambitious, and noble goals, goals that created a Big BANG!

It’s Time for You to Shine

Right now, this instant, you are capable of exponential growth. You have the ability to multiply your performance, dramatically exceed your best expectations, and achieve goals on a scale that in the past seemed impossible. You can do all of this once you focus on defining and pursuing your Big BANG.

But that means you must stop settling for things as they are, and surrender the belief that change is only marginal and incremental. Life is prepared to give you a breakthrough… a spontaneous creation experience any time you become willing to allow it.

If not you, then who? If not now, then when?

Few people ever come close to reaching their full potential. Most do not even come close, and barely scratch the surface of what they can possibly accomplish.

Maybe, just maybe, the time has come for you to study the face in the mirror and decide once and for all that you are ready to rock the world.

Let me be perfectly clear about this, we are not talking about getting to the next level, what we’re talking about here is getting to the next orbit!

I’m talking about increasing sales by 500%, about dominating your market niche, worldwide distribution and consumption of your product or service, about winning the Gold Medal in the Olympics, about finding a cure for the incurable.

How to Create a Big BANG

A Big BANG calls out for a monumental goal that is transparently clear, amazingly simple, and tenaciously spirited. This type of goal requires an internal sense of urgency about results that even high-performers struggle to comprehend.

The level of discipline and intensity of focus required to achieve this type of goal requires that you say goodbye to your comfort zone. A profound and unwavering commitment to achievement is mandatory; once you set a Big BANG you’ll be working without a net.

And the process begins with having your own Personal Strategic Plan in place to guide you throughout 2007.

Watch the Video.

Having a strategic plan for your life separates you from the 85% of the people who never accomplish a single resolution they set for themselves.

Visit this site and discover how to create your own Personal Strategic Plan for 2007and set in motion your own Big Bang year. http://www.PersonalStrategicPlan.com

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One word of advice when choosing your new years resolution.

Don’t try to accomplish all ten of them this year. Pick one – yes I said just one – to accomplish this year and focus all of your energy on accomplishing that one goal.

Too many of us try to solve ‘world hunger’, when we could make the most difference by feeding a single family. That’s just an analogy, but you get the picture.

Once you’ve chosen your single resolution for the year, don’t let anything else get in your way. Pursue that one single resolution as if you life depends on it – depending on the resolution you choose (like stop smoking or lose weight), it just may… 

As you read this entire article from beginning to end, think about not only how these resolutions to your personal goals, but to your love and family relationships. Have you given them the attention they deserve?

By the way, I couldn’t resist adding my own thoughts to a few of these…

The Top Ten New Years Resolutions…

And How To Achieve Them This Year.

By Gary Ryan Blair, The GoalsGuy

New Year’s is the only holiday that celebrates the passage of time. Perhaps that’s why, as the final seconds of the year tick away, we become introspective. Inevitably, that introspection turns to thoughts of self-improvement and the annual ritual of making resolutions, which offer the first of many important tools for remaking ourselves. The following list is the result of our extensive survey, which consisted of over 300,000 responses worldwide.

1. Lose Weight and Get in Better Physical Shape

Physical activity builds physical vitality. With every year of your life, you have more to gain from being physically active; as your age-related risks of chronic disease increase, regular exercise generally slows or reverses that trend. In fact, you’re even more likely to notice the benefits of regular exercise if you already have a chronic condition.

Are you ever going to be fit again as long as you live? The answer is unless you make a resolution to get fit – you’re never going to be fit – ever. The choice is yours; it begins by opting for the stairs instead of the elevator, fruit in place of chocolate, and active rather than sedentary activities.

Dan and Jennifer: We made a very simple commitment this year to do some sort of physical activity (that actually gets our heart rate up) for 10 minutes every day. Walking from the sofa to the mail box doesn’t count! One of our favorite activities is walking our two really awesome doggies, Cujo (a 10 pound Yorkie), and Sasha (a 90 pound German Shepherd). Can guess whose dog is whose?

2. Stick to a Budget

It’s been said that the best defense is a good offense. Developing and sticking to a realistic budget is a brilliant offensive move as it prevents overspending and ensures peace of mind. Many people find it very difficult to stick to a budget. It does take hard work and a lot of self-discipline, at least in the beginning. The good news is that most people find the longer they can stick to a budget, the easier it becomes.

Dan and Jennifer: We actually addressed this one last year. Neither of us has ever been very good at creating, much less sticking to a budget. 

Last August we read a really great book, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, and attended a free 3 day seminar, the Millionaire Mind Intensive, from Peak Potentials, founded by T. Harv Ecker. Ecker is a very well known guru in the area of personal development / betterment.

I’m not going to go into the details here, you’ll have to read the book to get the very simple strategies that have helped us triple our savings and always have more than enough money to pay our bills and have fun at the same time. I highly recommend at least reading the book…

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4. Are You Going To Receive A “Dear John Letter” From Your 2007 Goals?
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Dear John,

You probably already know what this letter is about. You’ve seen it coming; I know you have. It’s about us, John. It’s over. I’m leaving you!

Why have you neglected me? Why have you made so many excuses? Your inaction and addiction to procrastination is tearing me apart. I simply must move on…

As you read this entire article from beginning to end, think about not only how it applies to your personal goals, but to your love and family relationships. Have you given them the attention they deserve?

Are You Going To Receive A "Dear John Letter" From Your 2007 Goals?
by Gary Ryan Blair

The genesis of "Dear John" letters can be traced to World War II. 

They usually began, "Dear John, I have found someone else whom I think the world of. I think the only way out is for us to get a divorce." These letters, which broke the hearts and dreams of our servicemen and women, soon became known as "Dear Johns."

I developed this lesson to provide a different type of "Dear John" letter. 

It’s a private note from your hopes and dreams, and it speaks loudly through your subconscious.

I trust it will be powerful enough to get your attention, and more important, compelling enough to get you to take action and make this coming year the best of your life.

The purpose is to provide an outlet, a voice for all of those hopes, dreams, desires, and goals that you’ve neglected. If your goals, hopes, and dreams could talk, what would they say? Let’s hope that they wouldn’t write you the following letter, especially at the end of 2007…

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Will it bring you greater wealth, better relationships, a healthier body with less fat, and a reduction in your blood pressure…

Or will it be more of the "same old same old". It all begins with a choice. Make the decision that this year will be better than last year.

Right now, at this moment, you may not know how it will be better or how to make it better… But that’s OK. What does matter is deciding it WILL be better – in fact that it will be the best year, ever, for you.

Success is not an accident. It begins with a well-conceived plan… 

If you HOPE to increase your income this year. Or HOPE to pay off debts. Or HOPE to lose weight and get in shape or to find the love of your life… 

…then stop right now, you might as well forget about it. It’s not going to happen. Why?

Because HOPE is not a plan.   

Maybe your problems or goals involve your business, or your job, or your relationships, or your health, or how you spend your time… or ANY number of the things that make up YOUR life.

The fact is, every successful person I know finally hits the breaking point… where you either overcome your obstacles or be a slave to them forever.

If you want to start a business, increase your income, get out of debt, stop working so much, lose weight, get in shape, quit smoking, pick up a hobby… or whatever it may be… it’s time to take action. 

Don’t fall victim to procrastination. Fear. Loss of motivation or whatever else keeps you in check.  

If there’s something, or someone, out there you really want. If you want 2008 to be your best year yet… then you must reach out there and grab a stranglehold on your goals. 

This is an excerpt from and incredibly gifted and talented man, Gary Ryan Blair. Maybe you’ve heard of him. He is The GoalsGuy and he has created a fool proof way that you can create your Personal Strategic Plan for 2008.

You’ll definitely want to read the following article by Gary!

Create a Personal Strategic Plan!
by Gary Ryan Blair

Success is not an accident. It begins with a well-conceived plan. You can and will achieve more in the next year than you have in the past ten with a disciplined Personal Strategic Plan.

Personal strategic planning is a disciplined thought process, which produces fundamental decisions and actions that shape and guide who you are, where you are going, what you do, and how, when and why you do it. All of this is done with a focus on the future.

The purpose of personal strategic planning is to help you:

- Provide direction, meaning, and purpose for your life.
– Make decisions that positively affect your future.
– Focus your energies on what’s most important.
– Achieve the greatest results in the shortest period of time.
– Significantly increase your level of performance.
– Enjoy more time, money, balance and freedom.
– Eliminate uncertainty, anxiety, doubt and fear.
– Leverage your skills more effectively.
– Enhance your quality of life, and overall peace of mind
– Be more, do more and ultimately to have more from life.

Personal strategic planning is based on the premise that life will not go according to plan, if you do not have a plan.

A successful plan must include the following…