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Multiple Orgasms – Did You Know That It IS Possible For Men Too?

Carla Tara — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 13:15:36 +0000

Tantra is such a vast subject that it’s fascinating and awe-inspiring. It includes so much that it can be very confusing to the beginning student. Tantra is an art, a science, a way of life that is honest and courageous. It includes and faces squarely our sexual energy, this awesome force that some religions fear and want to suppress.

It can be used to help us reach our highest potential of pleasure, and union with the divine. To achieve this, it offers a series of exercises in breathing, tone vibrations, the use of certain muscles, and concentration on certain symbols representing the energy centers of the body.

One of the techniques it teaches allows men to have an orgasm without ejaculating, which makes it possible for him to come again and again.

How is This Possible?

Well, by using tantric principles, such as breathing, visualizing, and squeezing the love muscles to draw sexual energy from the sex organs up the spine to the back of the brain, a man can learn to ride the waves of orgasm and start coasting along the crest of those waves like a skilled surfer.

He can go down in the valley of the wave and enjoy playing more safely in a sweet and intensive romantic/spiritual space, absorbing the benefits resulting from the heightened pleasure he just achieved. He feels as if he’s buzzing with energy, more open and tender toward his partner and himself.

They can look into each other’s eyes, exchange gentle caresses, or simply breathe together to expand the state of bliss. All this can be done without the man losing the precious life-force contained in his semen.

Then the couple can proceed to make love actively, and reach several peaks in one love session. After having reached several peaks and experienced several body orgasms, the man can choose to have an ejaculatory orgasm if desired.

Controlling Ejaculation

How quickly a man can learn to control his ejaculation response depends on how much he practices, and the attitude he practices with. It’s almost a paradox: The more patient and loving you are with yourself, the less in a hurry to achieve quick results, the faster you’ll learn.

That’s because relaxation is the key, and you can’t be relaxed if you’re very goal-oriented. When you’re goal-oriented, you’re tense and usually judgmental. Ideas like, "I don’t know if I’ll ever learn this stuff…..Perhaps it’s not for me….I’m wasting my time…." or similar discouraging thoughts will retard the process of learning.

Be Positive and Loving

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Spiritual Sex: Reuniting Body And Soul For A Whole Body Orgasm

Maya Silverman — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 11:39:16 +0000

In today’s stressful modern age, it seems as though the practice of sensuality has slowly become a lost art.

Just think about it: with our fast-paced culture and hectic schedules, it’s no wonder that we have very little time for things that require us to slow down and take our time especially when it comes to our sex lives!

Everyday Life Gets in the Way

After all, each one of us is guilty of this behavior. Perhaps you had a long day at the office, or you’ve got a big meeting to prepare for in the early morning. Either way, when you engage in lovemaking with your partner, your mind is somewhere else completely.

You’re focusing on that big report or review at the office, or maybe you’re forming a mental to-do list. Since you’re mind is entirely occupied by distracting thoughts, you can’t focus on lovemaking, and you deny yourself the pleasure that you need.

It’s not that difficult to see why we let the stress of our daily lives negatively affect our sexual energy.

Stress Affects Our Sex Lives

While the act of sex may not require that much thought, achieving an orgasm takes focus which can be hard to do if our minds are focused on our day at the office! Yet if you’re looking to reclaim your sexual pleasure from the stresses of modern life, and to achieve that elusive whole body orgasm that you’ve longed for, follow these rules to max out your soulful sack sessions!

When you want to get your partner revved up for a bedroom romp, chances are you probably focus less on touching and caressing and more on the actual act of sex. Yet if you’re looking to reunite your body and soul for a whole body orgasm that will have you seeing stars, you need to take a step back and focus more on the pleasure that comes with erotic touching.

Max Out Your Partner’s Bliss

Not only can you max out your partner’s bliss by taking the time to caress him or her, but you’ll be heightening the anticipation for lovemaking – a key ingredient for that whole body orgasm!

Erotic touching is an intense and soulful experience, so be sure to engage in intimate behavior: stare into your partner’s eyes while gently stroking him or her along the length of the body. Use erotic touching as a means to explore your partner like never before.

Sure, you may know every nook and cranny of your partner’s body, but how well do you really know it? By using erotic touching, you’ll experience your lover’s body in a new and more spiritual way that will intensify your relationship, both in and out of the bedroom.

Erotic Touching Melts the Tension

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Great Sex Begins With A Sensual Massage

Lee Jenkins, author Female Orgasm Black Book — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 14:20:54 +0000

With today’s hectic and fast-paced world, it’s not a surprise that a lot of people don’t have great sex.

Everyone’s just too tired!

So how do you ensure that you and your partner are on your way to great sex without being discouraged by ‘all the work’ that lay ahead to ensure it? Indulge in a sexual massage.

A Sexual Massage Paves the Way for Great Sex

A sexual massage puts you and your partner in the perfect mood for a long night of great sex. Think about it. You’re not just jumping on each other, and subconsciously telling yourselves to ‘hurry up’ and get it over with.

A sexual massage actually tells your mind and body to RELAX; but because it’s a sexual massage, you can bet sexual tension will be there, making for a night of great sex after all!

Bathroom or bedroom?

Decide if you want to carry out the sexual massage while having a long, luxurious, warm soak in the tub or in your bedroom. Either way, just make sure you have the ambiance right.

In the bathroom, make sure candles are lighted and scent oils are burning.If you’re joining your partner in the tub, make sure everything is within your reach. And if you’re planning a long session, a bottle of wine and a few food items (cheese, crackers, etc.) are fine too.

If you’re having the sexual massage in the bedroom, then make sure you’ve cleaned the room and allotted a space for the massage. If you’re worried about staining your bed sheets, you can put another type of fabric over your bed. You can also just put thick blankets and throw a couple of pillows on the floor. Candles, music and scented oils should complete the look.

How To Give A Sexual Massage

Use your fingertips

Here’s a sexual massage technique using your fingertips: straddle your partner’s thighs. Rub warm massage oil on your hands and massage your partner’s back with long, soothing strokes. Don’t put your hand flat on his/her back. Just use your fingertips and ‘rake’ his/her back. Alternate your strokes. Apply hard pressure, and then light ones.

Use your palms

Without skipping a beat, massage his/her back using the whole width of your hand. This firmer technique helps the body relax. Remember to NOT massage ‘bony areas’. Place the palms of both your hands on his/her back and move them in circles, firmly outward and away from her spine.

Use your hot breath

Now it’s time to up the sexual tension in the room. Put some warm massage oil on your upper body. Put your arms on either side of your partner’s body (he/she should be lying face down) and then slowly lower yourself till your covering his/her body. Try to envelope his/her body as much as possible with yours. Now start to glide your body over his/hers… and if you get carried away now and proceed to having a long night of great sex, then so be it!

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”

7 Tips For More Pleasurable and Passionate Lovemaking

Michael Webb — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 14:40:36 +0000

Need some ideas to make your lovemaking phenomenal?

These 7 tips should give you plenty of ideas to make your midnight sessions more hot, steamy and passionate, starting today…

1. Become more sensual

While most men want to ‘get the job done’ and reach the goal of orgasm, for women it’s more about the journey. Women love to reach climax as much as men do, but they also love a sensual stroke from your hand across their leg.

Believe it or not, the ears, neck, arms and hair are all really sensitive areas that love to be stimulated. Spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner and can even intensify their orgasm.

2. Try positions proven to increase pleasure

For women: The reverse missionary is identical to the traditional missionary position except that she is on top. This is probably the easiest position for a woman to climax because she can control the friction to her clitoris and/or G-spot.

For men: Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. Although you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It is great for guys because they have full control over movement and pleasure.

3. Play bedroom games

Tasteful, fun and alluring sex games are one of the best ways to intensify orgasms and the entire lovemaking experience. They’re fun, sexy and have a lot of replay value.

Maybe you’ll use a deck of cards or dice to create your own passionate play. Perhaps you’ll adapt a sport game for the bedroom. Or maybe you’ll just want to use your bodies as the props. It doesn’t matter. Simply get excited and unleash some creativity!

And even while some games only consist of familiar tips and moves, you’ll be using them in new scenarios, which actually makes them feel new.

4. Set a romantic mood

People often think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of their lovemaking is too "cliché." Are they kidding! Your partner will LOVE YOU for this. Just imagine how happy you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special lovemaking occasion that you can cherish for years to come. Could this be so "cliché" because people enjoy it so much? Point made.

5. Give them a sexy massage

Why stop at setting the mood? Go one step further and give your partner a sensual massage that makes them feel relaxed and loved at the same time. Make it sexy, sensual, and pleasurable. Massage them naked or build up the anticipation by having them slowly undress during the massage. Then kiss, caress and slowly transition “under the sheets” where a massage of another kind can take place.

And no, you don’t need years of study to give a great massage. Just grab some candles and music, and bless your partner with an experience they’ll never forget….