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Britney Spears “3″ – Are Threesomes “In?” (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 19:20:57 +0000

It’s every guy’s wet dream right – and no, we’re not talking about the Princess-Leia-in-the-gold-bikini fantasy. We’re talking about threesomes. Threesomes have long been touted as the “holy grail” of sex for guys, and any real life threesome gives a guy automatic bragging rights to his friends. Women who are down with threesomes are considered wild and fun, and as society becomes less censored and more open about human sexuality, threesomes are actually a commonly accepted practice. So are threesomes the new black?

Britney Spears “3″ is one of the most popular songs out there right now, but how many of you have stopped to actually listen to the words? Britney claims that threesomes are the new “in.” Well, that’s what we’re talking about today on the show. Are threesomes the new “in” or a disaster for your relationship?

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Why Are Threesomes So Popular

Guys are visual. We all know that. One naked girl = one erection. So what about two naked girls? More erections? Double the pleasure? What about if the two girls start getting sexual with each other while the man watches? Or better yet, what if the two girls start getting sexual with each other and with the above mentioned man? Guys tend to like “bigger” and “better” things, and there’s really nothing “bigger” or “better” when it comes to sex than threesomes or foursomes. Not only do you have twice – or three times – the visual stimulation, you also have several different physical sensations going on at once. When you take all emotion whatsoever out of it and think about it like a guy does – that is, looking at it from a purely physical standpoint – it’s not hard to see why threesomes are so popular. Many women enjoy threesomes as well, if they are secure and confident in themselves, their relationships and their sexuality. Sometimes, three’s not really a crowd.

Will A Threesome Destroy Your Relationship?

Some women – and men too – absolutely refuse to have an open relationship or even consider having a threesome. Some girls are afraid that if they are open to having a threesome, it will ruin their relationship. Not only can jealousy ruin a threesome, it can hurt too. It can also be hard to imagine going back to a normal sex life after introducing a threesome or a foursome. How can you ever top that? How can you ever keep your man from wanting to add another girl every time? There are definitely a lot of concerns for women when it comes to thinking about having a threesome or foursome. How can you handle those concerns?

A threesome won’t ruin a relationship or even damage it, in and of itself. It’s what can happen when there’s no clear communication between all the parties involved in the threesome, and when someone’s expectations are too high. There are, however, ways you can avoid trouble when it comes to inviting another person – or persons – into your bed.

How To Make A Threesome Successful

First, talk to your partner about having a threesome. Is it something you both want? Do you want to have a threesome just to please your partner, or is it something you would enjoy too? Making sure you’re on the same starting page is the first step. When you’ve come to the decision that having a threesome is something you and your partner would both enjoy doing together, talk to each other and establish some ground rules. What are you both expecting out of a threesome? Is your partner expecting you to have threesomes often if you’re comfortable with it, or is this a once-in-a-lifetime deal? Talk about what you’re comfortable with and what you’re not comfortable with, and how you want to deal with things that make you uncomfortable. Once you’ve reached common ground when it comes to the threesome, above all, make sure anyone else that is involved in your threesome is in the know too.

Would You Have A Threesome?

32% of users who answered our online threesome poll suggested they would “absolutely” have a threesome, no questions asked. 40% suggested they would have a threesome if they were with “the right group of friends.” Only a small percentage – 29% to be exact – suggested they wouldn’t even consider having a threesome. So are threesomes “in?” Would you have a threesome? Take our poll here, only on Ask Dan and Jennifer.

Blowjob Tip #2 – She’s In Charge, Here’s Why… (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 14:00:26 +0000

If you’re learning how to give a great blowjob, one of the best tips you can employ is being in charge and being confident of your abilities to give great head. Even if you’re new at it, being in charge can be pleasurable for both you and your partner. Here’s why!

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Why It’s Good For Him

Since most men take control during sex and even during a blowjob, logically, it doesn’t make sense that they would want to give up control, does it? But get this – most men take control during sex because they have no choice. Many women don’t know how to enjoy themselves during sex and end up lying there, making the man do all the work if he wants anything to happen. Guys are actually aching to give up control! What better way to get pleasure than to have a woman worship your penis and be completely devoted to giving you pleasure? It’s awesome! He loves it when you take control, let him lie back and enjoy the ride.

Why It’s Good For You

Taking charge when giving head is good for you because you get to do what you want to do. Don’t like a certain position? Try another one. Getting a jaw cramp? Switch to using your hand for a little while. Deep throating make you gag? Lick it like a lollipop instead. Of course you want to take his verbal and non-verbal feedback into account when using different techniques and do what he likes best, but you want to be comfortable and enjoy giving him head as much as he enjoys getting it.

Why You Need To Be Confident

It’s important to be confident – or at least appear that way – when you’re going down on your guy. Nothing ruins a great blowjob than a passive girl asking, “Am I doing this right?” or “Did I do something wrong?” Sure, you want to ask your man questions. But you want to use positive, confident phrases that assert your control, such as “Do you like this?” or “Does this feel good?” or even, “Tell me what feels good.” Your demeanor can actually make all the difference during fellatio. You want your man to relax and let go, feeling good about leaving you in the driver’s seat. Who wants to enjoy the ride with a driver who’s constantly worried they’ll wreck and asking you if they’re hitting the brakes right or accelerating properly?

A blowjob works much the same way – a guy just wants to know that you know what you’re doing (or at least perceive that you know what you’re doing) and get lost in the feeling of getting great head. So be confident and take charge! You’ll both like blowjobs a lot better if you do.

Think You Know How To Give A Great Blowjob? Take the Blowjob Quiz and find out!

Take just a minute to check out ‘Blow His Mind Tonight’: “What Your Man Secretly Wishes You Knew About Oral Sex… But Will Never, Ever Tell You To Your Face!”

Blowjob Tip #1 – Why It’s a Gift, Not an Obligation (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 13:00:58 +0000

Men love to get blowjobs – in fact, many men prefer getting oral sex to vaginal intercourse and sometimes, it’s their favorite type of stimulation of all time. Naturally, women who want to please their partners want to find out the best blowjob tips and advice so they can be an oral sex master – here’s what you want to know on how to give the best blowjob!

Oral sex is one of the most intimate gifts we can give one another. When a woman gives a man oral or manual stimulation, you are giving him a very special gift. That means you’re in charge! Here are some tips to make the experience more pleasurable for both of you.

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The Greatest Sexual Gift

When a man gives a woman oral sex, he does what he thinks will make her feel good. When a woman gives a man oral sex, she let’s him take the reins and shows her how he likes it, even to the point of physically manipulating her to maximize his own pleasure. Not only can this be uncomfortable for a woman, it doesn’t allow her to give head as a “gift” to her partner. One of the great things about oral sex is that it’s one of the best sexual gifts you can give. Since oral sex provides the giving partner no physical stimulation whatsoever, the focus is totally on the receiving partner and their pleasure. So to give oral sex to someone means you’re focusing on their pleasure and their pleasure alone. When a man takes the reins when she’s giving him a blowjob, that takes away from the fact that she’s “giving” him a sexual gift, making her feel more used than treasured.

Women In The Driver’s Seat

If you’re going to go down on him, it’s time to sit in the driver’s seat. Let your partner know that you’re in control and that you’re giving him the gift of oral sex – so he just needs to sit back and enjoy it! Blindfold him and tie his hands behind his back if you have to (which can, of course, add to the fun) but it’s important that he doesn’t try to take control while you’re giving him oral sex. If he’s not the submissive type, it may be an adjustment, but in the long run, allowing you to enjoy giving him the gift of oral sex – instead of making it an obligation or making you feel used – will give him more pleasure. He’ll like watching you enjoy it and he’ll get blowjobs more often!

Listen To His Feedback

It’s essential that you listen to his verbal and non-verbal feedback when you’re giving your partner fellatio. While you get to pleasure him how you’d like, listening to what makes him feel good is important. For example, if he lets you know verbally what he likes, make sure you incorporate that into your blowjob routine. You can also listen to your partner’s non-verbal feedback. For example, if your partner is quiet or doesn’t seem to be getting into it, change what you’re doing. If your partner starts making noise and showing that he’s really enjoying what you’re doing, keep doing what you’re doing! Otherwise, your partner should lie back, relax and enjoy your oral sex gift!

Think You Know How To Give A Great Blowjob? Take the Blowjob Quiz and find out!

Take just a minute to check out ‘Blow His Mind Tonight’: “What Your Man Secretly Wishes You Knew About Oral Sex… But Will Never, Ever Tell You To Your Face!”

Female Orgasm Tip #6 – Clitoral Circles (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 14:00:08 +0000

Whether you’re jumping in to our orgasm tips series now or have been following us since Tip #1, this next tip is going to be one of your “go to” moves in the bedroom. Tip # 6 is all about the clitoris – which almost every woman loves! While the g-spot can be difficult to find, the clitoris is usually not, and is one of the most sensitive areas on a woman’s genitals. In fact, the clitoris’ only job is to provide pleasure for a woman! It does absolutely nothing else. So watch this video and make this easy tip one of your partner’s favorites!

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Why Circles?

The clitoris is extremely sensitive – which is a good thing. But it can pose a problem if you’re angled the wrong way, because too much clitoral stimulation can be painful. For example, a tongue or finger stroke upwards from the bottom of the clitoris to the top is probably one of the worst moves you can make (except if your partner is very turned on and well lubricated). This move actually lifts the clitoral hood and exposes the sensitive inner clitoris, which can become painful if your partner isn’t turned on and for some women, it’s always painful. Clitoral circles provide stimulation to the clitoris without lifting the protective clitoral hood, giving your partner a great feeling without overdoing it.

Varying Your Strokes

All you have to do is move your tongue or finger in circles around your partner’s clitoris. It’s that simple and it’s a great technique to use during oral sex. If you’re looking for a more complicated, blow-her-mind-move, all you have to do with this stroke is vary the pressure and width of your circles. Start slowly, with wider, softer circles, and graduate to firmer, smaller circles right on the clitoris. Mix it up a little in between if you feel like it! Just remember that if you’re using your hands or fingers to make sure your nails are clean and trimmed and you use a generous dab of lube. Hangnails can hurt!

Why It Will Be One Of Her Favorite Moves

The clitoral circles technique will soon become one of your partner’s favorite moves and rightly so – it’s a fantastic feeling for her and easy for you to do! She’ll love it because she’ll get stimulation everywhere on her clitoris (and her vagina too if you use wide circles in conjunction with smaller ones) including the top, bottom and sides. Many clitoral maneuvers stick to just one area or side of the clitoris, providing pleasure but only in one spot. Clitoral circles will practically envelop her in pleasure! You can also use this technique in conjunction with clitoral sucking (not too hard) and g-spot stimulation. Don’t forget to utilize our other techniques as well while you’re using Tip #6, such as paying attention and getting your partner turned on and warmed up. As we go over each tip in the female orgasm series, it’s your job to put them all together and learn how to make them work for you so you can become the master of your partner’s orgasms – and a master of the bedroom!

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Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”

Female Orgasm Tip #5 – Are You Paying Attention? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 15:24:14 +0000

Giving a woman an orgasm can seem mystifying, but with a few tips and tricks, you’ll find yourself giving your partner more orgasms than you ever thought possible! You’ll definitely have her begging for more. So here’s another, much anticipated orgasm tip – one you need to add in the bedroom ASAP!

Do you really know how she’s feeling? Is she close to orgasm? How can you tell? Watch this video to find out!

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Awareness

Okay, awareness. That sounds kind of vague, right? Of course, but it’s an excellent principle to apply when you’re pleasuring your partner. When you’re giving your partner oral sex, massaging her g-spot or having intercourse with her, you’re trying to give her an orgasm. Simple. So why not pay attention to what she’s feeling? Sounds logical. You’d be surprised, however, at how many men think that “A + B = ORGASM” and only follow their “game plan” without being aware of how their partners are feeling in that very moment. Women, however, aren’t like mathematical formulas, and the same actions will not always get the same reaction at any given time. So to give your partner the type of orgasm she really wants, it’s time to learn how to pay attention to what she wants, how she wants it and when she wants it!

Cause And Effect

The most important part of great sex is being aware of what you’re doing and aware of your partner’s reactions to what you’re doing at all times. It sounds complicated, but it’s not. For example, if you’re giving your partner oral sex, listen to her moans, groans and body language to let you know if you’re doing it right or not. If your partner doesn’t seem into a certain move, change what you’re doing and listen and feel for the effect. Does she buck her hips, or let out a squeal? If so, keep doing what you’re doing. With every action there’s a reaction – and it may not always be in the form of “that’s perfect, stay right there” or “a little to the left” (although if you’re good at communicating with your partner, she might give you these types of directions) but she’ll definitely let you know if she’s liking what you’re doing or not in some way or another. You just have to pay attention!

Give Up Your Game Plan

To succeed at giving your partner an amazing orgasm (or many amazing orgasms) you first have to abandon your game plan. Having an idea of how to start pleasuring your partner is good, however, don’t get caught up in what you’re going to do next and after that and after that. It could all change depending on how your partner is feeling that day and what she likes. She may want it soft and subtle one day and hard and rough the next. Part of being an excellent lover and a master of female orgasms is being able to adapt yourself to your partner’s reactions and change what you’re doing based on what she’s communicating to you that she wants. Communication comes in a variety of different formats, including body language, non-descript vocalizations or straight up directions. You never know what you’re going to get, so make sure you’re paying attention for anything that comes your way and be ready to adapt to what your partner wants – she’ll be putty in your hands!

Think you understand Female Orgasms? Take the Orgasm Quiz and find out!

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”

How To Get More Sex In Your Relationship (Video)

Daniel Rose, author Sex God Method — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 14:00:45 +0000

It’s common in a long term relationship or a marriage for sex to be on the bottom of your to-do list. It may escape you how it became a “to-do” at all, but most everybody at some point in their lives find that sex comes after chores, taking care of the kids and work. Most everybody wishes it were different though! Most people want to have more sex, better sex and hotter sex! Here’s how.

Not having as much sex as you once did? Has your sex life become a total bore? Here are some great ways to spice up your sex life and make it more interesting so that you both actually want to have sex more often!

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Variety Is Key

If you want more sex in your relationship, variety is key. It’s important to have variety in the bedroom to avoid getting into a sex rut. It’s easy to fall into a sex rut – some people have sex at the same time, in the same position and do the same things each and every time they have sex. While a sexual routine can be comfortable, you tend to put off “comfortable sex” for other things. It’s important to have variety to keep sex from becoming boring or “blah.” If the sex in your relationship is never or rarely the same, you’re going to be less apt to put it off and more apt to put it first.

Long Term Relationships Have More Sexual Benefits

Believe it or not, the myth that sex is better if you have sex with lots of different people is just that – a myth. You can actually experience the best sex of your life in a long term relationship. Why is that? When you’re more comfortable with someone, it’s easier to share your fantasies with them and try new and different things. Yes, getting comfortable with someone can easily lead to “comfortable” sex, but if you put a little effort into it, being comfortable with someone can equally end up in kinkier, hotter and better sex than you’ve ever had in your life.

How To Spice Up Your Sex

Roleplaying is a great way to add something different to your sex “routine.” You can experiment with different types of roleplaying, such as switching dominant and submissive roles, or you can act out fantasies such as the “teacher” and “student” or “maid.” Costumes are fun too and can make roleplaying seem more real. Another way to spice up your sex life is to give your partner different types of orgasms. Touch different areas on your partner, such as her clitoris, her g-spot, his penis, his scrotum, and his perineum. Don’t forget nipples, lips and neck too!

You can also try new positions with your partner. Different positions will feel different sexually and stimulate different areas as well. Another great way to spice up your sex life is to check into a hotel for a night or a weekend! It’s a perfect way to get out of the house and away from your responsibilities for something fun and different.

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Sex God Method’: “If You Want to Give Women Screaming Orgasms, This Video May Be The Most Important Video You’ll Ever Watch”

Sex Toys 101: How To Buy Your First Vibrator (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 14:45:57 +0000

Many couples are discovering that vibrators and other sex toys can enhance their sex lives by adding a little fun and variety.

And with masturbation – especially female masturbation (yes, it does happen) – being somewhat taboo in society today, a woman interested in pleasuring herself may have few options. Many women choose to masturbate with vibrators or dildos, and share their sex toys with their partners. Where can you get vibrators or dildos?

But if it’s your first time, what do you start with? What is the right vibrator for you?

If you’ve been curious about vibrators, particularly about buying your first one, this is just the video for you. We’ll walk you through 5 simple steps for choosing the perfect vibrator for you. It’s easier than you’re thinking right now!

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How You’re Going To Use Your Vibrator

The first step is to decide how you’re going to use a prospective sex toy. Do you want to use it by yourself? Do you want to use it with a partner, or both? Do you need a vibrator with tittillating action, or will a non-vibrating, standard dildo do for you? Do you want something just to massage your clitoris, or would you like to use it for insertion? Do you want a toy that does double – both massaging your clitoris and inserting and stimulating your g-spot at the same time? Deciding what the most important aspects of owning a vibrator are for you is a crucial first step in finding the right vibrator for you.

What Material Do You Want Your Sex Toy Made Out Of?

There are several different types of sex toy materials available on the market today – for example, one of the newer materials is called Cyberskin and is soft and squishy, with a very real skin-like sensation. This is a great material for a penis-shaped dildo, making it more realistic. You can also buy plastic, silicone or steel vibrators, or go with softer silicone or even glass dildos or vibrators. Check out a sex toy website that will allow you to browse different materials available so you can find out what type of material intrigues you the most.

What Size And Shape Should Your Sex Toy Be?

Size and shape are very important when it comes to finding the perfect sex toy or dildo for yourself. Vibrators and dildos come in a complete variety of shapes and sizes. Do you want something small and discreet that will fit in your handbag? Or would you like a very large, very wide dildo that will bring you to the brink of the kind of pleasure you can withstand? Do you want something medium sized that will get the job done? Think about what you’re most comfortable with sexually so you can find the right size for you – it’s not a one size fits all sort of deal.

Your Vibrator’s Power Source

If you’ve decided to go with a vibrator and not a standard, non-vibrating dildo, you can run into the issues of recharging your vibrator or switching batteries. Both are good ways to charge your vibrator but both have their disadvantages. Running out of batteries (and often not having any more on hand) in the heat of the moment can be a huge disappointment, while having a cordless, rechargable vibrator can be quite expensive. Think about how convenient you want your vibrator to be by determining how often you think you’re going to use it.

You Get What You Pay For

If this is your first time vibrator or dildo, you might not be prepared to spend a hundred dollars or more on the hottest, most realistic vibrator on the market today. But you certainly are going to get what you pay for. That doesn’t mean there isn’t middle ground. Look for a dildo or vibrator that is in your price range, but the cheaper you go, the less features and power your new vibrator is going to have. You don’t have to spend a fortune, but for a good vibrator or dildo, you’re going to spend more than five bucks.

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Sex Tip: How To Give Her A G-Spot Orgasm (Video)

Daniel Rose, author Sex God Method — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 14:00:05 +0000

Finding the g-spot can be difficult, but once you’ve found it, you may feel like you’ve struck oil, or reached the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow! Hold on – you’re not done yet. Once you’ve found a woman’s g-spot (and every woman is different, but it’s located in the same general area), it’s time to give her an amazing g-spot orgasm. Many women say this is the deepest, most powerful type of orgasm they’ve ever had. So are you ready to rock your woman’s world?

Now that you’ve watched the video on how to find the g-spot, in this video you’ll find out how to give her a g-spot orgasm both with your fingers and through intercourse plus you’ll also discover the two biggest things that must happen before she’ll be able to have a g-spot orgasm. We want to know – have you ever experienced a g-spot orgasm, or know someone that has? Share with us on our YouTube page!

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Stimulating Her G-Spot With Your Fingers

Once you’ve found it, stimulating your partner’s g-spot takes a little more pressure than you would normally use if your were stimulating your partner’s clitoris. Stimulating your partner’s g-spot is actually quite simple – just rub back and forth, back and forth and side to side in a curved, “come here” motion with your fingers. Communicate with your partner to make sure you’re using the type of pressure she likes and that you’re in the right spot. Communicating with your partner sexually can be as easy as asking a question, or listening to your partner’s vocalizations and body language.

Stimulating Her G-Spot With Your Penis During Intercourse

Stimulating your partner’s g-spot during intercourse is a little bit more difficult that stimulating it with your fingers. It’s not impossible though – it just involves a little more patience and some tricky angles. The reason your fingers work so well to stimulate your partner’s g-spot is that they’re curved, and most penises aren’t curved. Therefore, you have to use different positions to angle your penis towards your partner’s g-spot. The best positions for g-spot stimulation during sexual intercourse are woman-on-top, where she can control the angle, pressure and speed of the stimulation, doggy-style, and missionary position with her legs on your shoulders. All of these positions allow for the head of the penis to more directly stimulate the g-spot, and some of them allow for g-spot stimulation in conjunction with clitoral stimulation for a possible blended orgasm.

An Essential Component To G-Spot Bliss

For a woman to have a g-spot orgasm, she must be completely and totally relaxed, and completely and totally turned on. Going from zero to sixty in a few minutes isn’t going to give your partner a g-spot orgasm, but she’s more likely to have one if you’ve spent a lot of time with your partner using foreplay, stimulating her nipples and licking her clitoris. She’s even more likely to have a g-spot orgasm if she’s had a clitoral orgasm or two first. Women who reach orgasm don’t come down completely like a man does after an orgasm – they stay at a slightly lowered state of heightened arousal, so it’s easier for them to reach multiple orgasms. A woman needs to be absolutely comfortable with her partner too – so spend time talking to each other and really getting to know each other too.

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Sex God Method’: “If You Want to Give Women Screaming Orgasms, This Video May Be The Most Important Video You’ll Ever Watch”

Sex God Method Review – How To Give Her Toe-Curling Orgasms Sooo Intense, She’ll Beg You For More

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 17:20:05 +0000

How do you get better at sex? Is there some tried and true way to improve your sexual stamina, your sexual appeal and your sexual technique? Or does it just happen? So many men ask themselves these same things every day – how can I become a sex god? How can I really, truly please my woman in bed like she’s never been pleased before?

Here are some surprising facts about sex that even the most sexually aware man probably doesn’t know:

Psychological stimulation is the most important factor in sex
Dominance is an important characteristic for a man to have if he is going to succeed during sex
Being a sexual master isn’t about learning new things, it’s about unlearning bad habits
Sex is intensely emotional and it’s impossible to hide our emotions during sex
There is no reason for a woman to be unfaithful if you rock her world every time you have sex
Perfect sexual technique sounds great on paper, but is effectively ineffective in the bedroom

It is absolutely amazing how many men out there are doing exactly the things they shouldn’t be doing if they want to become a master of sex. For example, how often does the polite, respectful man get anything other than plain, vanilla sex? What about the ultra cool, pick up artist that takes home practically every woman he sees? He doesn’t enjoy the sex, he just enjoys the thrill of the hunt.

How many guys have found themselves doing everything right in the bedroom, getting his woman to cum multiple times, having amazing sex and then all of a sudden things start to fizzle? Sex wasn’t the way it was – or it is the same way it was, it’s just not as good anymore. What’s a guy to do?

What if you could become a sex god? What if you could unlearn all of your bad behaviors and learn how to give any woman the most intense and pleasurable sex of her life? You would immediately say YES! Wouldn’t you?

We recently had the opportunity to read an amazing book on this very topic from our good friend Daniel Rose called “The Sex God Method”. To put it bluntly… He just nailed it! This is a must read book for any man – period.

The Sex God Method will teach you what you need to know to rock a woman’s world in bed. It explains everything you’ve been doing wrong, changes your entire perception about sex and teaches you the attitude you need to have if you want to be a sex master. In fact, the Sex God Method is only for men who want a total and complete makeover in the sex department – this book is definitely not for men who want an easy fix.

Here’s just a sneak peek at what the Sex God Method will show you:

The Four Principles of Sex that will turn your world upside down
How to make psychological stimulation override physical stimulation
How emotions in the bedroom can make sex the most powerful you and your partner have ever felt
How to become dominant and manhandle your woman (in a good way) to make her want more
How to tease her the right way
Using variety during sex with your partner to keep sex from getting boring
How to use extended teasing to get your girl to reach the Continuously Orgasmic State
Learn how to be a Shape shifter in bed
Eliminate limiting beliefs that get you nowhere when it comes to great sex

What is so unique about the Sex God Method is that it doesn’t teach you specific techniques that will make your woman cum over and over again, it teaches you how to be the man that makes your woman cum over and over again.

A small word of warning when it comes to the Sex God Method – while it’s theme is that women inherently want to be dominated, society teaches them that this is somehow offensive. Let your girl get hold of this book and you might get into trouble, because while the Sex God Method is revolutionary, it can easily be misconstrued by someone not in the right mindset.

Also, if you use the DEVI method taught in this book, your partner IS very likely going to become addicted to sex. She’s liable to to become absolutely addicted to your sex like a drug, and she’s going to want her fix every time you turn around. Employ the Sex God Method only if you’re willing and ready to give your sex life a complete overhaul.

“Completely original sex advice that is revolutionary and counter-intuitive. Definitely a must read for all men.” -Maxim

So if you’re ready to become a complete sex god and have your woman cumming all over you again and again, download the Sex God Method today. It might just be the best thing that ever changed your sex life.

And be sure to check out the 2 minute video on the Sex God Method website, to find out How To Avoid The Single BIGGEST Mistake Almost All Men Make In Bed.

Sick Or Sexy – When He’s Daddy In The Bedroom (Video)

Paul Carlson — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 14:42:27 +0000

Everyone has their own kinks and fantasies that they like to play out in the bedroom. Whether it’s simple, missionary on top sex, or really kinky BDSM, everyone has something they like and enjoy doing when it comes to their own sexual satisfaction. Many people enjoy talking dirty, or roleplaying in the bedroom, but is there ever a point where this can go too far?

What happens when we start carry those term of endearment into the bedroom? Watch this video to find out if it’s normal to call each other ‘mommy’ and ‘daddy,’ even when the kids aren’t around.

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Using “Mommy” And “Daddy” To Refer To Your Partner

Lots of parents call each other “Mommy” or “Daddy” in front of the kids, and sometimes when they’re alone just out of habit. This is a completely normal part of parental life, especially if you’re teaching very little ones what to call your partner. If you refer to your partner as “Jeff” all the time, but ask your little one to call him “Daddy,” she might get confused. It can definitely help teach little ones if you and your partner call each other “Mommy” and “Daddy” too. But is there ever a point where these terms of endearment aren’t normal?

Using “Mommy” And “Daddy” In The Bedroom

It may be out of habit, or it may be a bit of fun roleplaying, but sometimes the terms “Mommy” and “Daddy” get carried away in the bedroom. Some people even like to roleplay with those terms, with “Mommy” punishing her bad boy, or her partner asking, “Who’s your Daddy?” This may seem strange, or even sick, but it’s just part of roleplaying. If both partners are into it, and both partners are comfortable and emotionally mature enough to realize that it is just a roleplaying game, there’s certainly nothing wrong with it, just as there is nothing wrong with playing “teacher” in the bedroom, or “french maid.” As long as everyone involved is having fun and isn’t getting hurt, there’s no reason to think there’s something “wrong” with you. If someone becomes uncomfortable, find a new game to play. It’s as simple as that.

When It Crosses The Line

There is a point where being “Mommy” in the bedroom (or being “Daddy” for that matter) can cross the line. If you’re playing “Mommy” and your partner is thinking of his own mother, there are some psychological issues there that probably need to be addressed. Although, your partner is the only one that will ever know that, so it’s up to him to seek help if he finds that he’s having these kids of issues. Also, if being “Daddy” in the bedroom leads a man into psychological or physical abuse of his own children because he’s so into it, that is definitely a call for professional help. Other than that, it’s very hard for two, emotionally mature, consenting adults to make roleplaying “Mommy” and “Daddy” in the bedroom go too far. So what do you think? Is it sick or sexy?

When Preoccupation With The Stuff Of Life Interferes With Your Love Life

Sarah Elizabeth Malinak — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 23:00:55 +0000

There are times when the stuff of life gets in the way of good loving. Whether it’s the demands of work, raising children, or friends and family who need extra attention, life is messy and therefore demanding. My husband and I have experienced this lately and stumbled upon a cure for turning our attention back on us as a couple.

The secret to breaking free of preoccupation with the stuff of life is simple and direct. It lies in the nature of who you are as a man and a woman.

Talking Sexy

If your husband is the one who is preoccupied, find moments to talk sexy. Find double entendres in his speech and get the pair of you giggling. Without needing anything from him in return, admire something about him that you find sexy. It could be the sound of his voice, the way he rests his weight on one leg while resting his hands on his hips when he’s standing around waiting for someone, the hair around his temples graying, or the way he handled a difficult situation. Whatever you can admire about your man, do it without a need for attention. In a relaxed atmosphere, your sexy talk and admiration will soften the cloud of preoccupation hovering around him. He’ll rest his handsome eyes on you, take you in, and allow the chemistry between you to percolate.

Talking Her Up

If your wife is the one who is preoccupied, find genuine ways to compliment her. If her hair is especially pretty or her outfit is particularly becoming, tell her so. If she has just cooked a delicious meal, really pour on the praise and do one more thing. Insist on either cleaning up after supper or insist on helping. Even if she is an “I’ve gotta do it my way so don’t get in my way” kind of woman and can actually be irritated by an extra pair of helping hands, then just clear the table for her. Or find her favorite music or something on television she’s keen on to keep her company while she works.

One of the nicest ways to compliment any woman is to notice the things she does to keep the household running smoothly, tell her you appreciate it, and offer to do some of those things so that she can have time to herself to relax. Particularly when she is preoccupied with fresh demands on her, perhaps a good friend is having surgery, for example; you can anticipate some of the stuff she usually takes care of and tell her you will handle it.

Talking Magic

You probably noticed that I suggest you do two completely different things depending on the sex of the person who is preoccupied. That is purposeful, so let me explain. When your spouse is preoccupied while you pine for his or her attention, the best way to get that attention is to get inside his or her head.

Most men are crazy about sex. A woman who can tease and cajole about sexy topics gets her man in touch with the thing that connects him to his heart, sex. That kind of gentle love talk can persuade him to relax and take notice of her like a magic spell. Most women feel as though they give too much. When her man appreciates everything she does, continues to find her attractive, and is proactive about lending a helping hand, he hands her an aphrodisiac that works, again, like magic.

So break through the preoccupation with the stuff of life by putting attention on the things that will speak care, concern, and interest to your spouse the most. While the “stuff” may continue to need his or her attention, you can get a little loving attention for yourself to tide you over till life is normal again.

3 Ways To Give Her MORE Orgasms With A Smaller Penis (Video)

Daniel Rose, author Sex God Method — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 17:15:28 +0000

If you are worried that your penis is too small to give your girl an adequate orgasm, you’re not alone. Most guys are worried about their penis size, particularly that it’s not big enough. Even if your penis size is completely normal, you may still be worried that it’s not big enough to give your woman the kind of orgasms she wants. Going with the assumption that you feel you have a small penis, here are three pretty much foolproof tips to give your girlfriend or wife better orgasms – regardless of your size.

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Tip #1 – True Masculine Dominance

Even if you feel you have a small penis, having true masculine dominance will give you more clout in the bedroom. Women are inherently built to be submissive when it comes to sex (although playing with role reversal can be fun too) and when you play to that side of her nature, you can give her the impression that you are a true, dominant man. Believe it or not, this makes a huge difference in the bedroom! You can use this dominance to work around penis size to get your girl turned on mentally as well as physically. Having true masculine dominance, however, is not about being a jerk or being rude. It’s simply about taking your place as the alpha male and letting your partner get back to her instincts.

Tip #2 – Stimulate Her G-Spot

Before stimulating her G-Spot, go down on your partner a little, give her a bit of dirty talk and get her nice and wet. You want her to be very turned on before you penetrate her, so that her G-Spot will be easier to find and easier to stimulate. To compensate for what you feel may be a small penis size, you can thrust at an upward angle to access the G-Spot and give her powerful orgasms regardless of penis size. Use the angle to your advantage, and try stimulating her clitoris at the same time, for powerful blended orgasms. Practice makes perfect and if you get skilled at G-Spot sex, your girl really isn’t going to care much about the size of your penis at all.

Tip #3 – Have Bulletproof Sexual Confidence

Be comfortable with who you are, and be comfortable with yourself sexually. Even if you feel that your penis is on the smaller size of normal, if you are comfortable and confident with your sexual skills, it will show through in the bedroom. So how do you get bulletproof sexual confidence? Hone your skills. Research, study and watch videos. Take the time to learn how to truly please a woman, with more than just your penis. Your research will pay off, and you’ll know you have your sexual skills down pat. That will, in turn, make you more confident that you know what you’re doing in the bedroom, and you know how to please a woman. Nothing turns a woman off faster than a newbie who is fumbling around down there, not knowing which way is up, regardless of how huge and mighty his penis may be. Get confident with yourself, get comfortable with yourself. Be dominant, and use techniques that work with your penis size and not against it. You’ll be able to give your woman more orgasms than you ever thought possible.<

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Sex God Method’: “If You Want to Give Women Screaming Orgasms, This Video May Be The Most Important Video You’ll Ever Watch”

Female Orgasm Tip #4 – Patience And Persistence (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 00:59:36 +0000

When it comes to giving a woman a great orgasm, one of the greatest tips you can employ is actually not a “technique” at all – it’s more of an overall attitude. During sex, it’s important to embody both patience and persistence to give your girl the orgasm the really wants – and it’s just as important for the girls to embody these qualities as well! Read on to find out why!

There’s nothing more giving than a satisfied woman.” While a bit cheesy, this quote really does say it all. Watch this video to find out why a little patience and persistence can go a really long way!

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Warming Up The Oven

You might have heard a woman’s sex drive compared to an oven before, but for a very important reason. Women are exactly like ovens in the bedroom – they definitely require to preheating, or being warmed up first. This is where you’ll be tested for the first time on patience and persistence! If you’re going down on your partner, or massaging her vagina and clitoris, she’s not going to get turned on within two secons of you putting your mouth or hands down there.

You need to be patient, and allow her time to get used to the feelings you’re creating for her and warm up to them. Women can practically smell impatience, and it will turn her off immediately, making your job just that much harder, if not impossible. So exercise patience! You’ll also want to exercise persistence – it may take a few minutes to either bring her to orgasm or even to just get her reasonably turned on, so it’s important to be persistent with the maneuvers you’re making. Of course, if something’s not working, find another technique to use, but once you hit the right spot with the right technique, keep going and keep going!

Ladies Need Practice Too

Of course, practice makes perfect. Guys, you can practice your patience and persistence in the bedroom with your partner anytime you’re feeling frisky to really get yourself under control so you can give your partner the best pleasure possible. But it’s not all up to you! It’s important that women also use patience and persistence when you’re “warming up their oven.”

First of all, a woman needs to be patient with herself. She is not expected to have an orgasm in thirty seconds! Be patient and quit focusing on trying to be turned on or trying to have an orgasm. Simply be patient and let the feelings come to you. Women also need to be persistent – if something doesn’t feel right or could feel better, don’t throw up your hands in frustration and suggest a quickie instead. Be persistent in communicating with your partner what you like and what you don’t like, so he can better satisfy you.

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Have Better Sex In One Easy Step (Video)

Melody Brooke — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 13:00:51 +0000

If you’re looking to improve your sex life, you’re not the only one. Lots of married and unmarried couples of all cultures, religions and orientations want to improve their sex lives with their partner. There’s so much information on the Internet now, that it can be hard to find your way around sex tips, sex advice and what you should do if you want to have better sex with your partner. But we have it all right here – how to have better sex in just one easy step!

We all want better sex – right? Watch this video to discover the biggest problem that almost all couples have in their sex lives – and then learn how to fix it! Visit www.ThisIsGreatSex.com for more information on how to have better sex with your partner!

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Talking To Your Partner About Sex

It sounds simple enough – have better sex by talking to your partner about what you like and don’t like in bed. Also, listen to your partner when they talk to you about what they do and don’t like in bed. Sounds easy, right? Not hardly! It’s simple, yes. But easy? Of course not. Why is it so hard to talk to our partners about sex? When we want to let them know we’d rather them go a little to the left, or let them know what they’re doing feels fantastic, we clam up and don’t say anything! Our partners (and ourselves on the flip side of the coin) have no idea if what they’re doing feels good or not, and we’re pretty much in the dark. But talking to your partner about sex is one of the most important ways to make sex better for both you and your partner!

Why You’re Afraid

Many people are afraid to talk to their partners about sex because they’re afraid of rejection. If they communicate to their partners what they want in bed, such as a fantasy acted out or trying out a new position, they’re afraid they’ll be judged or rejected by their partners. Out of self protection and self preservation of our own feelings, we subconciously choose not to share with our partners what we really want in bed, because we’re afraid they’ll judge us and reject us for it.

Another reason you might be afraid to let your partner let you know what they want in bed is that you’ll be expected to perform. What if you don’t do it right? What if they want you to do something you’re uncomfortable with? You run the risk, again, of being judged and rejected. So how do you get past this block of fear so you can finally communicate with your partner about sex and start to have better sex right away?

Do Unto Others What Others Should Do Unto You

First, stop worrying so much about yourself. Focus more on your partner, and let the rest come. Give your partner the 100% judge and rejection free freedom to talk to you about sex. Let them know that they are completely free to say what they would like to say to you about sex, and make sure they know that if they give you any feedback that it is completely welcome. Encourage your partner to talk to you about sex, listen and don’t be critical when they do. Let your partner know that it is ok to talk to you about sex. Soon, your partner will allow you to be free to talk to them about sex, and you will soon have fluid, back and forth communication about sex that will make sex fun and fulfilling for both of you.

Communicating In The Moment

Communicating “in the moment” is difficult – how do you let your partner know that something they are doing feels great, or doesn’t feel very good at all? The answer to this question is quite simple – if your partner is doing something that feels fantastic, be verbal! Make noises, show pleasure with your body and vocally as well. If your partner isn’t really revving you up at all, you don’t have to do or say anything! When they change to something that is working for you, make sure they know it! Also, if you fake an orgasm, you’re only hurting yourself. Your partner will assume that what gave you the “orgasm” will work the next time and the next time, and the only thing you’ve done by faking an orgasm is teach your partner how not to please you.

Faster Female Orgasm – How To Orgasm During Sex Quickly, Easily And Every Time

Dan and Jennifer — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 16:05:27 +0000

How many women have never had an orgasm? How many women give up having an orgasm during sex because it takes too long?

How many women have to spend forever trying to have an orgasm, only to strike out most of the time?

Surprising Facts About Female Orgasms

It takes most women less than 4 minutes to reach orgasm when masturbating
A huge number of women fake their orgasms, because they know they just can’t keep up with their man
Faking orgasms can be utterly detrimental to the health of your relationship
Stressing out over sex and orgasms can actually make you lose vaginal lubrication, making an orgasm even more elusive
It IS possible to have an orgasm during sex in less than 5 minutes, even if you never have before
It IS possible to have an orgasm every time you have sex with your partner

It shouldn’t be so hard for women to be sexually satisfied, and with our friend Jessica Perez’s new book, Faster Female Orgasm – How To Orgasm During Sex Quickly, Easily And Guaranteed, women can learn what they need to know to take control of their own pleasure and start climaxing during sex! Here’s our review of this great book.

The Difference Between Men And Women

Jessica goes into great detail about the sexual differences between men and women in Faster Female Orgasm. Believing that it is important for women to understand the fundamentals of their sexual dysfunction with their partners, Jessica explains that sex for men is like a 100 meter dash, while sex for women is like a marathon. Men rush towards the finish, while women take a significant amount of time to get warmed up and to reach climax.

Most of the time, the timing is off – the man gets extremely tired of waiting for his orgasm and the woman becomes frustrated that she is taking too long to orgasm and ends up faking it. It’s incredibly refreshing for women to finally understand what is really going on in the bedroom, but what is more refreshing is Jessica’s solution to the problem – Isn’t it about time women learned to catch up to their men?

Orgasms ARE Possible For Women…

Jessica makes some pretty hefty promises at the beginning of the book, including the guarantee that you can have an orgasm in less than 5 minutes every time you have sex with your partner, even if you’ve been sleeping with the same man for years and only get an orgasm once in awhile, or have never gotten an orgasm before. Women might be wondering how Jessica can fulfill! While Jessica makes no claims that she can cure sexual dysfunction due to medical issues such as nerve problems or medication side effects, she does put every bit of effort she can into teaching women how to take control of their own pleasure so they can finally get theirs.

Here are some great things you’ll find out in Faster Female Orgasm – How To Orgasm During Sex Quickly, Easily And Guaranteed:

Detailed descriptions of female anatomy so a woman can understand how her body really works
Directions for direct and indirect clitoral stimulation, as well as what NOT to do when touching your clitoris
Directions for G-Spot stimulation during sex
How masturbation can treat sexual dysfunction
How to masturbate properly so you can begin to climax during sex
Exactly which techniques to apply during sex so you can orgasm harder and faster
Why you need to TURN OFF YOUR VIBRATOR
How to have blended orgasms, simultaneous orgasms and multiple orgasms
Detailed descriptions of sexual positions to use to set yourself up for orgasm success from the start
How fantasizing and involving your brain during sex can help you climax
How to train your man to do what you like during sex, not what he thinks you like
How to love yourself and become a sexual woman

Summary

The one downfall of Jessica Perez’s Faster Female Orgasm – How To Orgasm During Sex Quickly, Easily And Guaranteed is that it contains information from beginning to end. Depending on how you look at it, that might not be a downfall at all, because if you’re at a beginner’s skill level, you’ll need and want all of that information to start out with. For the sex vixen who just can’t get it down pat though, Jessica’s book certainly doesn’t leave anything to be desired, but you might find yourself skipping over the lengthy basics.

So if you’re a gal who wants to take control of her own sexual pleasure, get your copy of Faster Female Orgasm and get ready to start loving sex again!

While you’re at it, check out Jessica’s other great guides, for both you and your man!

Jessica Perez’s excellent book on blowjob how-to, Blow His Mind Tonight
A great article on how to have wilder orgasms, only on Ask Dan and Jennifer
Another awesome article on a new trend called Touchless Orgasms, only on Ask Dan and Jennifer

Don’t deny yourself the orgasm you DESERVE another minute! It’s time to take control of your sex life! Download Faster Female Orgasm – How To Orgasm During Sex Quickly, Easily And Guaranteed!

3 Proven Tips For Improving Your Sexual Stamina (Video)

Daniel Rose, author Sex God Method — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 00:55:12 +0000

Believe it or not, a lot of men have problems with sexual stamina – most of them just don’t last long enough in bed before a girl can get warmed up enough to start to have an orgasm. This can lead to very unsatisfied women! What can you do to improve your sexual stamina so you can spend the kind of time in bed you want – pleasuring your partner and enjoying yourself at the same time?

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Rushing Into Penetration

Penetration feels so great to guys that that’s what they’re angling for every time – and often, they rush into it! They’re so ready to get their groove on that they often forget that for a woman to have an orgasm, she needs to be warmed up properly. Most of the time, rushing into vaginal penetration is a huge turn off to women. They often don’t have enough lubrication down there if they’re not turned on, and this can even make for uncomfortable or painful sex. If a guy wants to try to last longer in bed, one popular method to try is using your brain to think of something else – for example, dead puppies or your grandmother naked. This is not the way to go guys! You know that joke about how a man only has enough blood to run either his brain or his penis, but not both at the same time? There’s some truth to that – if you’re thinking about your grandmother naked to try to get yourself to last longer in bed, you’re going to become turned off enough that your penis grows soft. Even if it doesn’t, your partner WILL notice that you’re not paying attention to her and she’ll get even more turned off. So what do you do?

Control Your Breathing

A man’s natural instinct is to start breathing hard and panting when he becomes turned on and engages in sexual activity. To help yourself to last longer, try breathing in and out normally, focusing on taking deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. Kind of like when you exercise – there’s a reason they have you breathe that way, you know. To help you last through your workout! You can apply the same concept to sex and help yourself to last longer before you have an orgasm.

Focus On Relaxation

Some men don’t give credit to mental relaxation or meditation, but it can help delay your climax during sex. When you’re penetrating your partner, focus on how it feels instead of focusing on the end result. Center yourself, and be aware of everything around you. Focus on control of the situation and the acceptance of what you’re feeling, but don’t get too deeply involved in any thought you’re having or you’ll end up in situation #1.

Relaxing Your Muscles

Our natural instincts are to tense up our muscles when we’re close to having an orgasm – it’s one of the things that actually helps us to have an orgasm. However, if you’re trying to last longer in bed, tensing up your muscles can actually be counterproductive. If you want to really relax while having sex, try using a different position, such as your woman on top, so you can lay back and enjoy the sex, rather than thrust and be in control of it.

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Is My Kinkiness Beyond All Others? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 17:00:22 +0000

Everyone has specific things they enjoy during sex, from the tame to the seemingly strange. While most people seem to fall into the so-called “normal” sex category, that is quite the opposite of the truth. Most people are actually at least a little kinky, in a number of different ways. How do you know that your kinkiness isn’t beyond all others?

I enjoy wearing a leash, collar, bit and saddle sometimes, and I sometimes enjoy being groomed. Does this qualify as a BDSM fetish? What makes people enjoy the different things they do?

–Tom, IN

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A Basis Of Comparison

First of all, trying to find out if your kinkiness is considered “abnormal,” or if it’s beyond all others, you’re really fighting a losing battle. What is considered “normal” in this society? It’s all about perception, which can easily be distorted by religion, culture and even television or movies. In reality, various fetishes are common, even though people don’t always share them with others. Most people actually think that their fetish or kink is “normal” and everyone else is “abnormal,” regardless of how strange their own kink would seem to someone else. That is the true crux of the matter – why let what other people do or don’t do or what other people think or don’t think dictate what you like to do in your own bedroom?

A Colorful Variety Of Fetishes

There are probably more fetishes out there than you could even imagine. Shoe fetishes and BDSM are commonly talked about, but what about crossdressing? Asian women and men? Smoking after sex? Roleplaying? The Princess Leia slave costume fetish? Believe it or not, everyone has a little kink in them somewhere. Fetishes can arise from anything in our lives, even something stemming from childhood. Did you really like the princesses in the cartoon fairy tales? Perhaps you enjoy dressing up as them now during sex and imagining what that would have been like in the movies. Perhaps your mother enjoyed getting her nails done at a salon and now you enjoy having sex with women who have extraordinarily long, false fingernails that they use during sex. There’s no limit to what someone can like during sex!

When Does It Cross The Line?

Fetishes and kinks may seem like an intensely gray area with no real boundaries, but it’s actually quite easy to find out if your fetish crosses the line. Does it severely hurt other people? Does it involve people or animals who don’t give their consent? Does it involve anyone who is not a legal adult? If you answered “yes” to any of those questions, it’s definitely time to seek professional help. If you answered “no” to all of those questions, you still might consider talking to an unbiased counselor if you find that your fetish is taking over your life, preventing you from having healthy relationships and living a normal life. If having your fetish involves only legal, consenting adults and no one is getting seriously hurt, and it is allowing you to live a full and healthy lifestyle both in and out of the bedroom, embrace your uniqueness and enjoy your fetish!

Tension & Relaxation – The Secrets to Guaranteed Female Orgasms

Jessica Perez, author Faster Female Orgasm — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 23:00:25 +0000

Orgasms are something around 10% of women never have, whether it is while masturbating or having sex with a loved one. This is the reason why women consult with me. A large number of them start off with confusions concerning how to become more susceptible to orgasms.

Developing equilibrium between tension and relaxation during sexual intercourse is a key issue. But is it really possible to be both tensed up and relaxed simultaneously?

Tension Makes Orgasms Possible

Muscle contraction is the kind of tautness that helps women orgasm (scientifically known as ‘myotonia’). Many females who don’t have orgasms are under the wrong perception that they just have to lay there and relax. They have heard about the importance of being relaxed during sex but what they fail to realize is that tension in the muscles is very often just as important when it comes to reaching a climax.

A lot of females have reported to having been able to reach and orgasm by tensing certain areas of their bodies. Some contract their abdominal, leg and buttock muscles. Some have even reported success while also contracting their feet muscles. Even upper body tensing has been noted to have helped women achieve an orgasm at one point or the other.

In fact, the number of women who reach an orgasm with no muscle tension at all is very small. Incidentally, muscle tautness that happen in the lower pelvis play a very important part in being able to reach a climax. You see, during an orgasm the muscles that contract automatically are the same that need to be squeezed to discontinue the stream of pee mid-flow.

The group of muscles involved here are the pubococcygeus muscle group (PC muscles) and their conscious contraction is known as a Kegel exercise. To build up arousal while engaging in sexual exploits, many women tense these PC muscles. Tensing or contracting the various muscle groups pushes blood in to the parts of the body active during sex. (The flow of blood to the groin needs to be increased to initiate arousal.)

All this talk about muscle tension surely makes one ask where the relaxation phase comes into the picture!

Relaxing Your Mind

The answer to this question is this: relaxation occurs in the mind. Relaxation during sexual activities means that you should stop worrying or thinking about anything else. Just try to be in the moment and FEEL each pleasure that washes over your body as your lover titillates you.

If you’re having problems emptying your mind and relaxing, apply the “silent radio technique”. This is the same technique that is used in post offices and public areas where long lines form. They help keep hostility low despite the long wait that people have to undergo. It can be visualized as the Times Square board sign where words stream across a screen from the left to the right and then fade away from the screen. The screens usually carry items like news highlights, horoscopes and sports.

While the above mentioned technique is being used during sex, you may find that the repetition of a mantra like “I can stay in this pleasurable state for hours,” or “this feels fantastic!” in your mental silent radio helps in keeping your mind occupied with thoughts that foster arousal instead of entertaining thoughts that decrease arousal.

A very important aspect to learning how to be more orgasmic involves these two factors that may look contradictory but make a large difference when used together in helping the sexual process reach its desired outcome.

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Better Orgasm 101

Jessica Perez, author Faster Female Orgasm — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 13:00:24 +0000

As with most anything in life, there is a learning curve one must round before attaining the proficiency and skill to succeed. Sex is no different. Were we women born to immediately know how to achieve orgasm? I think not.

It may be easier for some women solely due to chemical makeup. But the majority of us – 70% according to statistics – require active clitoral stimulation before we can achieve orgasm. The good part is that we can learn a method that will allow us to increase our sexual responsiveness during intercourse and experience climax through the act of intercourse.

Consider yourself enrolled in Better Orgasm 101. We will learn the three steps in a plan to lead you in the right direction.

Clitoral Stimulation

In the first part of your new program, you or your partner will stimulate your clitoris as you are making love. During intercourse, if the motions are distracting to you and prevent you from reaching climax, simply have your partner insert his erect penis into your vagina without movement. During this still period of intercourse, manually stimulate your clitoris until you reach orgasm. Once this is successful, have your partner get moving.

The second phase teaches you to rely less on your manual clitoral stimulation. Gradually stop touching your clitoris a certain time period before your reach climax. You will begin to let the thrusting motions of your partner propel you into orgasm. At first, the time period between ceasing clitoral stimulation and orgasm will be short.

In the third phase, you will begin to increase the amount of time between the end of clitoral stimulation and climax.

You graduate to the next level only when you have successfully passed the test of achieving orgasm through the previous level of non-clitoral stimulation. During any of these phases, you may take as long as you like to complete and pass them. There is absolutely no pressure to move at a fast clip.

Fantasizing

In fact, the psychological aspects of this process definitely need to be mentioned. Our bodies do not exist without our minds. The mind-body connection is a powerful connection that we need to learn to use to our benefit.

When practicing the phases, begin to use your mind to fantasize. It’s one hundred percent OK to do this. To enhance your sexual pleasure, fill your mind with an erotic image that you find very stimulating. This one action alone may be the trigger that sends you directly into orgasm.

It is also important to realize that you need to be in a relaxed state of mind and body when seeking the ultimate sexual pleasure. Shed any inhibitions or old-fashioned notions of what you were always taught that sex should be. Make the sex your own. Slip into a sexy negligee and feel good about yourself. Look at your reflection in the mirror and praise the way you look. Love yourself and let your partner love you.

Enjoy Different Positions

Old-fashioned notions of sex, for the most part, prevent a woman from fully enjoying her sexual experiences. You do not have to always position yourself on the bottom. You are free to get on top, lie side by side, sit down, stand up, or bend over. You are free to experiment with the things you enjoy. Try one of my favorite moves: rub your clitoris on your partner’s pubic bone when he is inside of you. This feels wonderful.

There is NOT one position or one range of motion. If you do not move your pelvis in a manner that sexually pleases you, you are forgoing a great amount of sexual pleasure. So get moving … move your hips side to side, in and out, all around. Make circles, make squares, whatever you feel.

Exercising Your Sex Muscles

As part of this sexercise program, you should also begin toning and strengthening your PC muscle – the muscle that contracts during climax. This is the same muscle that you would use to cease the stream of urine. Start by contracting this muscle in sets of 25 two times per day. Work your way up to sets of 100 twice daily.

Just as regular exercise in a gym promotes a healthy body and lifestyle, exercising our sexual muscles promotes a healthy sex life. Most women who strengthen and tone their PC muscle have an easier time of achieving orgasm through intercourse.

Research suggests that sexually active women achieve orgasm much easier than women who do not engage in sexual intercourse on a regular basis. Sexually active women love their sexuality.

With all of the practice in which you are about to engage, you will be passing all three quizzes linked to the three-part plan will flying colors. The final exam is scheduled at your convenience. Remember that the real test simply proves that you can relax and really enjoy your sexual encounters. The real test is all about increasing your responsiveness to intercourse.

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Female Orgasm Tip #3 – Why Communication Is Crucial (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 15:00:08 +0000

Giving a woman an orgasm doesn’t have to be tricky – in fact, it doesn’t even require a circus full of performances, contrary to popular belief. You might think you have to stand on your head, recite the alphabet backwards and even juggle with your feet (at the same time, of course) to give your girl the big “O,” but the truth is that nothing is further from the truth. We’re going to go into one of the more basic (but no less intimidating) aspects of giving a girl a toe curling orgasm – communication.

When you hear communication, you normally think “talking” but words are not always the best way to communicate – especially when you’re having sex. In this video, you’ll find out why non-verbal communication is so important.

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Vanilla, Chocolate or Strawberry - What’s Your Flavor?

Just like everyone has different flavor preferences when it comes to ice cream, everyone has different preference when it comes to sex. It’s a rather basic comparison, but an easy one. If you take your girl to an ice cream parlor, how do you order her ice cream? Do you ask what flavor she wants, or do you pick one for her and hope she likes it, only to find out later that it was her least favorite and she only pretended to like it to be nice? Now take that scenario and apply it to giving your girl an orgasm – do you try to find out what she likes, or just wing it and risk doing something she doesn’t like in the bedroom?

Communication Is Key

Okay, so asking your woman what she likes in the sack isn’t as easy as asking her what her favorite ice cream flavor is. It’s much more difficult – in fact, some people are incredibly shy about talking about sexual topics in general and try to avoid it at all costs. Of course, communicating verbally about what she likes in the bedroom is the better way to go about it, but you can also use different forms of non-verbal communication to give you clues about what feels good and what doesn’t. Imagine going to the ice cream parlor and instead of asking her what she likes, watch her as she browses the flavors. Is she giving you any cues about what flavor she likes, such as looking at one more than the other, or even asking for a sample and exclaiming, “Mmmmm!” You can do the same thing during sex – when you’re using a sexual technique, see how she responds to it. Is she saying, “Mmmm!” or is she perhaps using body language to suggest another technique? You can even devise a system between you and your partner to let each other know what feels good and what doesn’t, such as a special word, or a type of moan or even a special touch.

Ladies Only – A Man’s Delicate Ego

Ladies, beware a man’s delicate ego. He doesn’t like to hear criticism about his performance – in fact, he’d rather not hear about what he was doing wrong at all. So how do you let him know if he’s doing something you don’t like? It’s easy – instead of mentioning what he shouldn’t be doing, make a big deal about what he does that you do like. Did he rub you the right way and really get you going last night? Make sure you are vocal about it during the act, mention how good it felt afterwards and for good measure, mention it next week. Chances are, he’ll repeat whatever it was that he did that pushed your hot buttons.

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