1. Paint Her Body

Your woman wants you to spend some time on her this Valentine’s Day. What better way to do that than to lick and kiss all over her body, from head to toe? You can do this on your own, or you can gift your partner a delicious tub of edible body paint (or just use regular chocolate sauce) and tell her you’re going to enjoy her all night.

Draw hearts and words on her body and lick off the paint slowly, letting her savor every sensation! Just remember not to put anything with sugar on her genitals – this will give her an uncomfortable yeast infection later! That is not a Valentine’s Day gift you want to leave your lover with!

2. Steamy Sex Games

Why not break out a sexy board game for Valentine’s Day? Go with something tame like Battle Of The Sexes if you want to get competitive but not naked, or play something fun like strip poker if you don’t have anything around but cards.

If you’ve planned for it, you have some time to get a sex game that you can give as a gift. Cosmo’s Steamy Sex Games is an inventive card game, while there are many sexy board games that will get you and your lover exploring brand new things. Even something as simple as dirty dice can be hotter on Valentine’s Day!

3. The Honey Game

This is an excellent foreplay sex game if you and your partner want to have some fun this Valentine’s Day but can’t or don’t want to spend a lot of money. Simply take a dab of honey, smear it in a small area on your body, blindfold your partner and let them try to find the dab of honey with their mouth!

This is incredibly sensual, because you’ll get to feel your lover’s hot mouth all over your body! They’ll really enjoy it as well, because you’re going to give them something super special (and sexy) when they find the prize.

4. A Striptease

Ladies, don’t underestimate the value of a striptease for your lover on Valentine’s Day. The idea itself may seem played out, but unless you give your man a striptease every single day of his life (which we’re willing to bet that you don’t) then it’s an incredible gift and you should definitely do it!

Guys love to look at women. They love to look at naked women (or women in lingerie) even more. They like to look at naked women dancing the most! Surprise your partner with a well put together striptease (because a crappy one that shows you haven’t practiced or put any effort into it at all is just insulting) and he’ll really enjoy it! Plus, it’s free!

5. Really Good Wine And A Babysitter

Again, this is one of those things that seem played out, or the go-to if you can’t think of anything better. However, this is honestly one of the best Valentine’s Day gifts out there! You really don’t want to underestimate how great really good wine (and a babysitter if you have little ones) is for Valentine’s Day!

Life is hectic, especially with jobs, kids, grocery shopping, paying bills and other day to day stuff that seems to suck the life out of you and your partner. So plan a quiet evening at home and enjoy some really, really good wine. Go ahead, splurge on your favorite. Relax. You’ll enjoy this Valentine’s Day gift as much as your partner, because once she’s relaxed and the kids aren’t in the house, it’s game on. 

6. A Fantasy Box

Explore your sexual fantasies in a non-threatening way this Valentine’s Day with a simple fantasy box. Decorate an empty tissue box with all kinds of Valentine’s Day themed paper, glitter and cutouts and proceed to write your sexiest fantasies on paper and drop them in the box.

Have your lover do the same! After dinner when you’re getting started with foreplay, take turns pulling out the slips and acting out what is written down. You’ll probably get a few surprises this way, and you’ll definitely be having fun.

7. A Hot Video

Ladies, buckle down and make an amateur porn for your lover. If you can’t manage that, at least give him some sexy photos to look at. Yes, your man looks at naked women. Yes, he’d rather be looking at you naked, but he certainly can’t do that if you don’t give him any material to look at! Give him the gift of you for Valentine’s Day!

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1. Photographer & Model

This is a fun one that you don’t really need any costumes, lingerie or props for, unless you want them. All you need is a camera and whether it’s on your phone, a fancy digital camera or a crappy webcam, you can still have tons of fun with this role play game. Take turns switching between the photographer and model roles, so each of you gets to take pictures of the other. Come up with sexy poses, or take close ups of your lover’s most intimate areas.

Have a blast looking over the photos afterwards – you can even run them through a free online photo editor if you don’t have one installed on your computer to make them look even better. Delete them or keep them, it doesn’t matter. Bonus points if you have a timer and a tripod and can do photos of you and your partner together. 

2. New Age Artist

Get some body paints (edible or not, depending on what you’d like to do with them) and pretend you’re a new age artist whose canvas is your lover’s naked body. Don’t be afraid to get really into your role play and create a real work of art. If you’re actually really artistic, all the better! You can even take photos of your work and bring a bit of the photographer/model sex game into this if you like. If your body paints are edible, have fun licking them off! Don’t forget to let your partner paint you as well.

3. Mermaid Fantasy

Any guy who has ever seen Daryl Hannah in the 1980′s movie Splash has a mermaid fantasy – guaranteed. Play up on this by either renting or buying a mermaid costume. Curl your hair with loose waves (or crimp it like Daryl Hannah’s – hey, it was the 80′s, remember?) and throw some beads or seashells in there if you can. Body glitter is also great for this too – use your imagination to create a really ethereal mermaid look.

This is also an excellent bathtub sex game, but if you’ve done a lot of work on your hair and makeup, you’ll probably want to engage in a fair amount of foreplay and fun before you get soaking wet.

4. Vampire & Prey

No, this is not the kind of sex game where you beg your partner to don orange-gold contacts, body glitter and suck on ice before he kisses you. Although if your partner is into that, go for it. A real vampire/prey role play borders a little bit on the BDSM side, and can easily become an excellent game of domination if you’re into that kind of thing.

Dress the part with black clothes and smoky dark makeup. A really pouty mouth with fire engine red lipstick will complete the look if you can pull it off. Or, if your partner would rather be dominant, let him get his Bram Stoker on and you play the helpless victim. However, if you plan on doing any real biting or bloodletting, make sure you observe some safety precautions first.

5. Storybook Characters

Many guys have a bit of a fetish for storybook characters like little red riding hood or many of the Disney Princesses. Seriously though, who didn’t think that Princess Jasmine was totally hot in Aladdin – especially in her slave-to-Jafar outfit? The Princess Leia slave outfit is also a HUGE fantasy among many guys. Let the princess inside you out and dress up in your man’s favorite character. Don’t be afraid to lay it on thick either!

Military/Drill Sergeant

Again, this is an excellent role play when you want to incorporate some submission and domination. You can often find old military clothes at surplus outlets or warehouses, and they’re often pretty inexpensive. Have fun ordering your man to do push ups for you, or other naughty things like perform oral sex on you. If you like to be the submissive one, let your partner have fun ordering you around! Bonus points if you can “roll around in the grass” and get a little dirty too.

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Men are drawn to women who take their clothes off slowly. If you don’t believe me, take a trip to your local strip club and watch the dollars come flying out of their wallets. If you’re in a relationship and you only have eyes for your girlfriend or wife, a striptease can be a very sexy way to spice things up in the bedroom.

Watching her dance slowly as her clothing starts to fall to the ground can be erotic and make her feel sexy. But how do you get your girlfriend or wife to do a lap dance for you? It’s actually easier than you think. Here are a few suggestions to get you started.

Make Her Feel Sexy

Is your girlfriend or wife comfortable with her sexuality? Does she masturbate when you’re not around? Can she have an orgasm with you? If your girlfriend or wife is cold about sex, she might not be into doing a striptease for you. On the other hand, this might be a way for her to gain some of her sexuality back. Women want to feel sexy. Ask her if she’s up for it. If your girlfriend is highly sexual it might just take a few hints to get her to do a striptease for you.

Tell Her You Think It Would Be Hot

If your girlfriend or wife likes to experiment in the bedroom then this could be a next step in kink. Get some good music and tell her that it would be really sexy the next time that you’re horny. By telling her that you think it would be hot you convey confidence in her ability to turn you on.

This confidence should transfer to her and she could be more likely to do a striptease for you. Although the relationship is not all about your needs, your partner should be willing to try something that might make you happy.

Offer To Pay For Pole Dancing Classes

Made famous by Carmen Electra, pole-dancing classes have become a popular way for women to regain their sexuality and stay in shape at the same time. Consider paying for some dancing classes for your wife or girlfriend. One reason that she might not want to do a striptease for you is embarrassment or not having enough confidence. Going to a class geared toward the right moves can get her started in the right direction. While you might not have a pole in your home, she can get the gist of sexualizing her dances.

Take Her To A Strip Club

All right, this one might be a little out there, but some girls really thrive on the environment a strip club offers. Women can appreciate the body of another woman without feeling intimidating. This isn’t the same for men.

Take your girlfriend or wife to a strip club and tell her that you would love to see her doing the moves. Not only will this shower her some tips for when she’s doing a striptease for you, the whole evening can be sexualized. Get her to put a dollar down the girl’s G-string for a little added fun.

Buy Her A Video

If your partner is at all bashful about taking a class or going to a strip club, she could learn how to do a striptease for you right from her own living room. There are a ton of videos on the market that specialize in teaching women how to dance with sexuality. Taking their clothes off slowly and using their body as a tool to get you turned on is a skill that must be learned.

Look into some products that will help her get the basics and show her suggestions along the way. If you don’t like some of the dances that the videos are teaching her, tell her about it. Don’t make a big deal out of it, just say something like “I like when you do this much more.”

The body of woman is something that can make men melt like butter. With low lighting, the right music and the right lingerie, women can bring their men to the edge within a few minutes. If you would like to get your girlfriend or wife to do a striptease for you, you should ease her into it.

Being honest about your desires is essential to having a healthy and happy relationship. This interest is something that she will want to explore if she really does care about what gets you going. Don’t put any pressure on her if she doesn’t want to do it. Just let her know that you are confident in her ability to give you the best striptease you have ever had.

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There’s a time in all relationships when the sex can get mundane. Knowing exactly how long the foreplay is, what positions you’re going to do and how long it’s going to take the other person to have an orgasm becomes all to familiar. To combat this monotony, couples should branch out. Trying new things in the bedroom will not only improve your sex life, it can bring you closer together. If you’re looking for some fun sex games that you’ve never tried before, here are a few to get you started.

Timer

Timer is a great sex game to bring you closer with your partner. The concept is fairly easy to understand. Get a timer and set it for a specific amount of time. The amount of time that you set on the timer is going to determine how long you use foreplay before there is penetration. This could be 5 minutes, 10 minutes or even 20 minutes. You and your partner decide on how long you want the time to be. If you’re used to a lot of foreplay before sex, set the timer low. If you’re used to no foreplay before sex, set the time to a little longer. Foreplay tends to be a forgotten piece of the puzzle and this can bring the sizzle back into your sex lives.

Lover’s Lane

Lover’s Lane used to be a staple of high school students in the 50s and 60s. The basic concept is that you and your partner will find a place around your town where you can park and not be bothered. One of you pretends that they are a virgin and have no idea how to please the other. After you have parked, your partner will tell you and show in explicit detail how to please them. What ends up happening is your partner will tell you exactly how they like it. This can help couples that are struggling with their sex lives, but it might be a sex game that’s a little too kinky for some.

Timed Domination

A variation on the Timer game, domination puts both of you into the driver’s seat. Get a timer that has intervals on it. There are a lot of stopwatches that will signal you when a certain amount of time is up. So the basic concept is that you set the timer for an interval. During that interval either you or your partner is going to take control. When the interval is up, you switch. This is great because a lot of men and women love to be submissive, but also like to take control. This sex game is a little less kinky, but will get the job done just the same.

The List

The list is a fun sex game that can spice up any relationship no matter how monotonous the sex life has become. The basic concept relies on making a list of all the places you want to have sex in the next 3 months to a 1 year. This could be rooms in your house, movie theaters, the beach, a log cabin; whatever you can think of. If you’re shooting for a month, you and your partner should decide on about 5 a piece. If you are looking at a year, try to pick 10-15 a piece. Whenever you’ve had a hard week or you just need to blow off some steam, go to the list!

Truth Or Dare

This one’s a throwback that should take you to your best friend’s 8th grade birthday party. Truth Or Dare is a fun sex game that can bring you closer to your partner and help you get some perspective on what they love in the bedroom. If they pick truth, you can ask them about certain positions or the way that you perform certain acts. If they pick dare, you can dare them to do something that they haven’t done before. It’s probably best to set ground rules from the get go. Former relationships should be considered off limits during this game, as they can really ruin the experience.

Sex games are fun and they can breath new life into boring sex. If you really love your partner then you should try to improve your sex life. The best part about sex games is that you can find out a lot about your partner without having to prod them for information. Use these sex games in your relationship and you’re sure to see a remarkable improvement in closeness and communication in and out of the bedroom.

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Normal Sexual Progression In A Relationship

Often, sex can get pretty lame when you’re in a relationship – especially if your relationship is long term and you and your partner are monogamous. Many times what will happen in situations like these is that one or both partners start getting comfortable with the relationship and the sex, and don’t bother to use their imagination to come up with new things. It often happens to guys because once they figure out the “secret formula” to getting their girl to reach orgasm, they stick with it! They don’t want to go trying different strokes, techniques or sex positions because they found what works. If it’s not broken, why fix it, right?

This is not at all uncommon, however, that doesn’t make it any less frustrating. Girls don’t always want “A + B + C = Orgasm” sex. They want passion and variety! They want to experiment. A girl can spice things up in the bedroom but she’s got to have a game plan first.

Stop Bitching

One of the biggest reasons guys get less interested in making sex adventurous over time is because their partners get more and more comfortable griping about this and that. Women often do this because as the “warm fuzzies” begin to wear off as the relationship gets older, annoying habits start becoming more and more apparent. Most of the time, they’re not make-or-break-the-relationship types of things – but as a girl gets more comfortable with her guy, she will often want to “fix” him. She’ll think that by telling him what she doesn’t like that he’ll stop and start doing things her way.

You may think your nagging is letting him know that you don’t like a certain behavior, but all it’s really doing is killing his sex drive. He doesn’t see it as you gently guiding him in the right direction – he sees it as nagging, bitching, griping, etc. He’ll still leave his dirty underwear on the floor but he won’t bother taking yours off and throwing them down next to his.

Make An Effort To Be Sexy

While he probably thinks you’re cute in your flannel pajamas, if that’s all you’re wearing, he’s going to start seeing you as non-sexual and just wonderfully cuddly. While this can be an advantage on those cold days when you just don’t feel like doing anything but snuggling up in your man’s arms, if this is all you’re getting, you’re going to wonder what happened to make your guy not want to have sex with you as much anymore, or just not care about trying new things.

The truth is, he wants BOTH sides of you. Sweet, cuddly and wearing flannels without makeup. But other times, he wants to be reminded that he’s with an incredible sex vixen who will ride him all night long! So make a point to wear lingerie to bed sometimes. And heels. When you look sexy, you feel sexy. When you feel sexy, you look sexy. Don’t forget that confidence is truly the sexiest thing you can wear. Rock it like a bombshell and he’ll be on fire!

Don’t Underestimate Sex Games

A fantasy box is an incredibly fun, non-threatening way to introduce your lover to new things and ideas when it comes giving him sex tips and letting him know what you want in bed. This can be as simple or as elaborate as you and your partner want it to be. You can indulge your crafty side and make a fun fantasy box, or use something you have around the house. The more you put into this fun sex game, the more you get out of it. That is, unless you have some damn good imagination. If you do though, it won’t matter one bit if all you have is bar napkins and a Styrofoam cup.

With the “fantasy box” sex game, you and your partner each get to write a secret fantasy that you’d like to try out. Write a few down, three from each of you is a fun number to start with. What you actually write down can range from tame to super kinky, but agree on how hot you’re going to get before you start – you can always start small and up the ante later. It will be pretty awkward if you write down “Spank my ass hard and call me your whore while having sex doggy style” and his says “french kiss for 10 minutes.”  Consider thinking of different “levels” of how hot you want it to be, and decide on a “level” before you start writing down your ideas.

Throw your slips of paper in the box, mix them up and take turns fishing them out. You will, of course, have much more fun trying them out! This is often all that is needed to rev up a “vanilla” guy – simply because they don’t see the fantasy box as a threat to their ego/manhood/pride like they would if you outright told him what he was doing wrong and gave him sex tips.

Reward Him

Men are awesome like puppies – loving, playful and in need of praise when they do something right. When your man does something especially hot that you’re totally into, make some noise! Do NOT let the opportunity slip away – if he doesn’t hear anything, he’s going to assume he’s done something you don’t like and move on to the next ideas or sex tips. So if you don’t let him know when he does something spot on, you’re really screwing yourself because he’ll never learn what you like!

Let him know how much it turns you on when he does something good. Also, reward him by doing something he really enjoys – like giving him an amazing blowjob. This doesn’t apply only to sex either. You can mix and match. Reward him for a sweet gesture like filling up your car with gas by giving him road head. Or taking him on an impromptu shopping spree at the manly store of his choice. Either way, so long as you reward him for anything he does that pleases you. Because when you do, he’ll want to do it again!

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It is natural for a relationship to grow dull at each passing years of being together. It is the responsibility of both the man and the woman to do something in order to liven up their sex life. It may be hard for couples to think of what they can do to keep the passions burning in their relationship. The answer to this is to play an adult sex game while inside the bedroom.

Below are three fun and exhilarating sex games that can guarantee you and your woman a more satisfying sexual union!

Be An Audience

One of the most exciting bedroom rituals is in watching your partner masturbate. Let’s face it – we all have skeletons in our closets. Deep inside, we all have a voyeuristic attitude where we find enjoyment in viewing a sexually stimulating act. And when seeing your partner pleasuring herself in front of you, you are also unleashing your wild persona.

Pick your favorite position in bed as she pleases herself with very sensual moves. After she is done, you may handle the rest of the job on her behalf. Then you will arrive at a point where you will no longer have those inhibitions and you’ll just be dominated by the euphoria of having those intimate moments.

You will not only be sexually gratified by what you are seeing but you will also know everything when it comes to your woman’s pleasure points. And when you know how you can give her the addictive ecstasy, you can do better in making her feel blissful the next time you get her to bed!

Enjoy A “Movie Night” Together

This entails watching an erotic film together during one of your intimate nights. Pick any suggestive videos, which both you and your woman would prefer. Be sure to pay close attention to the scenes in the media material because after viewing some of them, you should be ready to relive each moment. You can do the remakes of the scenes and let these run for 15 to 20 minutes. Like with the first idea, you will be able to learn about things that will keep your other half heated up!

Give An Erotic Massage

The kneading of fingers along each other’s body is a key factor in keeping the sexual bond stronger. The use of fragrant oil plus those heavy yet gentle caresses all over her body is what makes those sexual encounters more exciting.

Of course, there are proper ways to perform a sensuous body massage on her. For example:

Purchase hot oil and plastic sheets for the warm effect on her body. You can heat up the oil, which you will use later on her body.

To begin the massage, pour generous amounts of oil on your hand and rub it all over her body. Then give her a very soothing body massage, which will brighten up her mood. Once she is ready, you may proceed to touch her more private areas. But never forget that you are doing this as a way to give her comfort!

Using body massage is like hitting two birds with one stone. You are not only giving your partner the relief her body badly needs, you are also leading her to a more sexually-pleasurable experience that she will never forget!

Try out these three suggested sex games and you’ll be surprised at how electrifying these can be when mixed with your usual bedroom activities!

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I love chocolates—and I know it’s not only me who has a passion for Hershey’s Kisses and M&Ms. These sweets are believed to be aphrodisiacs and let me say now that I believe it 100%! After all, romance, passion, foreplay and sex are all heavily affected by your mind right? And if you believe that chocolates can help bring out the ‘wild woman’ out of your partner, then so be it!

Chocolate Is Actually Good For You!

Chocolates can do wonderful effects on our body. Since they are made from plants, they inherently contain natural components that promote good health. In fact, it is said that dark chocolates reduce high blood pressure. A small bar is enough to also lower bad cholesterol in the body. Eating chocolates gives an immediate boost of energy and vigor. Moreover—and also very fortunately—chocolates have also been found to have a certain effect on one’s desire for sexual activity.

They are said to strengthen a woman’s libido, resulting in an increased interest and desire for sex. As for men, chocolates stimulate passion and vitality and a remarkable increase in sexual desire can be noted. No wonder men always resort to chocolates when they date women!

A History On Chocolate

According to aphrodisiac history, the belief started with the Mayans, who drank chocolate for fertility. They would even use a chocolate drink concoction during marriage ceremonies. In very recent studies though, chocolates have been discovered to have phenylethylamine, a chemical that’s detected when one falls in love. And get this: the same chemical rises up to the brain during an orgasm!

Serotonin is also known to be present in chocolates. This chemical gives one a feeling of pleasure. These two substances are mildly addictive. But women are known to be more susceptible to the effects of phenylethylamine, thus making women more ‘chocoholic.’

If you’re still not convinced, then maybe results of a study (by Italian researchers no less!) published in The Times in 2004 will. According to that research, “Women who have a daily intake of chocolate showed higher levels of desire than women who did not have this habit. Chocolate can have a positive physiological impact on a woman’s sexuality.”

Chocolate As A Sex Tool

Now, if feeding your woman chocolates does not give you a hard-on or if she just ends up eating the whole box without even giving you a second glance, then there’s something wrong with your delivery.

That’s right. Chocolates are so common now that they don’t really conjure up images of sex right away so don’t just buy the average chocolate bonbon. Why not try Kama Sutra chocolates! That’s right; there are chocolate bars being sold online now that are shaped specifically to match Kama Sutra sex positions!

If you want to take this a step further, cook up your own Kama Sutra-shaped chocolates and incorporate them into your sex games. But this time, add some chili flakes to increase the aphrodisiac factor. Now what can be better than vanilla ice cream topped with warmed chocolate? That would be vanilla ice cream and warm chocolate eaten off your lover’s body!

Put some melted vanilla ice cream on your lover’s naked breasts and lap it up! Now, immediately follow this up with some warm chocolate sauce and suck off all of that too! Other areas you can try this are her neck (yes, her neck!) and of course her vagina!

Here’s another idea. Why not buy edible chocolate undies? Present this to your woman; urge her to try it on with one promise – that SHE will be your dessert tonight! You can also turn the tables around of course. Put on a chocolate-flavored condom and ask her to give you a blowjob. Incorporate these into your sex games and you’ll both be performing oral sex with gusto!

Another great option is edible body chocolate paint that should be applied with a very soft and tender paint brush. Imagine how she would feel as you glide that tickly, feathery, chocolate-laden brush all over her body. By the time you reach her groin, she’ll be panting like crazy!

There is truly no end to the wonders of chocolate as an aphrodisiac! In fact, I dare say that of all the aphrodisiacs that are popularly known, chocolates are the most readily available, are some of the most inexpensive to buy, are a joy to be eaten by both men and women, and are actually believed by scientists to increase sexual appetite!

So what are you waiting for? If I were you, I’d be running out the door to get some chocolates now!

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The Alphabet Or Spelling Game

This cunnilingus game is very easy to do. Using your tongue, simply write out a letter of the alphabet and make her guess what that letter is. For the more ‘advanced’ players, you can move on to spelling certain words or phrases like “I love you” or “Horny.” Not only does this game make cunnilingus more exciting, it also helps to put a nervous woman at ease because she’s forced to focus on deciphering your letters or words than on any insecurities she may have.

The Hot n’ Cold Game

This game makes use of ice cubes or ice cream. Simply lavish her vagina with your licking and then take a short pause to put an ice cube in your mouth for a few seconds. Take out the ice cube and go directly back to licking her! The hot and cold sensations on her vagina will drive her wild. Guaranteed! For variation, a bowl of ice cream beside you will also be great.

The Soft n’ Rough Game

According to many women, the best licking is the soft, steady and slow licks. But just as when she’s already relaxed and into your cunnilingus play, change your licking style a little and ‘rough her up’ a bit. Go from slow and soft, to fast and hard licking just to shock her. Then go back again to slow and soft.

Warning: Do NOT do this when she’s already hot and shouting “Yes! Yes!” because this means that you’ve already hit the winning motion and she’s really turned on now or about to orgasm. In this scenario, the last thing she needs is for you to change or alter what you’re doing. Got it?

The ‘Food Plate’

I personally love this cunnilingus variation! Here, her vagina becomes a veritable plate of delicious food offerings waiting for you to be devoured. My lover specifically enjoys this when he’s hungry (literally!) so that he’s really into eating the food placed on top of my vagina.

The food you use is really all up to you guys so long as they are in small, bite-size pieces. For example, you can have some cut-up fruit, some sushi pieces, and of course whipped cream figures in this equation most of the time.

The Exhibitionist

In this particular cunnilingus game, you play the spectator and she the performer, at least at the start. May women, claim that their men have no clues how to please them ‘down there.’ For men, they equally claim that it’s not as if there’s a manual to cunnilingus. Furthermore, many women are actually shy or inhibited during cunnilingus that it’s hard to decipher what they do and don’t like.

Well, this game ends the speculation. First, the man sits on a chair opposite the bed. The woman who’s lying on the bed, with her legs spread and facing him, then begins to masturbate. This is a gigantic turn-on for him, making him want to eat her out all the more. But more than that, the ‘show’ actually enables him to know how she wants to be touched and licked.

Just when she’s really wet and into pleasing herself, get out of the chair and do cunnilingus on her!

Three’s NOT A Crowd

If you’re the really adventurous type of couple then a threesome is not out of the question, right? For most couples I know, they prefer the 2 women, 1 man combo. This is because most men have fantasies of being in bed with more than one woman anyway. As for the woman, it’s not really hard for her to imagine being made love to by another woman as opposed to men thinking of having sex with other men.

In this cunnilingus game, you and the 3rd person can simply take turns eating your woman out or she can focus on your partner’s other glorious parts while you perform cunnilingus on her.

Whatever game you choose to do tonight, focus on fun, pleasure, while being responsible at the same time!

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Have you ever seen the TV show the Wheel of Fortune? Well, this sex game is a sexy and naughty deviation of that TV game show. It’s a great way to engage in various lovemaking positions with your partner. And as such, it takes away a lot of the routine and boredom you guys may be experiencing inside the bedroom.

These are the things you need to keep in mind to ensure a great experience.

Romantic Shower Or Bath Setting

Prepare the bathtub if you have one; if not, a shower stall is great as well. Dim the lights, play some romantic music, and light some scented candles. This sex game may take a while so brining in some drinks (wine, champagne) and some food items (cheese, crackers, grapes) is not a bad idea.

Get In The Right Mood/Frame Of Mind

Like any sex game, it really won’t work if you just, you know, get on with it. Remember that the brain in the biggest sex muscle of all so you need to stimulate that first. So start with a relaxing shower together or give your partner a sensual massage. Just when your lover is a bit primed, engage in some heavy foreplay. This is necessary because the actual game is based more on sexual positions.

Getting The Game Board Ready

This type of sex game paraphernalia can be bought in sex games. They come complete with suction cups too so you can easily attach them against the wall or on the glass of your shower stall. (Of course, you can also create your own.)

When buying one try to find that has two wheels on it; one that tells time (30 seconds, 3 minutes, 10 minutes, etc.) and one that indicates a photo of the sex position. Wherever the wheel stops, you guys must do whatever the image indicates for the time period the second wheel says!

Admittedly, there are some limitations to what sex positions a couple can engage in inside a shower stall or inside a bathtub so here’s a quick rundown for you.

• Woman on top. That’s right. Just lie down in the rub and let the water embrace you as she gets on top and does her thing.
• Standing doggy style. This is just the classic ‘from behind’ move but in this scenario, both of you are standing up. (Shower head spraying water on you guys a must!)
• Bent doggy style. This is just the classic ‘from behind’ move but in this scenario, you’re standing up while she bends and braces herself against the bathroom wall. (Shower head spraying water on you guys a must!)
• Hanging lotus. In this lovemaking position, you guys are face-to-face. You’re standing up while her arms embrace your neck, and her legs wrap around your torso. (Shower head spraying water on you guys a must again!) And yes, you need stamina for this move!
• On the counter. In this lovemaking position, you move out of the bathtub and/or shower stall and place her, sitting, on top of the bathroom counter. You get the added bonus of making love to her while watching yourself in the bathroom mirror!

In this sex game there are no losers only sexual pleasures!

How To Make It More Exciting

As if this sex game is not hot enough, there are still some things you can add or incorporate to tweak this sex game more to your liking. Here are some ideas.

Don’t just have images of lovemaking positions; add foreplay and/or genitalia images as well. For instance, if the arrow on the wheel lands on say, his penis, and on the time 30 seconds, then she gets to do whatever she wants to do on that body part (and vice versa of course).

If, for some reason, one is not able to carry out the activity for the said amount of time, there is a penalty. This penalty can be in the form of missing a turn to spin the wheel to being ‘limited’ in one way or the other. For example, one of his or her writs can be handcuffed to something to limit movement. A blindfold can also be used, inhibiting sight as well as making the search for the ‘target’ much more exciting!

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Your sex life should never be a routine. That’s why it’s important to engage in BOTH simple and more complex sex games. One benefit of the latter is that the longer you delay actual lovemaking, the hotter you guys are by that time!

This sex game is designed for super extended foreplay. The goal is to reach the 12th night without having intercourse, making the 12th night one of intense lovemaking. Here’s a sample outline you can use.

1. Romantic Dinner

Have a romantic dinner either at home or at a fancy restaurant. While dining, play footsie and/or indulge in a little bit of groping underneath the table.

2. Cuddling

Sprinkle red roses in bed, light some candles and play some soft music, and then just cuddle each other till you sleep.

3. Play Strip Poker

Play strip poker and once all your or your partner’s clothes are off, engage in a little dry rubbing, but that’s it! Don’t engage in having sex.

4. “Silent Dirty Words”

Play “silent dirty words.” Get a pen and blank sheet of paper each. Write a dirty word or phrase on the piece of paper, tear it off and hand it to your lover. Your lover reads it and then drops it in a bowl. Now it’s her turn to write another dirty word or phrase and hand it off to you. Do not talk in between this exercise.

Just write, show the words and that’s it. The ‘loser’ is the one who runs out of dirty words first. (You will notice that at the end of this exercise, you guys have just collected a bowl of dirty phrases you can use for a future game!) After the game has ended, laugh it off, have a bowl of ice cream or something and go to bed.

5. Play Naked Twister

Play sexy twister. Take out the twister mat or board and play a traditional game of Twister – naked.

6. Oral Sex

It’s the sixth day, give yourselves a little bit of reprieve by engaging in some hot oral sex. You can bring each other to a climax but do NOT engage in intercourse.

7. Leave Your Porn Out

“Accidentally” leave out some adult-rated reading material for your lover to see and glance over. Make sure the erotica is hot enough to really bring about lust in your partner. When she asks you about it, feign innocence!

8. Sexual Massage

Give each other a sexual massage. Be naughty and daring but do not engage in lovemaking. You can engage in oral pleasure but not to the point of bringing on a climax.

9. Have Phone Sex

Give your partner a call at an odd hour of the day, say 2 PM or whenever she least expects it, and engage in some phone sex. Don’t go too far; just get each other excited. After that, say you probably dialed the wrong number and hang up, or change your voice to ‘normal’ and simply say “love you honey, see you tonight for dinner” and then hang up.

10. Read Online Erotica Together

Go online together tonight and preview a few adult-rated literotica.

11. Sexting

Send naughty messages to your lover all throughout the day! Send a sex joke via SMS, email a long and dirty joke, and others. By the time you see each other tonight, pretend like nothing happened!

12. Make Amateur Porn

Shoot a short erotic video of yourself. Don’t go all the way. Instead, at the end of the video, look into the camera and tell your lover where you should meet tonight. It can be a hotel room, motel room or your own bedroom but fancily dressed up. The minute your lover enters the location you indicated on the video, do not engage in foreplay whatsoever! After all these days, your pent up feelings will be enough for one of the hottest moments of your life!

This sex game is designed to bring about so many things in your relationship. It’s a sex game of creativity and control. But its real goal is to make each day one of heightened sexual pleasure and longing for each other. Can you imagine how you guys will come together by the 12th night after all that waiting and sexual highs and lows?!? Give this extended sex game a try and be sure to do it more than once a year!

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Hi Dan and Jennifer – loving the great advice! My girlfriend and I want to try some bondage, but we’ve never done it before and don’t really know where to start, any advice?

–YouTube Viewer

Beginner’s Bondage Kits

No, you don’t have to go out and buy yards and yards of heavy duty rope to begin with a little BDSM. Lots of companies make excellent beginner’s bondage kits that have everything you need to get it on. While there’s probably some stuff you could use at home such as a spatula for spanking or a silk tie as a rope or a blindfold, a kit is going to be a lot more fun – and a lot sexier. What is great about the beginner’s kits is that they’re pretty softcore, so they’re really not going to scare anyone off.

Our Recommendations:

Fetish Fantasy Series Beginner’s Bondage Set

Comes with 4 velvety soft cuffs with silky ties, a feather tickler, 2 romantic candles and a satiny smooth blindfold so your partner doesn’t know what you’re going to do next!

Fetish Fantasy Series Pleasure Bondage Set

This one also includes soft ankle and wrist cuffs, but the cuffs can be connected using a sturdy O-ring. An inflatable pillow and a silky blindfold come with, but those who want to get a little freakier will enjoy the soft, breathable gag.

Play Sex Games

Playing sex games with your partner can be a lot of fun, and it can not only lead you and your lover to a night of intense passion, it can also teach you more about what you and your partner like in bed. Sex doesn’t always have to be serious, and that’s why playing a game can be so much fun – it lets you remember that sex is all about having fun, laughing and enjoying your partner. Go on a sexy scavenger hunt or play a game of titillating truth or dare. You’ll be amazed at how much you can discover about yourself and your lover when you play sex games together.

Our Recommendations:

Cosmo’s Steamy Sex Games

Straight from the sexperts from Cosmopolitan comes 118 super fun cards that will spark your imagination with tons of sexy new ideas for things you can do together.

3 Deck Sex Pack

Get three decks of sexy card games and never run out of ideas for new and exciting things you can do with your lover. Included are card games Sex, Porn and Naked! Compete to see who owns the most porn or the classic-but-always-fun strip poker.

Bondage At Home

There are definitely some things at home that you can use for BDSM, but many of them aren’t recommended. It’s much better to use things that are made for what you’re doing (such as lube instead of spit), and even though it’s a little more expensive, getting great, high quality sex toys that you can use over and over again is well worth the investment. Nevertheless, here are some things you can use at home:

• A silk tie can function as a blindfold or hand/feet restraints
• A spatula can make a great paddle
• A feather duster (wash it first!) makes a neat tickler

How To Know When To Stop

When you really start getting into BDSM, role play and domination and submission, the word “stop” doesn’t always mean stop. When you’re getting into kinky sex, it’s so important to have something called a “safe word.” A safe word functions as the word “stop,” meaning that if the safe word is used, all activity stops immediately.

Before you and your partner get it on, agree on a safe word to use. Make sure that it’s not something that you would normally call out during sex play, and words like “no” or “stop” aren’t going to work. Try something like “purple pony” or “turkey sandwich” so there’s no mistaking that the play needs to cease immediately if the word is used. Always honor the safe word, even if you think that everything is fine and nobody is getting hurt. Part of having a great time with BDSM and kink is to be able to completely trust and let go with your partner – so make sure that if the safe word is used, you cool it right away.

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Domination Vs. Submission

Very few people enjoy both domination and submission, so it’s safe to say you generally like one or the other. Now, domination and submission doesn’t always involve BDSM or sex escapades that are really out there. You can definitely experiment with dominant and submissive roles in the bedroom without getting too crazy.

Are You A Dominant Personality?

Think about what turns you on – do you like being in a position of power over your partner? Do you like to tell your partner what to do to you? If so, you may have a dominant personality. If you know you have a little bit of a dominant personality, take it a step further in the bedroom and really bring out your alter ego. No, you don’t have to bring out the whips and chains. Here are some easy ways to experiment with domination without going too far.

• Order your partner around. Have them do sexy things for you or to you.
• Try light spanking. Tell your partner that they’ve been “naughty” and need reprimanding.
• Experiment with a little bondage. A silk tie makes a great blindfold or impromptu handcuffs. You don’t have to bring out the heavy duty rope to have a little fun with tying your partner up or taking away their sense of sight.

Are You A Submissive Personality?

If the idea of being dominant over your partner just doesn’t do it for you, but the idea of them being a little dominant over you intrigues you, you may be more of a submissive personality. Think about receiving a spanking from your lover or having your lover tell you what to do to them. Does it turn you on? If the idea sparks some interest but you’ve never tried it before, here are some ways to start to bring out your submissive personality.

• Tell your partner that you’ve been very, very “bad” and need to be reprimanded. See if they catch your drift.
• Let your partner gently tie your hands behind your back while they tease you, leaving you helpless to stop what they’re doing to you.
• Get on your hands and knees in front of your partner. Crawl towards him slowly before unzipping his pants for a blowjob.
• Let your partner use sex toys on you. This can be even more fun with a blindfold because you’re not sure what they’re going to use next!

Playing Pretend

You may think that playing pretend is for kids, but you can turn it into sex games to make it a more adult activity. Think about different roles that would work with your inner personality. For example:

Fun Role Play For A Dominant Personality

• Have your partner be a “dog” while you be the owner. This is a great role to use when you want your partner to perform oral sex on you.
• Act out a teacher/student fantasy. Give your partner a test and then tell them that they failed it and you need to “tutor” them on how to do it correctly.
• Be a dirty cop. “Arrest” your partner for a crime and keep them hostage until they “earn” their way to freedom.
• Try being a sexy nurse. Have your partner assume the role of a wounded patient that needs your immediate “medical” attention.
• Capitalize on the recent craze in vampires and approach your partner wearing a pair of sexy fangs. Let them know you’re not out to suck their blood though – and you can prove it by showing them what you do want to suck on!

Fun Role Play For A Submissive Personality

• Act as a French maid, or a maid of any kind. Clean up after your partner, or “serve” them sexually.
• Try adopting the personality of a “school girl.” This can be with or without an outfit, but an outfit will make you look and feel more submissive to your lover in this role.
• Look for a Princess Leia slave costume and act out the role with your partner. Surprisingly, a ton of guys – especially Star Wars fans – dig this sex fantasy.
• Have your partner act out the part of a sexy firefighter that rescues you from a burning building or from being trapped in a car.
• Don an Indian girl costume and have your partner assume the role of “John Smith.”
• Be Little Red Riding Hood while your partner acts as  the wolf – and completely takes you over.

Bring In Costumes

While you may feel a little shy about wearing a sexy costume, but even just a few props can make the role play feel more realistic and be a lot more fun! Even home made costumes can really make a difference! Consider getting a few things to make your role play more fun, such as a red cloak to be Little Red Riding Hood or a sexy police costume to act out the role of a dirty cop. If you can’t get your hands on an adult costume, here are some easy things you can grab from your house and turn into a sexy prop:

• A white dress shirt can be tied at the waist and paired with a skirt for a “sexy school girl” outfit.
• A bikini with a few silk ivy leaves glued to it can easily make a sexy “Eve” costume for an Adam and Eve role play.
• A cut up sheet can suffice as a Pocahontas or Indian outfit.
• Check out thrift stores in your area – you’ll be surprised at what you can find if you use your imagination!

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1. Invest In A Good Bondage Rope

Tying your partner up and having your way with them (or vice versa) is a great way to experiment with kinky sex on Valentine’s Day. However, if you’re tempted to just scare up some rope out of the garage, you’re in for a disappointment – or worse – severe rope burns. If you want to experiment with bondage, it is definitely in your best interest to invest in some good rope that is made for bondage. There are lots of different styles of rope available, ranging from synthetic materials in a variety of braid patterns to all natural hemp rope. Japanese bondage rope is a favorite among BDSM fans because of its softness, durability and comfort.

2. Try Anal Sex

If you’re open to the idea of anal sex, Valentine’s Day is a great day to try it for the first time. Lots of people – both men and women – enjoy the feeling of anal sex not only because it stimulates nerves and pleasure points that vaginal intercourse can’t reach, but also because it’s considered “naughty” or “taboo.” If you’re a first-timer, start small and work your way up. Don’t jump right into kinky sex through the back door without having experimented with either fingers or small sex toys first – if you do, you’ll be sorry. If you use sex toys for anal play, make sure they have a wide, flared base at the bottom (or a ring). This will prevent the object from getting lost inside (yes, that can happen). Don’t forget to use lots and lots of good, water based lube and never a desensitizing lube.

3. Dirty Talk

For vanilla sex lovers who just aren’t into kinky sex but want to try something a little on the wild side, dirty talk is right up your alley for Valentine’s Day. Dirty talk is a great way to let your inhibitions go with your partner – and also let them know what you want and what you like sexually! If you’re shy, practice talking dirty before you actually hop in the bed with your lover. You can practice dirty talk in front of a mirror to yourself, or simply imagine what you might say and how you might say it. If you lock up during sex and can’t seem to get a word out, simply try describing what your partner is doing (and how much you like it) or tell them what you’re going to do (and how much you like it). You get the idea.

4. Watch Porn Together

Porn comes in just about every flavor – whether you like it soft, hard, vanilla or straight up dark chocolate. If you’re too shy to try kinky sex for real this Valentine’s Day, watch a porn with your partner that showcases what you think is hot and what you might like to try. You never know, you just might get in the mood to do something a little freaky after the movie is over! Communicate with your partner beforehand about what they like and don’t like, so you can make sure you get something that is acceptable for both of you. If you’re not sure what you want to try, visit a free porn site like YouPorn and watch a few different videos until you and your partner find something that entices both of you.

5. Adding Sex Toys Into The Mix

If the bottom drawer in your bedroom nightstand is pretty empty, consider filling it with a few choice sex toys this Valentine’s Day. Sex toys are a great way to enter the foray of kinky sex, and most women are familiar with at least the standard vibrator. Choose a sex toy that just slightly outside your own personal box for something new and exciting. Love anal sex? Try anal beads or a prostate massager. Like getting your nipples pinched during oral sex? Try vibrating nipple clamps for some hands free fun. Use your creativity and choose a few sex toys that you’ve been thinking about trying but haven’t had the guts to do it yet.

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Cosmo’s Steamy Sex Games Kit

Cosmopolitan – a popular love and sex magazine – has created a one of a kind sex games kit that includes several different games to play with your partner on Valentine’s Day (or whichever day you choose). Try a sexy scavenger hunt, dirty truth or dare, daring dice or sexy tarot cards. There are literally a dozen different games to choose from, so you and your lover definitely won’t get bored any time soon. Printed on super colorful cards, for $10, Cosmo’s Steamy Sex Games Kit is something you just can’t pass up.

Pros: Inexpensive and you can use it over and over again

Cons: You’ll want to use it on more than just Valentine’s Day – but is that really a con?

Oral Sex Dice

Dice may seem played out when it comes to sex games, but Adam & Eve’s Oral Sex Dice will still help you turn up the heat in the bedroom with just a flick of your wrist this Valentine’s Day. Instead of just heading south of the border to give your partner some oral sex, throw these dice around and see where else you can put your mouth and tongue to titillate your lover. Great for couples or even threesomes or foursomes, they’re a super cheap (only $6!) way to make oral sex even steamier than before.

Pros: Super cheap way to spice up oral sex with your lover

Cons: These can only take you so far before you’ve exhausted all of the different options

Sex! Card Game

Another great yet inexpensive card style sex game can help you and your partner ramp up your sex life and get you both hungry for more. The Sex! Card Game focuses mostly on sex positions, but is color coded according to foreplay ideas, scorching hot sex positions and much more in between. Play fun games like Fortune Teller, Lover’s Libido or Ultimate Fantasy! Again, just $10 gets you the deck of cards and a night full of unlimited passion!

Pros: Inexpensive card games are an easy way to light the fire under your sexual imagination on Valentine’s Day

Cons: There really are a lot of card style sex games out there, isn’t there?

Silver Beaded Rope And Whip

Take your bondage fantasies to the next level with a gorgeous silver beaded rope and whip kit this Valentine’s Day. For only $20, you get the super fun silver beaded rope (which is great for experimenting with restraint in dozens of different sex positions), a matching whip to tease and titillate your partner, and a free love mask to blindfold your lover with and have your way with them. For the price, this is a really pretty kit that will be a great addition to your collection of sex toys.

Pros: A pretty beaded rope and sexy love mask may entice even the most conservative folks

Cons: The price is a little steep if you’re trying to go the cheap route

Sex Casino Game

For a totally different “spin” on sex games, try the Sex Casino Game from Adam & Eve. This cute little game clocks in at just $20 and includes a spinner, dice, sexual favor betting chips, scratch-off lotto tickets and a manual with 25 different sex games to try in the bedroom. You and your partner definitely won’t get bored with the Sex Casino Game, because there are so many different things to try. You’ll have fun staying up late and spinning, rolling and scratching to see who gets the biggest orgasm!

Pros: Different things to try all night long

Cons: Some of the items in this sex games kit are one time use only

Oral Sex Essentials Kit

Who doesn’t want a blowjob on Valentine’s Day? Make it hotter with the Oral Sex Essentials Kit, which includes desensitizing spray for deep throating, flavored lubes for both him and her, and BJ Blast Oral Sex Candy that pops and sizzles like Pop Rocks! At $15, you’re getting everything you need for an oral sex-fest that will make your partner squirm.

Pros: Lots of different items to try to see which you like best

Cons: If you want more stuff for her, try the Good Head Kit For Her too

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Ben Wa Balls

Ben Wa balls make an excellent Valentine’s Day gift because it is something that will not only titillate you and your partner tonight, they can help make your sex life better in the long run too. Ben Wa balls are small ball-shaped sex toys that are inserted into the vagina and held there. This will exercise the kegel muscles (the muscles used to stop the flow of urine). They can enhance g-spot orgasms during oral sex and will help tighten a woman’s vaginal muscles for more powerful orgasms. With regular use, Ben Wa balls can make sex feel like the first time all over again! The weighted spheres are inexpensive and can be made out of a variety of different materials including glass or silicone. Some are available with vibration to make the experience extra special!

Glass Sex Toys

Glass sex toys and are beautiful works of art in their own right – and they make excellent Valentine’s day gifts for your lover to use alone or for you to use together as a couple. Many glass pieces don’t even look like sex toys at all – they could be easily mistaken for a gorgeous glass sculpture or a paperweight. Only you and your partner will know what it’s really being used for! The best part of using a glass piece is that it holds temperature really well. If you want to experiment with heat and cold during sex, glass is the way to go. They are also very easy to clean and last a long time because the material is hard, smooth and doesn’t break down easily over time.

Prostate Massage

What better day than Valentine’s Day to try something new? If you’ve never tried prostate massage (and you’re a guy) you’re in for a real treat. You have to get over the initial apprehension of anal play, but after you’ve gotten used to it, you can experience wilder, more explosive orgasms than you’ve ever had before. If this is your first time trying prostate massage, start with small anal sex toys and work your way up to the bigger ones. Always make sure that any anal sex toy that you use has a wide, flared base on the bottom (a ring also works well) to prevent it from getting lost in the anal cavity and garnering you a trip to the emergency room. If you’re nervous about trying prostate massage for the first time in front of a partner, try a toy that is easy to use on your own during masturbation. Then work your way up to doing it with your lover.

Sex Swings

Sex swings will allow you to get into tons of different sex positions quickly and easily, making sex this Valentine’s Day super hot! Sex swings allow you or your partner to get into the more difficult sex positions without straining your neck, back or legs and can be used for intercourse, anal sex and oral sex. If you have a lot of space (and a lot of money to spend) try the stand alone love swing – the swing is mounted on a large metal four-legged stand. If you live in a small home or apartment or want to save a little money, try the over-the-door sex swing instead.

Bondage Kits

If you want to try a little bondage, try using a pre-made bondage kit. Usually these come with paddles, fuzzy handcuffs, feather ticklers, blindfolds and the like. Some of them are even made with soft heart shaped paddles and heart pillows, making them a perfect Valentine’s Day gift! Surprise your partner with a bondage kit and tell her that you’re going to tie her up and have her way with her – after she has her way with you! A little light BDSM and bondage can go a long way in making it a night you and your lover are going to remember for a long time to come.

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The Right Kind Of Bondage Rope

The type of rope you use for bondage is extremely important. Grabbing just any old rope from your shed, garage or the hardware store just isn’t going to work in the bedroom. Well, it will work on a technical level, but it will definitely be uncomfortable and may cause pain and discomfort from mild to severe rope burns. Honestly, when trying anything new when it comes to sex, it’s important that you have the right tools for the job. This Valentine’s Day, invest a little money (not a lot, because most bondage rope is generally inexpensive) in the right kind of rope for bondage play. You can choose from a variety of different rope materials, ranging all the way from nylon to natural fiber and hemp. There are also different braids available, but those are a matter of personal preference. Any rope that is made specifically for bedroom play will work just fine.

Blindfolds? Yes, Please!

A big part of BDSM is blindfolding. This adds a certain element of surprise and mystery to sex, because your partner can’t see what you’re about to do or where you’re going next. This heightens the pleasurable sensations during sex and oral sex ten fold because anticipation is a huge part of experiencing sexual pleasure. Don’t leave out blindfolds in your bedroom play this Valentine’s Day! You can purchase a special love mask by itself, or you can get a “beginner’s bondage kit” that usually includes a blindfold along with other BDSM items such as paddles, feather ticklers, light whips and fuzzy handcuffs. If you’re really short on cash, try using a silk scarf or tie for a blindfold instead. It’s easy to use and doesn’t cost a thing!

Keeping Bondage Safe And Fun

One of the most important parts of bondage and BDSM play is to make sure you’re doing it safely and everyone involved is having a good time. You definitely want to follow the safety rules on Valentine’s Day to make sure your sexy “gift” doesn’t backfire on you! Here are some simple guidelines to use when bringing bondage and BDSM into the bedroom so you and your partner both have fun!

• Have a “safe word” that is totally unrelated to sex (i.e. banana, waffle, Christmas tree, etc.)
• Don’t be afraid to use the safe word if you are uncomfortable or are in pain and want the play to stop immediately.
• If your partner uses the safe word, it is your job to stop whatever you’re doing right away!
• Discuss with your partner beforehand what is acceptable and what isn’t. For example, oral sex while being tied up is fine, but you want to be untied before having sex so you can participate.
• Don’t ever insert sex toys without your partner’s consent (and without lube!)

Taking BDSM To The Next Level

Lots of people enjoy light bondage, but others enjoy heavy BDSM play. If you’ve tried rope, handcuffs and the like, you may be ready to take your bedroom play to the next level this Valentine’s Day. Try incorporating a little pain into the mix, with some gentle nipping and biting or spanking. Use a paddle for spanking, as this is so much more comfortable for the spanker than using your hand! It can also feel better for the spankee, because some paddles are padded and shaped just right. Here’s a quick list of other things you can try this Valentines Day if you feel like you’ve already tried just about everything else!

• Roleplaying. Act out a hot fantasy with your partner like teacher/student or doctor/patient.
• Diaper play. Do you have a diaper fetish but haven’t come out of the “closet” so to speak? Try getting your partner involved!
• Mutual masturbation. Never had the guts to masturbate in front of your partner? Give them a show this Valentines Day!
• Tantric sex. Want a more romantic way to connect with your partner sexually? Try tantric sex for mind blowing orgasms.
• Try new sex positions. After all, new sex positions can make regular old vanilla sex something new and exciting on any night!

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Learn How To Give Her Oral Sex

If you’ve never gone down on your parnter before (or haven’t in awhile), make a point to go down south this Valentine’s Day. You may think you know how to eat a girl out, but take some time to really learn how to push her pleasure buttons when you’re between her legs. There are so many different ways to please a woman orally that it can be difficult to sort through the ones that look like they’ll work (and the oral sex tips that look like total bunk), but here are some easy tips to get you started.

• The clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings in it. Pay attention to it!
• The g-spot is easier to find after she’s already aroused.
• Don’t head straight for her clitoris – it may be uncomfortable. Start with slow kisses all around to get her warmed up.
• Be prepared to camp out for awhile. Your goal is to bring her to orgasm and it may not happen right away.
• Make noise. She wants to know that you’re enjoying it too.
• Make Valentine’s Day all about hot sex and her pleasure.

Learn How To Give Her A Blended Orgasm

Women are capable of having multiple orgasms in one night and they’re also capable of having two different types of orgasms at one time! Take advantage of the fact that your lover is more versatile in the orgasm department than you are and learn how to give her hot sex this Valentine’s Day that she’ll remember for months to come. Most women can have a clitoral orgasm pretty easily (this is most likely the type of orgasm she gives herself during masturbation) and many girls can also reach orgasm through stimulation of the g-spot. By stimulating both the clitoris and the g-spot at the same time, you can give her a blended orgasm – both types of climax at the same time! Start with these simple tips.

• If you’ve never found her g-spot before, now is the time to locate it. It’s about 2 inches in on the top wall of her vagina.
• Get her aroused first. Licking the clitoris and fingering the g-spot without her being warmed up could be disastrous.
• Don’t try to give her a blended orgasm through penetration at first. You’re better off using fingering and oral sex.
• Switch back and forth between clitoral and g-spot stimulation before you stimulate both at the same time.
• Get comfortable. It may take awhile for her to build up to a blended orgasm.

Cuddle With Her Afterwards

After a night of hot sex (especially on Valentine’s Day) it is extremely important to let your partner know that she is loved and cherished. Mental stimulation is just as important for a woman as physical stimulation is, and if she gets one without the other, she may be feeling like she got jipped. Take some time after having sex to hold her, whisper in her ear and snuggle with her. Let her know how much you enjoy having sex with her and how great she makes you feel. Even more than the orgasms you gave her, letting her know how special she is will really put her on cloud nine! Here are some things you can say to her to seal the deal and make this Valentine’s Day truly amazing for her.

• “I love giving you pleasure. It makes my whole night.”
• “You make me feel amazing. When I’m with you, I forget about everything else.”
• “Your body is a perfect fit with mine. It’s like we were made for each other.”
• “I love you.”
• “I can’t wait until we can spend another night like this together again.”
• “You make sex so hot! You are incredible!”
• “I’ll remember this Valentine’s Day forever.”

By adding a bit of romance to a night of hot sex on Valentine`s Day, you can make sure she is fulfilled on both a physical and emotional level. This is what will really have her coming back for more over and over again!

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What She Said

Heck no, that’s not weird! In fact, I bet your boyfriend will be kissing your feet. A girl who wants to dress up in adult costumes? I’m sure he’ll be thrilled to know that he not only gets you as you are, but also has a sexy kitten, nurse, French maid, school girl, cheerleader and witch all coming to visit! If he, for whatever reason, expresses discomfort then there will be some compromises ahead – but my guess is that your revelation will be greeted with a big smile and a little (or a lot) of foreplay.

What He Said

Would it be weird to ask him if it’s okay to wear adult costumes? Well, all that depends on the costumes. If you want to dress up like Chester A. Arthur or The Queen of England and have a historically accurate 19th century tea party, then yes, yes it is in fact weird. Unless of course he has a fetish for Medieval English History Reenactments and then no, it’s not weird. Well, the asking him to dress up part. The rest is most certainly off, to put it nicely.

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If however, you want to dress up as a naughty nurse, a naughty doctor, a naughty cheerleader (you can also substitute the word ‘naughty’ with ‘slutty,’ ‘whore-y’ or ‘nympho’) and you think that it is weird to ask him if you want to wear those costumes for him, I have to wonder what exactly is wrong with you.

Are you afraid he’s going to take the kids and leave the country because he can’t believe what a foul mouth deviant you are? Are you afraid it will ruin his chances for running for office? Are you finding your sexual desires incompatible with your religion (if it makes you feel any better, the people who are in charge of your religion have way more f’d up sexual fantasies than you do).

Why He’ll Love Your Adult Costumes

The point here is that there’s no way your man will have a problem with you wearing sexy adult costumes for you. If he does, then he’s gay and just not ready to come out of the closet. Seriously. He may have a slight problem wearing costumes for you because, well, men feel weird rocking the banana hammock (or speed to the lay person).

He may not feel secure or comfortable in his body because he doesn’t fit the Fabio body type, or maybe he’s never done this kind of thing before. Just work with him on it and let him know you are into him and that this will make you want to do him more. That should eradicate any resistance he has to the idea, if he has any to begin with. If all else fails, offer him anal sex. That always works.

I really think this is less about how to get your man to go along with role playing and more about getting you to feel comfortable about it. There’s nothing wrong with it. You can be in a happy long term relationship (or not), monogamous (or not), and good parents (or childless) and still be freaks and whores in the bedroom. In fact, I encourage it.

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If you and your partner are both consenting adults, you can pretty much do anything you want behind closed doors! You can experiment with kink if you’ve never done it before by trying a little light bondage with a pair of fuzzy handcuffs or role playing your favorite fantasies. You might be surprised at how much fun you and your lover can have if you learn to let go a little! If you’ve already made the dive into kink and are ready to try something a little hotter, try using a mouth gag or whip.

You can also explore really different fetishes, like a diaper fetish or domination. BDSM and kink is all about what turns you and your partner on – regardless of what anyone else considers to be “strange” or “weird.” This past year, we’ve done some research on the kinkiest fantasies and the best dirty sex tips that are out there. Here’s our top picks for the best kink tips of the year!

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If you’ve never tried incorporating a sex toy into your routine, we have some great tips on how to select the right ones and how to introduce them to your partner. If you’re a seasoned sex toy or vibrator user, check out some of the more advanced items like sex furniture or smooth, icy glass. Sex games can also bring some much needed fun and excitement into the bedroom, and we’ve got the best of both adult toys & games.

Try testing your luck with a sexy dice roll to see if your partner will go down on you, or try some fun roleplaying with or without sexy costumes. This year, we have rated all the great sex toys, sex furniture, super fun sex games and of course, the best condoms. Here are our top picks for this year so you and your partner can start (or continue) having a sizzling hot sex life all next year!

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Naked Twister

The classic game of Twister has always had hidden sexual connotations that teenage boys and girls have giggled about for years. Many boys have suffered from blue balls as a result of this game! Now it’s time to capitalize on Twister’s body bending fun for some carnal pleasure. Twister is an inexpensive game that can be purchased at just about any superstore or department store and only contains two pieces – a spinner and a mat with different colored dots on it. As you’re probably already aware, the object of the game for each person to spin the spinner and place their hands or feet on the corresponding colored dots. The fun part is getting all tangled up and of course the first one to fall loses! Make this game super sexy by stripping down to your skivvies (or nothing at all) and playing the game totally naked. The object of the game is the same, but you’ll probably end up bumping uglies – or giving him a twisted blowjob - right there on the Twister mat before the game is even over.

Truth Or Dare

You probably played this game when you were a teenager too, but you can add an adult twist to it to make it more suitable for bedroom activites. Take turns asking each other to choose “Truth” or “Dare.” Truth questions should be more like “what-if” scenarios or “how-would-you” type questions that are related to sex. Do not ask questions like, “how many sex partners have you had” or “what’s the naughtiest thing you’ve ever done” because you may not want to hear the answer to the former and if the latter wasn’t with you, it can definitely create an awkward situation. Dares, of course, can be a lot more fun. You can dare your partner to do something they’ve never tried before but you’ve really been wanting to try with them. Dare them to try using an anal sex toy, or challenge them to give you a blended orgasm.

“Hands Off”

This creative sex game doesn’t involve purchasing anything at all and you can try it tonight – or right now if you like! This game is super fun because both partners are going to get something out of it – most likely a body rocking orgasm! Start with some foreplay, like giving each other oral sex, and move on to the real deal when you’re hot, wet and ready. The trick to this sex game is that you can never use your hands. Neither you nor your partner can use your hands during foreplay or sex, meaning you can’t finger her while going down on her nor can she grasp your hips while you’re penetrating her. The first person to accidentally use their hands loses – and the winner gets a sexual favor of their choice. This is a game that could go on all night!

Strip Poker

Strip poker has been a classic party game for years, but you can turn it into an intimate affair by playing strip poker with your partner. This game is especially effective if you’re trying to teach your partner how to play poker, because the incentive to win is definitely there. You can play different varieties of poker also, for example, if you prefer to play Texas Hold ‘Em, you can play that instead of the regular Five Card Draw. The object of this sex game is easy – for each hand that is lost, the loser removes one article of clothing. This can be your shirt, your bra or even a hairtie or a sock. The more items you have to remove, the longer the game will last. After stripping and getting totally naked, you can turn the heat up a notch by playing for sexual favors instead of clothes. Bet a handjob or see her handjob and raise her a make out session. The ideas here are limitless, as long as you know how to use your sexual creativity! The idea behind sex games is to let yourself go and try new things!

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Below are three fun and exhilarating sex games that can guarantee you and your woman a more satisfying sexual union!

Be An Audience

One of the most exciting sex games is watching your partner pleasure herself. Let’s face it – we all have skeletons in our closets. Deep inside, we all have a voyeuristic attitude where we find enjoyment in viewing a sexually stimulating act. And when seeing your partner pleasuring herself in front of you, you are also unleashing your wild persona.

Pick your favorite sex position in bed as she pleases herself with very sensual moves. After she is done, you may handle the rest of the job on her behalf. Then you will arrive at a point where you will no longer have those inhibitions and you’ll just be dominated by the euphoria of having those intimate moments.

You will not only be sexually gratified by what you are seeing but you will also know everything when it comes to your woman’s pleasure points. And when you know how you can give her the addictive ecstasy, you can do better in making her feel blissful the next time you get her to bed!

Enjoy A Sexy “Movie” Night Together

Make a sex game out of watching a porn film together during one of your intimate nights. Pick any suggestive videos, which both you and your woman would prefer. Be sure to pay close attention to the scenes in the media material because after viewing some of them, you should be ready to relive each moment. You can do the remakes of the scenes and let these run for 15 to 20 minutes. Like with the first idea, you will be able to learn about things that will keep your other half heated up!

Offer Her A Sensuous Body Massage

Another fun sex game, or at least fun and sexy idea, is sensual massage. The kneading of fingers along each other’s body is a key factor in keeping the sexual bond stronger. The use of fragrant oil plus those heavy yet gentle caresses all over her body is what makes those sexual encounters more exciting.

Of course, there are proper ways to perform a sensuous body massage on her. For example:

• Purchase hot oil and plastic sheets for the warm effect on her body. You can heat up the oil, which you will use later on her body.
• To begin the massage, pour generous amounts of oil on your hand and rub it all over her body. Then give her a very soothing body massage, which will brighten up her mood. Once she is ready, you may proceed to touch her more private areas. But never forget that you are doing this as a way to give her comfort!

Using body massage is like hitting two birds with one stone. You are not only giving your partner the relief her body badly needs, you are also leading her to a more sexually-pleasurable experience that she will never forget!

Try out these three suggested sex games and you’ll be surprised at how electrifying these can be when mixed with your usual bedroom activities!

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Cliche Costumes Make The Best Ones

Sure, you may think a sexy nurse or police officer is cliche, but these are actually some of the sexiest and hottest costumes available! Everyone loves a nurse in garters or a police officer in tall leather boots. If you think that by picking a common sexy costume that you’ll show up at a party wearing the same costume as someone else, think again. Many websites offer different versions of the same costume, so you can choose the one that’s just a little bit different than all the rest! You’ll love being the center of attention at any halloween party, and of course, you’ll want to incorporate your costume into the bedroom at home and give your partner amazing sex!

Spice Up Your Costume With A Wig

If you really want to be different on Halloween, try looking for a wig to go with your sexy costume. Have you picked out a sexy genie costume? Try going with a blond ponytail instead of your long brown hair. If you’ve picked something darker, such as a police officer, a mafia girl or even a hot assassin, why not go for a short, razor cut dark bob? Pairing wigs with your costume can take your look from “sure, that looks good” to “Damn! Who is that girl?!?” Taking your sexy costume to the next level with a wig is a bit like taking your normal sex routine up a notch with oral sex. It just adds that little something extra!

Plus-Size Sexy Costumes

Don’t think that you can’t wear a sexy costume just because you’re a little bigger around the middle. Most websites have plus size versions of their best costumes, so you can choose the costume that best flatters your body shape – it’s kind of like selecting the right size condom for your partner’s penis. Don’t want your spare tire to hang out? Choose a one-piece sexy nurse costume instead of the two-piece, or add a black leather bodice to your police costume to help cover up your flaws and make you look thinner! A one piece sexy school girl outfit can flatter a lot of body shapes, but perhaps the best costume for large tummies and busts is a barmaid-type costume. A full skirt will hide your thighs and a criss-cross bodice will cover up your midsection. A ruffled top enhances a large bust, so you can flaunt your assets while hiding what you don’t like about yourself. Finding a costume that you feel comfortable in (and that you can have sex in any sex position in without worrying about what’s hanging out) is the key to looking great on Halloween. Confidence and knowing you look good in whatever you choose to wear is what will turn heads and make you feel like a Halloween sex vixen!

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Going Outside Of Your Current Comfort Zone

Just because you want to try kinky sex, you don’t have to start with the whips and chains right away – that is, unless you really want to. Spicing up your sex life can involve lots of fun, tame activities, as long as you and your partner are going just slightly outside of your current comfort zone. For example, if you’ve never tried light spanking or dirty talk before, try it now! If that soon becomes a part of your regular sex regimen, it will soon be time to graduate on to something else. Your “current” comfort zone is always changing – you could be completely comfortable with racy lingerie six months from now, but it may make you just a tad nervous if you’re thinking about putting it on tomorrow night. A little nervous is good though. Your goal is to make it just outside of your “bubble” and try something you’ve never done before.

Paddles

Paddles – the ones made specifically for sex, not the ones with the rubber ball on a string – are great way to get started. Most paddles that are made for the bedroom are soft and silky on one side, and hard on the other so it smarts when you give your lover a light smack on the rear end. Start by giving each other soft taps before you graduate to full on paddling pain. By starting off small and working your way up, you and your partner can both find your level of tolerance to paddling before pleasure starts turning into pain.

Blindfolds

This is an incredibly easy and fast way to bring some extra sizzle to your sex life tonight. Anything will do – a scarf or a silk necktie will work just fine, although there are a number of great blindfolds made specifically for lovers. These may be soft and silky or have naughty sayings on them to entice your partner. Either way, the sensory deprivation created by placing a blindfold over your lover’s eyes (or vice versa) is an extremely titillating experience. You or your partner won’t know what is coming, and it will force you to experience your partner’s touch (and taste and smell) in an entirely new way.

Bondage & Restraints

There’s few things that are sexier than being tied up and waiting patiently for your partner to deliver you pleasure while there’s nothing you can do about it. Take turns with your partner in some light bondage situations, allowing both you and your lover to experience the feelings of being in total control and being totally out of control where pleasure is concerned. You may find that you really enjoy one or both of these roles! Combine restraints with blindfolds for a really wild experience!

Sex Swings & Sex Furniture

You’ve heard about a thousand and one different sex positions and how they are all meant to add that extra “oomph” to your sex life. Some of these positions are darn hard to get into though, let alone actually create any kind of movement that will stimulate you or your partner! Sex furniture, such as the Tantra Sex Chair or a sex swing, are great aids to help you and your lover get into all kinds of different sex positions – without breaking your back.

Advanced Kink

If and when you and your partner are ready to graduate to advanced kink in the bedroom, try experimenting with more dominant and submissive roles. Force your partner to be your sex slave for the day, or vice versa. Some partners like to get into cross dressing a little, or have a little more fun with the fine line between pain and pleasure. Remember to be safe (and have a safe word), but when it comes to kink, the only limit is your imagination!

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While you can do nothing to keep her from thinking about work, grocery bills and other tiresome issues, you can improve the mood by making her relax while she’s alone with you. Being relaxed will lead to more enjoyable things, as you’ll soon find out. Read on to discover some of the best sexy games you can do with your partner to make her less inhibited and more willing to try kinky sex with you.

Find That Ticklish Spot

Stimulating someone sexually when she’s not in the mood is like plunging a bar of ice into boiling water. The ice will not thaw slowly, it will break. What you need to do is warm her up in a way that she naturally opens up.

You can do this by poking her or running your fingers on her ticklish spots and gently teasing her. Be as naughty as you want. It’s important to do this gradually so that she naturally allows you to explore her body. When you get her laughing and giggling, you can pick up the pace and start acting sexual. You can let her turn the tables on you, too.

Use Props

When she is breathless with anticipation, or if you have made it clear over dinner that you intend to make love that night, you can bring props with you to bed. It does not have to be some fancy sex toy that you bought online; you can simply use what you have at home.

Bring a bowl full of ice cubes to bed or slices of her favorite fruit. You can even encourage her to bring out her vibrator so she can play with it while you do your moves on her. Props and toys make sex more exciting. Have fun trying out each one and finding out which ones give the best sensations.

Who Can Hold Climax Longer

The fun thing about this game is that the more she tries to hold her orgasm in, the more aroused she gets. This is a psychological game that you can play with your girl, to increase sexual tension and anticipation on her part. The more she tries to hold back, the harder you should work so that she will not be able to hold back.

The next time you think of using champagne to “loosen up,” think about these sex games. There really is no need for artificial stimulants when you can play some kinky games with your partner to get her in the mood.

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Question: My girlfriend keeps asking me what turns me on. How do I say something without sounding like a pervert?

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Accept Your Fantasies

Everyone has something that turns them on sexually. Each person has a fantasy or fetish – and some people have more than one – and what turns someone on differs greatly from person to person. There are as many sexual fetishes, likes and dislikes in the world as there are people. What turns you on is part of what makes you sexually unique, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Unless your fetish is illegal – say, child pornography – having something special (or several somethings special) that gets you hot is perfectly normal. If you accept your fantasies and fetishes as part of yourself and aren’t embarrassed by them, you’re not going to sound like a pervert when you share them with your partner. You’re going to sound like a hot, confident guy who knows what he likes and what he wants. Her attitude about it greatly depends on your attitude about it.

When Your Partner Opens The Door

If your partner has asked you to share with them what turns you on, this is an open door that you want to take advantage of. Sure, coming right out and saying to your partner, “Hey, do you like to bite during sex?” might sound strange coming out of nowhere, but if your partner asks you what you like in the bedroom, don’t be too embarrassed to tell her. She’s let you know that she wants to share fantasies with you. This is a sign that she’s more open minded about sex than you think. Take advantage of the situation and talk about what you like and what she likes. You might find that what turns you on turns her on too and vice versa!

Make It Fun

Sharing your fantasies with your partner isn’t supposed to be nerve wracking, it’s supposed to be fun! Finding out about your partner’s fantasies and sharing yours with her is part of the fun of a new sexual relationship. If you’re still nervous about sharing what turns you on with her, try playing a fun sex game to loosen you up. Adam And Eve has a great game called Sex Is Fun, and involves fun questions about you and your partner’s fantasies. Popular sex advice magazine Cosmo has also come out with a Truth Or Dare game that lets you and your partner discover the truth about each other – and get turned on by the sexy dares. However you decide to share your fantasies and fetishes with your new partner, don’t be embarrassed or scared to do so. Make it fun and exciting instead, because it’s really not as big a deal as you think it is!

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Question: I am currently going out with someone that likes BDSM and cross-dressing, some humiliation as well. The problem is as much as I love him and would like to please his every desire, I just dont seem to be able to understand the deal with BDSM or humiliation. I’m not into it. He doesn’t want me to do these things if I’m not into them. He says he loves me and doesn’t mind being with me, even if I cant seem to get into his fetishes.

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Have You Tried It? You Might Like It!

If you partner has a fantasy or fetish that you don’t seem to be interested in, such as BDSM, bondage or humiliation, steering clear of these in the bedroom is going to make you more comfortable sexually. However, if you haven’t tried it with your partner, you might consider some light bondage next time you and your partner have sex. Your partner will really enjoy anything that relates to their fantasy and you might find that you like it! Don’t try anything you’re super uncomfortable with, but trying new things in the bedroom isn’t a bad idea.

Be True To Who You Are

If you’ve tried to share your partner’s fantasies and fetishes and just can’t seem to get into them, don’t force yourself to do things that you don’t like. If you don’t like it, you don’t like it and it’s important that you be true to who you are. It’s also important that your partner is true to who they are and if they like something, it’s essential not to criticize them about it. While you don’t have to be a part of it if you’re not comfortable with it, it’s important to allow your partner to be themselves. Being unable to find sexual satisfaction together because you both like different things in the bedroom may cause issues later on in your relationship but if they’re not bothering you or your partner now, relax and let it go. You can cross that bridge when (or if) you get there.

Find Fantasies That You Do Share

Try to find some fantasies that you and your partner both like. If you and your partner think you’re totally sexually incompatible together, you might be surprised that there are a few things that you both actually have in common. But you won’t know unless you try! Talk to your partner and be open and honest with them about what turns you on and what doesn’t. Listen to them openly about what they like or don’t like. Browse adult toys online, or even adult videos that might interest you both. Just because you aren’t into his fantasies doesn’t mean you can’t find something that you both really enjoy!

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Vibrators

Instead of your traditional vibrator, try wearing some vibrating boy shorts all day to get you hot and ready for the big night! Put them on while your partner pleasures you in different ways, to increase y0ur orgasmic potential. Also, boy shorts with a larger sized remote control vibrator puts your pleasure in your partner’s hands! Give him total control over your body, even from another room. Wear them all day and let him surprise you with pleasure again and again.

Bondage

If you’re into bondage with a willing prisoner, splurge a little on some inexpensive japanese bondage rope or handcuffs specifically designed for the bedroom. Scarves work well too, but rope from the boat, car or garage just won’t do. You want something soft, stretchy and made for bondage to do the job. Japanese bondage rope is an easy to use, soft “rope” that actually tightens a little when you try to resist. Another great toy is an under the bed restraint – this restraint actually “threads” under your bed and provides you with soft, velcro cuffs at all four corners of the bed for each of your willing prisoner’s arms and legs.  The under the bed restraint also features adjustable straps that you can tighten or loosen at your discretion. Take some turns trying out your new toys and being prisoner and prison warden for a kinky Valentine’s night that you’ll never forget!

Kinky Valentine’s Day Treasure Chest

A great way to spice up your Valentine’s night with some fun new toys is to get a “grab bag” with lots of stuff inside. The Fetish Fantasy Series bondage gear box is like a treasure chest full of fun things to use on Valentine’s Day – and afterwards! A red, fuzzy, heart shaped paddle, velcro cuffs with heart chain links and warming massage oil are among the many suprises in this fun treasure chest. You and your partner will have a blast seeing what’s inside! Take your toys to a hotel for an even hotter Valentine’s night, or simply stay at home and lock the door. Just remember, Valentine’s Day is about trying something new and different to spice up your sex life. Keep an open mind and a great attitude!

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• 500 Lovemaking Tips And Secrets – learn how to be a bedroom rockstar before Valentine’s Day and rock your lover’s world!
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Trying New Ideas

Valentine’s Day is all about going outside your box. Doing something exciting or something outside the norm of your sexual routine will help make this V-Day one that you and your partner will remember forever! Use this opportunity to get a little crazy or kinky, wear something you wouldn’t normally wear or do something you wouldn’t normally do. A great “game” to play is using a “fantasy box.” You can use a plain box if you like, or decorate it in sexy lace and marabou, but whatever you do, the concept is the same. You and your partner will write several of your fantasies down on a piece of paper and on Valentine’s Day, pull a few out of the box. Sharing your fantasies this way will help you and your partner be more open to each other’s fantasies, as well as help keep you or your partner from being as embarrassed about sharing your fantasies if you were to confess them out loud.

Fun Games To Try

A great way to spice up your Valentine’s Day night is to paint each other’s bodies. Get creative with this one. Use fun, brightly colored edible body paint, or just finger paints from the store. Use chocolate sauce or caramel for something extra sweet. Have fun painting it on, and then lick or wash all the paint or sauce off sensually. A sexy card game is always in style, and will have you and your partner communicating about your sexual desires in no time. This is a great game to play if you and your partner have trouble talking to each other about sex and what you do or don’t like in bed. Another classic Valentine’s Day game is strip poker, and while the original version is great, some of the newer styles of strip poker are incredibly fun! Some versions of strip poker actually have colored chips that have ideas of fun and sexy activities on them, as opposed to simply removing your clothes. You have to bet what you’re willing to do!

Be Open And Ready For Anything

When planning a special night with your partner, whether it’s Valentine’s Day or any other night, your attitude is one of the most important things to consider. Having an open mind and being ready for some sexy, spur of the moment fun will help make your night special.

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Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I’m very comfortable with my sexuality and a little on the BDSM side… I’ve been this way for years. My fiance and I have done a few things, but I want to try even more – costumes, props, etc. I don’t think he knows how dark my sexual side can be. How can I bring it up to him without scaring him?

–Desiree, MO

Let Your Partner Go First

Ask your partner what turns them on. This is not the time for a “sit down” talk, rather, you want to ask him in a very nonchalant sort of way. Bring it up if you’re watching a romantic movie with a hot sex scene, or even if you’re watching pornography together. If you’re visiting the mall, pop into the lingerie store or even the novelty stores that carry some sex toys. Asking your partner what turns them on opens them up to their own fantasies and gets their minds going.

Introduce Yourself Slowly

Don’t break into your fetish by surprising your partner with a leash and collar while wearing a full black leather outfit. You might scare them off! Try incorporating light BDSM into your foreplay and sexual routine, such as using a feather duster or even a light whip. Try purchasing some racier lingerie, or sexy shoes that reflect what turns you on. You can even suggest roleplaying light BDSM roles, such as light submission or light dominance. You might find that your partner really likes this type of sex play and begins to get more into it! If this happens, just ease into your fetish or fantasy slowly, until you’re really sharing with your partner what you like and what turns you on.

Try A Fantasy Box

A “Fantasy Box” is something you and your partner can try if you’re really shy about sharing your fantasies with your partner or your partner is really shy about sharing their fantasies with you. Write down your fantasies on a scrap piece of paper and put it in the box. Have your partner do the same. Make a “rule” that once a week, a fantasy is pulled out of the box and is enacted. If some fantasies require planning, give you and your partner enough time to purchase costumes, etc. This can even be something fun that you do together that can bring you and your partner closer! Decorate the fantasy box with things you both find sexy to make it even more fun.

No matter what, your sex life should be enjoyable and fulfilled, no matter what fetish or fantasy you like. You might be surprised – your fetish or fantasy probably isn’t as uncommon as you think it is! If your partner is freaked out by your fetish, whether it’s BDSM or something else, and you can’t work past it, consider that they might not be the partner for you. Remember – there’s someone out there for everyone!

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But no one’s sex life is perfect. Things slow down, the energy seems to disappear, it’s not as fun or exciting as either of you would like, in short, it needs improving.

So what can you do to get back (or even create for the first time) that special spark that makes great sex so…well, great? Here are 4 top tips.

1. Play Games

The thing that often grinds sex lives to a halt and makes lovemaking become so much of a hassle is the pressure and responsibility that surrounds the whole subject.

For the man, there’s the burden of having to make the girl reach her own climax. For the woman, there’s the strain of making sure her man is sexually satisfied and not bored and liable to go looking elsewhere for sex or questioning the stability and longevity of the relationship they’re both in.

To counteract these negative pressures, try making having sex a less traditional, scheduled, boring task. Instead, pick a couple of fun games that you can play together that are fun and flirty and that can lead casually and smoothly into the actual sex.

Twister, strip poker and spin-the-bottle are all great games that incorporate physical contact and allow both you and your partner to have a little no-hassle, no-responsibility fun that does or doesn’t have to lead to a bout of impromptu lovemaking.

2. New Locations, New Positions

People often have a very 2-dimensional outlook on the nature of sex and how one should go about having it. The vast, vast majority of people, for example, only have sex in the bedroom.

And even they have a set routine, lights dimmed or off, the same progression through the various stages of sex: a little foreplay, intercourse in missionary and maybe doggy if the guy’s lucky and the girls feeling up to it, then it’s pretty much over. Even if your personal situation has more life than that, sex in the bedroom can still become a drag after a while.

So, switch it up. Think about different locations you can use: the living room, bathroom, kitchen…consider all possibilities, even if they at first seem far-fetched and silly. Also, think about locations away from the home once in a while.

Motels and cheap hotels offer a couple a fresh place to explore each other. Secondly, improvise and experiment with the positions you use. Missionary, girl on top, spoons, and doggy are all great, but always try to mix in a few more unusual, adventurous ones to spice things up.

Even if you find yourself in a tangle with your partner, you’ve still had fun and been spontaneous, which is a key component of any great sex life.

3. Communicate Fantasies

Something few men and women do is talk to their partners about what turns them on, about things they’d like to try, scenarios they’d love to act out, etc. etc. Make telling your partner about things that turn you on a regular thing and, in return, you listen to their previously private fantasies and day-dreams.

If doing it face-to-face is too embarrassing, consider sending saucy messages via email or text message. You’ll find that after reading about what really gets your partner going, you’ll be much more excited and motivated to please them sexually, and they’ll feel the same way back!

4.  Special Occasions

When you do the same thing many times, even if it started out feeling new and exciting, it can get a little run-of-the-mill and boring. So, to inject a real sense of passion and renewed excitement into your sex life, make certain evenings special nights in (or out, then in!).

Go the whole way to making it feel almost like a celebration and do whatever’s necessary to separate it from your usual lovemaking sessions. Popular favourites include getting dressed up separately from your partner, perhaps at a friend’s house, then meeting them in a restaurant for a meal.

Then, on returning home, you can indulge each other with a slow and sensual massage or perhaps carry out one or more of the fantasies you’ve been hinting to each other about. From there, sex can begin. Maybe on the floor of the living room or even on the stairs.

Remember, impulsiveness and adventurousness are a turn on, use them to kick-start your sex life!

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He tried to oblige and picked up the pace a bit.

“Harder!” I asked again. I needed it rough.

With that he stopped mid-thrust and it was game over for the night.

“I can’t treat you like that,” he said with disgust. I felt like a freak.

This was sex with my ex-husband.

Later, I had a relationship with another man, and I got him trained pretty well in the bedroom to do the things I liked, but out of the bedroom he constantly criticized me, complained that I needed to be more assertive and outgoing.

Fast forward through a handful of other brief failed relationships…

These days, I have a wonderful, loving, strong man who can give me a nice hard spanking or tie me up nice and snug. I finally found my dom – someone who can give me what I want in and out of the bedroom.

What is dom and sub?

A dominant person is a leader, likes to be in charge, is the person on top or does the tying. A submissive person is passive, a follower, is often the person being penetrated, and likes to be tied up.

A parallel to the dom/sub dichotomy is extroverted/introverted. For the most part, dom types are extroverts, and the subs are introverted. All you introverts out there know what a relief it is to have an outgoing partner who does well at parties. They take the pressure off of you.

A dom is often a boss, a politician, a lawyer. A sub is often a secretary, a jewelry maker, a massage therapist. But there’s always more than meets the eye! We’ve all heard of the high power businessman who pays a dominatrix to give him a good paddling.

So, dom or sub…which one are you?

Breaking a Pattern

I didn’t realize it, but I was habitually going for the wrong type. I have a thing for sensitive, intellectual academic types, and the men I kept ending up with had submissive personalities.

Turns out they wanted a woman who would lead the way, be in charge, wear the pants. I didn’t have that personality at all. I’m a skirt-wearing wimp. And the fact that I wanted it rough (oh fine – and that I had rape fantasies) made them nervous.

The guy who criticized me – we were one of those annoying bickering couples. And now I know that he resented me putting him in a dom role. It wasn’t comfortable for him.

Look at Your Own Relationship

Take a moment and think about your current relationship. If it’s good, it’s probably because you two match up well – one of you is predominately dom, and the other is predominately sub. If your relationship is tense or otherwise not ideal, it could be that you inadvertently ended up with a person who is the same type as you.

Two doms together are no good. Two subs together are also not good. If you’re matched up with the wrong partner, your sex life will be out of sync. Neither of you will be able to fulfill the other person if you both want to be tied up.

What to do? If you’re already paired up, explore the possibility of one of you switching roles and see how that feels. Some people find pleasure in both the dom and sub roles, depending on their mood.

If you are currently looking for a partner, keep this concept in mind while searching. Look for clues in other people that will indicate if you would be a good match or not. It’ll save you a lot of time and heartache.

Look at Others

Now take a moment to think about other relationships you know. How about your parents – is one of them the dominant type? Are they still together?

Think about the unhappy couples you know. What’s the source of their friction and frustration? What about the happy couples you know? Chances are, they are a good match because one is dom and one is sub.

I have a good rule of thumb for figuring out who wears the pants in a relationship – it’s the person who does most of the driving and whose voice is used as the message for the home answering machine.

But it’s not always so cut and dried. I thought long enough about one content couple I knew and figured out that the woman is a dom type who plays the submissive role.

Meanwhile, her husband is the sub type who is playing the dom role, and for some reason, this works for them. If one of them didn’t assume this role, then the whole thing would be off balance and they would run into problems.

Why do I think I’m such an authority on this? Well, I’m a self-proclaimed slut – I’ve had lots of sexual partners, LOTS of hands on research, and all that experience has given me insight on sexual compatibility in a way that someone who has only had sex with a handful of people can’t know.

I only wish I had this figured out ten years ago.

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It’s true. Including “prolonged foreplay,” you’re about to learn three ways to add new levels of passion and excitement to your lovemaking that will bring you and your partner even closer. So here we go!

1. Prolong your foreplay

An extended period of foreplay amplifies your sexual experience because it gives you time to build up sexual anticipation. Why does this work? It’s just human nature. Think about a big event in your life. Whether it be a party, a holiday, or a major movie launch, chances are that you were so excited by the buildup and buzz that it made the experience 10 times better.

Well, the same rules apply to making love. So next time you spend some time under the sheets, make a conscious effort to explore your partner’s body. Leave a trail of kisses all over their body, run your fingers along their skin and gaze lovingly into their eyes.

The more time you spend devoted to foreplay, the greater the experience for both of you. And if you want to feel the magic even more then…

2. Try new things with a “twist”

Now don’t get me wrong here, I’m not talking about JUST trying a new lovemaking position, tip, technique or even location. While these things would definitely spice things up, you can make your experience even more fulfilling, simply by using a little added creativity.

For example: Why not learn a new technique––pack a picnic and head to a beautiful park for the day. And if you find a private spot, who knows what might end up happening?  Going on dates like these helps to bring back the magic that made you fall in love in the first place.

3. Play bedroom games

Tasteful, fun and alluring sex games are one of the best ways to intensify orgasms and the entire lovemaking experience. Not only are they extremely fun and have a lot of ‘replay value,’ but they actually accomplish BOTH the other tips at the same time too!

Because when you play a sex game you…
1. Automatically extend foreplay in a fun and interesting way
2. Try new things that the game tells you to do

And even while some games only consist of familiar tips and moves, you’ll be using them in new scenarios, which actually makes them feel new.

Maybe you’ll use a deck of cards or dice to create your own passionate play. Perhaps you’ll adapt a sport game for the bedroom. Or maybe you’ll just want to use your bodies as the props. It doesn’t matter. Simply get excited and unleash some creativity!

So if you want to create a magical experience, remember there’s no better way than playful game that combines both prolonged foreplay and trying new things.

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These 7 tips should give you plenty of ideas to make your midnight sessions more hot, steamy and passionate, starting today…

1. Become more sensual

While most men want to ‘get the job done’ and reach the goal of orgasm, for women it’s more about the journey. Women love to reach climax as much as men do, but they also love a sensual stroke from your hand across their leg.

Believe it or not, the ears, neck, arms and hair are all really sensitive areas that love to be stimulated. Spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner and can even intensify their orgasm.

2. Try positions proven to increase pleasure

For women: The reverse missionary is identical to the traditional missionary position except that she is on top. This is probably the easiest position for a woman to climax because she can control the friction to her clitoris and/or G-spot.

For men: Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. Although you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It is great for guys because they have full control over movement and pleasure.

3. Play bedroom games

Tasteful, fun and alluring sex games are one of the best ways to intensify orgasms and the entire lovemaking experience. They’re fun, sexy and have a lot of replay value.

Maybe you’ll use a deck of cards or dice to create your own passionate play. Perhaps you’ll adapt a sport game for the bedroom. Or maybe you’ll just want to use your bodies as the props. It doesn’t matter. Simply get excited and unleash some creativity!

And even while some games only consist of familiar tips and moves, you’ll be using them in new scenarios, which actually makes them feel new.

4. Set a romantic mood

People often think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of their lovemaking is too “cliché.” Are they kidding! Your partner will LOVE YOU for this. Just imagine how happy you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special lovemaking occasion that you can cherish for years to come. Could this be so “cliché” because people enjoy it so much? Point made.

5. Give them a sexy massage

Why stop at setting the mood? Go one step further and give your partner a sensual massage that makes them feel relaxed and loved at the same time. Make it sexy, sensual, and pleasurable. Massage them naked or build up the anticipation by having them slowly undress during the massage. Then kiss, caress and slowly transition “under the sheets” where a massage of another kind can take place.

And no, you don’t need years of study to give a great massage. Just grab some candles and music, and bless your partner with an experience they’ll never forget….

6. Please your partner with more oral sex

Did you know that oral sex is a great way to strengthen your relationship? Think about it. It takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. Not to mention it’s great for men who want to relax without pressure to perform, and for women who can’t reach orgasm from only intercourse. In short, it’s an important part of foreplay.

Here are some tips for both men and women.

Ladies: Women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straightaway when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches. This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation.

Gentlemen: A mistake men often make is moving their tongue in a thrusting fashion, when stimulating the vagina and clitoris orally. Instead, they should lick it like an ice cream cone. Another great tip to keep things exciting is to write the alphabet around the clitoris with your tongue.

7. Use household items

It makes sense that to spice things up you need to do something different. The more unique the experience, the more it fires up your lovemaking. Well, just recently I’ve found one of the very BEST ways to keep things passionate and exciting. It’s by using household items.

Huh? That’s right! There are literally 100′s of household items you can play with in your house. Everything from a rolling pin for a massage, ice for a cool sensation, cards for a naughty game or sheepskin that feels soft under your skin.

By dedicating time to finding new items, you can turn ordinary lovemaking into extraordinary lovemaking for longer, and keep it that way. And while positions and techniques get old quickly, these items add a NEW LEVEL to your lovemaking that normal lovemaking just can’t do. This is the sure-fire way to make sure your lovemaking stays passionate, pleasurable, and intimate for years to come.

In fact, unlike all the other suggestions, using household items for foreplay and intercourse proves to be the most unique and powerful way to spice up lovemaking.

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Often that affects our relationships with our significant other, especially the sexual side of things.

What happens when you just can’t find the time and the energy?

The Secret to Creating Sexual Energy

Here is something you can try, something fun and exciting and all you have to do is open up and figure out how to use it best to create the most exciting sexual energy available on the planet. It is without a doubt the most important sexual element that you can get.

What is it?

Is it a toy, a tool, a strategy?

Can anybody get it?

Where can you buy it?

Can you show me online?

Is it something that shows up in my spam folder everyday?

The answer is “none of the above”. No, you can’t buy it, you can’t find it out in the world, it’s not available online.

The great thing about it is that everybody has access to it. Everybody can use it. It is just a matter of being open-minded and learning to use it to your advantage.

The most important sexual element available in the world is your own mind. You can create more excitement and fun, anticipation and pleasure by using the power of your own mind than any other thing you could ever come across.

Here is a Fun Strategy Proven to Work Wonders

Start in the morning, set a time for a “date” in the evening with your loved one. Both of you plan a time when you can get together and spend some quality time. And then go on with your day.

During the day, spend some time visualizing and anticipating your date. It is really nice when you can include the other person. If you are around your loved one, you can do little things to include them in your fantasy, a kiss on the neck, a loving touch in the right places, some passionate kisses can all increase your level of anticipation. And that is what you are trying to do, get your mind going with an excited level of anticipation for your “date”.

If you are not with your partner during the day, you can still participate in this type of foreplay, you will just have to be more creative.

How do you normally communicate with your loved one?

Text messages are great for sending just a little note to tell your partner how much you are looking forward to being with them and spending some quality time on loving. You can also use some of the more old-fashioned modes, sending a sweet love letter, or calling on the phone to say how much you love them and how excited you are for your date.

The point is to spend the entire day in anticipation and building up the excitement for your time together in the evening. Imagine and visualize the loving time together and appreciate and be grateful for the love and excitement you feel for this person that you love.

Some may say that this takes away from the spontaneity and excitement and of course there is always a place and a time for that kind of lovemaking. But for those couples who may feel that life is getting ahead of them and they are finding it difficult to get into that mode, your minds can work wonders for your sex-life.

Because like many things in life, The Joy is in the Journey.

Featured Author, Karen Lynch is a Law of Attraction and Personal Development Expert and founder of the empowering and inspiring website www.livethepower.com. You can read more of her inspirational and motivational writings at the Live the Power blog at http://www.livethepower.com/blog

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Unfortunately most of us never get the opportunity to fully explore all of the hidden erotic treasures patiently awaiting us in our kitchen drawers because we’re too busy reheating yesterday’s pizza to actually spend three savory hours indulging in our sensual creativity.

So here’s my suggestion – make a little cooking date with your lover on a Saturday, or a Sunday, or whenever. Treat it just as you would any other date, give the children to their grandparents, get a babysitter, etc. Make sure the two of you have plenty of time to relax and to really “get into” whatever happens to come up.

Go through your cupboards, your refrigerator, and your pantry with kinky eyes.

Ask yourself questions like “how would that feel running up my spine?” or “how else could this fork be used?”

Before you know it everything will seem wonderfully tempting, and you’ll be well on your way to making steamy memories that will no doubt have you blushing the next time you stick that boring old pizza into the oven.

If, however, you still need a bit of inspiration to get your naughty juices flowing, keep reading.

Five Very Wicked Ways To Turn Your Ordinary Kitchen Accoutrements Into Brazenly Devilish Sex Toys

1. The Spanking Wooden Spoon – Near and dear to my own playful heart, I get a fluttery feeling every time I use one of these classic, extra-large wooden stirring spoons. For the edgy players among you, using a spoon for spanking purposes is not a very shocking idea.

After all, whenever a paddle’s not handy, a wooden spoon will always do the trick! It’s sturdy, fairly wide, and gives that yummy mix of sting and thud. Oh come on, be daring and give your partner a soft teasing whack – their reaction might surprise you!

2. Chip Clip Nipple Clamps – Warning, not for the faint of heart. I’m a little hesitant to make this suggestion because it has to be the right kind of chip clip – you should only use ones that are flat on the inside, NOT the kind with little teeth or jagged edges meant to hold the bag closed tighter! Although impromptu nipple (or other body part) clamps are a fun idea, remember how easily this skin can be damaged and use your common sense. Smaller clips have less power so are better suited for this pain/pleasure toy. And don’t forget to sooth those fire-hot nipples afterward with a little melting ice from the freezer…

3. Really Hot Chocolate - Find a great recipe for homemade hot fudge and make it together. The aroma of melting chocolate alone should get your mind wandering into happy land. Once it’s finished and cooled enough that you can touch it without burning yourself, begin to finger-feed it to your lover. Remember, the point is to be sensual and indulgent. Do it slowly, deliberately.

Watch as your lover takes your finger into their mouth, let yourself feel the roughness of their tongue, pay attention! Don’t be afraid to get sticky and very messy. You know this activity has gone well when all of his, um, “fingers” and all of her “lips” have been completely covered in chocolate – preferably over and over again!

4. Rolling Pin Massage – Grant it, this suggestion is more fun and light-hearted than the others, but we all need a little relaxing warm-up don’t we? I know it’s a funny image, but using a rolling pin to massage the sides of your back, butt, thighs and calves actually feels great! The big handles make it really easy to use and you can get wonderfully long strokes out of it.

Feel free to laugh along the way, but eventually your partner will appreciate the real massage he or she is getting – even if it is from a rolling pin!

5. Guessing Game – Cover your lover’s eyes with a blindfold, or if you think they won’t cheat just tell them to close their eyes. Pick about twenty-five different cooking utensils (tongs, forks, basters, etc.) and use them of various parts of your lover’s (naked) body. Pinch them with the tongs, blow air in their face with the baster – you get the gist. Have your lover try to guess what you are using on them.

For every correct guess, offer them a sexual favor of their choice, and for every wrong guess they have to do something for you. Clearly this simple game can go in many different directions, so you can take it as far as you’d both like.

Of course, these ideas are just the beginning. Your kitchen’s sexuality completely depends on your own unique imagination and preferences, so please don’t ever feel limited to what you’ve heard or what other people have done!

Give yourself and your lover the freedom to be silly, kinky, weird. Something memorable is bound to come out of all that loving energy!

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And then ask yourself… why should kids have all the fun, while all the adults grow up and become boring and stodgy? Well, there are a lot of perks to being a grown up, and Halloween can be just as fun as it was back then… and a LOT more naughty.

Forget that! Let’s turn up the heat this Halloween with some dress up gear that’s ONLY for grown ups.

Instead of cartoon characters and action figures, how about some fun, sexy fantasy costumes to get you AND your lover in the mood for a steamy evening after your trick or treating.

French Maid? Nurse? Maybe a Sexy Bunny? 

"Is there a doctor in the house? Somebody’s been naughty and needs a physical."

Role playing is one of the most common forms of sexual diversion for a couple. Nothing like pretending to be someone else, living dangerously, meeting an exciting stranger and letting your passion run wild! 

There is of course the French maid, or better yet, the upstairs maid (no upstairs is complete without one). And of course the nurse, in case of emergency.

What about a sexy witch, or an adult pirate costume.

And for the serious playa who’s just dying to don that purple suede suit with leopard lining and matching hat, check out these pimp costumes.

It’s truly amazing how many creative sexy and fantasy costumes can be found, if you just know where to look.

What About Just Straight Fun Costumes? 

Then again, it’s not always about sex (just most of the time).

The lock and key costume is a great gag costume for those couples where the lady wears the pants. Just look at the picture and imagine it reversed, with her wearing the key. You know who you are.

Sexy Halloween Costumes

If you’re going to find a great, sexy outfit for Halloween, start looking now and order in plenty of time. Check out some of the great sexy costumes at Costumes, Inc and see what sparks your imagination.

They also have a special offer for our readers. When you order, be sure to use the coupon code "askdanjen" to get 15% off any order over $75 (except closeouts and shipping).

At the very least, check out the upstairs maid. Remember, no upstairs is complete without one. 

Note: This is a Sponsored Review brought to you by Costumes, Inc, but all opinions are our own. 

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Lingerie and sexy costumes are proven and effective tools used in the art of seduction. And as we all know, there are hundreds of online lingerie stores that all look pretty much the same…

But, occasionally we find a website that’s worth mentioning and Vicki’s Drawers is one of those… It’s a lingerie store, but not just a lingerie store. Vicki also provides her customers with great advice and a personal shopper service.

What is a personal shopper? It’s someone who knows the trend, styles, and more importantly someone who knows what will look good on your specific body type. Your personal shopper can save you hours of time and help you avoid the frustration of picking something out, only to find out that it looked really great on the rack but not on you. Just give Vicki a call or send her an email. She’ll shop for you and send you pictures of suggestions that you may like.

Vicki tells a tale of how she played dress-up in her grandmother’s closet as a child and dreamed of the woman she would become some far-away day and have all those feminine lace-and-satin things of her very own. It was these memories that planted the seed of owning her own lingerie shop. That dream has come true, online for now, but eventually Vicki hopes to own a physical lingerie shop.

Oh, and did we mention that she operates Vicki’s Drawers with her guy.

Together we searched for the perfect items to encourage women of all body types to fantasize about just how their own lovely, womanly curves will complete them, how the fabric will feel on their skin, and how their own lovers will react at the first sight of them, returning the gaze, expectant and blushing with desire.

So what do you dream and fantasize about? Really. When no one else is around… That you’re a goddess who is worshiped and adored by your lover? Or perhaps a wicked seductress claiming any lover she desires?

Stop living your fantasies only in your head. Regardless of your fantasy, Vicki will help you select the perfect lingerie to turn your fantasy into reality.

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Let’s start by defining ‘romance’. This may sound easy, but just ask a few different people and you’ll get as many answers as the number of people you ask. Is it something to do with love? Is it togetherness and spending time together?

From my perspective, romance is a celebration of the life you live together. Romance is not responsibility but it is truly caring about your responsibilities towards your lover and partner. Romance is the appreciation of two people who are celebrating the love that they share with one another.

How do you make this an incredibly romantic Valentine’s Day?

Here are 5 tips to make your Valentine’s Day sizzle.

1. Don’t Buy a card. Anyone can buy a card… Why not be a little more creative and write your valentine a love letter poem.  If you’re not a poet, a quick search on Google should get what you need. Take this opportunity to tell your valentine why you love them, what you find most attractive about them, and how much you appreciate your relationship.
2. Know what they like. Don’t just go out and buy the standard flowers and chocolate. That’s the lazy way out… Get your valentine a gift that will actually mean something to them on a personal level. What do they like to do? What kind of music do they like? What are they passionate about?
3. Rather that a gift, go on a special date. Again, think about something your valentine truly enjoys, dancing, dining out, or snuggling on the sofa to watch a great movie – a movie that your valentine wants to see.
4. Everyone loves a little suspense. Start building up to Valentine’s Day a little in advance. Hint about your plans or gift without giving too much away. This will let your valentine know that you’re thinking about them and that you’re really excited about this special day.
5. Think ‘romance’. Romance includes the words you say, your body language, and your surroundings. Make sure that your attention is 100% on your valentine, not the day’s events or latest sports scores. Get some candles, turn down the lights, and put on some romantic music to create a truly romantic atmosphere.

Not coming up with any great ideas?

Here are some Romantic ideas to get you started.

• Breakfast in bed.
• Make your valentine’s favorite meal or take your valentine out for a special dinner.
• Send your valentine (male or female) flowers at work. If you are on a tight budget, give just one single hand-delivered flower. Remember, it’s the thought not the quantity.
• Do something unexpected! Drive across town to take your Valentine out for lunch.
• Send a gift basket of indulgent items.
• Embroider “I Love You” on his pillowcase. You could also use a water resistant marker.
• Poetry is traditional for Valentine’s Day. Make up your own or buy a book of love poems that you can read together.
• Dedicate a favorite song to your Valentine on a radio show that he or she will be listening to.
• Write “I Love You” in lipstick or shaving cream on the mirror. You could also tape a heart with the words “I Love You” if you prefer an easier clean up.
• If your sweetheart is going to be away from you on Valentine’s Day, get several Valentine’s Day cards and put them in different places in his or her luggage. You could sequence them with “Open Me on February 14th” or “Open Me on February 15th” to create some suspense. Don’t limit this idea to just Valentine’s Day!

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"She’s playing games with him." "He’s playing games with her." "They’re playing games with each other."

These comments are always accompanied by stern looks of disapproval. But if I enjoy a game of tennis with my lover, nobody’s going to accuse us of "playing games with each other".

What’s going on?

Most people pay lip service to the idea that "mind games" is bad, bad, bad. But who among us never plays them? I submit that these games are not always bad; in fact sometimes they are good and even downright necessary to social interaction. I like to call them "social games". 

Playing mind games in love and sex can be everything from exhilarating to heart crushing.

Games can be anything from psychological bantering to role playing. The perception that playing mind games is bad comes from the fact that far too many people use little known seduction tactics to take advantage of other people. 

However, when everyone involved knows that they’re playing, it can be an incredibly fun ride. A chance to let your hair down and try something new or be someone new for a little while.

Dan and I both love the chase… And we both know it. So while some couple might get jealous if their partner flirts with someone else. For us, it’s exciting because we know we’re having really hot sex tonight! The key here is that we have a completely open and honest relationship. We tell each other absolutely everything.

I know you’ve got fantasies that involve some sort of game playing even thought you may not call it that. You see, having a fantasy IS a mind game.

One word of caution for couples who like to play games, make sure that you’re both always on the same page and are completely open and honest with one another. If a game goes too far, say so. If you want it to go farther, say so.

I would love to hear any thoughts or ideas that you may have on this topic.

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