Can’t Get A Second Date – Could Smoking Be The Reason?

Alan B. Densky, CH — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 13:19:52 +0000

You like her (or him) so much that you are sure you would like to go out again. In fact, you think this person might just possibly be the one. But when you ask for a second date or a phone number, your date smiles and says, "Good night." And walks away from you.

You thought the night was going perfectly. You found a special restaurant that played the perfect background music, and dinner talk was relaxing and enjoyable. Your eyes kept meeting, and you were just sure that you two had hit it off. Then dinner was over, and you stopped to have a quick cigarette before getting into the car.

Why It’s a Problem

The sad truth is, most non-smokers just don’t like kissing ashtrays. And, frankly, kissing someone who smokes tastes nearly as bad. Smoking is a major turnoff, and a bad habit that most people just won’t tolerate. In fact, dating sites even allow users to filter out smokers from their searches for that Mr. or Ms. Right.

The majority of people who smoke are aware of this and try to hide their annoying addiction from other searchers by listing themselves as non-smokers. The first meeting, however, gives them away. And the search begins again.

How Much of a Problem Is It Really?

Just how much of a problem is smoking when it comes to relationships and marriage? In fact, smokers are 53% more likely to divorce than non-smokers. This holds true for people of every age, social class, and ethnic background.

Researchers state flat-out that smoking is a risk for divorce and marital problems. They also encourage a person who is dating a smoker to think long and hard before committing to marry someone who smokes.

Maybe It’s Time to Quit

If you have found that, over and over again, you aren’t getting a second date or having trouble starting a relationship, perhaps you are ready to quit smoking. Although people decide to quit smoking for a variety of reasons, if you quit smoking because of concerns with romantic relationships, you are far from alone.

Ultimately, most smokers start searching for ways to quit smoking out of concern for the health of their family. There are many ways to quit smoking, and one of the easiest ways is through the use of a specially formulated hypnosis program.

Hypnosis Could Be The Answer

Hypnosis programs for quitting smoking are developed specifically to help smokers quit smoking without having to suffer from withdrawal. They are particularly useful because they help smokers beat the psychological aspects of the addiction, which are the hardest aspects to overcome. The smoking habit is 10% physical addiction, and 90% mental addiction.

Benefits of Hypnosis

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Yuck! My Partner Smokes! How Can I Make Her Stop? (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 13:54:20 +0000

No matter how long you’ve been dating, you and your significant other are bound to have habits and mannerisms that your partner finds annoying and vice versa.

More of these come out of the woodwork as you get more and more comfortable with your partner, however, it might be all you can do to not let them drive you crazy! How do you deal with your partner’s annoying habits?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Hi, I’ve been going out with a girl now for about 2 months. And she’s picked up a bad habit – Smoking. I love her a lot, and she loves me too, but I don’t like it when she smokes. I don’t know what to think or do. I don’t want to control her or anything and I asked her to stop but she said if I love her it shouldn’t matter.

Is this true or not true?

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Your partner has an annoying habit, such as smoking or nail biting, that simply drives you up a wall. You love your partner, but their habit, or habits, are getting to be too much. What can you do to help curb your partner’s bad habits so you can be happier in the relationship?

Accept them or change them?

First, you need to realize you have two options here. You can learn to accept your partner’s bad habits, or you can do what you can to change them. By changing them, that doesn’t mean throwing away your partner’s cigarettes or secretly dipping their hands in Tabasco sauce while they’re asleep.

You can try to change your partner’s habits from your end, such as asking your partner to stop, or you can end the relationship. That is, if you can’t learn to accept and let go of their habits.

If you want to try to talk to your partner about their annoying habits, don’t be critical. Don’t give them an ultimatum and certainly don’t chastise them. You’re their partner, not their parent.

If you want your partner to stop smoking or stop biting their nails, let them know that it bothers you and simply ask if they can stop. Don’t entertain them if they get defensive, just let your partner know that you were just asking. After that, the ball is in their court.

What if they won’t change?

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