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Attracting the Relationship You Want Instead of the One You Left

Karen Lynch — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 15:44:46 +0000

Unless you have been hiding underneath a rock you have heard about the Law of Attraction in the past couple of years.

Since the movie “the Secret” came out it seems that everyone has been talking about it.

Basically the Law of Attraction says that you will attract what you think about.

So of course, many people think that they would love to use this knowledge to attract the things that they really want in life such as money, career success and of course a wonderful loving relationship.

But is it easier said than done?

The Law of Attraction on Autopilot

The fact is that most people attract things into their lives by default. Yes, it’s true. We tend to attract things into our life without thinking about it, we attract by autopilot. It’s like driving to work everyday, we just do it automatically, without even thinking.

When was the last time you even thought about your route to work?

Yet, this very act of attracting by autopilot is what causes many a relationship to flounder. How many times have you heard of a woman who married someone just like her father, or a man marrying a woman just like his mother? Now, it is possible that a relationship like that could be a perfect match but it is also possible that it could just be a continuation of misery.

Repeating Relationship Patterns

How many people do you know who have jumped right into a new relationship and except for the exterior package (yes, it is a different person) the relationship is the essentially the same as the one they left? Same problems, different face.

Have you been guilty of that?

One reason why this happens is because of the Law of Attraction. You see, during the bad relationship you developed habituated modes of thinking and vibrating. Just breaking up or even an official divorce does not and will not change that mode of vibration. We quickly develop habits of looking at the world and it takes time to break those habits.

Part of the problem is that people tend to ruminate on “why” they needed to leave the last relationship, why that person was not right for them and all of the bad qualities of the person they left. But while they are doing all of this stewing, justifying and ruminating, they are still vibrating in that same place so if they do attract someone new it is very likely that the same problems will be there. They will just be packaged in a different person.

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The Relationship Secret – How to Use the Law of Attraction in Your Relationships (Video)

Dan and Jennifer — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 13:45:51 +0000

The Biggest Law of Attraction Relationship Mistake

One of the biggest mistakes that we see people, and couples, make when applying the Law of Attraction is trying to change their partner.

Read this next line at least 3 times!

"You CANNOT use the Law of Attraction to change another person, how they behave, or how they feel about you or anything else."

We get so many questions asking "How can I use the Law of Attraction to make my ex love me again?" or "How can I use the Law of Attraction to make my husband/wife show me more respect?", etc…

Sorry to tell you this, but you can’t. Period!

The only person on this earth that you have any control over is YOU. Sure, you may think you have control because your partner temporarily agrees to act in a way that you approve of, but you should recognize that he or she can change their mind at any time and start acting in a completely different way – without your approval!

This may be hard to accept, but the sooner you do, the more smoothly all of your relationships will flow.

The Wrong Way to Use The Law of Attraction in Your Relationships

First of all… Stop trying to change your partner and accept them for who they are. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying to allow your partner to walk all over you and disrespect you, but at the core, accept them for who they are. If your man doesn’t like shopping all day at the mall, respect that and stop begging him to go. Find someone to go with that actually enjoys shopping. If your woman doesn’t like sports, stop dragging her to the local tavern every Sunday and look at it as a time to spend time with your friends. Ladies, you need to accept this as well.

This is where many of us get confused…

Being in a relationship does not mean that you have to like ALL of the same things and agree on EVERY topic. But for some reason, this is where the most people make mistakes with the Law of Attraction – they want to use it to "fix" their partner. It simply doesn’t work that way.

Identify It

The correct way to use the Law of Attraction in your relationship is

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Dan and Jennifer — Tue, 17 Apr 2007 04:20:14 +0000

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