3 Things All Men Need To Know About The Female Orgasm

Lee Jenkins, author Female Orgasm Black Book — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 19:12:31 +0000

Fortunately for women, gone are the days when it is commonplace for them to have sex and not reach an orgasm. As sex experts have started delving deeper into female sexuality, there has been more awareness about what female orgasm is all about.

Today, women reach orgasms as often as men ejaculate – and they’re even luckier in the sense that they are capable of achieving multiple orgasms.

A Quick Look At What Happens When A Woman Reaches Orgasm

First, let us take a look at exactly what happens when a woman reaches an orgasm. This, of course, is entirely for a man’s perspective. Just imagine what happens to your body as you ejaculate. There’s basically a tightening in your balls and an almost liquid feeling climbing up your spine when you’re close to coming. This sexual experience is very similar to what a woman goes through during a female orgasm.

For a woman, reaching orgasm involves a sensation like no other, wherein excitement slowly builds up until such a point that her vagina ’surges’ and contracts almost every second. That throb of pleasure that you feel once you ejaculate is similar to the feeling of a woman reaching an orgasm – minus the production of fluid.

And you’ll be glad to know that some women are capable of reaching multiple orgasm if they so desire and if you’re that good of a lover. So it’s perfectly fine to ‘tune her up’ first by letting her reach an orgasm through oral sex first – and then joining in on the action as you penetrate her later on. At that point, she’ll be primed and ready again for her second, third or even fourth orgasm!

Myths About Female Orgasm

Despite being in sexually liberated times, there are still myths about female orgasm which persist until today.

First, there’s the myth that there is something wrong with a woman if she cannot have an earth-shattering orgasm. This is not true at all, because most women have orgasms without them being aware of it. In every sexual contact, they will reach a peak of arousal which is the same as having the feeling of reaching orgasm.

Another persistent myth is that ‘normal’ women can reach orgasm during intercourse. However, a large percentage of the female population cannot reach female orgasm this way. Instead, they can achieve it through a combination of intercourse and oral stimulation – or even by oral stimulation alone.

3 Things That Men Need To Know About Female Orgasm

Now, here are the three things that every man should know about female orgasm:

1. If it takes men two to five minutes of direct stimulation to have an orgasm, the average female needs about 20 minutes of direct stimulation.

So the moral of the story is that you should be patient, prime her up and try to hold off your own pleasure for as long as you can. This is especially true for women who have problems producing natural lubrication. If you want to reach the point of no return together, giver her at least a 20-minute head start.

2. Women also experience the equivalent of ‘blue balls’.

You already know what blue balls mean – but you probably didn’t know that women experience an equivalent of this, too. Once she gets extremely turned on, the clitoris becomes engorged with blood. If this is not released through an orgasm, she will experience the same level of discomfort that you feel in your penis once your sexual tension isn’t released.

So when you’re going down on her, for example, help build up the tension through stimulation so that she will reach that explosion of release – which is already the female orgasm.

3. Aside from the obvious perks of reaching a female orgasm, there are also health benefits which are in it for them.

Let’s say that women needed another reason for reaching an orgasm besides its being extremely pleasurable. Its health benefits include being less sensitive to pain, relief in menstrual cramps and it also alleviates stress.

There you have it – the top three female orgasm facts that men need to know about. So what are you waiting for? Sharpen your sexual techniques now so that you can give that special woman in your life a female orgasm that she’s not bound to forget!

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”

4 Reasons Why Female Orgasms Are So Hard To Achieve

Lee Jenkins, author Female Orgasm Black Book — Sat, 10 May 2008 14:07:25 +0000

There seems to be a conspiracy. Men want women to climax, women want to climax. So why is that, according to studies, about 70% of women never reach an orgasm during intercourse?

We can of course focus on other methods women can orgasm (e.g., oral sex, fingering, etc.) but even those may not be enough to giver her an orgasm if she has negative sexual issues with herself.

Female Orgasm Difficulty #1: Shyness

One of the main things that prohibit women to let go between the sheets is good ol’ fashioned shyness. If this is what’s stopping your woman from reaching an orgasm, then there plenty enough ways to help her out.

For one, dim the lights or turn them off if that’s what she prefers. Many women have body and weight issues so the harsh reality of being naked in front of you will not only make her uncomfortable but make her mind focus on the wrong things (i.e., how she looks versus the pleasures her body’s getting).

Another way you can help her out is by actually encouraging her to keep her top on. Tell her how you like seeing her nipples hard and straining against her shirt or lingerie. This will make her think she’s doing you a favor by not removing her top, and help her be less self-conscious at the same time.

Female Orgasm Difficulty #2: Performance Issues

She knows she’s not your first and sometimes, this thought gives rise to nagging performance issues between the sheets. How does she compare to all your other love interests? Well, put her fears to rest and make her focus on reaching her own orgasm by compliment her or whispering her name often while making love.

Female Orgasm Difficulty #3: Physical Pain

Not everything you read or see in X-rated films is what they’re made out to be. A seemingly hot sexual position may actually be causing her a physical discomfort and may not be sexually stimulating at all.

So pay attention to how she REALLY reacts when you try out new moves in bed. If sexual position is not the cause of any physical discomfort she feels, a visit to a doctor may be necessary.

Female Orgasm Difficulty #4: Past Negative Experiences

A bad experience with a former flame may also be inhibiting your woman to let go and enjoy the pleasures of sex with you. For instance, one woman had a former boyfriend confess to her that she smelled funny down there.

This bothered the woman so much that long after the boyfriend had gone, she has never allowed anyone to perform oral sex on her again. Worse, she was so focused on this ‘bad thing’ that sex altogether became unpleasant and she was starting to wonder if she was frigid.

If you notice anything like this with your woman, discuss it while re-assuring her all the while that you do like making love to her and that all you want to do is make her experience the same physical pleasures you’re experiencing. It’s worth the shot!