My husband said after 14 years of marriage that he need some space . He said he was leaving in January of 2008 it is July 2009 now and he is still here. We were christain in the church and the couple that most admired. I did not know he felt this way until that day he told me , he wanted to separate. I didn’t like it but know I want to move on and start my life . We stay in the same house, he do his thing, I do mine. But I don’t like it this way I’m a loving person who like to express her love. I ask him is there anything I could do, to make things better. He said no, its not you its me. What ever. We are 43 and 44 years old and I feel he is stealing a lot of time from me. Our belief is no divorce. Unless the other wants to leave , let him. I’m waiting for him to leave so I can be loved. I believe I have tried a lot of things to assure that I am going to be okay. I ask is there another he said no, I just want some space. We don’t do anything together but he still want to have selfess sex with me. Just to satisfy himself. But my belief said I can’t with hold my body. and he knows it . He says I love . but his action don’t match his words. If he want time , I want him to take it so at least I can live and no feel guilty about going out . What am I not doing to get him to think that it is okay to do this. Please help
July 9th, 2009 at 3:48 pm
My husband said after 14 years of marriage that he need some space . He said he was leaving in January of 2008 it is July 2009 now and he is still here. We were christain in the church and the couple that most admired. I did not know he felt this way until that day he told me , he wanted to separate. I didn’t like it but know I want to move on and start my life . We stay in the same house, he do his thing, I do mine. But I don’t like it this way I’m a loving person who like to express her love. I ask him is there anything I could do, to make things better. He said no, its not you its me. What ever. We are 43 and 44 years old and I feel he is stealing a lot of time from me. Our belief is no divorce. Unless the other wants to leave , let him. I’m waiting for him to leave so I can be loved. I believe I have tried a lot of things to assure that I am going to be okay. I ask is there another he said no, I just want some space. We don’t do anything together but he still want to have selfess sex with me. Just to satisfy himself. But my belief said I can’t with hold my body. and he knows it . He says I love . but his action don’t match his words. If he want time , I want him to take it so at least I can live and no feel guilty about going out . What am I not doing to get him to think that it is okay to do this. Please help